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To all the young people in the comments - as someone who is a bit of an old timer, the key piece of advice I can give you is to try to harness a life that isn't entirely based around another person. It's a beautiful thing to truly love someone and experience them in your life to the fullest, but in many cases the comments I've read here seem as though there was (and still is) nothing going on in your life apart from your ex.
I'm happily married for many years now and the key difference from my previous relationships when I was younger is that both myself and my spouse have our own lives, goals, ambitions, hobbies and friendships. We always come back into orbit after all this and feel solid enough in our relationship to do this.
Hollywood sold you a lie. Romance isn't about being obsessed with that special someone and spending 100% of your time with them. It's about being with a loving co-pilot in your life with whom you share all the same values, goals and aspirations. Best of luck.
Great comment!
Everything you wrote is pure truth. No word more or less. Its exactly what I figured out over the years. Sometimes we get stuck in what we think is love but its only a fantasy of our own mind, only to think a few years later "But...she wasnt even special. How could I throw so much away for someone who cared so little?" Its ridiculous in a way. Somehow everything thats leftover is a deep sense of shame for being so naive.
Find hobbies and true friends, find a profession that you can tolerate and earn enough to not be miserable. Focus on your own dignity. Soon you'll understand you've got so much value, and that that pretty girl will have her beauty washed away in a few years and shell be more lonely and miserable than you. Pride is timeless.
Appreciate the wise and kind words
best advice here honestly but remember kings we dont like in the age of relationships we live in the second dark age best strong, be resilient and above all else be ready to love yourself because no one else will ever love you and tomorrow it will get hard.
I wish I had this advice 4 years ago. It was the biggest mistake I made and it all fell apart, and I was rendered helpless after. It's the lesson I learnt the hard way.
I always tell everyone to not make someone your happiness but let them add to it. I hope people see this more and more and before they've doomed themselves.
It's been almost 11 months since she broke up with me. On our last evening together, she told me that she wants to meet other people and enjoy her youth. When I asked her how she could move on so quickly, she said that she had wanted to end things with me for a year but couldn't handle the pain, so she stayed with me until she felt better. I've had many physical injuries in my life-cuts, bruises, fractures, burns, concussions, strains, and more-but nothing has hurt me as much as that evening. For months, I had extremely high blood pressure and almost had a heart attack because of it.
She's living the best life one could wish for. She has found many new friends, travels the world, sleeps with as many men as she wants, and has nothing but joy in her life. I am genuinely happy for her, and it brings me joy that she can enjoy her life. However, I can't forget her. I feel nothing anymore. There's absolutely nothing I want to do, only things I have to do. Nothing brings me joy. Yes, there are moments when I'm in a better mood, but it wouldn't make a difference whether I spend time with friends, with family, go to university, sleep, work, exercise, read, or simply sit alone in my room doing nothing. Everything has become indifferent to me.And the worst part is, she will never know the pain she has caused me. And even if she did, it would be entirely indifferent to her.😂
I've tried to look forward, to laugh, to find new hobbies, and so on. I am healthier, physically stronger, wiser, and smarter than ever before. And yet, I feel worse than ever. Still, I sit here, writing this, and I don't know what to do. I am 23 years old. My whole life should be ahead of me, but I have no desire to live anymore. I thank God for everything He has given me, and I thank my body for doing everything to move my life forward, but my spirit is shattered. It's been 11 months since it happened, and I've set a deadline for myself of 18 months. If I haven't overcome this by then, I'll just end it. I really can't take it anymore. Every morning when I wake up, she's the first thought. In everything I do, I think of her. Everywhere I look, I see her. And every night when I want to go to sleep, I'm afraid that I'll lie there until 3 a.m., just bathing in my pain.
I hope all of you out there are doing better, and I pray that no one ever reaches the point where I am. Please take care of yourselves and your hearts, and try not to hurt anyone. And if you don't see a future with someone, just leave. Don't manipulate until the extreme. Talk to each other about problems. Don't accept disrespectful behavior, and always think about the consequences of your actions. I hope things get better for you. Don't listen to sad music for too long, and try to live a healthy life. I doubt it, but if you've read this far, thank you for listening to me. You are a good person; don't forget that. The fact that you're interested in this shows that you want to feel better. It will take a few months, and yes, it sounds horrible, but unfortunately, that's how it is. Try to improve yourself and don't live the pain through others; try to be better. Always be the person you unfortunately never got to have and help those who need it. Heroes and villains always have the same background, marked by pain. While one wanted to inflict the same on others, the other chose to spare others that suffering because they know exactly what it's like to be alone in that darkness. Always try to be a hero for other people, even if it means you continue to fight alone. Be the light you missed, and save those who need it. Fight your way out of the shadows back into the light so that you can also show others the way. Take care of yourself, my friend, stay healthy, and thank you for listening 😁💔💙
Hey bother, im very sorry for whats happened. I had similar situation with my ex gf i was dating in high school. My first love and i just couldnt stop thinking about her. I started to have feelings for her in second year. On the first year she was invisible for me and its just so weird that my feelings grew just in the second year. We were dating for a year, and for the whole year had problems all the time. There was a boy in our class that she dated before me. She was always telling me that she is over him and there is nothing beetwen them. I believed her. And after a year i found out that she was dating me and him this whole time and that she didnt really loved me, it was always him. I was heartbroken. I had to go to the same classes with her and sit near her. It was the worst time of my life. After a year when i started university i still couldnt stop thinking about her. I thought that its gonna last for my entire life. But after one year again i was drunk and actually texted her that if we can meet. So stupid. But this meeting gave me so much. I looked at her, said these all things, but when she said that she is dating someone (we know excactly who) i couldnt said that i loved her still. I just couldnt do it to her. To break her world. But she broke mine and i just coudlnt do the same thing she has done to me.
Now im finishing my masters, moved out to different city, and im dating this beautiful girl for almost a year. She loves me and she is the best. Thats what helped me. That the person actually love spending time with you. To share the same feelings. You need to meet this person. And there is this person for you in this world im sure. Time heals all the wounds. Im sorry brother but maybe you need to be patient a little bit more and it will paid off. I will pray for you.
Hello dear friend, i read your message I can relate to you and your ex as I have been in both positions before. 23 years is still very young, and this experience is one of many which will help you make the right decisions in life. Please dont think all you do is in vain. It is not. You will eventually meet that special person for you, if you keep living. If you can not live for your own sake, try living for your future SO's sake,or your future family's sake. How can I be sure there is one for you? Well, how can you be sure there is not? Thats the tricky thing with future and past. We love living in what is known to us, in memories. The future is unknown, however given how bad u feel rn, it will get better. You can only connect the dots looking backwards, so keep on living.
Bro you sound like a beta. Get out of your self pity and move on. The fact that you're simping over a bitch who you've stated clearly doesn't care shows your weak resolve. She's a dime a dozen. Find one that actually matters.
i love you stranger on the internet its going to be ok man, crying for you, been there. your loved man
You got this man
“One day you’ll meet someone who starts a fire in you that cannot die, the sad part is it is not always who you will spend your life with”
damn..
Man..
wow, ty for it
thank you, w profile picture also
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SOMETIMES THE ONLY REASON WHY YOU WON'T LET GO OF WHAT IS MAKING YOU SAD IS BECAUSE IT WAS THE ONLY THING THAT MADE YOU HAPPY.
Makes so much sense for Me. It’s been three years and I still feel the same. It’s tearing me apart everytime I’m alone
thank you
I miss my ex so much bro, I miss her so much...
This is the 2nd comment from the top, and I'm only going this far. My heart stopped and mind boggled cause how hard this hit
You'll get there brother, we all will. It's been 5... the pain is significantly less than it was at 3.@@christopherrobin4949
She gave herself to everyone. I thought the connection was real, but it was just the idea that I fell in love with.
real
ik man
´´I realise now how much she's just like the others, cold and distant.´´
She did us a favor. She set us free. We have something better waiting for us. The fact she broke our hearts and abandoned us is proof something better is there for us. What goes up,must come back down just as we find ourselves alone and suffering but our solace and suffering is the best thing ever to happen to us because we stopped looking outside ourselves for answers and in our silence turned around and began to look within and we found everything as we sat in nothing. The creator lives inside me and why would I need her to carry on my name outside this body when I have her inside to carry on forever. She is wisdom,she is love,she is patience,she is understanding,she is discretion,she is self control,she is humility,she is hope,she is faith,she is love.
@@JeremyCole-tq3jd been there done that, "there is no success without pain"
The woman of my dreams, my best friend, had a miscarriage. We lost our daughter. We drifted apart. She married someone else within a year. Meanwhile, I am left to wonder what life would have been like with our daughter. I've had a terrible time moving forward. Feels bad.
Man I wish you all the best, you'll find the light at the end of tunnel
I don’t want to be that guy, but how do you know the kid wasn’t yours to begin with?
I wish I could hug you brother
It's because you think things would have went smooth with a child between you two, but it could have been way worse, you could have been divorced now, and your daughter taken from you. Look at the bright side mate, you're a free man, it seems like you have a good heart, find a woman that appreciates you
head up, king.
These comments made me cry. And im a fully grown ass man. I wish you all the best recovery and love...
❤
Bro hug to you ... and, yeah, sort of need a miracle right now. I don't think she'll make it another year.
Also, if you notice, most of the comments here are from guys and the replies as well. And the replies are so wholesome... Is this "the toxic masculinity"? Based on comments, women toxicity is what got us all here...
THANKS YOU BABY
yeah same here brother same here....
It's been 3 years and I have forgotten her voice and face. But the heartache is still there.
It is less at 5 than it is at 3. Hold fast brother.
Pushing 4 years. I forgot what its like to truely smile and be happy.
That look in her eyes when she left.. i wonder if the things that remind me of her, remind her of me?...
You don’t get over it. You man up and move on. Show the world what your made of and why they should have chose you. You can’t quit and never feel sorry for yourself. Love you buddy ❤
The harder I try and forget it ever happened…the more everything around me reminds me of her…been about 3 aswell 🙁
Never been in a relationship. What's worse is I was asked out a lot in highschool too; I let my social anxiety eat me alive. I feel as though my chances are gone. I was just the shy hooded kid that never spoke to people. Fucked everything up for myself man. Atleast you got a relationship. All I think about is hurting myself for not changing, or hurting others for making fun of me.
Edit: I am here for all of you that have trauma and problems to atleast be an ear for. Whatever exists above us, it put us here with seldom sorrow and pain for some reason we either understand or don't. But through it all, I believe we can find some sort of happiness, just in your own way.
I'm here at 3:30am. Suffering from depression and hearing this songs and reading your stories.
If you need to talk, I'm here. For everyone.
my best friend(girl),I met her in Snapchat,she added me and she was friends with some of my friends m,we called for 2 days in a row,talked about our life’s and eventually we got closer and closer and we met irl after school,she was so humble and chill and fine,she seemed as the perfect girl but in the end she blocked me for no reason and told me I’m weird,and I did nothing to her,I never told her my feelings but her friends stoped talking to me,i never told her my feelings,I’m so heartbroken and she has changed a lot and changed her personality.
@@ItzSith That seems pretty unfair. But keep your head Up, better Times are coming!
@@MatzeMitAIi cant bro,she was the perfect one,I never told her my feelings and she will never know that,I was so close w her and was to soft to take this.
@@ItzSith But she showed you, that she wasn't the perfect one for you. People change out of nowhere.
@@MatzeMitAI fr man,Im jst trying to focus on working out but I get distracted and eventually I think of the girl🫳
to all the real ones down here. trust me, one day it becomes just a memory like a half faded dream you maybe thought you had. stay strong it'll be alright.
