Desi Banks GF KICKED Him Out Before Success No Money No Honey tells Shannon Sharpe
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- Опубліковано 13 лют 2024
- @desibanks4real talks heartbreak on the road to success w/ @ClubShayShay
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A woman's test is when her man has nothing a man's test is when he has everything.
That’s true but I will add that a man test is when is has nothing to show for his hard work but have to humble himself and get rid of pride and tell himself he is still okay. The key is not not to put your value in worldly things like money, status, cars and houses but rather put focus and value on what God says about you and know your worth to him and not man…seek first the things Gods has and has for you and their will you find your true value then the other stuff will come when you know who you’re in God.
Real shit!
Facts
I totally agree a 💯 percent
That Part.👏🏾🫵🏾👊🏾🙏🏾✌🏾
It’s been said God will postpone your blessings until the wrong people are out of your life.
That’s a true fact I really support that that’s true the wrong person in your life and you make room for the new right one to come aboard. God bless.
I truly started believing in this quote
I love that quote and truly believe that
Amen to that.
Not true!!!
Lesson to the fellas, never put urself in a situation where a woman is taking care of u, that was yo momma responsibility at one point. Shit changes when ur an adult 💯
Yes especially if yall not married she will resent you after a while.
I swear they need to hear this 🎉
Blk mothers be looking at their sons cross-eyed when they turn 13 or shoot up to their height or taller. So that's not even a guarantee. Plenty of boys got kicked out as a teenagers.
Word'well spoken
@@ShandaP018 Even if you're married, she will resent you. This is why so many men are going 50/50.
No one is obligated to stay while you’re grinding, and you’re not obligated to them when you make it. It’s a part of the game, and frankly you can’t blame either party. He did right and kept grinding
You sound smart and dumb at the same time
If you're married they are, "till death do you part"
@@guy8360 marriage in this context is a government contract not based of the principle of real love. So I have no place for fake constructs, and even if that’s true explain divorce? Foh
Thank you!
@@jamevolve8380aka a woman would be a fool to get with you.
She wasn't meant to be a part of your dream. This was a blessing it made you push harder. Just a life lesson !
Yup.
Crazy part about it is somebody said at 2-3 am means she had sum on the way. So she REALLY wasn’t for this niqqa and it was a blessing too.
Pretty sure he realized this himself already
@@dreadwalker814 but then he meet somebody and cheats on them OK
Helll yeah see people gotta start seeing the bigger picture God got her raggedy ass out of his life because she wasn’t going to fit in gods plans for Desi. I know sometimes it’s a heart breaking when you go through certain situations but it’s for a reason
Rule number one never move in with a lady.
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Absolutely!
The post I was looking for.
Exactly
I learned the hard way
This is why its better to be by yourself when working towards your dreams unless your significant other has the same goals you have.
I wish I can like this comment a million times
Wrong. A lot of people don't want to be by themselves life does not stop. You keep talking to a female until you find one that believes too
@@niners2162 i believe both of you are right, ithink the OC is moreso saying dont take these females seriously until you are taking yourself seriously
@@hoopkingtay3344 it just all depends. I wasn’t shit until I had my kids and for my kids I went money crazy
facts!!!
As a mother of sons, I’m raising them to get themselves in order before bringing anyone into their situation.
The problem with that, is the woman will likely be there explicitly because they have their stuff together. If they can't get the girl before, it's likely she'll be there if they ever fall off. Speaking from experience.
@@rodsaunders8832im sure as she teaches them to have their stuff together shes also teaching them to accept the same or better from someone else. people evenly yoked DO come together.
@@jonigeetobe you can't teach attraction or chemistry. Men in general don't become more attracted to women who have financial or occupational success.
Not to mention "equally yoked" doesn't mean same status. It means equally burdened. It's a reference to transporting goods using animals like oxen. Sorry it just annoys when people take the Bible out of context.
@@rodsaunders8832 equally yoked is used in kjv at 2cor6:14 be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers - sooo thats reference to human relationship. attraction & chemistry cant be taught but u damn sure can put yourselves in better rooms once youve done your work.
@@rodsaunders8832 i have to mention that i use equally yoked because its a great hyperbole. that has nothing to do with the bible.
She punching air NOW like Cuba Gooding in "Boys in da Hood"😂😂😂
Facts
Real Talk!!
Mannnn😂😂😂
😂😂😂 with that same look on her face and tears rolling 😂😂
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She did him a favor tbh
Definitely
Omm makes you go harder
@@alanamyeshia exactly!!!
Believing in his dreams and ignoring they reality is two different things
What reality is being ignored?
@@KtotheGpatiently waiting for the answer to this ridiculous statement
@@KtotheG bills need to be paid that’s reality he shouldn’t have had his girl workin 2 jobs while he was waitin for his content to kick off especially if they have kids
@@wyteshahoward8841 He was paying bills... it's just that his girls had to pay more and she didn't like that... if you're going to tell him what he should and shouldn't do, then his girl needs to have those same orders and responsibilities. But you're not willing to check her. You can't call yourself a "partner," when you're not willing to hold your partner down when he's low.
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I really would like to hear her side of this story.
