thank you so much you kind soul, im currently going through that right now i’m 19 and have already cut my dad off and have a interesting relationship with my mom it’s very comforting to have someone talk about their own experiences
@@brooklynk22 of course! i know exactly how that feels and what is the point of holding it in when if i share my story it can help others! i felt so alone until i started speaking out, comments like this make me feel understood. I’m glad I could comfort you in an uncertain time like this and just remember that at the end of the day, you’re doing the best you can and your parents and relationship with them dont define you, your potential or your life🩷
Wow. I can relate. I come from an unstable codependent white mother / narcissist immigrant father situation. Definitely needed to watch this today. Ty for telling your story. Wishing you all the best and lots of healing ❤️🩹 fuck em.
I am a older woman and I just wanted to share that life has had its ups and downs and at some point I found I had no person here on this earth that was supportive and on my side. I did have a few people but they were a thousand miles away and not the support I needed at the time I needed it (emotionally). This drew me closer to God, I found myself praying and spending time with Him. This experience proved to me that first, the God of the Bible is true and second the new age theology I had been deceived by was not true (the idea that all paths lead to god and we each are little pieces of god and together we all are god). Praying to your Father in heaven will provide you with the Father that you need not the broken human father you have. Your earthly father maybe causing you emotional harm, and if so seek God the Father and He will help you see how to heal and how to move forward. Jesus' account on the cross is real, please believe on him and God will provide. I have learned this because of the dark time in my life when I had to only rely on Him and He did not fail me. Take care and God Bless you!
Going thru this as well. What’s funny is my family called me Momo, so your channel name drew me in. I know I’ll never be what my family wants me to be, I feel extra lost because these people adopted me. I feel like I was an impulse decision to adopt because my father didn’t want me and my mom had a habit of diving head first into anything new and then dropping it. I went from physical neglect to emotional/mental/physical abuse. Now, my mom has taken in a younger girl who was in a similar situation as mine when I was younger, became a delusional Christian (I don’t mind Christianity, she is just delusional about it) my father now is remarried and has step children who he seems to enjoy more. I am in therapy again and made the choice to go non contact 4 weeks ago. It’s been difficult, I feel even more lost but they weren’t there to begin with. I’m 24 and healing 24 years of trauma at once and I’m powering through. I totally relate to what you said about victim complex, I cannot allow myself to accept being a victim to others OR to myself. I wish you luck in your journey.
We have very similar parents and situations. I’m glad that you were able to have a story to relate to show up for you today! I’m happy you decided to share your story too, I really relate!
I think parents often try to influence their children's lives in a good but also in a less nice way (thinking that the goal justifies the method). They often think they know best what is good for their children. I myself needed time after school to find my "place" in society (I didn't start on my path until I was 25, today I'm 37). My parents wanted good things for me, but they were worried and somewhere also powerless when it came to how "their" ideas should be turned into reality. Whether my parents' ideas were also mine is another matter. This was particularly difficult for my mother and she did things that still stand between us today and will probably always remain between us. Don't get me wrong, I'm alive and well and I'm sure many people have had it much worse. My parents and especially my mother are not "bad" people/parents. I also have a migrant background (we come from Kazakhstan) and now live in Germany. My parents certainly moved to Germany mainly because of me. They worked very hard and didn't have much time for me. As far as my mother's behavior is concerned, I often say today that no one can hurt me emotionally, because my mother tried her "best" to break me (even if that wasn't the intention behind her actions). You shouldn't forget that worlds collide in stories like this. Your father and mother certainly have their opinions and that the world has changed since their youth and that you are not exactly in their situation back then cannot be denied. Neither your parents nor you have all the answers to all of life's problems. Now you are at a point in your life where you are making your own decisions. You will make good ones and bad ones (hopefully learning from the bad ones) and it would certainly be nicer and better for you if your parents would support you (whatever that might be - well-intentioned advice, emotionally and/or financially). But for parents (especially authoritarian parents), it's hard to realize that they do not own their kids nor should they make all of their decisions for them. Everything turned out quite well for me. I am now a tax advisor, my future is secure, my parents are proud of me and have calmed down. But even today I still have to set boundaries for them (as far as my life is concerned) and demand that they are respected. What I'm trying to tell you is that you need the serenity to accept the things you can't change. Courage to change the things you can change and wisdom to recognize the difference between the two. Focus on finding out what you want out of life (if you don't already know) and realizing your goals in it.
