She was Sexually Harassed at Work… and the Company PUNISHED HER for it...

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  • @hannekezijlmans6578
    @hannekezijlmans6578 7 місяців тому +72

    Girl. You are NOT fine.
    You ARE allowed to speak and we NEED to know what company this is.
    Take legal action. Please.

  • @jamesbell8496
    @jamesbell8496 8 місяців тому +248

    We need the names of these companies that treat employees like garbage.

    • @demondogmom7221
      @demondogmom7221 8 місяців тому +19

      It would be shorter to list the good ones. Even then, it varies by manager.

    • @craigj4979
      @craigj4979 8 місяців тому +10

      Cousin had this for a big company that deals with f1 teams. Pretty much tried to pimp her out to supercar ceos to get the deals

    • @sharonps7510
      @sharonps7510 8 місяців тому +8

      Their should be an independent body to deal with sexualising harassment

    • @listey
      @listey 8 місяців тому +4

      Red Bull for one

    • @Jay32954
      @Jay32954 7 місяців тому +3

      Ask your union, and other unions. I guarantee they have a list.

  • @psychic7615
    @psychic7615 8 місяців тому +129

    I’d sue them into oblivion, name and shame the business and the a-hole who started it all! 🤬

    • @UsandEveryoneWeKnow
      @UsandEveryoneWeKnow 7 місяців тому +4

      We aren't as litigious in the UK and it's not hugely common or as easy.

    • @jerseyjoyride1316
      @jerseyjoyride1316 7 місяців тому +2

      I agree, in America this company would be sued out of existence. Obviously letting a predator like that work at their company is encouraging horrible behavior by management.
      And it's so funny that she says he's stealing from the company. I would say the company deserves it, but he doesn't deserve the money!

    • @alexanderevanska4274
      @alexanderevanska4274 7 місяців тому +5

      ​@@UsandEveryoneWeKnow I have sued and won twice. UK here. Always record all interactions with people above you in the workplace.

    • @gad3
      @gad3 6 місяців тому

      Aint sexual hatrsment a crime ?​@@UsandEveryoneWeKnow

  • @KittyDillion
    @KittyDillion 8 місяців тому +64

    My sister got fired for reporting massive sexual harassment at work, the other girls told her to be quiet or she would be fired, from a STATE JOB, in Florida. She refused to be quiet and got fired and black listed, and yes, this was just in the last few months. Her boss, did/does ANYTHING he wants and gets away with it by threatening termination. And the gals keep quiet. She cannot get another job, becasue she filed the Sexual Harassment complaint.

    • @Mari-pz8qt
      @Mari-pz8qt 7 місяців тому +15

      This is terrible. Can she sue?

    • @thenerdgirl1
      @thenerdgirl1 7 місяців тому

      ​@@Mari-pz8qt I bet you could for loss of income and loss of reputation. Can you imagine how desperate that company would be to settle? $$$$

    • @spectrelead
      @spectrelead 7 місяців тому +6

      Go to the state OIG

    • @jerseyjoyride1316
      @jerseyjoyride1316 7 місяців тому +5

      Can she file a civil lawsuit against him and the company?

    • @slappy8941
      @slappy8941 7 місяців тому +8

      Go to the media.

  • @vickyschaffner2672
    @vickyschaffner2672 8 місяців тому +93

    Please sue the company so doesn't happen to another woman and the company learns that this culture is unacceptable. Trauma doesn't just go away..it scars!

    • @Flash-sr8hm
      @Flash-sr8hm 4 місяці тому +1

      Yes. Sadly it sours your perception of everyone that comes afterwards. It's always at the back of your mind... Will it happen again with the next person.

    • @brmam1385
      @brmam1385 Місяць тому

      @@Flash-sr8hm Exactly!

    • @Waylander173
      @Waylander173 20 днів тому

      It's not America......you just can't sue everyone, and it's implied.... by her own definition. I'm not defending him in any way shape or form. Sexual harassment is not a joke and the emotional damage will always be there

    • @Blakenew127
      @Blakenew127 14 днів тому

      @@Waylander173laws against sexual harassment at work are not an “American culture “ thing. All civilized countries have labor laws in that regard. In Brasil, this guy and the company would face a lawsuit plus fines that would made those “jokes” disappear from the company like a magic trick

  • @EikePilt
    @EikePilt 8 місяців тому +98

    He's not a boss; he's a pimp. I would have left as soon as I heard that he was selling me. Even if he was joking at the time, it was still embarrassing. Yeesh, the craziest story yet.

    • @Ben-Askins
      @Ben-Askins  8 місяців тому +16

      Agreed, it is a shocker!

