My Handfasting. (What a handfasting is, how I went about it, Etc.)
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I was hoping someone would make a video on this. I have been searching for an alternative to marriage for ages, one that recognises two people, not a conjoining. The ritual of marriage is actually frightening to me.
Abby Lowe no not really it just means well at least for me that we work as a team. :-)
Look up common law marriage. You don't ask the state permission to marry. There are a few UA-cam videos on it
I had seen this years ago and rewatching it, I shed a couple tears. I always thought it was beautiful but now that Im going to marry my partner next winter, it's even more beautiful to me. And Handfasting makes more sense than a Christian ceremony as I agree that two people are their own whole selves rather than two halves.
this actually sounds waaaaay more romantic than regular weddings
I didn't know anything about handfasting, but after seeing your video, i'm really interested to learn more about it. I am more a spiritual person than a religious one, so I feel it would fit me better than a "traditional normal" wedding.
Sounds like a beautiful ceremony! It's so thoughtful and personal. The thing you said about you two being two different people with different working minds but making the commitment to work together as a team really inspired me. Thanks for sharing :)
My husband and I are going to redo our handfasting and I am so excited! (The first time family issues caused too much negativity) Its good to hear about yours.
I've always been very opposed to the idea of ever getting married because I don't agree with the connotations of the traditionnal Christian wedding, but this ceremony seems so meaningful and just sincere and powerful, I really want to learn more about it :)
your hair color, white gown, and the nature aspects of everything all looks so lovely together
Lovely video and looked to be a lovely handfasting. My husband and I got handfasted as well and its super funny because some of his family members were trying to be shady and kinda hateful and told other family members who did not attend our handfasting that I tied him up during the ceremony. We were rolling with laughter at that
Handfastings are lovely, I would do this over a "normal" wedding. =)
Thanks for sharing! My husband and I also did a handfasting. I love seeing how other people did it! We also made our own cords and also had uber-religious family members to contend with, and everyone still thought it was beautiful. Since we're agnostic with interests in paganism and not actually practicing pagans, we used it in place of lighting a unity candle/pouring sand/whatever that usually goes in a secular wedding. I hope this encourages other people to consider incorporating a handfasting ceremony :)
You have NO idea how awesome and perfect it is that you posted this! My fiance and I want a hand fasting ceremony as well. So many awesome things I didn't know that you just informed me of. Thank you so so much! I have tons of ideas for my own ceremony now
we did a handfasting too! And I made our ropes and added trinkets to the ends that symbolized us. and we had members from our fellowship who preformed the wedding. we used lines from the poetic edda. we hailed Thor and frigga. we did a very viking /celtic wedding !
I do not know how I have missed this video for so long. I love you and your videos; you, as a person are awesome! Your handfasting was beautiful! My husband and I wanted a handfasting ceremony. Family members made our ceremony planning so stressful and negatively emotional because of their beliefs and religious affiliation that I couldn't go forward with it. We wound up doing a self marriage at the court house. Not a traditional justice of the peace type ceremony but, a self marriage. Then the individuals who were trying to sabotage our marriage ceremony due to differing beliefs didn't get to be present at all. We didn't want these immediate family members bringing their negativity on the first day of our sacred union. We did promise each other we would have our handfasting on our terms in our time. Our 10th anniversary is coming up. So. maybe this year.
Very beautiful! I love seeing how others preformed their handfasting. It makes me want to look back on my own. Thank you for sharing this!
I'm so excited to see this. My fiancée and I are doing a handfasting and norse ring exchange. It's 6 months away now and I am getting butterflies whenever I think about it. So happy to see that you've done handfasting as well :)
I've been engaged for a while now and we just don't really know how to go about a weeding. I just wanna run away and get married. Whats the point of spending all this money on a wedding for all these fucks we dont even talk to, lol. Plus people just coming to get wasted and ew. And he wants a traditional wedding but I reallly love this I'm not religious neither is he, and I really didn't want a christian priest, I just thought it was wrong. This is such a romantic different idea that is just for us, I'm so excited to share this with him and see what he thinks! Thank you so much for this, it has made my day! You have no idea we don't even talk about wedding stuff we both get stressed out about money and I don't like people and so much stupid family drama blah blah blah, THANK YOU SO MUCH!