Thank you for sharing your story, my relationship with my parents was very abusive and it took me a long time to make sense of it all and sometimes i still don’t have all the answers. I hope in the future we can maybe rekindle but when i think of where i wanna go and what i want to do in life, it may seem heartless but, im very happy without them. Who knows how things will all turn out but I’m confident everything will be okay either way🫶
Damn, just watched ur vid on how everybody is self centered and "doesn't care bout you so live your life"... Now "parents disowned me", that escalated quickly lol.
So relatable its like a sign to me to speak my truth. Im 27 and i wish this happened earlier bc trust me it would have never ended. They have me so isolated they got to so many people i spend days and days only speaking to people ive met online they have shattered my life.
Thank you for sharing your story. You’re such an incredibly strong and smart young lady whose whole life is ahead of her. And the fact you looked at this situation with bravery and didn’t let it take control of your life is commendable. Thank you for being the voice and the light to those who are going through a situation like this right now. You show that there is a light on the other side of not letting toxic people in your life anymore. Keep doing you girl🩷 also we ripped our nic at the same time and I felt connected lol
It's not forever. Lots of generation and culture clashing. Just strive to be the best person you can be while maintaining your peace. Parents are human and can be selfish, at some point you will reconnect and as long as you understand that they are limited in views and experiences, you won't take it so personally. Its really more about them than you. Itll be ok, wishing you all- healing.
As a Palestinian guy who was born and raised in the middle east (UAE)(sure as hell not your intended demographic but hey😭) i have a couple of things to say 1. Arab parents are usually very involved with their children's lives, they take care of them not until 18 or they finish uni but until they are completely independent whether that means the daughter marries someone or thier son has a good income and buys his own place and moves out on his own will.(daughters can work too, in jordan and egypt there has been a culture shift where women also go to university and work and get incomes too, they would take care of the woman until she is independent just as they would do their son) 2.this bring me to point 2, arab parents 95% of the time pay for your university, in our culture you are on the same team as your kid, why make them get in hairline receding debt when you can help them out like you did for the past 18 years? 3.If they are not involved with your upbringing and dont have a strong relationship with you, they should NOT expect you to follow what they percieve is right. why would i get mad at my daughter getting in a relationship when i didn't care about her and take care of her growing up? If your parents really lived closer with you and gave you a good childhood and didn't do all that, you would probably have grown up into being Muslim (i dont know if you are or aren't so forgive me). I bring this up because you being muslim would make you more aligned with certain things like not being outright dating or having certain longterm goals in life. and lastly i hope you can reach and extend an olive branch, at least have a relationship with your siblings, the most important thing is family, i know how hard it must've been to lose those bonds.
This is all true! I grew up in the Middle East not America so I know all this to be true. Unfortunately my father, who’s Egyptian, has a severe personality disorder that caused him to do most of what he’s done. I’ve always longed for the relationship other Arab kids have with their parents, especially fathers and daughters. I never got that but I now realize that it’s okay. I do miss my family in Egypt and wish I can see them again! It’s a hard situation but they made their choice to not accept me and it’s up to them to fix their mistakes. I am glad you commented this because a lot of people could use the context of what it’s like to grow up in an Arab family! Also, although I am no longer Muslim, I pray for فلسطين everyday♥️🇵🇸
Haven't watched yet but this is going on w me rn and was thinking about finally posting about it I been homeless for 2 years no help, but they'd still be around me now i started my business and getting better they treat me like I'm doing the worst thing ever and idk wtf is happening. I'm also autistic and schizophrenic and they just will not even google enough to know how fucked their way of even talking to me is.
