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Cheating in the first year of marriage is a huge sign that they did not mean their vows. Of course it’s never okay but cheating in the honeymoon phase is absolutely insane
This relationship she has with that coworker was happening before they got married too
Her lack of accountability and transparency right off the bat is the nail in the coffin. She did irreparable damage to a short marriage. She will absolutely do this again.
Yep she most likely loves the drama
Shel do this again
Why do I feel like if genders were reversed John would have had a different answer and advice, much less gracious towards the offending party? He’s telling this dude the work HE needs to do to repair the relationship 🤦♂️
@@majorcajun5524 Because it's all his fault. Just a season and he should apologize to her for her needing to be slutty.
It's his fault.
-Dr. John
Wait a FEW MONTHS into a marriage? HELL to the NO!!! Heck No! I'm sorry for this dude and with all respect to John, there is no way this is working. No woman cheats on her new husband, IF she loves him. No way no how.
Yeah as John would say 'you should have led with that'. She is not into this marriage obviously to be kissing another dude so soon . This is probably someone she has been fooling around with even before marriage but he is not marriage material or he already married.
I can’t believe he just glossed over that!! A FEW MONTHS IN?!
John went into full simp mode.
This happened that point of the marriage when it’s supposed to be the best. What happens 10 years in?
@@Sara-x6t3s It's his fault that she cheated. She was under too much pressure and he needs to own it.
Jon how about saving the guy a 20 minute phone call and telling him to cut his losses and find someone else. Anything else is doing this guy a huge injustice
@cutsbykev6444 Dr. John gives horrible advice 50% of the time.
I think encouraging the man to speak out to her genuinely airing his pain before he leaves is better. Like a learning opportunity. Saying nothing and staying is just prolonging the inevitable
You want the guy homeless?
Because Jon panders to the feminist audience. Just a matter of time till someone unwoke show up
JD goes into simp mode and ends with it's not fair to the cheating wife to hold her accountable.
Man, my heart breaks for this man. She doesn’t deserve him. Praying he finds well deserved happiness.
@@alybarbre I don’t feel bad for him. He doesn’t care about finding his well deserved happiness. He proving that by remaining with a woman who betrayed him. He has no self respect by remaining with an unfaithful woman and she’s thankful he’s sticking around.
"goodnight baby, i love you"...let that sink in.
The husband gonna say she didn't mean it lol
This guy sounds like a genuine good man. He deserves better
Nobody says good night I love you baby it was just an emotional affair
Bro, just end it. You picked the wrong woman and she did you wrong. It could be worse, you could be raising some other man's child. Cut your loses and get outta there. Tons of women out there.
Yeah I’m with you , once a cheater always a cheater .. I always say .. if you choose to cheat even once I’m gone ! Make good choices !
this is why I can't read the comments section it so negative and wrong I know a lot of cheaters who change I chested and change. My currently gf friends says she lucky to have a guy as honestly and trustworthy as me but that only happen cause I cheated the first few weeks and we work it out.
The strongest relationship have some problems in the beginning.
No the strongest relationships don't involve cheating lol, your girl needs to grow a backbone and leave a cheater
@@jaybur21People who exhibit certain behaviours are more likely to do the same behaviours in the future. It’s vital to NOT ignore the red flags.
@@jaybur21For every cheater that changes theres a 1000 more that dont so not worth the risk and the relationship is destroyed afterwards.
1000% they were sleeping together
I don't think they were 🥴
@@alanparedes2034I have a piece of the moon for sale
@@alanparedes2034I have a beach front property in Pittsburgh to sell you 😀
Even if they weren’t, she broke the trust, and the relationship is over.
@@mattcoorey2580 she was probably giving this other guy the gluck gluck 3000 the night before the wedding. Then didn’t brush her teeth the next day and kissed her new husband with his seed still in her mouth.
Zach they slept together, brother. I’m sorry
She dangled this in front of your face, my dude. Please get out before you get her pregnant and destroy more lives than just your own.
Tyrone getting her pregnant Bubba will raise it
Emotional affair 😂 = they were bangin'
facts 😭
Right lol women don’t just emotionally cheat without banging
I cried laughing when he said that. She lied to him😂
Right !
“Emotional affair” is stage 3 copium.
He has a lot of integrity
and she has none. he should go back on the market and get someone who deserves him
When their baby looks nothing like them
You misspelled stupidity
@@benmyers9030lol
@@benmyers9030 Real.
