I also thought the same but the I heard the line that he was born in South Africa and most of the time guys from South Africa tend to be more about the relaxed vibe and barbecues etc. And Stubborn very stubborn. I'm from South Africa myself.
the worst thing is to hang your heart where your hand can't reach and on top of that, Patrick is not even respecting his finance wishes at least some of it. in addition, he never wants to pay full or close prize for anything, i would be ashame to be with him
I get where the parents would be a little upset about not being involved in the planning, however if they really wanted to be part of the process they probably could have helped pay for one. I mean their backyard looked pretty nice -I’m sure they could have come up with some money and like done it jointly with them and the grooms family.
It may be embarrassing, but his ability to save money will go a long way for his family. I just wish that he would have taken some of what he knew his bride wanted into consideration.
You dont need much money to get married especially if you have already been living together & have children. We had a beach wedding for $500 including the dress etc
I get the parents being upset, being UPSET is totally understandable. It is their only daughter and it's such a Monumentally huge and important day.... however, with that being said, IF the parents cared that much then they would have paid for them to get married and then they woulda been very involved 🤷🏼♀️ And if they absolutely couldn't afford to pay for their daughter's wedding (totally understandable as well), then they could have even offered to help pitch in something or even threw them an intimate wedding at a church and have the reception at their house, etc.. The parents being mad and distant to their daughter obviously isn't that justifiable. 🙄 NO help NO input. 💯 The groom is just a disaster altogether 🤦🏼♀️ he didn't even give her a proper proposal 🙄, never asked the father for her hand in marriage 🙄, didn't involve her family whatsoever and Throughout this entire episode, not once did he really think of his bride-to-be, it was ALL about him and his narcissistic buddy. His brother had more sense than he did and his brother even thought of the bride-to-be more than her own groom-to-be! Sad really. It should be about BOTH of them and incorporating them both individually into one, especially on THEIR own wedding day 🤦🏼♀️ Love Always and GOD Bless Ya'll 💕 🙏
I like that they explained that they couldn't afford it in the beginning and want a house and signed the contract I feel they skip that in the other episodes I've seen.
honestly never really saw the point in a table plan. i didn't have one at my wedding, everyone just sat where they wanted to. most people came with their own groups anyway so there was just a table for each group/family.
Props to this guy. An actual grown-up. His haggling might get cringey but his family will reap the benefits in the long run. He's one of the few I've seen that could actually PLAN ahead.
as the wife of a haggler, no, we don't reap the benefits. it's humiliating when he starts trying to haggle on things, like we do not live in a barter society anymore. and the money he "saves" (by haggling on things he didn't need to buy in the first place) just ends up going towards more things for himself. our kids are closing in on their teenage years and still don't have their own rooms because he will not pay market price for anything, even contractors. how are we benefitting when he won't pay to get the work done and no one will do the work for the price he wants to pay?
@@jadakowers590i found him obnoxious, wanting something for nothing and totally disregarding people actually need to make money..i would run a mile, I bet itys not only money he haggles about . This guy borders on narcissistic
Wonder what rock Patrick grew up under in SA? No bride will want a BBQ at her wedding and, yes lotza outdoor weddings but dinners served. Think he could have included her parents maybe just asked
Ok wait. You want to save for a house so you don't get married. But you have 2 children. Get married continue to save for your house and have a wedding after. You should have thought of these things prior to the 2nd child at least.
i read the comments first and thought, oh no…but this was a really cute episode. even she acknowledged that some of her choices were tacky and that she preferred his dress over hers. i think they are cute and hope that they are still very happy.
When I watch these weddings on this show it just makes me believe that the events are so superficial and to be honest, usually ghastly! The whole concept of the real meaning of marriage gets lost in all the stress, anxiety and nastiness involved. I’m all about simplicity and the couple sharing all the decisions for their special day so that it shows their love and respect towards each other and brings them both happiness.
The hen do and she says "I don't think any man likes his partner drinking!". Husband comes into top up my wine glass while I'm in the bath and encourages me to go out and have a fun night out with my mates lol
Such a lovely couple obviously so much in love. They did everything right including waiting for ten years and 2 children to get married. They have an excellent chance of staying together. I hope they find a lovely home to buy for the final piece of the puzzle. I wish them every happiness.
My brother waited until they had three kids to wed and all he has done since is cheat on her. I got married at 21 and was married for 17 years and grew in different directions and divorced. There is no recipe or magic people are who they are and some just stay because they are too scared to leave.