I understand you, im also autistic. Life can be hard for us but I promise there will be a brighter day on your horizon. Post your story and use your voice! I hope your situation improves❤
@@momopill well it worked cause it was funny! That’s the whole reason i even said anything :) i really enjoyed this video. I think it’s so important for us to talk about stuff like this to let others know they’re not alone 🖤
I relate 100%. You have to be extremely smart and courageous to put yourself first in this kind of situation. And the grieving process is hardcore. But it is the right decision and it will become easier with time. I am much older than you but I m living my very best life with real UNCONDITIONAL love from people that deserve and respect me❤ best feeling ever! you are going to become an amazing strong and beautiful woman, you already are! Take care
As someone who loves story time content and personal stories, this was a little hard for me to follow cause it felt your story was all over the place so maybe you can break it down into sections and titles like "Dad's background", "Mom's background", "Post-Divorce Feelings", "Certain incidents/conflicts that led to the divorce." The storytelling style was a little messy so maybe you could look into scripting or writing down the points you want to cover one by one. Also, maybe edit the video to remove all the uhms and pauses and exhales as they are very distracting. I'm very sorry for what happened and your story is important. But you might lose out on views/reach if your video is not refined. It doesn't exactly have to be high production but I really liked your story since I'm going through something similar but I found it hard to follow it. I would love to see more of your content but please do look into editing out the distractions. Thank you!
I’m already working on a part two because I realized I left out a lot of information! Thank you for the feedback I do appreciate it a lot as a newer creator!
@Loreaiwnyou don't always have to know everyone's business. she's telling a story of self growth, so just stop trying to dig into her life and just understand what she's trying to say.
@momopill I am so sorry. I cannot imagine that for anyone. I hope you're some day able to mend that relationship with your family. Parents probably still love you very much. Sometimes, being 'disowned' doesn't mean the parent stops loving you.
@@nicoobrowner Some people are incapable of common human emotions like love for their children. People with Cluster B personality disorder (NPD, BPD,...) for example. The sooner you realize this, the better as only after accepting this healing can start.
I love gen z crying about stupid things. Parents are not perfect but they really want the best for you. It is ridiculous the way you are complaining about them. You should be more grateful for all the things they provided. You are just a child, you don't even know exactly what you want. The only thing you need is a job, too much free time. If you can have a high standard for how your Dad is with you, why can't he have the same?
I have a job, I work 80 hours. You don’t know anything about me. I’m not complaining I’m using my voice to tell my story and I’m not done doing that yet. Keep watching me and releasing your anger onto someone you don’t know, I’m sure that will help you succeed in life.
you don't know everyone's lives. you do not know her. you do not know who her parents are. you are pretending like this is a specific generational experience for gen z when it literally isn't. you are acting like you know what she wants, and you're acting like you think she cannot deduce what happened in her own life and act accordingly. because ... she is younger than you? be grateful you can say things like this behind a screen without having to be called out for making ignorant comments. lord knows you wouldn't say this to her face.
thank you so much you kind soul, im currently going through that right now i’m 19 and have already cut my dad off and have a interesting relationship with my mom it’s very comforting to have someone talk about their own experiences
@@brooklynk22 of course! i know exactly how that feels and what is the point of holding it in when if i share my story it can help others! i felt so alone until i started speaking out, comments like this make me feel understood. I’m glad I could comfort you in an uncertain time like this and just remember that at the end of the day, you’re doing the best you can and your parents and relationship with them dont define you, your potential or your life🩷
Wow. I can relate. I come from an unstable codependent white mother / narcissist immigrant father situation. Definitely needed to watch this today. Ty for telling your story. Wishing you all the best and lots of healing ❤️🩹 fuck em.
My parents are exactly that! I’m glad you can relate and that this video helped you today. I’ve been waiting to tell my story for a bit 🫶
I am a older woman and I just wanted to share that life has had its ups and downs and at some point I found I had no person here on this earth that was supportive and on my side. I did have a few people but they were a thousand miles away and not the support I needed at the time I needed it (emotionally). This drew me closer to God, I found myself praying and spending time with Him. This experience proved to me that first, the God of the Bible is true and second the new age theology I had been deceived by was not true (the idea that all paths lead to god and we each are little pieces of god and together we all are god).