Facts
who cares about her? just another average person...happy for dude!
@just6981 he's a average a guy with money
She gave her side and she pulled out receipts. She helped that man and he carried her
He's good now because he did what he should have done from the beginning, he went and found himself a loyal friend and woman in Becky👏 My teenage son used to go thru unnecesary negativity and drama while trying to remain loyal to these modern day hypermasculine unclassy mud ducks and as soon as he started dating up and mostly with Becky hes absolutely happy, sometimes thats the other side of the story🥴
Fellas understand some women will give you no grace but expect you to give them all the grace in the world
Sad facts, continue building though.
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Facts!
That men's fault because most men forget all their morals and principles if a women is good looking enough
The best revenge is always success.
This isn’t even about revenge. He sounds like he wanted her frfr
What if success never comes.
In That Correct Order 💪🏾🙏🏽🎯🌟🎯🦅🦋
@@BrotherMalMusicBlack women NEVER support Black men when they're down.
AVOID BLACK WOMEN AT ALL COSTS!!!
Revenge for what? Living off of a woman?
I would so love to hear her take on this story.
Which most of it she’ll be lying to play the victim
"His money is my money and my money is my money. If he can't pay my bills, take me shopping, get my hair and nails done, take me on exotic trips, buy me an expensive car, and give me a 10k a week allowance he's just holding me back. I deserve a man who will give me everything and ask me for nothing. Anything less I don't have time for in my life."
- her side of the story probably
@@JoshuaRyanErwinExceptions must be made when she doesn't want to work anymore and 'stay at home'. However, that same grace isn't there when guys like Desi are grinding for success... That's why most guys who finally hit it big, become cold and spin plates... I don't condone it, but for them it's nothing more than retribution...
You look at him so differently after you do.
She has an interview out! And she’s not mad at all! She just got tired of him not having steady work and holding them both down. She felt a man with a dream sometimes will do the extra work, working and then putting in extra hrs chasing his dream! Bc most a lot of men want it 50/50 right, they’re not trying to fully take care of the household expenses! Her point was I can’t support us both and you already knew our finances!
I don't think a person should have an expectation for someone to sacrifice for their dream. It should be a choice and she made one and that isn't necessarily a bad thing. If you are an adult you should carry your weight while working on your dream.❤🙏
No, if your interested in a dreamer, YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT THAT LIFE ENTAILS... dont project your fears onto them.... #facts
He wanted to be a celebrity… that comes with a lot. It’s a lonely life climbing to the top…
She fumbled the bag … simple and plain. It happens. Oh well
Amen
But you want men to accept yall as you are? Don't be a hypocrite... I see right through you trying to rationalize for the woman (that you don't know), simply because she's a female.
My little testimony.
I was in a similar situation. Hurt my back from falling off of a flatbed though. Had me down for over a year. My then girlfriend stood by me . I took that time to learn coding. Got a CS degree afterwards and im living my dream. She and i have since been married for 6 years❤.
This wasn't a similar situation. You were employed and were injured. He wasn't doing 💩.
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Keep her .... if she keeps acting right lol
You had yourself a rider, and that's rare. Glad she stuck by you and held it down throughout the changes, and new journey.
God bless you all & may you continue to thrive & prosper with one another!💯🙏🏽
@stephaniecorbett6808 he said he was working. So you not listening
2-3 in the AM? Yup she had some on da way
Thinkin the same thing
He's making that bullshit up as he goes along.
@@nakho3550making it up for what?
@@nakho3550 how you figure?
@@nakho3550how do u know detective? 🎤
That’s why it’s important to capture the dream first THEN the woman 💯
Life has its own release dates on how it’s going to unfold. Seeds become everything from roses to crops of fruits 🍎 & vegetables 🥕 & anything in between when play your cards right all you gotta do is stick with them & nourish them & respect the process.
You mean being a trick? embarrassing fool smh.
If you wasn’t shooting in the gym with me you can’t now ball out with me.
This.
The saying goes females always waiting for you at the finish line...foh
And this is why men with money treat women how they treat them 🤷🏾
Well you have to use discernment. Don't internalize hurt, pain or mistreatment. If you stay in that state you might miss out on someone worth having in your life.
@@MentalStillnesspreach og
@@MentalStillnessfair point
Men love taking care of their women. Especiallyolder men with younger women. It's ingrained in a man. That's why it's not a vice versa type of situation. Women aren't built like that. Never trust a woman who wants to take care of you. 😅😅😅 we all know such guys are losers 😂
It is what it is.
On insta women are saying that it’s not their job to accept the bare minimum, in translation: see you at the finish line 😂😂😂😂
Mmhmm until they barely have the minimum 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
No thanks
These broads man … they don’t wanna shoot with you in the gym but want to celebrate when you win it all
Bro I being going on a date like 4 days n a row bro these women fck up she got mad cuz she ain't have gas money u coming over to me broke u should just change mind these out here selling 💯 bro fck these hoes get money bro
And they'll be treated like the options they made themselves to be.
Your ex is in the screaming like Florida Evans . Damn Damn Damn 😂😂😂
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So that’s why she screaming at ex is screaming like her ass is dead you understand that news deadweight you know I’m saying, but she was a damn food. He still could’ve got him still like a side jog and still do what he wanted to do and she should’ve worked with him like that I know I would.
