Ep. 006 | What YOUNG & DUMB John DIDN'T Know | JLS
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I’m only 17 so I’m here to learn for those who have been there and don’t that. Thank you for your great videos I’ve learned a lot from you!
You're in the right place, amigo.
Good timing kid. I'm almost 40 and I'm here to get some dad advice from John too😂
Work hard, think long term and make peace with Heaven. the best is almost never the easy way.
I'm almost 50 and have small child.
So I'm here for the Dad advice and life advice.
Never too young or old to learn.
God Bless The Warrior poet🙏🇺🇲
The biggest piece of advice I could ever give anyone, take care of your body. If you fail your body, it will inevitably fail you.
Take care of your back. Exercise smart. And don't stop exercising. When you stop, your body will change.
Secondly, follow your dreams and have faith in yourself. If you want something bad enough, you can achieve it.
1) You don’t need to drink to socialize
2) Don’t stop reading
3) Asking for help isn’t a weakness
4) Don’t give up on yourself
5) Trust in yourself and your skills
"The grass is greenest where you water it." Heard that a wedding once and it really resonated.
At 48, I wish I would have listened to my dad’s advice when I was in the Marines by finding a strong biblical teaching church, stay away from too much booze, no drugs, save your money, and don’t sleep around. Married now with 8 children from my only bride with a few in their 20’s. I will be sharing this with them! Thanks! Greetings from the free state of Missouri!
The Cup is Half Full, You got 8 Kids from Not listening 👍🏼… If you had less booze you would realize that save money requires time and you might had come to the conclusion that more than 3 or 4 kids would take you from that savings… (And I’m sure your kids are non-negotiable)…
We lived what we had to in order to achieve the things we appreciate today, and I believe 8 kids is a great thing , great job brother 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Mega based brother
U done aawsuum
8 kids? Awesome. I have 4, and I’m proud of that. With people like you and your family, we may take this country back in 20 years👍
1) Be deliberate and thoughtful about your future regarding your education. Do more now and it will pay off for you later.
2) Be deliberate and thoughtful about your relationships. Figure out who you are and what you want in a partner, what you want for your kids, your religion and then go after those things. Don’t just be passive in them and let things happen. These are big concepts. Spend time thinking about these issues. Write them down and regularly come back to them.
3) Cultivate friendships and be the type of person you would want to be friends with.
4) Read a lot, especially classical literature and history. Become a well versed person in those areas. It will make you a better person to be around.
5) Show gratitude for everything you have both materially and opportunity-wise.
100 %
Well said.
Focus on Faith, and be financially responsible. 36 yrs old, celebrating my 11 years of marriage, and welcoming our 6th child this summer! Can't wait to listen to what the guys have.
1. Pay attention to every church service that mom drug me to.
2. Look for only the quality friends instead of attempting to hope around the social circles.
3. Pray more genuinely.
4. Keep your hand above the belt when your alone. That's what a wife is for, so save your best for her.
5. Be on guard always, especially when your tired, hungry, or lonely. That's when your most valuable to the enemies attacks.
5.
As another young person, (19), I appreciate you guys doing this vid. So much wisdom shared, love it.
My piece of advice:
- Instead of focusing so much on what not to do, a bad habit or thought pattern, focus on what do. If you fill yourself with the right thoughts and habits the bad ones won't have the room to cause problems.
Be that dad that is out in the front yard playing lightsabers with all neighborhood kids and encouraging other parents to come play. Sing every name and phrase you want your kids to learn first. Melodies will always help memory stick. Guide them, do not choose for them. This will take a lot of time and exposure to things even you don't know. Conduct yourself as if all the children in your area can see you every second of the day. You will stay honorable. And last, make sure that when you finally are forced to choose violence, you better know how, and be REALLY good at it. Love y'all.
I'm kinda in the same boat with my father, except he calls a few times a year, he's never really bothered with me even when I was little, I wanted him to play with me or play catch and he never did and when we do talk it's only for a few minutes, he lives pretty far away now, he moved when I was in elementary school to be with his new wife....but I have kids and wish he was closer so he could be in their life, I have a 11 month old daughter that he hasn't even met yet, and my other daughters he's only seen maybe half a dozen times in 8-10 years
Beagles are better than doorbells
1. Discipline isn't just about willpower, it's about putting systems in place to help you make good decisions with minimal thought.
