The Golden Bachelor Divorce SHOCKING Revelation

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  • @JonathonAslay
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  • @robyntorres7117
    @robyntorres7117 8 місяців тому +20

    I'm a widow, x 12 years, husband died when I was 56 (he was 61). I've encountered several men, widowed after long term marriages - they want to date, entertain the advances of many women and have lots of sex but they don't seek to fall in love. In other words, they don't want a serious relationship, because they are still in love with their wives. Widowers have to first fall out of love with their deceased wives, and that can take years (or might never happen).

    • @marietgagliardi
      @marietgagliardi 8 місяців тому +2

      I think they just don't want to get married. If women had higher standards for sex, I think they would be more motivated

    • @YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und
      @YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und 8 місяців тому

      That's funny considering that a lot of men at that age can't get it up and all they think about is sex still? I guess that's why Viagra so accessible. I literally saw a bunch of Viagra out in a gas station ready to be picked for just $10. Will they make us go out of our way to go to the doctor's appointment, to get a consultation, to get health insurance to cover that $800 birth control, the get the appointment to have it, otherwise that's coming out of your pocket .

    • @JRinCA
      @JRinCA 8 місяців тому +1

      I don''t find that 100% accurate. They do need to get past the grief, but love expands and there is enough to hold love for both past and present partners.

  • @lindamedina8709
    @lindamedina8709 8 місяців тому +15

    I just turned 82 and I am in a fantastic relationship so it is possible

  • @PiscesinVa
    @PiscesinVa 8 місяців тому +12

    I just found your channel after starting to date after a divorce five years ago. Lovely content.

  • @anneu9158
    @anneu9158 8 місяців тому +26

    Anytime Gerry had a chance to talk about his first wife you could tell he was not over her. I think he was lonely and wanted companionship but not marriage. I did not think him and Theresa were a match anyway. She was desperate to find someone and he was aloof. Plus I think the show atmosphere is a whirlwind and people get all caught up in it. Theresa all starry eyed looking at him. They married so quickly, got a free wedding, ring, clothes etc. he got gigs on other shows. Living the high life for a old man. 15 mins of fame. What a bullshit show for the first Golden Bachelor.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому +3

      15 minutes Indeed

    • @Bb-k4gd
      @Bb-k4gd 8 місяців тому +8

      Why the need to talk so negatively about something that didn’t affect us personally. It’s just a show n it was entertaining. That’s what shows are for. Just saying.

    • @anneu9158
      @anneu9158 8 місяців тому +4

      @@Bb-k4gd this is my opinion and you can have yours. And I would rather have one than criticize someone for having a opinion.

    • @scoop5867
      @scoop5867 8 місяців тому

      Anytime someone has been married to the one and only love for that many years never gets over them after death,, they just learn to live without them and to deal with the loss

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 8 місяців тому +6

      ​@@Bb-k4gdI think people felt cheated that they spent so much time and emotional energy on a show that turned out to be all smoke and mirrors.
      Like: we should have known better.

  • @libbynovotny9979
    @libbynovotny9979 8 місяців тому +15

    so many men , espically older guys, plus 60,just want the sex with no real committment or relationship . These to me are horrible times for dating and dating sites are a total joke!! Done paid , as bad as the free ones!! A big racket!

    • @livelearnandgrow5422
      @livelearnandgrow5422 8 місяців тому +3

      Yes.its a mess

    • @YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und
      @YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und 8 місяців тому +2

      And if they do, they are looking for a nurse and a purse. At least that's a pattern I've seen across UA-cam.

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming 2 місяці тому

      @@YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und
      All valid points, Ladies.
      Online and offline.
      Dating is a numbers game.

  • @hazeleyeschickjen1816
    @hazeleyeschickjen1816 8 місяців тому +7

    I'd love a video talking about so many of us that are mid life and never married..I'm still hopeful that i will someday, but many of my peers have given up. Plus there's a stigma attached to us. Brings unique challenges when dating.

