The mistakes I made this year.

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  • @evazubeck
    @evazubeck  Рік тому +1792

    Wishing you all a happy Christmas and an inspiring 2024 ❤

    • @jaygorakht5135
      @jaygorakht5135 Рік тому +6

      Same there may santa fulfill everyones dream love from sanatan. Country nepal ✌️😍😍

    • @anus7246
      @anus7246 Рік тому +3

      Lots of ❤️ from India, Kerala 🙏🇮🇳

    • @garimavasudev1043
      @garimavasudev1043 Рік тому +12

      Hi Eva!! Merry Christmas to you too. Sometimes it is best when u don't know where ur life is going. Mistakes are a part of our lives. May be these are not mistakes. These are the real life experiences. Love these experiences and Enjoy this phase.

    • @KAIZORIANEMPIRE
      @KAIZORIANEMPIRE Рік тому +13

      i wouldn't call something a mistake unless your life is in dangour or other peoples lives or you have been harmed somewhow... otherwise it's just life decisions and choices , some are better lol and you learn but not necessarily mistakes.

    • @SB-jd6zh
      @SB-jd6zh Рік тому +1

      And to you as well! 🎄🎁🎄

  • @kayakjim007
    @kayakjim007 Рік тому +1938

    I am 65 years old. When ever I see younger people trying to build up their ideal lives I think, "Oh dear. Do they realize the bumps life is going to send their way." It is just in the nature of life for things to go sideways from time to time and a few not-so-great roads to be explored. Wishing you all the best in the coming year.

    • @dertythegrower
      @dertythegrower Рік тому +18

      cheers Jim. Well said.
      Come through North Michigan and yak the Pere Marquette

    • @SBC581
      @SBC581 Рік тому +31

      Yup 👍🏽 don’t let others convince you to stop your mission to join them on theirs.

    • @johno3288
      @johno3288 Рік тому +18

      I can answer that with a big "No!" 😂😂😂 I'm 51 and looking back, it was a bumpy ride, but I'm successful.

    • @beebop4333
      @beebop4333 Рік тому +41

      OBSERVATION AND SUGGESTION And let me add, the things that we worry about when we're young are just a drop in the bucket of life. We spend too much time worrying...comparing...building our own roadblocks insead of roadmaps. The way to look at is dont shame and guilt and eventually define yourself by what you didnt do, but look at what youve done. How different the tone and vibe of this video would take if it was about all that you did do and not what you feel you didnt do.
      The choices you made were yours at that time, but these are learning lessons whether right or wrong. What you learned is that social media can be a blessing and a curse. A curse bc u compare and compete against and chase a false reality.
      Imo, first off, you must embrace your inner self, know who you are, where do you get your core, be happy in your skin. You cant change who you are and you cant change anybody else.

    • @kevinwallis2194
      @kevinwallis2194 Рік тому +36

      No kidding. Im 67 and every time i feel like im in a good place in life, and things are going great, i know something will throw me a curve ball. sometimes its my fault, sometimes it others. Ive found live is full of ups and downs, and its almost like 10 year cycles.

  • @nancylancaster5457
    @nancylancaster5457 Рік тому +408

    Eva, have you noticed how many of your followers are old folks? I'm 86 years old. We admire you. You have done what most of us really deep down would have loved to have done in our long lives. For instance, I spent the first 19 years of my life doing what my parents wanted, the next 25 years being a Navy-wife doing mostly what he wanted me to do, the next 20 years doing what i thought i wanted to do, and then ten years doing the life of being a helpful sister, and now i am doing what i really love doing. I have spent time learning!!!! I really should have gone on to college and pushed myself to learn more. You see, there are sections to your life. You are in one of those sections. Make the most of it. You are learning first hand. That's good. If chaos is good for you, well you will learn from it. That's ok. Put that chin up. If you feel like sharing with us, do it. If not, don't. You are very good at it. The day, sections down your road when you can sit still and pull it all together and write a book about it, but right now you are still in the learning section. Oh, and sometimes a dog is the very best relationship you can have. Enjoy it!!!!

    • @DalilaProductions
      @DalilaProductions Рік тому +13

    • @c.s.thorogood203
      @c.s.thorogood203 Рік тому +9

      NancyLancaster, you are a beautiful Woman. Recently widowed at 76, I will do mostly what she wants the next time, as I have done what I want in life.
      Eva be strong, but do not discount the Joys love can bring. Be safe, travel far, and LOVE.

    • @Tam-Solo70
      @Tam-Solo70 Рік тому +1

      Amen!!!

    • @GrowingRG
      @GrowingRG 2 місяці тому

      Wow this is so beautiful ❤

  • @MelC-r9y
    @MelC-r9y Рік тому +37

    This is a hard comment to write. However, there is something that I must point out. Eva, although your year didn't work out as planned, let me assure you that it could have been far worse. I'm a 70 year old single man, living in Canada. The last member of my family died 8 months ago. The last of my friends died two days ago. I've been mobility-handicapped for six years now. Four months ago, while crossing a crosswalk, I got hit by a car at 50 kph that was being driven by a distracted driver. Afterward, while seeing a myriad of specialists for surgery, severe wounds, broken bones and physiotherapy, etc., and with all of the resultant CT and MRI Scans, X-Rays and blood work that were ordered, it was discovered that I now have (treatable) thyroid cancer. So my point to you, Eva, is don't feel sorry for yourself. You hold your head up high, be the best person you can be, take care of yourself, take care of your companion, Vilk, and if things don't go your way... move on. Don't ever stop being the best version of yourself. Take care. I wish you all the best in life.

    • @hiwalkalone1801
      @hiwalkalone1801 7 місяців тому +1

      When someone tells you about their bad day you don’t go ahead and tell them that you had it worse. I’m pretty sure she’s aware just like we all are that it could have been much worse.

    • @pilarsmith3367
      @pilarsmith3367 7 місяців тому +1

      I don’t think Eva is feeling sorry for herself. She didn’t have any broken bones or visible hurt but unseen hurts and she is very courageous to share with the world. As Eva says ‘The world belongs to to the brave’ and she is true to that

    • @Some_kind_of_wonderfü
      @Some_kind_of_wonderfü 6 місяців тому

      Thank you for sharing your challenges and continuing to persevere in the midst of said struggles. And you’re right, it could always be much worse 🤍

  • @JeraldCollman
    @JeraldCollman Рік тому +314

    I am 77 years old, educated, financially sound, and have always practiced these thoughts? Before entering into any situation of unknown's; always, always, have another way out of what you just got yourself into. You aren't alone in the "been there done that". I have always looked at you as a person who has no fear of the unknown. Lighten up, you're doing fine. You're only 32, and you have seen and done so much. I'm proud of you!

    • @canada957
      @canada957 Рік тому +6

      Same age....solid advice to her!

    • @toddpeters9007
      @toddpeters9007 Рік тому +2

      Yep

    • @richardlindell9976
      @richardlindell9976 Рік тому +12

      Well said. 70 here and done a lot too, she has got a huge start at 32. She doesn't realise that over half the population will never do what she's already done. She is still very young and smart. Keep positive and have a great 2024.

    • @EricTwombly
      @EricTwombly Рік тому +11

      I agree with the other reply's here. I'm 73 and have responded recently about your move from the US. In my experience don't spend too much time on regrets, and don't set your goals in so solid. To me the life you have chosen is more about freedom. I have lived that life and the advice I would have is if you don't have some roots (a place to go back too and recharge) find a way to get some. That was my log cabin in the mountains of Oregon. I got it when I was about your age. Not much invested but for me roots helped me a bunch (Just knowing it was there) Also learn to take the door that opens if it is something you want to do, don't plan too much. I still love to go to the cabin. Keep going and enjoy 2024.

