I found out last year that my liver isn't doing too good. The Dr believes it was found in time to recover fully. I always told myself that once a Dr tells me I need to quit, I'd just quit. It's not that easy. I've been struggling to stay sober but at this moment I'm a few days shy of 3 months sober. Hopefully I'll pull it off this time 😊
You will get there my friend. It is a tough road on which you will feel a lot of pain and regret. Through all of it remember you are loved beyond what you can know from mortality. Our job here is to feel emotions and learn to love inspite of circumstances. Soon, as the fog clears, you will know sobriety to be the aligned state of your self, and synchronicity will bring better luck, and a better life for you and those you love. I believe in you! It isn't corny. It is true unconditional love. Peace be with you.
You don't want to give up on alcohol too late, and you never want to give up on sobriety too early. You narrowly avoided what some never get the chance to. Never take this for granted. sometimes I like to play this game and pretend like I just traveled back in a time machine. and I'm here right now in this moment getting to make the better decision or the worst decision. and I remind myself that I get to live this reality right now, healthy, pain-free, and everything well by all accounts. it reminds me to show gratitude. to be present. to know that this IS real, and I don't have to go back to the future, old, tired, and on my death bed. Here's to living that reality someday, and making sure that we get there by making the best decisions we can TODAY. 👁️❤️👁️
1631 days sober after 26 years of being intoxicated almost daily. Once you have enough knowledge about how alcohol works, how it manipulates you, it sinks in deep. I can hang out with people that drink for hours, I keep beer in my fridge for buddies and I couldn´t care less about it.
Where would I be if I was still drinking....well, I'm watching this at 5:40 PM so I would probably be sitting on a bar stool somewhere partaking in happy hour. I'm almost a year alcohol free, best decision I ever made. I have more energy, I'm more productive, I sleep better, I have more money, my blood pressure is perfect for the first time in my adult life. No downside to not drinking for me!
The call it “ happy hour “ when really it should be called: “ I’m going to make a lot of bad decisions that I won’t remember while my liver screams bloody murder and my stomach tears itself up and I look like an idiot with fake confidence / spend all my money/ throw it up in ( hopefully) the toilet/ wake up feeling like 💩/ looking like a musty zombie hour”😂 I wonder how many people would think twice about purchasing?
I stopped drinking almost 3 months ago. Last week I bumped into a work colleague who had not seen me in a year (when I was drinking). Her exact words were ‘you looked so happy and relaxed - I want what you are having!’. The one change was giving up the booze. 🇺🇸 🇳🇿
If doctors could sell the benefits of sobriety, everyone would be on it. sometimes we're just too stubborn to know that we're getting in the way of our own blessings 😇
I hope this community doesn’t find this a negative comment but I want to say to everyone out there if you find sobriety, hold onto it with both hands and wrap a rope around yourself and stay grounded. I went back to drinking after seven years and it has taken me 10 years to find my way back and in that time I have done damage to my body, my relationships, etc. etc. some of Which will never be repaired. But I also want to say that now I have found sobriety again, and this channel has helped me immensely. By Jay, giving me the grace to have a few Asterisk days I’m finding my path back to a life. Which has helped me see a set back doesn’t mean utter failure. I can rise again. God bless you my friend ❤
Sometimes a minor setback helps you realize what you want to GET BACK! Good on you for showing yourself love and compassion instead of victimizing yourself and getting lost in another spiral 🎁
Not negative...more hopeful, and a bit of a warning to those of us who are considering loosening up on our determination. Thanks for your post and may your climb back to sobriety be easier this time and full of rewards.
The 5 words that resonated to me was "I found my way back" Welcome home, keep on going forward, along with watching Jaes daily videos of encouragement & valuable information ❤️😸
After almost losing my life eight months ago due to alcoholism I can vouch to all in this community its danger. I spent 10 days in the hospital and it was touch and go. After my discharge it took 3 months to recover. I use this horror to stay sober. I have a fantastic wife who took great care of me. In December my check up showed my pancreas was working and my liver was back to normal! Everyone continue to do the best you can and stay with this channel.
In my opinion, a person needs both positive and negative motivations to stay sober. The truth is that the [ edges of the horror will dull ] and the memory will lose its power as it recedes deep into the past. That is when you need happy, positive motivations to stay sober.
Going on 80 days sober..feel great..eat better..sleep better..have actual natural energy..want to actually start my life instead of just living amongst everyone
98 days today. I'd probably be divorced by now and have lost my wife and daughter, and probably would have just drunk myself to death as I was starting to see health problems rise up (high BP and chest pains) since quitting -my weight has eased back down a good bit -my blood pressure is much better -my mental health is extremely good in comparison -my marriage is on a great trajectory -my relationship with my daughter is better than ever -i'm able to take on difficulties in stride (got in a car accident and lost the car i just paid off, but replaced it with a newer one) Sobriety is truly the best gift I've had in life
When I drink it’s always the same thing every time. Hospital then detox. I had almost 18 months sober then quite a few relapses then hospital detox again. 26 days sober today. Put myself in a program cause I started losing things again. Tired of starting over. Got a new sponsor going to work the steps. So glad for motivational videos like this addicted to them. If I continue drinking then death is the only thing I haven’t found yet. And that’s not an option
Thankyou for this. Alcohol dependent 30+ years after getting drunk on a bottle of bucksfizz at 10 years old to deal with anxiety insomnia & stress but I really so want to stop as not helping these issues years later. This& everyone's comments will help. Good luck staying sober everyone ❤
Alcohol was my go-to for depression. I was a VERY active and happy drinker/drunk. I only stopped because of my bloodwork. When I stopped drinking my depression hit HARD but I leaned in on my Dr. and Therapist and am pulling through! Reaching out to the professionals has been amazeballs for me. I'm on antidepressants and sleep meds and I'm FINE with that. I'm only 80days sober. When I'm years sober and feeling steady, I'll work on getting off those but for NOW, I'm focusing on sobriety. I am a LITTLE nervous about staying sober on Easter with my drunk family. They are not so supportive when they get drunk, but I love and miss them.
Because we love and miss __________ is not a reason to put yourself into a situation that may cause you undue stress and the possibility of causing a premature end to your sobriety. There are plenty more holidays to spend with your family, where you can and should be more confident in your sobriety journey. A good sign is: when you won't be nervous ✅
In my trivial opinion, it's a dangerous high risk situation. I would skip the Easter dinner and wait until you have several more months of sobriety in your history. If you feel that you simply must go, I would merely make a token appearance of fifteen or twenty minutes at the very beginning of the event. If you need an excuse, work with a friend to set up a fake. "emergency " call that pulls you away from the event.
You don't take credit for others' sobriety. It's true that each person has to make the decision for themselves and work towards sobriety. However... The valuable facts & information, positive feedback, and videos you create has surely been the catalyst or the final motivational factor for many people. You have already saved more than one life by now, perhaps several, and that's the most honorable thing one person can do for another. You can stay humble, but I don't have to be. Thank you for what you do.
14 weeks ago I accepted the conviction that my relationship with alcohol was no longer OK. Once I embraced that truth then I began to watch your videos along with a few others. Since then I’ve been getting sober again… A few times. Every time I held off it was amazing how fast my body recovered and felt better. My energy was better, my sleep was better and my overall mental and emotional outlook was better. Every time I would go back and try to drink “responsibly“ then it just went back to feeling bad and anxiety kicked in and the outlook didn’t look so good. With God’s help, I am six days sober again… And it is amazing how much better I feel mind, body and soul…again!! This time I cut the cord off at the nub. I cannot reattach the plug anymore. And I don’t want to! Thank you Jae for your encouragement!
I went through the same thing, I would keep trying to "moderate" my drinking and "drink ie a normal person".... nut it never worked out like I hoped it would. Just leaving alcohol behind has made such a big difference for me. Now that it is simply not an option I am doing so much better. I am over 190 days sober today! Stick with it man, you will get there!
You know this community loves a great success story and we look forward to hearing you put those big numbers together. From following your progress, I feel like you're on the verge of the breakthrough you're looking for Joe!
I feel that "responsible drinking" is a sales tactic used by alcohol manufacturing companies. If you cannot persuade the customer to buy five units, at least get them to buy one unit.
Thank you again for all you do. Thanks to this channel, I am 68 days sober. I’ve never been sober for this long in my adult life. From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much…
68 days is something to genuinely be proud of, and NOT to take for granted. Many people never get to where you are and this is something you've wanted needed, wished for and prayed for. And now that that wish has come true, now that you HAVE this blessing, protect it at all costs.
Another brilliant video Jae, for which thanks. I’m not a man of faith or even belief, but if there were a heaven, I’m sure you’d get a very high place in it for all the kindness you show and help you give to us reforming drinkers. 10 1/2 months sober and hoping I never lift another drop of alcohol to my lips again. I’m not alone, I travel this road of hope with my brothers and sisters, I want to reach out and encourage them. ❤❤❤
Heaven and Hell are already both inside of us. As anyone knows who's struggled with addiction, we know what hell we can go through in the pursuit of just temporary happiness. Being of service to others is the greatest gift any of us can give, and I'm happy that there are more people NOW helping me to win this war. Because if there ISN'T a heaven after this is all said and done, I'd be sad to not meet you all there 😇
i'm 336 days sober and truly never thought i could get here. the world has opened up to me again. there is joy and possibility in each moment of sobriety - these are its gifts. meet and receive them. and enjoy ♥️
Dead in my trespasses and sins, if I didn't surrender to God Almighty. But really thank You Jesus because I probably would be dead or in a really really bad place cuz I remember where He brought me from and it was ugly and painful. Thankful I'm sober today. And thankful for this channel. God bless
I am very low on the totem pole as far as time sober but today is my 2nd day with no drink. I’ve never been able to stop. This channel is going to be my motivation.
You are as high on the totem pole as someone sober for years. Every day alcohol-free is a success for ALL of us. Congratulations on your success thus far.
Would you rather be 2 days sober, or 5 years from getting sober? You're making progress and all journeys start with a single step in the right direction. I WILL NOT DRINK TODAY!
I would have derailed my life. In june 2021 I had drank every day for two years. I was looking at how those two years had been and I came to the conclusion that quitting is the only option. I had three short slips in first four months, then it sticked. Sober since October 3rd, 2021. Many areas of my life have improved a lot. I had nearly 30 000€ worth of debt because of my drinking. In summer I will have 0 debt. I'm so grateful for that and other beautiful gifts of sobriety.
