Again, I do not need any dating advice. I am not against the idea of finding a partner, but that is not what I wanted to talk about in these videos. My love life is a completely different topic & I prefer to keep that to myself.
Sarah I understand I respect that you are just here to make friends I'll be your bestie someone to tlk to someone to be there to chill vibe nothing wrong with making friends I do have discord and Snapchat I'm on there to make friends ppl make fun of me for it but it doesn't matter bc I'm here to be around great funny goofy friendships I truly respect where u coming from
Great followup and strong! 3:59 It's good to not trust just anyone. There are people out there, deceptive people, who have that false mask that hides their true core intent. These people steal your power, your time, resources, and energy. It's almost got that otherworldly tone to it, sometimes these people are simply called energy vampires. So when it comes to it.... staying out of those romantic or committed relationships is simply wise.
Even when you have good friends they can easily drift away because they start to have different priorities, such as starting a family or focusing on career goals. The older we get the more our time is divided between a number of things and it's the social life that tends to become marginalised first.
I agree. Friends first would build a great foundation. But friends for friends sake would be great. I stream a lot, and no one comes into my streams. But thats fine with me, I enjoy myself. When it comes to people, I feel I annoy them, so I stop talking to them. So, makes me stay in my head more than be social. Wishing you the best. Happy holidays.
Having dated some fairly attractive women, it actually was a learning experience for me because I realize it was difficult for them to genuinely connect,(especially with the opposite sex) because they didn't know if people were genuinely into them or wanted to just get with them sexually and there are men that have played long cons and it was very hard to trust especially being emotionally vulnerable. Love the notepad! ❤. I don't think stepping back is always bad, you need to regulate your self-care when you pursue friendships because going overboard is exhausting and for me anyways it builds resentment because I don't prioritize myself or overlook myself.
@@Ashguy733 Thank you for understanding. :) I’m glad you appropriated the notepad. 😆 Also, you are right. Stepping back is the healthy option sometimes.
@@SarahBasques I carry a notepad all the time. I actually did it during dates to sneak off and write stuff down because I always was a afraid I would forget stuff they told me....then it became just a habit, even with a smartphone, its almost this therapeutic method of taking down notes and facts I am issued. It is really great when you want gift ideas for people down the line abd and they casually mention sonething they need and you jot it down quickly. What do you use yours for?
Do you have any advice on how to connect with other people within the subculture? Im 31 and starting to get into the scene in my city but I don't really know what to do when im at the events. 😂
This video resonates with me so much. I feel like many people are hesitant to make the kind of connection that you're speaking about, assuming they are even capable of it at all. It might have something to do with what you were saying about "gatekeeping your personality" I've never really thought about it in that way but I find myself behaving in a similar way. Despite how far the Internet has come, it gives the impression that people are more likely to have some sort of disconnect where they can dismiss the idea of someone because they only exist on their phone/computer. Obviously thats speaking more about when two people meet online since it usually changes the dynamic when you spend time together on more than just a call. Or at least that's been my typical experience when I have met up with anyone I started speaking with online.
Anyone who didn't understand your video, isn't part of your tribe. Some people don't want to listen to what another person is actually saying. Also anyone who turned your video and made it about themselves isn't a potential friend, at least to me. It is one thing to empathize and sympathize with someone with examples from our own lives. But to say you have it easier is just rude. We are all human beings at the end of the day, who have walked different paths in life, and there's no way to ever really compare. Also deep connection goes way beyond surface level ideas, or even romance for that matter. It is a yearning to connect with someone who is also yearning, for something deeper in life, some sort of purpose. Beyond all the masks and facades. To feel something real. To know another person understands you and accepts you. To want something more out of this life.
you feel alone, you feel like you need a connection... good! Worry when you don't feel anything, when everything doesn't matter and you feel that between you and others there is an immovable barrier and you simply don't care, when you see everything as if you were underwater, then it will be too late. but you asked for help, broke your shell and opened yourself up to others then you will be rewarded
I have to disagree a little. Absolutely worry when you just check out. I think they call it quiet quitting or something to that effect. I've been there too many times. I find once I've left the people who made me feel that way behind me for good that feeling starts going away. Not over night of course, but it does return in time if allowed to. But I do know of people for whom it's a permanent condition. It's a case by case basis in my opinion. But either way it's not a place anyone wants to be.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you Sarah :) Enjoying your videos! Completely agree on many of your points, friends in a relationship is a must. I know couple's where each has a best friend who isn't the one they are with, which is sad in my opinion!