Agree. I still remember how kuch it hurt after we broke up. The best thing I did was cry. A lot. I know many still shun men for crying, but I cried nearly every day because I missed her so much. I just about drove myself insane but then one day my brain just decided that it won't think about her as much anymore. Day by day it hurt less and slowly I finally moved on, without even realizing it.
it won't
that's still depressing to think about. I broke up with my ex 7 or 8 years ago, and still have dreams about her, about the happiness and joy she brought me. Sometimes they feel so real, it feels like I am in paradise, in which we are still the kids we used to be, still pure, untouched by life, but once I wake up the pain I have to go through feels like something I wouldn't wish to my worst enemy.
@@JusticeForTheWin That's rough mate. I still dream about my ex from 10 years ago too. I'm completely happy now and don't miss her like I use to. I mean I miss the times we were together, but not her in general. It just wasn't meant to be. Hope you the best in life.
exactly! Maybe I miss the times when she was around more, than her in general. But whenever I see or hear about her from my friends, I always connect her with those times, those early years of my childhood, remembering blurry memories that bring me both comfort and sadness. I am certain if she came back all of a sudden it wouldn't be the same as before. which would mean there is basically no other solution existing, but just to be thankful that these events occurred, rather than to be sad that they concluded the way they did.@@TyTimeIsAwesome
I find it awesome and super cool how everyone here is expressing their feelings without the fear of being judged and people are open to offer comfort for others and share emotions even though we are all complete strangers
That's what makes it easier. You won't meet anyone here, and you won't continue to converse with anyone from here. So what is there to fear? This has essentially become a mutually agreed upon emotion/trauma dumping ground, and that's okay.
I confess with my heart and my mouth, Jesus Christ is the Lord, The Savior and the Condemner. No one goes to the father except through Him. Amen
That'd what the internet was created for. To share ideas truth and understanding without barriers to hide it behind lies. Now people are desperate for the lies more often than the truth. We are all going to be better someday don't wait for it to come, go get it
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@@jm52995 lmaoooooo
My dog of 13 years passed away. I miss you so much Lola rest in peace
Rest in Paradise Lola🥲
My rabbit and cat both passed away in the same day
Julios and Frank rip
Im so sorry. Rest in peace ❤
@SulfuricCauteryim so sorry. Rest in peace ❤
@@Lifer-b4cfrank is such a lovely name ❤
She said she knew a spot...then proceeded to take me to the lowest point of my life.
What happened next?
Ask god to rise you up again! Nothing is impossible for the father!!
Only one way to go now and that’s up
bro 💀
You're so lucky but you just can't see it yet. You're free and have the opportunity to rise up in any way that you want.
Gym therapy, helped me a lot. We had a fight, I packed up her things from my apartment, drove her to her house. We reconciled pretty quickly outside her door, we kissed, we hugged for 5 minutes or at least it felt like 5 minutes. We kissed again, and she told me, "I'll talk to you tomorrow", and she told me that she'd miss me our first night separated. We held hands, I finally let go, told her to have a good night and drove back to my apartment. I found out, that only 1 hour after I dropped her off. She was getting clapped by* her ex. I walked around that night aimlessly, smoking trying to numb the pain
I'm speechless. But your story gives me inspiration as I've lost hope on women, sincerely. Though your strength shall inspire me to be as strong as you are, let us both carry on king
@@projectroxas3307 don't you worry, there are plenty of brilliant women out there and I'm sure you'll find the right one when the time is right. Keep pushing through, love you man.
How did you find out 🤔
@@kendrickfootballchelsea799 I found out through the ex, confirmed later on by her. Long story short* is, she cheated on him, then cheated on me. And he thought I had a right to know.
You are okay bro, as tough as it seems now, she is not worthy to be with you. Stay strong, commit yourself to a better future for yourself. Raise your bar and set high standards, it cannot be that somewhone who is capable of this,s hould be able to step into your sight ever again. That does not mean you should be cold hearted, but you know what I mean.
The devil doesn't approach you with a red tail and
horns, he approaches you disguised as
everything you ever wanted...💔
then?
He doesn't approach many people then . Such a shame
Can I sell my soul twice
When the whole world is offered to you, you will realize that it's all just a bean in your head and you will rice...
@@DamianHallbauer Ask the Lord for forgiveness and you will receive it.
@@YeshuaOnTopFr thx but I meant it as a joke on myself,based on never getting what I want ! a song by The Smiths, please please please.. take it as be happy with the blessings you have got and what you think you want is usually something you'd be better off without, keep you head and hopes up, and let the past flow away and such, but easier said than to do.
I just came here to hear some relaxing walking around at night music. Hope all you lonely hearts find that special someone who loves you back.
It's sad that people online know us better than are parents 😢❤
that comment hits right there
Oh God, my Parents Really Don't know me at all... Never have and never will....
Bad mentality. We are their kids but we can't expect them to know how we're feeling day in and day out 24/7, they have no idea unless we tell them about these issues eating us up. It's easier said than done but if you believe them to be understanding enough, go for it.
isnt it trust giving to see u can have strangers as ppl u wanna know or help them with nice words
I'll talk to a friend or therapist about these things before I ever bring it up to my parents
I love my daughter. She’s the light at the end of my dark road, she gives me the strength to go through everyday. She’s there to greet me at the end. I’m so grateful to have her. ❤
Yap Yap Yap
The sheer joy in seeing their face light up or when they do something
To take care of you.
@@RxDrmz lonely person with no friends spotted
i remember the day when i said "fuck it i am gonna risk it and love her with my whole heart", now i am facing the consequences of that gamble, everything turned out to be a lie except my feelings for her
It takes time to kno someone especially in this world. U will love again her or someone else. Let time take its course seek God and the rest will come. Be well my bro.
But, if you never went for it, then you would have always regretted it. Loving with your whole heart is always better than not loving enough
I still remember her saying "you are not giving 100% of you into me as I am into you". She knew about my past bad experiences with women so I expected she's honest when she says she's giving a 100% and how she can't wait to be mother of my kid... So I tossed the dice and jumped blindly into this abyss, expecting a soft landing in water but actually landed on rocks. It's been four years now, that I'm single. And at this point in life, I gave up on marriage. This was the second girl that manipulated me with family as they both knew that's my dream. I still don't understand how can girls be this deceptive and WHY?!
Literally
StayStrong brother!!!
“She’s never truly yours, it was just your turn.”
I’ll save a bench for you, gym bro.
in hoodville we trust
just found this out first hand
but...
think of it like a buffet in a way, we each only get to share a portion of our lives with a person or even a thing, then when our time is over we share them with the next, thinking of someone as an object you get to keep is never a healthy way to be
Edit: this is somewhat paraphrased from Epictetus but its kind of the gist of it
"She's never truly yours, it was just her turn", don't let your crown fall dud ..
Just let go. Be ruthless and take care of yourself! Set goals! Live!
Believe me, I was there where you are now. I've seen the abyss and fell dozens if not hundred times. But there is no use in staying down. It takes a lot of strength to get back up again and again. And it takes a lot of courage to move on since there is comfort in the panic. But it is all of no use. You got to keep moving! You have potential! And it does not lie in you past or your suffering. Life can be so beautiful. People can be so beautiful. YOU can be so beautiful. Don't let your life slip away. Take action! We are waiting for you to be with us, laughing and dancing! Take my hand and come with us. Don't give your pain more power than it deserves. Learn from it! Learn your lesson don't let it be for nothing! Your next chapter awaits you.
You are worth so much more! There is more in life than suffering! There is also joy, friendship, solitude and love. Get up and take it! You're worth it! The time is now!!!
Thank you so much I needed this encouragement. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
no matter what i do everyone is always moving so fast and i'm always stuck at the same point I guess i'm not built for life
I was stuck too my friend. I wasn't paying enough attention to myself. Instead, I was focused on everything and everyone except me.
Those challenges in life are the best opportunities to build character.
You should read Atomic Habits and 12 Rules For Life.
One rule that changed me forever: Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.
Tiny changes really make a different, and it will come faster than you think.
All of us on this Earth were built for life thats why when you were just a sperm you swam harder then all the rest and fertilized the egg, which inturn created you. :) Out of all the millions that could have existed, it is you that made it. Be patient its a journey those moving fast may find the end just as quickly, where as you may see 100 years before your time comes.
Starting from your parents, grandparents, etc. if you go back 10 generations, you have a total of 1024 ancestors who have given you their DNA. Think of those thousand lifetimes of diverse experiences from joy to sadness that they all experienced. But all those various experiences had a single purpose-- you. They had to go through all those experiences in order for you to just take your first breath and start your life. I'm sure at least some of those 1024 people had to go through things just as bad as you and maybe even worse. Don't let their memories and sacrifices go to waste. Life isn't a one way street, it's a circle. You just have to keep it rolling.
What is life? and why do we expect others are living the same experience as we are?
I am different and you are different, there's no reason for us to compare each other if we are meant to see life through our own eyes.
Maybe you are stuck at a certain point because you are suppose to take something away from it that hasn't yet been reveled? I know I was. Keep your head up because you'll need all the dots to understand how they connect.
me too man i lost my mind trying to continue to love someone who didnt love me anymore i focused more on her rather than myself i crashed out n she gave up on me and blocked me it hurt so bad
She had another guy lined up I came home to a empty home with the engagement ring on the counter with a note saying she went back “ home “ to Georgia ( we were living in Florida ) I was in north Carolina with my little brother because he lost his girlfriend to cancer at the age of 22 and I was a pall bearer and had to be there and I came home to this… she picked the worse time of my life and it’s not just stranger I knew this woman my whole life her parents know mine we were close as kids we always had crushes on each other but I’m we grew apart as time went on and I moved states away and we somehow come together over social media and I move her down bust my ass at work 60-70 hour weeks make her my fiancé get her, her dream ring just to leave me in the wind… if you read this boys focus on yourself and get right with God he will put the woman of your dreams in your life when the time is right!
i wish you the best bro
Amen brother I will pray for you tonight
@@Chad804 appreciate it bro… means more then you could imagine to me
@@Castillobusy thanks, you as well!
Yeaph bro, i hope, we will have such a special person, perhaps the time has not yet come
P.S. hi everyone is from Russia (St. Petersburg)
good luck guys!
I met him in school. He joined a couple of years into high school after immigrating from the Netherlands. We sat beside each other in math and I would bump into him sometimes in the corridors. I often pitied him, as he barely had any friends and didn't know much English. He was shorter than me, chubby and very innocent-looking with a pair of nerdy glasses on his nose bridge. We were 14.
After finishing our GCSE's, I never met him again until 4 years later in 2019. He'd re-introduced himself through social media and this happened just a few months after I had a bad breakup. I didn't recognise him when he did, for he changed quite a lot. He suddenly became tall, his features refined, and his once chubby cheeks covered in facial hair. Things just happened so fast. One minute we were texting and the next, he had jumped over a park gate to come and see me. I was craving donuts, and he said we'll go find some that night. And that's where it all began.
He was my first real love. The first person I experienced everything with. He promised me the world and everything in it and God, I'd never felt so happy before. Prior to him, I suffered a lot with my mental health. He was able to bring me out of it, he made me feel whole, and alive again. I suddenly knew what it felt like to be loved and appreciated. I finally got the attention I craved from a someone I believed to be my first real lover. We texted night and day. We couldn't sleep unless we were on the phone to each other. He was obsessed with me, as I was with him. The fact that we knew each other from school made it that much more romantic.
After 20 months of dating, we tied the knot. I married my high school sweetheart. I remember him peaking at me through the gap in the door of his living room as I said my vows, promising to love him for eternity. I was so shy, and so was he. I remember our first kiss as a married couple. Our first night of love. We were so glad to finally have each other, wholly, completely, openly. Due to our culture, we had to hide our relationship, but marriage changed that. We were finally able to love each other publicly and unashamedly. One thing I'll never forget, is the excitement I used to get when I heard the keys to our front door jingle before he would enter our apartment. He would open his arms wide each time for me and I would enter them, happy to finally have our souls connect again after a long day of work. I'd pay so much money to go back to one of those nights. Just one.
