His new girlfriend doesn’t like me! | Talks with Tony
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I keep saying, people who are young, single and don't have kids should not date single parents. Unless the situation is ideal i.e. everyone in the situation is mature enough to get along and that does not mean that everyone needs to be buddies. Just have respect for each other and maintain boundaries. There are hardly any benefits to being with someone who has kids when you don't. It's too complicated.
I just found out the hard way
Girl your so right. I left my daughter's father(only child I have) and he immediately went with another female,he's 29 and she's 16 going to 17. I have to deal with this. I learn the hard way. My daughter is a blessing but man I regret choosing him as the father.
To me it depends on the age of the child. Five or below, is a no go. Whatever parent that's left didn't put enough time into that child. You can't invest 5 years in your own DNA? That shows lack of character.
its a deal breaker for me, i dont have kids and i dont want or need these problems.
Guys be breaking up with women while they pregnant and find a girlfriend and women think these guys a catch smh
“Protect the child, but...while you protecting your child, make sure you are doing what’s best for your child.” TG
Trying to parent with a man you are not in a relationship with is extremely difficult. When a man breaks up with you, he breaks up with the child as well, which is the unfortunate truth.
For the life of me, I cannot understand why women seek relationships with men who are not doing right by their children. At the end of the day he will do wrong by you too.
I say these types of women get what they deserve... I see them all the time crying when their left as the second or third baby mama on the totem pole.
@Woman Of God If he was a Grown Man this would not end the relationship with his child when he broke up with his mom. She chose the WRONG BOY to have a child with.
!!!!!!!FACTS!!!!!!!!
If he treat his own flesh and blood bad what they think they going to happen to them???woolen never think it could happen to them
So True
I don’t have kids and I don’t date anyone with children. I’ve tried that before and it’s not for me. I suggest anyone who has no kids don’t do it. It’s not worth the drama that comes with it. It’s too many men out here.
Honestly, even if he’s the one controlling how she feels/acts, and if she is allowing him to text from her phone, that’s a no go for me! Even if in her heart she maybe an overall good person. My question would be, “What else could he manipulate her into doing?” Also, “What type of “good woman” would be okay with his behavior?”
He’s a MESS... she’s jealous and sees you as a threat.
The way Tony impersonated a lil boy had me crying laughing😂
Hope everyone is doing ok today ! God is great !
Same to you, sis.💕
@@xoxo-vp7ww ☺️ thank you !
All good 👍
@@beefaye6861 tell me something good !
@@PrettyDreadie God is there all the time... 🙏
I cackle when you talk about the differences between little boys and little girls; it's so true 😆
RAWWWWRRRR 😭😭😭😭
This is what I had to state on a previous video. We as mothers have to have discernment on our children's father's new woman as well. It's not about being bitter it's about being protective. I'm currently in almost a similar situation to this woman. What I look like sending my daughters to a woman who threatened me?
I have kept messages from the at the time girlfriend who threatened me during my daughter's Father and I court battle. Yep, he sure knows how to pick them. 🤦🏼♀️
@@christinewarren8134 Good move. It's sad to have to deal with that, but I can only control me. I've learned my lesson as well. EVERYTHING is saved and recorded from now on.
@@nataliet.3023 oh yes girl we have to. Since then things have calmed down, but you are absolutely correct. Sad we have to endure this non sense. Especially since the chick at the time was a girl he cheated with during our engagement and when I left him after the infidelities, he went on to her. So of course there was gonna to be some back and forth but it was less than smart on her part to say anything to me that can be used against him in the Court proceeding at the time. Needless to say, they are not even together anymore.
@@christinewarren8134 girl that’s a nightmare. my husband cheated and i was pregnant.. didn’t know yet. i let him stay where he was because i didn’t wanna deal with him going back to her. she ended up marrying some other guy & i still didn’t take him back. 12 years later & i’m just fine. these damn clowns.