@@FoolsChaos Same to you! Thank you. :) I’m glad you’re enjoying the videos. Makes me wanna keep making more for sure. Yeah, my parents have been married for a long time & they are definitely best friends. It’s nice to see.
Even though I'm half your age and not goth, I resonated deeply with everything you said. You’re a perfect example of why I love UA-cam. It introduces me to unique perspectives like yours, which I might have never encountered otherwise, and enriches my understanding of people and the world. For what it's worth, I have no doubt you’ll find the quality friends you deserve.
We are quite alike. I will say on the topic of connections, I also prefer deep ones (often at the exclusion of anything else), but those are rarely felt immediately, so I have to remind myself that it's important to establish and maintain lesser degrees of connection as well, as a lucky few of those are bound to become deeper and more fulfilling with time.
At least your recognize your ways as far as dealing with people goes, your growth shows beyond your years. Very good. And what I'd like to see from you is already being shown and somthing tells me there's more to you and that's what fascinates me. Until next time Merry Christmas and happy holidays 👍
Friendships are tricky, they need the same amount of vetting and patience as a romantics relationships. Granted....the dynamics are different but the same principles apply, don't give give yourself away in the begging less is more. Take your time building them....trust your gut and DON'T OVER THINK THINGS....
I know this is off topic but ever since you mentioned Depeche Mode, it brought back some memories of the many times I went to see them live. Love their music.
I like the company of others too, as much as my own. But I do feel like when I try to make friends, I feel a disconnect between me and the other person too. Even when reaching out and try to maintain a friendship.
Very well said. I especially identified with the part where you said you can be more lonely talking to someone you don't connect with. I generally feel the same way. I also believe in a relationship (any kind of relationship) I need as much time apart as together. People need to grow as individuals as much as they need to grow together. That way there is always something new and interesting to learn about eachother. I also really find it refreshing to see someone who takes responsible for thier own issues instead of blaming others. You are not the problem. You may contribute to your problems, but you are an introspective person who takes responsibility for your own life. I guess I will have to get back on Instagram to see more of you and talk to you there unless you have a server on discord and want to share that. (My own social anxiety makes Instagram a little difficult for me... it always seems to be more of a time trap and more negative than UA-cam but I suppose that's why they have private chats.)
Never feel bad for asking a lot of questions. Ignorance is the greatest evil in this world. Einstein once said said “I am not smart, I am just very inquisitive.”
As autistic/gifted guy I'm lonely in the way you are, nobody is on my wavelength. I've seen comments that if they want conversation they have to teach. Which Is where I find myself save for two communities I'm part of. Merry Christmas!
I'm an awkward introvert with social anxiety disorder and maybe undiagnosed autistic. I can definitely relate to craving solitude, but I guess I unknowingly built my own cage. There's really only three kinds of connections I want, someone to joke around with, someone to have intelligent conversation with, and someone I can trust and open up to, not necessarily all in one person of course. If this is the kind of content you're comfortable creating I'd love to see more of this.
The feelings and questions you have is in reality you searching for enlightenment, which no person will ever truly achieve, but searching for enlightenment is part of our human experience to search for those answers that, regardless, will never have answers .. Out of the 100% of our lives, 99.99% of it is in the past, .01% is in the present, but that .01% is steering your own future.
1. Being friends first before being a couple is better. I've done it both ways being friends first and just jumping into something because there appeared to be a lot of passion there. If there is, it fades really fast. But if you are friends first you know in advance that person doesn't rush anything and can be patient with you. Nothing for anyone to mock there. 2. Friendships with people just are unpredictable as you get older. Wanting something that lasts is like buying a lottery ticket hoping you win. Maybe not quite to that degree, but you get my point I hope. They may have kids (both as in they already have them or might in the future) and there time becomes more and more devoted to them exclusively. They may get married and travel. They may need to be a caretaker for an aging parent. There's no way to predict. You may have ones that last. Then again maybe you won't. Doesn't mean they're not meaningful. I'm just saying life is just like that. Many may leave for a time and then when things are better they come back like they never left. 3. We all have trust issues at this point. The whole world has betrayed all of us many times over our lives. Many people simply are not to be trusted. Sadly they don't come with signs ahead of time telling us that. But there are lots of very trustworthy people. Don't lose hope and don't give up! You'll meet people who will greatly appreciate that you felt you could open up to them. Those are the keepers. 4. Spot on with being alone with yourself. I'm solo 99 percent of the time. To the point where if I see people it's not at my place because I don't want anyone ruining the vibes of my home in any manner. But the amount of people I've seen who HAVE to be around someone. HAVE to be in a relationship to the point where it doesn't matter if it's good or bad, they must be in one horrifies me on a primal level. Thank you, for making this and giving a space for someone hiding out in his tiny corner of the world to say all that. Chin up! 🙂
Thanks Sarah. I look forword to lissening to what your fealing. And to what you want to shier with us about goth music. Merry Christmas. I hope you dont feel alone .