Because 2 years into our married life, he divorced me over the phone. He told me he couldn't handle the pressure of marriage anymore. He came home from work and we sat there in silence, neither of us knowing what to say. I returned home to my parents. Some days went by and instead of things cooling down, they became more heated. His family mistreated me. He mistreated me from anger. And I mistreated him. When we eventually came back to our senses a few weeks later, it was too late. Finances, friends and family ended us.
My high school sweetheart turned into my biggest nightmare. As time went on, my ex husband became more hostile. He refused to initiate official divorce papers. He began pursuing multiple relationships with multiple women whilst refusing to cut me loose. I cried every night for 2 years, being haunted profusely by our memories. Does he not remember? Does he not regret it?
Now, 2 years later since we separated, my official divorce documents have come through. And whilst at first I was triumphant to be finally let off the hook...I was simultaneously utterly devastated. I had to watch my ex husband smirk and laugh during the signing of our divorce papers whilst I had to leave the room multiple times to break down. It made me question...had his love ever been sincere? Did he ever love me to begin with...or was he just in love with the idea of me? He's beautiful now. He's not the same chubby kid with glasses I met all those years ago anymore. He is on the path to success too.
He is doing well for himself and yet....here I am. Stuck in the past. Still healing. Still seeing his face in all of my dreams. Still crying myself to sleep. I wake up with a pain in my heart, and I go to sleep with it too. Sometimes I wish that pain will turn into a full on heart attack, just so I can be at peace. Because if it still hurts after 2 years, despite all the abuse I received from him/his family...then will I ever truly be able to move on? Will these memories ever fade?
I fear I'll never love anyone the same again, nor anyone will compare to him. He was my everything and with the little I had, I tried to give him everything. I hate to admit it, but I (still) love him so much. I hate that I still hope there will be an us in the future, that I'll still be able to see him and make sure he is OK. I want him to come back. I want him to tell me that he regrets letting me go, that he regrets agreeing to sign those divorce papers. I truly hate myself, and constantly blame myself. And whilst life feels impossible without him, I have to keep reminding myself.
Everything happens for a reason.
I'm happy you have those fond memories of him and it's clear you still cherish the good times. I'm sorry everything crumbled apart, I'm sure that was and undoubtedly still is very difficult. I wish there was a magic wand that could be waved to make everything happy again for you or even make everything back to how it was and not change for the worse. I hope you are able to grow and become stronger and more resilient from your past. You can't grow without pain and discomfort. Continue to stay strong and continue to have that same vivid clarity. The only direction to move is forward. Thank you for sharing your story.
You're real for real
He didn't really love me, because I'm married to a woman who loves me, we faced all the difficulties and we didn't stop loving each other. True love faces the barriers of life.
You were a match that allowed itself to burn completely as long as you felt safe. You like to surrender to the process and not understand what is outside of it. Now it’s time to learn to understand what is beyond the paradise in which you are lucky to be) Try, with the same dedication (like that match you were) to discover causes and consequences and with this information come to new horizons! Good luck
Make an inventory of the pain (blessing and/or curse they may be) because it is proof that you're still alive and living. The "you" before him and the "you" after him, both exist as another set of proofs that you are indeed still you - whole and all. On the flip side, re count all that you still have, the "you" in the now, and all the good - memories and emotions, and still find solace that you have things to be grateful for.
I see a lot of sadness in this comment section, and i'm here to tell you that you are doing well you are strong and i believe in each and everyone of you, as if i can do it anyone can, trust me it'll get better, even tho its hard to even breath at times and that lingering feeling inside that you can't get rid of no matter what you do, will eventually go away and time may sometimes take sooo long but it'll always be your ally in the long run we may never truly feel the same again but that's what makes these experiences worth living as they shape us to the person we are meant to be.
To all of you reading this, i send you my love as i write these few words know that in this right moment some stranger on the internet has thought about you i hope that will give you some kinda comfort. take care and keep going : )
you and the people like you are the reason I use internet for, thank you for kind words.
thank you! you are a beautiful person
thank you.
you eased my pain. thank you.
*ChatGPT*
To everyone reading this,
Love is a journey filled with twists and turns, highs and lows, and moments of profound growth. Sometimes, we stumble, unintentionally causing pain to those we cherish the most. This story embodies the complexities of relationships, the hardships faced, and the enduring power of love and forgiveness.
It speaks of a couple whose path was marred by misunderstandings and hurtful words. Amidst the chaos, they experienced the agony of separation, a result of mistakes made in the heat of the moment. Yet, despite the pain, their love endured.
The strength of their bond prevailed through the darkest of times. One found solace in the other, becoming a guiding light in a world of turmoil. However, a moment of anger led to an unintended rift, causing heartache and regret.
Yet, what shines through this narrative is the resilience of love. It's about acknowledging faults, seeking forgiveness, and finding redemption. It's a testament to the human spirit's capacity to heal and grow, fostering a love stronger than the trials it endured.
The story concludes with a heartwarming reunion, a realization that hard times were a necessary precursor to a brighter, more profound chapter in their love story. It's a reminder that even in our darkest moments, there's hope for reconciliation, renewal, and a beautiful ending.
May this story inspire you to cherish your relationships, to value forgiveness, and to believe in the transformative power of love even amidst life's most challenging trials.
With warmth and hope,
[Your Name]
The secret is to love yourself before you love someone. Think about this. Would you let something bad happen to the person you love? No? Ok. But why do you let this same person treat you badly over and over? Why do you let things repeat again and then think, next time it will be different? It's because after all, you don't love yourself yet. If she/he break up with you, you're gonna look for her/his love, but if you love yourself, you still have your own love and it will keep you safe and strong to pass through this horrible moments. I wish you guys the best comeback ever. I passed through this situation for over 8 years. She was very toxic and I thougth that it was ok and let those things keeping happening, she gaslighted me and did everything that a narcissist does. People always alerted me, but when you're in this vicious cycle, It's almost impossible to look from another perspective. It has been 2 years since I got free but sometimes I still feel a little guilty for letting someone treat me so badly. Therapy helped me a lot!! STAY STRONG!!!! YOU CAN DO IT!!
Perfectly said ✨️
Name song 1:25:40 ??? you know?
It’s been almost 9 years. I’m not sure we’d recognize one another at this point. She’s more of a stranger now than before we met. There’s an aversion that wouldn’t be there with strangers. I think about her almost every day and how nothing will measure up to what I felt towards her but even if she came back somehow it wouldn’t be the same. We’re not even the same people who fell out of love at this point. I hope she’s happy and I suspect she is but this longing doesn’t seem to go anywhere year after year. If she read this the best I could hope for is an acknowledgment that it’s a worthwhile sob story.
It all fades as you get into your 30s and then into your 40s
You'll be completely indifferent to it all. Not in a "i died inside" way, but rather because it's just smallball.
Start a family - that is where your true satisfaction comes from.
Build a career, make yourself into a valuable and capable man, and then marry a younger woman and start a family.
The girls you grew up lusting for and longing for will have aged and you'll get something better and they'll never be able to compete.
I met another girl! Time to hurt my own feelings yet again. Conditions are less than ideal and almost certainly a prelude to disappointment, maybe for both of us…
Or.. maybe it ends up better than I could ever have imagined. For the first time in a long time.. I’m hopeful.
@@trentonwillman4264 fill me in. How is it going?
Man this type of music gives me the intense case of self reflection and peace...
Fax I’m not here cuz of sadness I just wanna be at peace
🙌🏼💯♥️
try to listen it doing work out
He seemed so genuine. He seemed so kind and so sweet. He seemed amazing to me. I saw him differently than other people did. It’s kind of cliche, but he seemed right. My friends said he was bad. They didn’t like him, but I didn’t like the friends they had and I never said a thing to them about it. They always told me not to talk to him or sit with him or do anything with him. I didn’t care. I didn’t want to listen to them when they didn’t ever listen to me or have to listen to me because I was respectful of their happiness and joy and didn’t try to take that away from them. I hate to sound so selfish, but whenever they were happy with someone else, I understood and didn’t try to get in the way, but when I’m the slightest bit happy with someone else, they get mad. I still don’t understand it. It just didn’t make any sense. When they asked me why I was sitting with him one morning, but when they ask me the very next morning why I wasn’t? They don’t think! Nobody ever thinks about the fact that everyone’s words and opinions has an effect on peoples decisions. Nobody ever thinks about the fact that words hurt. Especially when they come from the people that are supposed to be your friends. I liked him a lot. I thought he liked me too. People change. Maybe he did, maybe he didn’t. I don’t know. I always wonder if it was my actions or words, but I know that I didn’t do anything wrong, yet I always blame myself. I’m still not sure what happened. It hasn’t been that long since he said to take a break. We weren’t dating, but I just wonder. I wonder why people say things and never explain them. Sometimes I get it, but sometimes I don’t. Either way, it scares me the way he acts. I hate to say it, but I hate my friends for what they say. Maybe whatever they said made him not want to be around me anymore. I’m not sure. At this point, it’s no longer my business. Sometimes I can’t stand being around other people at school. Other times, I don’t want to leave them. I hate the way he looked at me those couple of times. I couldn’t tell what his eyes may have been trying to tell me, if anything.
If you ever see this, which I doubt you will, I just want to say that I’m sorry. I’m sorry that I ran into you so many times after you told me to stay away. I really tried, I promise, but I’m sorry. I hope that this right now is see you later, but it’s starting to feel like goodbye. If it is a goodbye, then I hope you do well. I enjoy the memories, even if they hurt sometimes. I care about you, but I’m sorry that it didn’t work out.
I’m sorry for what you went to, but there’s no going back, all you can do is move forward but without hate for him or your friends your hate might affect them but not has much as it will affect you, move foward with love, move foward with god for he is love, he is the truth, he is the way, and once again I’m sorry for what you went through, but the only way to move forward is with god for he will guide you and hold you, take care of you for you are his child, you might not believe in what I believe but, when he found me he changed everything, the way I see the world, the way I think, and the way I behave, I ask that you let him in, let him in your heart, one step towards him and he will take ten towards you. God bless
People suck. Most people do at least. Terrible people are just people that set examples of who not to be with and guide you in finding the person to be with. Because the person you wish to be with will outstand from the people who you should not be with. It's weird how we call this world the third dimension when all you can do is walk forwards. I guess my thoughts after hearing about your heart breaking experience would be to just let it flow, let it happen and keep going. Whatever happened has happened and can't be changed, so onwards and upwards you must go. Sorry to hear about this, wish you well.
Eu entendo isso perfeitamente, já me ocorreu algo parecido.
😭😭😭😭 nooooooo
love i hope you can be ok
She showed me what love feels like.
I don't remember her face, i only remember her eyes and her smile when she was looking at me.
Time stops.
The whole world is blown away.
I'm in heaven right now.
It's just you & me.
I can feel my heart beating again.
I can feel the sky again.
I didn't know life could feel so extatic.
I didn't know love could be so powerful, so transforming.
She grabbed my hand & took me to the Most High.
Silently, she left.
Sun is gone.
I'm alone in the night.
Stargazing.
Tears rolling down.
Then I understood.
It was all me from the beginning.
The light in her eyes.
The magic in her touch.
Pure Life flowing through my veins.
She is a miror.
She showed me Who I Am.
She awakened me to my very Nature.
The Source of Love is inside.
It has always been.