    • @InuRiverfield
      @InuRiverfield Рік тому

      78 here. Enjoy! @@EricTwombly

  • @tamarwyschogrod
    @tamarwyschogrod Рік тому +100

    Thank you for posting this. You will probably never know how many people benefited from your honesty, from hearing that a woman who seems to have such a perfect life of adventure and independence might feel unsuccessful or unfulfilled. But know this: The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. I'm turning 62 in a few days. I have had some incredible adventures, but I also decided at a very young age to link my life to someone I love, whom I've been fortunate enough to spend most of the past 44 years (!!!) with, with whom I have three children. It's been a life of compromise, and eventually became far more settled than I dreamed of when I was young. You might look at me and think I have a perfect life, but I look at your freedom and sense of adventure and think you do. In the end, both of us share an enemy: the idea that the perfect life exists. Be well, take care of yourself, and cut yourself a break. You deserve it.

    • @NZKiwi87
      @NZKiwi87 Рік тому +2

      Lovely sage answer 🫶

    • @prinzessinnnn
      @prinzessinnnn Рік тому +8

      “In the end both of us share an enemy: the idea that the perfect life exists”
      That is an absolute gold nugget of wisdom right there - thank you 🙏

    • @NicoleFitnessYouTube
      @NicoleFitnessYouTube Рік тому

      Absolutely beautiful

    • @cllintdevena7712
      @cllintdevena7712 9 місяців тому

      So well put. Alot of wisdom in what you wrote. I am so thankful for God's promises. Let's me know this life is not the end of our existence. 2 Corinthians 2 .15, 16 .

  • @HansKeesom
    @HansKeesom Рік тому +157

    You achieved more things in 2023 then I have in my whole life, the things you did not finish, I have never even started. Be proud for trying all these things, you got a lot of information out of them for years to come.

  • @jasonlightfoot4145
    @jasonlightfoot4145 Рік тому +89

    I have a feeling that you will look back on this time and realize just how necessary and important it was ❤

    • @rosameijering5161
      @rosameijering5161 Рік тому +3

      Yes like verything in life. Otherwise ir would not happen

    • @MvP19877
      @MvP19877 Рік тому +1

      You said exactly what I was thinking. It's all growth and necessary.

  • @janiewindle946
    @janiewindle946 Рік тому +128

    Take it from a 62 year old woman who has had many regrets. Don't ever stop being you for anyone. And may the coming new year be one of your best!

    • @PDogB
      @PDogB Рік тому +4

      Hello Janie, I think we might agree, regrets are a waste of time. We can change what we can, but the rest is done and over with. And the thing is, it's never too late to make peace with our past and ourselves. Take care and Happy New Year!

  • @mdkram
    @mdkram Рік тому +84

    I'm 56 and I've never been able to settle down. So don't worry about it and what other people say you should do. Be true to yourself, always. Because, in the end, only you know what you want. Best of luck and always do what drives you.

  • @augustingarnier4625
    @augustingarnier4625 Рік тому +173

    I am a mere 3-minutes into your video, and I can tell you, at the age of 60, that I did not feel that I "hit my stride" in life until I hit my 50's! Further, when I was your age, I also had profound doubts about which direction I should take for the "bigger picture". Now, I raise Monarch butterflies (my mantra is simple: Raise. Release. Repeat), hold copyrights in music, literature, and photography, and am a senior officer on two local nonprofit board of officers. I only wish to reassure you, dear sister, that living takes labor. It is as simple as that. However, you may extend your blessings upon your life by having a creative energy that the rising sun looks forward to. Also, it's great to still see Vilk happy and helping you keep your balance. Sting said it best in his song An Englishman in New York; "Be yourself, no matter what they say".

    • @raynewolfenstein
      @raynewolfenstein Рік тому +7

      this comment is so beautiful

    • @mbal4052
      @mbal4052 Рік тому +1

      Great comment, I'm 49 years old and my wife of 20 years left me 6 months ago. I'm tired and alone and worried that my best life is over. I try to stay strong but it's hard I hope like you I get a new life and direction

  • @jens9308
    @jens9308 11 місяців тому +5

    Reflective honesty helps us all

  • @scottyshields9876
    @scottyshields9876 Рік тому +319

    You adopted Vik, the year was not a waste. What I like about your channel is you jump in and do things.

    • @dertythegrower
      @dertythegrower Рік тому +7

      she is rare...
      i travel also.. most girls are hooked on tiktok, boxed wine, and thinking their ssri is their savior

    • @CartwrightFour
      @CartwrightFour Рік тому +4

      Vïlk

    • @alnazarov
      @alnazarov Рік тому +2

      I think his name is Wilk (it's wolf from Polish)

    • @bohoxplorer840
      @bohoxplorer840 Рік тому +3

      @@alnazarovthe V in German is pronounced like a W in English. They are correct is name is spelled Vilk

    • @alnazarov
      @alnazarov Рік тому +1

      @@bohoxplorer840 whatever but Eva is from Poland, not from Germany. What would she name her dog in a German-style?

  • @SB-jd6zh
    @SB-jd6zh Рік тому +88

    I don't think they were failures, Eva, they were a combined lesson in you. Now you know more about yourself, and being true to the genuine Eva will possibly be easier than before. I respect and admire your journey, not just your travels.

    • @Nate1975
      @Nate1975 Рік тому +1

      Definitely lessons ❤

    • @dertythegrower
      @dertythegrower Рік тому +5

      She is not failing.. she is growing

    • @MonstersNotUnderTheBed
      @MonstersNotUnderTheBed Рік тому

      ​@@dertythegrowerWell, of you reach 40 years old, and only then realize you want kids, and are physically incapable of reproducing at 40, then that's a big gigantic FAILURE.

  • @kjoyner1
    @kjoyner1 Рік тому +80

    Eva, you have 1.76 million friends that love you. You have given all of us more than you will ever know. All of us want you to be happy in everything you do. I know, if you ever need to reach out to any of us we will gladly be there for you. It is our honor to be able to share your lifes adventures with you.

    • @debmadden4157
      @debmadden4157 Рік тому +3

      @Kjoyner1Very well stated. I agree with you 100%

    • @MonstersNotUnderTheBed
      @MonstersNotUnderTheBed Рік тому

      Followers. Not friends. You're definition of friends needs immediate review and adjustment.

    • @davidroseman3287
      @davidroseman3287 5 місяців тому

      True, in so far as it goes, but how many followers would, were she to show up on their doorstep, immediately ask her in or whether she’d like to grab a coffee? Probably most?

  • @Dipeshgiri7
    @Dipeshgiri7 Рік тому +33

    Yes, this year was way too much for me to handle.
    1. Had to quit job.
    2. Had to lose a eprson who i felt was life for me.
    3. No savings at all, too many expenses - two major accidents, lost many things such as mobile phone, got robbed.
    4. Anger issues
    5. Depression not moving out at all styaing inside house a lot.
    6. No one to say out loud.
    7. Every single day was like hard ro pass.
    Thank you for motivating even if you would never see my comment. I have been watching you for a long time. Fingers crossed this year will be great.
    I am having my tears dropping out of my eyes.

    • @dudoklasovity2093
      @dudoklasovity2093 Рік тому +1

      this is so relatable thank you for writing this down. Best wishes to you! Remember, nothing lasts forever. That goes for good things but also for the bad ones, luckily!👍🙃

    • @Dipeshgiri7
      @Dipeshgiri7 11 місяців тому +2

      @@dudoklasovity2093 WOW Thank you for your words

    • @andy.monsanto
      @andy.monsanto 6 місяців тому

      I feel I've been in a similar situation, almost 35, and having lost someone I deeply cared for, without savings, depression, feeling lonely... thank you for sharing. I hope your next year is amazing, and that you're compassionate towards yourself. The best to you, dear stranger.