Exceptional episode! So vulnerable, and that is how sobriety happens. Truth. Addiction is only truth in the fact of itself--which most addicts deny. I wish I had more to offer folks in terms of strategy for sobriety. I don't. I was an Olympic class drinker--a supremely functional alcoholic. Probably rolling with a .2 BAC for several years before an unrelated illness caused me to die for a moment. In that space of truth I saw how I had ruined my life and others, and for some reason also graced with a second chance. Returning to my body I found it easy to ignore what my body craved because my mind was now reconnected to my higher self. In six years since the lessons of near death keep coming, and one thing I have just realized is that for all the pain I was trying to kill before I quit, I also killed all the good memories too. Emotions are the glue that make experiences significant. Alcohol distorts and destroys emotional connections, making experiences less meaningful. Good or bad. We are supposed to feel all of it in full technicolor splendor. It is how you grow as a soul. Peace be with you all!
One of the greatest gifts is to experience our feelings. So Many people just try to run from the bad ones and think that they can curate their life to only the best in the brightest moments. I'm glad to hear that you've gotten yourself an advanced degree on how to live better 🙏
Possibly dead. Had fatty liver disease, clinically obese, high blood pressure, chewing copenhagen and smoking marlboros. Today: fatty liver totally reversed, exercize, clean diet, 8 hours of sleep per night, day 447 sober, day 52 nicotine-free, off losartan blood pressure med, lost 45 pounds, jog/walked marathon (26.2 miles), walk/jog 10,000 + steps per day. Praise to my savior Jesus for bringing this prodical son back from binge drinking pig pen. :)
Congratulations to you Jae on being healthy and energetic instead of squirming on the couch saying to yourself "I feel so bad. I feel like a pile of garbage. "
I was at 30 days but I crashed bad and relapsed this week when going through relationship issues. Needed this video to get back on track again, because it’s just too dangerous to keep it going again - too many bad things can happen. It’s not worth it. My life got so much better when I was sober and so I want to keep going again
Setbacks are just opportunities to GET BACK to where you want and deserve to be. The most important relationship that you're ever going to be in is the relationship with yourself. There's really not much sense in trying to work on a relationship with someone else if you aren't really loving and respecting yourself first. Watch: "Learn to LOVE yourself FIRST, after getting SOBER" ua-cam.com/video/6iAQjaAQnW8/v-deo.htmlsi=vGEEVnDPRqmnOWwM
@@jeffreyjohnmann it definitely is! I remembered how much I do not miss that anxiety of what I did or said the night before, or the hangovers. Thanks for your support!
@@GettingSoberAgain makes so much sense - abusing alcohol is definitely not showing love or respect for myself. Thanks for your support and for the link - will check it out now!
Sudden troubles are not the end of the road but merely a bend in the road. When you make a detour or a mistake, get back up again and point yourself again in the direction of good health and self improvement.
Tomorrow is day 200 of sobriety for me. A lot of what you say in this video hits me hard. Like you, I would drive myself home because the bars I went to were right down the street, so I convinced myself it was fine. I also smoked cigarettes while drinking and partook in the little baggies you talked about. It's all so terrifying to me now when I look back. Any one of those times that little baggy could've been something else. I've had people in my life die from that very reason, and it's just horribly sad. I was stuck in the cycle for so long, thought I was just "having fun" because all other aspects of my life were seemingly normal and I was well put together. No more. My eyes become more open each day that I'm sober. Thank you for sharing!
Imagine what our friends and family saw when they looked at us, or anyone who was sober and had gone through recovery that could recognize the bullshit we were trying to pull off 🙃
132 days is a tremendous accomplishment!!! It took me YEARS to get that far without drinking, so many resets and failures and "slip-ups". Keep it going, please don't go back. Life is better without alcohol!
@@jeffreyjohnmann Thank you so much! It’s definitely been a trial and error process. Many Dry January’s and sober months before I realized I mentally couldn’t take anymore.
Thanks for your kindness and words of wisdom Jae, you've inspired many. I did 18 months dry, took a year sabbatical and now 11 months sober again. You were part of my journey
I didn't drink for 18 months during covid, not commuting took a lot of stress away. Back at work, we had a bad drinking culture. At the same time, my less talented colleague became my boss. Then at the same time, I had to fly back to UK and deal with a very sick parent during the omincron lockdown. I was stuck in a English seaside town, during a bleak winter and figured my dad didn't need his nice liquor collection, lol. The irony is, his ashes are sat in that liquor cabinet hahaha. It's easy to justify drinking while grieving, i gave it another year and became so depressed from the drink I was done. 4.20.2024 was the last day. Dropped nearly 50lbs since then.
The crazy thing is, people say you loose friends when stopping drinking... that wasn't my case, because of drinking I have no friends. The only friend I had was the booze, and being sober I realize they weren't my friend after all. Stopping drinking was the easiest thing ever..... dealing with thoughts and feelings without the ability to drink them away is the hardest thing ever.
Been sober since Dec 31. And every day I try to be a good person. Yes in my drinking days I did some damage to people around me and to myself. But all I can do is thank the Big Guy for my blessings and be a good person tomorrow. Thank you for your support 🇺🇸 🇳🇿
I don't know if I would be dead. But that is where I was headed. Drinking since a teenager. Now... I am 198 days sober. I am doing the best I can. Thank you all for your testimonials, keep working hard.
I went 107 days… there’s no more “*’s”; I just have to start over. Nothing “bad” happened- yet.. but I have zero control. I need to hold my own hand and pull myself back out of the fire.. I know why I’m doing it again. It numbs, it distracts- I was so “proud(?)” of myself for the growing pains I was allowing myself to go through, without aid… God help me; the hardest thing is putting the bottle back down.. . I’ve DEFINITELY noticed: it was easy to stay sober. It’s hard to get sober. Don’t take that first drink. Just don’t. I promise it’s not worth it!!! It’ll suck you back in. So hard so quick. Maybe synapses in your brain, maybe familiarity- or self identify….. Please just don’t
20 days in my no alcohol March with the intention to keep going. Hence, I craved a glass of Champagne while I watched the Academy Awards but a glass of seltzer sufficed:) My sleep improved from day 1, and the money I've save thus far, wow! Congratulations to your mom and partner, you are surrounded by wonderful women.
Hey Jae -' Yes thanks for reminding me -' if I hadn't been SOBER I'd be slowly deteriorating am so grateful to put a Halt to ALCOHOLISM-' keep up with the good works helping those like US all in struggle..spread out this message ..Thanks again ...
I'm so happy to hear from you multiple times this week! It's like finding a familiar face on the battlefield during a long campaign. Here we are still standing ✨
I’m 203 days sober and everyone close to me, even my boyfriend is surprised I’ve made it this long. I was a party girl and binge drinker. If I hadn’t have gotten sober, I don’t think I would have my new job, or I would’ve gotten fired. My bf probably wouldn’t be sober. I probably wouldn’t be doing things I love like taking dance classes and working out.
I probably be homeless, was having problems sleeping and was tripping. Stoped drinking, started working out sleeping better and working more hours to catch up on bills.
Getting sober was the best decision I made. I honestly don't know if I'd like me as much as I do today but it was on the small steps I took that helped me realize I needed to care about myself and extend a hand to the drowning prone guy i used to be. I still swim now and again but I'm no longer diving into the deep end flirting with disaster. No more empty bottle shrines around the trash can and no more hang overs at work or on a day off recovering. I've actually done some cool shit in the last couple months. Continally thankful to this channel for assisting me in learning not to be abusive to myself. It's not abusing alcohol it's abusing yourself. Hammering back drinks only hurts and robs us of the beautiful and loving inner selves we want to be and find.
What a lovely sentiment and accurate observation! You must have come across some pretty good information 😸😸😸 Patiently waiting btw to hear this list of "cool shit in the last couple months" Your friend, Jae (the guy with long hair)
@@GettingSoberAgain Cool shit like opening up an external drive and fixing it. Picking up my guitar and playing again. Having the energy to take my kids to the museum and other places I would only plan to do when "I have the time and energy". Writing. Getting a bored old man to draw and look at something of his own creation. Being able to credit the laughter, smiles conversations to my own natural self and not "Drunk Kurt" The coolest of all is building the confidence to get to know myself better without alcohol as a security blanket. Jae I think you know your efforts to better yourself and inspire others is a wealth of a mindstate that makes turning your health and life around the coolest shit for the Y2K20s. Getting over emotional and behavioral barriers to a guaranteed personal revolution. 😏
What an inspirational video Jae👍 I am fast approaching six months sober so here we go. I now sleep all night and I remember my dreams which the majority are all happy ones! I am never hungover anymore(I must have been the worst at dealing with them ever!) I now make positive and constructive decisions. I am always able to be a full time, anytime designated driver for any of my family, without saying "Sorry I ve had a beer, get a cab or well go another day" (which then never happens!) I am now physically active everyday, I have fallen back in love with the gym. I have definately lost weight. I have definately more disposable income. I could keep going 😂 I am not saying its been easy, I am sometimes glad its not as I have been tempted recently to just pick up a pack of beers from the shop, It couldnt hurt? Could it?? I will fight this everyday, some days I dont need to fight too hard, other days this journey can be relentless and so cruel. I am not about to give up on me! Not tonight or any other night and I dont care who I offend by politely refusing a glass/bottle/pint of it! My sincere thanks to Jae and this community
Ive surpassed day 80 and also trying to get out of debt due to alchol and stupid decisions. Its definitely getting easier day by day but these videos really help. Love how honest you are and everything you say resonates so much. Such an inspiration. Thank you
Yeah that debt is a killer. Like I said, I was $18k in credit card debt plus interest, but now I have no back interest and pay off my cards every month back to $0. It's ALL a journey. And it's always good. keep track of your own results. maybe get yourself a big white board and put it in your bedroom so you can visually see your different goals. maybe you have a weight loss goal, or a muscle building goal, or a ping or credit card down goal or putting money into a savings goal, or X amount of days sober goal, saving towards a vacation, or saving up for a down payment for a new car. That's why I always talk about getting these things out into the open. because so many people just stuff what's going on in their lives into the back of their minds and they don't have a clear visual. If you don't have a clear visual, you can't clearly see your path. And if you can't see your path, you don't know where you came from to appreciate where you're going. 🫡
I’m 14 days sober. It’s been a long time since I’ve been able to stop for over two weeks after several tries. This time I am committed. My headaches have gone away. I feel that temptation to just drink socially, but I’m saying no and keeping track of my No’s. These videos are so helpful. I watch one every morning so thank you for sharing and being so honest.