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@@preciouslee5818 he wouldn't have got where he needed to be.
You don’t know that. She could be on her shxt as well now. Just bc he done got on don’t mean she sitting around worried about him.
I see a lot of men bashing her in the comments, but it sounds like she was financially taking care of him while he had no job. How long should a woman provide for a man? Also assuming men want a submissive woman, how long do men expect women to submit to a man they provide for? Can we stop normalizing struggle love?
You have no idea if she was financially taking care of him and if so, for how long. You did not learn all of their relationships nuances in a few seconds.
True. One minute women are dumb for taking care of a man and should choose better and then the next minute a woman is wrong for not taking care of a man lol can’t win for losing. No grown person is obligated to indefinitely be financially responsible for another adult especially in todays time. The economy is wild so we all need some $$ to our name
@@JoshuaRyanErwin He said he didn't have a job and when they broke up he had to stay with his grandma... Anyway, how long should a woman provide for a man? And how long should a woman be expected to submit to a man that she provides for?
He said he didn't have one when they broke up. He said when he did, he gave almost every penny to her. Neither of us knows the amount of time between those things. It may not have been more than a few days, a week or two, or it may have been months. Either way, based on what was said, it's not as if she had been supporting him for years. When he spoke of wanting her to support him, it in no way sounded financial. It sounded like he wanted her to believe in him and his goals.
And you're completely reaching with the whole submissive woman angle because that was never addressed even one time and has absolutely nothing to do with their situation. You shoehorned it in yourself.
@@JoshuaRyanErwin He said every dime he made he gave it to her and then the next sentence said that she told him he needed to get a job for more money. He made it seem like maybe he was making a little money from his videos or something but didn’t have stable income. If she “sent him to his grandmas house” as he stated, that’s a sign that he wasn’t financially stable to live on his own. She was really in a damned if you do damned if you don’t situation. Her options were a) take care of him until he hopefully makes it (because let’s be real everybody doesn’t make it big) or b) cut it short to relieve herself of the stress of taking care of a grown man who could work for more money and still persue online comedy.
All he wanted to do was get a haircut and pay his cellphone bill. That would concern me too because that means as the woman in the relationship I’m responsible for everything else including budgeting and making sure the household bills are physically paid. He’s only focusing on wanting her moral support but the bills have to be paid and life has to be handled - for all he knows she could’ve felt alone while handling the day to day things since he only wanted a haircut and his phone. Seems like he loved her and would still be with her if she would have him but it’s seems like he didn’t and still doesn’t understand the dilemma he created for her in that situation.
I just went through this.I told my Shorty about my dream with the UA-cam stuff and how I wanted her to be a part of it.She just laughed at me like you aint never gonna make you too old. everything I'm trying to tell her for the future.She laughed at and I was like I.We clearly don't have the same goals in mind.So I think it's best that I go my way u go your way an i wish u the best as much as it hurt me 2 do so
You live old enough to realize a woman’s support has a time limit when it comes to supporting her man. How many men have ever heard their woman say “I’ve done enough?”
It's crazy also without em it's easier to focus on things u want to do with no stress
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So is it fair for us to put a time limit on keeping them safe from others
It's no time limit with me smh
If she gotten to that point you got to be one lazy mfka tbh. Like how much time does your grown ass needs?
She didn't see the vision...but she sees it now😂😂😂
Clear as day😂😂
Yup all over UA-cam every day. I bet she kickin her own a$$ now.
In That Correct Order A StarSeed 🌟
She wasnt 20/20
@@tf_u_talking_aboutevery man starts somewhere. Most women cant even meet the expectations themselves they set for men. They just use their sexuality to get by and then wonder why men don’t have it as easy. Bet she at home with a bum looking stupid while this guy out here living his dream.
🙄 you can chase your dream and still work. She wasn’t supposed to shoulder all of that. Why don’t people get this? Her frustrations grew and I understand.
You have to grind HARD to be a dream chaser….can’t give bum vibes then say “you missed out.”
Cuz she did miss out clearly now we commenting on her missin out. And how is workin on a real dream rather than a 9-5 (not knockin it)bum activity? It takes alot of time and dedication.Clearly it paid off. I Don’t blame ole girl tho and she wasn’t obligated to stay w/ em but look at it now she could’ve been 1st lady rn but she played. She already knew his situation n let em shack up but the money wasn’t commin fast enough like he said. Bro jus shouldn’t have moved in with her to begin with but it taught him some valuable lessons.
@drewboi1k650 folks keep talking about "9-5"s like they're some kind of plague😅 People with 9-5's have more consistency getting paid than those "grinding" for a chance at a come up (he luckily got his). Regardless, everybody in the world who gets a dollar works for somebody even if they themselves own the business. Plus, he made himself a baby daddy to a chick who probably puts up with way more than the other one ever had to and prob won't even get a 💍 out of it🫠
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@@drewboi1k650 so then it should’ve been him supporting her dreams or they both could’ve just been homeless together chasing dreams. Why do you think that she should’ve supported him chasing his dreams while suffering in a nightmare? Do y’all even listen to yourselves?
nonsense
No one needs to believe in your dream, but you. Its nice if they do...
