@daniellemoonstar6947: She might want to work on not staring at someone like a creep for an entire day and feeling entitled to do so just because she likes them. It isn't like she hasn't been educated about harassing behavior, living in today's society.
@@derekg5563 i mean her staring got her Shannon lol, so i don’t get why you’re so triggered by it 😅 i’m sure she meant she was trying to make eye contact to initiate a convo. You need to chill
@slauthordraws3363: Being someone who can get approval to the point of someone calling what you're doing literally the best thing ever, simply by talking about what you like about your partner, which would be fun and easy to do anyway, seems even better (for the people in that situation, at least).
@TheRealVille i’m aware, and the previous statement is still applicable regardless of who u were talking to, and why read comments under a video about a queer woman if that’s how u feel 💀🤦♀️
I can't get over u discovering you're somewhat queer then starting to date Shannon Beveridge like?????? That's like going to Vegas for the first time and winning the jackpot. Your first born (or next cat) has to be named Zolita now, i don't make the rules..
I love that everyone was like "Uh YEAH no shit she's SHANNON BEVERIDGE" in response to you spiraling about being attracted to her 😂 She is truly everyone's type
this representation is so important!! i am super feminine and only dated men, and when i started dating my gf everyone was super shocked, which was hard on me. it was the biggest transition of my life being out later in adulthood, but being on the other side now, its so worth it. im so proud of you and so excited for this new chapter!!
ughhhh yessss about femme queer representation! I feel like growing up I did not see any super feminine lesbians, so I kind of just assumed I wasn’t queer because I didn’t fit the mold of lesbians I saw in media. So grateful for all the queer femmes now for changing my perspective & helping me recognize that my queerness is more than just how I dress!🌈
The teary “shannon” 😭😭 ty for sharing and for being so vulnerable and creating representation!!! you and your experiences and emotions are so important and the different feelings will come in waves. People, whether in real life or online, who choose to spread hate or negativity are not a reflection of the validity of your feelings, who you are, or who you love. Hold your head high. You’re braver than most 🤍
This representation is so important!! I am femme and bisexual, and seeing more people like myself come out and be proud would have helped me figure things out a lot sooner!! Thank you for being so vulnerable!!
The teary Shannon call got my heart. You found someone who makes you feel safe and a soft place to land through this journey. Hold tight, the ride can get bumpy but it’s all worth it in the end. My wife and I have been together 17 years. We had to work through her family the first 3 and they could have tore us apart had we let it. We put our love first and protected it from the beginning. Best of luck to you both.
becca please dont think that just because we are in a more "progressive time" that it should be easy or not scary to do this! you have every right to feel any type of way, i just hope you know that you are incredible and amazing either way!!!! sending loooooots of love!
I've been watching Shannon for 10 years and I found Becca around 2020. It's been cool to see 2 beautiful and amazing women find each other. I love queer love. I love y'all's version of queer love. Welcome to the queer community Becca. We're so glad you're here and thank you for sharing your story
I identify as straight, have never had a physical relationship with a woman, never attracted to women AT ALL - but when I was 30 years old I met this girl who I was sooooo attracted to. Her personality, her vibe, her everything. If she had made a move on me, I totally would’ve dated her. It was very confusing to me at the time. 15 years later and I’m still thinking of her to this day ❤You’re not alone!! Congrats on your wonderful girlfriend :)
@@hoopgal3216 go find her please. She might be your soul mate. For soul mates, gender doesn't matter. There are many stories like this. Give us an update.
go find her please. She might be your soulmate. For soulmates, gender doesn't matter. Even marriage cannot stop soulmates. Also, you might just be a late bloomer. You might realize it later in life. You might just be influenced by compulsory heterosexuality - it's a real thing.
I am here bc of Shannon. Been a fan of hers since her early youtube days and of course I got curious to see who is this Becca she is now dating. Let me tell you, I went on IG and didn’t vibe too much with her content but this video shows so much vulnerability, honesty and emotion I can only say… it is all clear to me. Becca thank you for sharing this video. You couldn’t have fallen for a better person, especially in this community. Welcome to this particular roller coaster of life but filled with lots of laughter, joy and love. You got new fan here 😘
Becca casually stumbling upon the love of her life~ and it’s Shannon… so so so happy for you both. Shannon deserves this type of healthy love & so do you!!!💖💖💖💖
This is exactly the kind of representation I need! I am super super feminine and felt the EXACT same way starting to date girls after dating boys, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR SHARING! I feel less alone!!
One of the best things i learned in therapy is what other people think about me is none of my business. Takes time to really set in and practice but has helped me so much! So happy for you guys!!
Becca! This is so so amazing. To hear this kind of queer vulnerability from a girl who is “small town sorority girl straight passing” woman is so validating and I feel so seen. I love u and I wish u the best forever and ever!
