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  • @garrettunhinged
    @garrettunhinged Рік тому +37256

    Jesus you're brilliant. An hour of you speaking feels like 3 minutes. Love you Drew, your sincerity is both moving and inspiring. Keep holding on. Also, stoked for the new album and also that boom box with the built in vinyl player built in is melting my mind it's so cool.

    • @Ambrrrrritscoldinhere
      @Ambrrrrritscoldinhere Рік тому +365

      Right!? I was just gonna say it didn't feel like it was an hour. It's reminiscent of The Catcher in the Rye.

    • @Shyner_24
      @Shyner_24 Рік тому +382

      AYO the Gare Bear here be spitting straight facts

    • @aleshaodean6689
      @aleshaodean6689 Рік тому +401

      You both are such beautiful people

    • @JohnnyFaith
      @JohnnyFaith Рік тому +615

      Spooky boys reunited pls

    • @victoriabuitron8188
      @victoriabuitron8188 Рік тому +58

      @@JohnnyFaith yessss!! they totally shoulf someday!!

  • @CharaViolet
    @CharaViolet Рік тому +7984

    When he said "tough love only works if you believe that person loves you" that was so real and I really felt that.

    • @Barkerfam6
      @Barkerfam6 Рік тому +23

      Chills!

    • @seanceknowles2911
      @seanceknowles2911 Рік тому +123

      He says things I’ve been trying to express for soooo long. When he said that I paused. I think that’s validation happening.

    • @lc4life369
      @lc4life369 Рік тому +16

      Havent gotten to that part of the video yet but that should be a quote.

    • @myyoutube129
      @myyoutube129 Рік тому +44

      He has a knack for saying really deep things in a way that makes it sound lighthearted and a joke

    • @CharaViolet
      @CharaViolet Рік тому +37

      @@Stephania006 "Tough Love" is love or affectionate concern expressed in a stern or unsentimental manner (as through discipline) especially to promote responsible behavior. But if you don't actually believe that person loves you or cares for you, it won't register it as an act of kindness. It just feels like random cruelty.

  • @mytoecold
    @mytoecold  Рік тому +12531

    hi so im reading the comments right now and so much of it means a lot to me, im not replying to every single one but I just wanted to say that I probably saw it and made a face at it or felt it in my stomach. especially people who have been watching me for so long and relate to this, it's such a special bond and hope I go on a real tour one day and see people. this was scary for me but im so glad I did it overall.
    my 2 new songs are on all streaming platforms now. i hope u listen to them and my album is out on April 17th. and as always I talked 30 more minutes on my patreon patreon.com/drewmonson

    • @joel.d
      @joel.d Рік тому +195

      Presaved your album and filed the paperwork to change my name to Tyler

    • @mytoecold
      @mytoecold  Рік тому +515

      here's the Spotify link open.spotify.com/album/5SewChIZlTHVzp7dZuuBUi?si=omQTEV2uQUK52U_F0Otvfg did u listen to it??? btw if you are reading this before watching my video I swear there's more to this and this isn't one of those videos where its called like "my secret" and the secret is they wrote a damn book

    • @massiveconehead
      @massiveconehead Рік тому +67

      i hope you’re having a great day! take a deep breath. you did it. im so proud of you.

    • @savage_optimist
      @savage_optimist Рік тому +37

      I love you so much Drew that I had to reset my facebook password just to sign into my Spotify just to pre-save that darn album. But it's selfish also because those songs are delightful and I can't wait to put them on my playlists.
      Also, I'm a fellow addict who is in recovery most of the time. I love you and I support you.

    • @saraheikkuri9072
      @saraheikkuri9072 Рік тому +8

      listening to the songs rn drew, love the vibe!!!

  • @nevaehkirby9378
    @nevaehkirby9378 Рік тому +1017

    i got high and was gonna watch some youtube. i didn’t realize this was gonna be my last time getting high. i needed to hear this.

    • @nevaehkirby9378
      @nevaehkirby9378 Рік тому +231

      it’s been exactly 3 hrs and i’m smoking again but this at least gave my the motivation to clean my house instead of binge eating 🙂

    • @TooMuchPam
      @TooMuchPam 5 місяців тому

      ​@@nevaehkirby9378relatable asf comment.