She wasn't meant to be part of your dream. That was exactly a blessing it made you push harder. Just life lessons !
He wrote the same thing twice
Damn I went through the same thing but now I own 2 18 Wheelers, 3 detail shops and now 2 catering trucks. You see that made me grind harder.
Why didn't you live with your mama? Why do yall expect to live off of a woman you didn't marry?
Shes supposed to commit to yall broke asses but yall dont commit to her? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
That’s great. If you weren’t grinding as hard while with her then she may have been right to leave and if her leaving made you work harder then it probably put both of you on a better path.
Everyone is saying his ex probably regrets it. Maybe she does but if she was footing the bill for everything she rightfully got tired of taking full care of a grown man and may enjoy her life as is now. Even now he has a woman with 2 kids that we never hear about and he hasn’t married her yet. Desi funny as hell but something tells me he’s not top of the line as a partner so I think the ex is somewhere happy for his success and also happy with her life.
I’m proud of you
@Se-00 naww I was grinding but to her that wasn't enough I was taking care of someone else kids, that wasn't MINE and that I'm in a place in my life now. It's the phone, texting, calling I miss you you see it seems like the good guys finish last, and the boys lay around the house doing nothing gets treated like a KING
@@terrencesmith5197 well that’s not the same as his situation she worked to jobs and paid the bills while he worked on his content with no job
I would more than love for his ex to be interviewed
Two Sides of THE STORYYYYY😮
Biblically a man should be in a financial position to support himself and his wife while living in the same household. Nowadays couples are putting the cart before the horse. ❤🙏
You sound dumb
Nonsense.Don't abuse the scriptures for your own selfish motives.
So which is it? Men need to take care of everything? Or the world is now filled with "strong independent women" who don't need a man?
I can't keep up...
Well now he can and if she would have been loyal like the bibile says she would be straight. You one of those women that are real your a leech
Yeah well look at him now... she probably a single mother beating herself up over her fumble
Nothing wrong with pursuing your dreams, but God damn the bills are due.
You right I was just like damn she played but when you really think about it she was kinda right but damn 2 in the morning that's cold fr
@ZoGang22 as a man you can never give up the position of power, where a woman is the homeowner or lease owner. It's equivalent to putting your child in that position. When you punish them or tell them to eat there greens they will put you out.
He paid her bills .
@MrTampaboy you see, that's where he messed up. You can pay 100 percent of the bills and if your name ain't on the lease and she grows tired of you, your out of there buddy. As a man, you must establish your own.
@livesimply-777 apparently he was unable to hold his own before he got into entertainment. Congratulations on all his success today, but like I said when the bills are due, you got to man up, best you can.
Most of our SISTERS leave before the dreams turn to fruition...TRUE STORY!!
Most is a reach, you haven't seen or heard of most
@@homeshomes3855 That isn't a reach! IT'S TRUE! That's A Weak Ass Cop Out You Just Made. 💯
I would have to disagree. Too many hold a guy down and when he makes it, he finds someone else.
I know I’d be telling my daughter to boot a triflin ass out too. Especially if she’s the only one with a damn job, better throw his shit out before you get knocked up by this fool
Most don't leave, BUT they should leave. No woman should allow a man to not bring in any income while she's "holding everything down". If a man can't pay the bills, then he's not ready for a relationship.
The question is, how long is she expected to carry both of you financially to support your dream? Especially since she's just a girlfriend. A year or two, that's understandable, but when you get into 4 or 5 years later, how much patience can a person have, carrying all the weight. If you are going to tell it, tell it all. I'm not saying she's wrong or that he's wrong. I just dont understand peoples expectations.
U sound undecided and misguided
I can tell you were raised by a man and not a single mom because everything you said was right and common sense.
@@trellisandreahicks811 you definitely trolling
He's telling it based on what society preaches. If it was a woman how long would society expect him to carry her till she achieves her dreams? Or is it always just a one way street. If this happens to a woman(kicking them out at 2 in the morning) women would find a reason to shove blame up his axx.
@lilraider22 she just didn’t think he’ll make aint nun wrong with that, also you have to understand he had no support while trying to make something of himself
She did the right thing….yea you made it,..But I wouldn’t have a dude laying up jobless in my daughters apartment. Fuck your dream. You need to still produce while chasing.
Lol dude clearly said he was working and giving her majority of his $
@@tdup191 you can’t pay majority rent to your landlord
@@dwill9256 And we don't even know what the "majority" of his money was. It could've just been a few hundred dollars. Maybe only enough for the light bill and something on the rent. Why would she be expected to hold all the other bills down by herself indefinitely while he works on his dream as just a girlfriend.
@@senojoy12473 This is the major part a lot of dudes are missing 😭 I gotta cousin in this same situation right now, he gives his girlfriend money but it’s barely enough to cover a utility bill and he don’t see a problem with it. I asked him what would he do if his daughter was in that same situation, he ain’t wanna have that conversation. I’m glad Desi made it but the reality of it is living isn’t free and it’s one thing to struggle together, but most people draw the line when they start having to struggle by themselves while you give the bare minimum.
