The host has done an excellent job of holding this man accountable for his actions. It's actually the first time I've seen him display such disappointment towards a guest. Well done Ridler, I commend you for your approach with this broken individual. 👊🏾🙏🏾🤴🏾
WAIT. Your Dad advised you to dash your BM & Baby onto the streets? And you did it? And when questioned why you didn’t come out, you said “I worked hard to get to where I was at.” The bar is in HELL.
Wow 👏🏿 Ridler first of all I wanna give a Huge Big Ups to You for how you carried this conversation. You held him accountable and gave him tools on how to move forward and how not to give up on his children or himself. You can see the pain in his eyes, it was emotional to watch. He is obviously the common denominator, he chose 2 awful women when from the beginning of both relationships they showed major flaws he should have walked away from. He has done well to find a new woman, get married and create a new family however, I do hope he goes and looks for his 2 elder children. Also, he seems to have issues with confidence & speaking his truth. Therapy will do him well. I wish him healing and strength. Thank you for sharing your story with us Brother, wishing you continuous blessings & love ✨️
Well done Riddler, sometimes people need to hear them home truths. To the guest for taking accountability, and not lying 👏🏾 you need to fight for your kids though! You’ve got this 👊🏾 I hope baby mother NO1 & NO2 sees this and gives him another chance to redeem himself and bond with his kids 😢❤️
To see a big man emotional like that is too sad...hes made a mistakes for real..he needs to get all hes feelings out and apologise to hes kids...hopefully 1 day hes kids can forgive him
Today's episode was 10/10...he helt the guess accountable and its not to say as a man he wasn't trying but honestly I think this guys need therapy..I can imagine that this guy backed off from everything when it all became mentally to much for him to handle... Cycles/ demons will continue to appear unless you address the root cause.
First of all I want to say well done to the father for being accountable! The emotions were raw and real and it’s clear that he has tried but he knows he can do better. Secondly, I want to commend DJ Riddler, you held him accountable for his actions and did not waver. That is good as men to hold each other accountable! Some of you men have your friends doing worse than this father and you say nothing!! Well done overall this was a great episode 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️
👏 👏 👏 we definitely need makes to make other make accountable for parenting failures... violence towards women... etc. Women can't by definition change things.... cos women are often the victims. Men need to show other men what's correct behaviour. Not women. We don't have that power. ❤
People who have a victim mentality have usually suffered from trauma, but haven't developed healthy coping mechanisms. So, they develop a negative view of life, where they feel that they don't have any control over what happens to them. He needs to focus on his own life choices and not those of his children’s mothers. They may have played a part in his struggles but ultimately, a man that wants to see his kids, can find a way.
This father is full of crap. When asked what is the 1st thing he could do to build bridges with his kids and he is sat blank faced saying nothing. Wotless father.
To be fair he was put on the spot. That is an intimate conversation that many fathers prepare for. But not one they intend to say on camera to millions while the child is not even there or watching.
Good to keep him accountable. However, this man been through a lot he has his traumas from life and this experience. Pray he gets the healing he needs because as much as this mother may feel justified, children need their fathers. If all parties have moved on then the focus should be on the children. Men are allowed to be emotional doesn't make them weak, he may sound like he had bare excuses but all I heard was PTSD
This is a very uncomfortable watch the energy back and forth is very nerve raking. The host was not here for none of it and the guest was nervous as hell.
This was a big big episode 10/10 a real man to man conversation. I feel sorry for this Father but I keep hearing excuses from him. When he was asked a question about why did you not go to court for the final hearing and he said because both of my kids already see each other. I'm like to myself you have missed the whole point that was weak from him. By the sound of this Father you can tell his support network around him has not been that good. It seems like riddla is the first person to tell him some home truth. I respect him for that. Fathers have to be held accountable when they mess up and this father did mess up. I do hope he can build a relationship with his kids again.
i feel he could have said more, he was in parliament I met him at fathers4justice rallies back in 011 times, the pause was deep, can't knock a man who becomes emotional about his children, very misunderstood but genuine guy, he clearly loves his kids but just shows he is out of ideas after years of knockbacks and family courts. whatta great host for holding all fathers accountable tho. 10/10 episode
The host did an amazing job. The guest would benefit from therapy. I really wish people would take parenting and procreation more seriously. You cannot pour from an empty cup; his cup is empty. Men need to provide, provide and provide some more; this is the single most practical way to demonstrate your love for your children. Along with being emotionally available to them. In these times bare minimum parenting is not cutting it. Children require a lot of emotional expenditure.