    • @charonstyxferryman
      @charonstyxferryman 4 місяці тому

      Regarding your depression,
      Get a prescription for a drug called "Lamotrigine" .
      VERY IMPORTANT: If you're tested for depression, try hard to be really honest, *not as healthy as you want, i.e. not more healthy than you're*
      Lamotrigine is an anticonvulsant drug used in the treatment of epilepsy and bipolar disorder. It's the drug's property to remove the depression part of bipolar disorder, who will cure you.
      Be careful: Driving a car / vehicle can be dangerous, because you will have a longer reaction time.

    • @Dipeshgiri7
      @Dipeshgiri7 3 дні тому

      @@andy.monsanto WOW! i just saw your comment. Hope you are doing well!

  • @kathleenmonicatti5096
    @kathleenmonicatti5096 Рік тому +196

    You are a beautiful 32 yr. old woman. See that you have a long life ahead of you. As an 83 yr. old, woman, I am in awe of all your travels, including your journey across the US. Look at what you have accomplished and love every minute of it. Please do not dwell on the things you feel were mistakes. Travel more, write, and film. You have the future! Lucky you!❤

  • @awesometreasures7773
    @awesometreasures7773 Рік тому +101

    As a Mom of a special needs child that doesn't have the opportunity to travel, thank you for letting me travel with you and Vilk. I pray that you will find the path God has for you🙏 Keep traveling and sharing with us

    • @justinko
      @justinko Рік тому +6

      It really is amazing how these videos can semi-scratch the travel itch.

    • @nickbenfell4327
      @nickbenfell4327 10 місяців тому

      Forget the god nonsense - that is insulting to put it mildly. And out of sync with the other lovely comments.

  • @605pilot
    @605pilot Рік тому +58

    I’m 69 years old and in my life most of my romantic relationships didn’t last, but in all of them there was a lesson to be learned. You’re very young and have done more than most people. Keep pursuing your dream.

  • @ReboundSaga
    @ReboundSaga Рік тому +37

    Hey Eva, I don't know if you'll read this message, but I wanted to tell you that each of your new videos is a positive shock for me, something I currently don't see on social media. It's like a breath of fresh air, and I breathe thanks to you. Why? Because I feel literally like you... Your video speaks to me in a very personal way. I love your authenticity - it gives me the motivation I lost, especially after losing my beloved mom earlier this year. This loss made everything else seem insignificant, even the dream job I landed. For months, nothing could lift my spirits or bring me any joy. But your videos have sparked something in me. They reminded me that there are people out there who understand and share similar experiences. You've inspired me to start my own UA-cam channel, to find my voice and share my story.
    Thank you for being a beacon of hope and authenticity in a world that often feels disconnected. Your courage and honesty have given me the strength to embrace my journey and to start creating again. Stay strong. Amen.

  • @holtcrowder
    @holtcrowder Рік тому +50

    Eva, No failures at all, just lessons about yourself, life, and the world we live in. Always learning, always growing, always becoming. That is life. 😇

  • @MusicRowScott1
    @MusicRowScott1 Рік тому +44

    For what its worth (from a 57 year old Indie Artist POV), when I look back at what I see as my biggest "failures" and "mistakes" from earlier decades...I can see now how they ultimately led me to my greatest successes and amazing life memories. Many of my highpoints in life would have never happened with the flops that preceded them.
    Dust off, learn from the experience and lean into whatever is coming next! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, thanks for sharing your adventures!

  • @ovrlndr
    @ovrlndr Рік тому +131

    The things that happen are never “wrong” and never a “failure”, but instead, learning and growth opportunities. The year went for you the way it needed to. The journey of life has ups and downs, but always puts you where you’re supposed to be.

    • @OliveGroves24
      @OliveGroves24 Рік тому +4

      💯👌♥️

    • @Steevee14
      @Steevee14 Рік тому

      But what if the "journey of life" leads you to a place or circumstance which is harmful?
      Of course, each circumstance in life is an opportunity for learning, but I don't think that life has a "need" to lead you to any particular circumstance, and doesn't necessarily cause you to be in a circumstance in which you are "supposed" to be. In rationally / logically evaluating where you are, or are going, in life, it is possible to arrive at conclusions that are incorrect or harmful.

    • @MonstersNotUnderTheBed
      @MonstersNotUnderTheBed Рік тому

      That's not true at all.
      There are wrongs and failures.
      Saying the opposite of this reality is delusional and gets people to dig themselves into deeper holes than the one they have already dug themselves into.

  • @faery222
    @faery222 Рік тому +49

    I think you are an amazing and very brave person. If I can say one thing, it would be to give yourself a break. You have done more with your life at 32 years old than most people do in a life time. Much love and happiness in 2024. 💛🙂

    • @easygii
      @easygii Рік тому +1

      totally agree, wish i could give Eva a hug, she is such a sweet soul

    • @renatasaraziemska7729
      @renatasaraziemska7729 Рік тому +2

      I agee with You ,!!!Amazing Eva I wish her ALL the Best ..//Lisbon//London//

    • @ursinidaho
      @ursinidaho Рік тому +1

      Gosh! You took the words right out of my mouth. ❤

  • @virgosun1991
    @virgosun1991 Рік тому +48

    Girl! You keep saying “I failed”. You’ve done more things so far in your life than most will never do. You’re an inspiration. Make sure you give yourself credit for all that you HAVE accomplished as well. Your life is a dream to me! Even if it’s not as you “planned”. Still awesome :)

  • @oxigenarian9763
    @oxigenarian9763 Рік тому +51

    I'm in my 70s now. I discovered along the way that my heart starts moving in new directions before I am aware it is happening. Try as I did/do, it was inevitable that I succumbed to my heart's bidding.
    Eva, it's not the end of something, it's just the beginning of a new chapter. We've always accepted you for who you are, not who we think you should be.
    Keep in mind that you are already a highly accomplished person. Truly.

    • @MonstersNotUnderTheBed
      @MonstersNotUnderTheBed Рік тому

      Isn't falling victim to illogical heart-driven feelings the story of every female? One of the oldest stories in human history. I've yet to see any good advice from anyone on the comments. It's all telling her to dig herself a deeper hole. She's going to go absolutely Catwoman insane if she hits menopause and has no kids/grandkids/family.

    • @oxigenarian9763
      @oxigenarian9763 Рік тому

      @@MonstersNotUnderTheBed That's a great point but it needs to happen on her own terms...without pressure...

    • @MonstersNotUnderTheBed
      @MonstersNotUnderTheBed Рік тому

      @@oxigenarian9763 That's a big bet. "Her own time" is not the supreme axiom from which biology or mortal life or marriage rests upon. She must submit to time, she doesn't get to claim it and make it bend to her will.
      I heard a bunch of me, me, me, me, I, I, I in the video. She's definitely not ready for the enormous self-sacrifice and loving glory of children and that bringing into mortal existence new souls.

    • @oxigenarian9763
      @oxigenarian9763 Рік тому

      @@MonstersNotUnderTheBed In any case, that's not for us to work out for her, wouldn't you agree?

    • @MonstersNotUnderTheBed
      @MonstersNotUnderTheBed Рік тому

      @@oxigenarian9763 No, I don't agree with whatever premise you just formulated where we are "working it out for her". This is just called "having an opinion" that's strongly correlated to patterned reality in a YT comment section that no one will read and doesn't even matter in the grand scheme of things.