Praying to your Father in heaven will provide you with the Father that you need not the broken human father you have. Your earthly father maybe causing you emotional harm, and if so seek God the Father and He will help you see how to heal and how to move forward.
Jesus' account on the cross is real, please believe on him and God will provide. I have learned this because of the dark time in my life when I had to only rely on Him and He did not fail me.
Take care and God Bless you!
Going thru this as well. What’s funny is my family called me Momo, so your channel name drew me in.
I know I’ll never be what my family wants me to be, I feel extra lost because these people adopted me. I feel like I was an impulse decision to adopt because my father didn’t want me and my mom had a habit of diving head first into anything new and then dropping it. I went from physical neglect to emotional/mental/physical abuse.
Now, my mom has taken in a younger girl who was in a similar situation as mine when I was younger, became a delusional Christian (I don’t mind Christianity, she is just delusional about it) my father now is remarried and has step children who he seems to enjoy more.
I am in therapy again and made the choice to go non contact 4 weeks ago. It’s been difficult, I feel even more lost but they weren’t there to begin with. I’m 24 and healing 24 years of trauma at once and I’m powering through. I totally relate to what you said about victim complex, I cannot allow myself to accept being a victim to others OR to myself.
I wish you luck in your journey.
We have very similar parents and situations. I’m glad that you were able to have a story to relate to show up for you today! I’m happy you decided to share your story too, I really relate!
I know this off topic but do you voice act? Your voice is perfect for a cartoon
I do voice act! I just started this year :) thank you
@@momopill proud of you!!!
@@momopillgood choice!
@@dupsyyy thank you💓💓💓
@@waituntil thank you so much🥹💓
I think parents often try to influence their children's lives in a good but also in a less nice way (thinking that the goal justifies the method). They often think they know best what is good for their children. I myself needed time after school to find my "place" in society (I didn't start on my path until I was 25, today I'm 37). My parents wanted good things for me, but they were worried and somewhere also powerless when it came to how "their" ideas should be turned into reality. Whether my parents' ideas were also mine is another matter. This was particularly difficult for my mother and she did things that still stand between us today and will probably always remain between us. Don't get me wrong, I'm alive and well and I'm sure many people have had it much worse. My parents and especially my mother are not "bad" people/parents.
I also have a migrant background (we come from Kazakhstan) and now live in Germany. My parents certainly moved to Germany mainly because of me. They worked very hard and didn't have much time for me. As far as my mother's behavior is concerned, I often say today that no one can hurt me emotionally, because my mother tried her "best" to break me (even if that wasn't the intention behind her actions).
You shouldn't forget that worlds collide in stories like this. Your father and mother certainly have their opinions and that the world has changed since their youth and that you are not exactly in their situation back then cannot be denied.
Neither your parents nor you have all the answers to all of life's problems. Now you are at a point in your life where you are making your own decisions. You will make good ones and bad ones (hopefully learning from the bad ones) and it would certainly be nicer and better for you if your parents would support you (whatever that might be - well-intentioned advice, emotionally and/or financially). But for parents (especially authoritarian parents), it's hard to realize that they do not own their kids nor should they make all of their decisions for them.
Everything turned out quite well for me. I am now a tax advisor, my future is secure, my parents are proud of me and have calmed down. But even today I still have to set boundaries for them (as far as my life is concerned) and demand that they are respected.
What I'm trying to tell you is that you need the serenity to accept the things you can't change. Courage to change the things you can change and wisdom to recognize the difference between the two. Focus on finding out what you want out of life (if you don't already know) and realizing your goals in it.
Thank you for sharing your story, my relationship with my parents was very abusive and it took me a long time to make sense of it all and sometimes i still don’t have all the answers. I hope in the future we can maybe rekindle but when i think of where i wanna go and what i want to do in life, it may seem heartless but, im very happy without them. Who knows how things will all turn out but I’m confident everything will be okay either way🫶
Damn, just watched ur vid on how everybody is self centered and "doesn't care bout you so live your life"... Now "parents disowned me", that escalated quickly lol.