This was such a sweet episode, i've never seen you be so candid, plus Becca T and Gabby supporting u is super nice to hear considering you and Shan's story is so similar to theirs with their current partners (it girl starts crushing on it lesbian lmao)!! And obviously your taste has gotten better, Shannon's the best but i'm sure you know that better than any of us atp
I relate so hard to this. Both my gf and I are super feminine and she was in a sorority (we just graduated). Everything is perfect within our lives objectively, but when I think about little stereotypic intricacies like weddings, date events, etc… it gets overwhelming. Knowing that she’s worth it is so amazing and being wlw is truly a blessing and wonderful life to live, even with the little doubts. You’re doing a huge HUGE service to girls like me by coming out like this. It’s so so amazing to see “cool girls” be openly gay, it makes me feel sm more normal. My gf and I are sending love and we’re so happy for you and Shannon :))
This video had me in shambles in the best way 😭 I can’t thank you enough for sharing it. I could have echoed every single word. I’ve been dating my first girlfriend for a little over a year and still haven’t hard launched because of my fear of those who will hate me or see me differently, especially old (church) friends and most of my family. This mayyyy just tip that scale for me… so thank you for your bravery. It begets other bravery. 💖 I am so sorry for the inner turmoil it has caused you and I totally get it… but I also couldn’t be happier for you and your happiness. For the girls!!
Becca, thank you so much for sharing. I know it wasn’t easy, but this representation for someone who might be going through the same thing is so important. To call you brave is cliche’, but it’s true. I love that you love the person. That’s the message here.
you’re gonna help so many people feel comfort into coming out, so many things come as relatable and I am so here for it!! you’re the best and I’m so happy for you both 💗
If you took an “am I gay” quiz as a kid chances are you’ll grow up to be at least a little bit 💅🏻 And we love you Becca! Love the way you’re so open and real
The advice portion of this podcast was hilarious. The coming out portion of this podcast made me tear up. I’m so happy for you. Very very jealous that your gay awakening is now your girlfriend! I wish I had been so lucky!!
This is so real and you’re handling it so well and you’re so earnest and sincere about it. I love this so much. You’re doing great. Thank you for being authentic and vulnerable here, you’re voicing things that are so relatable and real that not everyone opens up about.
@@elizabeth4689 I had been in a 6.5 year relationship with a man, so I didn’t really consider the fact that I was interested in women too, despite realizing now that I absolutely had crushes on women but I was in a monogamous relationship so I never thought much about the meaning of my feelings, I just knew I would get really excited to be with certain friends
@@elizabeth4689probably because straightness is seen as the default and until someone has concrete feelings, they have no reason to believe they’re anything but that
This is why it’s so important to be open minded! Sexuality is soooo fluid! If you like a person, you like a person, regardless of gender. Happy for you two!
I have been following Shannon for 8 years and she is the best. Thank you for sharing your story. I cried the day you came out, and you made me cry again in this video. So proud of you❤
First of all, congratulations on coming out! The soft and hard launch was absolutely adorable. It was great to see you being so candid and vulnerable about your feelings (the happiness and the confusion). You are becoming the represtation to others that you needed. That is something to be really proud of. As a lesbian that didn't come out until 28 (while married to a man) and in a small southern town, it can be scary. But you're doing great and you will be ok, I promise. ❤ Those who truly love you will be happy for you and will continue to stand by your side. And remember that you never have to put yourself in a box or label yourself at all. Just be you. Be happy and enjoy life. You will be ok. Welcome to the family! 🌈
people may be talking about it and there may be articles but it’s because you are becoming the representation that so many people need. that you needed. your story will help so many people have life changing realizations earlier and with a positive representation of how they’re life might have changes but they are still exactly the same person.
I love that you candidly shared your story! I came out at 26 too! I’m a lesbian, but, I grew up very religious and dated men up until that point. Some people were surprised, some people weren’t. There’s no right way to do things and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! 💕 Welcome to the family sis!
You have great taste bc Shannon is one of the most remarkable humans out there. I loved hearing your story of meeting and thank you for being so vulnerable with us. Have followed you for about 2 years and Shannon for over 10 and you both are so deserving of a healthy love like this. It’s been a long time coming so congrats. It gets easier too so please don’t stress and enjoy the ride. Just take care of and protect each other first over anything else
Had such a similar come to Jesus moment with a hot lesbian & also didn’t know how to act. It felt like 5th grade all over again. I am so happy for you both. The people that don’t get it aren’t a supposed to and you’ll create space for people that do. Celebrate how fun it is to grow and evolve in new ways-us humans are always learning- and know that the best is yet to come ❤️
Thank you for speaking out Becca! I cannot even begin to explain how happy it makes me that I can finally relate to someone’s experience. I can totally understand the fear of how others may change their perceptions on you after coming out. Your experience is so valid and just because you did not know that part of yourself before does not mean it’s not you or not a real experience for you. I’m happy that you’re happy!
This was such a beautiful episode!! So vulnerable & heartfelt, and you still made me laugh a bunch. Thanks for putting yourself out there (literally), and sharing with all of us. Very happy for you! 💖
Been a fan for years I love you and your content so much, and I'm so proud of you!! Keep being the amazing person and creator that you are, your supporters will always stand by you
You're figuring yourself out - don't be afraid of changing. At your core, you'll always be the same, lovable person that you've always been, but now you're coming into yourself. It's scary AF and the self acceptance is a journey. There's so many thoughts and emotions to go through and it's a part of the coming out journey. I can't imagine what it is like to live your life fully thinking that you're straight, then realize that you aren't straight. That's got to be a lot to process. Sending you lots of love. Glad to have you as a part of the community. You definitely struck gold with Shannon - welcome to Internet Lesbian Royalty lol! I'm very happy for both you and Shannon!