EXACTLY
I can relate 😅😅😅 how you say it "LOOK AT ME NOW"😂😂😂😂
The moral of the story is gentlemen never move in a woman's house. You need to have your own or it needs to be yours together. They love being able to pull a power move on you and kicking you out.
Get your on... there is no together, they'll still end with your house.😂
@@efeaster3680Exactly 💯
@@efeaster3680that's if you dumb enough to sign half of your earnings away once you get married lol ain't no bih having my house
This African man told me that American women are quick to put a man out of the house. I laughed because it's true. Sad, but true. Sad, because women shouldn't allow men to move in with them. She shouldn't move in with him either, so he has the authority to put her out. If a man is not working and paying bills, he does not need to be in a relationship. A woman should never hold a man down. That way, she won't be disappointed when he f'ks up. A woman must always protect herself.
Yup..... Nature of the Beast
It's the " I can remember it just like yesterday "that hit different .
I learned the hard way if someone doesn't believe in your dreams and goals.They're not for you.No matter how much you love them.I just went through that.I got back with my high school, sweetheart I was with for 10 years and thinking Hey, I'm about to have the Fairytale ending.We start talking about future and what I got going on for me.She literally couldn't stand anything positive going on for me because she wasn't a part of it
At that point I realized She would rather have me be miserable and dependent on Her for happiness and a meaning in life.Then me be happy and have a purpose in life and actually share it with me!
It's sad when someone you love an care about doesn't Appreciate you takes you for granted and then doest stay by yo side when you're down!
If she only wanna be there for the good times and not the bad times she don't deserve to reap the rewards of your success!
I pray.I can have the same outcome as u not famous but just successful in what my dreams is an find someone 2 share it with!
Bro, you can’t expect her to take care of all the bills and you as a man while you chase your dreams that might not come true. There’s nothing wrong with the chasing your dreams but you have to bring something to the table you have to help her out. also, you can’t put everything on her plate.
Dudes in the comments dont wanna hear this
Everyone’s situation is different. Sometimes loyalty and unconditional love was never there. Women mostly operate on transactional love today. (Meaning if you ain’t giving her money or paying for her Sex) There is no relationship. In today’s age everything is based on money. Love cannot be bought and loyalty cannot be sold. It’s things like this, that men and women don’t pay attention to that make us miss the point of being together entirely. We are supposed to support help and build each other up you can’t do that if one party always is held at a higher standard (men) than the other(women). Also, not everyone is blessed to be born out of poverty so this is another key factor. You can’t base everything on money putting monetary value based on material what about the spiritual? Yes, you as man should hold down your end but her as your woman should be there to lift you up when you can’t and vice versa. Everything was a dream before coming into fruition and manifestation even this reality or society we live in now was once just a dream, thought or conscious vibration in ones mind. So no, you shouldn’t dismiss people’s dreams and then still expect them to respect your reality. Plus one’s reality could be manipulated, manufactured, and programmed to a point they subconsciously are at a disconnect with empathy, love, compassion, compromise, and forgiveness in general. And also everything in their lives such as perceptions, emotions and energy are all mitigated off of money( fiat currency btw created by the Roth childs) Woman have come to believe money is everything When life and procreation is everything…believing in that leaves them a single mother, bitter and unhappy as a person with nothing money is made up(manifested/manufactured ) basically a dream brought to reality So, if women diss and disown their men over the support of European’s manufactured Money what’s the difference in supporting their man’s dreams? #ImaLetchuThinkAboutit
@@Warmwinterznot from misinformed simps... no.
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@@Warmwinterzbecause they are dusty
She was integral part of his development. If that didnt happen we not watching this clip. All perspective. she made him more hungry
You can’t say that we would not be watching his clip if she didn’t throw him out.
That’s what I like to call. Lazy math.
Because he might have made it even farther had she not thrown him out.
@@gerrysteven5567 that's hypothetical this really happened according to him it's a difference
@@rickeytmusic It's also hypothetical to say "if that didn't happen"
You give her WAY too much credit. You know none of what you just attempted to state.
She fumbled the bag because if the tables were turned i dount he would have put her out. Society is struggling with equality and the old mentality that men should be providing but if a man doesn’t he gets thrown to the side but if a women doesn’t she gets looked after.
Its all natural selection
Sometimes that extra kick in the butt makes you push harder for it and catch an opportunity you might have missed before. Blessing in disguise
They say some people are in your life for a reason, and others only for a season
As a black man I can appreciate your grind.. keep up the good work
I mean there are a lot of people that chase dreams and 25 years later are still chasing. Some women hold men down too long.
Leave then. Don’t come back when shit is all good
name one.
No such thing as too long… make your bed and lay in it… with dignity.
@@iamthegameproboy bye
I hear what he’s saying and I’m glad things worked out for him. However, the morale of the story should also be “MEN STOP LIVING OFF OF THESE FEMALES!!” Go out there and get it on your own. Yes it’s going to be challenging but that’s what makes you a man!!
He did say he gave her all is money.
He had to live off somebody in order to fully go after his dream. His girlfriend and then granma.