So relatable its like a sign to me to speak my truth. Im 27 and i wish this happened earlier bc trust me it would have never ended. They have me so isolated they got to so many people i spend days and days only speaking to people ive met online they have shattered my life.
You definitely need to let it out! Fuck what people say or think! Use your voice until you can’t anymore
@@momopillor read the room a little....
Thank you for sharing your story. You’re such an incredibly strong and smart young lady whose whole life is ahead of her. And the fact you looked at this situation with bravery and didn’t let it take control of your life is commendable. Thank you for being the voice and the light to those who are going through a situation like this right now. You show that there is a light on the other side of not letting toxic people in your life anymore. Keep doing you girl🩷 also we ripped our nic at the same time and I felt connected lol
After reading this message I have no doubt we are connected at the very neuron! Thank you for such a kind perspective, I’ll keep doing my best!
It's not forever. Lots of generation and culture clashing. Just strive to be the best person you can be while maintaining your peace. Parents are human and can be selfish, at some point you will reconnect and as long as you understand that they are limited in views and experiences, you won't take it so personally. Its really more about them than you. Itll be ok, wishing you all- healing.
As a Palestinian guy who was born and raised in the middle east (UAE)(sure as hell not your intended demographic but hey😭) i have a couple of things to say
1. Arab parents are usually very involved with their children's lives, they take care of them not until 18 or they finish uni but until they are completely independent whether that means the daughter marries someone or thier son has a good income and buys his own place and moves out on his own will.(daughters can work too, in jordan and egypt there has been a culture shift where women also go to university and work and get incomes too, they would take care of the woman until she is independent just as they would do their son)
2.this bring me to point 2, arab parents 95% of the time pay for your university, in our culture you are on the same team as your kid, why make them get in hairline receding debt when you can help them out like you did for the past 18 years?
3.If they are not involved with your upbringing and dont have a strong relationship with you, they should NOT expect you to follow what they percieve is right. why would i get mad at my daughter getting in a relationship when i didn't care about her and take care of her growing up?
If your parents really lived closer with you and gave you a good childhood and didn't do all that, you would probably have grown up into being Muslim (i dont know if you are or aren't so forgive me). I bring this up because you being muslim would make you more aligned with certain things like not being outright dating or having certain longterm goals in life.
and lastly i hope you can reach and extend an olive branch, at least have a relationship with your siblings, the most important thing is family, i know how hard it must've been to lose those bonds.
This is all true! I grew up in the Middle East not America so I know all this to be true. Unfortunately my father, who’s Egyptian, has a severe personality disorder that caused him to do most of what he’s done. I’ve always longed for the relationship other Arab kids have with their parents, especially fathers and daughters. I never got that but I now realize that it’s okay. I do miss my family in Egypt and wish I can see them again! It’s a hard situation but they made their choice to not accept me and it’s up to them to fix their mistakes. I am glad you commented this because a lot of people could use the context of what it’s like to grow up in an Arab family! Also, although I am no longer Muslim, I pray for فلسطين everyday♥️🇵🇸
Haven't watched yet but this is going on w me rn and was thinking about finally posting about it I been homeless for 2 years no help, but they'd still be around me now i started my business and getting better they treat me like I'm doing the worst thing ever and idk wtf is happening. I'm also autistic and schizophrenic and they just will not even google enough to know how fucked their way of even talking to me is.
My parents aren't even together and still have banded against me to push me away and keep my kids from me
Oh wow I just got to where yours aren't together either. What the hell?@?!?! Ugh I'm so sorry I subbed and liked. Ur not alone babes.
@@DystortedSacrificeyes, they divorced when I was 8-9 years old but the abuse overshadowed the divorce so much😅
I understand you, im also autistic. Life can be hard for us but I promise there will be a brighter day on your horizon. Post your story and use your voice! I hope your situation improves❤
1:21 i think you missed a spot you wanted to edit out lol
Not me thinking u were dragging me LMAOOO I decided to keep it in because I found it funny
@@momopill well it worked cause it was funny! That’s the whole reason i even said anything :) i really enjoyed this video. I think it’s so important for us to talk about stuff like this to let others know they’re not alone 🖤
What's up with women "testing" people?