    • @thisbushnell2012
      @thisbushnell2012 7 місяців тому +1

      Pen voice recorder at the minimum.

  • @demondogmom7221
    @demondogmom7221 8 місяців тому +76

    I've been through sexual harassment in the workplace. It's awful.

    • @Ben-Askins
      @Ben-Askins  8 місяців тому +19

      I am so sorry to hear that, hope you are ok

    • @svenskayami
      @svenskayami 8 місяців тому +2

      @Marcus-Paul whats so funny?

    • @shireenesherry2872
      @shireenesherry2872 8 місяців тому +19

      I have too I was 16 at the time then at 19 in NHS my male boss back then found out I was in early pregnancy and I had a bleed at work was then sent home whilst waiting for my 11 week early dating scan my boss rang me and told me that's "in my my best interest of my job to terminate my pregnancy". Yep you you read that right I said no my daughter was fine she is now 15 years old.

    • @demondogmom7221
      @demondogmom7221 8 місяців тому +6

      @shireenesherry2872 - Oh my. I'm sorry...

  • @YKKY
    @YKKY 8 місяців тому +49

    Girl, get a lawyer and even go to the police,these people are the plague! Sending you bag of love and good vibes ❤

  • @hannahbutterfield2489
    @hannahbutterfield2489 8 місяців тому +43

    Thank you Ben for offering to help her find a new job and with support with what happened too. What an awful situation.

    • @Ben-Askins
      @Ben-Askins  8 місяців тому +12

      It is the bare minimum that I can do

    • @hannekezijlmans6578
      @hannekezijlmans6578 7 місяців тому +5

      ​@@Ben-Askins You're right, it's not "OK" and I want to add she's not "FINE".
      I really hope she went the legal route here, and gets some support. Being "sold" at work then groped and being told you're the problem and sent off with a pay cut... That's too much at once, the boyfriend supporting her is good obviously, but it might not be enough. 😢

  • @LotsofLisa
    @LotsofLisa 8 місяців тому +33

    This woman should have lawyers stalking her. Her boss tried to pimp her out without her knowledge or consent. We call that trafficking on this side of the pond and an easy case if you have 5 others willing to tell their story. That man could get someone attacked! What company would want this disaster in their organization? Does his father own the company? I don’t understand this.

  • @tomarmstrong3800
    @tomarmstrong3800 8 місяців тому +65

    This is one of the most shocking stories yet, she needs to get out of there ASAP!

    • @melissacoelho8413
      @melissacoelho8413 8 місяців тому +9

      Unfortunately it isn’t as shocking as you think. Talk to women and you will see how not shocking as much as it should be.

    • @naomiemoore5725
      @naomiemoore5725 8 місяців тому +6

      ​@@melissacoelho8413When I was younger, just about every job I ever had, this went on. There were three or four that didn't.

  • @mwillsandthebears
    @mwillsandthebears 8 місяців тому +36

    This is horrific. I beg the lady to report this further, not just for an apology or for compensation but to stop it happening to someone who doesn't think they have a choice but to do what has been 'offered'. That manager deserves jail time!

  • @Sp4c3G195y
    @Sp4c3G195y 7 місяців тому +23

    He’s a predator and this company is terrible. Completely unsafe environment.

  • @thatslamejehl
    @thatslamejehl 8 місяців тому +107

    I'm pretty sure trying to be a pimp is illegal.

  • @davinasquirrel7672
    @davinasquirrel7672 8 місяців тому +27

    The 1960s called, and want this manager back! All that was missing was a slap on her behind and "good job honey, wink wink".
    Six sexual harassment complaints, and still not considered worthy by HR? The fraud this guy was committing, also not surprising, he's shady all the way around.
    One thing I will say to the caller, when the other six (including the other woman yet to file complaint) get together, push for the company getting a huge fine. Money hurts them, it seems the only thing that will make them take it seriously so no other women have to go through it. Otherwise, it will be 'business as usual' for them. If awarded compensation, you can always donate it to a women's centre that supports SA victims.

  • @user-mv5zt8qd9l
    @user-mv5zt8qd9l 8 місяців тому +28

    Absolutely relate to the "remove the one being victimised as it's more convenient" angle companies take to deal with formal complaints and grievances. In my second job, it ended up in basically a complete reset of staff (several firings and rehirings of senior people), complete management overhaul, intervention from regional managers and then myself leaving them high and dry after I was essentially victim-blamed and shamed to my face by a regional manager for reporting an in-house manager threatening me in text messages. It never works in the long run for a business to dismiss serious allegations like this and remove the "inconvenient" victim.