@@genj1184 amen girl. Good riddance
Love Tony’s passion in this video for kids and his view on the sorry men who don’t care enough about their kids. 👏🏼🙏🏼
The part about women don't trust other women is so true unfortunately.. We all need to do better.
Tony is soo right if you're going to be with a person that has kids you need to accept it..
And that's why I can't do it lol
I agree. And it's definitely a personal choice. Everybody doesn't want/not made for that lifestyle, completely understandable. Even for people who already have kids. Because lots of women unfortunately, have kids, get with a man that has kids, then only want him taking care of just her kids 🙄But if someone's going to go that route, then accept it 1000%. Because the children innocent.
I no....a woman want a man to accept her kids all the time.....!!!
@@PeaceBeStill- same lol
This hit real close to home... wow! Thank you for answering this email Tony!! Thank you to the woman who had the courage to write in!
Exactly
I've been on a emotional roller coaster today! So I'm so ready for this premiere! Can't wait to get encouraged by our brother Tony G.❤✝️
Girl, same here!
Same Sis 💯
Sad this sounds exactly like my child’s father
Mr. Gaskins, try dermarolling your hairline. It helps stimulate hair growth. It really helps a lot. Just be sure to sanitize the roller before and after each use.
I love you and your family values Tony. Thank you for what you are doing for us women. Respect and keep going.
@Tony, Women who are "catty" don't have women friends. Bc they feel all women are like them. If you're kind with a good heart then you prefer having women friends.
When I hear woman say they can't be friends with ladies I feel it's an excuse to be a fluzie. They can have these male friends they sleeping and calling it a friend
I'ma have to disagree with that cause for some reason, the most messy people have the most friends around them. And I will never understand
At the same time you can be kind with a good heart, prefer women friends but let’s be honest I only have a few women friends and no male friends but woman can be catty and are for the majority there’s a reason why you see it on TV a lot and people love it. I’ve had women come to me talking about another woman terribly behind her back and this is her “best friend” to her face and she thinks I’m about to give in and be her friend too. Like what? All woman are not like this but it’s hard to find real women friends. Maybe it’s a needing to learn how to communicate better and seek to understand thing amongst us women instead of being selfish. And grown boys will play on this and do the exact same thing that woman do to each other without them even realizing it.
@@ashleycbla facts
@@ashleycbla i agree. I have tried through my life to make friends with women. I have maybe three close women friends i can trust to communicate with me. I used to keep alot of male friends for company as I got older, I realized men who claim to be your friend only want to use you or sleep with you. As women, we have to learn to communicate with each other better instead of talking about each other behind their backs.
I needed to hear this. I'm literally struggling with tryna to co parent and he is literally behaving so nasty like this 🤦♀️
Bro Tony 💯 truth no if and about it. I agree protect your kids , please at all times. This is much wisdom here tonight to take heed to. God Bless you Bro Tony.
Either he's throwing his child's mother up in his womans face on something to make her angry, jealous or his new woman is childish, selfish, immature!! Your child is your responsibility regardless of your personal life style, choices, or mom's opinion towards you as a man!! Too many do not know what love is! No child should be neglected or put in the middle of adult disputes, affairs! Children should always be priority to both parents. Flat Out!!
Just as a woman shouldn't introduce her children, neither should dad!! That can wait!! Too many dates exists in some of our lives. Facts!!
You so right Tony. I’ve seen this behavior in my family. These men are sorry, insecure, grown boys. They care nothing about the well being of their children. No matter what age they are, they have not matured. They are NEEDY. It’s hard for their children after they have grown up. It leaves scars in them.
On the other side I’ve seen the mother with holding the child from the father, because they want to get back at them, and all they care about is the child support. Those don’t end well either. Trust me, NOBODY wins when envy, jealousy, strife, greed and immaturity is at work.
Thats the worse thing when a man doesnt even have his own place for himself but bringing children in another womans house. He has no say if that child can come over and no say on the environment. My dad had us wherever we could lay our head bc he only had something through the women he dated. Its dusty and embarrassing fr
For me, if he ain't making an effort for the sake of the child, then I don't mess with that noise.