    • @jamesauruss
      @jamesauruss 4 місяці тому +39

      a year later and im in the same position as you lol. i need to get up and pack. im moving tomorrow 😭

    • @sagew1312
      @sagew1312 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@jamesaurussHow did the move go?

    • @Angel-Otk
      @Angel-Otk 2 місяці тому +9

      @@nevaehkirby9378nah you disappoint me fr🤣💀

  • @toristokes8682
    @toristokes8682 Рік тому +6866

    Your transparency is brave even if you find it cringe or embarrassing, its not. It's honest. Thank you.

    • @mytoecold
      @mytoecold  Рік тому +1202

      I wanna make a joke so bad but I think I’m just gonna accept your niceness..

    • @mytoecold
      @mytoecold  Рік тому +1161

      I didn’t have a joke in mind by the way I just mean I’m chandler brained..

    • @toristokes8682
      @toristokes8682 Рік тому +361

      @@mytoecold That's ok Drew. We know. I know you worry a lot about what you post and how others will perceive you but as someone who has watched all of your content for years, your realness is what draws people to watch you. You aren't trying to sell something or be some influencer. You influence others with your authenticity, with your humanness and all the quirks that so many have and feel ashamed of. Be proud of yourself.

    • @Kristine_202
      @Kristine_202 Рік тому +44

      It can be cringe and embarrassing and honest all at the same time. I'm sober and if I couldn't look back on my struggles and laugh at the cringe, I'd go crazy.

    • @faithlmao5082
      @faithlmao5082 Рік тому +1

      I agree ❤

  • @hopeforlilli
    @hopeforlilli Рік тому +1501

    "tough love only works if you believe that person actually loves and cares for you"
    WOOF thats a kick in the nuts

    • @amber3189
      @amber3189 Рік тому +20

      Right? That part got me too

  • @ITSMERlVER
    @ITSMERlVER Рік тому +1994

    Please don’t ever delete this video, Drew. It's extremely helpful. I've never seen anyone talk about this the way you have. Thank you for this.

    • @ook428
      @ook428 Рік тому +7

      The day I was born my brother who was 2 at ta the time and being minded by a babysitter. He got away went to the farm sad was killed by a tractor. I don't know how my parents coped. My dad died a few years after that.
      All I am going to say is I have gone through every conversation and I don't think either of us would have been happy.
      My whish I wasn't convinced. His wish the babysitter was better or not needing an income so he didn't need to work that day.

    • @JustSomeGirl87
      @JustSomeGirl87 Рік тому +3

      ​@@ook428I had a hard time making sense of all of that?... But if I am getting it right, I'm sorry that all of that happened.

  • @ant7417
    @ant7417 Рік тому +1438

    this video was the catalyst for my sobriety. I’m at four months today
    thank you so much for posting this.

    • @normalizenatalie
      @normalizenatalie Рік тому +10

      congrats :))

    • @kaia6187
      @kaia6187 Рік тому +10

      This is incredible. You are incredible!

    • @curiouslittlefrog
      @curiouslittlefrog Рік тому +7

      This comment made me tear up. I’m proud of you

    • @Kimberly34584
      @Kimberly34584 Рік тому +4

      Congrats!

    • @HoneyWithoutVinegar
      @HoneyWithoutVinegar Рік тому +7

      Kudos man! I also started my addiction recovery after seeing this and it's so fucking hard. Stay strong dude. If my math is correct you should be at 6 months sober at this point so keep at it! Half a year!

  • @angelinelars9051
    @angelinelars9051 Рік тому +1780

    “Sick of having control” is such a great way to describe that feeling. When you’re a perfectionist or people pleaser you get to that burnout point.

  • @amybenham1796
    @amybenham1796 Рік тому +1364

    Only you could make this story not feel like an uncomfortable trauma dump. You're brilliant. I've missed you.