The groom makes me cringe. Lol The bride just said the same thing. So insincere when he bargains. Maybe that's the way to do it, but I hate it. Not finished watching... Finished watching... Nice wedding. He actually did well. All the best.
I can understand a young woman in her 20's without children wanting to be a "PRINCESS " seriously tho you're a mother been together 10 yrs you need to be a grown woman the behavior of her mother was juvenile. This series makes me laugh all the time just the things they say after making a life before the marriage lol
It's wonderful how different one and the same person can appear to different people. Personally, I've not seen a more off-putting personality on the entire show than this guy.
That whole ‘ask the father for her hand in marriage’ idea is so stuffy and sexist. A grown woman doesn’t need her fathers blessing to ‘belong to another man’. She does what she likes. I can’t stand fathers who think they own their daughters bodies and can decide who they marry. So gross. SO GROSS.
Don't understand this bride or her family. The parents should have provided the wedding if they want to plan it. The bride talking about her " last night of freedom" WTF? You have been living together and have 2 children. Why do these girls think that all the traditions of weddings which stem from 2 people starting out together, should apply equally to them? Marriage is just a piece of paper at this point.
9:50 it seems like everything's going fine in theory and ideas, so uhh 20:45 heh I had this thought earlier that before leaving he Worst n--wait kinda reminds me of the--oh Before leaving he...ohh pretty "She would love this" yesss NO Before leaving, it occurred to me that he could peek at her closet before leaving, or if he's the one staying he'd have access to her closet Jeez that's beautiful 24:40 what year is this, for the internet not to be liberally used for stuff like this Eldest...he's not doing the grooms side
Sure as she looks back at this the two things that probably make her cringe is how she unconsciously fiddled with her hair all throughout the entire wedding, secondly, people actually going swiming
I I WOULD DEFINITELY TELL THE MAN THAT I HAVE BEEN WITH FOR 10 AND A HALF YEARS AND HE GIVES ME CHILDREN I EXPECT HIM TO TAKE AND PUT A RING ON MY FINGER AND TAKE CARE OF HIS RESPONSIBILITIES AS A MAN AND NOT GO AND PUT IT OFF AND COMPLAIN OR WE DON'T HAVE TIME TO GET MARRIED OR I'M NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE RIGHT NOW RIGHT THEN AND THERE IS WHEN YOU NEED TO TELL THE GUY YOU HAVE AN ULTIMATUM MARRY ME TAKE CARE OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES SINCE WE HAVE CHILDREN OR IF NOT THEN YOU TELL HIM TO KICK ROCKS AND GO FIND SOMEBODY ELSE THAT WILL THAT WILL APPRECIATE THE MEANING OF TAKING CARE OF THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES AND THEN LET HIM KNOW THAT I'M NOT GOING TO BE WITH SOMEBODY THAT DOESN'T WANT IT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OR TO WHAT'S RIGHT WHEN IT COMES TO THE CHILDREN
This comment section must be from an alternate universe because this groom is hands down the most responsible,mature human I have seen in this series. All the best to the couple.
Very controlling though , saying his fiance wouldn't like a hens ,and he doesn't like her going out drinking, she wanted one ,the longer they are married the more controlling it will be ,power move. It doesn't work out like that you feel trapped. It's okay for him.
he's already disrespecting her every opinion and preference. "i want a fairy tale dress." "no you don't, you'll have a granny dress for 500 quid and that's the end of it." what you see as "responsible & mature" i see as condescending, controlling, & pennypinching bordering on financial abuse.
@@carolyn8073 they also have extremely strict rules on marrying in the church. My brother married into Catholicism and he had to convert to the religion and everything before they let him marry.
Girl I think you picked the wrong brother the other one so considerate ♡
Emma should’ve married his brother. 😂
Oh my God yes ,He seemed so much nicer lol .and less controlling !
Yes
When the little boy said marriage means they will never fight again just broke my heart 😢
Dad is traditional and upset he didn't ask for her hand...uuummm.....they already have 2 kids! USUALLY marriage comes first in the traditional sense.
I said the same thing!
@@SigningWithTheByrdsI thought it
I've never watched an episode of this show where I wanted to stop watching SO many times. It is painful.
Cringy and horrible groom....i cringed through the whole thing....
She chose the wrong brother
Why are parents mad and want to complain about how they are getting married so why didn't her parents complain about her having kids out a wedlock
This guy just impresses me as being chauvinistic, arrogant, and self centered.