15:40... they’re manifesting that ill-will on their own children... sit back and watch. Those men stay with those females just for the benefits Tony mentioned.
If it´s true how it´s been told by his ex, then the new girlfriend is incredibly selfish and he´s definitely a weak man. It should be off-putting being in a relationship with a man who doesn´t take care of and spend time with his child, because that alone reveals a lot about his character. Also, the girlfriend should keep in mind, that she may end up in the same situation with another woman if she has a child with him
Lmao! So true about having a boy vs. girl..Everybody says boys are easier than girls, but when I found out I was having a boy I just knew I had my work cut out for me! OMG, it is ALWAYS some mess with boys, but having a boy (12) helps me realize how men are so slow to process ish lmbo! No offense to the men.
Let me also say that just like you said your wife can't have male friends because you understand the male psyche...it's the same way with us women, we understand the female psyche too which is why we say you can't trust women either. Case and point, Porsha Williams...Sis, ALWAYS trust your intuition can never be too cautious about your babies. Just a thought
Moral of the story don’t date men with kids. Cause no women bout to comfortable with her bf being at another women’s house
Me personally I'm careful with making friends with women because my ex friends have acted different when men are around like trying to embarrass me, they weren't happy for me when good things were happening, & were talking bad about me behind my back but here I was being a listening ear and trying to be a good friend
Here and ready!
Good Information 🙏
Best advice giving COMEDIAN of the year....TG 👏👏👏😂😂
The last video of Tony was a eye opener a Real one
One thing about having a prayer life and a Word diet (The Bible), you'll gain some life-changing strength and wisdom. When you allow God to work in your life, you'll soon realize that you don't need other people to act right, in order for you to move on and be good. That is a BLESSING! That means my success in life is not contingent upon others....I'm God's responsibility, He will take care of all that concerns me. I would say to the young lady, don't force it. I wouldn't trust that woman with my son. If the father is not mature enough yet...cool, ya'll still keep it moving...no heat...ain't nobody mad.
Another thing, as women we need to realize that when we dishonor and mistreat other women, we ultimately do it to ourselves. If a man has gross character issues when it comes to another woman from his past and the children they share, that should be a red flag...if he does it to her (them), he'll do it to you (ya'll). But for some reason the other woman joins in with the foolishness....come on nigh!
Preach
I have a feeling that her ex is going to get exactly what he deserves dealing with this new girl...😶
And he is so right these Judges especially if they a female will take they personal issues out on you or just the stereotype of other relationships of other cases they will actually take it out on you.. I feel a judge who has some insight if any should listen to both sides and use the wisdom that God has given them to listen to a mother who’s saying she is not comfortable with her child being with the other parent.. Cause ME I’m going to protect my BABY
Sad to say, Tony is right about judges. My children were so upset about their dad calling me names and threatening me that they duct taped him into his studio in the house (he had another exit) and wrote him letters asking him to stop coming upstairs. Police and child services were involved but he counter accused me and no one would listen to the children because they were too young at the time. We are happy now except the judge said 50/50 and even though they don't like the new woman or living there under his neglect, nothing is severe enough to get more time - and like Tony said, I don't have time or energy to fight his expensive lawyers. This is good advice for ladies dealing with irresponsible dads because the only thing worse to a child than having a less than ideal dad is no dad at all. I know from experience. Bless you anyone listening who is struggling with an evil ex, they will eventually leave you alone and you can build, and your children will eventually see the truth.
I'm glad that you're in a better situation. But I'd have to disagree with what you said about it being better for a child/children to have a crappy dad than no dad at all (that's how I read it.)
Why should father's give their sloppy performances at parenting when we as mother's do our very best, most of us? We have to carry the children in our bellies for 9 months, push them out, AND be the main one's to care for them too? And what's the standard for men since they don't have to do even half of that when it comes to the formation of a child? It isn't fair and we should expect more from Father's than just dealing with them treating our children ( their OWN) children, like crap.