2. Don't waste your time or money on things that aren't quality, the things you invest in should improve your life or help you grow.
3. Read philosophy, especially stoic philosophy.
4. Cultivate a hobby, something that you're passionate about that takes time to master.
5. The right woman will help you reach your goals, not make you want to rethink them.
1. Be thankful, not envious.
2. Never blame others for your own shortcomings. You're responsible even if others are imperfect and fail you, you're the only one who can fix you.
3. Certainty is the enemy of growth, learning and changing perspective. Listen most to those you disagree with and ask questions rather than arguing.
4. Forgive. That includes yourself and others. Holding grudges and being self critical can build resentment. Let the past stay in the past.
5. Let those you care about know it. Compliment others and be generous with your words, actions and attitudes.
Not all growth is good growth. Cancer and disease also grow. Something to reflect on.
I would focus on universal truth and time-tested wisdom. Rather than following my impulses and emotions.
The heart will betray you. But the brain applying universal truth and time-tested wisdom never will.
We even say things like " how do you feel about that, trust your heart, do what you feel is best." Well, I feel like ice cream and cake for breakfast lunch and dinner. I also feel like dating that really overtly sexy girl. ( Divorce.)
Proverbs 28: 26 kJV
He who trusts in his own heart is a fool.
But he who walks wisely shall be saved from trouble.
Why? Sin is in the flesh. Emotiinal feelings are flesh. If I pinch your flesh, you feel it.. if I offend you with words, you feel it also emotionally.
We are to crucify the flesh and bring it under submission. We do that by applying universal truth and time-tested wisdom.
The brain is the filter for the heart. That is why God placed the head above the heart.
Imagine a world where people responded with universal truth and time-tested wisdom.
I feel like ice cream and cake for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
Would turn to, but I think I will have a well-balanced meal.
The world would be a better place if offenses were met with truth and wisdom rather than impulse or emotion. (IMAGINE): >(UNIFYING) (JUSTICE) (POLICY)
I needed that, thanks mate!
10 commandments ?
@@romeolima5339 the problem with thinking anyone knows "universal truth" is that we're not infallible in discerning it. Galileo went against the church and now we know the folks teaching "the truth" punished a man who was right. Anyone who ever told me they were the arbiter of all truth would be someone I'd stay far away from. Just like Fauci is not "the science" no one I know has the market cornered on truth. The older I get the more aware I am of my own ignorance. I discover more about truth by questioning everything than I ever did when I was young and knew everything.
I watched this last night on WPSN with my husband and 13 year old son. We paused and verbalized a few things we would have said to our younger selves. Even our son had something to tell his 6 year old. This has been my favorite episode so far, and it was divinely timed with what we are working on with our son right now. Thank you for what you do!
1) make your bed and clean your room.
2) eat good and make your food. Learn how to eat and why.
3) workout no longer than an hour six days a week. Learn how and why
4) study and get certifications in your field and push yourself
5) find a hobby and do it on weekends.
Do all of these consistently. Learning to control yourself is impossibly hard and these teach you how to control yourself. You’ll find amazing opportunities that have no side effect to not follow through. Don’t fall for it. You’re learning to control yourself!
Control yourself!
You can’t control anything else.
You’re right! Just owning yourself and your actions is so incredibly difficult. Talk is easy but just following through on those simple things like making your bed is impossible.
17 soon to be 18, already in adulthood this is why im here.if i could give my younger self a list it would be this.
1. Prioritize family, You don’t know when they’ll go.
2. Put yourself first when it comes to what you want, not others opinions
(big one for me).
3. Know the difference between kindness and niceness.
4. Read. The word itself says a lot
5. Get active, put yourself out there, workout weekly 5-6x.
bonuses.
6. Take care of your surroundings and have responsibility.
7. Don’t have too much pride in yourself. There’s always someone more successful, richer, stronger, & smarter than you.
keep ya head up if you read this far!
Just keep watching young man, good on you.
At 50 I wish I had your wisdom at your age.
@@robertpickardjr9239 makes me feel a lot better man!, dont mind my rant👍 i lost 2 of my brothers just this year. (1 older and the other was younger..) , (guess thats where my wisdom comes from..) & soon as i lost them both horrible rumours have been spreading about me in my hometown.. people (my gen specifically ..) think i like to hit girls and drink when im nowhere near close to an alcoholic, (theres no evidence against me & the local police are on my side thankfully🙏) appreciate your words man also congrats not many make it to 50 where im from🙏❤️
I'm very sorry for your loss. I lost my older daughter to a brain aneurysm about 7.5 years ago. The lies and rumors started less than a week later. People suck. You are an eagle. Don't let the turkeys hold you down.