A teacher is only as good as their students! You have studied well and are passing the tests! You are developing the skills to help others, and someday, someone will be in need of what you've applied to your own life 💪 thanks for reaching out 🙏🙏🙏
I still have a drink in my hand, but it's coffee these days. Today is day 10 sober from alcohol. I pray strength to those that are trying and slipping up a few times. For me, I slipped MANY times. Thank you Jae for this channel!! I've swapped alcohol for a pen & paper
i started to work at the psych ward a couple of weeks ago and i have had a lot of bad mental health problems myself and it feels good to help other people struggling, a lot of people if not all got problem with alcohol and thats why they ended up in there, a few of them have done horrible horrible things. its very sad when you think about it. alcohol is a hell of a drug. i wanna quit, i cant handle alcohol and i know that for a fact, i hope i can stay sober for a long period of time and dont fall back into it again. good luck everyone, wish you all the best!
If you want to quit for good, you have to want it intensely instead of just sorta wanting it. Don't just "hope" you can quit. It's better to say "I will strive and work as hard as I can to get and stay sober."
Still pretty early in being sober 3rd month in things haven't went my way almost relapse tonight until i saw this video aa meetings never worked for me i am very appreciative of this channel and glad its giving me the motivation to keep going and stopped me from making a horrible decision thankyou for the channel it really helped me wen nothing else has i think your advice and topics are perfect and very helpful for start to sober life
Congratulations on your sober streak. Many people do not make it past seven days until they try several times. Keep up the good work and the positive momentum.
I relate so much to what youre talking about in this video J. Alcohol crippled my mental health, physical health and my creativity. I had played the guitar through my teenage years but ditched it for booze for a hot minute. Im 27 now and finally went for it and went for my dream of becoming a musician. I started busking a little while ago and ended up getting myself a gig for a 30th birthday party on my first day street preforming (later that same day). Now rather than spending 100-150 dollars a week on alcohol im making that money doing what i love. Its not much but its a start. 171 days in now. The thought of even having alcohol sends anxiety and nervous pain all through my body. God bless you and your family 🎉
Even the biggest trees start with the smallest of seeds. The grass may be greener on the other side, but it will always be greener where you water it. Keep nurturing this gift, and watch it grow. Be patient, stay motivated and regardless of how rough it gets,.or what off putting lessons you learn along the way...NEVER LOSE YOUR ENTHUSIASM FOR YOUR CRAFT. (there is always something new to learn, and there is always 10x the amount of time required to practice your new found skills)
Its been a year now since I decided to cut back on my drinking which turned into just quitting. This channel has be my constant companion and made a huge difference on my journey. I relapsed a few times - but each time it was only for one day as I would make it a point to watch your videos every single day - wether I drank or not. I kept a daily log of what I did everyday (both positive and negative things) and if I had a drink I logged it. Again, I did relapse a few times but after a year I can say (as I counted ) that Ive had fewer drinks in the last year (22) then I would have had on a bad weekend before. Thanks Jae and everyone here for being here.
Your inner demons are always in your mind close enough to whisper temptation into your ear. Moving to a new city is not going to change that reality. The best thing is to change how you cope with frustration and stress.
I would still be drinking and thinking about quitting manyana, manyana... Quitting felt like a life sentence, "you are sentenced to a life without alcohol" But at some point you start realizing the damage it is doing to your body and your life and looking for someone who can inspire you to want the rewards of a sober life and not to give up even if you have some relapses. You, Jae, are that person for me and so many others. Thank you.
Wow this video really hit home. I just got my elastase test back last night and mine is low as well. I'm so thankful to be 78 days sober today. I can't thank you enough for your videos. This is the best one yet! ❤
👋 I'm inspired and motivated by your help and the positive and encouraging comments found here. I made it through St Paddy's Day, and hope you did as well. Sober 8 days now, but the rest of the success is I've only had drinks on 8 of the last 50 days when I started keeping track. So glad I stumbled across your channel. Thanks.
First of all, congrats for your success!! And thank you for your videos and channel. It helps many of us in our journeys. I am sober now for over 8 years. I was guzzling an entire liter of straight clear rum on a nightly basis. If I didn’t stop I absolutely would not be here typing this comment.
Another great video Jae ❤ I’m 80 days today and this last week I’ve noticed a tangible improvement to the amount of available energy I can tap into. I’m more active, I run regularly, eat better, sleep SO well and dream every night. My anxiety levels are low, and I’m positive everyday. I took some time to reflect on these last 80 days, and realised these things. I was impatient earlier, almost expecting a lightbulb moment of profound change, but these things are incremental aren’t they, and self reflection / meditation can really help you understand the subtle differences, and be grateful for them. And I’m hugely grateful for you!
I'm always grateful to see you pop up in the comments with yet ANOTHER wonderful update! Btw, do you take creatine at all? I recently started taking again after 15 years and now my eyesight and my energy have improved even more! Today I didn't wear glasses at all while driving 👁️❤️👁️
@@GettingSoberAgain I’ve actually started taking creatine again, I used to take it when I worked out regularly as a younger man, but I never knew about the other benefits of it. From what I’ve read, we probably had more creatine in our diets in our ancestral diets. I wasn’t aware about potential eye sight improvements, but I’ll see if I notice any changes now you’ve mentioned it (pun unavoidable!), I have a rare type of macular degeneration which is being checked in on every year, be very interested if this helps me! I’ve definitely seen an improvement in my workouts, maybe the creatine has a part to play in my overall energy improvements too. Interesting…. Either way, what I’m doing is working so I will carry on and enjoy all the positive benefits I’m experiencing!! Always feel welcome to drop in with an update when I have one. Thank you!
@@_.alex.- I've heard Joe Rogan talk about Macular support supplement by PURE ENCAPSULATIONS and he swears by it in that it's helped to maintain his eyesight and it's not gotten any worse since taking it regularly.
I drank and smoked. Then had a stroke. It was a wake up call. I still have the urge to drink and smoke. This page is great. Thanks for your help. I’ve been sober 3 months.
The body is designed to heal. It's not just about removing the poison, but putting in the healthy foods your body needs to rebuild. Let food be thy medicine. Keep challenging yourself along your self discovery journey. We only have 1 life, so make it one worth living 🤗 Here's to your success and 4 months on the horizon 🥳🥳🥳
Wow, what a brutally honest video . I’m do glad you made it through the dark days , mate . Your content is brilliant and so inspirational for so many folk . If I didn’t give up the booze and weed, I probably would have lost my wife and daughter , who mean the world to me . All the best to you Jae , from your pal in Bonnie Scotland ! PS well Done to Catmom and your good lady too !
This time sober again I've been taking amino acid supplements I really really believe it's made a big difference, my brain & thoughts are different this time in a much better way. Also I'm eating healthy and regularly to keep my blood sugar levels stable, this is also helping as well as other strategies that we hear about.
I was trying many years getting sober with my own power, affirmations, regulary meditations for 16 years, meditation/silence retreat of 10 days, rehabs... nothing helped. Out of depseration I gave my life to Jesus, and he really changed my heart and set me free of weed and cocaine. It was really a miracle. Now Im getting of alcohol and cigarettes. Always keep praying and trusting in Jesus. May God bless you all.
Try this out: When we ask God for assistance, what if God is there with us? So if we are WITH God, are we going to do what we are asking for help with? God is there...WITH you. Watching. So, in those times of temptation, simply try this mantra "I am with God", like you're walking into a VIP party and you're God's +1...Say it with confidence! know that you belong in that exclusive room and that exclusive company of sobriety and that God opened the door for you. I AM WITH GOD!
An Awesome video. Thank you. This candour and honesty is very much needed by me, who doesnt suffer fools gladly (and there are quite a few on the internet!) You have motivated me to find out what "...getting bloods done..." means and if I can get a similar blood test here in the UK. All the best to you sir.
"getting your Blood labs done" = blood test A Complete Blood Count (CBC) checks red blood cells, white blood cells, and platelets. A CBC can identify conditions including anemia, heart disease, autoimmune disease, leukemia, and other cancers. The comprehensive metabolic panel (CMP) is a blood test that gives doctors information about the body's fluid balance, levels of electrolytes like sodium and potassium, and how well the kidneys and liver are working. my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diagnostics/24508-blood-tests
You and the community help me so much, it gives me alot of motivation to push myself to do better. I never had been a real problem drinker, but the weekends where the problem for me. And now im doing alot better, but now and then i got a little detour but never as bad as it was before. But we keep pushing to do better, and i know you can to! to whoever read this ;) i am at day 4 atm
Weekends have been ingrained into our brains as party time since we first went to school. I'm sure you're resourceful enough to find alternative things to do and as a matter of fact, why don't you share you go to list of what to do on the weekends instead of DRINK?? Day 5 here we come!!!!
Jay, I have been here for a while. Ive had myself a few asterisks and now my mindset has changed completely. As you always say, it’s not about the destination it’s about the journey. For the last three years, I’ve gone 14 months solid without a drop and up until this current comment I would say a total of a half a dozen drinks in the 12 month span. They’re all at Milestone events, random one off at a fancy dinner, etc. but I have not drink more than 2 in any setting in these last 3 months. My mindset around drinking has also given me the confidence to kick nicotine and weed. Im so happy you’re here Jay I’ve given up the whole aspect of just 100% total absence because it seem to still occupy my mental space just as much as it was when I was getting drunk on the daily. I know I’ll never be a “Normie“ but I have a much better sense of awareness about my actions and how I make a choices and for that I can thank you.
Well if it makes you feel any better, I always like to remind you that this is "No Judgement Sobriety". I already know you're being harder on yourself than anyone else would be. This may come as a shock, but I don't particularly mind if people drink. What I mind is, when people in the community know better, and wind up back where they started. It's all about progress. I'm not under any delusion that any more than a small single digit percent of people here are going to remain "totally abstinent". At the end of the day, I just want people to be proud of themselves. if that just means they went from 20 beers a day down to 2, cool. If that means that they took a year off and reprioritized they lives and goes back to casual drinking on special occasions, so be it. And I'm happy to have people here like yourself, who can be honest, happy, and hold their heads up with integrity knowing that they are truly doing their best because they actually attempted their best.
@@GettingSoberAgain exactly! However, I do strive for absolute absence, because I know how easily you can slip right back into the old habits. It’s happened, and I had to get myself back on track… Again.
I'm 10 days sober and 9 days w/o a sigaret.. I told myself this: "Yas! I wanne smoke, Yes, I wanne drink.. but I don't want to smoke and don't want to drink more.." ❤
Getting sober…again. Day one down, almost through day two. My drinking is weird. I have zero cravings during the day until about 4:00-4:30 through 8:00 pm. If I can make it through those hours each day, I’m golden. But those hours are BRUTAL!