God bless.
You better preach TONY!!!!
Listening.
You describe this perfectly.
She don't really want that man...that's why she not getting involved. He just the plumber for real lol
@Ash Nah, she wants him, but WITHOUT his kid.
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Amnesty from Polk County checking in
I absolutely adore my Boyfriend son I get to meet him for the first time next month I’m excited and I look forward to having him as my own....I only have a daughter and I would like to have him as a son, I feel like I want my own son but I also don’t want to have anymore kids. I feel grateful to be apart and hoping we can have a wonderful relationship despite the mother disliking me....I have never spoken to or met her. 🤷🏿♀️ (Child is only 2)
Not that you asked, but you may want to meet that mom before meeting her 2-year old son...
Also do not get too attach to him "as a son". The child may not view you like that. You have to consider that the son mother is toxic and may turn him into a torn in your relationship.
@@mirandaholley9797 That happened to me....it hurts
maybe she’s toxic.. maybe she has her guard up. you should meet her first out of respect for the child. my ex husband thought i wanted to control him when all i asked is that my daughter is respected & that he has HER in mind when he makes choices FIRST. of course that comes with doing things like actually claiming the girl you’re seeing esp when she’s gonna be around our daughter!
@@mirandaholley9797 also please don’t try to overstep the mom or dad. That will cause problems. Even if you look at him as your child please be respectful to the actual mother. Let them make the decisions for their child.
Spot on about woman not being trusting and giving other woman a benefit of a doubt.
I love women but the bad ones are bad lol, but personally I have amazing women around me, supportive and nurturing. I love my mans son and I encourage their relationship
Why are men getting with and staying with women that make demands against his children., It will seems as if he's made a choice.
My mama dealt with this.
He won't stand up for his child.
This is such a tough topic, because both sides have to be considered.. However when the children are adults 20+ and still dependent on the parent it's hard for the new relationship to flourish, maybe Im wrong idk. Very stressful situation.
I NEVER WORRY. 👌🏽👌🏽I love that shirt!
Soo true!
Be Blessed 😊
Be bless.
Just brush your hair....that stimulates hair growth.
Good night everyone ☺️♥️
That's Right TG!!!!!!!
Where are you getting these shirts from?
He designs them.
I JUST HOLLERED! Lol not a scalp stimulator! You should consider scalp micro pigmentation.
I went through this nd the lady was definitely nasty so.its def possible for all of her story can be real
Tony, that is very true about women. I am one of those women who prefer not to get close with us. Not because of me, but them. Most women do not like me and be very insecure around me. It brought me to a depression at one point cause I am a very friendly and loving person. I've stayed in so many settled friendships with women just to have ppl to hang out with. Loyal to the wrong people. And those situations with BD GFs you talking about, I have experienced. The straw was when I dropped my kids off to their dad and the GF at the time almost had her whole family jump lil ole me. I took em and left. But he stayed for theee very same reason you said above, he needed a place to stay. I am sure if would have continued to let stay, who knows what would have happened to my babies.
You sure the BD wasn’t talking bad about you to the gf and her family? And it seems like other woman may sense you coming off as factitious even though you’re being friendly because you have settled to hangout with someone just to have friends so you may be giving off a different kind of energy subconsciously without realizing it.
@@ashleycbla No, I dont think so. me and him were actually cool. me and her too at one point. she used to even vent to me about him. lbs. I think she was just tolerating it for the sake of him. she was nuts bout him. lol. and he always still had strong feeling for me and it kinda showed. and after awhile, she didnt want me around.