  • @lonniepee9804
    @lonniepee9804 Рік тому +195

    You could sit in the woods for a year and stare at the sky, Eva, and you'd STILL have accomplished much. Your mind is a treasure and I suspect it's always processing new information. I'll be 75 in three weeks and I hope to be like you when I grow up.

  • @gregnass5715
    @gregnass5715 Рік тому +23

    Eva, you are not alone, you made no mistakes this year, you just learned what does not work for you, simple. You are a true Free Spirit, easy to catch but hard to hold down. Do you, and own it. For what it is worth, you have inspired a great number of people whom support you, and that, is a massive achievement!

    • @nickbenfell4327
      @nickbenfell4327 10 місяців тому +1

      I was fumbling as to what to take out of this video and you nailed it "You made no mistakes this year, you just learned what does not work work for you, simple". Yes simple and a great way to look at things that don't go the way you expect.

  • @jodiprofdanglais
    @jodiprofdanglais Рік тому +53

    I am 52 years old and I was just rereading some of my journals that I kept when I was in my 20s… I have to say that I literally had a jaw dropping experience when I read these entries last night… The things I was writing about and looking to understand, and the directions I wanted to go in, are exactly the same as they are today. Almost word for word… And I hadn’t looked at those diaries in decades… Just crazy when you realize that you have an essence. Just keep being yourself… a person, by the way, that I absolutely enjoy listening to, and who really makes me think and even dream, despite our age difference. I’d much rather watch you than anything on TV ❤️

  • @MO-xm1kj
    @MO-xm1kj Рік тому +61

    I felt a lot of sadness watching this video, primarily because I could relate. When I was young, it was not OK to be myself because people were always criticizing, offering their opinion on what I should do or just judging what I was doing. When we are not confident and strong in ourselves, we allow the outside world to dictate our inside world. Now I’m 55 years old and I really don’t care what people think. It took a while! 😂There’s a quote that says “I am who I am” and that’s really the truth of it, we are who we are at the core, embrace who you are, love who you are. Don’t ever let anybody try to change you. They are not your friend. You are so perfect just the way and not because you don’t make mistakes but because you’re you AND When that special person comes in your life they should be like the cherry on top of Sunday just adding richness to your life And above all be your best friend. Stay strong and embrace yourself Eva you are amazing!

  • @stormrider8957
    @stormrider8957 Рік тому +73

    Eva, my dad recently passed away. He left you two words... BE AUTHENTIC. He was a visitation pastor ministering to the sick and dying. I asked him if there was a common theme in what the dying shared with him. He thought about it for a minute and said, "Too many had regrets not living authentic lives." Then he asked me to spread the word. Thank you for being "authentic" and for spreading the word to others who need to hear it.

    • @liewchengyeh
      @liewchengyeh Рік тому +2

      couldn't agree more....
      YOU BE YOU....

  • @ArthurShedsJackson
    @ArthurShedsJackson Рік тому +68

    I think you are too hard on yourself. You've accomplished more in a year than I've done in a lifetime. Your videos have been so amazing too, your travels, your experiences. You are much younger than me, you still have so much ahead of you, don't let one year get you down. All best to you!

  • @MusicFandom
    @MusicFandom Рік тому +79

    Eva, I have traveled the world, going places so few will ever see. I have done things, so few will ever do. When I set my mind to doing something that would take a year or longer to do just for the experience of it, I done it. The only thing is, ALL of the above was only accomplished in my dreams. YOU have actually done what the majority of people ON THIS EARTH will never do in reality but dream of doing their entire lifetime. So, please understand that even though things have not gone to plan, you will forever be known by MILLIONS of people as the person who has lived their dreams by the time you were 32 years old. How many can say that? That is not something to regret. That is an incredible accomplishment. I am 50 years old and disabled so I will not be able to do most of what I planned on doing before I die. When the day comes and I am on my death bed, when I am thinking about the things I have done in my life, I just pray that it is at least 2% of what you have already done with yours. Thank you for being out there doing the things I dream of doing and thank you for posting your adventures so I can visualize what it might be like if I could have ever done it myself.

    • @aleshawhite2381
      @aleshawhite2381 Рік тому +11

      Wow, this took so much humility and grace to write from one person to another. This comment was exceptionally touching and i just wanted to say hi from another corner of the internet x

    • @darrinrebagliati5365
      @darrinrebagliati5365 Рік тому +4

      Ditto. In fact I was about to write this to her. Kinda nice to know I'm not the only one!

    • @greghayes5708
      @greghayes5708 Рік тому +2

      Wow, great comment, exactly how I feel

    • @Gator-fromOZ
      @Gator-fromOZ Рік тому +2

      😊 👍

    • @JimMathey
      @JimMathey Рік тому +1

      At 82 believe I'm one of your oldest fans.. I really enjoy your VLOGS as I am now handicapped so do all my traveling watching UTUBE. At your age I had just finished 5 years traveling the world. I loved ever minute on the road and still miss it. New life experiences are ahead for you but you will never forget or regret your travels. At my age you would think I would have some sage advice. The best I can give you is the old Hawaiian saying, "No rain, no rainbows".

  • @contactsuzi7096
    @contactsuzi7096 Рік тому +54

    I don't think you thrive on chaos, I think you thrive on adventure...people who aspire to set goals to get where they want to go, are not at all chaotic...I'm a 74 year old creative still chasing and seeking. I do keep social media at arms length...it's a time waster that doesn't deliver anything worthwhile...I follow just a handful of YT channels - yours included - because you gift to me moments of a life well lived...Do you my friend! Love, Suzi

    • @kateklein8874
      @kateklein8874 Рік тому +1

      What a lovely comment! Never too old to be creative and to chase that "thing" that your after.... still chasing my novel to write as well! Blessings💛🧚

  • @TheCurlyGirlys
    @TheCurlyGirlys Рік тому +57

    I’m sitting here drinking my hot matcha latte with happy tears for you and yelling “Go girlie go, Go Eva go! Live Eva live!” We are cheering for you and your adventures!

  • @Kristina-tr1sg
    @Kristina-tr1sg Рік тому +50

    From one child-free, 30-something to another, never apologise for how you live your life and always do what makes you happy ❤ Happy New Year Eva x

  • @EvilChicken-23skeedoo
    @EvilChicken-23skeedoo Рік тому +44

    "You can't have a light without a little shadow..." - Ronnie, Mick, & Keith. Thank you for being real. All the best in the new year.

    • @chiptaylor1124
      @chiptaylor1124 Рік тому

      Thank you for this.

    • @zedwpd
      @zedwpd Рік тому +1

      "The night divides the day" - Jim

  • @calmthemonster
    @calmthemonster Рік тому +18

    100% f*cking fine. I spent the last 7 months fighting Cancer (I'm fine now) and your channel was and is one of my favorite when I needed an escape... So, thank you! Now, get back out there! :)

  • @danielwong2767
    @danielwong2767 Рік тому +71

    You deserve someone who will support you in ANYTHING you want to do. Don't settle for less.

    • @packcrackergoose7111
      @packcrackergoose7111 Рік тому +2

      Do they settle or do they realize they get what they deserve? Most people think too highly of themselves. @@AtoZandba

    • @tallest4eva
      @tallest4eva Рік тому +3

      I dislike the implication that some other person who doesn't fully support her life choices is "less". Everybody is different. Her lifestyle would be quite difficult for a significant other. It just wasn't meant to work out. She shouldn't have to change her core self for anyone, but NEITHER should he. It just wasn't meant to be.
      Your comment should be "Don't settle for otherwise".