When someone says it’s nothing, it’s usually something.
This is no way to live, no quality of life, it’s over as he knew it. Leave and find a woman with character and morals who loves and respects you. My ex cheated on me in 1982….I left immediately and moved out of state and started over (no kids). Best thing I ever did. I couldn’t live with the betrayal. I think the worst feeling in the world is knowing someone you loved and made a commitment with was lying to your face and covering things up because they thought you were too stupid to figure out the truth. How can anyone live with that and ever regain trust? They don’t, it’s always there in the background.
Agreed! This is terrible advice by Dr Delony. It's pretty much impossible to repair something that's been irreparably broken. The caller is going to constantly be thinking about the betrayal and may never get the entire truth that he is seeking. He'll unfortunately picture the betrayal act and constantly replay it over and over in his head. It's enough to drive anyone mad and is certainly no way to live. Find a woman with good moral standing that wouldn't even have a fleeting thought of cheating.
I understand that this caller wants to stay in the marriage, but he mentioned that his wife wasn’t willing to be fully transparent and honest with him, yet he still wants reconciliation??? The only way for relationships to heal after infidelity is full transparency and honesty. I think this caller should just leave this relationship because relationships can’t survive without full transparency and honesty. I know that some couples can heal after infidelity but you can’t heal without full transparency and accountability from the person who cheated.
Losing a relationship with a cheater is a gain, not a loss. You should always forgive a cheater, promptly dump them and move on with life 100% of the time. It’s better to alone than with someone who wants someone else. People say “it’s not that simple, what about kids, time spent together, etc ”… *it is that simple.* Desperate people who are afraid to be alone will always make excuses to remain with a known cheater. Cheaters always go raw and they never use protection regardless of what they tell you or what you think. Cheater have zero integrity, they’ve convinced themselves they you deserved their betrayal. If you remain with a cheater, deep down they’ll never respect. Don’t take my word for it, ask your nearest cheater.
@@standground7956 your comment has a lot of irrational generalizations and gives bad advice. Whether to stay or not with someone who cheated depends on the person
@@elfascisto6549 Cheaters don’t deserve a 2nd chance but so many people love to remain with cheaters only to get disrespected more than once. Cheaters prey on weak individuals who stay with them, and those weak people deserve it.
@@elfascisto6549 The idea that someone would refer to a cheater’s carefully executed plan of betrayal “a mistake” is an insult to their hard work, dedication and best efforts to avoid detection. The mistake is them getting caught. Cheaters are nervous, embarrassed, trying to escape, not poised, not confident or articulate when they’re busted. I bet they don’t exhibit those qualities while engaging in their infidelity. Cheaters are likely excited, poised, confident, enjoying themselves, passionate, etc, while betraying their significant other. Therefore, the mistake is them getting exposed and they’re probably sad that they’re no longer able to do so, but they’ll attempt to convince you that they’re sad because they wronged you and they’re remorseful, lol. You can’t help but give cheater credit for their ability to deceive, *it’s almost masterful.* Either way, forgive them, dump them and move on with your life. If you stay, they’ll respect you less than they did before they betrayed you.
That’s the blunt hard cold reality people try to avoid or sidestep. People who cheat don’t disagree with my assessment on the matter.
He hit that for sure 😂
Chill😂😂
Idk why this is funny to you
“My husband never hit this spot before”😵💫💔
@@Amila-ym7nybecause the husband thinks it was purely emotional
This guy sounds like such an amazing, kind gentleman. So sad. Wishing them the best.
If your spouse cheats on you, end the marriage. Period. No matter how hard, let go!
How hard??? It’s easy!! BYE!!! I’ve done it!!
They did more than just text and kiss and she’ll do it again.
Wives should never be hanging out with other men that are not relatives, same for men with other women, I know SHOOOOOCKING.
💯
uh no i have friends that are guys and my bf is not jealous and same with him. we trust each other. chill
@@savleensur8670 it can work if the friends are unattractive, but if your friend is young and sexy...you're kidding yourself.
1 on 1 is no good, something is bound to happen. And I said "wife", bf gf means nothing, but a husband or wife being alone with someone else is off limits.
@Ja50nkAt Well put. A marriage is a covenant and indicates a deeper level of respect and commitment.
I do think this marriage is over. She was never in it to begin with.
Don't be afraid of the truth. Get to the bottom of it if you want to stay.