@@chowbay-la4248 I agree with you Jac on that friend situation. I am not one of those women who proudly proclaim that I don’t want female friends, I actually do and think they are great to have as a woman but it’s just challenging to find women who are grounded in themselves, have a high self esteem and not threatened by another’s success/beauty. I usually feel down every now and then about it but I remember that I am my own friend and that God is my best friend. 💕
@@delightfuldaisy3520 Yes. I as well have accepted it and am in a much better space with it. It actually gave me strength to not put up with it and remove myself. Wasn't good at first.
@@chowbay-la4248 girl i believe that. at first they act like the new thing is the hottest on the block and when the dust settles they’re like .. the new toy ain’t so shiny after all huh 🧐🧐🧐 lol
51:14 I’m a single mother who co parents and I would never lie to my child or paint a false picture to make the other parent look good. I know you’re just giving your opinion but it’s not the active parents job to protect the inconsistent parent. I believe the best way to protect my kid is being transparent without speaking negative or dragging them.
I know a mother who was transparent about the absent parent and they are doing well and there is no anger.
It's not good to call names and judge others who do what's best for them. Wwjd
she would've got a "say less" right after her text...and never seen my child again. Period.
Its funny when you put both your hands up representing
Exactly
Oh yes my current situation my son dad currently sees his son once a year cause his new girl
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HI everyone
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Nah, I think he's a BAD DAD if he's choosing another woman over the welfare of his son and has to be forced to provide financially for his son. His son didn't get here by himself. It is all on him. He has to walk away from the woman that doesn't accept his son. Since he wants to be kid-free to keep this woman, he's abandoning his son to keep the jealous girlfriend.
Haha you are so funny Tony 😀😀 your scalp looks fine . You spiritual mom Lol 😂
He used to want to sleep over at his ex wife when he went to see his child. Could not have that. We no more
Respectfully the BM is going to Hv to compromise by letting the kids go w they’re father or let his new gf come with him to visit or move on And put him on child support. If he loves the new woman he’s not going to go against her. The bm is now a nuisance in his new relationship bc she is acting like she needs him which the new gf is not going to like bc it feels like she’s not over him. In her eyes she needs to move on and make away and life for herself bc there’s no option to come back nor is she going to give her any room to manipulate his feelings. I’ve been on both sides. In The past I was the BM looking in trying to “get his help” and it didn’t work bc I still had hope he would leave his girl and he didn’t so I was angry, emotional and vengeful. He left us both emotionally and physically on our own. He came back years later but I had been moved on and made a way. Now I’m the fiancé and once he told her we were engaged she went into a fit. I tried to talk to her on a mature level that I would NEVER hurt a child no matter if they were my worst enemies kids. But she just refuses to acknowledge that her chance to get back w him is over. I don’t mind him calling his kids without me being around but he always tell Me when she tries to bring the convo to abt the past and he has keep reminding her the past doesn’t matter anymore bc he’s moved on and just trying to talk to his kids. She tries too control the situation by not answering the phone or talking bad about they’re dad in front of them and I had to tell him how to not give in to her but to go silent for a week to make her realize ur not going to beg. She always acts right for a little while after that lol I’m not going to let her play mind games w my man bc I know how much he loves his kids he’ll end up giving in. But whenever he tries to talk about me or bring me up she cusses him out or hangs up the phone or tells him it’s not going to last. She is still in love with him. He was in denial at first until it became obvious but I always knew bc women usually want to be w the father of their children especially if he is a good person. So she told him she doesn’t want me around the kids at all. even is trying to control if the kids are around his family that they better not let me be around them. The only coparenting She wants is supervised visits w only him And her lol he told her straight up that’s never going to happen I would not disrespect my wife like that by being alone w you at any time and she got pissed off. So he just decided to take her to court that way when it’s his time she can’t dictate anything. But in essence the BM needs to realize even though she has the children she has no control over the man anymore. He’s going to do what’s best in his current household and not going to go against the woman he loves to please an Ex. Speaking from experience it would be better for everyone involved if everyone just went there separate ways for a few months. The kids will be fine. The BM needs to find her way without her BD’s help bc he’s only going to go out of his way in the Very beginning bc of guilt but eventually he’s going to be more concerned about his future than his past so she needs to get used to child support and visitation days, healing so she can find her man in the future and stop looking back. So yes it’s on the BM to do most of the compromising bc she has no power anymore. The immature antics just push the man away more and makes him want to abandon it all. I’ve done this so I know it’s true. Let them live and get situated in their relationship and then either let the kids go to their dads or go on with ur business doing it by yourself. Most women are not going to hurt a child, we just don’t want the ex trying to control our man with emotional manipulation so we step in. That’s all. Once we believe the BM has completely moved on And stops whining everyone can start to coparent successfully.