Infinite Love & Gratitude ♾️✨️🤍
Hit the gym
@@raymondherrera8343 Fr
Loving women is like having them have a loaded gun pointed at you, and you just hope to god they won't pull the trigger. Frankly, I have been shot so many times metaphorically in my life that I've grown numb to it all. I've attempted twice against my life unsuccessfully. People handles heartbreak and betrayal better than I can. I can't begin to tell you the absolute betrayal I have endured with women in my life. Maybe other men in my shoes would've stood strong and endured the emotional pain, but I couldn't at the time. Now I live a life where I can't wear short sleeves and having winter as my favorite season mainly because I have an excuse to wear long sleeves and coats. I take full responsibility for even allowing women all together in my life when I shouldn't have. I will alway fear women. Everytime someone comes with good intent, I immediately sway away, and politely say I'm not interested. I look after myself very well, and I have a very active lifestyle which makes everyone question why I'm single. Some don't believe me. Nor I don't want to spill my whole life trauma to a total stranger to make them understand why I'm single. I don't care by now if I may have rejected the love of my life by now. Its too much of a risk to find out whether or not. My life is at risk. I already healed to the point where I'm being productive with my life, and living a very independent life. I can't ruin it. Yet I do miss the feeling of being loved. Thats why I find myself here to listen to music to allow myself to feel this emotion of despair from time to time to remind myself I don't need to need a women in my life. I no longer miss any of my exes, including my first love. I do however miss the feeling of being loved. The constant reassurance. The constant human touch and affection. All the nice words and cute foreshadowing of our plans in the future. Talking about our future kid's name and how we would raise them. And of course the genuine peace I felt knowing I have found someone that will be there to the very end with me and I won't die alone. I used to be afraid of the idea of being alone and or dying alone. Now not so much. I rather die alone at an old age rather than die young due to my mental health falling apart over some girl that doesn't value how much I have dedicated myself to her, and her wanting to throw it all away to see if the grass is greener on the other side. I will never love again. God bless you all and wish you luck on whatever you're going through.
While i was reading this, i felt the exact same as you described. Went through the same. Even the attempt against my life... But i am at the other end. I fear men. I feel i can trust no one. I brought into my life men that didn't care as much, love as much, respected as much as i did from my side of the relationship. I feel like an outsider with nowadays society. I feel like respect, love, loyalty, patience aren't there anymore.
Maybe you won't even read this. But i hope you can heal this trauma, i hope you can find someone that values you as you are. I hope i can heal from this trauma too...
I wish you the best stranger. I wish that, even not knowing each other, we can let go of this fear.
It's good to know that i am not alone.
"Its okay .. i forgive you." I said: I will no longer be jealous and drink the poison well. I will love myself and cherish my days. It's a miracle that i'm still alive. There's still time we can still make it to the other side, paradise awaits for those that are willing to pay the price to find it. Don't give up on yourself on your dreams, dream new dreams while you still can.
It's hard when you have high intuition and empathy. You see more than you wish , you can picture whats happening in people lives clearly like if you were watching a movie in your head. You have to learn not to look.
Most are fickled They may not love you anymore, but that doesnt mean they never will. The best story ever told was a comeback story. Not only do you have the power to seduce them again, You can seduce whole world this time around.
Thank you for sharing. I read it all
You've been hurt, must of us have. We need to decide better who we give our love to.
Proverbs 31:10-31 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her worth is far above rubies. The heart of her husband safely trusts in her, so that he will have no lack of gain. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
I want to give you a big hug Brother, stay strong, keep your head up
Im stuck while everyone else moves on.
Im depressed while so many around me are laughing and i almost killed myself because i couldnt handle it
Im glad i didnt do it, couldnt bear the thought of leaving my mom and my dog alone
I turn 30 on the 26th november and this will be a new chapter of 10 more years to come - i hope ill make it
Whatever age you hit...would never change the fact that you are equally important as every other single living life-form on this planet. The trees, the flowers, the birds, the dirt, and many other things create what we call life or reality. Even your ideas and thoughts create this world we live in. Emotions don't exist, only ideas and thoughts which in effect create the feelings of sadness and happiness but it is all in your head. We might not be in control of society or the government and create the perfect world, but we sure can take the challenges that are imposed by those who we don't see. That is what makes us men... or at least a human. We are "Human-beings" but we sure aren't BEING human but that topic is for another time. Only you know your struggles and only you know how they make you feel, therefore you are the ONLY one who can fix yourself. Although you might feel alone, remember that you are not and there has been a kid within you that hasn't left and wants to see you achieve so much and see you grow. Reach out more to nature and talk to it. It always listens. I hope you overcome whatever obstacle and cross the finish line which metaphorically is life. We will all see each other soon afterwards.
And Happy Birthday. The day is yet to be, but it will surely come and many more as 50+ more. I'm sure of it.
~Sincerely, 𝑬𝑽𝑬𝑹𝒀𝑶𝑵𝑬
Love yourself the way you made me love you while typing these words that come from my heart purely.
while everybody moves on ur down to not let them slip aswell thats kinda proof on how ur past saved u and u can be safe in future with honesty if u want honest friends
For her, I was a chapter. For me, she were the entire book.
That's beautiful
Fr
bro i got you
Fr bro
tingle...
I always feel like my relationships are destined to fail. It's not even the partner that you have to blame these days, it's the circumstances. To everyone here I hope you meet someone new who you're on a similar wavelength with, including myself. We all deserve it.
😊
we do brother
i poured 10 years of my life into her... I thought i made her happy... until she cheated, and i took her back like a fool cause i thought she was all i had and was the only reason i felt was worth living for.. but the whole time she was just using me to get over the person she left me for and led me on to think what we had was real.. now i'm here up at 2 AM typing this cause there's a void in my soul and, my mind is endlessly racing cause i can never sleep.. i have no one to express how im feeling to cause everyone i was once friends with have moved on with their lives after i shut myself out from the world and dwelled in my own sorrow.. i feel left behind & now i feel the only way to redeem myself in this life is to travel the world, meet new people, and start over fresh again.. to whom ever is reading this or going through the same thing this isn't the end.. it might not be now. it might not be this month, or even this year but the time will arrive when you overcome this dark period in your life and get back to that happy place you've been waiting to return to..
Sorry about what you went through but when women cheat it's over. I'll never understand men that take them back after they cheat on them. YOU ARE A KING 👑 F*CK HER BRO. DON'T WASTE A SINGLE SECOND THINKING OF HER ANYMORE CAUSE IT HONESTLY DOESN'T WORTH IT. I wish you all the best
it's a shame that it turned out that way...
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Sorry bro, wishme luck I just got married with my gf and I hope we never stop loving each other even though I know not everything last forever and I just really wish we can be immortal so we can all see our kids grow and grandkids life’s messed up and beautiful too. Remember it’s all about the journey not how fast you get pass by
'It's worth saving myself', always remember and never forget it, no matter how bad you feel, no matter how many mistakes you made, no matter how big the regrets. IT'S WORTH SAVING YOURSELF, it's worth having hope placed in yourself, in what you like, in what you are passionate about, if you are passionate about playing guitar, continue with it, if you are passionate about training, continue with it, if you are passionate about writing, continue with it , it is worth having FAITH in you, IT'S WORTH SAVING YOURSELF, even if you are alone, even if it seems that help is not going to arrive. IT'S WORTH IT TO KEEP FIGHTING TO SAVE YOURSELF. Never forget it
0:00 oneheart x reidenshi - snowfall
2:02 Daniel.mp3 - Green to blue
5:10 analog_mannequin - milk cassette x.mp3
8:51 bonjr - If it’s real, then I’ll stay
11:54
13:36 oneheart - this feeling
1:03:47
1:09:11 SYML - Where’s my love
1:14:23 The Cinematic Orchestra - To build a home
1:22:06 Patrick Watson - Je te laisserai des mots
1:25:39
1:31:36 The Irrepressibles - In this shirt
1:38:12 Joji - Glimpse of us
1:42:49 Tom Odell - Another Love
1:47:54 Hozier - Take me to church
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wish channel gave songs
name of 1:38:12 :,v
songname: - glimpse of us
:) @@rodrigozarate2696
02:02? Name, please
@@nelson949Daniel.mp3 - Green to blue
Heartbreak, especially when it feels fresh and overwhelming, can be a profound experience, but it's important to remember that it's also a universal one. Most people go through it at some point, and while that doesn't diminish your pain, it does mean there are pathways out of it - Mr. ChatGPT
Occasionally I will delve into past memories just to sulk in the moments. Familiar feelings because they’re comforting. I loved them all.
I really loved this girl and she was perfect. She actually cared about me, she always motivated me and she was really different than any other girls, she always makes me happy whenever I'm at my lowest point. And i knew couldn't let her go, i always tried my best to give her everything,
but i couldn't cause my mental health got worst than ever, and after that she left me.
I became more distant that ever, i couldn't talk to my mom or even my cousin that I'm comfortable around with,
but i understand why she left me, but i just hope she's doing really well rn
but it's been 3 months since we last spoke tho,
I just can't get over her, I just can't. She was really special to me.
She was the one i truly loved,
But i just feel so broken that i lost the right one
Till this day i still feel really lost
But all i know is unliving yourself is not the answer.
I will find peace one day
It was similar for me but I had to leave her because of my mental health, i just couldn't give her what she wanted. And as much as it hurts I had to do it to save ourselves before we became enemies. I'd really like to redo things but I know it'd probably turn out the same if not worse due to my mind. I really do hope she's doing well but idk what would be better; knowing that she's not over me and that there's still a chance in the future for us or knowing she's moved on and my existence is no longer interfering with her emotions. I've cried and cried for hours, even as I'm writing this. I'd like to say this to her but I don't think can. Her birthday is coming up and I'd like to wish her a happy birthday and I think I will. We've talked about meeting up some day to talk and maybe get more closure but she said she's just too busy and hasn't had the chance to really think about it. I just hope she still loves in some way because I still love her. I can't stop thinking about her and I know she'd want me to get better instead of rotting away even though I feel like I deserve to. I still want there to be an idea of us even if we're not together. I just really want to see her again so I can truly apologize for dragging her into my shitty, depressing life. And if she happens to find this video and find this comment, I love you Victoria, always have and always will despite by actions and inactions. I really hope that you're prospering and achieving the things you have always wanted to achieve. I'm sorry I couldn't be the one but at least for now it's for the best. I just can't say "I love you" and "I'm sorry" enough. You weren't ever bad but I focused too much on the negative things, I'm sorry I couldn't give you more, I truly am. I miss sleeping next to you, eating with you, taking showers with you, brushing our teeth together, going out with you, the way you hugged and kissed me, I miss it all and more. I miss the warmth you provided me. I really don't know what happened, I guess time moved too fast for me to keep up with. And if I don't send you that Happy Birthday message, I'll say it here and hope you, "Happy Birthday Victoria, wish you the best and more, I will never ever stop loving you, take care of yourself, and if you ever need to talk or need help don't hesitate to reach out."
It’s been five years for me bud
@@arturoferman914you are a trooper. Head up brotha
Yes you will. I believe in you, take as much as time you need to heal, cry as much as you want. And one day you’ll be happy or maybe she will come back to you,who knows.I believe in you,you’ll make it.
@@ArchiesFinalStream You made me cry…..I hope you’ll say it to her.Cuz this is way too important and beautiful to be hidden.
never knew it would be so hard just to live
Just existing is hard. Find purpose.
they should teach us about humanity , instead of 10 hours of mathematics
@@juliosalviz7675 Imagine if we could study Philosophy in School.
My man, life itself is "meaningless/without purpose", you are supose to give it your own meaning and purpose, life is an empty pot, you gotta get the ingredients of your choice and make your own recipe, nobody can do it but you =)
Let's go! Start working on yourself and build that strong mind, body and soul. Use the pain as the fuel for the next changes you are gonna make! Stay true to yourself and your path! You got it!!!
I need this, thank you.
Have never been through heartbreak but here is my story:
I am from Afghanistan, it’s was wild out there. I remember hearing death almost every day and got so used to it, I thought that is how the world went. One day, some terrorists (i think like 5 of them), came into my school and started shooting. I grabbed a gun from one of the soldiers and hid. I heard foot steps but they never came to me. After 40 minutes, the military came and evacuated the school ( I was 14 around this time), and one of the soldiers informed me that the soldier that had handed me the gun had been brutally executed with a flamethrower. I had felt my soul leave the universe in that moment, it felt like I had just… that it was my fault.