  • @conniesalamy8486
    @conniesalamy8486 8 місяців тому +14

    I tried to date online and met some scary and horrible people

    • @cyn5962
      @cyn5962 8 місяців тому +2

      In my experience, some men on dating apps are horrible and a few are decent but most of them are mediocre. Just an observation.

    • @Joy-mm3cz
      @Joy-mm3cz 8 місяців тому +2

      Definitely FaceTime at least once before meeting in person. Also, a simple background check is a requirement before I meet them in person.

  • @maryannarep
    @maryannarep 8 місяців тому +4

    I've been divorced since I was 36. I'm 64 now. I do no social media but UA-cam. I love the Bachelor shows but was totally disappointed when Gerry and Teresa announced their divorce. I always say I'm nobody's mommy, maid or finance manager. I'm blessed to be happy by myself and I travel all over the world singing with symphonies and have an agent at Carnegie Hall. I can sing there whenever I want!

  • @diamond_girl29
    @diamond_girl29 8 місяців тому +4

    Jonathon I agree! They need you on the show as an advisor!! It would be a very good addition to have a dating coach helping them through the process and air those talks. Hmmm I may just write them and suggest this. 😃

  • @RaysOfSunshine-uw2sc
    @RaysOfSunshine-uw2sc 7 місяців тому

    I agree with you they need to read the books that you highly recommend before they continue with the new episode.

  • @solopixiedust
    @solopixiedust 8 місяців тому +5

    LOVE your dating vows!! If more people did that, sooo many complications (& heartbreak) would be prevented!

  • @CatherineInColorado
    @CatherineInColorado 8 місяців тому +5

    I completely agree that grown-up conversations are invaluable in midlife in order to develop a relationship to go the distance. I love your passion and wisdom and am aiming to follow it. And yes, reading "8 Dates" and "What The Heck is Self Love Anyway" should be required reading for everyone before entering pursuing a relationship. 💛

  • @livelearnandgrow5422
    @livelearnandgrow5422 8 місяців тому +5

    Jonathan I filled out the questionnaire for the bachelorette it took me three hours. They asked a lot of questions, but none of the stuff that you talk about on your show was ever asked.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому +1

      Interesting... thank you for sharing.

  • @marylynngriffin2876
    @marylynngriffin2876 8 місяців тому +9

    I thought the women acted competitively. Also, at the end of the day money talks. While I don't believe Gerry married her for her money, money may have been an issue for the divorce.

  • @susancottenham
    @susancottenham 8 місяців тому +4

    🎉 I think you would be an excellent Coach for this Show, and it would be excellent if they have you part of that Journey from the moment they start interviewing thru the entire show!

  • @janicegraves2522
    @janicegraves2522 8 місяців тому +9

    Do not believe the break up was about the move. They are two grow adults married many years, met each others families. If most women met a man in another state and moved to their home, there is no way after three months the break up was because of the move.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому +1

      Maybe you're right

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 8 місяців тому +1

      I agree. I don't think they went looking for a place - I hope some magazine goes and fact checks that.

    • @chrischamberlain7628
      @chrischamberlain7628 8 місяців тому +7

      @@elipotter369 I don’t believe they ever went house hunting. How sad they feel they have to lie. They didn’t even go on a honeymoon and never lived together. What a scam, I’m not surprised by this. I hate how this show portrayed older women as desperate. Most really aren’t.

    • @VeledaG
      @VeledaG 8 місяців тому

      The reality is very simple: As long as stupid women have sex with men without getting a commitment from them first and as long as they treat their situationship-men like husbands - nothing is gonna change.
      Why would a man buy the whole cow if there are tons of cows available who give their milk away free of charge.