    • @igirl
      @igirl Рік тому +21

      real

    • @mytoecold
      @mytoecold  Рік тому +355

      honestly that is kind of my goal thanks

    • @jimlock999
      @jimlock999 Рік тому +18

      let's be real, it's the Spongebob jokes

    • @fshoaps
      @fshoaps Рік тому +14

      The term "trauma dump" is so dumb. It's called being a person.

    • @sarajanzer1514
      @sarajanzer1514 Рік тому +18

      ​@@fshoaps trauma dumping is very much real but not necessarily in this context

  • @aprilgeewhiz3814
    @aprilgeewhiz3814 Рік тому +1460

    I’m a 60 year old mother of 4 adult children (your age) and I’ve watched this video 5 times already. Why? Because I’ve been sober for 16 years and this video reminds me why. It is so important and helpful and appreciated. Thank you Drew for sharing your story. Recovery works when you remember where you came from and that you’ll die if you go back.
    Anywho…..thanks!

    • @tedstudt8550
      @tedstudt8550 Рік тому +17

      You're a strong fighter. Keep fighting the good fight ❤️

    • @xlightknightx
      @xlightknightx Рік тому +11

      Yes this was a good reminder as to why I am sober; even though it’s only been 9 months.

    • @w.m.8126
      @w.m.8126 Рік тому +4

      Congrats on 9 months !! @@xlightknightx

    • @SanDesigns
      @SanDesigns Рік тому

      Oh Mama you're the kind of success story the world needs more of. You're amazing.

    • @aprilgeewhiz3814
      @aprilgeewhiz3814 Рік тому +1

      @@xlightknightx there’s no ONLY in sobriety. It’s one day at a time. Congratulations on 9 months!

  • @oreogurl1234
    @oreogurl1234 Місяць тому +88

    28:46 "We have all just perfected rapidly dehumanizing people" that sentence alone is so powerful, but I loved this whole section of the video. Thank you for being so open

  • @stinkypicklemonster
    @stinkypicklemonster Рік тому +965

    “dad if you see this call me and apologize, i’m serious” is incredibly honest and simultaneously hilarious as well as too relatable. drew i hope you know how brave i think you are for sharing this much of your life with us, no matter how cringe you might feel like it is or how uncomfortable it might’ve been for you. thank you thank you thank you.

  • @dakotabruton7195
    @dakotabruton7195 Рік тому +766

    “When you’re so attached to something, you’re not going to blame anything on it because then you lose your coping mechanism” 15:28 this explanation is better than anything I’ve ever heard in regards to this

    • @skippyuber6072
      @skippyuber6072 Рік тому +1

      so so true

    • @hwoods-kg1jf
      @hwoods-kg1jf Рік тому +8

      I could really relate when he said that because I've struggled with addiction/alcoholism for almost my whole life sadly. Still struggling...with weed and the pills. No more alcohol though. My liver is SHOT from being a raging alcoholic for a long time sadly. I can't drink at all anymore or I won't stop and I'll die and sooner than later....Got a little over 2 years sober from booze!

  • @amalaylay
    @amalaylay Рік тому +1838

    I swear Drew is the only person who can share some extremely painful and difficult life experiences and have me cackling with laughter the whole way through

    • @sambalgoreng
      @sambalgoreng Рік тому +26

      right!! his storytelling is just immaculate

  • @arolinger4
    @arolinger4 Рік тому +340

    as someone who is currently in the addiction stage you described it so so perfectly it made me cry. you make so many people feel so much less alone and it’s incredible. we love you so much

    • @evolvedmadam
      @evolvedmadam Рік тому

      You deserve to get better! @alyssaolinger3721 reach out soon. One foot in front of the other, you can do it, you aren't alone, and you are worthy

  • @julie13789
    @julie13789 Рік тому +1324

    i can’t imagine how scary it is to upload this, just know we are all here to listen and be with you. so much respect and love, drew. wishing the best for you always

    • @mytoecold
      @mytoecold  Рік тому +359

      I wish the best for you too

  • @mbryant4525
    @mbryant4525 Рік тому +529

    I’m 406 days sober today. I’d listen to hours and hours of you talking about your recovery!

    • @LeslieItza94
      @LeslieItza94 Рік тому +10

      I’m so proud of you.