Day 1... Again. Went to my doctor a week ago. Got all the supplements I need to help heal all the damage I've caused due to drinking. Got my enemies to my sobriety list and my sober buddies list handy. I know what I'll be doing to keep myself busy, but I'm also prepared to protect my energy when needed. I can't tell you what # attempt this is, but I've done at least a solid year of work to get to this point. Please pray for me, y'all. I'm sick and tired of feeling sick and tired.
That's how it should be in my opinion. After watching one my our videos, I hope that you feel like you just had a conversation with a good friend that cares about you.
Daily gratitude (regardless of how your day is going) will help to keep you in the right headspace. It's important to remember where we came from to appreciate where we are going. 🙏
Well dog gone, if I managed to get sober on my second attempt, there might not be a channel lol. Which is not to encourage you to keep drinking, but rather, to propel you to get ahead on all areas of your life much sooner than I did. You can always go back if you really think it's not working out for you, but the fact is...you know it's not worth repeating the pain, the time, the money, the energy, the hangovers, and the deterioration of your physical and mental health. Keep the streak alive!!!
Had a Relapse - reasons...a toxic person and life stresses. Since I can't escape either or both, I have to change my ways! ...Again...today is Day 2 again!!!
Been sober 52 days… the longest I have ever went without drinking since I turned 21 maybe even earlier. The last few weeks have been much harder than the first few. But I know it’s not an option anymore. I could feel something bad coming. I know I won’t end well if I go back. Doesn’t make it any easier though.
This is your Rocky Moment, your montage moment! It's time to heal, to rest, to train, to eat healthy, to stay busy and to truly EMBRACE all that's in your control to give yourself a new lease on life. 52 days can easily turn into 6 months, and into a year. Alcohol will always be there, it's not going anywhere and it's never going to sell out. So don't sell yourself short by selling out on your own sobriety. Youve earned this 52 day streak 👏👏👏
I am so greatful for your channel , I am in early sobriety and looking for tips and inspiration, thank you for your advices. You talk fast, have many good points. It's economy, it's the health. Drinking, smoking goes together, depleting put health.i have to make myself a list to keep up what I agree to is my new priority, to stop using alkohol as a crutch.
Hey Jae been a minute. Just wanted to say that after a long time of struggling on my own I have been talking with an addictions therapist and trying this sober thing differently this time. Thanks for everything man. I'll be back with updates!
There you are with the best personal logo IN TOWN!!! The thing that we all need to remember is that we may not be proficient in the tools that we have at our disposal at the time. Be patient with yourself along your journey, and continue learning how to master the tools that you have at your disposal. Don't be part of the crowd that says " I tried it and it didn't work"
If I was still drinking at best I'd be angry, depressed and feeling utterly hopeless. Last summer I went on a caravan holiday with my wife and 4 year old daughter which in theory should have been a wonderful time but drinking every day as if I needed to enhance the experience made me feel lousy both physically and mentally. That was rock bottom for me there was no denying it anymore: I had to change. Don't get me wrong life is still tough sober and I understand how easy it is to cave in and go for the quick fix alcohol offers but daily existence is so much more manageable and fulfilling without it. 81 days sober today! Thank you Jae for everything you do, your channel saved me from myself.
Sometimes we all need to be saved from ourselves. I'm happy that you're seeing clearly now and not willing to lose focus on what matters most. those 2 people need the solid foundation of you in their lives 🫂
this: 10:20 through 11:10 . I paused this and went to a meeting. only 4 days in (...again) but this is literally ringing bells for me. we need a '...Again' hoodie! thank you for your candidness.
sounds like this video caught you JUST in time 😎 If you are interested in any merch, we have a tiny story on Shopify if you want the three dots mug. getting-sober-again.myshopify.com/ Patreon supporters get a "Getting Sober... Again" mug for free. www.patreon.com/GettingSoberAgain
I'm sober 5 months. If I didn't stop drinking I would be homeless and jobless and struggling with all my problems. Hopefully I would still be alive? Being sober I have have an apartment, been working at my job for almost a year (longest I've had a job in awhile), I have hope again and reconnection with God to help me get through hard days. Sobriety is the only way for me to life and stay sober.
Hey Jae, thanks for another awesome video. I dread to think where I’d be if I was still drinking!!!!! I had too many times when I did & said things which scared me when drunk, & I was a lucky boy not to end up deep in trouble!! Never want to go back to those days. Life is so much better, a bad day sober is better than a great day drunk and I never wake up wishing I’d had a drink!! Coming up to NINETEEN WEEKS now Jae, your videos have played a HUGE role in my longest dry spell ever! I’m off for a run now, see you next week👍 C
“Hell is meeting the person you could have been.”
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Wow, I never heard that before
I can’t afford this !
🔥⚡ QUOTE OF THE DECADE! ⚡🔥
@@GettingSoberAgain I'm with you on this one!!!
I found out last year that my liver isn't doing too good. The Dr believes it was found in time to recover fully. I always told myself that once a Dr tells me I need to quit, I'd just quit. It's not that easy. I've been struggling to stay sober but at this moment I'm a few days shy of 3 months sober. Hopefully I'll pull it off this time 😊
Good job 👏 👍 👌
3 months is wonderful. Congrats!
You will get there my friend. It is a tough road on which you will feel a lot of pain and regret. Through all of it remember you are loved beyond what you can know from mortality.
Our job here is to feel emotions and learn to love inspite of circumstances. Soon, as the fog clears, you will know sobriety to be the aligned state of your self, and synchronicity will bring better luck, and a better life for you and those you love.
I believe in you! It isn't corny. It is true unconditional love. Peace be with you.
Congrats! You're doing well, keep it up.
You don't want to give up on alcohol too late, and you never want to give up on sobriety too early. You narrowly avoided what some never get the chance to.
Never take this for granted.
sometimes I like to play this game and pretend like I just traveled back in a time machine. and I'm here right now in this moment getting to make the better decision or the worst decision.
and I remind myself that I get to live this reality right now, healthy, pain-free, and everything well by all accounts. it reminds me to show gratitude. to be present. to know that this IS real, and I don't have to go back to the future, old, tired, and on my death bed.
Here's to living that reality someday, and making sure that we get there by making the best decisions we can TODAY. 👁️❤️👁️
1631 days sober after 26 years of being intoxicated almost daily. Once you have enough knowledge about how alcohol works, how it manipulates you, it sinks in deep.
I can hang out with people that drink for hours, I keep beer in my fridge for buddies and I couldn´t care less about it.
🫡 we Salute you
Where would I be if I was still drinking....well, I'm watching this at 5:40 PM so I would probably be sitting on a bar stool somewhere partaking in happy hour. I'm almost a year alcohol free, best decision I ever made. I have more energy, I'm more productive, I sleep better, I have more money, my blood pressure is perfect for the first time in my adult life. No downside to not drinking for me!
Congratulations on your sober streak. Keep up the good work
Daaaaang look at all these people LIKING your comment. You're a bonafide MVP!
The call it “ happy hour “ when really it should be called: “ I’m going to make a lot of bad decisions that I won’t remember while my liver screams bloody murder and my stomach tears itself up and I look like an idiot with fake confidence / spend all my money/ throw it up in ( hopefully) the toilet/ wake up feeling like 💩/ looking like a musty zombie hour”😂
I wonder how many people would think twice about purchasing?
The worst day sober is better than any day drunk.
I stopped drinking almost 3 months ago. Last week I bumped into a work colleague who had not seen me in a year (when I was drinking). Her exact words were ‘you looked so happy and relaxed - I want what you are having!’. The one change was giving up the booze. 🇺🇸 🇳🇿
If doctors could sell the benefits of sobriety, everyone would be on it. sometimes we're just too stubborn to know that we're getting in the way of our own blessings 😇
Congrats on your sober streak. Keep up the good work.
63 days sober today! Thanks Jae for all the support and information!
Congrats on 63 days sober!! That's a long sober streak. Keep up the good work.
Heck yeah, keep it up! I can’t wait to see your 365 day streak update right along side mine. We are going to make it a year, no problem!
You're a shining star in our sky this evening ✨
"Getting sober doesn't open up the gates of heaven and let you in. But it can open up the gates of hell and let you out."
An all time BANGER!
Yes -' I 💯 % truly agree with ya !!!! AMEN 🙏...
Best sentence I ever hear 😅
Nice
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I hope this community doesn’t find this a negative comment but I want to say to everyone out there if you find sobriety, hold onto it with both hands and wrap a rope around yourself and stay grounded. I went back to drinking after seven years and it has taken me 10 years to find my way back and in that time I have done damage to my body, my relationships, etc. etc. some of Which will never be repaired. But I also want to say that now I have found sobriety again, and this channel has helped me immensely. By Jay, giving me the grace to have a few Asterisk days I’m finding my path back to a life. Which has helped me see a set back doesn’t mean utter failure. I can rise again. God bless you my friend ❤
Sometimes a minor setback helps you realize what you want to GET BACK! Good on you for showing yourself love and compassion instead of victimizing yourself and getting lost in another spiral 🎁
Not negative...more hopeful, and a bit of a warning to those of us who are considering loosening up on our determination. Thanks for your post and may your climb back to sobriety be easier this time and full of rewards.
The 5 words that resonated to me was "I found my way back"
Welcome home, keep on going forward, along with watching Jaes daily videos of encouragement & valuable information ❤️😸
@@katmom9660 thank you
I think you would really enjoy episode #94: { Sobriety Is Mine and I am NOT giving it back }.
I’m 2 months sober this time around. And this is the last time around. Thanks for what you do man. It helps a lot.
We are all here helping one another. I wouldn't be here without you too, ya know 🫡
Speak your truth king 🎉
45 days here 🙏🏽
Congrats on your sober streak. Keep the positive momentum going!
After almost losing my life eight months ago due to alcoholism I can vouch to all in this community its danger. I spent 10 days in the hospital and it was touch and go. After my discharge it took 3 months to recover. I use this horror to stay sober. I have a fantastic wife who took great care of me. In December my check up showed my pancreas was working and my liver was back to normal! Everyone continue to do the best you can and stay with this channel.
It's amazing how the body can recover when you really cut out the abuse & take good care of yourself. Stay Sober & don't ever go back.
I'm happy you are on the road to recovery. It blows my mind that something so ingrained in our society can be so incredibly damaging.
👏 WHAT 👏 A 👏 TURNAROUND
Yes yes yes !!!! Keep going !