“Maybe I’m scared of conversations I’m not apart of” is so … just spot on. I never know how to word it. Which is so funny because I wanted to jump through the screen and help you get your thoughts out because you’re so genuine and so sweet, and I just relate to you and this and a lot of what you said toward the end. It’s a battle for just every day personal life things and letting go of those scares thoughts will release a weight so heavy. But, easier said than done, and all we can do is try !! ❤️🩹 SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! Feel your emotions! You’re human! And so loved 🤍🤍
I am so happy for you and the courage you showed in telling the world how you feel because you're not obligated to do so, you don't owe anybody anything but yourself. The first thing I thought when I watched you having tears by the thought of others seeing you differently is that deep down you are probably the most scared of what you think of yourself. Just a thought I had (and probably also my own reflection playing in haha when I was coming out). It can feel so scaring. But I hope you know that you are loved no matter what and stay this brave to be yourself
I feel so seen in this video. Thank you for being so vulnerable. As someone who is openly bisexual but have only dated men I never felt like I was part of the community. You’re always scared to say the wrong thing because you feel like you’re not qualified. It’s so valid. I am so so over the moon for you ❤
Thank you to all the young women living their truths. Your representation was exactly what I desperately needed when I was forced out in 1988. Yes, you can have a long, fulfilling life living as a lesbian. None of your feelings or stories are new. They just happen to be amongst the first to be on open social media platforms. I love hearing what my generation was able to carve out in order for our generation to live the lives we dreamed of back many generations before you. Your vulnerability and truth will touch lives. Thank you!❤❤❤
I was my partner first relationship with a women! We have been together for 5+ years and still has not labeled herself. Don’t feel like you have to either. She always says she feel in love with human being not gender!
i always knew you were too funny to be straight lol. thank you for being patient with yourself and sharing such a happy and loving part of your life with the public eye! very excited for you to experience your first wlw relationship girls are truly the best
thank you for being so vulnerable! i do want to say that it’s okay to realize that you’re not exactly the same… this is a huge moment and while it is light and fun, it’s also your responsibility to educate yourself on this community and the history and trailblazers that made it possible to be out and proud. i came out 3 years ago and was really convinced that it was a small thing and that I was the same person but I wasn’t at all! everyday I learned something new and discovered more internalized homophobia and shame. please take care of yourself and take having this platform seriously! you owe it to yourself and your community to take this seriously and unpack a lot of stuff.
Becca we love you much!!! Also you have not changes ONE bit, this cute little love story is nearly identical to those you've said about guys, just with a girl instead. You seem so happy talking abt Shannon it's so so so adorable 😭😭❤️❤️ We wish you love and support on this new chapter!!! tbh this is so beautiful, especially considering you're both pretty feminine and you're what most people would consider "a normal girl" it's breaking stereotypes and literally showing that people can just like other people without needing to "change" who they are ❤️
I have exposure to very few female queer influences online, and I can’t describe how impactful it is to get to follow you and hear your stories, as a queer woman who finds it hard to express herself or see representation. Thank you for sharing 🤍🤍🤍
I recently led a ceremony in a celebration of life/memorial for a friend that passed away. When I finished speaking, I was chatting with a friend & said, “I couldn’t help choking up, the tears just came & my throat closed up, there was nothing I could do about it”; my friend responded by saying, “it is expected- eulogies are not often spoken without tears & cracks in the speakers voice”. You are being vulnerable & sharing your experience in navigating something new & life-changing (even being the same person you’ve always been, it’s still a significant experience that has a beautiful impact on your life)- as well as talking about your relationship with someone you’re obviously very in love with. So, in the words of my friend (basically), it is expected- you’re coming out/“announcing” your romantic relationship, acknowledging & accepting parts of yourself & sharing it with your followers, you’re stepping into authenticity, & you are allowing yourself to blossom. It makes sense that emotions are coming up & it’s difficult to express everything in a way that feels secure. All this to say: I see you & I’m proud of you, & it’s okay to be emotional. 💗 I’ve known that I was bi for quite awhile now & I still discover new things about myself/my sexuality to this day. We have each other- the queer community. We can be emotional & complex, & that’s okay.
Great episode and so relatable. I'm a late in life lesbian and I met my fiancée 32:55 3.5 years ago. I've felt a lot of the same feelings that you talked about. I'm very happy for you!
Truth is, you feel naked for a while once you come out. I’m glad you’re not putting yourself in a box - it has taken us a lifetime to figure this out. Sometimes it’s just the one girl, might be more than one girl. It’s okay.
Awwww babes!!! I'm so happy for you! 🥰🥰 The sheer fact alone that you found someone who makes your heart happy regardless of their sex is such a beautiful thing. A lot of what you shared about scared and other emotions is probably totally normal lol. I have only dated men at this point, but have pondered the notion of dating a woman and I think I would probably feel the same way as you right now! Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable with us. You're a light in this world 💛 We love you Becca!!!
Even though I'm very jealous that you found out you were gay by falling in love with a woman and getting to date her rather than heartbreak and spending five years on the apps 😂, I am very very thrilled for you. Shannon is the salt of the Earth and it sounds like y'all are in a very sweet supportive and healthy relationship! Wishing you all the best with your podcast.
@@1985cactus I thought I already replied to this but it's not appearing so, yes you're correct, I meant to say queer not gay. Although you never know, for me it was a journey to discover I was a lesbian. Comphet is a biiiiitch!