Insightful and shows you are beginning on the right tract. When you revisit your list at 25 you will learn great things about your 18 yo self and your 25 yo self.
As a 23 year old male. I'd tell my younger self one thing.
" Look man, I know we have a disability and we feel like we have to keep up all the time with everyone else because we feel inadequate. Trust me on this and just Slow down, we aren't missing much, and it ain't all sunshine like we thought it was. Take your time, slow down, pay attention to yourself , and relax. Life's a little more bearable that way"
As a 23 year old guy with a disability trying to find his way in life. This channel helps me out alot so thanks WPS for all the help and God bless ✊🏿🔥
1Do it now.
2 Mean what you say and say what you mean.
3 Be consistent.
4 Do your best even when it seems futile
5 Never burn a bridge unless you absolutely have to. You never know when you might need it
Excellent!❤
Happy late 40th John, I also just turned 40. Here are my 5 things
1. It is ok to stand up for yourself.
2. Don't let anyone tell you you can't achieve greatness.
3. Never, ever give up.
4. Learn to balance physical activity with academic pursuits.
5. Continue to follow the pathway your are on because you are on the right track.
The whole “spend time with your parents” hits a little deeper right now and also brings up a question for my own life now. My wife just lost her dad last week. My mom and I have a good relationship but my father has never been in my life save a few phone calls when I was really young. He’s never tried to contact me but I have an avenue to contact him for the past few years but not sure if I should or even if I want to. It’s something my wife and I have discussed before and even more so since her dad passed.
I think it's up to you. He doesn't sound like someone to spend time on, from an outside point of view. Then again maybe it's worth reaching out, as long as you realize you might be disappointed or hurt.
My dad passed away unexpectedly last fall (pancreatic cancer); he was only 72. God I miss him so much.
You'll probably regret it if you don't.
I haven't had a relationship or talked to my dad in about half my life and I'm 52. He provided for us, but was never engaged with me as a parent. I sent him a letter 24 years ago and told him how I felt. He sent a 2 sentence letter back that basically said "Sorry, I'm not perfect.". That was it for me. It was healthier to move on from a dysfunctional relationship with him than to try to reconcile his behavior in the context of a typical parent / child relationship. If he dies first, I won't be at his funeral.
Oh yeah
Such good wisdom, thank you. A favorite point, grind it out and get it right. My husband often said he spent his whole life trying to find a job he loved. I on the other hand always responded I spent my entire life loving the jobs I found.
This is great John. I like the direction your program is going. God bless you and yours.
At 49 and a father of two in their early 20s, now realizing how fast time goes by the older we get. I would tell my younger self to not waste time and to stop procrastinating. Also to place priority of needs before wants. God bless you my brothers
Additionally one more item that is necessary as a young person. Everyone needs a mentor/coach/sensei which they can trust, someone who can offer guidance and wisdom. If there is no mentor available, a good friend who will tell you the truth, especially when you do not want to hear it. In either case, having someone to discuss ideas who can give you good feedback to help you to proceed in the direction you need.
I’m 16 so I’m here to listen and learn. Of course I have real life (not in the internet) role models as well but you are doing a great job John.
Ben was maligned at the beginning of the video for not doing the homework but his first 3 pieces of advice are gold and spoke to me.
This podcast is what this world needs right now more than anything. Iron sharpening iron.
Grade A content John and hats off to your team. What you’ve built is revolutionary and so desperately needed if I were to understate it.
1. Faith comes first, and it’s not because you checked a box either. 20 year old me was a damn religious Pharisee and he needed a reality check that he was not good enough on his own.
2. Don’t buy things because you can afford them, save for the quality things you really could have and think you can’t afford. My vice was buying guns when I could afford a gun not waiting to get precisely what I needed or wanted. YMMV
3. You may already know it, but find someone else who understands love is a sacrifice and an action not just feelings - find someone as selfless as you are willing to be.