@@iamthegamepro no he didn’t. You can go after your dreams and still support yourself. Some BM need to learn independence and self reliance. This needing a woman to always having to “hold you down” while you try to figure it out is played out. Get it on your own that’ll way when you do succeed you don’t have to feel like you owe anyone for your success.
@@Nightlight17 he went to his grandma.. what do you mean “no he didn’t “ 😂😂😂😂
@@iamthegamepro “He had to live off somebody in order to fully go after his dream”…those were your words, correct?? So my reply was, “NO HE DIDN’T”…you don’t have to “live” off of someone in order to fully go after your dream. You can still support yourself while going after your dream. Many people have done it.
Real men cry especially when they care an love someone just 4 them 2 be betrayed its a violation i wouldn't wish on anybody
If you living in someone’s house and isn’t doing your part which means paying bills or at least helping then they’re justified in kicking you out of THEIR house. People gotta eat everyday. These comments are funny as hell. If you really wanna think about it, his ex kicking him out was the best thing for him considering he got his shit together.
Or she could of supported em
@@Original94 She did support that man by literally letting him stay in her house to begin with.
Just because he wasn't paying bills doesn't mean he wasn't helping (stay at home spouses).
@@johnniejones3721 Obviously he wasn’t helping enough since he got kicked out. As I stated previously, his ex kicking him out was the best thing for him considering he got his shit together and changed his life around. It sucks that he went through that but we all go through hard times as human beings. You learn from the struggles in order to better yourself for the future and your loved ones. It’s all a learning experience.
@@johnniejones3721 Lol I literally said paying bills or at least helping meaning cleaning around the house, taking the kids to school and etc. making the food….For all we probably know, Desi could’ve been bullshitting laying on his ass all day. Smoking weed and etc. I done seen plenty of people do it and I wouldn’t be surprised if Desi was doing the same thing until reality hit but we will never know the full story.
These people were likely the same age. A woman having the ability to "kick you out" means she's the one taking care of you. Also, him saying, "All I needed was money for a haircut and cell phone bill" translates to I took that out and gave her what I could. "She made me go back to my grandma house" sounds like he always had somewhere to go. The thing is, where would she go if she didn't have the remaining funds that he couldn't provide? Genuinely curious, what advice are men giving their daughters or nieces about dating guys like this?
What would he tell his own daughter?🤔
You sound dumb
THIS!!! 👏🏾
Her having the ability to kick him out in now way constitutes she was taking care of him. It only means shit was in her name. He said he gave her every penny, but maybe she expected him to pay for everything like many women do these days. The old, "his money is my money and my money is my money" mentality. You act as if that mentality hasn't completely poisoned modern women and their way of thinking. "Women" these days think making 100k a year or less equates to being broke ffs. "All I needed was money for a haircut and cellphone bill" could also very easily translate to, "I gave her everything and kept nothing for myself." See how that works?
Just because he ended up at his grandma's doesn't mean it was a given or an easy option for him, and you have no idea what her options look like. You just made a whole lot of assumptions against him and for her. That's some simp sh*t.
What advice are given to women who date men like what? Men that have aspirations and are working toward goals but aren't starting out with much? Gee, I don't know, maybe to do for yourself and not expect others to do it for you? Maybe if they have something or someone they belive in to give it/ them their full support and the time required to determine if it can work or not before walking away? Maybe fortitude to continue working and pushing yourself even when times are hard? There are many lessons that could be taught, none of which are what you were insinuating. I hope you don't have daughters/ nieces to encourage carrying on this toxic way of thinking.
Here's an idea... maybe encourage them to build something with the person they care about instead of expecting them to take care of everything for you. Good lord
Agreed 🎉
Short term thinking as usual.😂
That’s why I got mad respect for you. You didn’t give up on your dream or let nobody stop you. I’m very proud of you and I’m happy you made it.
She did nothing wrong. People acting like she was at fault, but she has a life and God has a plan for her as well.
Happened to Denzel Washington as well....He had a hard time with women as well when he was struggling
His story is awesome!!!
Never allow a woman to put a time frame on what God has for you. And once you get there do not allow other women you just showed up to make you think they are obligated to what you've worked for.
Damn that's deep. I fucks with it
Women have a weird knowing to contact you when you're a few feet away from your success goal, or you've accomplished; yet you haven't told no one your business. @@joshuaattractsmoney
Man I never seen Desi so serious talking about anything man this is straight from the heart!!
No woman goes through the struggle and last!
I'd say a few..
Man that ain’t never been so right
Yeah its rare
They want to be at the finish line
It’s so funny to see the followers and DMs right after they get drafted. It’s hilarious
Fellas, focus on you. Don’t ever sacrifice your living situation for a woman
He didn't have a job loving with his girlfriend. If she was telling this story you would've said "choose better"
@@tf_u_talking_aboutexactly they all missed the part that he wasn’t financially consistent at the time. Got put out and had to go to his grandmother.
@90ejb but yet men take in jobless women for eternity and nobody hears about it..isn't it high time we start giving men their flowers? 😂
@@90ejb that’s 🧢. You are your single focal point. If you don’t have money to support yourself, dating should not be on your mind. Grind and get better and do forself
@@mermaid30019 this is a clear example as to why opposite sexes need to stop playing house! At the first sign of financial struggle, they’ll kick you to the curb. Stop wasting your time, go to work, perfect your craft, most of all stack your 💵.