2 years later in around 2013, my friends and I were supporting humanitarian aid across the south region of Afghanistan, called Helmand. Helmand is one of the most violent provinces of Afghanistan, so risks were very high. Either way, we were escorted by military to many villages and that is where the mental health really declined in me. Seeing all these people suffer some nightmares was too much for my 16 year old brain to handle. One day around December 2013, I was having an emotional breakdown, and I decided I would unalive myself, so I grabbed a knife and went outside so everybody in the camp could watch my suffering. My friend immediately told me about the soldier from 2 years prior, and I went back inside and grabbed a pistol, went outside and aimed it at him. A little girl and her older brother watched me, and….. I just couldn’t do it. I dropped the gun, and told my friend (Let’s call him Hamza) to shoot me. He said no and grabbed the gun to put it away. While he was doing that, I grabbed the gun on his hand and forced it to aim at me. He then pushed me away and told me “The soldier didn’t shoot himself”. I then went to sleep on the dirt for 10 hours.
2 weeks later, a terrorist attack hit our camp, and Hamza didn’t make it. I had felt so broken that I grabbed a gun and shot one of the terrorists out of rage. I had gotten flooded with anger, so after wards I decided to join the army (to destroy the terrorists). I was in the Afghan national army for 3 years and killed over 40+ terrorists. I left because I had then thought it was just better to leave the country than to use this rage for spilling blood. It took years, but I managed to move to Alberta in Canada, and once I saw the country, it was like I had just broken out of a grave. My life felt real for once, something I had lost along the way.
From 2016 to 2021 , it was the highest point of my life, i was living my dream.
When 2021 rolled around, it started off absolutely amazing, but when Afghanistan was fully in control by terrorists, something happened. My mom, brother, grandfather and grandmother were in a city. Around August 7, a bomb blew up in their apartment and they all died.
I was grieving, but also.. happy? I had never felt like that ever. I decided to use my rage, grief, and death inside me to form something better. From September 2021, to December 2022, I was on my villain arc. I built a very strong, muscular lean physique, then I started meditating to heal my trauma. I started doing the wim hof method and it worked. I then looks maxed and I Eventually became very attractive. I got a high- level job and then i started hunting for my Woman.
At around February 2023, I found her.
Let’s call her Lisa for protection reasons. She was from the start, absolutely into me. I asked her out and then we hit it off from there. I’m going to describe her (btw, she moved in with me).
She is incredibly supportive, compassionate, but not a pushover. She is also very sweet and is physically, very attractive. She also spent her child hood in Sweden as a fast food worker. So now things with Lisa have… been something younger me would have never imagined. To actually be in love.
That all leads to today, living my best life. But the moral of the story is even in the darkest of times, use that darkness to become the greatest you can ever be. And remember, I was a little boy in Afghanistan. Imagine what you can do with all that you have. Don’t waste it. I believe in you. I know this comment may not be relevant to y’all, but it’s what I want to leave on this video.
You've been through hell man. I'm glad life is looking up for you. Make sure you take time to properly grieve through everything, maybe seek out some external help to let you understand that residual anguish that might still linger with you.
Wow! Thank you for sharing. I read the whole comment, and I gotta say you went through a lot! Props to you for pushing through and building yourself! I bet everyone is proud of you and cheering you on right now!
Smart product placement for Wim Van Hof :p
Loving yourself is far more important than being loved by others since you are with yourself always.. When the right person notices the love you have for yourself they will be drawn to it but never compromise the love you have for yourself for someone else.
Yessssss - pin this comment to the top of the thread. Well said! People need to see this
Are you talking about masturbation..
this reminds me of all the opportunities I never seized. the "teen love" I never experienced. or love, for that matter.
heyy, you wanna talk ?
Pain is indescribable. I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy. I wish it never happened so i guess be grateful you grew without experiencing the “innocent” love. It aint all sunshine and rainbows hheh……… firstly become the person you want to be, then find someone to be your co pilot. Never ever make a mistake of making someone else to be the source of your happiness
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I spent like 4 years after this woman, in my part, I did it the right way, not the lustful or selfish way… I did genuinely liked her, she was very special, we were work buddies, would hang out after work all the time, we would go out to eat, arcades, movies, parks, hiking, explore new areas , we did her favorite things despite our differences, especially food since she was a vegetarian , we found ways to eat at the same place. We were very best friends, we talked about crushes and how we had bad taste … and we would go beyond the hugs, we would hold hands, embrace, cuddle at times, we would have long talks at night, even till dawn about life and future … we were very very intimate despite not having physical intimacy , we kissed once since we were shy, I thought we did liked each other … but it wasn’t mutual the more we talked about us dating and getting married if we didn’t find anyone else… I was happy, I didn’t ask anything in return, just her affection and genuine love. I did confess I liked her, there and then in the spot, and I wanted more, I wanted us to be a couple... yet wanted her happiness … she was thankful and said maybe ... but something was off …
With more talks and dates, she grew strange until she told me the truth … she was seeing someone else officially , I was her back up plan. That did hurt … basically she was desperate to have her life together, she wanted a “ready” man and ready life, rich and older, someone to take care of her , she wanted someone to teach her about the world (the girl wanting to date an older guy phase every girl goes through) ... she was being selfish she admitted , she chose the easy path when she saw the opportunity… she just quickly left me… but said we could still be best friends and still be close as if nothing happened, she would want us to hang out in private … I was hesitant , I said ok but limited my interactions and texts with her … deep down I knew it was wrong what she proposed, and I couldn't do it ... eventually she says that I’m a bad friend when I don’t text or talk to her as I used to … why am I distant and why do I avoid her…
I couldn’t do it ; I couldn’t be near someone I loved but can’t have , someone who wanted me to adore her while being someone else’s completely ; someone who doesn’t comprehend we can’t be close when she decided to be completely closer to someone else ; someone who may look mature but still had a child’s way of thinking; someone who is using me as a back up plan in case current plan fails ; someone who knows I love her but won’t even look at me like I look at her.
It was hard to get over her at times when she texted me, but I learned to not put all eggs in one basket… I forgive her and wish her the best honestly. Make sure it’s mutual, that she respects you, not uses you. You deserve real love kings, don’t settle for less, know your worth, happy couples know that they don’t owe each other anything, but they choose to give each other everything. It’s a choice. Your partner represents your capacity to choose.
So I’m single for now, I will prepare for my future wife, I will become better and the person she is looking for … Thank God He has helped me heal, giving me new priorities, and surprisingly gave me a vision of my future girlfriend/wife in a dream… I know it’s her because she is 10X times better than any past relationship and ex girlfriends, and I think of her when I’m tempted to be immoral with another woman that is not my wife. So cheer up, ask God to help you, and do your best!
wow you did the right thing because deep inside that hurt and how you chose to distance yourself is totally understandable. wish you the best out there and God Bless!!
@@shadowfeather3094 thank you so much, your words are what I needed to hear. God bless you too and wish you nothing but the best
She was honest with you, I think she respects you in some way.
Wow, all that because a woman said no. Stop dwelling, you'll be better off for it
thank you, man. I needed to read that. I'm a year after my break up and my mind is still not in a good place. I dived all into work and wouldn't let my mind wander too much. I still feel sad and not ready to move on. I just don't want to. I also know that this relationship is over and it wouldn't work out. I regret it ended like this. And even if something awaits for me, I just don't want it now. I just want to be in this limbo until... I don't know when. I just have no direction apart from hard work and all working hours I put in.
I recently had one kid taken and the other aborted by the woman I loved after her mental health snapped. I lost my home, my kids, my dream of fatherfood, all of the stability I thought I had in ny life. I gave everything I had to those kids and when I didn’t have any more, I found some and gave it anyways. I had so much love in my heart that I was giving to everyone around me but after having it all ripped away I realized that I was never giving any love to myself and now there is a void in my soul that I'm slowly filling back in and I realize that I had it all wrong from the start. I could never truly love any of the people around me until I truly loved myself. Now, somewhere between a bottle and the stone of Sisyphus, I'm piecing myself back together. The right way this time. Chin up everyone. Suffering is a teacher, learn what you can until you become a strong enough student to defeat the master. Always love yourself, no matter what you've done or what you've gone through.
I have lifted up a prayer to God for you brother. Stay strong in Christ.
@sesirethan1025 Thank you, I appreciate the prayers. I try every day. I know that regardless of however I'm feeling at any given moment, this is all for the best. Moving forward, I'll be a better man and a better father and have another kid with a better woman. It all works out the way it's meant to. I'm already in a much better place than I was with her. I do miss the hell out of the kid, though. That's something I don't know if I'll ever fully get past, but life goes on and so will I.
@@grosstoastie1216 I have a good friend who had his kid aborted without him even knowing. It's a horrible thing but the child is in God's hands that's 100 percent sure.
I am currently going after another Christian girl my age, pretty and smart, however she and her family believes strongly that the KJV translation is the only Bible translation to read so there's a pretty big impass and I'm afraid it wont work since I don't totally share this view, it's been hard but I trust in God everyday that He will work everything out. Lets just keep out head up and put our noses to the grindstone ❤
I'm not KJV only, but understand its manuscript background and it's hard to go wrong.@@sesirethan1025
I got out of the military almost 5 years ago and my life felt so empty... every relationship I had ended because of the distance between us and the military didnt help with that... I felt so helpless and alone ... found a girl 2 yrs ago fell in love but in the end it didnt work out...
I moved on and found someone else 2 months ago things felt like they were going great and I was finally starting to get a purpose I was finally starting to find happiness again.... it's obvious she had horrible anxiety because the stress of balancing a busy work schedule , college , family and social life combined with me in it she said she wasnt ready for a relationship because she felt she wasnt giving me the time I deserved... I was never unhappy with the time i spent with her and I was happy ... she was too I could see it in her eyes the happiness we felt cuddled up together the smiles she gave me and the way she blushed everytime I complimented her. so it came as a huge shock when she said she wanted to take a break ... there was many reasons but her main reason was her life being too chaotic rn im just hoping she was sincere and figures it all out...
regardless of whether or not she comes back to me I genuinely hope she gets better... I just wish she had dropped me before I fell in love with her. the most annoying thing I hate about myself is how openly I am with my emotions and heart. I never hide how I feel and im always sincere and honest about the way things are going because I feel its the best thing to do to avoid future problems. at this point im just hoping she comes back but im also done with relationships... I've given my heart out many times and im only 27 soon to be 28 yrs old and ive already had 8 long relationships in my life "at least a year" the last relationship that I had was only 2 months but like I said she lit the fire back in my heart that had gone out...
I felt so comfortable with her and we talked about everything together! she was also goofy and sarcastic in the same ways I was and everything was just wonderful when I spent time with her... I think I just tried too hard and stressed her out more than she could handle ... really wish I could change allot of things about myself but some things are unchangeable... I'm trying hard to focus on the things I can change and im trying hard not to linger too much on my thoughts.... thankfully music helps me alleviate some of this pain and I write lyrics to songs I play in my head ... now if only I could put music to the lyrics and songs that I sing ....
If anyone needs to talk im here for everyone... although I myself am going through my own struggles NOTHING makes me feel better than helping others.. I'll gladly hear your stories and share my life experiences ... I may not be the best help but I will try my best for others always... Stay strong everyone! and stay optimistic ! although times may be dark theres a beautiful tomorrow waiting around the corner... Stay safe and stay blessed everyone
@rafaelc8800
Mate I'm gonna give you some tough love. The common denominator in 8 one year relationships is you. Yes, life has difficult circumstances for you and for women, and yes, living, thriving, and dating, are all challenging. But maintaining a spouse in your life is pretty much more about skillset than it is about chemistry. It's an art that many of us have never been taugh properly, and, like anything, we have to learn by failing forward.