What people overlook is that you need to know the MEANING of the affair. I think that is what keeps the caller up at night. It might not even help to see what she was texting. What you wanna know exactly is: what was this thing? Exitement? Joy? A bandage for her lack of confidence? Love? Self-sabotage? Fear of loosing him (therefore looking for other options)? Spitefulness? Disrespect?
The clearer you can see what it meant exactly, the fewer inner questions and doubts.
But that also means she must know why she did that.
I had a girlfriend 3 years (knew her 6yrs) cheat on me because it was a once in a lifetime opportunity with a celebrity. Her breaking it down and letting me know that there was nothing I could have done differently in our relationship to avoid that happening- was eye opening and didn’t make feel less bothered.
I was only thankful that she allowed me to understand that you could do dang near everything perfect but there are different set of rules for some individuals. Finding out why didn’t change my decision about leaving her and was highly appreciative of her honesty. People called me the bad guy for opting out of the relationship, I don’t cheat and it’s not far fetched or unrealistic that I prefer to be with another woman who doesn’t cheat.
All that so say, finding out why doesn’t make a difference. Cheaters have no integrity and once you have undeniable proof, it’s best to leave and allow them the opportunity to pursue the person they cheated with.
@standground7956 I understand. It didn't make a difference for your decision to leave. But didn't it make a difference for your inner clarity? No doubts why she did it ... etcetera?
People are different. Some do want to stay and work it out. Some have good reasons, some just are afraid of lonliness. But it's the same with leaving: some have good reasons, some just want to make a point.
But if you have a person that wants to stay, the meaning behind the affair is important to know. It makes it easier to get through the self doubts. Not everyone can push these thoughts away. And it also makes it clearer if you can work through it or not.
@@wf4983 I get where you you’re coming from but a cheater’s word is no good. People with no integrity should end the relationship and then seek a new relationship afterwards. A cheater always has an option not to cheat, they think risking losing the relationship was worth it… therefore, they should lose the relationship, even if you love them. It’s hard, but it’s the best path forward. It allows the cheat an opportunity to improve themselves and become a better person in their next relationship. If they find love again, they likely won’t cheat if they know it’ll cost them losing someone they love again.
You need to end this marriage. She had another man inside her shortly after you got married. This will eat at you for the next few decades if you don't move on. She doesn't deserve you, and you don't deserve to not trust her for the rest of your life.
My Profession for over 35 years has been dealing with this kind of thing. Infatuations or “crushes” become Emotional Affairs. I have found that most
“Emotional Affairs” have already become physical. If not, it will happen very soon. The sad part is that many of these Dirtbags are seasoned Predators and many of you ladies are so dumb and gullible that you don’t see it until you’ve been used and then cast aside. In the meantime, you’ve destroyed your marriage and everything you once held dear. Many of you reading this have learned this the hard way.
I wouldn't call them PREDATORS... Cheaters want to do it
You can't con an honest man.
These women get burned by willing to burn their husbands without a care.
John’s double standard for how women and men should handle their affairs is crazy
He doesn’t have double standards. He goes off how the CALLER decides if they are going to rebuild or not. In this case the caller said he wanted to stay married so John advised him based off that. If the guy said he wanted to divorce Delony would give him advice for how to go down that road BUT it’s not John’s decision on if this guy stays married. Caller makes his own autonomous decision and the counselor advises you off that.
Not in my counseling. I clearly tell them what I believe to be the truth and advise them as to what I think their options are and what I believe would be their best course of action. That’s why they come to me.
As soon as I found out my husband had another phone and had a new little girlfriend - it explained all his "trips" away.. I was already underweight and lost 18 lbs in 3 months. Focus on my kids and God got me out of it.
Zach, i'm sorry this happened to you too. I went through this in 2009 and it was hell. My wife told me they were just friends, its all a big misunderstanding and not a big deal. She refused to admit it even when he did to me. I should have divorced her then, but I wanted to fight for my marriage and I have to admit i was scared to be divorced and be alone. I had never been cheated on so it was a rollercoaster of emotions. After a year I caught her again with the same guy and I asked for a divorce. She always denied it. After our divorce she told me that "I guess you could call it an emotional affair and we slept in the same bed but never physical.....then they were naked and cuddled but never sex.....basically a stream of trickle truth. They lies were so bad it was pathetic. If she doesn't come clean and show you everything, leave her job and find another you need to leave. Cheating is escapism from a problem. She needs counseling to figure out where this stems from and how to communicate to you what she is feeling. If not she will do this to you again, and again and again until you leave. I'm sorry brother, but unless she shows remorse accountability and wants to change then you need to leave.