    • @careydepass130
      @careydepass130 7 місяців тому

      I'm sorry. This lady needs a spine and some self-respect. She needs to know when to get angry. She is like a lamb amongst wolves. She is perhaps too immature and unaware to be in the workforce.

    • @purelightapologetics4930
      @purelightapologetics4930 7 місяців тому

      I’m so sorry that happened to you! They should be ashamed of themselves!

    • @crystalwoods334
      @crystalwoods334 5 місяців тому

      Unfortunately it all too often does work, well enough to become the standard practice. I survived one round of being 'the problem' when I followed the policy they made me sign and reported bullying and harassment. Took over 2 years but I got transferred and got stuck in to my new job. They had some personnel change over and I burnt out trying to fill in for 3 people during peak periods, so they closed ranks to push me out again. When I ended up in hospital I decided it wasn't worth it and left. Sadly I'm still struggling with the health results

  • @DarkYuy
    @DarkYuy 8 місяців тому +19

    This sounds like she needs to report this to whatever your countries equivalent to worksafe is.

  • @Pokemonmatt89
    @Pokemonmatt89 8 місяців тому +19

    I know the girl in this video, she’s a fantastic lady and it breaks my heart she’s going through this. She is so passionate about anything she is involved in and it’s just sad that this has even happened to her. I hope she sues them for everything and gets some form of justice ❤️

    • @RedshirtAfficionado
      @RedshirtAfficionado 7 місяців тому

      NO YOU DON’T LOL

    • @Pokemonmatt89
      @Pokemonmatt89 7 місяців тому +2

      @@RedshirtAfficionado I mean I do …..

    • @millieoldroyd8821
      @millieoldroyd8821 7 місяців тому +4

      @@RedshirtAfficionadoI’m the lady in the video, I can assure you this person does know me

    • @RedshirtAfficionado
      @RedshirtAfficionado 7 місяців тому

      @@millieoldroyd8821 oh okay I just thought he was making it up for attention

  • @howdidienduphere
    @howdidienduphere 8 місяців тому +17

    In the USA she would go straight to the labor board and file a complaint, then get a personal attorney for damages. I hope she can take these same steps.

    • @jeannetruman4380
      @jeannetruman4380 8 місяців тому +5

      I would call the police and have him charged with soliciting. I don't remember if he was the owner or a manager, but if the company stood behind him that company would be ruined. Especially if the other women made charges as well. Document! Document! Document!!! Everything!!!

    • @silkvelvet2616
      @silkvelvet2616 8 місяців тому +1

      @@jeannetruman4380 it's so very easy to pronounce what you would do in that situation, after the fact and as an observer. However, the burden of proof here in the UK and elsewhere is ALWAYS on the victim. And it's always easy to say what you would do in that situation, AFTER the fact. But when you are the person, and it's happening to you in real time, you're in shock, you can't believe this is happening, and the last thing you think of is recording it for evidence.

    • @nancyriggs8170
      @nancyriggs8170 8 місяців тому +2

      Damn I always hear about the awesome health care in UK.. This the first I've heard about the horrible working condition for women.. We have some serious shit going on in the US; and some of it is just shameful as hell: but I guess every country has its own big flaws..

    • @tcritt
      @tcritt 6 місяців тому

      @nancyriggs8170 Europeans have far more worker rights than the US. You guys don't even get paid maternity. In my country parents get a year and can share it between them.

    • @nancyriggs8170
      @nancyriggs8170 6 місяців тому +1

      @@tcritt You're very right.. they only give 12wks maturity leave.. But every business is different, some give less.. And that 12 weeks starts the minute you take leave; so if your doctor takes you off work a few weeks before delivery, you'll only get 9 wks after..

  • @OliverPriceGo
    @OliverPriceGo 8 місяців тому +10

    This is absolutely one of the most horrific work stories I've ever heard. She needs to make sure she has multiple copies of evidence for everything that happened and take these guys to the cleaners.

  • @elsiestormont1366
    @elsiestormont1366 8 місяців тому +2

    Ben, you were so kind and genuine when you asked how she was doing. Thank you for acknowledging the trauma. It would be a terrifying experience to be trafficked by your boss. He is an absolute sociopathic criminal, and his company is guilty as well.

  • @martinhaywood8040
    @martinhaywood8040 8 місяців тому +9

    Surely grounds for discrimination and constructive dismissal

    • @davidxbuck
      @davidxbuck 6 місяців тому

      Sadly, you need to be with a company for two years to claim constructive dismissal (in most cases). If they burn through female employees rapidly, they’re never at any risk of constructive dismissal claims.