I’m not saying this dad ain’t suffering and don’t care but his approach towards his first two children is slack. He threw in the towel like that and dusted his hands off. The host was right it’s not too late to rebuild a relationship with his children. Great episode!
It’s hard for men. Seems like my man is just tired, gave up and said they’ll come and find me, but they won’t. You’ve had a break, you’ve now got a family, and your oldest can see and understand for themselves, come back harder, it’s tiring and you shouldn’t have to fight for it but you can never give up. To quite your job and go on basics, subjected to drug testing, your whole suitability as a father questioned, courts. Lord knows my man tried but it’s not over until it’s over bro
I watched this episode and it was painful to watch.. not for the guest telling his story but the presenter bullying him and being all righteous. Everyone could see that he regrets his actions but the presenter just kept pushing and pushing and when DJ Ridler ask about his childhood, like he was a certified doctor, that made me cross. DJ Ridlers interviewing style needs work.
Exactly, I spoke to the guest, apparently the way it was chopped and edited made it look like sh*tshow - the pause wasn't how it was, the host just started bullying him, i know for a fact that the guest has been alienated as a parent but it was just edited as he has done nothing in the 7 years of family courts, rallies, parliament, writing and speaking to MPs to change the laws for other fathers to not have to go through Parental Alienation like myself, I feel the guests pain but a "wutless dad" he is not.
There is so much to dissect in this interview. The style & approach, the fathers timeline of events (A DVIP indicates there was domestic abuse), his disassociation , his loss of words when talking to the camera (to his kids) . No apology, or acknowledgment of his lack of regard to his duty as a father, and any steps he will do to bridge the gap. Too many a time I hear parents say my door is open? The child should not be responsible for doing that work!! I can boldly say this having had therapy and my child tell me everything that was up with my parenting & then do the work to have the relationship we have now… it’s work, humbling & a daily commitment but worth it. DJ shouldn’t have gone there in his past as he’s not a therapist but equally the father should have asserted himself with boundaries to not share. It’s evident the father needs more healing, he still blames the mum. I hope he is doing well with his new family. Sending prayers 🙏🏾
@@deborahh2978 I totally agree, DJ thought he was he was Dr. Phil, the guest didn't asset himself in regards to sharing but this was his story, I guess but I didn't hear him blame anyone, he did say he takes 100% responsibility and owned his mistakes so there was no blaming, the story was patched together badly and it was clear more was said and taken out, what I took from it was that he made poor choices to have children with, and this should be a warning for Men before they become fathers and make evil women mothers and deny them access to his children.
@@happyonpurpose exactly, the host was too much. He's not a therapist, you can't bring up childhood trauma, and then just send the guy home with no firm if counseling etc. Once these issues come to the surface, it needs to be talked through, support needs to be offered. And ridla stop the heavy judgement. Just listen and summarise
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Your wicked host..never stop supporting the dads and also letting the dads know they can do better and never to give up....nuff nuff respect big man
The host has done an excellent job of holding this man accountable for his actions. It's actually the first time I've seen him display such disappointment towards a guest. Well done Ridler, I commend you for your approach with this broken individual. 👊🏾🙏🏾🤴🏾
WAIT. Your Dad advised you to dash your BM & Baby onto the streets? And you did it? And when questioned why you didn’t come out, you said “I worked hard to get to where I was at.” The bar is in HELL.