Merry Christmas, it was a blessing to kick it with you❤ by you sharing this video, it’s easy to talk to you it seams like, how tall are you? And pumpkin patches are cool that would be cool to go to one with you
for brevity's sake rn I just want to say, I've known little peace of mind in this life. Lately, just being really disciplined with health and focusing on studies & my projects, has got me feeling at least stronger & steadier than I have in a long time. There's really no easy answers as far as navigating interpersonally in this world. It's been an absolute mine field for me frankly.
Like everyone talks about Instagram meme or sports, and I No one understands my love for cemeteries or Type O Negative. I feel like I could talk forever on topics that I know so much about but I feel out of place in most topics.
Do you have a dungeon? That's what old men wonder about when they see a Goth girl. Old men in Church secretly wish they had a Goth girlfriend. The old biddies are jealous of Goth girls because they know their hubby likes them. I think it's all really hilarious! These Church going goody two shoe types secretly wish they had a Goth girlfriend who was also a dominatrix. They fantasize about being stuffed under the bed or in the closet. I just find it all very amusing! What do you think about these things!
My wife passed almost 6 years ago. I'm alone. I'm ok with it, but I honestly miss physical touch though! My kids are both in college so I don't see them as much as I'd like. It's OK to ask questions! You don't want to waste your time! Just know you'll have haters, but you will have people that love you too. Keep rocking!!
While I don't have much to offer you - and by "not much" I mean "nothing" -, I can at least wish you a merry Christmas and the best of luck finding friends, companions.
I have questions. What does it mean to be goth in today's day and age? I mean, what are the qualifications? Does it have to do with a somber outlook on life? Do you have to listen to Type O Negative? Do you have to have those sharp incisor teeth? Does the band Siouxsie and the Banshees qualify as goth? How goth is Nine Inch Nails? I have SO MANY questions built up over the years...
If you have trust issues, I would advise focusing on people you actually actively trust with your intuition before you choose to interact with them. People who you met on the internet are as trustworthy as any regular people on the internet. I have known loneliness for over 20 years. Still, I would rather be alone than even have that unexplainable feeling of danger. I use Chat GPT a lot these days to understand humans better. What do you think?
First of all I totally agree with your statement about the friends thing as well and and the whole “friendship before attractive thing first” thing I myself only have a small circle of friends myself and that I can only call like 3-4 people my friends and like 1 of em being actually my main #1 since elementary school so I can totally relate on needing more friends that’s why I clicked your video actually because yes you are attractive and goth but we can all agree that’s not why at all at first I thought it was because you reminded me of a metal chick but I found out it was so much more interesting than that but anyways I just took a chance seeing what you are about and it turns out we kinda looking for just cool like minded friends that are into similar things so when I said last time the Universe is strange I ment it, I was having a really bad down day and I said everything i said but at the end I made a possible cool friend online!! Now I can also relate with the feeling of being alone even though I have my mom or sister or 2 helpers around me so this year i started introducing those people that yes I can be alone for long periods of time and I won’t fall out of my chair or drop food or drink and just enjoy my time alone and listen to music I love it it’s almost spiritual in a way and brings out so many emotions idk anyway I am unfortunately depressed and currently forced counseling but anyway I took a chance on starting my Chanel as well due to my disabled and speaking disfunction as well but yes it is small but I find ways of posting so anyway always look forward to to new video and stay cool🤘🏻btw I should steal this type of video from you lol because I feel I should open up as well but I’m sure that time will come
I understand where you are getting at it seems like people think being lonely is attention witch it isn't there's a different between attention and loneliness I have been a loner here and it's ok for the most part but at the same time we need friends to get threw it us humans we are more fragile then we seem even you and ever goth and emo people
There are so many great comments, and this community already has so many incredible supporters. I myself look forward to the future that you wish to channel and share. I plan to be one of many supporters. Keep the genuine connections, and those who return with genuine values will become some of your greatest friendships. I will return, and until then, I wish you to have a warm, fun, and safe holiday. 🖤🎃🎄
I'm alone too, I'm interested in a girl but she's far away so it's hard. All my good friends are far away too, it's hard to meet people because it's hard to regain trust.