How can you offer that advice after admitting you actually tried to fight to remain with a cheater. Ending a relationship with a cheater is a gain, not a loss. You should always forgive a cheater, promptly dump them and move on with life.
People say “it’s not that simple, what about kids, time spent together, etc ”… *it is that simple.* Desperate people who are afraid to be alone will always make excuses to remain with a known cheater. Cheaters always go raw and they never use protection regardless of what they tell you or what you think. Cheater have zero integrity, they’ve convinced themselves they you deserved their betrayal. If you remain with a cheater, deep down they’ll never respect (which leads to them cheating on you again). Don’t take my word for it, ask your nearest cheater.
@standground7956 I think if you catch them and or they lie deny or blame shift you should leave. I learned that the hard way and I agree with you. However, there are some who come clean without getting caught, are showing remorse, putting in the work to understand and change. Those are the ones who are worth the opportunity for a second chance....if the betrayed spouse is open to that. It's rare but there are some who are like that
@ I’ve been in relationships where they came clean without getting caught, showing remorse, putting in the work to understand and change. I decided that dumping them was the best option for us both, not to be mean spirited or rude, but because it’s the right thing to do. If someone loses a good person, someone they love due to their betrayal… maybe in their next relationship they will remember what that experience was like and never cheat again.
Actions should always have consequences. Cheaters don’t deserve 2nd chances as their word is no good since promised they wouldn’t betray you the 1st time they did, yet they did so anyway. Again, people who remain with cheaters will be less respected than prior. I never understood why people remain with cheaters when they can leave that relationship and pursue a faithful individual. There are plenty of people who find love after leaving a cheater. To each their own.
She laid naked next to a man and didn’t have sex with him ? 😂😂😂😂
Man, these women really have no respect for you guys and literally think you’re stupid !!!
@standground7956 I can definitely understand and respect your view
Some girl is ruining a very good man. He is real, and honest, and completely blindsided by a toxic liar. He should bail and find a good woman. Leave her to the bar flies.
Naive to believe no sex happened.
I think people just want to believe it but both are bad .. emotional affair is just as damaging
She told him she loved him. It can't get worse than that. @@Kroh13
That man definitely hit. Him and his buddy’s are laughing at you for staying with her😂
If you’re reading this, end it. I wasn’t married but was cheated on in a relationship I was in for like 6 months. I tried to stay with her, 7 years, and it just never left my mind. Times where she would kiss me or hug me, and all I could feel was disgust and anger. I did not like who I became. Just leave man. Your foundation has been broken and you will not be able to build on a broken foundation. God bless.
Wait a couple months after being married wow drop her ASAP dude
The caller loves his wife and wants to make it work. However, he's lost trust and deep feels like there's more to the story than her just texting the coworker.
Any man that still loves a woman after that is extremely weak and spineless. I would lose the love that’s second.
@@mrv2308you don’t just stop loving someone because they backstab you, have some empathy.
@@mrv2308 I understand
John has more patience than I would. He's really good at this. He says all the things I'm thinking, but knows the things he should say first and the questions to ask.
It's over. He needs to move on. She already had zero respect for him by cheating, lying, and keeping it from him....then he takes her back and she'll have even less respect for him. He doesn't even respect himself since he tolerated all of this. Just wow
Well once it is over who really cares if she respects him. He needs to respect himself and get rid of her before she shows up pregnant.
Bro she literally came home from work excited to tell you about this guy. That's such a joke.
This guy should have "had a feeling" way sooner.
But he's also the definition of why nice guys finish last. He just assumes she's telling the truth that it didn't go further
Bro stop being a nice guy. Get it through your head. Your marriage is over and she doesn't care about you
And she absolutely banged this guy
Also dude. If she's willing to admit to you they kissed then logically you have to understand that they did more than that.
My brothers wife stepped out him with a coworker. They separated for a few months as she continued to see the other guy. All while my brother was paying for her to live in an apartment on her own. Eventually it didnt work out with the other guy so she came back. Kids are young so they worked it out. As an observer from the outside looking in i can see that she lost respect for him since then. She did the worst thing you could do in a marriage and he took her back. She avoids our family completely because we all know.
That’s really sad. Hope you have advised your brother as much as possible to leave her and find someone who appreciates him. He sounds like a good guy.