  • @BloodLaboratorySafety
    @BloodLaboratorySafety 8 місяців тому +7

    It’s a television show! Only for entertainment. “ Not Real “

  • @kathykrause7480
    @kathykrause7480 8 місяців тому +3

    Oh my, I’m pushing 70 and am very well versed in social media

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому

      Lots are not

    • @Joy-mm3cz
      @Joy-mm3cz 8 місяців тому +1

      You are definitely an anomaly for sure.
      I work and have over 110 clients I see in a week. About 70% ( age 60 and up) of them don’t even own a computer and know how to do much with their smart phone other than call.

  • @Healthnut1976
    @Healthnut1976 8 місяців тому +5

    I think they should have a bachelor for True midlifers either in their 40s or 50s!! They skipped over our age group!!

  • @marthalopez6662
    @marthalopez6662 8 місяців тому +6

    Thank you Jonathon, I agree ABC should hired a relationship coach to screen the contestants, nevertheless, there are couples who are not on reality tv who divorce before their wedding pictures are ready. I think the audience wants to see the couple succeed and when they don’t, the audience feels fooled. 🌺

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому +1

      Exactly

    • @Joy-mm3cz
      @Joy-mm3cz 8 місяців тому

      I agree. At least now with the Bachelor ABC provides the newly engaged couple with therapy.

  • @MHarmony528
    @MHarmony528 8 місяців тому +5

    Gerry Golden Bachelor is a former Restauranture worth over $1 million. It may not be about the money but incompatible lifestyles and neither willing to compromise. It was fun to watch the Respect everyone showed towards each other. Too bad it didn't work out.

    • @freerangeboogie7293
      @freerangeboogie7293 8 місяців тому

      Yeah :(

    • @Bb-k4gd
      @Bb-k4gd 8 місяців тому +3

      I agree, I enjoyed it and liked them both!

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому

      That's not what I heard...

    • @Bb-k4gd
      @Bb-k4gd 8 місяців тому +2

      @@JonathonAslay He's not a loser, otherwise ABC wouldn't have picked him.

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 8 місяців тому +2

      ​@Bb-k4gd they picked him because he had great visuals - tall craggy trim. Plus presumably he lied about his career - or just spun it into something that sounds way better than what he's really done for decades. Oh ,and that fake yogi bear style voice, tears and wordspin was a reality show dream.

  • @janicegraves2522
    @janicegraves2522 8 місяців тому +7

    The women in tears t 34:26 hat Gerry deleted (no rose 😢) they missed a bullet. The show blew Gerrys ego, he showed how immature he was. As Jonathon said, "Gerry wants to get laid."

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому +1

      I said that?

    • @janicegraves2522
      @janicegraves2522 8 місяців тому +1

      @JonathonAslay you did in your video recently after news came out.

  • @totallychillgirl8072
    @totallychillgirl8072 8 місяців тому +9

    I would never want to be on a show like that..I’m no pick-me! Losers!

    • @Laurenzroblox
      @Laurenzroblox 8 місяців тому +1

      That’s not very nice to say

    • @sherryj738
      @sherryj738 8 місяців тому +1

      It's just an entertainment show for ratings

    • @totallychillgirl8072
      @totallychillgirl8072 8 місяців тому +2

      @@Laurenzroblox really? So you think it’s “nice” to demean yourself so you can “win” a “marriage” from other women?! I only compete with myself.

    • @YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und
      @YmustTh3w0rldG0r0und 8 місяців тому

      I would do it for fun, but I guess the fun's over if I end up being one of the top three. Only to not picked then to have to end up being The bachelorette in the next season and this time I have to act like I'm taking seriously. Because this show is crazy.

  • @anikoignath8892
    @anikoignath8892 8 місяців тому +7

    Very well said. I knew from the beginning that it wasn't going to last, as it was all done in a fantasy kind of situation. The best way to assess a growing relationship is without all that noise, commotion, and extravaganza. 😊

  • @Lucky2bYou
    @Lucky2bYou 8 місяців тому +4

    Supposedly you pronounce this name as "Gear e". He said that in a clip i saw, didnt watch any of the shows but i liked the idea of seeing older people finding love. It got obvious at the end that money seemed involved. But that's the shadow side of reality tv. Personally, i only look to date in my community and through irl connections. But im active & have lots of friends etc.