Shout out to the host for making the guest accountable
This dude’s story is all over the place.. and it sounds like everyone else is to blame but him.
real talk you could the way it was chopped and poorly edited made it look like sh*tshow, guess thats the media for you
Wow 👏🏿 Ridler first of all I wanna give a Huge Big Ups to You for how you carried this conversation. You held him accountable and gave him tools on how to move forward and how not to give up on his children or himself. You can see the pain in his eyes, it was emotional to watch. He is obviously the common denominator, he chose 2 awful women when from the beginning of both relationships they showed major flaws he should have walked away from. He has done well to find a new woman, get married and create a new family however, I do hope he goes and looks for his 2 elder children. Also, he seems to have issues with confidence & speaking his truth. Therapy will do him well. I wish him healing and strength. Thank you for sharing your story with us Brother, wishing you continuous blessings & love ✨️
Well done Riddler, sometimes people need to hear them home truths.
To the guest for taking accountability, and not lying 👏🏾 you need to fight for your kids though! You’ve got this 👊🏾
I hope baby mother NO1 & NO2 sees this and gives him another chance to redeem himself and bond with his kids 😢❤️
Unlikely though.... after all this
To see a big man emotional like that is too sad...hes made a mistakes for real..he needs to get all hes feelings out and apologise to hes kids...hopefully 1 day hes kids can forgive him
Today's episode was 10/10...he helt the guess accountable and its not to say as a man he wasn't trying but honestly I think this guys need therapy..I can imagine that this guy backed off from everything when it all became mentally to much for him to handle... Cycles/ demons will continue to appear unless you address the root cause.
I couldn’t agree more
First of all I want to say well done to the father for being accountable! The emotions were raw and real and it’s clear that he has tried but he knows he can do better. Secondly, I want to commend DJ Riddler, you held him accountable for his actions and did not waver. That is good as men to hold each other accountable! Some of you men have your friends doing worse than this father and you say nothing!! Well done overall this was a great episode 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️
👏 👏 👏 we definitely need makes to make other make accountable for parenting failures... violence towards women... etc.
Women can't by definition change things.... cos women are often the victims.
Men need to show other men what's correct behaviour. Not women. We don't have that power. ❤
Absolutely no shame it those tears 😢, but I can’t help thinking all of his problems are self inflicted
People who have a victim mentality have usually suffered from trauma, but haven't developed healthy coping mechanisms. So, they develop a negative view of life, where they feel that they don't have any control over what happens to them.
He needs to focus on his own life choices and not those of his children’s mothers. They may have played a part in his struggles but ultimately, a man that wants to see his kids, can find a way.
This father is full of crap. When asked what is the 1st thing he could do to build bridges with his kids and he is sat blank faced saying nothing. Wotless father.
Looks like he was trying to think of an excuse.
To be fair he was put on the spot. That is an intimate conversation that many fathers prepare for. But not one they intend to say on camera to millions while the child is not even there or watching.
Good to keep him accountable. However, this man been through a lot he has his traumas from life and this experience. Pray he gets the healing he needs because as much as this mother may feel justified, children need their fathers. If all parties have moved on then the focus should be on the children. Men are allowed to be emotional doesn't make them weak, he may sound like he had bare excuses but all I heard was PTSD
Woiiii not the baby father holding the men accountable for once
This is a very uncomfortable watch the energy back and forth is very nerve raking. The host was not here for none of it and the guest was nervous as hell.
The host was shouting too much man. Let the guy speak. You can hold him accountable but the heavy judgement is unnecessary
@PJ-po7fu I think it's very necessary... otherwise, it just carries on. ❤
@@PJ-po7fubeing assertive is not shouting
This was a big big episode 10/10 a real man to man conversation. I feel sorry for this Father but I keep hearing excuses from him. When he was asked a question about why did you not go to court for the final hearing and he said because both of my kids already see each other. I'm like to myself you have missed the whole point that was weak from him. By the sound of this Father you can tell his support network around him has not been that good. It seems like riddla is the first person to tell him some home truth. I respect him for that. Fathers have to be held accountable when they mess up and this father did mess up. I do hope he can build a relationship with his kids again.
This guy is not good with words makes him seen worse than he is.