I also thought the same but the I heard the line that he was born in South Africa and most of the time guys from South Africa tend to be more about the relaxed vibe and barbecues etc. And Stubborn very stubborn. I'm from South Africa myself.
Yesss I came to the comment section to see if I was the only one 😬😳 most comments speak how good he is yikes!!
Poor girl’s family doesn’t want her to marry him… I can see why.
the worst thing is to hang your heart where your hand can't reach and on top of that, Patrick is not even respecting his finance wishes at least some of it. in addition, he never wants to pay full or close prize for anything, i would be ashame to be with him
Not all South African have braaivleis (Barbeque) wedding's we actually do have nice formal weddings
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Yep we don't do that but I guess he wanted to have a South African feel with the gumboots dance also
I get where the parents would be a little upset about not being involved in the planning, however if they really wanted to be part of the process they probably could have helped pay for one. I mean their backyard looked pretty nice -I’m sure they could have come up with some money and like done it jointly with them and the grooms family.
It may be embarrassing, but his ability to save money will go a long way for his family. I just wish that he would have taken some of what he knew his bride wanted into consideration.
The producers will not allow the groom to give the bride anything he knows she wants if they talked about it beforehand.
BBQ and pool party for wedding? Simply no class
It’s not so bad if that’s what both want.
A barbecue! at a wedding! I personally think he is rather controlling and pompous.
He makes me cringe. He's creepy also. He's controlling also. I think she needs to call it off and run.
You dont need much money to get married especially if you have already been living together & have children. We had a beach wedding for $500 including the dress etc
The Narrator is hysterical!!!😂😂
I get the parents being upset, being UPSET is totally understandable.
It is their only daughter and it's such a Monumentally huge and important day.... however, with that being said, IF the parents cared that much then they would have paid for them to get married and then they woulda been very involved 🤷🏼♀️
And if they absolutely couldn't afford to pay for their daughter's wedding (totally understandable as well), then they could have even offered to help pitch in something or even threw them an intimate wedding at a church and have the reception at their house, etc..
The parents being mad and distant to their daughter obviously isn't that justifiable. 🙄
NO help NO input. 💯
The groom is just a disaster altogether 🤦🏼♀️ he didn't even give her a proper proposal 🙄, never asked the father for her hand in marriage 🙄, didn't involve her family whatsoever and Throughout this entire episode, not once did he really think of his bride-to-be, it was ALL about him and his narcissistic buddy.
His brother had more sense than he did and his brother even thought of the bride-to-be more than her own groom-to-be! Sad really.
It should be about BOTH of them and incorporating them both individually into one, especially on THEIR own wedding day 🤦🏼♀️
Love Always and GOD Bless Ya'll 💕 🙏
It was his friend that egged him on for a party instead of a wedding. This guy is a controlling narcissist.
The brother is the better man.
I like that they explained that they couldn't afford it in the beginning and want a house and signed the contract I feel they skip that in the other episodes I've seen.
The mother of the bride’s behavior was really horrible. I’m glad she stopped acting so selfish.
The Dad & Bride are old school, but she has two children & isn't married 🤣😂🤣😂
honestly never really saw the point in a table plan. i didn't have one at my wedding, everyone just sat where they wanted to. most people came with their own groups anyway so there was just a table for each group/family.
They barely looked at each other during the ceremony ☹😭
Does anyone know of they are still together? And happy?
He needs to help me with negotiating prices on apartment searching in New York.
Doubt that would even work! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
They dont bargain. They just move on down t to next on the list
Every South African knows a guy like this 😂
Really 😊?
He should have given her what she wanted smh this isnt a pool party 😢i feel so bad for her
I'm glad she likes the dress, car, and venue.
Yes he at least took all of it seriously which others didn’t so it was overall good
You can take the South African out of his country but you can never take the South African out of the man lol 😂😂😂
He makes me cringe almost as much as the bridesmaid dresses he chose.
This is a master negotiater
It's good she liked the dresses even though they weren't what she would have picked. I like his choice of wedding dress. Glad everyone likes it.
The one he chose looks much better. The first one looked really tacky
Props to this guy. An actual grown-up. His haggling might get cringey but his family will reap the benefits in the long run. He's one of the few I've seen that could actually PLAN ahead.
as the wife of a haggler, no, we don't reap the benefits. it's humiliating when he starts trying to haggle on things, like we do not live in a barter society anymore. and the money he "saves" (by haggling on things he didn't need to buy in the first place) just ends up going towards more things for himself. our kids are closing in on their teenage years and still don't have their own rooms because he will not pay market price for anything, even contractors. how are we benefitting when he won't pay to get the work done and no one will do the work for the price he wants to pay?