As a Professional I have seen this happen many times.
@@metroraddy Hes a great man. A great father too and I'm sure that's why he stuck it out. No kid wants to grow up with divorced parents and he knows that.
Bro nooooo. No man says ily to a girl after a kiss. No guilty person is going to hand deliver more proof of how guilty they are.
Women will put their phone face down all day long if they’re hiding stuff. Also it will never be on ring
RUN!
Once a woman cheats, the respect is gone and the relationship is over.
A guy is a stud the more women he has so men can get away with it
Same goes for men
@ na men are studs and can get away with it
I think this post means there is no respect for the man, maybe never was… and that’s why she cheats… he won’t ever regain that respect either
@@momfromnj911 Not true.
The caller that called in a Simp, that’s the problem here. She lost respect for him and even to this day she has no respect for him.
@@3Augustin3 i don’t understand how she could go from saying their vows to losing respect in just 3 months, unless they got married after like 1 month of knowing each other. I actually think there may have been some conning going before they got married.
Poor guy, he doesn’t want to let go. Been there myself. Luckily for me I learned my lesson in my early 20s and not any later.
I've been there brother. No turning back after the infidelity.
If that was my wife, it’s over. No getting angry, or yelling but just say, it’s over. You broke my heart, I can’t trust you, and I can’t be your husband anymore. I wish you all the best. Pack and leave
Cut your losses, leave her. The problem when women cheat, it means they lost respect for you. Women can't love you if they don't respect you first. Taking her back, makes her lose even more respect for you, as down in her subsconcious she knows, a man with clear boundaries would have walked away. It's a lose lose situation.
She's going to gaslight you to the end ! It's best to leave her now there's going to be a lot of mistrust and anger you will not get over this.
If she doesn’t want to be fully transparent and bare her own misdoings, especially after that short a time married, she doesn’t love you enough to want to change to save the marriage…Plain and simple. RUN!!
“It’s nothin it’s nothing “is the red flag response to him
Calling her out on an inappropriate relationship. No man says I love you, baby to a woman he isn’t sleeping with lol. This guy didn’t demand to see her phone ? Wow. This woman will do this again, especially for the fact that he didn’t look into it more and ask her more questions and tell her that she needs to show him the phone. She sees the weakness in him and she will do it again.!!!
She did this less than a year into the marriage?!? What the actual F!
I mean, it wouldn’t be any worse if they had been married for 12/20 years but still… Dayum… What a byatch! 😡😡😡
*Cheaters always go raw and never use protection* regardless of what you think or what they tell you. Losing a relationship with a cheater is a gain, not a loss. You should always forgive a cheater, promptly dump them and move on with life.
People say “it’s not that simple, what about kids, time spent together, etc ”… *it is that simple.* Desperate people who are afraid to be alone will always make excuses to remain with a known cheater. Cheaters have zero integrity, they’ve convinced themselves they you deserved their betrayal. If you remain with a cheater, deep down they’ll never respect less than they did before they betrayed you. Don’t take my word for it, ask your nearest cheater.
Takes one to know one 😂
@ I know a millionaire, that doesn’t make me a millionaire. I’m speaking from observation, I’ve never been a weak coward who stoops to cheating. Having a conversation to end a relationship I no longer want is bare minimum simple behavior. I’m also never disappointed by cheaters. Cheaters thrive on individuals who lack self respect, so me leave one without 2nd guessing myself or losing a wince of sleep is like breathing.
*You’re offended by my comment* because you’re a cheater or you like remaining with them. If that’s the case, then I meant to offend you. Cheaters are scumbags and the only thing lower in the totem pole is the people who stay with them.
Lol…
Its part of the deal in continuing with the marriage, its a hard price to pay for sure. Ultimately though no betrayal is ever forgotten.
Poor guy is going to be re-traumatized yet again once the real truth comes out. And by the way he kept defending her during the call, I'm gonna put my money on that he will still be there by her side.
Hate to break it to you dude but if she wasn't riding that horse already she was getting the saddle out of the barn. You should be at the part of the marriage where you can't keep your hands off each other not discovering affairs.
Never been so quick to watch one of Dr. John's videos and darn this one was heavy.