    • @awesomepants4401
      @awesomepants4401 Рік тому

      Nah, her last mate was 30 years older than her and pressuring her to settle while he plays outside. She must grow up so he can play. This is also her sole income and personality. Plenty of men that don't want kids that'd appreciate her personality and freespirit. Women don't dim their sparks because the guys hate the brightness, a man that feeds them will be kept warm.

    • @tomanderson6140
      @tomanderson6140 Рік тому

      Her selfishness is the issue with any relationship, I promise. She wants to do what she wants when she wants and have no obligations to anyone while the other person supports her needs selflessly. That's not how it works. Long-term relationships are a forcing function toward maturity and realizing that you have to compromise and not always get your way. Not only that, but supporting others actually is fulfilling, rather than viewing the needs of others as burdens. Sounds to me like she has decided that self-absorbed and chaotic is "just her nature," and she wants to double down on it. Maybe, but then don't get into relationships at all, or at least be up front that anyone thinking long-term with you is wasting their time.
      We see so much of this these days, when people come to believe that rather than continuing the tried-and-true human embracing of various social roles at different levels of the human hierarchy -- wife, mother, daughter, entrepreneur, etc -- their own self expression and adventure is the height of being. And then they wonder why they feel lost. I think she's hoping to find a therapist that will simply validate her approach of radical individualism, whereas in reality she'd be better off considering what therapists like Jordan Peterson have to say about the relationship between happiness and societal roles. Note that I say "consider," because his are the strongest arguments against the approach that she's taken so far, and I say this as an atheist who ignores Peterson on religious matters while understanding that tradition exists because of the social wiring we've evolved with.
      In the end of such examination she might come to fully embrace a "chaotic" life, but for now she seems as adrift as anyone else who thinks that "being true to yourself" with radical individualism and self expression is the height of human existence. Her videos are interesting, but I find nothing at all in terms of greener pastures to envy here. I see a lot of comments about how people wish they could live like this, which just shows how many lost and confused people are out there.

    • @user-vg2eg7oo5n
      @user-vg2eg7oo5n Рік тому

      Research about the different types of narcissists. It could be helpful?

  • @barbarawinslow6895
    @barbarawinslow6895 Рік тому +27

    What mistakes? Your year was amazing and you learned a lot about yourself. That's how life goes. I'm 57 and let me tell you, the phrase "life is what happens when you're making other plans" is true. You're a vibrant, intelligent woman. Enjoy what you've accomplished and never apologize for being yourself. ❤

  • @HeyJakFrost
    @HeyJakFrost Рік тому +50

    We love you Eva! Don’t look at letting go as failure, everything in life is meant to teach us! We have all gotten to see you grow on your adventures, and your videos get me excited to get out and experience life. You are a beacon of light in a world that has become too comfortable playing it safe🤍

  • @santiguu236
    @santiguu236 Рік тому +72

    Thank You Eva for opening up to us! I'm sure a lot of us can relate.

  • @michellecusack5625
    @michellecusack5625 Рік тому +37

    Eva, you might like a book my own therapist recommended called No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz. I hear you using some of the same word choices I did, being harsh with myself, words like "mistakes," "quitting," "failure." The book encourages you to see all parts of yourself as useful and necessary. I love watching your channel because you are a free spirit, living a unique life on your own terms, sharing your insights along the way; I don't watch to see you "accomplish" stuff or make perfect choices. Please don't be hard on yourself. We are all just trying to figure out life, trying new things and changing course as we learn and grow. You inspire me to be more independent and adventurous! Give yourself some TLC, and I will be sending caring thoughts your way. :)

    • @VTHookie
      @VTHookie Рік тому +1

      Thanks for recommending the book No bad Parts !

    • @dapsolita
      @dapsolita Рік тому +1

      Richard Schwartz is definitely one of the good ones!☺️

    • @richardmathews6236
      @richardmathews6236 Рік тому +1

      Yes IFS, Schema therapy and compassion focused all have good things to say about our internal world and how to live with them

  • @joemacha6717
    @joemacha6717 Рік тому +9

    I am 80 and still going strong. SO. You learned and now to can adjust. As one book I love is “the boy, the mole, the fox and the horse by Charlie MacKesy be you. Move forward and build on what you have learned. Go and fly!

  • @Prosecco_Pundit
    @Prosecco_Pundit Рік тому +37

    Hi Eva, I don’t normally comment on any video! But I wanted to say thank you for being so vulnerable with us and sharing your life in this way!
    You are loved! I love your channel! You’re going to thrive in 2024, and if that means changing your channel or trying some different creative outlets - I’ll be there supporting you as best I can.

    • @RonWrightwrites
      @RonWrightwrites Рік тому +2

      VULNERABLE. You mean vulnerable, although venerable is applicable, also, in respect to her plodding through adversity and trip setbacks!

    • @Prosecco_Pundit
      @Prosecco_Pundit Рік тому

      @@RonWrightwrites thanks Ron you’re correct.

  • @_DREBBEL_
    @_DREBBEL_ Рік тому +76

    Everyone on earth deserves a Poland. A place of refuge. A place that doesn’t ask for an apology. For everyone’s Poland, wherever it may be, I hope your place always embraces you. It’s always there for you Eva. Treat it beautifully ❤ 🇵🇱

  • @RealMobStories
    @RealMobStories Рік тому +26

    You went all over the world. You are an explorer. Far from having a bad year. Bless you and Merry Christmas.

  • @Jessicaperry19293
    @Jessicaperry19293 Рік тому +12

    Thank you doesn’t say enough for sharing this hard year. I too have had the worst year of my 47! I found out my spouse of 25 years has been living a double life and being unfaithful. When you said to trust your gut, that is what I’m kicking myself over. Because the last 12 years have been a lie and we have 4 kids that have to suffer the fallout. The quote about the dark side and new beginnings really spoke to me. I need to write it down. But it helped me to know I’m not alone in this very very lonely sad time. You’ve inspired me for so many years…I found you when you hiked Kilimanjaro and couldn’t get enough. Thank you and blessings for your new year! Jessica

    • @HermanFickewirth
      @HermanFickewirth Рік тому

      It breaks my heart to read about your troubles. And you have 4 ( I'm sure beautiful ) children. I will pray for your situation, and that God protects you and grants you the strength and wisdom and guidance you need as we head into the New Year! It will make you stronger,there is light and life at the end of the tunel.

    • @islandonthelake
      @islandonthelake Рік тому

      best wishes for 2024!

  • @p.borkholder
    @p.borkholder Рік тому +61

    Eva, you didn’t make “mistakes”, you just had learning experiences and you survived another year. Every relationship is a learning experience good and bad. You were smart and realized what you didn’t want and moved on! Keep making your adventures and don’t let anyone snuff out your vision for life❤❣️🤩

  • @dyoung3536
    @dyoung3536 Рік тому +60

    "Your choices are the building blocks of your character, and there's no wrong way to construct the masterpiece of who you are." - Unknown

    • @mikezr1000
      @mikezr1000 Рік тому

      Unless you're Jeffrey Dahmer.

    • @unchivalry
      @unchivalry Рік тому

      Yeah that is a stupid quote. Hate to bag on Eva, but the one she shared is also nonsense and cope really.

  • @ensfletcher
    @ensfletcher Рік тому +20

    Eva, never apologize for being yourself. You have done things and seen places most people can only dream about. You are an inspiration to many. Don’t forget that but most importantly do what makes you happy. Don’t lose sight of what makes you truly happy.