+paperseatbelt I completely understand how you feel about that. My fiance and I are getting married this October, and we are NOT having a traditional wedding. I thought I really wanted one, but when it came down to pricing everything and realizing that we would probably have to postpone a honeymoon because of wedding costs, I put my foot down. If a wedding is something you and your fiance do not want, DO NOT GIVE IN TO PRESSURE TO HAVE ONE. Or, if your family wants one, tell them to pay for it. My fiance and I are having our friend who is a notary marry us on the spot he proposed to me, and then we are traveling for 2 weeks. We wouldn't have been able to put so much money aside for a 2 week trip had we gone through with the wedding plans. The ceremony is definitely a party for your friends and family, BUT if it's not want you want, there is no reason to go through with it. Please do what you feel comfortable doing, not what everyone else expects you to do, and if this hand fasting fits you, go for it! Best wishes to you and what YOU and your partner decide. :)
Im so glad you made this, I was literally thinking about it not long ago!
I am so happy to learn about this! I do not think I have ever heard of this! I really want to witness this type of wedding now. I am really happy for you guys.
So cool! Such an interesting and beautiful way to start your lives together.
i love this thank you for explaning the way that you did your handfasting. it sounds like something me and my other half would do at our handfasting wedding. and it gave me a very good imput on what a handfasting saramony is.
Congrats on your handfasting! Even if we didn't get to see your husband's face, totally understandable why not, I'm sure he looked as dapper as you looked lovely~
TJ and I got legally married on Oct 3, 2014 at the local courthouse, but I still had my heart set on a handfasting for when we were financially able to host a wedding for friends and family. I'm a solitary witch, and I didn't have a priest or priestess within even an hour of where we currently live. Therefore, all the preparations had to be made by me while a dear friend of ours was kind enough to perform the actual handfasting ceremony for us on July 25th of this year.
I'm not out of the broom closet to my family, but TJ's family and all of our friends are aware of my craft and spiritual beliefs. We chose to focus on the historical relevance of handfasting rather than the religious, and we even welcomed my mom, who is a steadfast Christian, to do her own reading. It actually perfectly fit with the nature-based reading I had chosen for our ceremony, without either of us having shared our selection with the other. I think her reading helped put both families more at ease even without a Christian ceremony or a pastor being present.
I had a white cord with the Tree of Life as a charm, and TJ had a black cord with a piece of sea glass. Our altar had an offering, an infused candle for each of the elements and a central pillar candle for the gods. We couldn't light the candles because it was so windy, but it was otherwise just how I pictured it for the year before. The whole ceremony was finished in eight minutes.
Just don't be like us and forget to kiss at the end!
I think handfasting is really cool and I definitely want to do it at my wedding. My parents had a handfasting and I find it beautifully symbolic
What a beautiful ceremony. 😍
Congrats Allison :) What a beautiful and romantic ceremony. It seems so much more meaningful and personal than the common "Christan" wedding.
Your ceremony was absolutely beautiful
Congratulations , your handfasting ceremony looks beautiful
It looked like a beautiful ceremony and you helped to explain it more for people to understand.
Awwww this reminded me of my hand fasting ceremony 3 years ago. Your ceremony looks very beautiful and congrats in your anniversary 😀
I love the whole idea of your hand fasting and hope to have one of my own when I meet the right guy. I’m glad you found s wonderful guy who shares you beliefs to share in life with 🦇💜
Her husband has to be a spy of some kind!
I am pagan and most of my family is christian. Since I relate so much with Irish traditions we decided to honor the tradition of using the handfasting as an engagement period. So we will have the handfasting with a very small group of people and no extended family just those closest to us we know will be ok with the ceremony. Then after a year and a day ( few days in our case if we get the dates we want) we are going to have the full less pagan wedding. Thats the one where the extended family will be invited and the one we will make the marriage legally binding. We wanted a two year engagement so this worked out perfectly for us. Details are still in the works as the handfasting isnt until the end of october this year.
Handfasting (though less elaborate than your ritual) is fairly common for the marriages in my social circle. Its nice to see it spoken through though. Congrats for when your anniversary comes.