What is you purpose? What is your desire, your chief aim? What women look for in a man is drive, because this lets them relax into you, knowing that you can handle your own life and, eventually, hers as well. You said after you met her, "you started getting a purpose" and finally "started being happy again" ; it looks like you were building your purpose and happiness off of her. It also seems like she was more career and study oriented while you were more talking about your emotions and being in the feeling. Think about it. If her life was chaos and she chose to drop you, it's because you weren't helping her manage the chaos. In all likeliness you were contributing to it.
What most women crave, is to be able to feel like a woman, like in a dance, with a man who can lead her tastefully and who can give her the opportunity to twirl, to enjoy life, to savour her own beauty, and to give it to you. When a dancer is hesitating in his leading, the whole experience is awkward and awful. My bet is that when you ground yourself in your own life and direction, you will #1 feel generally happier and driven and #2 will be more aloof with women, because that's not your number one goal anymore, and then you will have that mindset that really turns women on, that of provider, of confident man, of steady man who's already dancing and holding out his hand, inviting into life, instead of being the one on the side saying "please make me happy."
@@anassimanitou8229 tragic it's all about money at the end of the day but you're not saying anything I don't already know... Appreciate the tough love though. At the end of the day what ruined most of my relationships was distance I was in the military and most of the girls I dated didn't want to do the distance anymore since I was gone all the time and one of them was the girl I dated in highschool she broke up with me before I enlisted "it's either me or the army" I think my problem too is I want to help them fix everything and allot of times they don't want help they just want you to listen. At the end of the day I've been working on myself and already improving physically! Lost 15lbs in a month already!
@@anassimanitou8229 Incredibly well said. 👏
It's been been 5 years since I last had friends. people I could talk to and make jokes with. I'm older now I realize that not everything last for ever but if certain things could I wish friendships could be one of them, the way everyone connected with each other it almost felt like a movie at times. At one point I thought I wanted a girlfriend but then I realized it was deeper then that and all I really wanted was a connection. I feel so distant from everyone. I rarely talk to people now and when I do interact with others it doesn't last long. when ever I talk to others my words feel so meaningless as if every word that comes out of my mouth is filler. I don't wanna speak just filler though, I wanna be able to tell an entire story with out feeling like a empty version of myself. Sometimes all I want is to sit down with someone and just have a real conversation. I know most of you reading this don't care but I'm writing this for the one person who thinks there alone in this. Your not many others like your self feel the same way. I can't tell you when this feeling will go away but what I can tell you is going down this road eventually there's gonna be a cross road and the path you take will determine whether or not this feeling will blossom into something better or die and become worse. I haven't reached my road yet but one day its gonna come, make the right choice.
It's been about the same amount of time for me as well, since I've had a friend. Sure, I have acquaintances at work but nobody I can truly open up to at work. I am married but that's not the same. Some things you can't talk to your wife about. I just go through the motions and keep most of my thoughts to myself. By the way you sound, I bet we'd be pretty decent friends. I actually have no clue how to make them anymore. Are online friends the same? I don't think so. But it's nice to have sort of met you. It's comforting knowing I'm not alone. Thank you for opening up with that. It helped me.
I care.
I don't know why you had friends but no longer do, but I'm 100% sure that no matter the reason it doesn't have to stay like that. Do you try to get what you want or are you too afraid to pursue it?I know from personal experience that I'm usually my own worst enemy, the world is there for me to grab, but instead of actually grabbing it I create all these imaginary barriers for myself. I have friends, but it has been 10+ years since I experienced romantic love, but deep down I also know that that is because I fear rejection from women, so it's safer to not even try. I working up the courage to throw myself back out there though. Hang in there buddy, you'll figure it out!
Chin up my brother ❤
dont worry i care brother, and we just have to trust in gods faith, and soon we will have someone in our life that we least expect it, and soon we will be living that dream life that someone have the same connections, i pray for all of us to have because it does get lonely im 22 and still have no one yet and im thinking is god just waiting for me to get to work and have some perfect one waiting for just waiting for me to get to work or am i gonna have a future wife, i apologize if my grammar is bad but just those are my thoughts is when is that future girlfriend/wife is gonna come im getting impatient and wanting someone in my life, thats all i ask for, whenever i go hangout wiht my brother not really my brother but hes a true friend, and he has a girlfriend, and they hug kiss and stuff and im used to third wheeling with them and sometimes it does get me thinking when am i gonna have that person to do that, ive once had many girls that this one i was close with she was my work buddy, i spoke to her everyday, worked everyday, ate together, hanged out together after and before work, and than we slowly to started to text every night, and every time i spoke to her she gave me butterflies thinking she is gonna be that one, and we slowly started talking about life, future, started cuddling hugging those hugs man just something i miss so much, and next day she was gone, we were like strangers i tried talking to her again just didnt feel right, and hurts alot, had another work buddy she mentally messed with my head, she had a long distance relationship, and wed always hangout together work as well and go shopping, literlaly everything together and it gotten to point where i started gain feelings for her like who wouldnt, and she started to use me for food, car rides and other things as well she cheated on her boyfriend two times, in conclusion just dont waste your time on women who just want to hangout and have someone there because if you do what i did youll be mentally fucked in the head for months, worst part is my friends so called friends clowned me about this hurt alot, i apologize if my grammar is bad just venting what im going through in my head im just praying and wshing for that right person to come into my life what i felt those ttimes with those two females, Chin up brothers, we got this through this dark time, there is light life is beautiful just work on yourself, while youre grinding god will have someone come to you while youre grinding, and it will be that perfect one, trust in gods faith 💔💜
You just described exactly how I feel, except I’ve been this way my whole life. No friends or anyone to talk to besides my sister :( I do hope things get better for you and everyone else who is hurting and lonely in the comments
"How do you know, poor fool? Perhaps out there, somewhere, someone is sighing at your at your absence; and with this thought, my soul begins to breathe." - Francesco Petrarca
The thing is, just when you think you’ve moved on, she jumps into your head and crushes you in a second. It's been three months since the end of a six-year relationship. Most of the time, I feel good. I feel like myself, but there are still days that catch me off guard. It’s like you don’t want to think of her because you know it will make you cry, but at the same time, the memories make you smile. It’s a pretty shitty feeling, but in the end, like anything else, it will be fine. To everyone going through this, I wish you the strength to heal, the courage to embrace the memories, and the hope to find peace in the days ahead..
She was perfect. The world felt like it couldn't hurt us, until that is, I realized that my world was her and now she's gone. It happened so fast. She had it planned out, knew where she was going to go. I can't be sorry enough for letting it all go. We shared something beautiful and I let it slip through my fingers faster than the fine grains of sand in the Sahara. I live in the good memories we shared and I will always cherish them as much as they hurt. I would't understand love the way I do if it wasn't for her.
beautiful
Going through the same at the moment, my mistakes destroyed our love, and I took everything for granted. I know what you are feeling right now, but always look at the things you have in your life. The pain will someday go away, I've learned this lesson once, and now I have to live through it again. Greetings from Germany.
this mix makes me feel alone but stronger in the same time. weird, but I like it.
Like a glowing light in the darkness.
I have only felt true love once in my life. I fell in love with a girl I met online. She was perfect. The smartest woman I've ever known. And her personality... She pretended to be cold and everybody around her seemed to believe it, but I could see right through her. In reality, she was deeply hurt by a lot of people. Like me, she had pride. She'd never accept help, let alone ask for it. It all started with an argument about some random topic. We hated each other, but we kept replying to each other's comments. Eventually, we exchanged numbers and started talking about our personal lives. I began to fall in love with her and she slowly but surely warmed up to me. I got to see her beautiful soul. She was just a cute nerdy girl who simply wanted to live in a better world. This world broke her. After about a year of us talking, she took her own life. To this day, 8 years later, I have never even been interested in love. I am still sexually attracted to women, but I can't feel anything for them. It's like she's still filling that place in my heart and I feel no need to replace her, even though she's not here physically. I hope I can meet her again one day.
HOPELESS ROMANTIC ... why would you even love a woman that did not love you back? even if she did ... you are blocking another women from your love, I hope you stop being pathethic and start livin this life. Read RED PILL and EVOLUTIONARY PSYCHOLOGY and your life will get 100%. GL BRO
@@Radoslav97xLeave him be man. Not the time or place.
@@RaPrubas123 no, everyone did leave him I wont
I've been in a similar situation, kept visiting a meme group on tinychat, a small "family" was already formed there, and I was new, so I kinda fancied one of the OGs of the group, a cute curly girl about the same age as me (everyone was using a webcam, and I could see her bright white smile and that curly hair covering 80% of her screen), she slowly "brought me in" and we would end up late at night being the only 2 left in the group chat , talking about all sorts of stuff. Ended up exchanging skype id's so we can chat privately, she was one of the funniest girls I've ever seen, like actually making me laugh out loud.
Unfortunately with me having to go for college, and all the bullshit involved in between, I kinda stopped visiting tinychat, and I was rarely going in on skype anymore. She also lived in a different country so we couldn't hang out, I was messaging her from time to time, saying whats up and stuff on facebook, but no long conversations.
One day I open up Facebook just to see "RIP" messages on her timeline, a friend of her sent me the news article, apparently she was very depressed and she jumped from her balcony. Couldn't believe it, she was so positive, funny, she had a bright face every single time I saw her.
I kind of started hating myself for not checking up on her more often, maybe I could have changed her mind since we used to have pretty deep talks before, it's just a weird feeling.
But what can you do man, life goes on, you need to love yourself for the ones that love you
@Radoslav97x I appreciate the slavic perspective on life since I am half slavic myself, but women, like men, have always been nothing but instinct-driven animals to me. This woman went through so much suffering that she achieved a deeper understanding of life. She was much more to me than just another woman. I still have sex, I just don't love other women. If anything, my love for this woman proves you and me right. Most women aren't worth remembering.
Kinda crazy how so many people have a similar story. I met her at work 3 years ago she became the love of my life. I don’t think I’ll ever forget her
Ugh
It's been 4 years now. I tried to talk to her again... bad idea. It embarrassed and humbled me, and you know, it worked out. It helped me realize that I don't want her anymore. But the loneliness... oh god the loneliness. I have so much love to give, but nobody to give it to. So here I lay, crying in my bed, hoping that one day someone will accept it. And love me again the way she did.
I’m right here w you brother
she loved you because you were standing on your feet, get up now. Go and get another girl, don't wait for something to happen, it doesn't work like that.
I think, i just idealized her, what we could be, what she could become, and started having all those good moments only in my mind, i fell in love with someone doesn't even exist, and i don't know how to move on, i see her, and i realize she didn't even felt the same, never did, just hurts
this
Every day it hurts less, you're going to meet loving and caring people, people that will show you how you had to be treated, with respect and love, Life get's better people... :)
I am no longer sad, I am simply void and expressionless
The numbness 😞
I’ve began to take comfort in the numbness…Atleast out of all things in my life, it’s that one thing that’s dependable 😕
Same here
like all peoples these days, im with you, cheers
One day stretches into another, sun comes up and sun goes down. Be careful, that numbness you are talking about can lead to an ennui that tempts the mind to terrible places. Places you can never fully come back from.@@l_Hxmicide_l
How is it possible that I feel so happy and focused listening to this? I'm in a relationship that truly makes me happy, must that be why I feel this way? Or is it because I'm working right now and my mind is busy? Would listening to this and doing absolutely nothing make me feel different? Or has she been changing many things in me? I appreciate this, anyone who makes you happy is worth caring for and having in life. Greetings friends, take care of yourselves and I wish you a happy new year, happy 2024.Los amo ♥♥
She was the first to really notice me and I took it for granted... Honestly just hope she's happy, she deserves it.
Fellas messing around to much will just create a hollow feeling, not talking Gojo
real bro.
word for word bar for bar
They moved on before you even realized something in your relationship was wrong..