It didn't make sense till I was older exactly what you said. These men are so sorry that they will act as if they have no child because they remind them of their failures. And they continue on in these relationships with other women, forgetting their child because they need her for some reason or another. I wondered for so long, how my children's fathers could abandon their 1st born as if they forgot they existed and go on to have and raise other children with someone else🤔. It was because they provided that environment as a 2nd mother or crutch that I refused to provide to a man. And it's funny because both men are still miserable and no further along in life than they were as young adults. And their now adult children want no relationship to them.
Some of what's going on is tension indicating that either the mother of this child or the father or both is not done yet. The child is six and she doesn't mention that she has moved on but he has someone new. Also if he is a immature, irresponsible cheater now" he was also that when she chose to have a baby with him. We have to remember that this is the mother's side of the story only. There is much more going on here. She could benefit from a few coaching or therapy sessions to help her manage her emotions and move on with her life as well as cooperate with father on visitation. It's not just her son. The father has rights too. Both protect your child. Blessings to all involved.
I know of a situation where a 51 year old man with five adult children from two different women was treating his children as if they were little toddlers And basically ended up choosing them over his significant other in his life. He made unrealistic demands for his girlfriend and expected her to become a doormat or slave and their relationship. To make things even worse these five adult children with kids of their own; were able to have access to the home of their dad because they all had a key to his place and most of them still received their mail at their dad's house.... the girlfriend could be dressed in a way that wasn't presentable for guests and the kids could come over without reasonable notice and she would not be allowed to leave the room because of how she was dressed. She was forced and made to stay put.. just because they were his kids. Three of which are grown men!! Complete insanity
Those are his kids. It's fine and normal for them to have a key to their dad's house. Furthermore, she has no ownership of the house, she's not even the wife, only the girlfriend.
@@lakisha499 I gave a brief synopsis of the entire story. There are a lot of inappropriate elements that I did not mention out of respect. My reason for making my initial comment was to give an example of when two people who are dating, treat each other as husband and wife prematurely and out of order.
You are too funny here...boys & girls commnication styles. So true even at a young age.
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Tony I think you would look just fine with a bald head. If your naturally going bald just accept it!But hey, try to hold on to that hair/hairline as long as you can! *say the last sentence in the Tony voice* lol
Men do this all the time
They sure do, and I don't understand it. Never will.
parenthesis.
A female that only has male friends or doesn’t like other women is a grown girl..
I’m sorry but I don’t believe all of what she’s saying. He got into a new relationship while “selling dreams of us being together” She was buying them and wanted her baby father to be with her and since he’s not (due to her character) She wants to use their child as a weapon to control him. Listen to her language. “He had My child in his new gf home wo my knowledge.” Ma’am that is his child too. He’s allowed to take y’all’s child where he pleases as long as there’s no hurt harm or danger. Now all of a sudden she sends a certified letter (to his new gf house) about a parenting plan but he has no argument. Because he’s sick of arguing with her! The new Gf doesn’t want to be in the middle of it. So she lets her know that she doesn’t want to deal with her or their child and it’s not her responsibility. She’s not his wife. I’m sure this lady said something to the effect of the new gf not being safe to have their child around which pissed her off and she said something unbecoming. Baby mother runs to get a report to have something on file so when she does take him to court for CS and visitation she can “prove” he’s not safe to have the child around and hangs out with unsavory characters. She stopped that man from visiting with his son because she wants child support! As long as he was bringing his child to where he was living and footing bill while with him it was a 50/50 shared parenting plan that no court had to be involved in. Lastly, this is a male child that should be with his father. She really should be an advocate for the child to live with his father but that wouldn’t pay her anything and leave her completely out of his business. This has nothing to do with the new gf, the man, or their child but everything to do with her. She wants what she wants even if her child is hurt by it. Sons need fathers Period!