I plan on doing this for my promise ceremony/handfasting ceremony with my sweet heart. :) Thanks for sharing!
Thank you very much for sharing such a personal experience. Can we see more wedding pics? Looks awesome and I love the type of ceremony that was performed.
I hope you both have a beautiful anniversary :]
Congratulations! I am wanting a handfasting for me and my husband. We were wed in 2007 and I want the handfasting ceremony also.
What a beautiful, unique wedding!
My mom is a "spiritual priestess" and she performed a celtic wedding last year. I'm not sure if it is exactly the same thing, but for what she told me, they did more or less the same things.
i love this!!!my fiance and i are non-denominational,open-minded Christians,and we each have had a long journey to where we are at in our lives right now.we are not perfect,and we are still working on getting to where we want to be,so this ceremony would be perfect for us.we are just gonna do the ceremony,and just get a marriage license later on because of personal reasons,and the ceremony will be really small for us,with just his parents and brother and sister-in-law,because I personally don't keep in contact with my blood family;his family is my family. :) i appreciate the idea about the cords,and the cupcakes.that way we can keep costs low,and still have a very meaningful ceremony for us.we will have Ecclesiastes 4 :9-12 read at our ceremony as well.
"9 Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. 10 If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. But someone who falls alone is in real trouble. 11 Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. But how can one be warm alone? 12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken."
omg yes i am so happy you did a video in this!! eep :3.
Excellent work :) thank you very much for sharing!
Wow tht was awesome!! I never knew about this!!
What a beautiful ceremony! Can I just say how obsessed I am with all of the lanterns you had!
I love the concept of handfasting, but any kind of wedding ceremony is just not my cup of tea. So I enjoy seeing others', but NOPE, not doing it!
I'll be preforming one of these soon.
I'm a Christian, but the idea and symbolism is so much more beautiful to me than a traditional wedding.
Now this is my kinda wedding!!!
thank you for making this video! i didn't know a lot about handfasting before. what a fascinating concept. i've always been against the idea of getting married myself, but this sounds like something i would like to do... someday.
I love your video x we are having a hand fasting ceremony next summer x
I'm gonna change All my wedding plans now... xD ok no, but this is a really lovely and different way to do the most important promise in the life... I love it!!! At the end, it doesn't matter how u do it, the thing is do it because love exist in a couple, and they really want to spend their lives together ❤️
Thank you for this video, it was really interesting! I have never heard of handfasting before, I will def. read more about it! :)
Thanks for sharing. my partner and I want to incorporate hand fasting into our ceremony
Amazing! Thank you so much!
i really love the ieda of stating your both are your own person but you will work together in lifes hardships i am very big on my independents and being my own person if i ever get married i would love to add this idea in to my wedding. . this is so beautiful i am happy for you
first thing i hear 'hello my fluffy lil bat butts' ...... i subscribed so fast man i cant even
Enchanting ceremony! X3
This is beautiful congratulations c:
Last year, I got baptized on September 6 at Lake Perris Sate Recreation Area with my Pentecostal church. Funny how your wedding is the same day as mine.
congratulations!
congratulations!
6. September? An meinem Geburtstag. :) Wie schön.
Inspiring!!! I think i wanna do this too!!!! :D
Inspiring.
hey, just want to say that i love your look but i was curious to see what you look like naturally like what your natural hair colour and eye colour is? :) and congrats on the wedding!
You two were married on my birthday, awhhh
Sounds more meaning then the traditional way
the dog in the background
I plan on having a hand fasting at my wedding. :)
I'm also a Virgo :D
do you have any video of your handfasting
When did you guys take the ribbon off? :)
This helps a lot I plan on having a pagan Wiccan sort of wedding in the future really new to being an pagan Wiccan ... seriously wondering how would my wedding go cause in pagan Wiccan my boyfriend of now 4 years is atheist and his family is Christian that doesn't know I'm a pagan Wiccan ... future us should be interesting....
congratulations :]
My boyfriend is agnostic but he said he'd be fine with doing a handfasting since I'm Wiccan if we ever get married. We'd have to be pretty subtle too since his family is catholic and my grandmother thinks I'm already a devil worshipper heheh.