Look where he's at now. Don't let people be the reason you quit, never give up if you believe in yourself
It's easier said than done 💯💯💯💯 God was removing people from your life who was not meant to go with you on your journey. Move forward with Ease and Grace and don't LOOK BACK 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
No matter many times he has won from this. The situation still hurts him until today
Good it should
Motivation my Bro
People can bless you by entering your life
And some can bless you by leaving your life.
She blessed you !
Mannnnnn 🔥💯🔥💯🔥💯🔥💯🔥💯🔥💯🔥💯🔥 straight FACTS over FEELINGS
Women don't want the struggle. They just want the reward after we struggle.
Keeping it💯 sometimes a loss is a gain but you can't forget the fact that she did allow you to move in with no job . But she did help you in a way that most won't agree with. But bless her for what she did do.💯
Respect, lessons learned. Real talk
Had the pleasure of transporting him once. Very humble and cool brother. Very respectful..
She did nothing wrong. What he should've did was have a balance between a regular job and his dream. It's hard for anyone to support a person that not bringing in any income. She was holding him down for a while and she couldn't take it any more.
She fumbled the bag. Lol. Its like missing out on bitcoin when it was cheap. No excuses… she simply didnt believe. Oh well
I had this same situation but it was long distance we had been on and off for 5-6 years and we had finally met in person last year and hit it off. Then she went back home and everything slowly started to fall apart. I got in a car wreck and was on my last straw with my job still sending her money and taking care of her and then she left. She tried to say that she still loved me but couldn’t be with me because of the distance but still wanted to be friends. That worked for a couple of months but then I couldn’t take it anymore and had to let her go out my life completely. I understand that pain all too well. When somebody kicks you while you’re down it hurts ten times worse…. I’m still struggling with it now… but hey look at how Desi turned out. Just gotta keep pushing and try to make the best out of a bad situation. Y’all don’t give up. Anybody going through any type of heartbreak or struggle right now…just keep going‼️💯You can find happiness, all you have to do is look within yourself🖤‼️
May GOD continue to bless you my brother
When you have a dream. DONT LET A NIGHTMARE make you lose sleep.
You shouldn’t have moved in with someone if you can’t pay bills properly. Ain’t nothing wrong with staying with family until you get to a position where you’re financially stable.
I feel his pain! People don’t understand that going after your dreams require sacrifice.
Us men be suffering from the woman we choose who show us our dream's don't matter. Look how God blessed u doe my boy. 💯💯💯🙏🏿
I don't understand, work for your own dreams, what you need her for? Do it on your own!! Ya'll run around here talking about we the men, we the man of the house, but can't struggle on your own for your own dreams? But complaining....weird AF!!
@@Ms_BeMe I was just saying woman don't believe in u until u show them. Not sure which male pissed u off but take that up with him. My dream is true an I don't need a soul to believe in me. Seems as if u just had a bad experience with a guy and think we all are the same which is extremely weird to me. 🤷🏿♂️
@@Ms_BeMeI WHOLEHEARTEDLY agree with your statement. As a woman, I wanted to pursue law school and my man at the time said that he would not help me financially because he didn’t believe that I should go to law school. We broke up and I went into hustle mode once I received my acceptance letter into law school.
I work TWO full-time jobs and go to law school FULL-TIME.
I support myself and pay my tuition out of pocket with no help. 🙌🏾🎉
I’m proud to say that my hustle paid off-I graduate with my Doctor of Jurisprudence (law) degree on Sunday, May 19, 2024 🥳👏🏾🎉🙌🏾
Don’t get me wrong, it would’ve been nice to have a partner in my corner going through this journey, but people are not required to help you reach your dreams-that’s solely on you. 🙌🏾
Congrats to you Naturalvibes!!!
The vast majority of ya'll don't end up doing sh't but dreaming and wasting time being lazy. A man can dream he's just not going to do it with me. I'm not holding no man down. A man is supposed to provide, not the other way around.
The interesting thing about stories like this ,and I've been through something similar is that. The women you love that will break your heart gives you back your powers to become the person you was destined to be . She was never meant to go with you to where you are now . Some men don't want to admit it but women make us better they only respect you when your focus is not on them. You can cry and complain just make yourself better.
I noticed that myself. Women respect you more when you don't focus on them....
Im happy for him that he overcame that struggle..it hit different when you come from nothing fr💪🏾🎯💯
Something similar happened to my cousin his high-school sweetheart left him he contemplated suicide then a year or 2 later he was drafted to NFL in 2nd round $8mil contract
That’s a miracle man happy for him
Take note fellas. The power and ability for you to go HAM is for yourself not a woman. I hear these stories and am living it too. We worked hard and they gave up on us. Once “we only have ourselves to focus on” and look at the result… Success in less time.
I am a man and I know she wasn't wrong.
Exactly ....He didn't love or respect her enough to marry her but wanted her to take care of him like a wife wo/being official?! What real man does that? He was nothing more than a shameless hoBosexual. It doesn't matter if he later made it or not. She should have ZERO regrets about him; ZERO bcz at his core, he's still the same person; money or no.