This is exactly my situation except I am married to the father. We planned our child and then he left abruptly after being caught cheating and getting the new girl pregnant who had no kids and has no kids currently. The pregnancy did not survive. She and I have gone back and forth many times during the breakup sayn nasty things to each other and making threats towards each other. The father has instigated the situation and now because I have decided to take myself out of the situation and get a divorce, he is now trying to use the child as a trophy that he pulls out whenever he's bored and wants to make him an issue, then when he is done playing with him via telephone or if he does a random pop up on me. He is satisfied with that time so he puts him back on the shelf. He only wants to entertain his son when she is around or at her home and I am not letting my child go there. He is not providing any financial support, except for buying clothing three times in a year. His mom was an option but is the same lap dog that he is to get someone to like her and has sabotaged and encouraged our divorce. Things got so bad, I had to end up putting restraining orders on all three of them. Dad, Mom, & woman. I have never denied him coming to my home to be able to spend time with his child but she insists on tagging along, waiting in the car or calling constantly trying to make sure we won't reconcile.
I have no idea what to do at this point, my son misses his dad but it's also getting used to him being around and is saying it a lot less than he used to, and I have introduced the idea of taking him somewhere where he and I both meet at the park, plan an activity, etc etc but that never happens. my son has no interest in spending time with he and his woman. For me that is disrespect to me and his son being that the woman took part in the demise of our family that caused his dad To be put out of the home he resided in since he was born. Her act was selfish, when she knew he was married and had a son and it did not stop her from dating him, so why should I have to be the bigger person and give her what she & he wants. Are there ill feelings and bitterness with us all;
Yes that is only natural when you have a triangle of people involved in a relationship in one way or another attached by a child, but my love for my child supersedes my anger of what happened in the relationship so ultimately if the dad was willing to agree on a place to spend time with his child, or he could come without his chaperone, I would cooperate, but I do not feel the need to accept that my child has to spend time with he and his girlfriend at her apartment with no bed no entertainment and nothing to do but look and listen to his father interact with this strange woman that's not his mother. The chick does not get to fake step mommy with my child period. I don't know her I don't want to know her and she would not be a part of my life if it wasn't for him and I am choosing to act like she does not exist. In my own life I would not associate myself with a woman who was running around with the married man because I prefer to be around women that have morals and standards, and integrity. She had the nerve to tell my husband that his son doesn't really look like him and he is his twin. That was the first time..I knew that she is jealous and I can't have that. I am technically still the wife until divorce and I choose to make her a non-factor. I don't have many women friends but I do some & a besty that I love dearly and the reason why women cannot be friends is because they are uncaring, unsympathetic to one another, cut-throat by any means necessary competing for men. They will stab you in the back in the neck, or face to get A man or YOUR man and does not care who they hurt in the process. All a man has to do spit lies and game in their ear then all of a sudden they think they are so much better than you. That is the number one reason why women can't be friends and needless to say from him running his mouth about my business to her and her buisness to me, she has no friends. I am not the least bit surprised. This is only one side of my story but in no way am I an angel or portray myself to be one, but there were many lines of disrespect crossed to the point of no return so now I decide. It's my way or no way.
Bro Tony 💯 truth no if and about it. I agree protect your kids , please at all times. This is much wisdom here tonight to take heed to. God Bless you Bro Tony.
Yea I'm getting one side of the story. Ain't no woman just making threats for no reason. I wish we would take more responsibility for our actions
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