One of the biggest misconceptions about coming out or dating the same gender or whatever different from the “norm” or what society tells us is, that we are different people and that’s the farthest from the truth. We are exactly the same people. Who we love makes no difference to who we are at the core. You’ll be okay and Shannon is great
You care too much about the people whose opinions won't matter. If someone is a homophobe or hater, or unsupportive, it doesn't matter. Let them gossip, just be in your little love bubble and keep doing you.
Congratulations on coming out, Becca. I'm also a content creator who has had to come out publicly after "figuring out" my sexuality at 32 years old. Very similar experience to you - I convinced myself I was straight but as soon as I met this one girl (my now partner), I was hooked immediately and we've built a beautiful life together. It's such a confusing experience and even though you're surrounded by love, it's such a strange internal battle trying to understand why you were involved with men for so long. Good luck on your journey, so happy for you and Shannon, and thank you for being vulnerable on here.
i totally understand the heaviness after the initial happiness and relief of coming out. i knew i was gay at 12 and didn't come out until 20. i was fine with it and was ready to tell my family. i thought it was gonna feel great but mostly i just felt exposed and like they saw me differently (even though they didn't). it took some months but i got to a place where i was soooo much happier that they knew because in the end it was heavier when i was the only one holding onto it
I’ve never heard something so close to my experience. What you said at 10:40. 🙌🏼 exactly! I’m very feminine, only dated men and then I met my (now) wife. All the love to you, it’s an amazing journey and I hope you enjoy the ride 🫶
I was literally gonna say the same thing bahaha. That is the easiest way to let someone know you’re interested in them lmao - lingering eye contact with a playful/flirty smirk or smile
Loving this entire beautiful story 🥰 I came out 6 years as bi and eventually unlearned people pleasing and realized I was actually a lesbian underneath it all. Proud of you for being vulnerable and sharing this!
Girl, having Shannon as a first girlfriend is like hitting a lesbian lottery jackpot. I’m so happy and excited for you and Shannon.
i think she found her through Fletcher lol ... she literally said Fletcher's music video was her gay awakening...
ikr!! lmao that's what i was saying
@@anonymouse0123 if you’re referring to her talking about meeting shannon on a set of a music video, she’s talking about zolita’s music video
@daniellemoonstar6947: She might want to work on not staring at someone like a creep for an entire day and feeling entitled to do so just because she likes them. It isn't like she hasn't been educated about harassing behavior, living in today's society.
@@derekg5563 i mean her staring got her Shannon lol, so i don’t get why you’re so triggered by it 😅 i’m sure she meant she was trying to make eye contact to initiate a convo. You need to chill
listening to a girl talk about what she likes about her girlfriend is literally the best thing ever
@slauthordraws3363: Being someone who can get approval to the point of someone calling what you're doing literally the best thing ever, simply by talking about what you like about your partner, which would be fun and easy to do anyway, seems even better (for the people in that situation, at least).
THE MAIN LESBIAN THAT THERE EVER COULD BE has me CACKLING
The moment you do “am I gay “ quiz is the tell lol
lollll
Right.. if you're taking the quiz that's pretty much your answer...
@TheRealVille why are u even commenting, do u really think ur gonna change our minds 💀🤢😂
@TheRealVille i’m aware, and the previous statement is still applicable regardless of who u were talking to, and why read comments under a video about a queer woman if that’s how u feel 💀🤦♀️
@TheRealVille so you choose to be straight?
I can't get over u discovering you're somewhat queer then starting to date Shannon Beveridge like?????? That's like going to Vegas for the first time and winning the jackpot.
Your first born (or next cat) has to be named Zolita now, i don't make the rules..
😂😂😂😂
More alisha
I love that everyone was like "Uh YEAH no shit she's SHANNON BEVERIDGE" in response to you spiraling about being attracted to her 😂 She is truly everyone's type
this representation is so important!! i am super feminine and only dated men, and when i started dating my gf everyone was super shocked, which was hard on me. it was the biggest transition of my life being out later in adulthood, but being on the other side now, its so worth it. im so proud of you and so excited for this new chapter!!
ughhhh yessss about femme queer representation! I feel like growing up I did not see any super feminine lesbians, so I kind of just assumed I wasn’t queer because I didn’t fit the mold of lesbians I saw in media. So grateful for all the queer femmes now for changing my perspective & helping me recognize that my queerness is more than just how I dress!🌈
@@bellebellebelle123 The majority of lesbians in the media are femme as are the majority in the community.
I just hope we can normalize femme with femme relationships… no one needs to be the “dude “- masculine
@@llebron9678 exactly
Imagine coming out and you have an ARCHIVE of reassuring content made by your new gf over the last 10 years to help you and others get through it aww
The teary “shannon” 😭😭
ty for sharing and for being so vulnerable and creating representation!!! you and your experiences and emotions are so important and the different feelings will come in waves. People, whether in real life or online, who choose to spread hate or negativity are not a reflection of the validity of your feelings, who you are, or who you love. Hold your head high. You’re braver than most 🤍
that shit ripped my heart out of my chestttttt 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
that was so cute 😭
I teared up 😭
oh my god this comment is SO sweet 😭🫶🫶
It’s allowed to feel big to you, it is!