In my opinion, a person needs both positive and negative motivations to stay sober. The truth is that the [ edges of the horror will dull ] and the memory will lose its power as it recedes deep into the past. That is when you need happy, positive motivations to stay sober.
Going on 80 days sober..feel great..eat better..sleep better..have actual natural energy..want to actually start my life instead of just living amongst everyone
Same. New Years Eve was my last drink. It really does get easier the longer you go without, IMO.
80 days closer to your best story ever told 😎
Congrats on your sober streak. Keep up the good work.
Yes man...that is it!
98 days today. I'd probably be divorced by now and have lost my wife and daughter, and probably would have just drunk myself to death as I was starting to see health problems rise up (high BP and chest pains)
since quitting
-my weight has eased back down a good bit
-my blood pressure is much better
-my mental health is extremely good in comparison
-my marriage is on a great trajectory
-my relationship with my daughter is better than ever
-i'm able to take on difficulties in stride (got in a car accident and lost the car i just paid off, but replaced it with a newer one)
Sobriety is truly the best gift I've had in life
Congratulations on your long sober streak. You are so close to a triple digit number.
You are a shining example of HOW ITS DONE!!!!!!
250 days, oh man I am so happy!
Well done. 👏. Not so good here 😔
👏👏👏 well deserved 250 of hard work and dedication! reap those benefits!
We are all imperfect. Keep striving to improve yourself. @@nosajkrad
Congrats on your long sober streak Mark. Keep striving to improve yourself.
@@nosajkrad you can dot it 🙏🙂
Ive been back and forth watching this channel trying to quit and now im 83 days sober and never wanna look back
Aren't you glad we practice NO JUDGEMENT SOBRIETY! 😎
We are all imperfect. We have to recover from our mis steps and try again to improve ourselves.
When I drink it’s always the same thing every time. Hospital then detox. I had almost 18 months sober then quite a few relapses then hospital detox again. 26 days sober today. Put myself in a program cause I started losing things again. Tired of starting over. Got a new sponsor going to work the steps. So glad for motivational videos like this addicted to them. If I continue drinking then death is the only thing I haven’t found yet. And that’s not an option
Three weeks today! My sleep is HEAVEN!
Keep it going! There are a lot of great benefits to an alcohol-free life!
Great sleep is half of having a great day 🌞
Congrats to you on improved health and improved sleep. Hooray
Thankyou for this. Alcohol dependent 30+ years after getting drunk on a bottle of bucksfizz at 10 years old to deal with anxiety insomnia & stress but I really so want to stop as not helping these issues years later. This& everyone's comments will help. Good luck staying sober everyone ❤
Alcohol was my go-to for depression. I was a VERY active and happy drinker/drunk. I only stopped because of my bloodwork. When I stopped drinking my depression hit HARD but I leaned in on my Dr. and Therapist and am pulling through! Reaching out to the professionals has been amazeballs for me. I'm on antidepressants and sleep meds and I'm FINE with that. I'm only 80days sober. When I'm years sober and feeling steady, I'll work on getting off those but for NOW, I'm focusing on sobriety. I am a LITTLE nervous about staying sober on Easter with my drunk family. They are not so supportive when they get drunk, but I love and miss them.
Because we love and miss __________ is not a reason to put yourself into a situation that may cause you undue stress and the possibility of causing a premature end to your sobriety.
There are plenty more holidays to spend with your family, where you can and should be more confident in your sobriety journey.
A good sign is: when you won't be nervous ✅
In my trivial opinion, it's a dangerous high risk situation. I would skip the Easter dinner and wait until you have several more months of sobriety in your history.
If you feel that you simply must go, I would merely make a token appearance of fifteen or twenty minutes at the very beginning of the event.
If you need an excuse, work with a friend to set up a fake. "emergency " call that pulls you away from the event.
That's some nice strategy there...thanks!@@gwillis01
You don't take credit for others' sobriety. It's true that each person has to make the decision for themselves and work towards sobriety. However...
The valuable facts & information, positive feedback, and videos you create has surely been the catalyst or the final motivational factor for many people. You have already saved more than one life by now, perhaps several, and that's the most honorable thing one person can do for another.
You can stay humble, but I don't have to be.
Thank you for what you do.
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14 weeks ago I accepted the conviction that my relationship with alcohol was no longer OK. Once I embraced that truth then I began to watch your videos along with a few others. Since then I’ve been getting sober again… A few times. Every time I held off it was amazing how fast my body recovered and felt better. My energy was better, my sleep was better and my overall mental and emotional outlook was better. Every time I would go back and try to drink “responsibly“ then it just went back to feeling bad and anxiety kicked in and the outlook didn’t look so good. With God’s help, I am six days sober again… And it is amazing how much better I feel mind, body and soul…again!! This time I cut the cord off at the nub. I cannot reattach the plug anymore. And I don’t want to! Thank you Jae for your encouragement!
I went through the same thing, I would keep trying to "moderate" my drinking and "drink ie a normal person".... nut it never worked out like I hoped it would. Just leaving alcohol behind has made such a big difference for me. Now that it is simply not an option I am doing so much better. I am over 190 days sober today! Stick with it man, you will get there!
You know this community loves a great success story and we look forward to hearing you put those big numbers together.
From following your progress, I feel like you're on the verge of the breakthrough you're looking for Joe!
Thank you Jae. Keep me in prayer. Heading to a week long business convention in Vegas and ALL expenses are paid for!@@GettingSoberAgain
Thank you! @@jeffreyjohnmann
I feel that "responsible drinking" is a sales tactic used by alcohol manufacturing companies. If you cannot persuade the customer to buy five units, at least get them to buy one unit.
Thank you again for all you do. Thanks to this channel, I am 68 days sober.
I’ve never been sober for this long in my adult life. From the bottom of my heart, thank you so much…
68 days is something to genuinely be proud of, and NOT to take for granted. Many people never get to where you are and this is something you've wanted needed, wished for and prayed for.
And now that that wish has come true, now that you HAVE this blessing, protect it at all costs.
Congrats on your sober streak. Keep the positive momentum going!!
Thanks for the encouragement! No specific sobriety goals. Just falling in love with the sober process. Every day sober is truly special.
Another brilliant video Jae, for which thanks. I’m not a man of faith or even belief, but if there were a heaven, I’m sure you’d get a very high place in it for all the kindness you show and help you give to us reforming drinkers. 10 1/2 months sober and hoping I never lift another drop of alcohol to my lips again. I’m not alone, I travel this road of hope with my brothers and sisters, I want to reach out and encourage them. ❤❤❤
Heaven and Hell are already both inside of us. As anyone knows who's struggled with addiction, we know what hell we can go through in the pursuit of just temporary happiness.
Being of service to others is the greatest gift any of us can give, and I'm happy that there are more people NOW helping me to win this war.
Because if there ISN'T a heaven after this is all said and done, I'd be sad to not meet you all there 😇
i'm 336 days sober and truly never thought i could get here. the world has opened up to me again. there is joy and possibility in each moment of sobriety - these are its gifts. meet and receive them. and enjoy ♥️
Never stand in the way of your own blessings 😇
Almost 40 years sober .
Best decision for life.
This video really spoke to me, if I didn’t stop drinking I’d be in big trouble.
Dead in my trespasses and sins, if I didn't surrender to God Almighty. But really thank You Jesus because I probably would be dead or in a really really bad place cuz I remember where He brought me from and it was ugly and painful. Thankful I'm sober today. And thankful for this channel. God bless
Thank you LORD! 🙏
Amen!
I am very low on the totem pole as far as time sober but today is my 2nd day with no drink. I’ve never been able to stop. This channel is going to be my motivation.
You are as high on the totem pole as someone sober for years. Every day alcohol-free is a success for ALL of us. Congratulations on your success thus far.
Would you rather be 2 days sober, or 5 years from getting sober? You're making progress and all journeys start with a single step in the right direction.
I WILL NOT DRINK TODAY!
I would have derailed my life. In june 2021 I had drank every day for two years. I was looking at how those two years had been and I came to the conclusion that quitting is the only option. I had three short slips in first four months, then it sticked. Sober since October 3rd, 2021. Many areas of my life have improved a lot. I had nearly 30 000€ worth of debt because of my drinking. In summer I will have 0 debt. I'm so grateful for that and other beautiful gifts of sobriety.
Congratulations on your sober streak and your improved financial stability. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for cheering me up
72 days of no alcohol
I'm happy to help. Other than our weekly videos, what are your top five methods of cheering yourself up?
@@GettingSoberAgain Gym and weed lol
Exceptional episode! So vulnerable, and that is how sobriety happens. Truth. Addiction is only truth in the fact of itself--which most addicts deny.
I wish I had more to offer folks in terms of strategy for sobriety. I don't. I was an Olympic class drinker--a supremely functional alcoholic. Probably rolling with a .2 BAC for several years before an unrelated illness caused me to die for a moment. In that space of truth I saw how I had ruined my life and others, and for some reason also graced with a second chance. Returning to my body I found it easy to ignore what my body craved because my mind was now reconnected to my higher self.
In six years since the lessons of near death keep coming, and one thing I have just realized is that for all the pain I was trying to kill before I quit, I also killed all the good memories too. Emotions are the glue that make experiences significant. Alcohol distorts and destroys emotional connections, making experiences less meaningful. Good or bad. We are supposed to feel all of it in full technicolor splendor. It is how you grow as a soul.
Peace be with you all!
One of the greatest gifts is to experience our feelings. So Many people just try to run from the bad ones and think that they can curate their life to only the best in the brightest moments.
I'm glad to hear that you've gotten yourself an advanced degree on how to live better 🙏
I love the feeling of waking up in the morning and remembering that I DIDN'T drink the night before!
Anxiety every day, quite drinking anxiety long gone 🎉
Brother I have gone overboard with my drinking and I am not going to give up on me.
We only truly have ourselves. This is your time to wright the happy ending that you deserve 📖
Possibly dead. Had fatty liver disease, clinically obese, high blood pressure, chewing copenhagen and smoking marlboros.
Today: fatty liver totally reversed, exercize, clean diet, 8 hours of sleep per night, day 447 sober, day 52 nicotine-free, off losartan blood pressure med, lost 45 pounds, jog/walked marathon (26.2 miles), walk/jog 10,000 + steps per day.
Praise to my savior Jesus for bringing this prodical son back from binge drinking pig pen. :)
Thanks 😊 for this channel Jae! SO super helpful in tips on this journey to be the best version of me I can be.
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YOURE FREAKING AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!