  • @silkvelvet2616
    @silkvelvet2616 8 місяців тому +13

    she is not ok, you can hear it in her voice. Well, us ladies can hear it. But like always, bluff and bluster, because showing weakness perpetuates the victimisation. Just make sure she get's that psychological support. She was put in an impossible situation which resulted in her being sexually harassed by customers/clients. And when she sought support, she was punished. She needs help, and she needs to know it's not ok to be treated like that just because 'it happens across the board in all industries'. That doesn't make it ok, all it does is prove yet again, WE CHOOSE THE BEAR. And an 'apology' is not enough. It's obvious this is a business that needs it's comeuppance as the culture is lacking substance of value.

  • @jk7263
    @jk7263 8 місяців тому +10

    Should have told them your boss will be the one doing the favors.

  • @ruthwalton3457
    @ruthwalton3457 8 місяців тому +15

    He is not untouchable . This needs reporting to the police please

    • @immorttalis
      @immorttalis 7 місяців тому +2

      Right? The more people tell themselves and each other that people are "untouchable", they actually become it because no one does anything about it.

  • @Flutterbi
    @Flutterbi 8 місяців тому +14

    This sounds like the type of boss I put up with in the 80's, sad that it still happens.

    • @silkvelvet2616
      @silkvelvet2616 8 місяців тому

      Until boys are educated that no means NO and their toxic behaviour is no longer excused with the 'boys will be boys' mantra, it WILL keep happening.

  • @Mari-pz8qt
    @Mari-pz8qt 7 місяців тому +7

    If you were touched without consent, you were assaulted. Instead of going to HR you need to go the police. You're not going to get an apology, they don't care. Get a lawyer, get the other girls together, sue them and press charges. MAKE them sorry!

  • @FaeryFreya
    @FaeryFreya 8 місяців тому +11

    Would it not be possible to report this to the Police? Especially if the company's own HR have dismissed it out of hand. This guy is a predator and needs to be stopped before someone gets seriously hurt, whether physically or mentally. I have no words for the idiots who tried to take up the offer as they are just as bad, if not worse, in my opinion. Poor lass

    • @bcaye
      @bcaye 8 місяців тому +1

      Unfortunately, crass and unprofessional behavior is not illegal. Maybe it is in the UK, in the US, no.

  • @robinoconnor1203
    @robinoconnor1203 8 місяців тому +10

    A few years ago, I knew a lady sales rep for an international car parts company. One day her Manager told her to wear shorter skirts and higher heels, it will help generate more sales!

  • @gordocanuck666
    @gordocanuck666 8 місяців тому +23

    is it not illegal? This has to be against the law?? File suit. It is irresponsible not to press charges, and puts new employees at serious risk. Shame on you Ben for not being more aggressive on getting legal action underway on this victim's behalf or at least recommending that course of action.

    • @Shoibyrd
      @Shoibyrd 8 місяців тому +11

      Sadly, money. Not everyone can afford to suit. Laws are different from country to country. Also, the biggest thing is that he says that he is going to help her. So not all details can be given as it can damage the filing.

    • @silkvelvet2616
      @silkvelvet2616 8 місяців тому +8

      unless you have incontrovertible proof, it's dismissed as she said he said, with the burden of proof on the victim. Always.

    • @gordocanuck666
      @gordocanuck666 8 місяців тому +3

      @@silkvelvet2616 Yes I agree that is a valid point, she could have surreptitiously recorded some conversations perhaps, but too late now I suppose. I have to think that there will be some innocent young girl seriously damaged in the future it this guy is not stopped

    • @Shayron1989
      @Shayron1989 8 місяців тому +6

      It wasn’t overt enough. He was using implications, eye movements and hand movements to make the implication. That is very difficult to prove, even if you recorded the voices it would be difficult to prove an implication when he’s not saying it aloud. Even if she could, going to court over sexual harassment is not an easy or fun time for the victim, particularly in the UK (especially England, where this woman sounds like she is from). Even for the sexual harassment from the client, unless it’s on camera it would also be difficult, especially as there were other servers involved who I would assume would support the perpetrator and not the victim. For most women, most of the time, getting out of the situation and moving on is the most important thing.

    • @jaimeshort1892
      @jaimeshort1892 8 місяців тому

      Ben's not her lawyer or parent.

  • @derekrhodes4536
    @derekrhodes4536 15 годин тому

    Document everything, sue everyone. That one bad company will end up funding your early retirement from whatever good company you DO end up working for.

  • @chaoticwonder3278
    @chaoticwonder3278 8 місяців тому +4

    Unless they're prepared to hand you a _very_ large settlement check, I'd be shouting this story from the rooftops. 6 times? I'm absolutely gobsmacked.