Take some online IQ tests if you haven't already. Not a compliment really, it's just this video is a virtual list of traits of people with high IQs. It could be very worth your time to understand some of the confusion and pitfalls of having an overactive mind.
Hi sister! Did you ever had interest towards God and His Power? Would you ever come to church? I would like to invite you! May God bless you and Merry Christmas!
Did I cause this? I’m sorry if I did, I didn’t mean to if so :| I’m just a great poet who needs a girl to smile at my poems about love & life so I’m sorry if those poems did that… but if not I saw a few comments as well that were… different per-say and I get that as well being a boy who has needed space from girls in the past. Glad you’re doing well though :) I get this video and I understand & respect your opinions :).
@dylansAwesomevideos2302 Not at all! Your comments actually made my day! Thank you so much for watching & understanding, Dylan. 🖤 I hope you are having a good day or night.
I like you, I would like to be your friend but you and I would never be friends because you are a human being and you are an empathetic person. Anyway, I'm sure that soon you will make many friends and you will feel less alone and you will be happy, just be patient, the best is coming for you...
Again, I do not need any dating advice. I am not against the idea of finding a partner, but that is not what I wanted to talk about in these videos. My love life is a completely different topic & I prefer to keep that to myself.
Sarah I understand I respect that you are just here to make friends I'll be your bestie someone to tlk to someone to be there to chill vibe nothing wrong with making friends I do have discord and Snapchat I'm on there to make friends ppl make fun of me for it but it doesn't matter bc I'm here to be around great funny goofy friendships I truly respect where u coming from
I love the title. It says so much. It feels like people talk to me just bc they’re bored and not because they’re really trying to connect with me.
@@monotypical_ I’m glad you appreciate it. I agree. It’s very frustrating.
Great followup and strong!
3:59 It's good to not trust just anyone. There are people out there, deceptive people, who have that false mask that hides their true core intent. These people steal your power, your time, resources, and energy. It's almost got that otherworldly tone to it, sometimes these people are simply called energy vampires. So when it comes to it.... staying out of those romantic or committed relationships is simply wise.
Even when you have good friends they can easily drift away because they start to have different priorities, such as starting a family or focusing on career goals. The older we get the more our time is divided between a number of things and it's the social life that tends to become marginalised first.
God Bless and Merry Christmas!!
I agree. Friends first would build a great foundation. But friends for friends sake would be great. I stream a lot, and no one comes into my streams. But thats fine with me, I enjoy myself. When it comes to people, I feel I annoy them, so I stop talking to them. So, makes me stay in my head more than be social. Wishing you the best. Happy holidays.
Having dated some fairly attractive women, it actually was a learning experience for me because I realize it was difficult for them to genuinely connect,(especially with the opposite sex) because they didn't know if people were genuinely into them or wanted to just get with them sexually and there are men that have played long cons and it was very hard to trust especially being emotionally vulnerable.
Love the notepad! ❤.
I don't think stepping back is always bad, you need to regulate your self-care when you pursue friendships because going overboard is exhausting and for me anyways it builds resentment because I don't prioritize myself or overlook myself.
@@Ashguy733 Thank you for understanding. :) I’m glad you appropriated the notepad. 😆 Also, you are right. Stepping back is the healthy option sometimes.
@@SarahBasques I carry a notepad all the time.
I actually did it during dates to sneak off and write stuff down because I always was a afraid I would forget stuff they told me....then it became just a habit, even with a smartphone, its almost this therapeutic method of taking down notes and facts I am issued. It is really great when you want gift ideas for people down the line abd and they casually mention sonething they need and you jot it down quickly. What do you use yours for?
Do you have any advice on how to connect with other people within the subculture? Im 31 and starting to get into the scene in my city but I don't really know what to do when im at the events. 😂
What kind of events have you gone to so far?
