The four steps for expressing anger compassionately explained by Marshall Rosenberg (Audio only)
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- Опубліковано 16 гру 2020
- The four steps are:
1. Identifying the stimulus
2. Identifying the cause
3. Identifying the unmet need in ourselves
4. Communicating our unmet need and making a request in a way that maximizes the chance that the need will be met
Also in this clip:
Using guilt to manipulate people
Judgements
Shame
Need-serving emotions
How to ask for a time-out
How to start by showing empathy for the other person
Racism
Exercise in translating judgements into needs
Punishment and reward
The original source is available here: • Video
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Let go of what has passed.
Let go of what may come.
Let go of what is happening now.
Don’t try to figure anything out.
Don’t try to make anything happen.
Relax, right now, and rest.
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Become aware of what alienating story it is that you were telling yourself which causes you to become angry
For the sake of distinguishing between types of energetic opposing reaction - generalized as 'anger', here is a suggestion to use different words like; fury, wrath and anger (for example only, as some may see anger as milder than fury).
Fury - Strong feeling of a necessity to rebuke a negatively viewed phenomenon, without necessarily losing one's head.
Wrath - The energetically heated action generated by fury.
Anger - Fury and wrath uncontrolled by reflection but driven by an uncontrolled pushing off a negatively viewed phenomenon with its accompaniments, without due consideration of the phenomenon's mechanism.
While neither should be repressed when they surface, but be dealt with, anger (as interpreted here) needs to become a controlled fury by considering it's mechanism through the steps taught here. STIMULUS: strongly unwanted fact. CAUSE: mental attachment blinded by non tolerance of it's fact by refusing to think about a mechanism in which the fact is considered. ROOT: attempting to neutralize the unwanted fact by uncontrollably pushing away all around it including the messenger.
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