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@@GettingSoberAgain Thanks for being inspiring! 😀
@@derekhath380 Likewise 😉 I bet you're like, the coolest person all your friends know 😎
@@GettingSoberAgain Not the drinking ones, unfortunately...
Congratulations to you Jae on being healthy and energetic instead of squirming on the couch saying to yourself "I feel so bad. I feel like a pile of garbage. "
I was at 30 days but I crashed bad and relapsed this week when going through relationship issues. Needed this video to get back on track again, because it’s just too dangerous to keep it going again - too many bad things can happen. It’s not worth it. My life got so much better when I was sober and so I want to keep going again
This is great news, get back to it. Life is better without alcohol!
Setbacks are just opportunities to GET BACK to where you want and deserve to be.
The most important relationship that you're ever going to be in is the relationship with yourself.
There's really not much sense in trying to work on a relationship with someone else if you aren't really loving and respecting yourself first.
Watch:
"Learn to LOVE yourself FIRST, after getting SOBER"
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@@jeffreyjohnmann it definitely is! I remembered how much I do not miss that anxiety of what I did or said the night before, or the hangovers. Thanks for your support!
@@GettingSoberAgain makes so much sense - abusing alcohol is definitely not showing love or respect for myself. Thanks for your support and for the link - will check it out now!
Sudden troubles are not the end of the road but merely a bend in the road. When you make a detour or a mistake, get back up again and point yourself again in the direction of good health and self improvement.
Tomorrow is day 200 of sobriety for me. A lot of what you say in this video hits me hard. Like you, I would drive myself home because the bars I went to were right down the street, so I convinced myself it was fine. I also smoked cigarettes while drinking and partook in the little baggies you talked about. It's all so terrifying to me now when I look back. Any one of those times that little baggy could've been something else. I've had people in my life die from that very reason, and it's just horribly sad. I was stuck in the cycle for so long, thought I was just "having fun" because all other aspects of my life were seemingly normal and I was well put together. No more. My eyes become more open each day that I'm sober. Thank you for sharing!
Imagine what our friends and family saw when they looked at us, or anyone who was sober and had gone through recovery that could recognize the bullshit we were trying to pull off 🙃
@GettingSoberAgain yup! And I honestly feel shameful when I think about it, BUT I'm so grateful to be on the other side now.
132 days sober today. Your videos are saving people's lives! Thank you.
Congrats on your sober streak.
132 days is a tremendous accomplishment!!! It took me YEARS to get that far without drinking, so many resets and failures and "slip-ups". Keep it going, please don't go back. Life is better without alcohol!
@@gwillis01 thank you so much! It’s been a journey.
@@jeffreyjohnmann Thank you so much! It’s definitely been a trial and error process. Many Dry January’s and sober months before I realized I mentally couldn’t take anymore.
You deserve to feel you best! Welcome to 132 day closer to your best life ✨
Thanks for your kindness and words of wisdom Jae, you've inspired many. I did 18 months dry, took a year sabbatical and now 11 months sober again. You were part of my journey
How did your detour go? What lead you back to being sober? I'm sure many here can learn from your story 😸
Curious minds want to know. What made you start on your current eleven month sober streak?
I didn't drink for 18 months during covid, not commuting took a lot of stress away. Back at work, we had a bad drinking culture. At the same time, my less talented colleague became my boss. Then at the same time, I had to fly back to UK and deal with a very sick parent during the omincron lockdown. I was stuck in a English seaside town, during a bleak winter and figured my dad didn't need his nice liquor collection, lol. The irony is, his ashes are sat in that liquor cabinet hahaha.
It's easy to justify drinking while grieving, i gave it another year and became so depressed from the drink I was done. 4.20.2024 was the last day. Dropped nearly 50lbs since then.
The crazy thing is, people say you loose friends when stopping drinking... that wasn't my case, because of drinking I have no friends. The only friend I had was the booze, and being sober I realize they weren't my friend after all.
Stopping drinking was the easiest thing ever..... dealing with thoughts and feelings without the ability to drink them away is the hardest thing ever.
Oh, landed a great new job as well.
Been sober since Dec 31. And every day I try to be a good person. Yes in my drinking days I did some damage to people around me and to myself. But all I can do is thank the Big Guy for my blessings and be a good person tomorrow. Thank you for your support 🇺🇸 🇳🇿
Congrats on your sober streak. Keep striving to be a better person.
I don't know if I would be dead. But that is where I was headed. Drinking since a teenager. Now... I am 198 days sober. I am doing the best I can. Thank you all for your testimonials, keep working hard.
198 is AWESOME! over 6 months is something to be PROUD of!!!
Congrats on your long sober streak.
I’m about to hit 3 months sober and this channel has help me stay on track. Thank you!
Oh YEAH let's GOOOOOOOOO999!!!!!! 3 MONTHS 🔥🔥🔥
Congrats on your massive achievement. Three months is a big deal.
I went 107 days… there’s no more “*’s”; I just have to start over. Nothing “bad” happened- yet.. but I have zero control. I need to hold my own hand and pull myself back out of the fire.. I know why I’m doing it again. It numbs, it distracts- I was so “proud(?)” of myself for the growing pains I was allowing myself to go through, without aid… God help me; the hardest thing is putting the bottle back down.. . I’ve DEFINITELY noticed: it was easy to stay sober. It’s hard to get sober. Don’t take that first drink. Just don’t. I promise it’s not worth it!!! It’ll suck you back in. So hard so quick. Maybe synapses in your brain, maybe familiarity- or self identify….. Please just don’t
A heartfelt message from experience great wisdom in your words friend. I wish you luck, and I’d remind you that you are not alone. ❤❤❤
I was just wondering where you've been @thisresinates5655 ! Happy to have you back, with lessons learned and more valuable tools up your sleeve
Be sure to ask for help and /or encouragement when you need it. Talking can help you untangle the messy ball of thoughts in your head.
I found taking edibles helps with alcohol cravings
20 days in my no alcohol March with the intention to keep going. Hence, I craved a glass of Champagne while I watched the Academy Awards but a glass of seltzer sufficed:) My sleep improved from day 1, and the money I've save thus far, wow! Congratulations to your mom and partner, you are surrounded by wonderful women.
We are all doing this together, thank you for sharing YOUR positive updates 😸
Hey Jae -' Yes thanks for reminding me -' if I hadn't been SOBER I'd be slowly deteriorating am so grateful to put a Halt to ALCOHOLISM-' keep up with the good works helping those like US all in struggle..spread out this message ..Thanks again ...
I'm so happy to hear from you multiple times this week! It's like finding a familiar face on the battlefield during a long campaign. Here we are still standing ✨
I’m 203 days sober and everyone close to me, even my boyfriend is surprised I’ve made it this long. I was a party girl and binge drinker. If I hadn’t have gotten sober, I don’t think I would have my new job, or I would’ve gotten fired. My bf probably wouldn’t be sober. I probably wouldn’t be doing things I love like taking dance classes and working out.
Isn't it amazing how one decision can change your life? 🎁
Congrats on inspiring your boyfriend to be sober. Keep striving to improve yourself.
I probably be homeless, was having problems sleeping and was tripping. Stoped drinking, started working out sleeping better and working more hours to catch up on bills.
That's how to take accountability!!🔥🔥🔥
Getting sober was the best decision I made. I honestly don't know if I'd like me as much as I do today but it was on the small steps I took that helped me realize I needed to care about myself and extend a hand to the drowning prone guy i used to be. I still swim now and again but I'm no longer diving into the deep end flirting with disaster. No more empty bottle shrines around the trash can and no more hang overs at work or on a day off recovering. I've actually done some cool shit in the last couple months. Continally thankful to this channel for assisting me in learning not to be abusive to myself. It's not abusing alcohol it's abusing yourself. Hammering back drinks only hurts and robs us of the beautiful and loving inner selves we want to be and find.
What a lovely sentiment and accurate observation! You must have come across some pretty good information 😸😸😸
Patiently waiting btw to hear this list of "cool shit in the last couple months"
Your friend,
Jae (the guy with long hair)
Curious minds want to know. What new forms of fun have you found in the past three months?
@@GettingSoberAgain Cool shit like opening up an external drive and fixing it. Picking up my guitar and playing again. Having the energy to take my kids to the museum and other places I would only plan to do when "I have the time and energy". Writing. Getting a bored old man to draw and look at something of his own creation. Being able to credit the laughter, smiles conversations to my own natural self and not "Drunk Kurt" The coolest of all is building the confidence to get to know myself better without alcohol as a security blanket. Jae I think you know your efforts to better yourself and inspire others is a wealth of a mindstate that makes turning your health and life around the coolest shit for the Y2K20s. Getting over emotional and behavioral barriers to a guaranteed personal revolution. 😏
What an inspirational video Jae👍
I am fast approaching six months sober so here we go.
I now sleep all night and I remember my dreams which the majority are all happy ones!
I am never hungover anymore(I must have been the worst at dealing with them ever!)
I now make positive and constructive decisions.
I am always able to be a full time, anytime designated driver for any of my family, without saying "Sorry I ve had a beer, get a cab or well go another day" (which then never happens!)
I am now physically active everyday, I have fallen back in love with the gym.
I have definately lost weight.
I have definately more disposable income.
I could keep going 😂
I am not saying its been easy, I am sometimes glad its not as I have been tempted recently to just pick up a pack of beers from the shop, It couldnt hurt? Could it??
I will fight this everyday, some days I dont need to fight too hard, other days this journey can be relentless and so cruel.
I am not about to give up on me! Not tonight or any other night and I dont care who I offend by politely refusing a glass/bottle/pint of it!
My sincere thanks to Jae and this community
This is EXACTLY the amount of pride we all need to keep going and to KNOW we are on the right path ❤️
Congratulations on your long sobriety streak. Keep fighting the good fight.
Jay, you are a beacon of hope, please keep on making these videos. You have inspired me so much
You and me both love. Good luck, we are not alone. 😁😁😁
Ive surpassed day 80 and also trying to get out of debt due to alchol and stupid decisions. Its definitely getting easier day by day but these videos really help. Love how honest you are and everything you say resonates so much. Such an inspiration. Thank you
Yeah that debt is a killer. Like I said, I was $18k in credit card debt plus interest, but now I have no back interest and pay off my cards every month back to $0.
It's ALL a journey. And it's always good. keep track of your own results. maybe get yourself a big white board and put it in your bedroom so you can visually see your different goals. maybe you have a weight loss goal, or a muscle building goal, or a ping or credit card down goal or putting money into a savings goal, or X amount of days sober goal, saving towards a vacation, or saving up for a down payment for a new car.