This video resonates with me so much. I feel like many people are hesitant to make the kind of connection that you're speaking about, assuming they are even capable of it at all. It might have something to do with what you were saying about "gatekeeping your personality" I've never really thought about it in that way but I find myself behaving in a similar way. Despite how far the Internet has come, it gives the impression that people are more likely to have some sort of disconnect where they can dismiss the idea of someone because they only exist on their phone/computer. Obviously thats speaking more about when two people meet online since it usually changes the dynamic when you spend time together on more than just a call. Or at least that's been my typical experience when I have met up with anyone I started speaking with online.
Anyone who didn't understand your video, isn't part of your tribe. Some people don't want to listen to what another person is actually saying. Also anyone who turned your video and made it about themselves isn't a potential friend, at least to me. It is one thing to empathize and sympathize with someone with examples from our own lives. But to say you have it easier is just rude. We are all human beings at the end of the day, who have walked different paths in life, and there's no way to ever really compare. Also deep connection goes way beyond surface level ideas, or even romance for that matter. It is a yearning to connect with someone who is also yearning, for something deeper in life, some sort of purpose. Beyond all the masks and facades. To feel something real. To know another person understands you and accepts you. To want something more out of this life.
you feel alone, you feel like you need a connection... good! Worry when you don't feel anything, when everything doesn't matter and you feel that between you and others there is an immovable barrier and you simply don't care, when you see everything as if you were underwater, then it will be too late. but you asked for help, broke your shell and opened yourself up to others then you will be rewarded
I have to disagree a little. Absolutely worry when you just check out. I think they call it quiet quitting or something to that effect. I've been there too many times. I find once I've left the people who made me feel that way behind me for good that feeling starts going away. Not over night of course, but it does return in time if allowed to. But I do know of people for whom it's a permanent condition. It's a case by case basis in my opinion. But either way it's not a place anyone wants to be.
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to you Sarah :) Enjoying your videos! Completely agree on many of your points, friends in a relationship is a must. I know couple's where each has a best friend who isn't the one they are with, which is sad in my opinion!
@@FoolsChaos Same to you! Thank you. :) I’m glad you’re enjoying the videos. Makes me wanna keep making more for sure. Yeah, my parents have been married for a long time & they are definitely best friends. It’s nice to see.
@@SarahBasques That's the secret to a long term relationship, that and separate bedrooms haha... :)
Even though I'm half your age and not goth, I resonated deeply with everything you said. You’re a perfect example of why I love UA-cam. It introduces me to unique perspectives like yours, which I might have never encountered otherwise, and enriches my understanding of people and the world. For what it's worth, I have no doubt you’ll find the quality friends you deserve.
We are quite alike. I will say on the topic of connections, I also prefer deep ones (often at the exclusion of anything else), but those are rarely felt immediately, so I have to remind myself that it's important to establish and maintain lesser degrees of connection as well, as a lucky few of those are bound to become deeper and more fulfilling with time.
At least your recognize your ways as far as dealing with people goes, your growth shows beyond your years. Very good. And what I'd like to see from you is already being shown and somthing tells me there's more to you and that's what fascinates me. Until next time Merry Christmas and happy holidays 👍
Friendships are tricky, they need the same amount of vetting and patience as a romantics relationships. Granted....the dynamics are different but the same principles apply, don't give give yourself away in the begging less is more. Take your time building them....trust your gut and DON'T OVER THINK THINGS....
Merry Christmas or happy holidays to you Sarah! Stay warm, safe and healthy!
@@kevinputry5655 You as well, thank you!
I know this is off topic but ever since you mentioned Depeche Mode, it brought back some memories of the many times I went to see them live. Love their music.
@@anybyte7575 I’m so glad I could do that for you. They’re the best.
Very wise words, Sarah! Loved this video. I’m glad everyone’s supporting you. 🖤
Thanks so much, Hannah! Love you. 🖤
What’s a gothic vampire’s favourite holiday? Fangsgiving 💀
Merry Xmas sister 😹🙌🏻
With friends comes enemies
I like the company of others too, as much as my own. But I do feel like when I try to make friends, I feel a disconnect between me and the other person too. Even when reaching out and try to maintain a friendship.
