Do you feel like the field of psychology has failed you? Start by reading this: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/get-out-your-mind/202006/why-the-mental-health-system-is-failing-us
Many years ago I was really struggling with dealing my dysfunctional family and my toxic parent. My therapist asked me to write a letter to my parents in which I listed all the things that went terribly wrong and she never mentioned narcissism and dysfunctional family dynamics.
Get well hope prayer you have speedily recovery . My daughter therapist I discovered underdeveloped and seeing that she needs intense therapy so shes connected with that finally.💜🙏🏾👏👏👏💐💜
Hope you are getting better Tamara🌈 Well I was fortunate to have that "Once in a lifetime" Therapist who was very helpful and I saw her for a few yrs. She was a retired heart surgeon, MD & she specialized in Trauma also. We did EMDR & she helped me uncover things. Very good listener, affirming as well as helped me problem solve very effectively and deeply understood mood disorders. Have cycled through several since her & they are seriously shallow or lacking in knowledge. The one I have now helps somewhat but she talks too much about herself. You are the only online Therapist I want to listen to and truly learn from and feel better afterwards as well. We need more Therpists like u and the doctor I once had.
Thanks so much Marie!! 🌸 And it's always a blessing to have a blessing in the form of a therapist. Sounds like you were supported well. I have heard the complaint of certain therapists talking about themselves too much. I think most inexperienced therapists think talking about themselves means "self-disclosure" in a way that can help the client/patient relate. However, if it is not used appropriately or with purpose -- as I'm sure you know, then it becomes a narcissistic behavior that can detract a great deal from your healing.
Excellent video topic, Ms. T. Looked for a competent therapist for many yrs & gave up, yet still want to revisit 1 day soon. From having 1 (w/a PhD, mind you) that would clean out her DESK during our sessions, be constantly frazzled, & barely speak to me bc I didn't have insurance (yet this was a sliding scale nonprofit) & I knew this bc she pushed the ACA on me at every visit even though I told her I'd applied, but the deductibles & premiums were too high....to another that would brag he went to Ivy League college with Michelle Obama, then actually EAT during our sessions, until the last straw when he was literally going out of town (suitcase in tow) when I showed up for our APPT.(?!) claiming an "emergency" (given his credibility, I didn't buy it). So, I've seen it all. Also Ms. T, I thought Kombucha is only for gut ailments? I take it for GERD. Its an acquired taste, they also have endless flavors so you might just have to find 1 you like. They taste like soda to me now so I love them, esp. certain flavors. And no need to apologize for the hoarse voice, sounds very sultry and good for singing. 😉 Get well soon!
It surely does sound like you have seen it all. We -- as a field --- have so much work to do. Some of that work is remedial --- in other words, fixing what hasn't been fixed yet! Yes, you are right about Kombucha! I figured it might clear things up because it's so strong. Wrong! LOL I'm on the mend though!! So thank you!!
You remind me so much of my daughter. Your break down of the many things that caused people to act and behave in the ways they do is so informative. Thank you!
I think sometimes we just get sick and it isn’t because someone gave it to us. Sometimes there are just cold molecules in the air and I think that with how rapidly CoVid spreads, I think that all of us are going to be exposed to it at some point or another (if that is what you had)! I pray that you feel better very soon! 🙏
Regarding labels and diagnosis, I feel relief at times that have been diagnosed with (C) PTSD because when im struggling its like oh okay I have this condition what do I need to do right now to feel better. And just that thought can make me feel better. Like oh these symptoms are because I have this condition and there are tools to help. Its not all in my head, or personality or temperament. At times it makes me sad and angry that I have PTSD as well but then when I watch videos like these I feel less alone and realize there are millions of people with it, lots still working and living their lives suffering without a diagnosis or help. I start thinking about what can I do to help in the future.
Failure can occur for many reasons: 1.) expect too much 2.) our situations are very complicated 3.) easy to become a therapist but that doesn't make someone good at it 4.) not realizing that the real therapist is yourself; the therapist is only a guide or support system 5.) wrong type of therapist 6.) self-sabotage 7.) too little, too late 8.) therapist can not fix us; can only teach us to cope in most circumstances 9.) therapist needs to be committed, well-educated and insightful 10.) Jordan peterson claims therapist needs to be more intelligent than you; don't know whether this is true, but I respect him and felt it is worth listing 11.) financial limitations 12.) life gets in the way (illness, pandemics, etc.) 13.) availability of therapists 14,) many therapists are mentally ill
Do you feel like the field of psychology has failed you? Start by reading this: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/get-out-your-mind/202006/why-the-mental-health-system-is-failing-us
Many years ago I was really struggling with dealing my dysfunctional family and my toxic parent. My therapist asked me to write a letter to my parents in which I listed all the things that went terribly wrong and she never mentioned narcissism and dysfunctional family dynamics.