  • @johannayaffe2647
    @johannayaffe2647 8 місяців тому +3

    Back in the day...mid 70s ..I worked for a well known travel agency and we had a deputy manager in his mid 60s who had a severe case of WHS (wandering hands syndrome) I complained to the senior woman and she saiď he's like that with everyone. ...she suggested I speaķ to the manager, he was very nice about it and said he would speak to this deputy yet again about his behaviour, but that it wasn't a sackable offense, and in any case the guy was only a couple of years off retirement.. and said I'd just have to avoid him as much as possible..
    Back then sexual harassment, nudie calendars, verbal inuedos / banter was par for the course, and was a "can't you take a joke" "just having a laugh" mentality, so the fact that my boss took my complaint seriously and didn't dismiss it out of hand, was actually very good..
    Things have come a long way since then...

  • @Nyx0npaws
    @Nyx0npaws 7 місяців тому +1

    Absolutely disgusting! This one rattled me incredibly! It's such a strange thing how much employees can take and not act.
    At my last job, 19 people quit just in the last few months.
    I was punched, kicked, cussed at, screamed at with and without profanities, I was told I'm worthless and so much more for trying to do my job and for reporting issues. I was told It's not my job to keep reporting but to shut up and focus on one thing only. My job and pretend like I don't see other people getting the same treatment.
    7 years! I was there for that long.. unbelievable

  • @CharlotteStockton
    @CharlotteStockton 7 місяців тому +4

    She should get monetary compensation because that is the only way the corporation will get rid of him and then he will be stopped from sexually abusing women. Unfortunately, an apology in this situation is just not good enough to stop a perpetrator.

  • @mauk2861
    @mauk2861 8 місяців тому +4

    Bullies also get away with this as well.
    The last place I worked, the IT manager bullied 50 people below him, but he had been there over 20 years, so they kept him and let the victims go... I left after 7 weeks even though I was far more qualified than him.

  • @bcpr9812
    @bcpr9812 7 місяців тому +2

    That boss should be criminally charged with pimping her out. This really should be considered a criminal act. Also, it's time to lawyer up and sue them.

  • @juliannek3134
    @juliannek3134 8 місяців тому +10

    She needs to go to the police too and get a good lawyer to sue the company.

    • @carylhalfwassen8555
      @carylhalfwassen8555 8 місяців тому

      This is a country that did not pursue the “ groomers” in the new immigrant population targeting young disadvantaged white girls. Not surprised at all.

  • @renhoeknl
    @renhoeknl 8 місяців тому +1

    Thanks for talking about such a taboo issue so that other might feel ok about coming out about their own experiences. Much bravery!

  • @bloodangel1500
    @bloodangel1500 8 місяців тому +4

    This is sadly just another day in the life of a woman. We need to stop saying "its ok." "Im fine." "I dont want to be a drama queen."

  • @Skipper4586
    @Skipper4586 8 місяців тому +8

    What is the HR dept for? Aren't they supposed to protect their employees? They should rename their HR dept Predator Protection Office.

    • @Ben-Askins
      @Ben-Askins  8 місяців тому +1

      Agreed, they have let her down so so much

    • @Mcnutt420
      @Mcnutt420 8 місяців тому +3

      HR is not your friend, they are there to protect the company!

    • @ForgottenKnight1
      @ForgottenKnight1 8 місяців тому +2

      HR will most probably do anything to fire her as fast as possible, while trying to shovel the shit under the carpet as fast as they can. HR is hired to protect the interests of the company.

    • @TheMusicalElitist
      @TheMusicalElitist 6 днів тому

      @@ForgottenKnight1 Ah, yes, the classic view of HR as the corporate villain - how quaint. While it’s easy to assume HR’s job is to “fire people as fast as possible,” the truth is much more nuanced and, dare I say, a bit beyond your grasp. HR is there to protect both the company and its employees, ensuring fairness and compliance, not just to make things disappear under the rug. But I suppose it’s simpler to blame HR than to consider the complexities involved. How very one-dimensional of you.

  • @dscott8799
    @dscott8799 Місяць тому

    This company is never going to change until someone does something about it. An apology is not enough!

  • @ericthompson1060
    @ericthompson1060 8 місяців тому +11

    Glassdoor review would be interesting....take all documentation related to this and get legal advice.

  • @MTeelTeach
    @MTeelTeach 8 місяців тому +9

    And this is why HR should be a government position (third-party) so that companies do not get to dictate how things work there. Absolutely despicable!

  • @tylergodefroy8713
    @tylergodefroy8713 5 місяців тому

    that sounds criminal. she needs sue the company and bring that bar owner up on charges

  • @OfficialREVENGEMusic
    @OfficialREVENGEMusic 8 місяців тому +7

    Don't chase an apology if it's not going to be sincere. go for the comp instead.