Every time someone steps up and says who they are, the world becomes a better, more interesting place.
The way becca talks about shannon is so sweet. Coming out is hard and takes bravery.
Shannon asin fletchers ex?
@@MBGeneration Yes, Shannon beveridge and cari fletcher dated 2016-2020.
@@anikarahman193 oh wow ok
This representation is so important!! I am femme and bisexual, and seeing more people like myself come out and be proud would have helped me figure things out a lot sooner!! Thank you for being so vulnerable!!
Remember: missfenderr ➡️ Alayna Joy
"shannon looked like a cartoon character" lol so true she is real pretty
She's stunning)))
Have u meet shannon?@@ekaterina6758
The “It could happen to anyone!!” cracked me tf up 😂 as a femme, welcome to the winning team gurl 💅🏳️🌈
The teary Shannon call got my heart. You found someone who makes you feel safe and a soft place to land through this journey. Hold tight, the ride can get bumpy but it’s all worth it in the end. My wife and I have been together 17 years. We had to work through her family the first 3 and they could have tore us apart had we let it. We put our love first and protected it from the beginning. Best of luck to you both.
becca please dont think that just because we are in a more "progressive time" that it should be easy or not scary to do this! you have every right to feel any type of way, i just hope you know that you are incredible and amazing either way!!!! sending loooooots of love!
"The main lesbian there ever could be" 😂❤
I've been watching Shannon for 10 years and I found Becca around 2020. It's been cool to see 2 beautiful and amazing women find each other. I love queer love. I love y'all's version of queer love. Welcome to the queer community Becca. We're so glad you're here and thank you for sharing your story
I identify as straight, have never had a physical relationship with a woman, never attracted to women AT ALL - but when I was 30 years old I met this girl who I was sooooo attracted to. Her personality, her vibe, her everything. If she had made a move on me, I totally would’ve dated her. It was very confusing to me at the time. 15 years later and I’m still thinking of her to this day ❤You’re not alone!! Congrats on your wonderful girlfriend :)
Wish you had made a move instead! Maybe find her today and try, if you still think about her. You never know if she thinks about you too :)
@@watzlowski I wish I would have too!! 😫 I was too scared. I’m happily married now, so no going back in time 😔
@@hoopgal3216 go find her please. She might be your soul mate. For soul mates, gender doesn't matter. There are many stories like this. Give us an update.
@@watzlowski you're right.
go find her please. She might be your soulmate. For soulmates, gender doesn't matter. Even marriage cannot stop soulmates. Also, you might just be a late bloomer. You might realize it later in life. You might just be influenced by compulsory heterosexuality - it's a real thing.
I am here bc of Shannon. Been a fan of hers since her early youtube days and of course I got curious to see who is this Becca she is now dating. Let me tell you, I went on IG and didn’t vibe too much with her content but this video shows so much vulnerability, honesty and emotion I can only say… it is all clear to me. Becca thank you for sharing this video. You couldn’t have fallen for a better person, especially in this community. Welcome to this particular roller coaster of life but filled with lots of laughter, joy and love. You got new fan here 😘
*The teary "Shannon" was so cute🥺 the internet ruined the surprise for me back in January but I'm happy for you both🥰💕*
Becca casually stumbling upon the love of her life~ and it’s Shannon… so so so happy for you both. Shannon deserves this type of healthy love & so do you!!!💖💖💖💖
“I like the wine, not the label”. So happy for you girly!
Love that adage
The MV she was talking about
IS ZOLITA's "Bloodstream"! ♥
shhh my novel has started
This is exactly the kind of representation I need! I am super super feminine and felt the EXACT same way starting to date girls after dating boys, THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR SHARING! I feel less alone!!
Comphet is a real thing indeed. Many people didn't realize they were gay because of comphet.
as a late blooming bisexual who figured it out at 24, I feel so seen by your emotional reaction to being self-aware about your attraction to women!
One of the best things i learned in therapy is what other people think about me is none of my business. Takes time to really set in and practice but has helped me so much! So happy for you guys!!
Becca! This is so so amazing. To hear this kind of queer vulnerability from a girl who is “small town sorority girl straight passing” woman is so validating and I feel so seen. I love u and I wish u the best forever and ever!
This was such a sweet episode, i've never seen you be so candid, plus Becca T and Gabby supporting u is super nice to hear considering you and Shan's story is so similar to theirs with their current partners (it girl starts crushing on it lesbian lmao)!! And obviously your taste has gotten better, Shannon's the best but i'm sure you know that better than any of us atp
“I talked about her to EVERYONE”
That’s the situation I’m in. Can’t get this girl out of my head. She’s so pretty and funny. I’m so down bad
...a girl? You're DATING
THE GIRL I LOVE! 😭♥️
same like i didn't expect me and Becca to share a gf but here we are
It’s just one big parasocial polycule.
In conclusion: we sould all be thankful that Shannon Beveridge exists!