4. Learn how to be self sufficient. I missed a lot of these lessons and have to go back and work on them now.
5. You don’t have to be right. You may be right, but you being the only one knowing it isn’t the end of the world and doesn’t reflect badly on you
I’m in my twenties so can’t really give advice to younger self but advice I’d give to others is 1. Stand by your beliefs and let your actions reflect the values you hold 2. It’s never too late to try again 3. Always try new thing and gain new experiences as that’s the key to growth as a person
I would tell myself to get off social media about 10 years earlier than I did.
Get my CFI 10 years earlier than I did.
Don't lift too heavy in the gym.
Move to FL 10 years earlier than I did.
Oh and an important one... Don't chase people for friendship or relationship. Sincere people will put effort into being around and you won't have to chase them. Put effort into the relationship and if it isn't reciprocated, let it go.
I've been thinking about this for a while now. Most of my advice was covered in the video. There are 2 additional things I would tell my 19 yo self.
First - You're worth a lot more than you think you are both professionally and personally.
Second - No matter what your job title is, or what field of employment you are working in, your primary goal is to help people, NOT to be right about something. When you're focused on doing things the right way, it's easy to get frustrated and discouraged when your management team ignores your advice and goes in the "wrong" direction. When your primary objective it to help someone, you realize that THEY are responsible for the final outcome and YOU are simply trying to help them be successful. If you really are good at what you do, and they ignore your advice, there WILL be plenty of opportunities to help them again in the near future and that help will go a LONG way in convincing them to give your advice more consideration the next time around. Also, when you focus on helping people, your focused on the relationship instead of the material possessions. People will want you on their team, will give you more grace when you do make a mistake, and will give you more latitude to speak freely on important matters.
In regards to the work force, and interacting with superiors, I'd also offer a 3rd piece of advice. You MAY know a lot about certain things, but you your superior will always have considerably more information about a project than you do. You may know the best way to do something, but your superiors knows when it really needs to completed, what the budget is, and why. He/she has more things to take into consideration than just your input. So if your advice isn't followed, it isn't always because they think you are wrong, or don't value your contribution. More often than not, there are extenuating circumstances that you were not aware of and those circumstances determined the final decision.
When I was a young kid (12-13yrs old), my dad’s “awesome” advice to me was “hump ‘em, and dump em’”. That gem advice shaped who I would become until I was nearly 30 years old. I would go back in time and tell that young me to “respect the ladies and protect the ladies”. That would have prevented a lot of pain and regret. This is what I have been telling my boys since they were very young, and I hope that’s what they see from me in the way that I care for their sister’s and their mom.
It’s a trap!
The only thing I can think of right off hand is:
1. Seeking the advice of my elders, as well as listening to their encouragement.
2. Left home earlier than I did.
3. Stopped caring what my abusive Father had to say.
4. Gotten married sooner than I did. After 36 years of marriage, I wish it had been forty now instead!
5. Invested more into the lives of my son's, I didn't do bad just think I could have done more!
6. Not gotten discouraged and done what I knew I was supposed to do as a vocation.
7. Spent more time with the Lord in His Word, and in prayer!
I was going to call the 2 extras but It is actually only 5, if you think about it…
1 & 3 could be One only :
• Tune your ears - Listen to the Good voices and separate them from the Bad Noises…. 🤷🏻♂️
Then 2 & 4 could go together
• Get Married and Move out Right away… 🤷🏻♂️
I loved the 3 last ones 👍🏼👊🏼
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“Little with GOD is so much, and So Much without GOD is nothing”…
Love your videos, keep up being an inspiration to the people you touch
Things that seem like seem like they suck in the moment are almost universally looked back upon favorably, especially when experienced with friends
Here are mine (paused at 5:12) to add: Travel now and do it outside your comfort zone. Be as debt free as you can be - its true freedom. Say I love you and celebrate life, before the funerals. Be purposeful about the values you hold and stand by them even when it's not popular. Chasing tail is fun but really doesn't get you anywhere.
My big one would be, "Do your best to die with as little regret as possible."
There are two subsets of regret; one is regret for things that you didn't do that you wanted to, and the other is regret for things that you did and wish you hadn't. The first type you might still be able to do something about as long as you're still sucking air, but the second type you have to live with, so that's the more important of the two.
THESE ARE FANTASTIC. Thank you guys for doing these videos.
1) Surround yourself with positive people. You become who you associate with
2) Read positive books. Your mind hungers what you feed it so feed it good things
1. Keep living. 2. The same things that make you laugh, make you cry. 3. Never give up. 4. Don't talk, just do. 5. Don't be a bush, become a Sierra Redwood.
