getting diagnosed w. ADHD at 33 - my mental health video diary

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  • Опубліковано 14 лис 2024

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  • @thosetwinthings
    @thosetwinthings Рік тому +7

    I've been wearing different socks everyday for the past 10 years. So much easier washing them and putting them away, no stress to find a pair, I just dump them in my drawer. I'm not diagnosed with ADHD but a lot of my friends around me are and now I'm thinking about going through that journey more and more. Thank you for sharing!

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому +3

      I never match my socks too hahahahah

    • @lburgess2660
      @lburgess2660 Рік тому

      Sock hack: buy all of the same sock/color. I only buy black crew socks. They all match from afar, haha

  • @thuyrannosaurus
    @thuyrannosaurus 10 місяців тому

    Jaime!! First off. Congratulations!!🎉🎉🎉 Finding answers to a life long question is truly a moment to be celebrated! I am 35 and also have asian parents who i know would likely react the same if i told them the news of a diagnosis. Truly, i think I have made peace with the fact that their generation never got the "healing era" phase and never been exposed to the journey so i try not to hold it against them that they arent able to provide me with the comfort but i am grateful for my spouse who fills in those shoes and im happy stephano does that for you. Your family is so beautiful. I missed you. I use to binge watch you alll the time and then I left a lot of my awesome UA-camrs because the overconsumption was diminishing my own life and productivity. But man, life happens as it should and i found your videos again and more importantly, THIS VIDEO. You have no idea how many times i nodded my head throughout this entire video. THE SOCKS! BANE OF MY EXISTENCE,. I have a drawer filled of socks and a trash bag and absolutely wake up frustrated cause we dont have any. 😅 I am on the same journey and have tried different meds but have yet to find the peace you speak of..but I know it will come. I am so happy for you! Im also a toddler mom to 3 year old and i truly know im putting my mental health first not only for myself for once but for my toddler and husband. Our family. Because they also deserve a healed version of me too. And im so proud of you. Healing. Finding peace. Being the best version of yourself. I have been putting off going through the steps, knowing i need them but GIRL this video ... yes. I will take the steps. Also you looked amazing in your Instacart ad and Stephano does too! I love to come back to HellaJam after YEARS of hiatus to see this glow. So happy for you girl. Soooo happy ❤ im texting this on my phone at 530am and decided to just treat this comment like i am texting an old friend. ❤sending you sooo many positive vibes and love. 😊

  • @lisa4498
    @lisa4498 Рік тому +4

    Thank you for this! ❤ This is all too familiar for me. I was finally diagnosed at 52. It is going to get better, I promise!

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому

      Thank you love! I’m feeling so so so much better!

  • @mustbe_lori
    @mustbe_lori Рік тому

    This video hits so different, especially coming from such a genuine place. I am now at the point of just even realising that ADHD might be why my brain has never worked like for the rest. I have not been diagnosed, but as you say deep inside I know (after connecting the dots now at 31). Everything you say is resonating and makes me feel so much better, so thanks a million for your honesty and sharing your experience. You tha best girlfriend!

    • @mustbe_lori
      @mustbe_lori Рік тому

      Also, literally my parents and friends from childhood being the ones "opposed" to me having it and mocking me about it when I shared it with them..... I feel you. I personally told them that their reaction sucked and that it was very sad and that unlike my partner and my true friends in Amsterdam, they couldn't be happy for me (identifying it). Then they kind of -KIND OF- stopped trying to prove me wrong. It's a step.
      Much love ♥

  • @mxyx0404
    @mxyx0404 Рік тому +1

    yes THIS!! I have been struggling with my childhood doctor for over 5 years with my mental health, I have been to therapy for anxiety and then I'd come back with it not working, then I got diagnosed with depression and went to therapy and was given meds for that but none of it felt like it was right for me and now finally I tried a new doctor who said it sounds like female adult ADHD and I am on the waitlist for a psychiatrist and I just feel like it's a weight lifted off me that finally my struggle has a reason.

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому +1

      that's how I felt!!!!!!!!!!! sending you big hugs!

  • @julieratter4942
    @julieratter4942 Рік тому +2

    I need to see my doctor about this, I've been wondering for quite some time that I may have ADHD, thank you for sharing xx

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому

      So happy to be that gentle nudge for you to take care of yourself. I believe in you!

  • @Shawtynameisdestani
    @Shawtynameisdestani Рік тому +4

    I feel you 1000000% girl! I want to get myself diagnosed too because I feel so misunderstood when it comes to my relationship because he just doesn’t get it. & I struggle daily with my mental health in terms of depression, motherhood adhd etc and I want to understand myself better. Thank you for sharing ❤️ You always always inspire me. Are you a libra? I feel like you aren’t lol but we are similar in ways that makes me feel so

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому

      Sending you big hugs boo. If you can, push for yourself to get the care you need. You deserve it. Thanks for the sweet words love. 🥹
      And I’m a Pisces! Lil fishy sensy baby lol

  • @paoladiego3725
    @paoladiego3725 Рік тому +2

    I was also diagnosed exactly a year a go with ADHD at 30 years old and it was aye opening. I algo got diagnose with depression and Anxiety. and that one took some time but Im finally making peace with both diagnoses and it help me stop masking my symptoms. And that help with my depression a looooot. Medication really help me. Specially my ADHD medication.