  • @RaysOfSunshine-uw2sc
    @RaysOfSunshine-uw2sc 7 місяців тому

    My son Christopher 53;has passed away on April 21st 2024 in West Palm Beach in Florida due to Bone Cancer. I am depressed due to my loss.
    Question: What do you recommend to ease the pain?

  • @1991windsor
    @1991windsor 8 місяців тому +1

    I know a lot of people don't always agree with this, but there is a lot to be said about taking things slowly and really getting to know each other in the beginning and developing a strong friendship. How can you really get to know a person by going on a show with multiple other women seeking the attention from one man. They didn't even really get to know each other, and I think ABC pushed them into that wedding.
    Also, are you meaning to say Kathy and Teresa instead of Nancy? Kathy is the one that looked like Caitlyn Jenner.😅

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому

      Nancy...

    • @1991windsor
      @1991windsor 8 місяців тому

      @@JonathonAslay i remember Nancy. We liked her!

  • @missydee9109
    @missydee9109 8 місяців тому +3

    Who and why does anyone believe these shows?? These are the important questions.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому +1

      Entertainment

    • @missydee9109
      @missydee9109 8 місяців тому

      @@JonathonAslay I wish I enjoyed it. I can’t stomach it because I know it’s phony. I need to get the stick out of my butt but can’t seem to do it. 🤣

  • @RoseMoke
    @RoseMoke 8 місяців тому

    I walked of from my beautiful love ..due to many twisted and turned.. patients has frasttated the action.. because this twisted and turned was two years now ..tied times catches up .

  • @elipotter369
    @elipotter369 8 місяців тому +8

    I think men in their 60s or 70s are capable of figuring out how to contact those women.
    When i was online at age 57, the 73 year olds were after me - that is the reason these women in 60s and 70s have no offers - most of these men target women 15 years plus younger.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому +1

      On Instagram?

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому +1

      On Instagram?

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 8 місяців тому

      @JonathonAslay on a dating website. Honestly though, if I wanted to connect with someone, its not that hard to find them online, including on instagram. I don't believe that all men from 60 up are that inept to not work it out even of they have to ask Google.

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 8 місяців тому +1

      @JonathonAslay the guys trying to connect with me when I was 57 would now be 82, and I assume they're not on dating sites anymore either.

    • @chrischamberlain7628
      @chrischamberlain7628 8 місяців тому +1

      So many men lie about their age on dating sites; I’ve had to deal with this. They end up saying they had to lie so they could look in the age group they wanted which is much younger. Many of the men look TERRIBLE. Very few have much going for them. Most are looking for a nurse with a purse & someone to try out their viagra with.

  • @katemitchell665
    @katemitchell665 8 місяців тому +1

    They would have gotten paid to do the wedding. I’d want a post nupt to ensure I got my share of the cash from the wedding, any appearances on shows like GMA (should there be any payment) etc. No reason Gerry should get it all.

  • @elipotter369
    @elipotter369 8 місяців тому +1

    I thought it would last between one to two years because that is enough time for Theresa to find out that the controlling abusive behaviour the secret ex revealed is part of his character, not an annoyed ex.
    Now you mentioned they didn't want to go through with it a few days before, I expect you're right that it was a sham marriage and the whole split up was also orchestrated.
    That explains their break up behaviour too, which is so similar to their declarations of love earlier.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому

      Maybe...

    • @freerangeboogie7293
      @freerangeboogie7293 8 місяців тому +1

      And yet we watch 😂

    • @Bb-k4gd
      @Bb-k4gd 8 місяців тому +1

      That woman can be lying… it speaks volumes about her, to try to bash an ex that became famous n is trying to find love, it’s very low imho. .