I found his haggling endearing.
@@jadakowers590i found him obnoxious, wanting something for nothing and totally disregarding people actually need to make money..i would run a mile, I bet itys not only money he haggles about . This guy borders on narcissistic
Why didn't her mom cough up the money and plan the wedding!! What a mother in law to have. Poor Patrick.
He's just horrible.
He comes across as a selfish little boy !!!
He never said I love you back when he left. don't like him arrogent😯
Definitely noticed that too.
I really liked this one. I kept waiting for something to fail badly and nothing really did. It was refreshing compared to some of them. 😊
Wonder what rock Patrick grew up under in SA? No bride will want a BBQ at her wedding and, yes lotza outdoor weddings but dinners served. Think he could have included her parents maybe just asked
I would be ok with it, but would prefer Italian
No, actually, you’re right!
Ok wait. You want to save for a house so you don't get married. But you have 2 children. Get married continue to save for your house and have a wedding after. You should have thought of these things prior to the 2nd child at least.
I don’t know. Something about him not looking at her during the ceremony doesn’t sit right with me...
Intresting 🤔... he had a piece of his world but also put her flavor in it as well...
“i dont think any man likes his partner drinking” ???? my bf loves it lmao whatt
I sure do hope the bride is happy
It's good to see she's happy with it.
i read the comments first and thought, oh no…but this was a really cute episode. even she acknowledged that some of her choices were tacky and that she preferred his dress over hers. i think they are cute and hope that they are still very happy.
When I watch these weddings on this show it just makes me believe that the events are so superficial and to be honest, usually ghastly! The whole concept of the real meaning of marriage gets lost in all the stress, anxiety and nastiness involved. I’m all about simplicity and the couple sharing all the decisions for their special day so that it shows their love and respect towards each other and brings them both happiness.
There are a couple of weddings here where they did keep it.
Such a typical South Africa man haha
Between the Brides Mother and fiance, she needs some more supportive people in her life
Beautiful wedding
He knew exactly what she wanted to wear and ignorantly put it back on the rack
I cringe when my parents bargain
I could never try get a lower price .
Good lord her brows
Strange mother of the bride , Why was she upset
Right! Who doesn’t show up to their own kids wedding, think there was more going on there….I’m glad she changed her mind
Because she is the MOTHER OF THE BRIDE, its a huge day for a mum and she wants to be involved with everything.
She looked so beautiful on that princess dress 🥹
My favourite episode so far! I thought the groom did fairly well. Emma was a beautiful bride 🕊
She doesn't like Sean, but he's got some awesome ideas there
The hen do and she says "I don't think any man likes his partner drinking!". Husband comes into top up my wine glass while I'm in the bath and encourages me to go out and have a fun night out with my mates lol
He's got nothing on Del Boy! 😂
Such a lovely couple obviously so much in love. They did everything right including waiting for ten years and 2 children to get married. They have an excellent chance of staying together. I hope they find a lovely home to buy for the final piece of the puzzle. I wish them every happiness.
My brother waited until they had three kids to wed and all he has done since is cheat on her. I got married at 21 and was married for 17 years and grew in different directions and divorced. There is no recipe or magic people are who they are and some just stay because they are too scared to leave.
The groom makes me cringe. Lol The bride just said the same thing. So insincere when he bargains. Maybe that's the way to do it, but I hate it. Not finished watching...
Finished watching...
Nice wedding. He actually did well. All the best.
Amazing
He reminds me of Stath lets flats
Video title aside, from the start it was easy to tell how selfish the groom is, i feel so bad for this woman 😭
You can have a braai any day. A wedding should be special and different
Patrick did awesome. His dress 👗 was better than the bride choice. Hers looked like a walking roll of toilet paper. Congratulations to the couple.
different people have different taste. she clearly liked the one she picked, who are you (or the groom) to tell her otherwise?
Good CATHOLIC man. BUT everyone has to go counseling FIRST DUH
Good choice it isn’t like they are traditional, they had children already . Why would he plan an traditional wedding ?
This guy is attitude101
Kids out of WEDLOCK AGAIN
None of them wear even so much as a stole in cold weather.
Oh Patrick...
Why in Gods name would you pick a swimming pool over a stately home?.