Steve Harvey get out of here
She did what she could for as long as she could
Was he truly giving her something?
Wow, he said he gave her his check, just wanted $ for his haircut and phone bill.
Surely, no $100 a week.
And he’s not wrong for enjoying his success without her. 👍
You can see it in his eyes he really cared. That shit will make you cold hearted 💔
Yall weird in these comments. Too many Jody’s out here who never blossom yet bring down a solid woman. Your mom’s job is to financially support you. Your woman’s help is extra until you are stable.
This comment is weird.
@@KtotheG you’re weird!
Thank God for Grandma....
Key words she was working
They both worked.
I really applaud him for telling his story it is so relative to so many of us, all I can say is everybody watching this listen to what he is saying, and always pursue your passion
And for this reason i won't stop with the ONE THING that took me nearly 31years of living to find that I enjoy and I've grown in since we split..f the stress💯
Congratulations,she caught the Vapor's 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🔥🔥🔥 joke's on her🤣🤣🤣😂😂😅😅
I never understood what that saying meant til now lol. That's what's up
That line hahahaha
Like tall buildings they call skyscrapers... Can you feel and nothing can save you.... The season and she catching it...
No it's not
The crazy thing is sometimes it may be warranted if a woman throws in her towel, not knowing she was being tested the whole time. She leaves buddy and then buddy catches a play n he's on. The biggest betrayal is definitely not believing in a person cause that normally comes with cheating cause you think you found something better
The pain in his eyes. You’re not alone brother.
This happen to me before my ex-wife did this to me right before I started doing good with my business... god has a funny way of removing people from your life so that you can grow to become your "BEST YOU" Amen 🙏🏾
She dropped the bag !!!😂😂😂😂😂 good for you bro
Remember folks women/ people in general get tired and worn a certain amount of time, so let's not put her down.
Dang I was scrolling through the comments looking for a woman to comment and was about to give you cudo’s and you said that 🤦🏾♂️…what you said wasn’t bad totally bad but it didn’t hold the woman accountable for the lack of love and commitment…which is cool because if she wasn’t the one she wasn’t the one…I have cousins and friends male and female that have walked away when I was struggling…but it does expose their love and dedication to me where I was totally dedicated to them…
@@dmills06 I do understand that People should treat others the way they want to be treated. Some people aren't as strong as others to hang in there until a great change comes and some forget who stood by them when times were tough.
@@florieriddle1082 yes it takes unconditional love and we never know when we going to need someone when we are down so important to help when they down…
@@dmills06 True
Your response is just something else. You saying everyone has their limit but 98% of man out there take care of the women without even counting how many times they’ve helped them and they do that for years but when that other gender helps out a man for coupler of months it becomes a thing of I’m tired I’ve looking after you for 4months now. You see how unfair is that to man out there?!! I don’t blame the brothers out there who treats women like trash, they most probably deserve it.
She was right Bru... Believing in a dream that might never happen. It's not every day someone makes it
The loyalty of a woman is legendary, keyword woman.
All she said was get a job. As a man I don't think that's being unreasonable at all. Is that the mindset of y'all men? That a woman telling you to get a job is her being a bad person? You can work and chase your dream too. I see that the mentality of modern men is just as bad as the mindset of modern women.
Preach Pastor
There's 1000s of who hold down dudes who never make it. We all know one. Stop tearing down the lady fr he a grown man but putting him out 3am crazy
How is she being torn down? 🤔
It’s very hard to support someone’s dream when there are bills to pay but I’m glad he made it
There's nothing sader than when you supported your woman.Through everything, thick and thin good and bad.And then when it's her chance to show you that she's going to do the same she doesn't
Karma catches up to everybody.Eventually she never misses
You can tell he was raised without a father no self respecting man living with a woman…plus she was paying for everything…good for his success but he wouldn’t want his daughter talking care of a man either.
You do realize that there are plenty of successful marriages and relationships where the woman takes over financially for just a season right ? I wish people would stop this, relationships are not supposed to be strictly role based. It’s about serving one another, and putting yourself last.
YOU ARE IGNORANT. THE MAN CLEARLY SAID HE WAS WORKING AND GIVING HER ALL HIS MONEY EXCEPT FOR HAIRCUT AND CELL PHONE TO SHOOT HIS VIDEOS! PUBLIC SCHOOLS ARE TRASH!
@@dontehill8410exactly nikkas hard of hearing.
@dontehill8410 it was heard. As a man, that sounds like an excuse. If EVERY PENNY you have to give to a woman still isn't enough to not get you kicked out by her at 3am then you clearly never had a enough to begin with.
To reach his level of success you have to be down for a while. Glad he didn’t breakdown and just become a regular person just to keep her.
Bro, she was being smart. Grown, bringing in no money, women taking care of him. Why would she stay? It amazing it worked out for him but she did the right thing. That “If you can’t take me at worst you can’t have me at my best” is bullshit. No one has to deal with you not having your life together.
That girl did right. Many of us don’t kick them out n we live to regret it.. move on that wasn’t her blessing she dealt with a lot she just got tired!