    • @emilyleander3597
      @emilyleander3597 Рік тому +8

      ​@@joyfulcookie92 it's normal to recover from addiciton?

    • @suzyriding9311
      @suzyriding9311 Рік тому +6

      Congrats!!! Way to go! I'll be two years sober on May 31st. Such an awesome feeling. I agree. I could listen to Drew forever.

    • @brittanygreen202
      @brittanygreen202 Рік тому +1

      Omg congrats on your recovery! You’re amazing 💓

    • @catizhie
      @catizhie Рік тому +1

      @@joyfulcookie92Sweet child

  • @elizabethhuerta7549
    @elizabethhuerta7549 Рік тому +2141

    As an alcoholic, currently in treatment for the 6th time…my daughter sent this to me…she said “I just wanted you to feel seen by a UA-camr we’ve always loved.” Thank you for this ❤

    • @CloverLovesTT
      @CloverLovesTT Рік тому +44

      i admire your bravery in trying to improve your situation. you can do this!!!! i believe in you!!!

    • @psychodelicc963
      @psychodelicc963 Рік тому +27

      I lost my mother to alcoholism when I was 19. hadn't seen or heard from her for at least 3 years before. her body deteriorated and by her death she was 5'6 and 75 pounds. i eventually fell into addictions of my own that I'm just starting to climb out of at 26. thank you for choosing treatment, no matter how many times it takes. I hope your daughter never lives the reality I and so many others have. people like you give people like me hope for the future. ❤

    • @daMEGatron
      @daMEGatron Рік тому +8

      This comment made me tear up. I wish you and your family the best. You’ve got this!

    • @deviantpanda1206
      @deviantpanda1206 Рік тому +3

      You're stronger than you realize! You can become healthier!

    • @kaitlinfrost264
      @kaitlinfrost264 Рік тому +3

      Proud of you for getting help, no matter how many times it takes. My dad had a brain aneurysm due to alcohol, and now lives in rehab and will for the rest of his life. He's blind in his left eye, and has basically no short term memory. I wish he would've gotten help, and not been enabled by people around him. Sounds like you have people who support you and that's amazing. Good luck on your recovery journey ❤️

  • @palacsintakat
    @palacsintakat Місяць тому +24

    "when I was a kid and I was crying at night, no one would come to help me, and i vowed to never let that happen to others when I was an adult" MY HEART 😢 😢

    • @caitybug.
      @caitybug. 23 дні тому +1

      It’s the worst feeling as a child I remember thinking how I would never do that to my future children and still I can’t imagine why a parent would treat a child like that

  • @charlottesteinman2913
    @charlottesteinman2913 Рік тому +456

    Ive never really seen someone talk about addiction candidly like this and it kind of humanized it in a way? It was really insightful. Proud of you for working so hard for yourself and for uploading this!

    • @CrystalCat24
      @CrystalCat24 Рік тому +6

      Right?! It's usually the same textbook explanations when anyone is addressing addiction publicly and they don't really hit me authentically... The way Drew explains it is so realistic it's refreshing! Plus he still peppers in SpongeBob jokes, music, dancing, and jokes that keep it entertaining w/o coming off forced or fake or any of that!!💕
      Ok, that doesn't make that much sense, but I think u guys get it.😅

  • @whiskeygrandpa1426
    @whiskeygrandpa1426 Рік тому +599

    I’m sure this will just get lost in the comments, but this video helped me recognize my problem with alcohol. I quit cold turkey two days ago, and spent the last two nights in the ER being treated for withdrawal symptoms. My mother was an alcoholic and passed away from complications with her addiction, and I never want to be there. Thank you for helping me recognize I needed to make a change.

    • @rhiannong1344
      @rhiannong1344 Рік тому +28

      i don’t want this to get lost in the comments, im very proud of you!

    • @maria-gh5rv
      @maria-gh5rv Рік тому +18

      im so proud of you like seriously

    • @beulahboi
      @beulahboi Рік тому +15

      i'm sure you probably know this now but just in case. If you ever have to quit again do not do it cold turkey. It's too dangerous when it's alcohol. As I'm sure you learned in the ER. Hope you never have to do it again but never be too afraid or ashamed to keep trying if you have to go though it again.