  • @dorgana68
    @dorgana68 7 місяців тому +1

    You're not alone, there are 1.78M subscribers who follow your life's journey 🥰 NO wrong choices, NO regrets, ONLY life lessons that happen precisely at the right time. Also, maybe do a meet n' greet where you are someday, see how many people would love to meet you up close 🙏🏻

  • @upandaway5844
    @upandaway5844 Рік тому +30

    Thank you for your honesty Eva! From one child free woman in her 30s who recently found a good therapist to another: there is NOTHING wrong with still looking for what it is you want from life!! I ended my year with finally telling my boss that I'll quit soon, and no, I have no idea what I want to do next. Just what I do now is NOT it for me. So let's stay strong, keep on searching, and just be who we freaking are 😊❤

    • @sanelatutaris15
      @sanelatutaris15 Рік тому +1

      That’s my story too!

    • @Volteran
      @Volteran Рік тому

      You're not child free. You're childless. You don't need therapy. You need children.

    • @sanelatutaris15
      @sanelatutaris15 Рік тому

      @@Volteran go and learn what this means: “For the children of the desolate woman are more than the children of the married woman,” says God in Isaiah 54:1

    • @Volteran
      @Volteran Рік тому

      no thanks@@sanelatutaris15

  • @naidourod
    @naidourod Рік тому +14

    To be honest, I stumbled upon your channel while preparing for my English exam, and since then, I've been following you on various social media platforms. I've continued watching your videos, sharing in your ups and downs, your laughter and tears, whether you were in Asia, the Middle East, Europe, or America. You're not just an influencer or a traveler to me; you feel like a member of my family. Every time I see a notification from your channel, I click on it immediately. In a nutshell, I genuinely wish you the best in both your career and personal life. I look forward to witnessing more moments of your success and sharing in your laughter. Happy Christmas :))

  • @MM_in_Havasu
    @MM_in_Havasu Рік тому +18

    Your year was not a waste at all, because life itself has its ups & downs, and all of us learn from any mistakes or bad decisions we make as people. I'm 66 years old and have made some decisions in my past that weren't as good as I'd liked, but I learned from any transgressions and went forward. You will certainly do the same, as you are one strong woman and you will find your way. Hang tough!
    Eva, you also just keep being yourself, all of us who follow you in here do love you. Wishing you the best in 2024 as well, and a very Merry Christmas & Happy New Year!

  • @Koshalamya
    @Koshalamya Рік тому +10

    It can be very cathartic to vocalise to others as well as yourself. Being more open allows you to move on in most cases. But also taking the time to realise that sometimes we just have to take a break and look at where we are in our daily and overall life. Just be yourself and take each step as you find it. The confidence will come back!

  • @tuscansun53
    @tuscansun53 Рік тому +43

    This year was not a loss! You were “experimenting” and finding your way! This is your time, enjoy the journey!❤

  • @randmohammad7181
    @randmohammad7181 Рік тому +52

    Think of it as a year that you tried some scenarios of the "What ifs" you had at the back of your mind, and now you have no regrets for the future... you tried out-of-character options that only gave you more clarity and certainty about who you are and what you want in life 😊😊
    Wish you the best, Eva ❤

  • @lastpme
    @lastpme Рік тому +44

    You have done so MUCH this year. I am truly amazed the things you do. I think it ok to maybe start something and then realize it will not work. I think some people keep going the wrong way when they know they are making a mistake. The good thing for you was when started a project that you realize it wasn’t going to workout you moved on. I would look 👀 2023 as a learning opportunity. I am sorry that your relationship didn’t work out, but you are an amazing woman and you will get past this chapter. We are pulling for you and your videos allow us an opportunity to escape and see the world and inspire us to also travel 🧳.

  • @ernestjenner1383
    @ernestjenner1383 8 місяців тому +2

    Racing headlong into my 90th year, concerned to death that the world and people on it are going to hell.. until, that is, seeing you.
    Although you be the last person to realize it, you , Eva Zu Beck, give others Life’s greatest gift: hope. Please accept this in return.

  • @sergiotech1323
    @sergiotech1323 Рік тому +33

    Eva, I would like you to know why I follow your channel. Not specifically because of your wonderful adventures. I follow you because of your emotions. How you feel about things. How you express them. Whether happy or sad. Everybody have ups and downs. Few people will be eligible to give you advices, I certainly am not one. So, listening to you in this video made me feel bad about how could I help this person so wonderful. No, you can't. So I though about giving you a feedback how you help me be a better person by trying to absorb as much as I can from you. I hope this make you feel better.

  • @kenctravels
    @kenctravels Рік тому +13

    This video made me very happy FOR YOU! You may not realize it now, but you’ve had a lot of personal growth this year. There are no setbacks, only life experiences. Personal therapy will help tremendously and you will thrive, in your own manner, in 2024. I look forward to continuing to follow your channel. Have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year!

  • @thesnoopydance645
    @thesnoopydance645 Рік тому +14

    Reframe "mistakes" as detours or lessons. That is more helpful . Better to try something and fail then not do anything at all. Mistakes are not to be avoided at all costs, but do serve a purpose. Thanks for sharing your life here. For those of us who physically cannot do some of these things anymore; we can live it through you, so thank you again.

  • @theuncletim920
    @theuncletim920 Рік тому +7

    I'm glad you posted this. I have ADD and it holds me back quite a bit. This last year has been one of great change for me and your videos are an inspiration. Every success is built on failure unless we stop trying. You will write that book, you will keep traveling, and you will fail often. You need at least 10 solid fails for every great success. I use failure as a stepping stone...a required part of success. Keep going. You're great!

  • @onetjeffersonsplace
    @onetjeffersonsplace Рік тому +25

    Long time viewer and 1st time commenter. I so appreciate your realism here. Too many don't share the real struggles of being an influencer and that life isn't all that it seems. It's ok to be human and to fail sometimes. You made some memories in America. You adopted a wonderful puppy. So it isn't all lost. Onward and upward girl! Chin up keep moving forward.

  • @aglaiacassata8675
    @aglaiacassata8675 Рік тому +28

    Dear Eva, be kind to yourself. In 2023. you lived, you grew. While growing, not every day can be spectacular, or better than the day before. It is hard work to be authentic. Your community loves you the way you are. And I don' expect you to achieve massive goals every month. Just be yourself - and occasionally tell us about it.

  • @kristinapaxton9686
    @kristinapaxton9686 Рік тому +165

    “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.” - Thomas A. Edison. So now Eva, you will be much closer to finding the the things that will work :D Take heart that you were brave enough to try in the first place. Some people get old and die without even trying....

    • @thelaughingprophet2275
      @thelaughingprophet2275 Рік тому +4

      Perhaps put the cameras away for a while or at least turn them away from you. You could just be trying too hard to please everyone but yourself. You could be trying too hard to prove yourself to everyone else, which is just not necessary. I’m in my 50’s, lost my wife to cancer, my kids have grown up and left home and my life has been under constant self review ever since…focusing on your mistakes only makes you sick. Life is a journey, make it your journey and love yourself. Everything else will follow

    • @tomsmith4148
      @tomsmith4148 Рік тому +3

      "Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new" Albert Einstein

  • @kadubcovasimona
    @kadubcovasimona Рік тому +10

    The part about instagram leading us to certain believed and paths is so true. I quit all platforms - Facebook, Twitter, Insta as I was no longer able to tell what is it I want and what is it I think I want because everyone else seems to do it/have it... It is the most toxic thing. I feel so much freer and happier without it, like finally I feel there is an actual life outside those platforms. And regarding mistakes - there are no mistakes in life, there are lessons and experiences. ❤

  • @TashMusic
    @TashMusic Рік тому +38

    A wise woman once inspired me with the words '' you can bounce back and create something beautiful out of every crisis .. because the world belongs to the brave '' - I took these words close to heart and remembered them in my lowest until I reached the top where I still keep them in the back of my head. Eva, you are exploring life, you are experiencing life, you are learning to find your path and learning never comes without so called mistakes. Mistakes are needed in other to push yourself to the right direction - these mistakes are lessons. Lessons to test you and lessons to bring the best out of you. 2023 was a year of learning, growing and 2024 will be the year of evolving, progressing.