This podcast needs a law adviser and a therapist during these interviews
i feel he could have said more, he was in parliament I met him at fathers4justice rallies back in 011 times, the pause was deep, can't knock a man who becomes emotional about his children, very misunderstood but genuine guy, he clearly loves his kids but just shows he is out of ideas after years of knockbacks and family courts. whatta great host for holding all fathers accountable tho. 10/10 episode
subscribe off the title of the channel alone. commenting for engagement. cant wait to watch
This was the realest episode of them all.
Glad to have the podcast back. It had turned into a womens show for a while.
The host did an amazing job. The guest would benefit from therapy. I really wish people would take parenting and procreation more seriously. You cannot pour from an empty cup; his cup is empty. Men need to provide, provide and provide some more; this is the single most practical way to demonstrate your love for your children. Along with being emotionally available to them. In these times bare minimum parenting is not cutting it. Children require a lot of emotional expenditure.
Honest reflection big up yourself
I’m not saying this dad ain’t suffering and don’t care but his approach towards his first two children is slack. He threw in the towel like that and dusted his hands off. The host was right it’s not too late to rebuild a relationship with his children. Great episode!
It’s hard for men. Seems like my man is just tired, gave up and said they’ll come and find me, but they won’t.
You’ve had a break, you’ve now got a family, and your oldest can see and understand for themselves, come back harder, it’s tiring and you shouldn’t have to fight for it but you can never give up.
To quite your job and go on basics, subjected to drug testing, your whole suitability as a father questioned, courts. Lord knows my man tried but it’s not over until it’s over bro
Follow up video…
Men hood each other accountable. Shame women can’t do the same.
Yes we do. Not all women are complicit
U dont know all women
I watched this episode and it was painful to watch.. not for the guest telling his story but the presenter bullying him and being all righteous. Everyone could see that he regrets his actions but the presenter just kept pushing and pushing and when DJ Ridler ask about his childhood, like he was a certified doctor, that made me cross. DJ Ridlers interviewing style needs work.
Exactly, I spoke to the guest, apparently the way it was chopped and edited made it look like sh*tshow - the pause wasn't how it was, the host just started bullying him, i know for a fact that the guest has been alienated as a parent but it was just edited as he has done nothing in the 7 years of family courts, rallies, parliament, writing and speaking to MPs to change the laws for other fathers to not have to go through Parental Alienation like myself, I feel the guests pain but a "wutless dad" he is not.
There is so much to dissect in this interview. The style & approach, the fathers timeline of events (A DVIP indicates there was domestic abuse), his disassociation , his loss of words when talking to the camera (to his kids) .
No apology, or acknowledgment of his lack of regard to his duty as a father, and any steps he will do to bridge the gap. Too many a time I hear parents say my door is open?
The child should not be responsible for doing that work!!
I can boldly say this having had therapy and my child tell me everything that was up with my parenting & then do the work to have the relationship we have now… it’s work, humbling & a daily commitment but worth it.
DJ shouldn’t have gone there in his past as he’s not a therapist but equally the father should have asserted himself with boundaries to not share.
It’s evident the father needs more healing, he still blames the mum. I hope he is doing well with his new family. Sending prayers 🙏🏾
@@deborahh2978 I totally agree, DJ thought he was he was Dr. Phil, the guest didn't asset himself in regards to sharing but this was his story, I guess but I didn't hear him blame anyone, he did say he takes 100% responsibility and owned his mistakes so there was no blaming, the story was patched together badly and it was clear more was said and taken out, what I took from it was that he made poor choices to have children with, and this should be a warning for Men before they become fathers and make evil women mothers and deny them access to his children.
@@happyonpurpose exactly, the host was too much. He's not a therapist, you can't bring up childhood trauma, and then just send the guy home with no firm if counseling etc. Once these issues come to the surface, it needs to be talked through, support needs to be offered. And ridla stop the heavy judgement. Just listen and summarise
Would u rather him baby the guests
£500 for child support on support worker wage NEVER!!... probably around £200 something.. he was running from
alot of these dudes on this show seem like they aint go they shit togther (mentally or financially) and seem like they just get any chick preggers
This is deep man lol feel sorry for this bredda but tbh he’s waste