I have had a lot of tragedy in my life and have spent too much time wishing I could change things. I have cam to the conclusion that I shouldn't change my past if I could become I'm happy and don't want to change my life.
I am working on making myself better but I don't what to change what got me here today.
Ben (host), I totally agree - my Mom passed away from cancer when I was in my 1st week of High School. I regret so much of the missed opportunities to connect more with her when I was just a snotty-nosed Middle Schooler.
I’ve grown from it, but I missed some real good chances,… Dangit.
My Dad did a noble job during my High School years being “both the Dad and the Mom”, but this punk was very rebellious and missed so many chances to grow beyond my peers, but I failed to Love him as I should.
Great point: 20-yr-old Ben (and younger): love your parents, for all the years up to and through when you are 20.
1. Remember what is in your control, and what is not. Focus on what you can control and let go of the rest.
2. Self-Discipline = freedom
3. Surrounded yourself with people who want the best for you and call you on your BS- chances are they are right.
4. Don't take things personal- it's not always about you.
5. It's okay to go to therapy and get help now, you'll only ask yourself later why you didn't do it sooner.
I’m 20 right now so yay 4 that,
Thanks for the advice
One subtle one i've picked up: Whenever possible, replace the word "sorry" with "Thank you". Instead of saying "sorry i'm late", it's better to say "thank you for your patience".
Leadership is lonely at times. As a boat captain, those around you are not necessarily your friends. Thanks for these new shows.
1-Save money early and for a long time (e.g. put away for rainy days, as there will be many and retirement)
2-Keep your relationships strong with good people
3-Keep your integrity intact forever
4-Get education, but be aware of all opinions and respect that others have their opinions-never stop learning
5-Family is forever, acquaintances are not
Going back in time I would tell myself too....
1. Listen to your dad.
2. Listen closely to your dad.
3. Your dad is probably right.
Just one example, went three days starving, because we were "mountain men" and would live off the land. He told me to pack some food. HE WAS RIGHT! We caught one 6 inch brook trout. Talk about getting hungry.....lol
@18- ppppsssshhhh.....you don't know what your talking about (head shaking)
@50- man am I a dumbest. Haha
Me @18, me @ 50 by the way. Not you.
This is absolutely priceless, thank you
1)Inform yourself about the things you get told (if possible from your pov and their pov). Be Informed.
2)If you want to change someones pov, you will have to start discussions in territory that is unfamiliar, and probably scary at times. Be brave.
3)You really need to become better at letting people go, that have hurt you. Be responsible.
4)Dont be afraid to tell the person you love that you do because of some notion of losing what you have, cause you lost 'em anyway by drifting apart. Take action.
5)Find a way to lighten up. I know this life seems for the most part very serious and because of it I think you have too. And if its just faking a smile to make someone elses day brighter. You being happy about it might make your fake smile real. Shine.
26 years old, just married, not a ton of life experience yet but this is what I’d share.
1) Start from a place of humility- not the lowly “I suck so much” crap that you think it is, but rather, learn who God made you to be, know your weaknesses and strengths, and act from those pieces of knowledge.
2) Embrace opportunities to learn. Don’t be afraid to fail. You can learn so much from your mistakes. Just start running in a direction and then correct your course later. It’s better to be moving than stagnant.
3) Learn how to admit you were wrong without beating yourself up. This will play right into learning about yourself and other people. Get back up again after you’ve fallen and moving on with your new knowledge. Don’t dilly dally and screw around wallowing in self pity.
4) Set high goals. You can do a hell of a lot more than you think you can with the grit you haven’t touched yet.
5) spend a lot of time building high quality friendships. Not just video games and movies. The time that you have with “just the guys” is limited and worth the investment.
Dang, so much good stuff in this video. Definitely gonna need another watch or 3 or 10 to get everything. Thanks guys.
Have kids earlier in life. You will never have enough time or enough money, just do it! They are the purpose of life. Also, for number 2. Don’t go to college it is a waste of time and a corrupt institution get a trade make your money when you are young and use that trade to leverage your way into a office environment.
At 64 I could go forever. 1, stay out of debt, I knew it at 20 but did it anyway. 2, buy more gold, guns and ammo when they were cheap. 3, buy dirt, land was cheap and having it then would be good. 4, marry my HS sweetheart. I did at 18 and it was best decision I made. Still together. 5 and should have been 1, asked my grandad more questions. He had a wealth of knowledge on surviving hard times and being self sufficient. Knowledge definitely needed in this time. Now on with the show.