That's why I always talk about getting these things out into the open. because so many people just stuff what's going on in their lives into the back of their minds and they don't have a clear visual. If you don't have a clear visual, you can't clearly see your path. And if you can't see your path, you don't know where you came from to appreciate where you're going.
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Congrats on being sober. Keep up that positive momentum
I’m 14 days sober. It’s been a long time since I’ve been able to stop for over two weeks after several tries. This time I am committed. My headaches have gone away. I feel that temptation to just drink socially, but I’m saying no and keeping track of my No’s. These videos are so helpful. I watch one every morning so thank you for sharing and being so honest.
A teacher is only as good as their students! You have studied well and are passing the tests!
You are developing the skills to help others, and someday, someone will be in need of what you've applied to your own life 💪
thanks for reaching out 🙏🙏🙏
Congratulations on your sobriety.
I still have a drink in my hand, but it's coffee these days. Today is day 10 sober from alcohol. I pray strength to those that are trying and slipping up a few times. For me, I slipped MANY times. Thank you Jae for this channel!! I've swapped alcohol for a pen & paper
i started to work at the psych ward a couple of weeks ago and i have had a lot of bad mental health problems myself and it feels good to help other people struggling, a lot of people if not all got problem with alcohol and thats why they ended up in there, a few of them have done horrible horrible things. its very sad when you think about it. alcohol is a hell of a drug. i wanna quit, i cant handle alcohol and i know that for a fact, i hope i can stay sober for a long period of time and dont fall back into it again. good luck everyone, wish you all the best!
The best way to rescue others from a sinking ship is to make sure yours isn't sinking too 🚢
If you want to quit for good, you have to want it intensely instead of just sorta wanting it. Don't just "hope" you can quit.
It's better to say "I will strive and work as hard as I can to get and stay sober."
true!@@gwillis01
You look a lot fresher today. Just like I do when I don't drink any alcohol. I currently do not drink. I feel a lot better than when I did.
You deserve to feel your best. Life already has enough pain built into it. There's no sense in adding more to your plate 🍽️
Still pretty early in being sober 3rd month in things haven't went my way almost relapse tonight until i saw this video aa meetings never worked for me i am very appreciative of this channel and glad its giving me the motivation to keep going and stopped me from making a horrible decision thankyou for the channel it really helped me wen nothing else has i think your advice and topics are perfect and very helpful for start to sober life
Do us both a favor: set an alarm for tomorrow morning when you wake up sober and leave us another comment saying that you made it another day sober! 😎
Congratulations on your sober streak. Many people do not make it past seven days until they try several times.
Keep up the good work and the positive momentum.
I relate so much to what youre talking about in this video J. Alcohol crippled my mental health, physical health and my creativity. I had played the guitar through my teenage years but ditched it for booze for a hot minute. Im 27 now and finally went for it and went for my dream of becoming a musician. I started busking a little while ago and ended up getting myself a gig for a 30th birthday party on my first day street preforming (later that same day). Now rather than spending 100-150 dollars a week on alcohol im making that money doing what i love. Its not much but its a start. 171 days in now. The thought of even having alcohol sends anxiety and nervous pain all through my body. God bless you and your family 🎉
Even the biggest trees start with the smallest of seeds. The grass may be greener on the other side, but it will always be greener where you water it.
Keep nurturing this gift, and watch it grow. Be patient, stay motivated and regardless of how rough it gets,.or what off putting lessons you learn along the way...NEVER LOSE YOUR ENTHUSIASM FOR YOUR CRAFT.
(there is always something new to learn, and there is always 10x the amount of time required to practice your new found skills)
Go do it!! Listen to your musical inspiration muse. Do what makes you happy.
Its been a year now since I decided to cut back on my drinking which turned into just quitting. This channel has be my constant companion and made a huge difference on my journey. I relapsed a few times - but each time it was only for one day as I would make it a point to watch your videos every single day - wether I drank or not. I kept a daily log of what I did everyday (both positive and negative things) and if I had a drink I logged it. Again, I did relapse a few times but after a year I can say (as I counted ) that Ive had fewer drinks in the last year (22) then I would have had on a bad weekend before. Thanks Jae and everyone here for being here.
Watching these videos every day helped me a lot too. I am 195 days sober today.
awesome congrats! @@jeffreyjohnmann
✨THIS IS REAL PROGRESS!!! I LOVE IT!!! ✨
Day 3. It's been a rough ride, but I can't go back. Thanks for the motivation, man.
No sense in going back. there's nothing there for you 🫡
Stick with it, day 4 for me!
You got this!
Congrats on starting sobriety. Keep going
Trying to stay sober... again. Your channel is great motivation. Thanks you!
You're in the right place ❤️
Congratulations on being sober curious. Keep striving to improve yourself.
Your inner demons are always in your mind close enough to whisper temptation into your ear. Moving to a new city is not going to change that reality.
The best thing is to change how you cope with frustration and stress.
Another great idea! 💡
I would still be drinking and thinking about quitting manyana, manyana... Quitting felt like a life sentence, "you are sentenced to a life without alcohol" But at some point you start realizing the damage it is doing to your body and your life and looking for someone who can inspire you to want the rewards of a sober life and not to give up even if you have some relapses. You, Jae, are that person for me and so many others. Thank you.
How cool is that?! To be honest, I'm kind of stingy with my money (why I stopped getting haircuts lol). I would rather just BE ME FOR FREE! hbu?
Ah yes one of my favorite slogans. "I want to be me for free " @@GettingSoberAgain
Wow this video really hit home. I just got my elastase test back last night and mine is low as well. I'm so thankful to be 78 days sober today. I can't thank you enough for your videos. This is the best one yet! ❤
Remember, Alcohol, Nicotine, fatty foods and prescription meds are all very hard on the pancreas. It's time to heal!!! keep the momentum going!!!
Your current elastase test result is merely a starting point. Let's hope you continue to improve. Onward and upward to better things!!
👋 I'm inspired and motivated by your help and the positive and encouraging comments found here. I made it through St Paddy's Day, and hope you did as well.
Sober 8 days now, but the rest of the success is I've only had drinks on 8 of the last 50 days when I started keeping track.
So glad I stumbled across your channel. Thanks.
Congratulations on embracing sobriety FWMBigFoot. Keep that positive momentum going!!
@@gwillis01 thank you.
That is exactly how progress is made and YOU are DOING IT!!!
First of all, congrats for your success!! And thank you for your videos and channel. It helps many of us in our journeys.
I am sober now for over 8 years. I was guzzling an entire liter of straight clear rum on a nightly basis. If I didn’t stop I absolutely would not be here typing this comment.
If I were a betting man, I would put my chips on the universe receiving your message of gratitude 🌠
Another great video Jae ❤
I’m 80 days today and this last week I’ve noticed a tangible improvement to the amount of available energy I can tap into. I’m more active, I run regularly, eat better, sleep SO well and dream every night. My anxiety levels are low, and I’m positive everyday. I took some time to reflect on these last 80 days, and realised these things. I was impatient earlier, almost expecting a lightbulb moment of profound change, but these things are incremental aren’t they, and self reflection / meditation can really help you understand the subtle differences, and be grateful for them. And I’m hugely grateful for you!
I'm always grateful to see you pop up in the comments with yet ANOTHER wonderful update! Btw, do you take creatine at all? I recently started taking again after 15 years and now my eyesight and my energy have improved even more! Today I didn't wear glasses at all while driving 👁️❤️👁️
@@GettingSoberAgain I’ve actually started taking creatine again, I used to take it when I worked out regularly as a younger man, but I never knew about the other benefits of it. From what I’ve read, we probably had more creatine in our diets in our ancestral diets. I wasn’t aware about potential eye sight improvements, but I’ll see if I notice any changes now you’ve mentioned it (pun unavoidable!), I have a rare type of macular degeneration which is being checked in on every year, be very interested if this helps me! I’ve definitely seen an improvement in my workouts, maybe the creatine has a part to play in my overall energy improvements too. Interesting…. Either way, what I’m doing is working so I will carry on and enjoy all the positive benefits I’m experiencing!! Always feel welcome to drop in with an update when I have one. Thank you!
@@_.alex.- I've heard Joe Rogan talk about Macular support supplement by PURE ENCAPSULATIONS and he swears by it in that it's helped to maintain his eyesight and it's not gotten any worse since taking it regularly.
I drank and smoked. Then had a stroke. It was a wake up call. I still have the urge to drink and smoke. This page is great. Thanks for your help. I’ve been sober 3 months.
The body is designed to heal. It's not just about removing the poison, but putting in the healthy foods your body needs to rebuild. Let food be thy medicine. Keep challenging yourself along your self discovery journey. We only have 1 life, so make it one worth living 🤗
Here's to your success and 4 months on the horizon 🥳🥳🥳
Wow, what a brutally honest video . I’m do glad you made it through the dark days , mate . Your content is brilliant and so inspirational for so many folk . If I didn’t give up the booze and weed, I probably would have lost my wife and daughter , who mean the world to me . All the best to you Jae , from your pal in Bonnie Scotland !
PS well Done to Catmom and your good lady too !
We are doing it TEAM!!!
I’m loving how I feel at day 17. I’ve just sent a few of your videos to my 27 year old daughter who binge drinks on weekends…
This time sober again I've been taking amino acid supplements I really really believe it's made a big difference, my brain & thoughts are different this time in a much better way. Also I'm eating healthy and regularly to keep my blood sugar levels stable, this is also helping as well as other strategies that we hear about.
I recently started taking creatine again for the first time in 10 years and notice that's been helping to improve my vision!
I was trying many years getting sober with my own power, affirmations, regulary meditations for 16 years, meditation/silence retreat of 10 days, rehabs... nothing helped. Out of depseration I gave my life to Jesus, and he really changed my heart and set me free of weed and cocaine. It was really a miracle. Now Im getting of alcohol and cigarettes. Always keep praying and trusting in Jesus. May God bless you all.
Try this out:
When we ask God for assistance, what if God is there with us?
So if we are WITH God, are we going to do what we are asking for help with? God is there...WITH you. Watching.
So, in those times of temptation, simply try this mantra "I am with God", like you're walking into a VIP party and you're God's +1...Say it with confidence!
know that you belong in that exclusive room and that exclusive company of sobriety and that God opened the door for you.
I AM WITH GOD!
Day -6 : Happy FOURTH OF JULY!! Maybe my first sober? 🇺🇸💥
Congratulations on your sobriety
An Awesome video. Thank you. This candour and honesty is very much needed by me, who doesnt suffer fools gladly (and there are quite a few on the internet!)