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому +1

      Wow thanks for sharing. So so so happy you’re feeling better in your own skin rn. Mfn growth yeee

  • @holistichealingyoga
    @holistichealingyoga Рік тому +2

    Wow this was so affirming! I am not diagnosed with ADHD formally but I do know I have PMDD which is commonly co-morbid with ADHD so thank you for using your platform for such informative content! 🥰🥰

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому +2

      Omg similar experiences and feels. So happy you’re feeling seen through this video. It shows that as scary as it is to post this type of video, it’s worth it. Thank you 🙏

    • @n.p731
      @n.p731 Рік тому +1

      I had no idea pmdd is something that also occurs with adhd... I have pmdd and it ruins my life

    • @holistichealingyoga
      @holistichealingyoga Рік тому +1

      @@n.p731 Yes the comorbidity is huge!! I also just started meds for the PMDD and it has changed my life taking progesterone and folate have helped tremendously with mood swing and the anger honestly!

    • @nicoeeek.7181
      @nicoeeek.7181 Рік тому

      Really interesting, thank you! @@holistichealingyoga

  • @abbyswaringam3386
    @abbyswaringam3386 Рік тому

    Would love to keep hearing more. Im trying to get diagnosed as well and also questioning my other diagnoses and the relation of depression in it all.

  • @jellypopfm
    @jellypopfm Рік тому

    as someone who is also filipino that bit where you talked about telling your parents about your diagnosis.. i cried so so much. my parents are the exact same and knowing they wouldve reacted that way if i ever had to tell them, and my hubby is also my rock who has given me the love i needed growing up.
    i'm 32 and have been wanting to get officially diagnosed for adhd for so long. you give me hope and comfort putting this out there. one day when i can afford it i will. i also have kaiser and i already know its gonna be an obstacle to get one at all 😭 so thank you for being vulnerable 💖 happy youre on a good path with a clearer mind 🥹🫶🏻

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому

      Yo I almost edited that part out bc I felt it was too personal. Like I would put shame on the family for sharing… but this comment shows that this is my experience and other Filipinas may feel the same way. Thank you thank you thank you.
      Sending you so much love and strength!

  • @froggylegs79
    @froggylegs79 Рік тому

    I did not like this video… I love it. I teared up at the last 30 seconds seeing you feel so free. It reminds me of my struggles. I am so sure I have it too but never have seeked diagnosis. I feel it getting worse at 43yrs. old. I’m happy for you as a woman & mother that you can validate your frustrations and anxiety. Keep living yourself & your family & taking things moment by moment.

  • @nicoeeek.7181
    @nicoeeek.7181 Рік тому

    Such a brilliant video, super helpful, thank you!!

  • @kimt.3760
    @kimt.3760 Рік тому

    So happy for you, must be so relieving ! ❤

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому

      It really is! thanks for the kind words!

  • @sylviarippey6488
    @sylviarippey6488 Рік тому

    My 22 year old son suffers from depression. We've tried every anti depressants and none of them worked due to various reasons. We started TMS treatments yesterday. It's a 7 week program. It's like an MRI but for the brain. No medication and no side affects. Maybe look into it. It "resets" the brain. I'll see how it goes with him. 🙏 ❤

  • @tracyeast3397
    @tracyeast3397 Рік тому

    My adult daughter was recently diagnosed with ADHD @ 37. She then came to me and said "Mom, I think you have it too" so doing some research I check off most of the boxes. I haven't been to the Doctor yet, I am 66 lol

  • @simoling
    @simoling Рік тому

    ADHD is your super power. You're not a victim.

  • @freefraction
    @freefraction Рік тому

  • @judithkstephens8564
    @judithkstephens8564 Рік тому

    I’m 75 yo and I have self diagnosed myself as ADHD. It happens as you are aging.

  • @taya2420
    @taya2420 Рік тому

    I’m a psych nurse and I have had a patient turn full blown psychotic from mixing vyvanse, cannabis & mushrooms at home , They got super sick and had to be admitted inpatient with us for 6 months. Please be careful ❤

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому

      Thank you!!!!!! I’m not doing them together ❤️👌 I mentioned in the video that since starting vyvanse I haven’t needed to micro dose bc my head space is so much better :) appreciate your knowledge and sharing! Xx

  • @jnmrz72
    @jnmrz72 Рік тому

    I went thru the same experience at the same age. Anxiety check, depression check, ADD check. I used Aderol for 3 months when first diagnosed and it helped but never went back on it again. My nephew was on vivance from age 9 to 20 but it kind of made him a zombie.

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому

      Oh no… ya I’m taking my medication day by day. Reflection is so important. I tried a higher dose the other day and it made me irritable so the lowest dose for me is best.
      Thanks so much for sharing love

  • @csmtcqueen
    @csmtcqueen Рік тому +1

    And just like depression, ADHD shows up differently in Women of color as well. This is extremely helpful in sharing your vulnerability with others.

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому

      I didn’t know it shows differently in WOC! Thank you!!!!!! And thanks for your kind words love

    • @csmtcqueen
      @csmtcqueen Рік тому

      @@theHellaJam It does because many minority communities (I am African American female), many times we are assumed to be "emotionially strong" or mental health is seen as indulgent. Therefore, we try to press ahead as we are falling apart internally. So depression, ADHD, etc. presents differently with those dynamics. And healthcare personnel, are not educated on how to assess us when we are in the medical system. That could have been a factor in why you were undiagnosed for so long.

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому

      @@csmtcqueen mind blown. Yes yes yes

  • @MIKU-s2g9q
    @MIKU-s2g9q Рік тому

    🙌 so happy to hear you finally have a diagnosis and can move forward with better insight and understanding of your mental health 💜 and duuude socks!! I fucking cannnt with socks. I throw them all into one pile and I have my sock bag next to me. I put all the unmatched socks in the sock bag and that bitch is currently loaded 😂

    • @theHellaJam
      @theHellaJam  Рік тому

      Hahahahahhahaahhahaha A BASKET FULL OF SOCKS IS MY BRAND

  • @beachgirl9823
    @beachgirl9823 Рік тому

    That’s the diagnosis you wanted - 1 person says you have it (all others say you don’t) and now you’re doubting it 😂