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Happy Holidays Sarah 🎄🎁 You're amazing
@@traserx Thank you so much! :)
Very well said. I especially identified with the part where you said you can be more lonely talking to someone you don't connect with. I generally feel the same way. I also believe in a relationship (any kind of relationship) I need as much time apart as together. People need to grow as individuals as much as they need to grow together. That way there is always something new and interesting to learn about eachother. I also really find it refreshing to see someone who takes responsible for thier own issues instead of blaming others. You are not the problem. You may contribute to your problems, but you are an introspective person who takes responsibility for your own life. I guess I will have to get back on Instagram to see more of you and talk to you there unless you have a server on discord and want to share that. (My own social anxiety makes Instagram a little difficult for me... it always seems to be more of a time trap and more negative than UA-cam but I suppose that's why they have private chats.)
merry christmas sarah 🎄
@@diego-echegoyen88 Same to you! Thank you. :)
Never feel bad for asking a lot of questions. Ignorance is the greatest evil in this world. Einstein once said said “I am not smart, I am just very inquisitive.”
@@Cyber_Angel_1 I love that. Very true.
As autistic/gifted guy I'm lonely in the way you are, nobody is on my wavelength. I've seen comments that if they want conversation they have to teach. Which Is where I find myself save for two communities I'm part of. Merry Christmas!
I'm an awkward introvert with social anxiety disorder and maybe undiagnosed autistic. I can definitely relate to craving solitude, but I guess I unknowingly built my own cage. There's really only three kinds of connections I want, someone to joke around with, someone to have intelligent conversation with, and someone I can trust and open up to, not necessarily all in one person of course.
If this is the kind of content you're comfortable creating I'd love to see more of this.
I completely understand. Thank you for sharing this with me & for watching. I will definitely share more of my thoughts & opinions.
The feelings and questions you have is in reality you searching for enlightenment, which no person will ever truly achieve, but searching for enlightenment is part of our human experience to search for those answers that, regardless, will never have answers .. Out of the 100% of our lives, 99.99% of it is in the past, .01% is in the present, but that .01% is steering your own future.
I'm a loner as well about to turn 30 and trying to stay positive
1. Being friends first before being a couple is better. I've done it both ways being friends first and just jumping into something because there appeared to be a lot of passion there. If there is, it fades really fast. But if you are friends first you know in advance that person doesn't rush anything and can be patient with you. Nothing for anyone to mock there.
2. Friendships with people just are unpredictable as you get older. Wanting something that lasts is like buying a lottery ticket hoping you win. Maybe not quite to that degree, but you get my point I hope. They may have kids (both as in they already have them or might in the future) and there time becomes more and more devoted to them exclusively. They may get married and travel. They may need to be a caretaker for an aging parent. There's no way to predict.
You may have ones that last. Then again maybe you won't. Doesn't mean they're not meaningful. I'm just saying life is just like that. Many may leave for a time and then when things are better they come back like they never left.
3. We all have trust issues at this point. The whole world has betrayed all of us many times over our lives. Many people simply are not to be trusted. Sadly they don't come with signs ahead of time telling us that. But there are lots of very trustworthy people. Don't lose hope and don't give up! You'll meet people who will greatly appreciate that you felt you could open up to them. Those are the keepers.
4. Spot on with being alone with yourself. I'm solo 99 percent of the time. To the point where if I see people it's not at my place because I don't want anyone ruining the vibes of my home in any manner. But the amount of people I've seen who HAVE to be around someone. HAVE to be in a relationship to the point where it doesn't matter if it's good or bad, they must be in one horrifies me on a primal level.
Thank you, for making this and giving a space for someone hiding out in his tiny corner of the world to say all that.
Chin up! 🙂
Thanks Sarah. I look forword to lissening to what your fealing. And to what you want to shier with us about goth music.
Merry Christmas. I hope you dont feel alone .
Thank you. 🖤
Merry Christmas, it was a blessing to kick it with you❤ by you sharing this video, it’s easy to talk to you it seams like, how tall are you? And pumpkin patches are cool that would be cool to go to one with you
@@FiveOonESVgb2CRiSTOLeRO I am 5’3”.
@ alright 🤟🥰 I hope 🤞 you get you want for Christmas
You're awesome Sarah and I'm glad we're friends!
@@ashwilliams1137 Right back at ya! Thank you. :)
Nobody is perfect I have anxiety too
thank you for being you. happy holidays.