You have motivated me to find out what "...getting bloods done..." means and if I can get a similar blood test here in the UK.
All the best to you sir.
"getting your Blood labs done" = blood test
A Complete Blood Count (CBC) checks red blood cells, white blood cells, and platelets. A CBC can identify conditions including anemia, heart disease, autoimmune disease, leukemia, and other cancers.
The comprehensive metabolic panel (CMP) is a blood test that gives doctors information about the body's fluid balance, levels of electrolytes like sodium and potassium, and how well the kidneys and liver are working.
my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diagnostics/24508-blood-tests
@@GettingSoberAgain That's helpful. Thank you.
Ask for a complete blood count. It's a series of several chemical tests done to one vial of blood. It's a very common diagnostic test.
You and the community help me so much, it gives me alot of motivation to push myself to do better.
I never had been a real problem drinker, but the weekends where the problem for me.
And now im doing alot better, but now and then i got a little detour but never as bad as it was before.
But we keep pushing to do better, and i know you can to! to whoever read this ;) i am at day 4 atm
Weekends have been ingrained into our brains as party time since we first went to school. I'm sure you're resourceful enough to find alternative things to do and as a matter of fact, why don't you share you go to list of what to do on the weekends instead of DRINK??
Day 5 here we come!!!!
Congrats on starting sobriety. Keep up the good work.
13th day today! After 4 days, my husband made the same decision… so a new chapter begins. Thank you Jae, these videos are soo helpful!🌺
Happy days ahead you two!
Congratulations on striving for sobriety together
Jay, I have been here for a while. Ive had myself a few asterisks and now my mindset has changed completely. As you always say, it’s not about the destination it’s about the journey. For the last three years, I’ve gone 14 months solid without a drop and up until this current comment I would say a total of a half a dozen drinks in the 12 month span. They’re all at Milestone events, random one off at a fancy dinner, etc. but I have not drink more than 2 in any setting in these last 3 months. My mindset around drinking has also given me the confidence to kick nicotine and weed. Im so happy you’re here Jay
I’ve given up the whole aspect of just 100% total absence because it seem to still occupy my mental space just as much as it was when I was getting drunk on the daily. I know I’ll never be a “Normie“ but I have a much better sense of awareness about my actions and how I make a choices and for that I can thank you.
Well if it makes you feel any better, I always like to remind you that this is "No Judgement Sobriety". I already know you're being harder on yourself than anyone else would be.
This may come as a shock, but I don't particularly mind if people drink. What I mind is, when people in the community know better, and wind up back where they started.
It's all about progress. I'm not under any delusion that any more than a small single digit percent of people here are going to remain "totally abstinent".
At the end of the day, I just want people to be proud of themselves. if that just means they went from 20 beers a day down to 2, cool. If that means that they took a year off and reprioritized they lives and goes back to casual drinking on special occasions, so be it.
And I'm happy to have people here like yourself, who can be honest, happy, and hold their heads up with integrity knowing that they are truly doing their best because they actually attempted their best.
Congrats You seem to be handling life well
@@GettingSoberAgain exactly! However, I do strive for absolute absence, because I know how easily you can slip right back into the old habits. It’s happened, and I had to get myself back on track… Again.
I'm 10 days sober and 9 days w/o a sigaret.. I told myself this: "Yas! I wanne smoke, Yes, I wanne drink.. but I don't want to smoke and don't want to drink more.." ❤
I'm watching your videos every morning to strengthen my daily resolve. You have become my lifeline. Thank you!
I like the sound of that! keep us posted as you continue to watch. Find someone's comment to reply to and or tell us your thoughts about the video 🙏
Getting sober…again. Day one down, almost through day two. My drinking is weird. I have zero cravings during the day until about 4:00-4:30 through 8:00 pm. If I can make it through those hours each day, I’m golden. But those hours are BRUTAL!
Think of a new activity that you can do during the danger period. Distract yourself with something that demands your full attention.
The anxiety is real and the agitation poppin of at anytime moment became very real. Great video content is dead on.
Day 1... Again. Went to my doctor a week ago. Got all the supplements I need to help heal all the damage I've caused due to drinking. Got my enemies to my sobriety list and my sober buddies list handy. I know what I'll be doing to keep myself busy, but I'm also prepared to protect my energy when needed. I can't tell you what # attempt this is, but I've done at least a solid year of work to get to this point. Please pray for me, y'all. I'm sick and tired of feeling sick and tired.
It sounds like you have been preparing - this is AWESOME! You can do this, please don't give up on yourself!
I believe you will succeed, and I know you're on track with your preparations! Keep it up and keep us updated!
you're easy to listen to because your message is not preachy, just down to earth. Stay Well and Thank for you videos.
That's how it should be in my opinion. After watching one my our videos, I hope that you feel like you just had a conversation with a good friend that cares about you.
Probably divorced, homeless & estranged from my adult children. Now 8 & 1/2 years sober and feeling grateful.
👏👏👏 awesome turnaround 👏👏👏
What an amazing, honest, vulnerable video. ♥️
Fun fact: there was another recording of this video that was 4x longer.
So I recorded it, and this one was the result instead 😉
2 years sober from booze as of last month and my life has been nothing short of miraculous since
Daily gratitude (regardless of how your day is going) will help to keep you in the right headspace.
It's important to remember where we came from to appreciate where we are going. 🙏
11 days.. I feel great 🙏🏾
That's wassup let's GOOOOOO!!!!!!
Congrats on getting started. Keep striving to improve yourself.
If not for this channel I would of relapsed for sure thank you 🙏 you don’t know how much it’s my second time trying to get sober
Well dog gone, if I managed to get sober on my second attempt, there might not be a channel lol.
Which is not to encourage you to keep drinking, but rather, to propel you to get ahead on all areas of your life much sooner than I did.
You can always go back if you really think it's not working out for you, but the fact is...you know it's not worth repeating the pain, the time, the money, the energy, the hangovers, and the deterioration of your physical and mental health.
Keep the streak alive!!!
Had a Relapse - reasons...a toxic person and life stresses. Since I can't escape either or both, I have to change my ways! ...Again...today is Day 2 again!!!
Have you seen my video on setting personal boundaries? ua-cam.com/video/1Z9T4QmyjJA/v-deo.htmlsi=HDV91WSUNfY1rrP3
We are all imperfect. We all have to bounce back from our mistakes. Keep striving to better yourself.
Hey I got sober in Cleveland as well!!
#216 #440 #CLE #THELAND #CLVHTS 👋
Been sober 52 days… the longest I have ever went without drinking since I turned 21 maybe even earlier. The last few weeks have been much harder than the first few. But I know it’s not an option anymore. I could feel something bad coming. I know I won’t end well if I go back. Doesn’t make it any easier though.
This is your Rocky Moment, your montage moment! It's time to heal, to rest, to train, to eat healthy, to stay busy and to truly EMBRACE all that's in your control to give yourself a new lease on life.
52 days can easily turn into 6 months, and into a year.
Alcohol will always be there, it's not going anywhere and it's never going to sell out.
So don't sell yourself short by selling out on your own sobriety. Youve earned this 52 day streak 👏👏👏
It does get easier day by day. You should feel better on day 60.
I am so greatful for your channel , I am in early sobriety and looking for tips and inspiration, thank you for your advices. You talk fast, have many good points. It's economy, it's the health. Drinking, smoking goes together, depleting put health.i have to make myself a list to keep up what I agree to is my new priority, to stop using alkohol as a crutch.
Congrats on embracing sobriety.
Hey Jae been a minute. Just wanted to say that after a long time of struggling on my own I have been talking with an addictions therapist and trying this sober thing differently this time. Thanks for everything man. I'll be back with updates!
There you are with the best personal logo IN TOWN!!! The thing that we all need to remember is that we may not be proficient in the tools that we have at our disposal at the time.
Be patient with yourself along your journey, and continue learning how to master the tools that you have at your disposal. Don't be part of the crowd that says " I tried it and it didn't work"
Congratulations on your sobriety
If I was still drinking at best I'd be angry, depressed and feeling utterly hopeless. Last summer I went on a caravan holiday with my wife and 4 year old daughter which in theory should have been a wonderful time but drinking every day as if I needed to enhance the experience made me feel lousy both physically and mentally. That was rock bottom for me there was no denying it anymore: I had to change. Don't get me wrong life is still tough sober and I understand how easy it is to cave in and go for the quick fix alcohol offers but daily existence is so much more manageable and fulfilling without it. 81 days sober today! Thank you Jae for everything you do, your channel saved me from myself.
81 days is a big accomplishment buddy! Keep that going! Life is definitely better without alcohol!
Sometimes we all need to be saved from ourselves. I'm happy that you're seeing clearly now and not willing to lose focus on what matters most. those 2 people need the solid foundation of you in their lives 🫂
love your work bro❤
33 days sober today
Congrats on your long sober streak.
@@gwillis01 thank you! One day at time.
Looks like I’ve seriously damaged me liver. Now have to try and go cold turkey. Potentially just needing to prevent further damage! 😢
Accountability for the win!
this: 10:20 through 11:10 . I paused this and went to a meeting. only 4 days in (...again) but this is literally ringing bells for me. we need a '...Again' hoodie! thank you for your candidness.
sounds like this video caught you JUST in time 😎
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I'm sober 5 months. If I didn't stop drinking I would be homeless and jobless and struggling with all my problems. Hopefully I would still be alive? Being sober I have have an apartment, been working at my job for almost a year (longest I've had a job in awhile), I have hope again and reconnection with God to help me get through hard days. Sobriety is the only way for me to life and stay sober.
Stick with it my friend, life is better without alcohol! Keep it going!
I like this alternative dimension you found yourself in, and thriving! Welcome!
Hey Jae, thanks for another awesome video.
I dread to think where I’d be if I was still drinking!!!!!
I had too many times when I did & said things which scared me when drunk, & I was a lucky boy not to end up deep in trouble!! Never want to go back to those days.
Life is so much better, a bad day sober is better than a great day drunk and I never wake up wishing I’d had a drink!!
Coming up to NINETEEN WEEKS now Jae, your videos have played a HUGE role in my longest dry spell ever!
I’m off for a run now, see you next week👍
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Dang near 5 months?! I LOVE IT! I hope you had a great run!!!
Was hard going, been off the road for 3 weeks, minor health issues-all good now👍
Congrats on your long sober streak.
I’m also part of the BK club. I’m ultimately better off because of the fact. Cheers to you, my friend. 3month4days sober.
Im beyond happy that I made that decision. 80k in debt Gone! 🏆 Happy 3 months to you!!! this is when the real work begins 🫡