I relate so hard to this. Both my gf and I are super feminine and she was in a sorority (we just graduated). Everything is perfect within our lives objectively, but when I think about little stereotypic intricacies like weddings, date events, etc… it gets overwhelming. Knowing that she’s worth it is so amazing and being wlw is truly a blessing and wonderful life to live, even with the little doubts. You’re doing a huge HUGE service to girls like me by coming out like this. It’s so so amazing to see “cool girls” be openly gay, it makes me feel sm more normal. My gf and I are sending love and we’re so happy for you and Shannon :))
This video had me in shambles in the best way 😭 I can’t thank you enough for sharing it. I could have echoed every single word. I’ve been dating my first girlfriend for a little over a year and still haven’t hard launched because of my fear of those who will hate me or see me differently, especially old (church) friends and most of my family. This mayyyy just tip that scale for me… so thank you for your bravery. It begets other bravery. 💖 I am so sorry for the inner turmoil it has caused you and I totally get it… but I also couldn’t be happier for you and your happiness. For the girls!!
Becca, thank you so much for sharing. I know it wasn’t easy, but this representation for someone who might be going through the same thing is so important. To call you brave is cliche’, but it’s true. I love that you love the person. That’s the message here.
you’re gonna help so many people feel comfort into coming out, so many things come as relatable and I am so here for it!! you’re the best and I’m so happy for you both 💗
it's so cute to see you talking about your crush and your realization that you like girls 🥺
welcome to the club
@TheRealVille it aint
If you took an “am I gay” quiz as a kid chances are you’ll grow up to be at least a little bit 💅🏻
And we love you Becca! Love the way you’re so open and real
The advice portion of this podcast was hilarious.
The coming out portion of this podcast made me tear up. I’m so happy for you. Very very jealous that your gay awakening is now your girlfriend! I wish I had been so lucky!!
I saw shannon at a renee rapp concert and she does look like a cartoon character shes got the best skin of anyone ive ever seen it doesnt look real 😂
She needs to drop her skincare routine because wth
This is so real and you’re handling it so well and you’re so earnest and sincere about it. I love this so much. You’re doing great. Thank you for being authentic and vulnerable here, you’re voicing things that are so relatable and real that not everyone opens up about.
I think you guys might be the most beautiful couple I’ve ever seen, like how can two people look SO GOOD together🥺😭💛.
OBSESSED WITH YOU AND WITH THIS!!!!!!!! Way to snag “the number one lesbian in the world” lmaooo died at that 😂😂😂
I love how Shannon always introduce us to new people and amazing people like you !
I was 27 when I finally figured out I was queer - better late than never
that's crazy but happy for you
28 and realized the same thing…. Its so refreshing
@@elizabeth4689 I had been in a 6.5 year relationship with a man, so I didn’t really consider the fact that I was interested in women too, despite realizing now that I absolutely had crushes on women but I was in a monogamous relationship so I never thought much about the meaning of my feelings, I just knew I would get really excited to be with certain friends
@@elizabeth4689probably because straightness is seen as the default and until someone has concrete feelings, they have no reason to believe they’re anything but that
30 for me!
This is why it’s so important to be open minded! Sexuality is soooo fluid! If you like a person, you like a person, regardless of gender. Happy for you two!
I needed this. like I think I would’ve died without this
Truly, you're doing great. I yearn for the day that “I like who I like” is enough said. So happy for you, you're both wonderful.
I have been following Shannon for 8 years and she is the best.
Thank you for sharing your story. I cried the day you came out, and you made me cry again in this video. So proud of you❤
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First of all, congratulations on coming out! The soft and hard launch was absolutely adorable. It was great to see you being so candid and vulnerable about your feelings (the happiness and the confusion). You are becoming the represtation to others that you needed. That is something to be really proud of. As a lesbian that didn't come out until 28 (while married to a man) and in a small southern town, it can be scary. But you're doing great and you will be ok, I promise. ❤ Those who truly love you will be happy for you and will continue to stand by your side. And remember that you never have to put yourself in a box or label yourself at all. Just be you. Be happy and enjoy life. You will be ok. Welcome to the family! 🌈
"You're gonna be a man and be introverted? Shut up" lmao
people may be talking about it and there may be articles but it’s because you are becoming the representation that so many people need. that you needed. your story will help so many people have life changing realizations earlier and with a positive representation of how they’re life might have changes but they are still exactly the same person.
I love that you candidly shared your story! I came out at 26 too! I’m a lesbian, but, I grew up very religious and dated men up until that point. Some people were surprised, some people weren’t. There’s no right way to do things and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! 💕 Welcome to the family sis!
You have great taste bc Shannon is one of the most remarkable humans out there. I loved hearing your story of meeting and thank you for being so vulnerable with us. Have followed you for about 2 years and Shannon for over 10 and you both are so deserving of a healthy love like this. It’s been a long time coming so congrats. It gets easier too so please don’t stress and enjoy the ride. Just take care of and protect each other first over anything else
Had such a similar come to Jesus moment with a hot lesbian & also didn’t know how to act. It felt like 5th grade all over again. I am so happy for you both. The people that don’t get it aren’t a supposed to and you’ll create space for people that do. Celebrate how fun it is to grow and evolve in new ways-us humans are always learning- and know that the best is yet to come ❤️
@@mckennahiller7048 where is she? Are you together?
@@mckennahiller7048 where is she now? Were you a couple?
Thank you for speaking out Becca! I cannot even begin to explain how happy it makes me that I can finally relate to someone’s experience. I can totally understand the fear of how others may change their perceptions on you after coming out. Your experience is so valid and just because you did not know that part of yourself before does not mean it’s not you or not a real experience for you. I’m happy that you’re happy!