Get well hope prayer you have speedily recovery . My daughter therapist I discovered underdeveloped and seeing that she needs intense therapy so shes connected with that finally.💜🙏🏾👏👏👏💐💜
Thank you!! Much better now for sure. :)
Hope you are getting better Tamara🌈 Well I was fortunate to have that "Once in a lifetime" Therapist who was very helpful and I saw her for a few yrs. She was a retired heart surgeon, MD & she specialized in Trauma also. We did EMDR & she helped me uncover things. Very good listener, affirming as well as helped me problem solve very effectively and deeply understood mood disorders.
Have cycled through several since her & they are seriously shallow or lacking in knowledge. The one I have now helps somewhat but she talks too much about herself. You are the only online Therapist I want to listen to and truly learn from and feel better afterwards as well. We need more Therpists like u and the doctor I once had.
Thanks so much Marie!! 🌸
And it's always a blessing to have a blessing in the form of a therapist. Sounds like you were supported well.
I have heard the complaint of certain therapists talking about themselves too much. I think most inexperienced therapists think talking about themselves means "self-disclosure" in a way that can help the client/patient relate. However, if it is not used appropriately or with purpose -- as I'm sure you know, then it becomes a narcissistic behavior that can detract a great deal from your healing.
Thank you for speaking to this! I work in mental health and don't completely understand why I have been failed.
Excellent video topic, Ms. T. Looked for a competent therapist for many yrs & gave up, yet still want to revisit 1 day soon. From having 1 (w/a PhD, mind you) that would clean out her DESK during our sessions, be constantly frazzled, & barely speak to me bc I didn't have insurance (yet this was a sliding scale nonprofit) & I knew this bc she pushed the ACA on me at every visit even though I told her I'd applied, but the deductibles & premiums were too high....to another that would brag he went to Ivy League college with Michelle Obama, then actually EAT during our sessions, until the last straw when he was literally going out of town (suitcase in tow) when I showed up for our APPT.(?!) claiming an "emergency" (given his credibility, I didn't buy it). So, I've seen it all.
Also Ms. T, I thought Kombucha is only for gut ailments? I take it for GERD. Its an acquired taste, they also have endless flavors so you might just have to find 1 you like. They taste like soda to me now so I love them, esp. certain flavors.
And no need to apologize for the hoarse voice, sounds very sultry and good for singing. 😉 Get well soon!
It surely does sound like you have seen it all. We -- as a field --- have so much work to do. Some of that work is remedial --- in other words, fixing what hasn't been fixed yet!
Yes, you are right about Kombucha! I figured it might clear things up because it's so strong. Wrong! LOL I'm on the mend though!! So thank you!!
You remind me so much of my daughter. Your break down of the many things that caused people to act and behave in the ways they do is so informative. Thank you!
💖thank you!! I'm sure she's awesome!
I think sometimes we just get sick and it isn’t because someone gave it to us. Sometimes there are just cold molecules in the air and I think that with how rapidly CoVid spreads, I think that all of us are going to be exposed to it at some point or another (if that is what you had)! I pray that you feel better very soon! 🙏
Yes, yes and yes...my answer to the thumb question.
Hello I am sorry you are not feeling well . Thank you for coming back to doing this video. I upset I missed this live my sister in law stop over today
I am sure you will make another live!! Love "seeing" you in the chat box!
Regarding labels and diagnosis, I feel relief at times that have been diagnosed with (C) PTSD because when im struggling its like oh okay I have this condition what do I need to do right now to feel better. And just that thought can make me feel better. Like oh these symptoms are because I have this condition and there are tools to help. Its not all in my head, or personality or temperament. At times it makes me sad and angry that I have PTSD as well but then when I watch videos like these I feel less alone and realize there are millions of people with it, lots still working and living their lives suffering without a diagnosis or help. I start thinking about what can I do to help in the future.
Failure can occur for many reasons: 1.) expect too much 2.) our situations are very complicated 3.) easy to become a therapist but that doesn't make someone good at it 4.) not realizing that the real therapist is yourself; the therapist is only a guide or support system 5.) wrong type of therapist 6.) self-sabotage 7.) too little, too late 8.) therapist can not fix us; can only teach us to cope in most circumstances 9.) therapist needs to be committed, well-educated and insightful 10.) Jordan peterson claims therapist needs to be more intelligent than you; don't know whether this is true, but I respect him and felt it is worth listing 11.) financial limitations 12.) life gets in the way (illness, pandemics, etc.) 13.) availability of therapists 14,) many therapists are mentally ill
I am watching your replay great live today. I hope you get well soon ❤️🩹
Thanks so much🤗🙏