  • @FahadAyaz
    @FahadAyaz 8 місяців тому +3

    Could this not have been reported to the police once HR was useless about it?

  • @vahvahdisco
    @vahvahdisco 3 місяці тому

    She should go to the police and report him for sexual harassment !

  • @jessicaroutt9070
    @jessicaroutt9070 7 місяців тому +2

    Please sue this company, they need to be stoped

  • @mistywolf312
    @mistywolf312 4 місяці тому

    They got her behind the bar and surrounded her, Jesus Christ that must have been terrifying !
    Name and shame, the manager, the company and the damn restaurant .

  • @Rockin357
    @Rockin357 8 місяців тому +30

    I have learned that employees can never rely on HR for anything. It is ALWAYS the employees' fault. 🙄

    • @tomloaf
      @tomloaf 8 місяців тому +9

      Remember HR works for the company not the employees

    • @Ben-Askins
      @Ben-Askins  8 місяців тому +7

      Their job is to protect the company from behaviour like this, they failed her and the company enormously

    • @TheStevenWhiting
      @TheStevenWhiting 7 місяців тому +3

      @@Ben-Askins Not in my experience. I've witnessed a HR department keep a manager who's been reported several times for bully. And seen another protect an employee who'd been reported SEVERAL TIMES for sexual harrassment, who had previous from his past job. They eventually asked him to leave instead of firing and now he's in prison. But for years they kept defending him, promoting him and giving him access to data he should NEVER have had access to.

    • @LadyWolf6692
      @LadyWolf6692 6 місяців тому +1

      ​@@Ben-AskinsIn my experience here in the US, HR is there to protect the company at all costs. They do NOT help the employees. They keep the problem bosses and fire anyone who files a complaint. I've learned the hard way to never go to HR.
      I was physically threatened by a very toxic boss about 20 years ago, so stupid me filed a complaint with HR. Guess who was fired 2 days later? Hint - not the boss.

    • @TheMusicalElitist
      @TheMusicalElitist 6 днів тому

      Ah, how interesting - it seems you've come to a rather sweeping and misguided conclusion. While it’s certainly tempting to blame the obvious "other" when things don’t go as planned, it’s important to remember that HR is an integral part of the organisation, dedicated to fostering a positive and compliant work environment, not some distant entity to be vilified at every turn.
      In reality, HR works tirelessly to ensure fairness, provide guidance, and create systems that support both the business and the employees. The idea that HR is solely focused on placing blame, or that employees are never supported, is not only deeply misinformed but also undermines the complexity of the role.
      Perhaps you’ve had an unfortunate experience, but that certainly doesn’t represent the majority of HR professionals who are deeply committed to working with employees to resolve issues, ensure development, and foster healthy work environments. However, it’s always easier to point fingers from a distance, rather than understanding the intricate work that goes into managing diverse and often complex situations within an organisation.

  • @emmawilkins5755
    @emmawilkins5755 8 місяців тому +2

    My advice to everyone - make sure you have 2 things - the confidence to challenge inappropriate behavior and an emergency fund. If things get really bad and you have a bit of cash, you don't have to be stuck in an unpleasant / unsafe environment. Most of us put up with idiots because we need the money and they know it.

  • @thisbushnell2012
    @thisbushnell2012 7 місяців тому +1

    This is why this treatment, this criminal, misogynistic behavior continues.

  • @Pcat12357
    @Pcat12357 8 місяців тому +3

    I’d love if they named and shamed these companies!

  • @tammystreasures8766
    @tammystreasures8766 7 місяців тому +3

    I’m in the US, so I do not know the laws in others countries, but in the US, you can bring charges through the government and the company cannot punish you without repercussions.

  • @philbayf
    @philbayf 7 місяців тому +1

    There can’t be that many companies that offer these kind of services… 🤔

  • @garycurry4600
    @garycurry4600 8 місяців тому +4

    I’m so sorry for what you’ve gone through. Much success in your future career, and may karma come back and slap your former boss hard!

  • @Miralee01
    @Miralee01 8 місяців тому +7

    😮 omg its almost unbelievable! How bad was this!

    • @Ben-Askins
      @Ben-Askins  8 місяців тому

      Right up there for sure

  • @nairbvel
    @nairbvel 2 місяці тому

    "Not even warning worthy." That's when I walk out and go straight to both law enforcement AND the media with a nice, juicy story that names names.

  • @antoinetteserrano3082
    @antoinetteserrano3082 2 місяці тому

    So this dude has basically tried to pimp out his subordinate, HR says 🤷🏽‍♀️ we’re not gonna do anything to him but hey you can get a pay cut 😡😡😡😡😡 ABSOLUTELY NOT! I hope she can go to the authorities with this. INFURIATING!