    • @donutsandgravy3150
      @donutsandgravy3150 Рік тому +10

      I know you can do it. You can do it, you can do it, you can do it. I am so proud of you.

    • @loco7357
      @loco7357 Рік тому +6

      You CAN do this, as the ones before me have said. I am clean three years- they have been some of the best years of my life! Sober is always better ❤

  • @sammihessling5849
    @sammihessling5849 Рік тому +545

    I'm 5 months sober. And to hear a creator that I have loved for close to 10 years is going through the same struggles, means so much. We all love you Drew, thank you for being so open and honest.

    • @smallspooks
      @smallspooks Рік тому

      Congratulations!

    • @thatkid1163
      @thatkid1163 Рік тому

      This really does make me so happy for him & a little more seen bc you never hear about anyone online dealing with these kinds of struggles be so open about it 🥺

    • @ZeranZeran
      @ZeranZeran Рік тому

      I'm proud of you stranger :')
      That's a huge deal. Be proud, and keep going strong!

  • @leticiasatie8189
    @leticiasatie8189 11 місяців тому +14

    I saved this video to my "watch later" 9 months ago when it first came out, and I had no idea what it was about back then but I knew I was intrigued seeing someone from my "childhood" back on UA-cam. I never got the chance to watch it back then, and yet I feel like seeing it now was the best time of my life to have ever. After 2 years of struggling with my addiction, I am finally sober. I really agreed with your statement on how addicts can invalidate each other with their own struggles. But the crazy thing is, in my 2 years of severe addiction, there was a solid 3 times that I almost died, and that STILL wasn't enough to encourage me to get clean. So the boundaries are different for everyone, and I totally agree that if it is interfering with your life in any shape or form, that is enough to want to get sober. You don't have to hit rock bottom to finally get help because truthfully had it not been made entirely inaccessible to me, I don't know what my boundary would have been. I probably would've ended up dead.
    Watching this video, I have GENUINELY never related more to someone else's content. And that's the thing, I have never felt more understood than when interacting with or hearing the story of another addict. No one will ever truly understand until they themselves have been there. It's so easy to question why someone could "throw their life away just to get high" as an outsider.
    I even related to your internal monologue of the vision of your sober self giving an interview as that is something I did exactly amidst the peak of my addictions. I guess it's a coping mechanism that helps us look to the future. I'm glad to say that I'm finally sober now in the year of 2024, but the withdrawal was quite literally one of the hardest things I have ever experienced both mentally and physically. Thank you so much for making this video and for being so candid.

  • @coldhands6648
    @coldhands6648 Рік тому +690

    this dude's the only youtuber who can create videos that literally make me giggle in the middle of almost weeping. it's so interesting cause i only ever experience those moments through comparatively elaborate films or music that's perfectly contrived to induce that sorta reaction in the viewer. it's remarkable and beautiful to me how something so ordinary, simple, as a barely edited, random, stranger throws me into such a vulnerable moment

  • @iridescentdecency9472
    @iridescentdecency9472 Рік тому +578

    Amazing how you can speak on such a serious subject while being extremely funny simultaneously. I really missed you and your videos!

  • @anjailbakeer
    @anjailbakeer Рік тому +296

    This is the most honest addiction story i've ever heard. Thank u drew.

  • @hannahb9195
    @hannahb9195 Рік тому +1241

    The doctor's reaction is BS: If someone is coming to the ER multiple times for drug-related reasons that is a cry for help and that person needs support and care

    • @RebaMcImTired
      @RebaMcImTired Рік тому +94

      Right? A doctor shouldn’t be screaming at anybody like that💀That’s so unprofessional and weird.

    • @zubetp
      @zubetp Рік тому +30

      i thought the exact same thing. that doctor was being willfully oblivious of that.

    • @M00NdaYn
      @M00NdaYn Рік тому +5

      Yeah that doctor needs to go.

    • @unknownunknown-yi6wp
      @unknownunknown-yi6wp Рік тому +45

      ​ @RebaMcImTired Unfortunately, not all, but alot of doctors lack basic empathy, and just life experience to be able to understand situations people can go through such as Drews. From personal experience. Not all doctors are equipped for that, not saying that it is an excuse but it is super shitty.