@@TheTarutau Same to you. 🖤
for brevity's sake rn I just want to say, I've known little peace of mind in this life. Lately, just being really disciplined with health and focusing on studies & my projects, has got me feeling at least stronger & steadier than I have in a long time. There's really no easy answers as far as navigating interpersonally in this world. It's been an absolute mine field for me frankly.
Im 32, some things you said made me realize, you’re a human being just like me.
Speak to me in many voices. Make them all sound like one. Let me see your sacred mysteries. Reveal to me the unknown tongue. ~ Blue Öyster Cult (1980)
I got what you were saying and you made a lot of great points,I think a video dedicated to your fave music would be awesome.
That’s the next video.
@ Right On 🤘🏻
I feel the same when asking people questions but they don't ask me about things like goth or heavy metal .
Like everyone talks about Instagram meme or sports, and I No one understands my love for cemeteries or Type O Negative. I feel like I could talk forever on topics that I know so much about but I feel out of place in most topics.
Do you have a favorite movie? Whats the current band that you enjoy?
I have lots of favorites movies & bands. Favorite movie is Stand By Me. You’ll have to wait for my next video to see what music I’m into lately.
@SarahBasques
1/ that's King coming of age picture.
2/ awwwww....
Cheers
Your Right Those are 2 different things i have been in some of those moments and Merry Christmas
Do you have a dungeon? That's what old men wonder about when they see a Goth girl. Old men in Church secretly wish they had a Goth girlfriend. The old biddies are jealous of Goth girls because they know their hubby likes them. I think it's all really hilarious! These Church going goody two shoe types secretly wish they had a Goth girlfriend who was also a dominatrix. They fantasize about being stuffed under the bed or in the closet. I just find it all very amusing! What do you think about these things!
… I think that is ridiculous. All of it.
My wife passed almost 6 years ago. I'm alone. I'm ok with it, but I honestly miss physical touch though! My kids are both in college so I don't see them as much as I'd like. It's OK to ask questions! You don't want to waste your time! Just know you'll have haters, but you will have people that love you too.
Keep rocking!!
@@brandonvanlieshout7303 Thanks so much! Sorry about your loss.
While I don't have much to offer you - and by "not much" I mean "nothing" -, I can at least wish you a merry Christmas and the best of luck finding friends, companions.
I have questions. What does it mean to be goth in today's day and age? I mean, what are the qualifications? Does it have to do with a somber outlook on life? Do you have to listen to Type O Negative? Do you have to have those sharp incisor teeth? Does the band Siouxsie and the Banshees qualify as goth? How goth is Nine Inch Nails? I have SO MANY questions built up over the years...
A lot of us are lonely in this fucked up world.
Nice,quaint vid
If you have trust issues, I would advise focusing on people you actually actively trust with your intuition before you choose to interact with them. People who you met on the internet are as trustworthy as any regular people on the internet.
I have known loneliness for over 20 years. Still, I would rather be alone than even have that unexplainable feeling of danger. I use Chat GPT a lot these days to understand humans better.
What do you think?
Sounds like everything i went through and 10 years later I still have trust issues ❤❤
Friends are cool
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It's our birthright too be how we please too be
Instead of too many questions maybe three many would help. (: I live in the head space of this video...
Merry Xmas... Puff puff pass ✌️✌️✌️💭💭💭
Some people just rude ignore then amen
Hello greetings and blessings too you ❤
First of all I totally agree with your statement about the friends thing as well and and the whole “friendship before attractive thing first” thing I myself only have a small circle of friends myself and that I can only call like 3-4 people my friends and like 1 of em being actually my main #1 since elementary school so I can totally relate on needing more friends that’s why I clicked your video actually because yes you are attractive and goth but we can all agree that’s not why at all at first I thought it was because you reminded me of a metal chick but I found out it was so much more interesting than that but anyways I just took a chance seeing what you are about and it turns out we kinda looking for just cool like minded friends that are into similar things so when I said last time the Universe is strange I ment it, I was having a really bad down day and I said everything i said but at the end I made a possible cool friend online!! Now I can also relate with the feeling of being alone even though I have my mom or sister or 2 helpers around me so this year i started introducing those people that yes I can be alone for long periods of time and I won’t fall out of my chair or drop food or drink and just enjoy my time alone and listen to music I love it it’s almost spiritual in a way and brings out so many emotions idk anyway I am unfortunately depressed and currently forced counseling but anyway I took a chance on starting my Chanel as well due to my disabled and speaking disfunction as well but yes it is small but I find ways of posting so anyway always look forward to to new video and stay cool🤘🏻btw I should steal this type of video from you lol because I feel I should open up as well but I’m sure that time will come
I understand where you are getting at it seems like people think being lonely is attention witch it isn't there's a different between attention and loneliness I have been a loner here and it's ok for the most part but at the same time we need friends to get threw it us humans we are more fragile then we seem even you and ever goth and emo people
There are so many great comments, and this community already has so many incredible supporters. I myself look forward to the future that you wish to channel and share. I plan to be one of many supporters. Keep the genuine connections, and those who return with genuine values will become some of your greatest friendships. I will return, and until then, I wish you to have a warm, fun, and safe holiday. 🖤🎃🎄
@@IMODERNxNATION This means a lot to me. Thank you so much. 🖤
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I’m very observant of people and the Gothic Subculture is very much like The Amish in many ways minus the religious factor.