My husband and I are thinking bout renewing our vows, would a handfasting be a good idea. I'm Wiccan my husband is not but he's not Christian
I thought it was handfisting and I was very confused...
Also, what does Brady do that he couldn't be shown???
Wiccapedia
Benjamin McCormick Southall Honestly, that should be an actual thing. Like Wikipedia but for information on Wicca. I wonder if someone could get away with that without getting sued, haahaha.
I didn't know you were married!!!
he's a cancer and I'm a Virgo too.
I really love this concept! I have a question. might sound dumb but, would race interfere with handfesting??
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+Amber Azarathian No, just as it is gay friendly, its racially friendly.
can other religons do hand fasting?
Yes, historically they were done because it could take months for an official from the church or state to come and bear witness so the community witnessed the wedding and a leader officiated, it represented the joining of two hearts in harmony as the hands are the most used part of the body.
ultragaze She actually answered that perfectly. Her question was a yes and no one, to which her answer was "yes", followed by some interesting facts she went out of her way to share with us.
You are funny...
how beautiful
can you do this kind of wedding without being wiccan? what are some good books or ways to learn more about wicca.
i use to have a wiccan boyfriend and have always been very intreeded by how beautiful it is and not like the stereotype.
btw
I love you!
+Ashley Corsetti Yes, you can. This was an old way of doing weddings. It frequently is done by Pagans, but you don't have to be one to do it.
+AwwesomeVal thank you!
+Ashley Corsetti I know this is old but handfasting actually began in Scotland.
There's plenty of books out there about Wicca but a lot of people have different interpretations and variations of things.
as for legalities, does the state recognize you as married? Or did you have to go to a court house as well?
+Aubrie YayaKou My guess is that they would of just signed the certificate legally like anyone does with any other wedding. The priest and priestess would of had to of been legally able to do the ceremony.
+Aubrie YayaKou The priest and priestess due to the religious freedom act are just as good as any preacher from a Christian church.
Thank you for explaining I was sure because i've only attended regular weddings. And I dont practice an actual religion myself, so a lot of us kinda confuses me. But thanks for clearing it up :)
+Aubrie YayaKou Yeah, you sign a legal document for marriage, but the wedding is separate.
+Aubrie YayaKou The state recognizes us as married. :) We went to the courthouse and did all the normal legal paperwork and then our priest and priested signed the contract as the wedding officiants. I believe you have to go to the courthouse no matter what when getting married in the US... which is done normally just a few days before the wedding takes place.
September 6 is my moms birthday lol
I am wiccan, but my boyfriend and my entire family are Christian, I feel as if even the way you did it would be to blatantly pagan for my boyfriend and my family. are there priests and priestesses that would do this less extravagantly?
Morgan Myers Yes, you can find ones that will help you combine all religions and make everyone comfortable, but you should remember that this is your wedding and you should do what you want. I'm Muslim and my SO is arabic and muslim, but I am actually Irish. I will be combining muslim, handfasting and Hari Krsna traditions into my wedding ceremony. It's my wedding not his family nor my family, if they don't want to come they don't have to. If they love us both and care about us then what I chose (or you) won't matter because they will want us to be happy. Best of luck.
is hand fasting still like a legit way of marriage tho? bc it seems really interesting and stuff, I just wanna know if its all still like legal and shit. well, not like its illegal to do the ceremony, but like ah fuck idk never mind D;
KrystenMotionless I thought like even with normal wedding you go to like the city hall before the actual planned wedding and they legally marry you there?
+KrystenMotionless It's just like any other wedding except the ceremony itself is different. They would of signed the marriage certificate and had witnesses at the ceremony etc like any other wedding. You can have whatever ceremony you like as long as the ones doing the ceremony like a priest or priestess are legally trained to do so and that you have the two being married plus witnesses to sign the certificate.
+LadyDaemontus ooooh okay that make much more sense. thank you!
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yea, you have the German features. I can see this especially when you don't wear makeup.
you can fully more so tell someone's features when they don't wear eyemakeup especially.
although isn't Wiccan tradionally irish?
can you have a handfasting even though you're not pagan?