I relate 100%. You have to be extremely smart and courageous to put yourself first in this kind of situation. And the grieving process is hardcore. But it is the right decision and it will become easier with time. I am much older than you but I m living my very best life with real UNCONDITIONAL love from people that deserve and respect me❤ best feeling ever! you are going to become an amazing strong and beautiful woman, you already are! Take care
You’re completely right! Thank you for your kindness and compassion. Learning i’m not a victim is deeply healing.
I wish you all the happiness in the world
Wow forcing you to go to college and take a loan in this economy just because they went. Really terrible.
As someone who loves story time content and personal stories, this was a little hard for me to follow cause it felt your story was all over the place so maybe you can break it down into sections and titles like "Dad's background", "Mom's background", "Post-Divorce Feelings", "Certain incidents/conflicts that led to the divorce." The storytelling style was a little messy so maybe you could look into scripting or writing down the points you want to cover one by one. Also, maybe edit the video to remove all the uhms and pauses and exhales as they are very distracting. I'm very sorry for what happened and your story is important. But you might lose out on views/reach if your video is not refined. It doesn't exactly have to be high production but I really liked your story since I'm going through something similar but I found it hard to follow it. I would love to see more of your content but please do look into editing out the distractions. Thank you!
I’m already working on a part two because I realized I left out a lot of information! Thank you for the feedback I do appreciate it a lot as a newer creator!
I do like the way you story tell!
@@ninakalkman2271 I really appreciate you!💓
Destroyed her life because she wanted a boyfriend.
I’ve see this chick before I just don’t know where
I wonder🧐
Hey girl…. Can relate
I’m glad you found this! We are in this together 🎀🫶
thank you for sharing your story❤
Thank you for the kind comment💓
why?
@Loreaiwnyou don't always have to know everyone's business. she's telling a story of self growth, so just stop trying to dig into her life and just understand what she's trying to say.
I’ll be releasing a part two soon answering questions!
Thank you for this. Your empathy is much appreciated friend!
Parent's don't just 'disown' their children. They let you go to your own vices. This isn't the entire story
No it’s not the entire story. I was disowned though. I cannot speak to my family anymore.
@momopill I am so sorry. I cannot imagine that for anyone. I hope you're some day able to mend that relationship with your family. Parents probably still love you very much. Sometimes, being 'disowned' doesn't mean the parent stops loving you.
@@nicoobrowner i might never know but im okay with that. Thank you for wishing me luck in my relationship with my parents, I genuinely appreciate it.
@@nicoobrowner Some people are incapable of common human emotions like love for their children. People with Cluster B personality disorder (NPD, BPD,...) for example. The sooner you realize this, the better as only after accepting this healing can start.
@@RundbarkKonark Are you diagnosing me or her parents? I'm so confused by your statement 😕
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I love gen z crying about stupid things. Parents are not perfect but they really want the best for you. It is ridiculous the way you are complaining about them. You should be more grateful for all the things they provided. You are just a child, you don't even know exactly what you want. The only thing you need is a job, too much free time. If you can have a high standard for how your Dad is with you, why can't he have the same?
I have a job, I work 80 hours. You don’t know anything about me. I’m not complaining I’m using my voice to tell my story and I’m not done doing that yet. Keep watching me and releasing your anger onto someone you don’t know, I’m sure that will help you succeed in life.
you don't know everyone's lives. you do not know her. you do not know who her parents are. you are pretending like this is a specific generational experience for gen z when it literally isn't. you are acting like you know what she wants, and you're acting like you think she cannot deduce what happened in her own life and act accordingly. because ... she is younger than you? be grateful you can say things like this behind a screen without having to be called out for making ignorant comments. lord knows you wouldn't say this to her face.
Why did u click on the video .
@@Zarathustr for real LMAOOOO
@@momopill you don't work 80 hours. If you do you don't have time to post videos on internet.
First world problems.
What does that even mean? People in the third world also have parental problems you trog lol
i lived in the third world for the majority of my life.
Some of these commentors have to be bots
WWhy does this not look real