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 8 місяців тому

      @Bb-k4gd of course, however, i think the guy in this instance shows wide proof of untruths. Plus the specifics of what she says don't sound made up.

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 8 місяців тому

      @freerangeboogie7293 I hope next time around, we all find something more useful to do with out time. (I only watched summaries on UA-cam - I really can't stand the detailed drama of a whole show).

  • @tonih4887
    @tonih4887 8 місяців тому +2

    If ABC knew about the break up and went through with the wedding they need to come clean and end the show. Just like that fake quiz show in the 50’s the shenanigans need to end. Authenticity is everything.

  • @observer2652
    @observer2652 8 місяців тому

    Also many times I have clicked on the link to what would love to podcast and I never actually find the episode that talks about what would love do..

  • @sarahcook6944
    @sarahcook6944 6 місяців тому

    Yes widows.... I will be a widow 13 years this month....
    Mary 36 years with him for 40...
    I met him when I was 14 a freshman in high school dated all the way through high school married him when I was 17 he was 19.... Wasn't the greatest of marriage but I stuck it out for many years.... He was controlling and had temper....
    To adult children now 3 grandchildren....
    It's been a long journey.....
    Now I find myself don't know how to date what to say or not to say to a man.....
    I am ready for a new chapter in my life with the right one.....
    I live in a very small town and there's nothing to pick from I've been on dating sites and it is horrific....
    Everyone seems so far away no one really local that's decent...

  • @Bb-k4gd
    @Bb-k4gd 8 місяців тому +4

    Both were willing to relocate, it prolly was a personality miss match. like it happened with you and Marie. I’m glad they tried. Life would be so boring without risk takers 😁😉

  • @observer2652
    @observer2652 8 місяців тому +1

    I don't see the link to the dating vows can you please post that

  • @lisaboston2465
    @lisaboston2465 8 місяців тому +1

    What’s wrong with going out for coffee? Especially if the coffee contains a little Bailey’s or Kahlua. 😂

  • @RaysOfSunshine-uw2sc
    @RaysOfSunshine-uw2sc 7 місяців тому

    I knew it from the beginning that Gerry was going to get a divorce. They were not a match. Says who. Sunshine Lombardi.

  • @freerangeboogie7293
    @freerangeboogie7293 8 місяців тому +3

    Johnathon, your show is so entertaining. Yes, I thought all the women on Golden were awesome! I still think Gerry/Gary/Jerry was perfect for the ABC series. FantasyLand. We don’t know he is a bad guy. That’s not what you said BTW

  • @n.v.1173
    @n.v.1173 8 місяців тому +1

    Yes this was all BS! It’s truly unfortunate. It is much deeper than not agreeing on where to relocate.
    Shame on you ABC for making mockery of the commitment of marriage. 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄

  • @Teewriter
    @Teewriter 8 місяців тому

    Garry is Gary. Jerry is Jerry. Garry Moore , Garry Marshall

  • @Laurenzroblox
    @Laurenzroblox 8 місяців тому +1

    I never watched 1 episode of that daydreaming show
    I just happen to be a Gigantic hopeful romantic also😊

  • @rkeppel4243
    @rkeppel4243 7 місяців тому

    Theresa had a lot to lose financially by marrying Gerry. Her husband had a much better consistent income than Gerry. Social Security is based on an average of the last few years of earning, and as a widowed spouse Theresa was eligible for 100% of her former spouse's benefits. After marriage to Gerry, Theresa would have two choices: her SS or half of Gerry's. With Gerry's erratic employment, variety of jobs, and the fact that his burger joint was sold when his daughters were very young. Toni was most likely the major wage earner. Once Theresa learned the truth of Gerry's financial/job history and his actual dating history after the passing of his wife, I feel her walls came up to protect herself. She would currently be able to earn as much as she can and still receive all of her husband's SS check. That is not a bad deal!