I was already screwed up at 20 I'd have to go back a little further. To that me I'd say, "DO NOT go to the homecoming dance in 1989". Almost every problem I've experienced in my life are a direct result from the thing that happened that night.
The two biggest things I would tell myself is to go out of my way to spend as much time with my parents and siblings when possible, sharing my children with them...and number two: don't be unkind to anyone ever...you will regret every time you've been an idiot to someone.
Great stuff!
John, I’m 28 and appreciate every video your produce. I’ve needed your content right now in my life more than ever. I’ve been dying to find a way to offer to volunteer for warrior poet somehow. I’ve been through years of electrical school and am a handyman in north GA. Id love to give you a free education on electrical, it will expand so many opportunities in life.
1. People make mistakes
2. The brain can take a while to learn the things it needs to, hence this list (this goes for everyone)
3. Your passion is your interests.
4. You are supposed to fail in order to learn
5. Make small steps toward what you want, don’t stay stagnant
Well done list gentlemen. Considering showing parts of this to my students.
Thank you for this
I'll be turning 30 this year, here's my 5
1. Really dive into Gunsmithing, don't pussyfoot around with that career!
2. Reality is scary, but you got this!
3. Do your research and find a pistol that works for you and get a concealed carry license and train train train!
4. Don't give up your passion in life for anyone!
5. Keep your head up and keep pushing forwards to your goals and you will accomplish great things for yourself.
6.(bonus) Don't mess around with .22lr, buy a centerfire AR platform and again, train train train!
1) listen to those who have been there and done that. Even if you don't take the advice they give, listen to it.
2) Stay teachable. Even if you know 99.95% of everything there is to know about a subject.. you still don't, and can't, know everything. And the less there is to learn, the harder it'll be to seek out, and the more teachable you'll need to be to know it when you see it.
Really hate to do this John. But in keeping with your directions I had to pause and I'll come back later. Been reflecting on this more and more. I turned 40 last year and my first baby comes in a few days. Excited to listen.
Thanks for sharing
This reaffirms alot of thing I live by great job
When I was 20 years and younger, I always wanted people to like me, growing up through the years taught me that no matter how sweet the honey is, someone will not like it. A lesson my father taught me was to let stupid things go, Like water on a ducks back, let it roll off. Boy was he right. 4 years in the military and my dad has never been so right.
I have two regrets I'd tell myself to avoid. One is a girl who I would tell myself to never talk to. The second is that I was a straight A student until I got a B from an activist teacher my junior year of college (would not give males an A). I let that break my will in education and didn't pursue academics the same way after that and I think it continues to hurt me professionally. I did well, but not my best, and that is what still haunts me today. I even acquired a GAANN fellowship with a full-ride to graduate school for electrical engineering but squandered it. Echoes of failure from looking backwards rather than looking forward.
As a 23 year old much to learn but here is five.
1) Do things out of love not duty you will enjoy them more, learn more, and not regret it.
2) Self discipline is easy the early you start. So exercise self discipline.
3) Trust God about the future he knows and he will bring the counsel needed and its worrying that is unneeded and unproductive.
4) take more counsel and confide in my dad more
5) be more diligent in learning. Piano , Spanish and variety of other skills
1) you don’t have to know everything 100% to get started. Just get started.
2) it’s not about being scared or not. It’s about showing it up and doing it anyways.
3) At the end of the day you have to make decisions that you are okay with, not let other tell you how to feel.
4) invest money in assets. Education is one asset too.
5) your family is most important. Work at staying connected. You’ll have friends come and go but family is forever. (Unless your family is bad bad people. Lol)
.Practise being uncomfortable: do at least one thing per day that leaves you physically or mentally tired out. Helps build the discipline to rise to challenges you don't expect
"Buy Apple stock. Buy a whole tree of it, if you can. Buy the whole orchard."
1. The best plan is the one that you will actually do.
2. Some things aren't your fault. Other things actually are your fault.
3. It's better to save money now than get a discount on something in the future.
4. Don't let perfect be the enemy of good.
Trust is earned it drops and lost in buckets.
Don’t know who said it first but I know who I heard it from first.
Love you dad.