  • @bearswithglasses
    @bearswithglasses 8 місяців тому +3

    As everyone else has said, this absolutely calls for legal action.

  • @pixies64
    @pixies64 8 місяців тому +5

    that is disgusting

    • @Ben-Askins
      @Ben-Askins  8 місяців тому +3

      Agreed, unacceptable

  • @lauranunez9574
    @lauranunez9574 8 місяців тому +1

    In this day and age you would think men or women cannot get away with such a thing. However, her HR department is despicable in allowing this predator to continue his harassment.

  • @rosemaryjones5550
    @rosemaryjones5550 8 місяців тому +6

    Tell pr that they shouldn’t employ pimps and they need to get a clue
    Go above hr not acceptable

  • @7bookem
    @7bookem 7 місяців тому +2

    Name and shame please. Put them out of business

  • @DavidWilliams-cm4ow
    @DavidWilliams-cm4ow 7 місяців тому +1

    She’s not alright, this will follow her. She needs to seek legal advice and get compensation.

  • @brianglobe1
    @brianglobe1 8 місяців тому +6

    This is so out of order he needs to go and HR needs to go as well. Ben please can you put out some contacts details would love to share a story with you.

  • @carlie12B
    @carlie12B 6 місяців тому

    I smell a lawsuit. They need to pay if they are going to learn. It needs to cost them!

  • @68jroche
    @68jroche 8 місяців тому +2

    Leave with no notice and go to ACAS to claim constructive dismissal

  • @craigy_uk
    @craigy_uk 7 місяців тому +2

    Why are they allowed to stay hidden? You wouldn't allow this in the street, why at work?

  • @metallikat05
    @metallikat05 6 місяців тому

    I’ve said it for years: HR is not there for your interests, they exist for the interests of the company. They aren’t toothless; they just would rather not use them. They protect the company, not you. This is another prime example of that.

  • @xhildahysa2000
    @xhildahysa2000 8 місяців тому +5

    Tell that girl to publish this garbage so everyone knows
    Can she file a lawsuit for this company?

  • @Thorinbur
    @Thorinbur 7 місяців тому

    This sounds criminal. And HR just covering it up... The "boss" needs to be put on some watch list and remove from any position of power. And the company that allowed this and turned the blind. Speachless.

  • @MissCandyTattoo
    @MissCandyTattoo 8 місяців тому +1

    I hope they’re ready for the lawsuit

  • @markdouglas5310
    @markdouglas5310 6 місяців тому

    I admire her fiancé's restraint. My wife worked for a large financial institution and was subjected to low level bullying by her line manager - complaints about her work, belittling her in the office etc etc. So, I said: Do you want me to break his legs? Answer: NO!
    Okay, I said, let the 'office gossip' know that I am considering breaking his legs and they will let this information slip (3rd party credibility). As he had met me previously, he thought the worst and curtailed his bullying. 1yr later, his boss was sacked for sexual harassment and he was demoted because he was complicit by not reporting what he knew.

  • @Jono793
    @Jono793 5 місяців тому

    Three months, less one day.
    That's the time limit to initiate a sexual harassment/ discrimination claim in the employment tribunal.

  • @rigsbyrigged1831
    @rigsbyrigged1831 8 місяців тому +4

    The thing is, people can just come here and say whatever! How do you confirm these statements? Or is this just “trust me bro?”

  • @stampandscrap7494
    @stampandscrap7494 7 місяців тому +1

    My daughter was sexually harrased and sacked by her boss when she made it obvious she would not have sex with him.
    We took him to industrial tribunal.
    I acted as her lawyer and actually got him to admit that he sacked her because she wouldn't sleep with him.
    I disproved every single reason he said he sacked her. With proof from his e mails, or his answers. After litterally taking everything he said apart with proof. I said
    You sacked her because she wouldn't sleep with you and he actually replied " Yes, but"
    She was awarded £18,000 but he never ever paid out. He put everything he owned in his wifes name.
    He is a sleezy scum bag.
    He now organises shoots for glamour models. Urgh
    My daughter who was sexually abused as a child, has never recovered.

  • @JenniferKitchens123
    @JenniferKitchens123 7 місяців тому +1

    Do you have any news outlets in the UK that would take this on as a special interest story?

  • @DavidWilliams-cm4ow
    @DavidWilliams-cm4ow 7 місяців тому

    COMPENSATION! This is the only way they will learn or change

  • @natk1105
    @natk1105 6 місяців тому

    I really wish there was some discussion of legal recourse. It makes me sick to think that this has already happened 6 times and will continue to happen. Is there no way she can take this further? This is so far beyond a simple apology.
    It also really highlights the need to have an emergency fund to allow you to quit without another job lined up. Having to stay in that environment for even another day is appalling. And I can't believe they have the gall to demand that she pay for her company car to get valet-cleaned!!