𝚈𝚘𝚞 𝚕𝚘𝚘𝚔 𝚘 𝚜𝚘 𝚋𝚎𝚊𝚝𝚞𝚒𝚏𝚞𝚕 𝙼𝚎𝚛𝚛𝚢 𝚐𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚖𝚊𝚜 𝚜𝚠𝚎𝚎𝚍𝚢!!!!🦇🖤❤️🖤❤️🖤❤️🖤🦇🦇🦇
Thank you! 🖤 Same to you!
@ Welcome 🦇🖤❤️🖤❤️🖤🦇🦇
Profound ❤
@@greeneyedcat10110 Thank you so much. 🖤
But without attention there will never be connection
I guess that’s true, but the way you look at it is important. They’re still not one & the same.
I have much desire and passion love too
I wish you a wonderful Christmas. 🌹
Edgar Allan Poe said "All I loved I loved alone." I always felt that. Do you mind if I follow your page? You seem cool.
Of course I don’t mind! Please do. :) Thank you.
I have been alone too long also
Preach🙌🙌 I wish i looked like you ur so gorgeous !! :-)
@@meowmix1111 Aweeee, you’re so kind! Thank you. 🖤🖤
I don't know you. But you giving me Attention ❤ beautiful 😍
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Long live the cats.
Well not all of us are alike I still want women ❤
Much love and light too ypu I am 54 age is a number
13:10 TBH Twitter in general is a volatile platform, especially when it comes to politics. Do you plan on opening a BlueSky account?
@@Sam_XNE997 It is. I thought about it.
Too many fakes on dating apps and Facebook I know liars too
I'm alone too, I'm interested in a girl but she's far away so it's hard. All my good friends are far away too, it's hard to meet people because it's hard to regain trust.
I have a similar problem too
I like to be your friend
I like your videos you are cooling woman
@@Josh-c8n8h I appreciate you. Thank you. :)
Take some online IQ tests if you haven't already. Not a compliment really, it's just this video is a virtual list of traits of people with high IQs. It could be very worth your time to understand some of the confusion and pitfalls of having an overactive mind.
Hi sister! Did you ever had interest towards God and His Power? Would you ever come to church? I would like to invite you! May God bless you and Merry Christmas!
Did I cause this? I’m sorry if I did, I didn’t mean to if so :|
I’m just a great poet who needs a girl to smile at my poems about love & life so I’m sorry if those poems did that… but if not I saw a few comments as well that were… different per-say and I get that as well being a boy who has needed space from girls in the past.
Glad you’re doing well though :) I get this video and I understand & respect your opinions :).
@dylansAwesomevideos2302 Not at all! Your comments actually made my day! Thank you so much for watching & understanding, Dylan. 🖤 I hope you are having a good day or night.
You too Sarah :). Keep posting shorts & videos so I can keep writing poems & commenting for your days to keep being bright :)
@dylansAwesomevideos2302 Will do. :)
I like you, I would like to be your friend but you and I would never be friends because you are a human being and you are an empathetic person. Anyway, I'm sure that soon you will make many friends and you will feel less alone and you will be happy, just be patient, the best is coming for you...
2:30 id say you're encountering incels.
@@te9591 Yep…
you are beautiful. Please do vlogs, yes. Daily videos, yes.