Thank you 😊
I enjoyed the video; thanks for sharing! Definitely agree with the reading and investment. That is an interesting take on the specialization. Those are solid points that you made. Talking about gyms, one rep Max's, and getting back into the gym are all issues we have had in the past. That's a cultural thing that we have to work hard to adjust. Still trying to figure out how to fix that.
I think my biggest problem as a kid was lack of direction. Because of that I made a lot of poor choices young. Then I found out that some of the choices I made 15-19 were etched in stone (not ink). So I'd tell myself to keep that in mind.
And I'd explain to myself the problems with nihilism. Which I think can cause us to take a short view of life.
Finally, I'd tell myself to let it fly. Be unapologetically you and meet people. I spent so many years afraid to let people see me. After the military, I opened up a lot and was less afraid to let my personality go. But I wish I had been more daring in my youth.
My younger self might not have listened, but here goes:
1) What's right is not always easy. What's easy is not always right.
2) The consequence of inaction (especially in politics) is that you will be ruled by lesser men.
3) Success will show you the woman that you want. Struggle will show you the woman that you need.
I'm only 18 but I've learned a lot in life so far 😂
1. Be more involved with my church
2. Be more honest and upfront when it comes to another mans daughter
3. Have A higher level of respect for my parents and there wishes
4. You don't have to be the coolest guy in the room and it's ok to just listen in a group conversation
5. Don't let drink and smoke led your life.
And just for John I'll do
6. Be slow to anger and fast to forgive
Make sure you treat women like they are someone you care about. It's very easy to be present in this vapid, depressing world we live in but if they're not compatible, don't waste your time and use their bodies, it doesn't benefit you in the long run and can often lead to issues you didn't even know could arise.
@@MegadethTillDeth very true
1. Hang with good people that teach you stuff! 2. Work hard and learn to love it! 3. Have fun within the law! Love the people around you and show them! Most of all love God!
1. Get a sleep study, snoring isn’t normal you have sleep apnea
2. Admit your feelings and get help, don’t be afraid to take meds
3. Stay in the army, you’ll regret leaving, or join the national guard when you’re done with active duty
4. Stop eating junk food and keep exercising
1) military or tech school, pick one.
2) doing what you honestly believe is right is the only sleep aid you'll ever need.
3) take "cant" out of your vocabulary.
4) keep enjoying your time spent in solitude. There is real peace found there. Those that don't get it probably never will. Too bad for them.
5) set goals and push.
I enjoyed this session this week. I wanted to challenge John's idea of slowing giving out trust with the concepts taught in "The Speed of Trust" by Stephen M.R. Covey. If you haven't read that one yet, it sounds like it would be one up your alley. Enjoy!
1. Be smarter with your money, plan things out, and use a monthly budget.
2. Do your homework before you vote, research the candidates yourself, view their websites, even for candidates you don't think you'd be interested in voting for.
3. Stay in shape, keep active, make it a priority, and build good fitness habits.
4. Maintain regular contact with your friends, and don't let time and space get in the way.
5. Keep setting goals for yourself, know where you want to go in the future, and build plans to get there.
The truth is that most people have to learn things for themselves and not just be told, especially when your twenty.
1. 1984 is a documentary brought back from the future to warn us about communisms.
2. If someone shows up and says, I'm from the government and I'm here to help, Run!
3. The golden rule is the most important rule.
4. "Those without a morale code will have their lives coded for them." Matthew Battie
5. Don't pretend that pharmaceuticals are any better or less dangerous than other drugs.
6. Any lie you tell, you will one day regret.
7. "Hold the girl you love in a paper cup, drink it up, love her and she'll bring you luck." Kenny Loggins And sometimes woman like to be spanked!
Super pumped to hear your thoughts,
I appreciate the breadth of what you guys covered. It wasn't just, "love you wife more" and "work hard". Thanks guys.