  • @draftingish4833
    @draftingish4833 8 місяців тому +4

    If something, like this happened to a female coworker I would walk in with HR with them, yeah they could fire me and I'd sue them. and record it, luckily here its a 1 party record laws.

  • @ChantelleBrown-fb7gy
    @ChantelleBrown-fb7gy 8 місяців тому +2

    This is in no way as horrible as what she went through but I worked in the medical field and a man who ended up being our boss by default(not a people person) was told by an older grumpy employee that I wore too much perfume and it bothered her allergies ( she would cough if I walked in room) and I never wore perfume just deodorant. He came and found me and said he had to SMELL ME to make sure I wasn't overscented. I told him I only had deodorant on and wasn't going to not wear it so he leaned in and SMELLED ME and deemed me ok. Ugh! He would not have done that to a man. So inappropriate. I was young and let it go but wish I hadn't.

  • @robertwillhite9077
    @robertwillhite9077 7 місяців тому +1

    I don't know how different the sexual harrassment laws are in the UK from those in the United States. These are usually taken very seriously on our side of the Atlantic. I know of a couple people in the company I work for who were fired for sexual harrassment and were accused of far less than in this story. With that said, there is still a "good ole boys" network over here as well, and I am sure that a large number of sexual harrassment incidents go unreported as well. But to have six complaints about one individual in the company and have nothing being done. Over here in the US, that would open the company up to tremendous liability, especially with the witnesses that saw it happen. It just boggles my mind what this lady had to go through in her short time with this company.

  • @pedsrn2003
    @pedsrn2003 8 місяців тому +2

    What are the rules in the UK? I the US, HR's response would have led to a visit the DA or State's attorney.

  • @Ianjdgale
    @Ianjdgale 5 місяців тому

    Why did she think she was taken on in the first place?

  • @obibear123
    @obibear123 6 місяців тому

    Report to the Police and your Lawyer!!!!

  • @ehmar
    @ehmar 8 місяців тому +1

    This is genuinely shocking! From personal experience, most 'private' organisations HR are basically useless... Really think you should move on to another company ASAP!

  • @LetsProblemSolve
    @LetsProblemSolve 7 місяців тому +2

    This is why you need to advocate for single party consent laws in your state if you live in the States.
    Single party consent means you can video or record a conversation with just your knowledge 😉.
    I actually believe the states that dont allow it obviously have issues like this and worse in their offices, and that's why they try so hard to keep transparency at bay.

  • @DavidWilliams-cm4ow
    @DavidWilliams-cm4ow 7 місяців тому

    RUIN HIM. He needs to go to jail

  • @Not_a_number_
    @Not_a_number_ 5 місяців тому

    That's not sexual harassment, that's attempted sex trafficking, surely!

  • @joeschmo622
    @joeschmo622 5 місяців тому

    *NAME THEM.* If they threaten to sue, tell them to go right ahead, then *ALL* that will come out in the public record.

  • @LovinglfDesigns
    @LovinglfDesigns 7 місяців тому +1

    That's trafficking and so illegal

  • @mikejacob3536
    @mikejacob3536 8 місяців тому +1

    The boss does it because he's allowed to do it.

  • @39Lords
    @39Lords 4 місяці тому

    I thought this stuff was only in fiction. It boggles my mind that its a real event. What in the world.

  • @DavidWilliams-cm4ow
    @DavidWilliams-cm4ow 7 місяців тому

    How did the guy have so many sexual complaints and nothing was done, legally?

  • @stephenhollingsworth2530
    @stephenhollingsworth2530 8 місяців тому

    She needs to report this guy to the police.

  • @janethomas7802
    @janethomas7802 8 місяців тому

    No excuse for this company behaviour. Sue them

  • @daviswhite3591
    @daviswhite3591 8 місяців тому +1

    I disbelieve this.
    I'm American so perhaps there is a different restaurant culture in The UK but this is beyond.
    I retired at 38 years old from the restaurant industry as a chef. I've done it all in South Louisiana, East Texas, Virginia, Southern California and Washington State.
    There are only 3 types of sales rep.
    Food, booze, gear.
    Not sex. That wouldn't fly far.

    • @millieoldroyd8821
      @millieoldroyd8821 7 місяців тому

      You may disbelieve this. But I can assure you. I lived and still living through that trauma.

  • @lucyroberts2800
    @lucyroberts2800 7 місяців тому

    That’s horrific