My wife was flirting with a coworker 10 yrs ago, we had just bought a house in a new state and kids were young. I ignored it because the kids having two parents is my priority. Now, I’ve aged incredibly well and she hasn’t, everywhere I go women flirt with me especially at work where many married women actually have drama with each other over me, and I tell my wife about every little detail, and I can see it driving her nuts but she can’t say anything because she was one of them at one time and I’m not even talking with these women, they’re obsessed, and I’m honest about it all with her and she visually is struggling with guilt and accepting that I’m not doing anything wrong except existing as a handsome 38yo dude.
@@paintup46okay 😂
@@paintup46 that’s very immature. If your wife cheated, you should’ve ended the relationship. I guarantee those women probably aren’t flirting with you and the reason I’m saying this is because men always assume I’m flirting with them and I’m interested in them when I’m just being friendly. Maybe you just need validation because it makes you feel bad that she cheated I don’t know, but the fact that you’re bragging that women are flirting with you just shows me you’re not you shouldn’t be married. You should’ve divorced the cheater .
Cheaters gonna cheat, pretty simple
Stay single fellas these 304s aren’t loyal.
You stay single because you refer to woman as “304s”. She apparently doesn’t have integrity. But either do you.
I was hopeful for them until I heard it was within the FIRST year of their marriage! That is crazy and a clear red flag!
Zach, you can do better and you deserve better. You guys just got married and she took her vows. She doesn’t respect you or herself. Run! ❤️🇨🇦
My gut feeling here is that she’s checked out of this marriage. He needs to draw a straight line and if she doesn’t agree, he needs to end this. I understand that getting a divorce sucks but staying jn a marriage like this is WAY worse. Thank God they don’t have any kids yet.
You know..I thought this was like a 10+ year marriage we were talking about until the dude said “1st year…” 🚩
they slept together. "I love you" is not something a man in an emotional affair would say. I wish Zach peace, a loving, emotional support team, and a gangster divorce attorney
john always tells men they can overcome their wives infidelity and keep the marriage together, but i highly doubt he'd stick to that script if he were in their shoes. it is the ultimate form of betrayal and disrespect. even the bible says it is a divorce worthy offense.
It's the guy's fault.
Facts 😂
@@JustinCase780let me correct you, he is a st*pid fool because he didnt leave her.
@@JustinCase780 🤣🤣🤣
The difference is this caller WANTS to stay married. God forbid if it were to happen to Dr. John he is the one who gets to make the decision if he would want to rebuild or divorce. As a trained counselor Dr. John advises people off what they want. It’s unethical for him to suggest divorcing unless someone is in physical danger. John lays the cards on the table and the caller gets to make their autonomous decision. There have been times when people say they want to divorce and Dr. John walks them through that path. He gives them advice based on what they decide.
People you need to understand something. The caller WANTS to stay in the marriage. Hence why he called. John gave the right advice given the caller wishes. Mind your business and don't project onto others.
John's one of the few commentators that understands this. Is the marriage worth saving after this? Honestly probably not. But this is for him to decide.
You lose the 'mind your business' part when you share this stuff on a show
No, as a man he gives me second hand embarrassment. No real man would stay with a cheating woman.
Sure everyone wants to stay in it and then 20 years go by and you wasted your life with a cheater, most people are just telling him the truth, get out now before kids
@@Luna14Smith This guy is calling John because he’s wants his high dosage of copium to stay in marriage that’s already over. He knows that it’s over, he just wants someone to feed into his delusion and tell him everything is fine. If he stays the only winner in this situation is his wife’s lover. The other guy doesn’t have to provide for her, care for her in any capacity using his time or resources. He just uses her and sends her back home to her husband when he’s finished having his way with her. I should feel bad for this husband but I don’t.
*Don’t want anyone else’s opinion, don’t call in.*
How can you start fresh when you still have questions and don’t believe what she has disclosed. I hope he’s able to move on without the truth. Because, unfaithful women who want to stay with the person who they cheated on die with their secrets… Trickle truth at best and even that will not be the entire truth
Non of our words will heal your wound 💔
Can you save your marriage, absolutely! But it takes two.
So, a bold naked question to ask yourself will you able to work on your marriage even if she did have a full affair then if in your heart you love her so and you are willing to work on it then I’d say with an understanding that I have a full right to walk away I’m committed to work on our marriage even if you slept with him, but I need to know the full truth and I want you to not be afraid to tell me. We will have hard conversations then I want to move on with a plan to rebuild our trust and our marriage. Then you make a plan.
God help you🙏
Sometimes god will put people in our lives until we gather the strength to leave them. This is to make us wise and stronger for the right person waiting in the future.