Cheapskate groom. Bargain bin boy.
I can understand a young woman in her 20's without children wanting to be a "PRINCESS " seriously tho you're a mother been together 10 yrs you need to be a grown woman the behavior of her mother was juvenile.
This series makes me laugh all the time just the things they say after making a life before the marriage lol
Good car
Having children out of wedlock blows those chances.
Now that's a real man! He's a keeper a provider and a class act
It's wonderful how different one and the same person can appear to different people. Personally, I've not seen a more off-putting personality on the entire show than this guy.
Why no? What a strange preist
That whole ‘ask the father for her hand in marriage’ idea is so stuffy and sexist. A grown woman doesn’t need her fathers blessing to ‘belong to another man’. She does what she likes. I can’t stand fathers who think they own their daughters bodies and can decide who they marry. So gross. SO GROSS.
I would like to see one lady to say no.
Don't understand this bride or her family. The parents should have provided the wedding if they want to plan it.
The bride talking about her " last night of freedom" WTF? You have been living together and have 2 children. Why do these girls think that all the traditions of weddings which stem from 2 people starting out together, should apply equally to them? Marriage is just a piece of paper at this point.
9:50 it seems like everything's going fine in theory and ideas, so uhh
20:45 heh I had this thought earlier that before leaving he
Worst n--wait kinda reminds me of the--oh
Before leaving he...ohh pretty
"She would love this" yesss NO
Before leaving, it occurred to me that he could peek at her closet before leaving, or if he's the one staying he'd have access to her closet
Jeez that's beautiful
24:40 what year is this, for the internet not to be liberally used for stuff like this
Eldest...he's not doing the grooms side
i love his barganing powers. i know what it is to be frugal in order to live decently and i know he will get the house for his family as well.
"I love you"
"See you later"
Staying together for the kids I take it.
Sure as she looks back at this the two things that probably make her cringe is how she unconsciously fiddled with her hair all throughout the entire wedding, secondly, people actually going swiming
Why do men from UK think about drinking?
Beautiful BRIDE
I I WOULD DEFINITELY TELL THE MAN THAT I HAVE BEEN WITH FOR 10 AND A HALF YEARS AND HE GIVES ME CHILDREN I EXPECT HIM TO TAKE AND PUT A RING ON MY FINGER AND TAKE CARE OF HIS RESPONSIBILITIES AS A MAN AND NOT GO AND PUT IT OFF AND COMPLAIN OR WE DON'T HAVE TIME TO GET MARRIED OR I'M NOT READY FOR MARRIAGE RIGHT NOW RIGHT THEN AND THERE IS WHEN YOU NEED TO TELL THE GUY YOU HAVE AN ULTIMATUM MARRY ME TAKE CARE OF YOUR RESPONSIBILITIES SINCE WE HAVE CHILDREN OR IF NOT THEN YOU TELL HIM TO KICK ROCKS AND GO FIND SOMEBODY ELSE THAT WILL THAT WILL APPRECIATE THE MEANING OF TAKING CARE OF THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES AND THEN LET HIM KNOW THAT I'M NOT GOING TO BE WITH SOMEBODY THAT DOESN'T WANT IT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY OR TO WHAT'S RIGHT WHEN IT COMES TO THE CHILDREN
You ahouldve gotten married before you had kids.
What makes him think him and fiance any different than any other Catholics wants vet married in the church. Dumb
No to M.ario
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This comment section must be from an alternate universe because this groom is hands down the most responsible,mature human I have seen in this series. All the best to the couple.
Very controlling though , saying his fiance wouldn't like a hens ,and he doesn't like her going out drinking, she wanted one ,the longer they are married the more controlling it will be ,power move.
It doesn't work out like that you feel trapped.
It's okay for him.
he's already disrespecting her every opinion and preference. "i want a fairy tale dress." "no you don't, you'll have a granny dress for 500 quid and that's the end of it." what you see as "responsible & mature" i see as condescending, controlling, & pennypinching bordering on financial abuse.
@@dietotaku agree 💯
wow a catholic priest said no ?? ---that 's not right.
They usually schedule weddings six months in advance with some marriage prep retreats.
@@carolyn8073 they also have extremely strict rules on marrying in the church.
My brother married into Catholicism and he had to convert to the religion and everything before they let him marry.
It’s not just for pictures. You have to committo the church in your ceremony, do marriage prep and also they have two children……
Bride is a bit of a snob and doesn’t look as young as she thinks she does😅