This was such a beautiful episode!! So vulnerable & heartfelt, and you still made me laugh a bunch. Thanks for putting yourself out there (literally), and sharing with all of us. Very happy for you! 💖
Been a fan for years I love you and your content so much, and I'm so proud of you!! Keep being the amazing person and creator that you are, your supporters will always stand by you
You're figuring yourself out - don't be afraid of changing. At your core, you'll always be the same, lovable person that you've always been, but now you're coming into yourself. It's scary AF and the self acceptance is a journey. There's so many thoughts and emotions to go through and it's a part of the coming out journey. I can't imagine what it is like to live your life fully thinking that you're straight, then realize that you aren't straight. That's got to be a lot to process. Sending you lots of love. Glad to have you as a part of the community. You definitely struck gold with Shannon - welcome to Internet Lesbian Royalty lol! I'm very happy for both you and Shannon!
“Maybe I’m scared of conversations I’m not apart of” is so … just spot on. I never know how to word it. Which is so funny because I wanted to jump through the screen and help you get your thoughts out because you’re so genuine and so sweet, and I just relate to you and this and a lot of what you said toward the end. It’s a battle for just every day personal life things and letting go of those scares thoughts will release a weight so heavy. But, easier said than done, and all we can do is try !! ❤️🩹 SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!! Feel your emotions! You’re human! And so loved 🤍🤍
I am so happy for you and the courage you showed in telling the world how you feel because you're not obligated to do so, you don't owe anybody anything but yourself. The first thing I thought when I watched you having tears by the thought of others seeing you differently is that deep down you are probably the most scared of what you think of yourself. Just a thought I had (and probably also my own reflection playing in haha when I was coming out). It can feel so scaring. But I hope you know that you are loved no matter what and stay this brave to be yourself
loved this, you really voiced how it feels to come out and it is so hard but you're doing great frrrr
I feel so seen in this video. Thank you for being so vulnerable. As someone who is openly bisexual but have only dated men I never felt like I was part of the community. You’re always scared to say the wrong thing because you feel like you’re not qualified. It’s so valid. I am so so over the moon for you ❤
Thank you to all the young women living their truths. Your representation was exactly what I desperately needed when I was forced out in 1988. Yes, you can have a long, fulfilling life living as a lesbian. None of your feelings or stories are new. They just happen to be amongst the first to be on open social media platforms. I love hearing what my generation was able to carve out in order for our generation to live the lives we dreamed of back many generations before you. Your vulnerability and truth will touch lives. Thank you!❤❤❤
I was my partner first relationship with a women! We have been together for 5+ years and still has not labeled herself. Don’t feel like you have to either. She always says she feel in love with human being not gender!
Shannon singlehandedly lesbianizing the world for us. I think her ability to turn "straight" girls gay counts as a superpower.
Ehhh I get the joke but it really trivializes sexuality as a spectrum. Becca did this on her own! ❤
@@Anna-19928 I think straight girls are the only ones who have fluid sexuality. It's possible for them to change if it's done right.
@@Anna-19928 exactly, sexuality is really a spectrum
That sounds a little gross to me, anyone who can be turned isn't straight to begin with. Also feels like a man bragging about "turning" a lesbian.
@@thebatmanwhoposts9600 exactly what I was thinking
i always knew you were too funny to be straight lol. thank you for being patient with yourself and sharing such a happy and loving part of your life with the public eye! very excited for you to experience your first wlw relationship girls are truly the best
You said so many of the same things I've been feeling and worrying about, and it made me feel less alone ♥️
thank you for being so vulnerable! i do want to say that it’s okay to realize that you’re not exactly the same… this is a huge moment and while it is light and fun, it’s also your responsibility to educate yourself on this community and the history and trailblazers that made it possible to be out and proud. i came out 3 years ago and was really convinced that it was a small thing and that I was the same person but I wasn’t at all! everyday I learned something new and discovered more internalized homophobia and shame. please take care of yourself and take having this platform seriously! you owe it to yourself and your community to take this seriously and unpack a lot of stuff.
Becca we love you much!!!
Also you have not changes ONE bit, this cute little love story is nearly identical to those you've said about guys, just with a girl instead. You seem so happy talking abt Shannon it's so so so adorable 😭😭❤️❤️
We wish you love and support on this new chapter!!!
tbh this is so beautiful, especially considering you're both pretty feminine and you're what most people would consider "a normal girl" it's breaking stereotypes and literally showing that people can just like other people without needing to "change" who they are ❤️
Dating "A" girl? gurlllll your first gf is Shannon?? gahhdayumm i mean how lucky of you haha!! Anyway congratz on your new relationship YAY! ❤😂🤣
This is so amazing and candid. The best video you’ve ever put out!!! You should go on the just Trish podcast I feel like your dynamic would be so fun
I have exposure to very few female queer influences online, and I can’t describe how impactful it is to get to follow you and hear your stories, as a queer woman who finds it hard to express herself or see representation. Thank you for sharing 🤍🤍🤍
I recently led a ceremony in a celebration of life/memorial for a friend that passed away. When I finished speaking, I was chatting with a friend & said, “I couldn’t help choking up, the tears just came & my throat closed up, there was nothing I could do about it”; my friend responded by saying, “it is expected- eulogies are not often spoken without tears & cracks in the speakers voice”. You are being vulnerable & sharing your experience in navigating something new & life-changing (even being the same person you’ve always been, it’s still a significant experience that has a beautiful impact on your life)- as well as talking about your relationship with someone you’re obviously very in love with. So, in the words of my friend (basically), it is expected- you’re coming out/“announcing” your romantic relationship, acknowledging & accepting parts of yourself & sharing it with your followers, you’re stepping into authenticity, & you are allowing yourself to blossom. It makes sense that emotions are coming up & it’s difficult to express everything in a way that feels secure. All this to say: I see you & I’m proud of you, & it’s okay to be emotional. 💗
I’ve known that I was bi for quite awhile now & I still discover new things about myself/my sexuality to this day. We have each other- the queer community. We can be emotional & complex, & that’s okay.