I'll be 40 in July and I look up to you as an "old wise man"lol. Thank you for the prayers and God bless you sir... I'd tell my younger self to save money, 10% from each paycheck so you don't need 20% later in life. 🙏
1. I’m 21 and I would tell myself how to control my anger better. It’s very natural to feel frustrated in that part of life, especially if you didn’t have the fortune of not being in public schools. 2. More recently I would tell myself to focus a lot less on politics and focus on making connections with people sooner. 3. Have a better connection with Jehovah. Idk what happened along the way, but I talked myself into alot of uncertainty about religion. I don’t want to be known solely as a Christian, however, I do wish I could’ve had a few things figured out sooner than I do now. 4. Stop watching porn. It took several attempts for me to stop and it’s still a struggle sometimes because of how addictive it can be. It created a false narrative of how I thought sex and relationships should be and have destroyed a couple of relationships stemming from this narrative that had built at the time. In all reality this one should be the 1st thing for me to tell my younger self, because I still feel horrible about it. 5. Quit vaping/ don’t even start. This is my next biggest challenge as I haven’t even really tried to quit. I know I’m a hypocrite when it comes to it, but always tell people that most of these vapes are worse than cigarettes and cigars… which are bad enough with actual science behind it… science has only just started to understand what vaping does to the lungs
My mother, unfortunately, isn’t safe to be around so the second my daughter was born I made the decision to break contact. However, I pray for her every day and hope that she gets the help she needs. When I was younger I was angry at her and all of that, but it’s something I have tried at and prayed on.
#1: Every bonus the army gives you, invest it. Do not spend it on dumb stuff.
#2: Know what you want in a relationship, be clear and firm on what it is you want. Don't waste time on relationships that lead to nothing and have no life fulfilment.
#3: Pick something you are truly passionate about and be obsessed about turning it into something of value so you aren't stuck doing something you don't care about.
#4: Learn to be more tender with your loved ones. I am too hard of a guy and can't shake it. Weather it's pride or comfortability it would have saved me a lot of headaches if I was willing to be more open with my loved ones.
#5: Don't worry about what others think. Do your own thing, if folks disagree tell them it's a them problem. Stick to what you believe but always be open to growth. My biggest regret was taking my dad to MEPS with me and I wanted so much to be a ranger or SF but he talked me out of it and my body ended up broken anyways. To this day I get down thinking about never becoming what I wanted to be for my ENTIRE life.
1. Your good enough
2. family always come's first
3. you are more than your occupation
4. It doesn’t matter who’s fault it was
5. Standard are the minimum requirement and are meant to be exceeded
Do a little bit a lot of times, the results will come.
This applies to pretty much everything in my life as far as working out, reading, house cleaning, learning anything, becoming a better husband and father. It all comes by constant forward motion and doing the right thing over and over little bits at a time. None of it comes overnight. Just enjoy the process.
Just seeing this video recommended to me today. My advice at 42 to myself at 20:
1. The past is the past. The things that happened to you have no power to hurt you anymore if you make that decision. Let it go. It will kill you.
2. Keep your thoughts, plans, goals, desires to yourself. It only serves to give people opportunity to gain the high ground on you
3. Be endlessly curious about the world, your place in it, and how things work. Seek knowledge and wisdom.
4. On the same note, there is a saying that goes, "If you are the smartest person in the room, you are in the wrong room". There is nothing wrong with not knowing something. There is something wrong with knowing that you don't know something and still willfully being ignorant.
5. Do not seek external sources of motivation. If you can't motivate yourself to do X, then X isn't important enough to you
John, thank you.
1. Have compassion, everyone has their path and own struggles, getting outside of yourself and helping others brings peace to your life and helps remind you that you aren’t quite so important.
2. Appreciate the place that you’re in and take care of your body. One day your military career will be over and there’s a lot more to life than a period of time where you served.
Lots of wisdom in the video and here in the comments!
John! i Hope you saw the Highschool student wearing one of your shirts protesting drag shows in high schools in Canada. You are molding young men and its great to see!
I would advise: 1; "look after yourself first, because nobody else will". 2; "you will live longer than you think". 3; "you don't have to be nice to all people". 4; "drugs steal your ambition". 5; "for every mile of road, there is two miles of ditch"
1. Picking a high-demand, high-paying career field is infinitely more important than "loving your job" (greater financial success = enhanced ability to be autonomous / freedom)
2. Relationships matter more than education or "qualification" ever will ("who you know" almost always outperforms "what you know")
3. Taking care of your health should always stay a top priority
4. Your children are oftentimes a direct reflection of your personal character
5. The death of ego is the key to growth
#1 know your worth, & values
#2 don't compromise either for anyone
# 3 Bonus, continually become more, learning/knowledge & building new skills have a huge impact on every aspect of your life.
Had to add one more: ask everyone you view as a good person or admire at least one question: what advice would you give someone at my stage of life?