  • @509brown
    @509brown Рік тому +23

    This has been my favorite channel of all time, and sitting with you and listening to 2023 reinforces that. You're human, a strong and respected human. Life is to learn, help and share.

  • @darrencampbell638
    @darrencampbell638 Рік тому +33

    How could someone walk away from this beautiful woman. Crazy. You've not failed at all, there's a right energy and time for everything, you're 12 months wiser and when you're ready to do the next steps, you'll get in your flow. You'll look back on 2023 in years to come as a very important year of learning and correction. You're super young, be patient. Remember most people don't have the courage to do what you've done / travelling / adventures / finding yourself. You've achieved so much. Don't put off setting down. When you meet the person that's right for this, you'll know.

    • @BigSky1
      @BigSky1 Рік тому +13

      She may have been the one that walked away.

  • @saradunn2755
    @saradunn2755 11 місяців тому +2

    I LOVE stories of “failures”. I find them so much more inspirational and full of insight that gets lost in success.

  • @RishisMaRothy
    @RishisMaRothy Рік тому +13

    Hi Eva, I live in Bangladesh where I am not allowed to do most of the things I want to, and herE you can decide to do everything you want. Things may not work out and you have the chance to correct the mistakes and move on. So I love to see what you do, the way you want to pursue. I wait for your videos eagerly, Don't feel overburdened.

  • @ElleAshterra
    @ElleAshterra Рік тому +18

    I coach people in Human Design and the item at the top of their list to learn is always to know what is their authentic nature (and what is not).
    You’ve just described both your authentic nature and what is correct for you, and how you reached that conclusion through experiences that were not always correct for you. That is a beautiful wisdom space you should congratulate yourself for learning. Thank you for sharing your truth ❤

    • @tamara.herbalist
      @tamara.herbalist Рік тому

      I wonder if Eva is a Manifesting Generator, so she could try to wait a bit more for what life brings naturally and listen to her inner response, and not initiate all the time. Or she is a Manifestor and initiating is correct, but she doesn't know when enough is enough and needs more breaks because of undefined sacral.

  • @ObservingSelfwithKita
    @ObservingSelfwithKita Рік тому +25

    There are no "wrong paths"....detours are all part of the journey. It's all experience, lessons and memories. Good or bad is Life 🖤

  • @JasenomadeTV
    @JasenomadeTV 9 днів тому +1

    At 50, I deeply resonate with you. I feel like I'm constantly pulled in different directions, even with a family. My soul craves travel and exploration, a constant yearning for new horizons. I used to beat myself up for this restlessness, but now I understand that it's simply who I am. Watching your journey reminds me to embrace this part of myself. Sending you much love. Even though this video is from 2023, its message remains incredibly relevant today.

  • @sushileeloo1733
    @sushileeloo1733 Рік тому +44

    As a 32 year old childfree woman I wanna say thank you for sharing this 💛
    In 2023 I had no specific goals and I felt the same. People around me made me question if I should settle down. Maybe I need to learn to have a quiet life? (I've never lived more than a year in the same place in my adult life)
    Hearing you say there is Nothing wrong about chasing goals and sometimes living in chaos makes me feel so Good!!
    Yes Im all over the place but I live intensely and learn so much 😊
    I wish you the best for 2024 and can't wait to watch your next adventures !!

  • @slugger545
    @slugger545 Рік тому +27

    It always helps to hear someone else talk I just ended a 3 year relationship a month ago and im 25 I love watching your videos and its a refresher to hear someone say their life isnt over in their 30s. Ive had the worst year of my life and its good to admit things thats the hardest part keep on keepin on.

  • @magpiebean
    @magpiebean Рік тому +10

    Eva - Watching your videos has gotten me through some really hard days. I don’t think you can imagine how much you have helped some of us. You showed us things / places we will most likely never see for ourselves and you have taken us on amazing adventures- getting us out of our own heads. I don’t know you but I so appreciate the time and effort you have put into each video. Your hard work has been our therapy. 💕

  • @michaelbledsoe4355
    @michaelbledsoe4355 Рік тому +2

    If you don't know already, you have one of the absolute best adventure and travel channels on UA-cam

  • @wendysteinberg2595
    @wendysteinberg2595 Рік тому +11

    Dreams can be more than we can afford and sometimes unrealistic. Goals can be the same.
    It hurts me to see people who are down on theirselves when they are trying so hard, but as a human we all do it. Talk to yourself like you talk to Vilk, with kindness and patience. You are loved.

  • @MadgazelleFilms
    @MadgazelleFilms Рік тому +27

    Eva, I don’t know if you will see this but in case you do, I feel compelled to encourage you. First of all, as someone who follows many travel vlog channels, the one consistent thing I’ve noticed this year is that everyone is struggling in one way or another. Several have made efforts to “settle down,” others have purchased new modes of transportation, and others seem to be planning their exit from the vagabond lifestyle. As I’ve watched all of this from behind the screen, my mind keeps coming back to one thought: you all must feel enormous pressure to make up for lost time post-pandemic… not only because you love adventure, but because we - your audience - want to live vicariously. Just yesterday I saw someone complain on one of your peer’s channels that their video was too short and that we are “paying for more content than that.” Um, no. We are not. And you guys are entitled to the same amount of grace I get at my job when I have stuff going in my outside life that is distracting me. So my first point is: please be gentle with yourself. Your hopes and dreams the last few years have been sideswiped by MANY things outside your control. ♥️ Secondly, I just wanted to say as a fellow single woman with no children (who is 2 decades ahead of you): YOU ARE WONDERFUL EXACTLY AS YOU ARE. I believe in Jesus, which means I believe we’ve each been created with a specific purpose in mind. Whatever that may be for you, no one else has ownership over it. You’re the only one walking through your life second by second, so you are the only one who actually has agency over your life. Everything else is noise! Someone told me once that the Enemy likes to whisper things to us as labels: “you’re single,” “you’re childless,” “you’re chaotic.” And the reason he does that is because our ACTUAL identity is GOD’s CREATION. And if we could only remember that, the Enemy would have a REALLY hard time accomplishing anything on this earth! 👀 I say all of this knowing that you do not have the same worldview as I do, and I respect your heart on this topic, so I hope you don’t mind my sharing my own thoughts. I definitely only say all of this to encourage you! You are wonderful, and you don’t need to fee disappointed in this past year because I actually see that you have just been struggling with the same hard changes as everyone else… albeit in your own way. Thank you for sharing your life with us and for staying vulnerable! I’m very sorry for your recent heartbreak, especially since it thwarted your beautiful plans of writing and dreaming with the pomegranate trees just outside your window! 💔 Sending my best wishes from Texas - we sure loved having you in the USA over the past couple of years!

  • @roadmonkmoments872
    @roadmonkmoments872 Рік тому +17

    Bumps in the road are just feedback, they are not right or wrong. Without missteps, failures, and seemingly “wrong” decisions there is no possibility for personal growth. Sometimes a thought is so emotionalized, it seems guided, when in fact it is not. I tend to find humor in my mistakes; it makes them more palatable for our fragile egos! 😂 You are growth-oriented, and mindful of your path, Eva; you are way ahead of the game than most. Blessings.