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that hit hard. realest shit i’ve read
because that is the truth,hits hard,when you starting overthinking it,or starting feeling the problem's about he/she ,propably than happen's the change,and you just waiting hope,and than bum hits.@@kk-zo6tg
Literally
It was our song, it's been 9 years and I'm still listening to it... Don't listen too loudly, your children will wake up.
dam deep bro shit hit deep.
we suffer here together. we are not alone
true bro
"Sometimes you must hurt in order to know, fall in order to grow, lose in order to gain, because life's greatest lessons are learned through pain.."
i disagree. this is a quote that is helpful to those that have lost, but what about ppl that have been blessed in a good environment? those ppl can learn and empathize without also having to suffer painful losses.
@@phdgkos47952 this quote are for those who grew up in viscous environments, low income communities where they are forced to be at war in order to survive. You see the difference between ppl who grow up in vicious environments vs ppl who grew up in rich families with gated communities, is that only one side has to suffer. However growing up in harsh environments creates the strongest of ppl because you learn through experience and life that you have to be strong, have to be smart, dangerous etc. which is why those kinds of ppl will always push through the toughest battles life throws at them compared to someone who doesn’t have those same instincts,wisdom or skills to overcome life. They grew up to dependent on thier parents to fend for them etc, which is why if the world were thrown into an apocalypse, only the hurt will survive. Think of it as wild animals vs animals held in captivity. Wild animals had to endure things to survive and captive animals didn’t which is why they die, from not experiencing the lessons that pain teaches us or brings.
life is never easy. Even those blessed with a good environment will have their moments.
I got an interview in 9 hours for a job i've been seeking for 3 years now and my life could completely change. I haven't slept since i woke up the previous morning since i got the news but that doesn't matter bc whatever drug that's in these melodies has me in a state of zen.
I hope you get what you wish for in your lifetime , no matter how long it will take you. May you experience that bit of joy before we're all memories...
Good luck although you probably won't need it BCS you got this just think positive and be you
hope you nailed it
How'd it go??
Update ?
The picture and the playlist are a perfect combination that gets you in a nostalgic, happy / sad state, reminiscing of the first love, the raw beauty and idea of love when we were young
Even her face in the picture is quite similar to hers. I wrote a song for her and she appreciated it very much, and it made me happy. I'll never forget that feeling and even though she'd moved on pretty fast, I will never _not_ love that song and the feeling of fullness I felt with her.
@@Tofi_ytchannel can i hear it?
@@Tofi_ytchannel
Who is the girl in the photo?
@@diego13999 bro you dont want to know 🤣 for real
@@Tarehus yep I wanna know :D
I lost my love of 14 years after she told me she no longer had passion for me. I came home, as I had no where else to go for the time being, to a family wrought with anxiety, rage, and depression as a result of the events which had transpired while I was away building this failed life with a women who ultimately decided she could do better. I don't just feel broken, I feel like everything is broken. Like this is the worst possible outcome it a crummy storyline where I thought I had made all the right choices. And now I'm up after having gone to bed at 7pm and still feeling so damn tired. So tired. So tired. So tired. So tired.
You’re a warrior brother ❤
It'll take time. It may see everything is dark and you only have a few options, but whether you like it or not, everything happens for a reason and you'll be happier than ever later down the road and I promise you that. Hold out for me and persevere. Take your emotions out somewhere at the gym or a walk or a hobby and let it get out of hand. More people are rooting for you than you think. You're not alone. You have a random rooting for you right now, I'll send prayers your way brother.
Thank you for the kind responses. ❤ Not giving up any time soon, not while people can still find kindness in the most random places.
there's something about this picture... the frail beauty of this girl and the blurry dream like setting. it struck such a cord in my heart. when a girl is in your past and her memory feels like this a forgotten dream that you're desperately trying to remember. the beauty's still there but the fine lines and details are fading. as much as you want to remember sometimes you wish you could forget. But that cold beautiful face remains. the unwavering face that broke your heart. she'll never know that you still see her face in your dreams, chasing what once was. waking up sweating the middle of the night - was it all real?
Crazy how life works your best friend from the age of 12 to 25 dies from her battle with cancer you get married and 12 years goes by so fast but the whole time you miss her and then you start to try for a kid and all of the sudden this feeling of missing her deepens to a sorrow that can literally steal your breath and keep you up and night thinking about how she would be experiencing the same joys and how you long to see her experiencing those things but never will and eventually you go numb and get tired and fall asleep and a new day begins and maybe on that day you don't think about it but eventually it happens again and you just miss her even more I love you and miss you so much Krystal Holland
Wow. This broke me. I’m reaching my 10 year post break up but I’m extremely sorry for what happened.
Benn a couple of years now and she still is in my dreams. I remember her voice, her laugh, and her smile. Sometimes I even have her in my dreams. Even though she broke me, I never loved anyone more
Break that soul tie brother. In Jesus name 🙏 Amen 🙏.
Jesus loves us more than this world bro. keep smiling stay strong my brother
When they come to your dreams... it's surreal. Just let me sleep..
I appreciate y'all. Working on severing that tie for good. The randomly showing up in dreams after so long is a bit eerie
@@Hyperion_317 she is most likely thinking about you at times. But you need energy new to come in don’t hang on to something for the past look forward to the future the father will provide someone to you just talk to and pray to him and he will tell you what to do.
I knew a girl we were talking everyday and slowly I developed feelings for her, I helped her countless times the last time I gave her a big amount of money to save her parents they were sick I woke up one day and realised she was only using me so I nicely talked to her about that what did I get in return? I got blocked and ignored. It was never about the money or the help the way she treated me hurt me so bad I'm slowly picking up the pieces. Just wanted to share this if you ever feel being used just cut off before it cuts you worse.
wow, I'm so sorry that happened but maybe it just wasn't meant to be....it gets hard when you see people fall in love but I like to think that my type of love exists somewhere, because I exist..
Everyone in this comment section:
- Join the gym
- Get up early
- Stop smoking and stop drinking
- Become the GOAT in something
Life is suffering, you may as well smile while you do it
This playlist reminds me of what I felt before, where I find solace that every heartbreak of mine means I once had something that I truly cherished and that, in itself, is beautiful and ironically made me happy, content, and able to move on.
Thank you for saying this. Maybe this perspective will help me too.
Lost my girlfriend 2 1/2 half years ago. I've cried during my prayers, I've cried during listening to the songs we listened to. She was the piece of love itself.
my wife passed away 1 year ago...
@@099stifler Hope you can get the eternal attachment in the hereafter with her. Stay strong and enjoy life while you can. One love
Go to sleep king, she ain’t think about you
She moved out of State talked me into a long distance relationship moved with her family. i was dumb to go with it. took her to disneyland for her to not post any pics of us together.... but once she went back to her parents house after the trip she posted a pic with a guy by the pool and hugging him.. that's when i quit and focused on myself went to the gym destroying my body building it up i went from 180 pounds dad bod to a bulked up 220 benching 275 and i use that pic of her with her guy as motivation... i'm planning to get body ready and chase after what i've wanted to do and get into bodybuilding.
I uploaded some pics of my progress and she recently tried to reach me out and as been watching my Facebook reels lol......
@@Geckoo-eh7wq dont talk to her
You did make right decision, use that anger and grief as fuel to become better, wish you all the best man, stay strong.
Proud of you man !
Lol lame ass dude had to get played by a girl to start bodybuilding 😂😂
To every single brother here. life is shit sometimes, and sometimes it isnt. but the truth is we are gonna have to endure allot of pain. its not gonna be fun but its gonna shape us in to the men we need to become, not only for ourselfs but for our future family. I hope each and everyone one of you find the truth within jesus christ. the one and only true living God. God bless you all
Time heals all. Work on yourself. Find time again with friends and family. Make new experiences. Shake off the old memories and self. Being anew!!
Hope you're all staying tough with this heart-piercing, melancholic collection of songs.
I held her delicate hand while she got pounded over and over 💔😢
Agree 🙂👁️
sneako?@@Dgmstudios40
She does exist and when you find her you wont believe its real, I feel like she gets me more than i get myself. honest, pure, true soul. The lows have to be experienced to understand that there does exist a happier place , where you will only elevate and reach realms of being content once only thought of to exist for someone else.
I'm going to hold onto this.
I used to be so exited about getting older and live life
Now I just want it to end and finally feel piece
I wanna be the kid that didnt have to worry about anything
The kid that used to be her mom's sunshine
The kid that was always laughing
The kid that always wanted to play outside the whole day
The kid that felt loved
The kid that talked about everything with her mom
The kid that could wait to grow up
The kid that always wanted to stay up to read, color or play
The kid that wanted to travel the world
But now I'm the person no one likes
The person who laughs to much to hide the pain she's actually in
The kid that keeps all of her problems stored inside her
The person that is slowly dying inside
The person that hates going out
The oerson who is a disappointment to her mom
The person that sleeps all day to escape reality
The person that overthinks to much
The person who just to leave
The person who is just a body pumping blood with her broken heart feeling nothing
Just being completely numb
i can relate
stay safe we are with you
Give yourself a chance to be what you really want. It’s too soon to give up on yourself. I can tell from your words you have a soul and heart and depth. Your life is yet to be lived. Live it to the fullest.
I feel you. You are not a bad person even if you have made some mistakes, bcuz we all do and are all flawed. Don't be so hard on yourself. I understand how you feel but there in a way out of the darkness you are in. Stay strong, and don't give up on yourself❤
You are deserving of someone who truly loves you, it is what it is. If you loved the wrong person this much imagine how you will love the right person! you got this, become the best version of yourself through this experience, eat healthy, drink water, go to the gym, don't look at their socials, surround yourself with good people and music, love the little things and learn from your mistakes it's time you find your happiness and not lose your mind for a love that wasn't yours. You got this i believe and i love you
When she is the only one. The spark to your flame. The vibration that completes you. One love.
This past summer I put my put my everything into a girl, thinking I could fix her, take care of her, whatever. It was dumb love. But I was happy spending time with her, taking her places, being told that she thinks she loves me under the rain sheltered by a pier roof, dancing in the rain. I remember her stories of her uncle who died, basically her brother. I cleared out a special spot they had that was overrun and destroyed over time in her hometown, I suffered an entire day in the forest, in her hometown, cleaning this spot they had and searching for a lost rock that was special to them. I'm not insane, I was just bored and wanted to make her happy. Did I mention she wouldn't let me meet her relatives during that hometown trip, so I spent my day in a forest cleaning a spot that would change nothing. I spent almost every day with her, I fell hard and fast. Over time, it was clear that she was mentally unwell, she would be mad at me for no reason, and I was giving all of my attention to her, giving her no satisfaction. It didn't matter, none of it. I think I tend to reciprocate feelings, its not a great thing when the person you're in love with has cut scars all over her arms and legs. I got very depressed very quickly while being with her, but I was already convinced I liked her a lot and it was worth the loss of self, she became my world for a little bit. Eventually, I ended up in a psych ward after a suicide attempt, without telling her.
I saw it as a lapse of judgement, a panic reaction in response to her splitting her personality on me, one moment she loved me, the next she was insulting me, it was a cycle that went until until I did end up in that wretched place. So, I go to the psych ward for a week, after she blew up on me randomly after being lovey in the morning. While there, I didn't have any way to contact her so I assumed it was just doomed, and at that point I think I was fine with it. But she had a hold on me. Shortly after that week of hell, I messaged her. We agreed to meet, but I had a different mindset this time about the relationship. Basically if she was flakey about hanging out then it was over. That's exactly what she was, it was a few hours before the meet up time and she was acting like she didn't really want to. I ended it there out of spite, even though she had my heart. In response I was insulted completely, was told that she saw her ex while I was recovering from trying to kill myself, screamed at, and shoved hard at least 5 times. And yet, in the end, in her eyes, I was only after sex. I wish so much that I could rewind time and never meet her. Still I feel so broken, but this experience will impact me and teach me valuable lessons. It even got my creative side out, so I wrote a poem:
The Pier
Sitting at edgewater, alone, an escape
Covered, the pier protects, weathered by time’s relentless storms,
A shield from waters cold embrace, from past pains, from rain.