    • @elijimenez7710
      @elijimenez7710 Рік тому +11

      LA drs are like that

  • @andreamayo2spicy
    @andreamayo2spicy Рік тому +420

    Oh wow this is a blast from the past! I went to middle school with you Drew, we had band class together! You were hands down the funniest kid I knew. I remember you started doing youtube around that time and we'd all talk at school about how hilarious your videos were. It sucks to hear that you went through such a tough time but congrats on your sobriety! I'll always be rooting for you!

    • @carrieadcock1250
      @carrieadcock1250 Рік тому +34

      This warmed my heart so much

    • @rain2646
      @rain2646 Рік тому +13

      This is so sweet

    • @reeddior
      @reeddior Рік тому +7

      Hope he sees this

    • @mytoecold
      @mytoecold  Рік тому +40

      what did you play??? thats crazy!! im trying to remember you! my memory is kind of bad (because of the things I mentioned in this video)..but seriously thank you so much!! much love

    • @mytoecold
      @mytoecold  Рік тому +35

      I was soo bad at trumpet right

  • @Hellakiddie
    @Hellakiddie Рік тому +907

    I’ve been sober since 2019
    And contemplating relapse. I needed this. I’m so grateful you posted.

  • @samsmith757
    @samsmith757 Рік тому +1228

    Being against substances because your family are addicts and then falling into the same thing relates so hard to me. Love you Drew, as someone in active addiction this is putting me in a step I the right direction.

    • @clubaurora5904
      @clubaurora5904 Рік тому +22

      Im in the same boat. Active addiction. Always was against drugs because of my family. Now im an addict just like them. Addiction sucks

    • @clubaurora5904
      @clubaurora5904 Рік тому +9

      I hope ur doing okay. You got this.

    • @jadehuff3935
      @jadehuff3935 Рік тому +9

      Same here. My older brother ruined his life and I always looked down on him and judged him, now I’m in the same boat. It’s so hard when people have no idea about addiction and want to judge you for it. Addicts know EXACTLY what judgements they’re going to face and we’ve heard it all before, but that doesn’t change anything. We ignore the judgement or we let it drag us further into our addiction. I’m glad I’m able to experience what being an addict is like so I am able to understand my brother more and addicts in general. Everything about it is so sad but so liberating at the same time. We will come out Alive. I love tou

    • @laceyengle9757
      @laceyengle9757 Рік тому +5

      I'm five years free of my addiction, it's difficult but it's possible, I wish you the best.

    • @missymisdemeanor2183
      @missymisdemeanor2183 Рік тому +2

      You've got this, friend! No matter how hard it gets, you've got this. I am praying for you.

  • @jesskory9157
    @jesskory9157 Рік тому +1004

    I grew up with Drew.I always felt we were soooo similar with our sense of humor. I’m almost 30 now and have substance abuse disorder. When I tell you this video made my jaw drop. I felt so seen and I feel like us addicts always are on the same wavelength. I can’t really explain it well but thank you drew. It was brave of you to say this. I am proud of you. There are more people like you out here than you think. The overthinkers. ❤

  • @Barkerfam6
    @Barkerfam6 Рік тому +826

    “When you’re so attached to something, you’re not going to blame anything on it or you’ll lose your coping mechanism.” POWERFUL ❤

  • @HaleyBug221
    @HaleyBug221 Рік тому +561

    The bravery in this video is big. It was big of you to be able to talk about such a hard topic and personal struggle.

  • @meganl9573
    @meganl9573 Рік тому +418

    drew i’ve watched you since 2015, and this sounds so cheesy but genuinely your videos are art. the way you speak, the profoundness of your words, the comedic relief, like truly you are so gifted. i used to play your break up video over and over again and cry just to feel something. miss you, wish you well

    • @Subllama
      @Subllama Рік тому +8

      He’s so amazing and a gift to the world. He doesnt even realize how he really makes our day and his candidness is so refreshing.