  • @AitanaSanchez-d3j
    @AitanaSanchez-d3j Рік тому +6

    I used to think and say exactly the same, that I had to give up on relationships because of my full time Traveller choice and my high need for independence. I proved myself wrong. Married with a 2 year old kid now ( is still hard to believe) , and exploring the world as a family after being a solo Traveller my whole life, same as my husband. It IS possible, just throwing some hopes there. I hear you, I feel you. I don't think your year was empty. I see some hard shifting into your truth. Congratulations

    • @missdead1
      @missdead1 Рік тому

      Same here minus the baby, and my exact thoughts :)

  • @marcodelcastillo250
    @marcodelcastillo250 Рік тому +14

    There are no failures in life, there are only teaching opportunities that life presents to us. You had an amazing life and I am grateful for the inspiration you have provided to me. I am about to turn 60 in April and in May I will start living the overland lifestyle. You inspired me to do what it’s aligned with my inner voice. May your intentions keep you moving!

  • @Candace-Loves
    @Candace-Loves Рік тому +124

    I'm a 36 year old single, childfree woman, by choice, and I agree... That's fucking fine!!! I think you're amazing. I've been stuck in customer service, barely managing to scrape by financially and definitely not taking care of my body the way I should. You are so talented and skilled and brave. It's been a joy and a huge inspiration to be able to witness what you share here. I wish all the best for you and Vilk going forward! Cheers!

    • @hornydolphin7953
      @hornydolphin7953 Рік тому +11

      Stop the cope lmao nobody wants to be that crazy cat lady 😂

    • @inamdurrani9259
      @inamdurrani9259 Рік тому +6

      No that is not fine

    • @CRASS2047
      @CRASS2047 Рік тому +2

      I’m 48 with no kids, not exactly by choice. Two long term relationships with women who cannot have kids, but refuse to leave for something that was not her fault . I am terrified of not having kids to take care of me when I get old. Have kids! Just waiting until your 30’s will give you a huge financial advantage to those who had kids young, but that’s only if you actually take advantage of it. Take better care of yourself, and start a business, then have kids

    • @spiercephotography
      @spiercephotography Рік тому

      Whoa whoa whoa hang on! @@CRASS2047 If you're only having kids or want to have kids because you want someone to take care of you when you get older that is *not* a good reason to have kids! And completely unfair to the kid too. As someone who's mom uses her/thrusts things onto me without respect and asking first, it's gonna create a not so great relationship with your kids if you do have them!

    • @Killswitch1411
      @Killswitch1411 Рік тому +6

      Other woman give other woman terrible advice. In lots of cases they just want to validate their own choices they made and likely constantly go back and forth on if it was the right thing to do. Just face the music, not all your choices are fine!!!

  • @mromero2726
    @mromero2726 Рік тому +45

    Dear Eva, your smile and travel has inspired me and I am a former Special Forces solider who has seen so much. You have made many of my days better. The attitude that you have shown to all of us is beyond and inspiration. Please keep doing what you do as some of us always need someone like you to keep us going. May your Christmas be wonderful and I look forward to 2024 adventures that you post. God bless you and your family. As my grandmother always told me before her death "M never loose your smile!"

  • @TrekkingTheRockies
    @TrekkingTheRockies Рік тому +4

    Dearest Eva, I found your channel this year and have enjoyed watching your journey immensely. Your year of 2023 did not go as you hoped. Our goals are often dependent on so many other circumstances and factors. We only have so much power. It's totally normal to feel the way you do with so many dreams that were not fulfilled. I imagine the ending of your relationship was the cherry on top. You're an adventure seeker both in location and new people. You're able to do what most of us only wish we could. Take your own time to heal and find that spark again. Never measure your self-worth against what other people say you should be doing. You are the CEO of your life. Thank you for taking us along.

  • @Skytexture
    @Skytexture Рік тому +10

    You are a dreamer and a doer, and you are so brave. The years we “make mistakes” are the big growth years. They are so valuable in hindsight. Sometimes you don’t have to accomplish visible goals to be successful. One foot in front of the other especially when it gets tough means you are exactly where you need to be. Thank you for your honesty!

  • @jennifersyrena8449
    @jennifersyrena8449 Рік тому +35

    Oh Eva Dear Eva, your adventurous soul is who we love and we will love you through this hump too. Thank you for showing us the two sides of the coin, the reality of life, and again the authentic you of you

  • @sharonmanns6018
    @sharonmanns6018 Рік тому +11

    I remember in my 40’s I had an epiphany.. it sounds simple but I realized that I get to choose my life. Sometimes it’s okay sometimes it’s not. But it’s still mine. Sounds like you have figured that out too! It’s an amazing time. Embrace the life lessons and be who you are!

  • @Norman.Metzger
    @Norman.Metzger Рік тому +4

    The triumphant reclamation and acceptance of your life toward the end was one of the most inspiring things I've seen. I really felt that in my soul, thank you Eva!

  • @chrisgreen5049
    @chrisgreen5049 Рік тому +18

    Good for you Eva, I just got out of a bad relationship.... with kids involved.... Happy if you can skip that horrible phase of life that so many people are struggling to deal with right now! During my shitty year, your videos inspired me to keep believing that there are still good things out there in the world! I wish you so much of the best Eva!

    • @margietucker1719
      @margietucker1719 Рік тому

      Wise words, Chris. I've been where you are...as they say...hind sight is 20/20. Best of luck for your future.😊

  • @jeffrasmussen1478
    @jeffrasmussen1478 Рік тому +7

    I just turned 50. I used to white water kayak and rock climbing all the time. But I broke my shoulder and hade a second awesome kid at the same time. Some time thing go side ways. But some times sideways is the right path. Just keep being you being you, be strong

  • @peacenlove
    @peacenlove Рік тому +9

    We NEED more videos like this. About failure, about loss, about real life. The amount of times in life I became demotivated because I failed at stuff, is uncountable. And then your scour UA-cam amd other social media or self-help books, it's all about winning. It's all about sticking it out till the end. Whether it works for you or not. That's the standard. Whereas in real life, plans change, failure happens or plans just get delayes. This video comes like a relief to me. Truly!
    I ended up watching a lot of relationship related content on UA-cam and started believing that as a woman, finding a man to take care of me would be my best life. And I felt lost. I just couldn't find any joy in that path. After much struggle I came to realize that I am an ambitious woman and my career is the most important thing for me. I am not that girl who can be content being a "wife" only. And slowly started coming back to myself. Everyone is built different. No one is right, no one is wrong. That's just it. ❤

  • @yagurla
    @yagurla Рік тому +7

    i really appreciate hearing this so much. this year has been so hard, exhilarating, depressed, eye opening, and yeah, shitty. this felt validating in a time where i'm questioning if something is wrong with me

  • @PensionersinPortugal
    @PensionersinPortugal Рік тому +57

    Hi Eva, I am a little (lot) older than you I found your channel and stayed because of your inspiration and honesty. I honestly believe that we are all just looking for a way through, trying, testing, failing and testing again. I really dont like the word failed, its just testing and testing again until we find the way that works for us. We are all just trying to find our way. The most inspiring people I know are the ones still trying to find there place.. I am still looking and everyday I am learning...keep safe and continue inspiring. Thank you.

  • @rosesilveira344
    @rosesilveira344 Рік тому +17

    You dont realize how much you accomplished. Many people in the USA have never seen as much of our country as you have. Its a blessing. You also have made yourself part our hearts. Its no small feat. Hope you find happiness,fulfillment & God guides you to His plan in your life. I've learnt that when things don't work out is because something better is in your my future.

  • @flyingcheff
    @flyingcheff Рік тому +21

    You've actually had one of the MOST productive years of your life; dont worry, Eva, you'll discover this - hopefully soomer than later. You got it, already. You've arrived.

  • @beverlymelton5701
    @beverlymelton5701 Рік тому

    Never settle. Never stop chasing dreams