Stepping out from the cover, facing it, it flows, falling,
Amidst the symphony of raindrops drumming on my skin,
Surrounded by noise and chaos, unsure,
At first, it stings like the prick of truth, then refreshing,
Like the first breath of a new day, waking from a dream.
It ebbs, the flowing rain, the aching pains
Like tears shed by the sky, washing away
The weight of yesterdays, the burden of regrets,
In its wake, only a melody remains
A song of rebirth, sung by the sea's gentle sway.
Good luck out there people and notice the red flags earlier to save yourself from losing yourself to someone who couldn't care less about you.
The healing might take awhile.
You might feel foolish.
But the lessons will make you better...
Some of us need to get burnt by the flame to figure out not to get too close.
A situation that was long lasting and paniful, but thought you a valuable lesson. Don't underestimate your potential in writing and poetry, it's beautiful. Take good care of your talent to write and use it as a source of your own happiness. Live in the moment
Thank you for this poem
beatiful poem!
RED FLAGS! My God I didn't even know what red flags really were until a few months after my ex left me. I had to do a lot of research on relationships and narcissism and what "being a simp" meant just to try and figure out what was happening bcuz she definitely played me good and I was blind at the time. I learned about red flags and, at the time we were together I totally disregarded them bcuz she made me feel like no girl ever had before, she told me she loved me and she felt it was a sign that we came together at the exact right time and we were meant to be together and all this other shit. I truly thought she loved me and was genuinely a sweet and caring and loving girl, but now that I've have time to think back and realize some things, there were more than a few red flags that should have prevented me from ever getting close with her at all. Once I understood and realized some things, I felt like a total and complete idiot for bypassing all the ugly truths that I let fly over my head. I should have known better to let it turn into anything serious but I had never felt a connection or vibe like the one she apparently shared and with me and she was very persistent and eager to be with me, treating me very well and always doing kind things for me. But then she switched up. She lied to me and started seeing another guy behind my back. But now I know what to look for the next time I meet a girl, that is if I ever give another girl a real chance. At this point I think I'd rather not take a risk on damaging my mental and spiritual health like she did to me. These hoes out here can be so devious and fuck your life up in a real bad way. So I think I'll just stay single for a while. But please for all the guys out there, beware of red flags and anything that would seem out of line or anything that would lead you to think she's lying or using you, such as her social media life and her past relationships.
I’ve read comments like the one in about to make, but I hope whoever reads this knows that I, ME, typing this right now means every word. I’m sorry that life wasn’t what we thought it was going to be. You’re heart is rare & pure. Don’t let the world harden it. You’re not alone. And I love you. Real love. The only kind of love we know. You , are, not, alone. Stay pure.
Thanks love you too brotha/sista and the world is cruel enough that even if you think it’s the one they will always stab you in the back 😑 thing is I never get sad just frustrated
I understand that guys from all over the world have gathered here to get nostalgic about their failed relationships.... I'm with you
my heart was broken guys. She was my everything and now she's gone with somebody else
We all share the same stories........
"I wish there was a way to know you're in the good times before they end"
I ended it 8 years ago after 5 years being together. We were meant to get married...2008-2015 were some of the best years of my life. Did so many things that were new and life changing...traveled...never noticed how time flew when I was with her. Now time seems to fly with each succeeding year...it's ok.
I'm not a good person and I knew it. Now she's completely moved on and I'm happy for her. I do feel sad sometimes...and even now typing this I feel these emotions coming back but much faintly than last time...but like someone else said, I now miss the times and who I was. Spent over 8 years for that high again only to realize it was all a waste. Don't waste your time looking back because time will eventually help. Don't be like me who drove everyone away, lost all serious opportunities, and starting over at 30. What I wish for everyone is to find their pathway towards happiness. I'm not 100%, I still feel like I'm not at home, I feel like I'm in the wrong timeline...but I've accepted it. Otherwise...it could get worse again and I'd probably say today wasn't so bad. I'm not downplaying depression - I just want someone to listen to me and learn from me...
I guess it's something I had to hear at this moment of my life. I am glad that i saw your comment. Knowing that I am not alone in the feeling of wrong time and place brings.... calmness, I guess. We are not alone, so stay strong and move towards your dreams. I wish you all the best in this world.
@@Bagumchukyeah mang - if anything, just know even if you can or can’t get over them, just know the final outcome for dwelling for over 5 years means missing out on the other good things in life. My dad passed away in 2017, same year I got my DUI, so many drunken nights and so many cringe moments of me fighting my friends until they kind of moved on…because I kept going back to thinking about her while drunk, was in college for a while but never bothered to strengthen my friendships and left for a bit (just came back and I don’t fit in with the 20 year olds….its ok I guess), all my army friends are either out or are finally Sgts or Captains with a promising career and even my best buds I used to talk to…I haven’t sent a message since 2015…my dads family - we were once all close now it’s all broken up and we never talk to each other - different factions that hate me because of my antics…moved away from a place I didn’t realize was my true home to somewhere else nearby that never has felt like home….all my exes that I broke up for selfish reasons and girls I tried to get with have all moved on to better lives…only 1 died and I learned about it this past year…I hope she didn’t suffer in the end …my brother, my 2 best friends in 2019 was the realest time ever - best year post 2019 but still kept wanting more…2019 was also year I went to Cali but still kept wanting a girl like her to take the pain away. COVID and now everything is fucked and lose all contact and sanity since then. It’s 2023 and they’ve all moved on. I live at home and my savings are all gone. Don’t be like me and waste your time - no matter how you feel, I’m the final outcome if you keep dwelling on them for more than 8 years…
@@Dankdalorde I feel sorry for you, I think it happens when we're not really ready yet and have our desires determine our path, that's why I don't believe in love, I just simply understand actions.
Same thing happened to me. Similar timeline. 2007-2014
"I wish there was a way to know you're in the good times before they end"
The only way to know you're in the good times and even acknowledge that times are good, is to know pain and depression. Life is a culmination of infinite yins and yangs. Look at this time of feeling lost/broken just as normally as you do when you're happy. Both are valid emotions, could not exist without the other, and emotions that we have to go through to grow and learn. You can't run away from despair, the longer you try to fight it the deeper it sinks its teeth in. Just let it take you until it's ready to let go. You'll be okay.
7 years boys and still counting. The wound is fresh and the pain presists.
I was told time heals it, I think we just get used to it because I don't feel I have healed at all.
You might be looking in the wrong place mate, find yourself again, do things you like, go out have a walk at the park on your own and apreciate every good thing you see smell and hear.
“God did not intend my happiness to rest with someone else.” - Marcus Aurelius
@@andresvega6001 real.
Seven years here as well and I also don’t think I am even a bit healed… i just learned how to ignore or dismiss the thoughts
@@luccadeana I think that is the only way to do it. There is no other way to get past it.
She was one of my best and closest friends and we found ourselves just kind of drifting together naturally. It wasn't long, only 3 months, but we've known each other and were best friends for years prior. It would have been a year as of a few days ago, she left me the day after Valentines day. i'm annoyed that its taking so long to move on, but at the same time I'm glad we found each other and enjoyed each other's company; I hope she's doing alright.
This mix gave me chills, it taps right where i feel right now!
you never know how much you love the person until you loss them
2 years, they moved on after the first week, and im here after 2 years still thinking about them, it doesnt hurt anymore but they will forever stay in my head i cant forget the good times with them the late night drives, their bed on a cold autumn night, but such is life, i thank them for making me who i am. Without them i would have never been who i am today- i wouldnt have the best friends i could ever ask for and i would not be myself. everyone always tells you to be yourself and i know its hard to believe but truly there will come someone who appreciates you fro being you. and now after 2 years i have finally started talking to people again and even have a planned date with someone next week. Things. Do. Get. Better. In the end
Good luck with your date man !!!
Wow this hits places that very few other pieces of music have hit. Am actually crying!!!
At this moment Im just trying to survive day to day this playlist takes me back to the start and all the best times it makes me smile again but if I come back to reality everything falls apart 5:57 6:02 6:04 6:05 I need help and people to talk to
You are loved, and you will be happy again.
Next time you are walking down the street, smile at the random people you pass by.
All of a sudden, you will start realizing you are surrounded by loving people.
You will find happiness again.
He got engaged a few months after he broke up with me. It was tough hearing that at first but then I realized maybe he had moved on already when we were still together. I wasn't a good person but I definitely did not deserve being thrown away like garbage and so easily too. Sometimes I regret the day I ever met him and how much I gave him throughout our relationship. I hate that I think about him sometimes and how well he must be doing to get engaged with a girl he had only been talking to for 6 months. I wonder how he lives with himself and how much guilt he must also be feeling because for a person like me it wouldn't take me a few months for getting over someone. We dated for a year and three months. It felt like an eternity. I gave him my all and I was left with my heart broken into little pieces. Slowly, I am picking them up and sewing them, pinning them, healing them. Slowly, I am becoming myself again. I can feel myself becoming a better person and everything that I experienced was just the universe's way to make me stronger and wiser. I can't thank them enough!
There's no more gut wrenching feeling than this, knowing you gave everything and they're off with that other partner. You will remember this, you will grow from this, and you will gain strength from this. Use this time to do that hobby you didn't do because your partner didn't do it, talk to people you otherwise wouldn't talk to, and love that beautiful and lovely person we know you are. I know the feeling of the eternity, everything is thrown in the wind and you don't even know where to start. If the only thing you accomplish in a day is making your bed than I am super proud of you!
Stay healthy,
Random internet stranger :)
@deathrow1469 that means so much thank you !
I’ve experienced heartbreak before, was very depressed about 3 years ago because of it. But the pain only lasted about 3 months. I don’t think I’ve experienced ultimate heartbreak like some of you have. I don’t think I’ve truly been in love with any woman before and part of me is scared to be. This playlist almost makes me feel like one day I will experience true love but also true heartbreak… it makes me feel really strange, but that’s the best way I can describe it.
Hey everyone, it gets better. I promise it does. No matter how special they were or what they did, you deserve life far past the death of your past. Keep going.
From my experience in order to love someone, you have to learn to love yourself, in the sense that you put yourself first when it's appropriate. Don't become narcissistic, but establish strong boundaries. That makes you less vulnerable and allows for love. That would be my advice.
Love does not exist
I usually don't comment on videos, but I will make an exception for this one, as I also have a story to share.
My first year of college was not easy at all for me. There was a girl that I fell head over heels for. Even though we only knew each other for those eight or so months, I was legit envisioning my entire future with this girl. One thing led to another, and we stopped talking... wow, has it really been a year ago? Anyway, we stopped talking in November 2022. However, things did not end there. Due to my inability to move on, I eventually landed in the hospital twice, as I was at the lowest point in my life. The pain did not end there, though. When I got back home, the news of this spread to my close friends. A few weeks after I came back, they eventually moved on from me.
Though I am leaving out a lot of details here, that is not why I wrote this comment for you all to see. What I want to tell you all is that the pain that you are feeling will heal. Not only that, but you will grow out of the pain, and it will change you for the better. Trust me as someone that has dealt with several mental crashes, even though I am only 20. For example, I am living a very good life right now. I have a close friend group, a stable job, and loving relationships. Trust me when I say that you too will feel good again at some point in your life. Though I can guarantee this, I cannot guarantee when it will happen. Most times, it takes me months, if not years to get better. For you, it might take weeks or even months. But, the end result is the same: you will heal and move forward.
For everyone that has made it this far, thank for you reading. I wish all of you nothing but the best from this life. Keep your head up, and always remember that things will get better, as I cannot stress that enough. The flow of time might be cruel (it feels like only yesterday I was 16), but time heals all wounds. As a parting gift, I will leave you with this:
Begin again, but know when to let go.
Farewell, and take care :)