Secrecy is worse than knowing the WHOLE truth because one’s imagination can conjure up a worse scenario than what actually happened. I suspect he is afraid of having to handle a “worse” scenario but it’s better to know the whole truth so they CAN begin to rebuild (if he can forgive her once he knows the whole truth).
A couple months after marriage???
You deserve better, caller. You deserve someone who will love you as you love them. That isn’t her
There's something we say in Nigerian pidgin English: 'This life no balance'. Translation: This life isn't balanced/fair.
Some people are looking for husband to marry while some are lucky to have found a husband who loves them, and they still choose to cheat on said husband. Lord, have mercy!!! 😂
The fact she was not acoountable. Means she is selfish, and she doesn't care. He should be leaving this type of person immediately. Stop counseling people to rebuild with these types of people. Its like trying to rebuild a relationship with a murderer after they've tried to kill you. Some people are not good people. And all the good things you saw were a farce. And her reaction to this shows this clearly.
There’s no such thing as an “emotional affair.” It’s an affair. Period
You will never get over it. I’m a woman , can’t even imagine for a man. You never get over it.
They definitely got it in
I wouldn't be able to stop thinking about it either which is why I would divorce her. Once and done.
This guy needs channels like SSM. The fact that she had an emotional affair and kissed the dude, it’s over bro! She didn’t want to give you her phone tells me everything I need to know. She cheated on you regardless. Divorce because once a cheater, always a cheater
He has got to cut his losses. It will never be the same. If there are Flowers on sale and he comes across that. He is not going to buy his wife flowers.She is bored of her life with him. She needs Drama and the affair is a symptom.
Just leave dude. Don’t lose your true place in a relationship to tolerate that!
She was giving him the gluck gluck 3000!!!! He needs to run!!
Yep at minimum there was hawk tuah
@ i bet he hawked in her mouth and then she gave it the tuah on his 🥖. She was riding the carousel while engaged to him. He needs to RUN FORREST RUN.
Guys who actually believe the emotional affair line deserve whatever they get for staying and believing that.
FYI you think you want to know but you don’t trust me it won’t make it better it will make it worse stay and forgive or move on
she cheated early and refused to disclose information, he should divorce her
Dude dont even ask what was she hiding. You dont want to see that. You and us all know she was taking it in deep and loving every moment of giving herself to this guy. Disrespectful at the highest level. Jettison this one and move on. Its been a very short marriage, maybe the damage won't be too bad. And no more contracts with the State that incentivize one side to break the contract. Commitment, sure. Ring? Nope. She needs to always know there is an exit and one screw up and she's out. Better now than 15 years from now with kids and substantial assets that will ruin you for the rest of your life.
I don’t see how he needs to “forgive himself.” He addressed his concerns when he saw her actions were showing inappropriateness. He trusted her to do right…it’s totally her fault.
a few months of being married and she cheated??? Fam GET OUT!!!
That means she been eyeing that coworker for a while.
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Not being in his position, it's easy for me to say this... but I don't think I would be able to continue a relationship with someone if they cheated.
It just means too much to me, and personally, I dont think anyone else who is truly in love with someone would cheat on. them.
Spiritual scars are real. The pain is real.
Don't fool yourself that it was just an emotional affair. You don't know the in and outs of what was happening. JD doesn't disappoint. He goes right into simp mode. Keep the cheating wife who had another man's privates where they shouldn't have been. Why would you want that? What is wrong with you not demanding more from a wife?
Where are these women finding such gullible men😂😂
Cut your losses bro, she's not being honest with you, you deserve so much better for yourself.
You can't just move on... Your marriage is over! Without genuine repentance and transparency healing can't happen.
... nor should you. Forgive but do not trust. Divorce and don't look back.
Male cheating is a trust issue; female cheating is a desire issue.
You can rebuild trust; you can't build desire.
Prime example of Men don't forgive Women for cheating...I always heard this. He needs to move on because it will become like a job checking her phone daily.
It’s pisses me off he’s gonna stay with her and John just let that happen
Nah he was hitting her from the back bro. She broke her vows within a few months. Leave her, you deserve peace.
They still are
The call didn’t address whether the wife was still working with the other man. Minimum she (or the coworker) has to remove themselves from the other…no contact. If she is not willing to remove the temptation from her life she isn’t serious about rebuilding. If that’s the case I would report the situation to their boss. If he’s the boss I would threaten to spread the affair on social media & that would affect his business…