missfenderr ➡️ Alayna Joy
Great episode and so relatable. I'm a late in life lesbian and I met my fiancée 32:55 3.5 years ago. I've felt a lot of the same feelings that you talked about. I'm very happy for you!
Truth is, you feel naked for a while once you come out. I’m glad you’re not putting yourself in a box - it has taken us a lifetime to figure this out. Sometimes it’s just the one girl, might be more than one girl. It’s okay.
This is so real 😭the confusion and talking to everyone about her LMAO
In 2024, liking Shannon Beverige or Chappell Roan is pretty much lesbian requirement 😂
Welcome 😉
Im having such an internal crisis with my sexuality lately, listening to your thoughts and how happy you seem to be was really helpful to me
Awwww babes!!! I'm so happy for you! 🥰🥰 The sheer fact alone that you found someone who makes your heart happy regardless of their sex is such a beautiful thing. A lot of what you shared about scared and other emotions is probably totally normal lol. I have only dated men at this point, but have pondered the notion of dating a woman and I think I would probably feel the same way as you right now!
Thank you so much for sharing and being vulnerable with us.
You're a light in this world 💛
We love you Becca!!!
@@MusicMedicineMC would you try dating a woman?
Thank you so much for sharing this as i am going through the same situation and it helped me a lot and makes me really think.
Even though I'm very jealous that you found out you were gay by falling in love with a woman and getting to date her rather than heartbreak and spending five years on the apps 😂, I am very very thrilled for you. Shannon is the salt of the Earth and it sounds like y'all are in a very sweet supportive and healthy relationship! Wishing you all the best with your podcast.
She's bi, not gay
@@1985cactus I thought I already replied to this but it's not appearing so, yes you're correct, I meant to say queer not gay. Although you never know, for me it was a journey to discover I was a lesbian. Comphet is a biiiiitch!
One of the biggest misconceptions about coming out or dating the same gender or whatever different from the “norm” or what society tells us is, that we are different people and that’s the farthest from the truth. We are exactly the same people. Who we love makes no difference to who we are at the core. You’ll be okay and Shannon is great
You care too much about the people whose opinions won't matter. If someone is a homophobe or hater, or unsupportive, it doesn't matter. Let them gossip, just be in your little love bubble and keep doing you.
Thank you for much for your honesty, I am in a similar position as you and you’re helping me get more comfortable being open ❤
I love this so and feel so seen, especially about the fears and labels part
*pretends to be shocked* omg no way 😮
Congratulations on coming out, Becca. I'm also a content creator who has had to come out publicly after "figuring out" my sexuality at 32 years old. Very similar experience to you - I convinced myself I was straight but as soon as I met this one girl (my now partner), I was hooked immediately and we've built a beautiful life together.
It's such a confusing experience and even though you're surrounded by love, it's such a strange internal battle trying to understand why you were involved with men for so long.
Good luck on your journey, so happy for you and Shannon, and thank you for being vulnerable on here.
Thank you for sharing! You're making us feel less alone
I LOVE how you’re simping for Shannon omg this is precious
i totally understand the heaviness after the initial happiness and relief of coming out. i knew i was gay at 12 and didn't come out until 20. i was fine with it and was ready to tell my family. i thought it was gonna feel great but mostly i just felt exposed and like they saw me differently (even though they didn't). it took some months but i got to a place where i was soooo much happier that they knew because in the end it was heavier when i was the only one holding onto it
I’ve never heard something so close to my experience. What you said at 10:40. 🙌🏼 exactly! I’m very feminine, only dated men and then I met my (now) wife. All the love to you, it’s an amazing journey and I hope you enjoy the ride 🫶
okay but your advice is v accurate. all you have to do is make vaguely prolonged eye contact with a man for them to think you’re interested in them
I was literally gonna say the same thing bahaha. That is the easiest way to let someone know you’re interested in them lmao - lingering eye contact with a playful/flirty smirk or smile
Two of the most beautiful, sweetest people! Love looks so good on you both!
this is the first video ive ever seen of u outside of ig and this might've been my sexual awakening lmao
Dear lord, Shannon’s ego must be on 10 right now. 💀welcome to the club girl. Give yourself space to feel how you feel. No one else matters honestly.
I needed to hear this! We all needed to hear this. Thank you ❤ I was in tears the whole time
Loving this entire beautiful story 🥰 I came out 6 years as bi and eventually unlearned people pleasing and realized I was actually a lesbian underneath it all. Proud of you for being vulnerable and sharing this!
BE SO PROUD OF YOURSELF! This is not easy. But we are all so excited for you 💜💜💜