  • @ginam.4990
    @ginam.4990 8 місяців тому

    I wished you would have asked Jeanne why her relationships broke off.

  • @smffboe7733
    @smffboe7733 8 місяців тому +1

    Gerry explained that it’s pronounced “Gurry”.

  • @RoseMoke
    @RoseMoke 8 місяців тому

    Definately ..when you walk by faith..

  • @patriciagrell9865
    @patriciagrell9865 8 місяців тому

    He can go and his is!

  • @michellesavas9716
    @michellesavas9716 8 місяців тому

    ABC does owe us an apology. We watched and hoped they were real! But it was a shame! Shame on all involved!

  • @rachelrisoldi1164
    @rachelrisoldi1164 8 місяців тому

    Yeah Leslie

  • @rachelrisoldi1164
    @rachelrisoldi1164 8 місяців тому

    I loved Faith too

  • @ginam.4990
    @ginam.4990 8 місяців тому

    They were two Leos, nuff said.😉

  • @PiscesinVa
    @PiscesinVa 8 місяців тому

    Agree with the love language becoming so cheap...

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому

      Maybe

    • @elipotter369
      @elipotter369 8 місяців тому

      Yes their words sounded like those scripted blurbs scammers use.

  • @RoseMoke
    @RoseMoke 8 місяців тому

    It's happening now

  • @maggiecamps6790
    @maggiecamps6790 8 місяців тому

    Hi Jonathan, my opinion is ABC didn't need to put in the questionnaire the willingness to move question. That should have been a front and forward conversation between all the ladies and Gary. When you are out in the dating world, the first conversations should be about the deal breakers. This will avoid losing your time and the other persons. These are 2 people in their 70's how was that not a discussion it's beyond me. Too much smooching and no real talk 🤦‍♀️. Honestly, I don't believe it was because of the living arrangements, and most likely, we will never know. We are old enough and lived enough to not see the red flags. I was watching and was seeing the ladies all in love in 2 days and fighting for someone they didn't even know. I wish you a wonderful life and all the blessings life can gift you . Maybe in our next life you and I will meet but for sure we will be talking about our deal breakers on our first date 😂🌟✨️🥂💫💖

  • @catcat9582
    @catcat9582 8 місяців тому +7

    He was a golden gold digger.

  • @ginam.4990
    @ginam.4990 8 місяців тому

    No Joan, Leslie would be my choice.

  • @annamaegrout8159
    @annamaegrout8159 8 місяців тому +1

    This is the stupidst thing ever and a not so nice feeling for hopeful seniors. Just very disappointing show. All fake it was just a show.

  • @heathertjaden756
    @heathertjaden756 7 місяців тому

    You could tell the chemistry was off between these 2, it was obvious to anyone watching

  • @brintest
    @brintest 8 місяців тому

    Um, mid-life? It's the "Golden Bachelor" because they're in their golden years -- and somewhat older than the Golden Girls. Unless a new medication extends lifespans to 140 years, this isn't midlife. This won't hurt the Bachelor franchise. The older players were golden for what's otherwise mostly a worn-out series.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому

      I view as early, mid and late...

  • @stacieivey7104
    @stacieivey7104 8 місяців тому

    He should have picked Leslie 😮

  • @rachelrisoldi1164
    @rachelrisoldi1164 8 місяців тому

    He should have been with the other one

  • @elipotter369
    @elipotter369 8 місяців тому +2

    IMO nothing you said about your past is a reason to not put you in the show, but your current "plant based therapies" could be a deal breaker? Though I don’t know if all these plants are legal over there, it isn't a good look.

  • @lf1666
    @lf1666 8 місяців тому +2

    Gerry lied!! You can’t over lying about everything in your life!!!! Which he did but was doomed

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  8 місяців тому

      Yes

    • @Bb-k4gd
      @Bb-k4gd 8 місяців тому

      @@JonathonAslayMaybe you’re a lil jelly … 🥰