  • @Ryan_Culbreth
    @Ryan_Culbreth Рік тому +230

    I had no intentions of watching the full hour in one sitting, but I couldn't stop. It literally felt like we were on Facetime. Thank you so much for sharing, it's really wonderful to have this as more representation and awareness. I'm so glad you felt safe enough to share and that you're doing better!

  • @kaleighmarshall8580
    @kaleighmarshall8580 Рік тому +1158

    I can’t express how thankful I am that you are talking about this candidly. I think I needed a sign, and this video was it. I hope that makes sense. If you were hoping this video would help at least one person, it did ❤

    • @sukatidi
      @sukatidi Рік тому +18

      take care ❤️ i believe in ya 💐👑

    • @malkam.7543
      @malkam.7543 Рік тому +13

      You are worth it. Take care of yourself. You can do this.

    • @heycaseydilla
      @heycaseydilla Рік тому +11

      You absolutely got this. 🧡🧡

    • @bbylex
      @bbylex Рік тому +9

      you’re not alone, i hope we both get to the changes we need to❤

    • @LucindaR
      @LucindaR Рік тому +2

      🫂

  • @dans4
    @dans4 Рік тому +3400

    I can’t describe the joy I just felt seeing this notification

  • @ToeteMichBitte
    @ToeteMichBitte Рік тому +464

    I was in the middle of taking a hit of [insert bad drug here] when you said "stop being so mean to yourself". My eyes welled up and I started crying. I've been doing this shit almost 15 years. I wouldn't wish an addiction on my worst enemy. Drew you are so strong for making this video. I'm in awe of your honesty. I can't even be honest with myself, yet you just opened yourself up to the entire freakin' internet. That takes massive guts. Thank you for being so candid and for reminding me that I deserve better than this. We all do.

    • @BigButtPaperWings
      @BigButtPaperWings Рік тому +13

      at some point, we'll be ready too.. schöne grüsse

    • @tracioday3778
      @tracioday3778 Рік тому +7

      You can do it! The leap is hard but when you allow yourself the opportunity to prove to yourself that you can be the change that you cry about when you're getting high and mentally beating the shit out of yourself!! I'm a year and

    • @Ohmyadeline
      @Ohmyadeline Рік тому +14

      Traci did you die before you could finish that comment

    • @aldranzam3456
      @aldranzam3456 Рік тому +9

      Different but similar. I just finished purging (I've had an ED for a decade) and hearing someone talk about their struggled in such a genuine way, reading the comments... It's both heartbreaking and comforting in a way I can't yet explain.

    • @LonelyArtistFanClub
      @LonelyArtistFanClub Рік тому +1

      The video didn’t get but this did 😢

  • @evansaye1521
    @evansaye1521 Рік тому +97

    Thanks dude. I’m 46 days sober from cocaine and alcohol, I did 33 days of inpatient treatment and it changed my life. I have a long way to go though. Unfortunately a friend I made in treatment relapsed after and did not make it. My best friend sent me your recent video on loss and both of these have helped me more than you know.

    • @RebaMcImTired
      @RebaMcImTired 8 місяців тому +1

      I hope you’re doing well!

    • @Deadlineontop
      @Deadlineontop 2 місяці тому +1

      Just wanna say hope your doing well man

    • @evansaye1521
      @evansaye1521 2 місяці тому +1

      @@Deadlineontop going strong 1 year and 6 months later. Thank you!

    • @barbedgirl
      @barbedgirl Місяць тому

      ​@@evansaye1521That is amazing!!! 🤩 Great work!! 🙌

  • @tory4006
    @tory4006 Рік тому +379

    Every time you upload it feels like getting a video message from a middleschool penpal I havent heard from in 15 months but I'm glad to see you, even if you aren't doing well or arent happy its nice to know you're around. its ok to not be doing well, but we're all rooting for you.

    • @ru406
      @ru406 Рік тому +3

      My thoughts exactly ❤

  • @Paranoid_potat0
    @Paranoid_potat0 Рік тому +327

    My brother died from a laced heroin overdose 8 years ago today, 4/3. So echoing the people that have said this came out today for a reason. So happy that you are on this journey and doing well.

    • @mellymel6447
      @mellymel6447 Рік тому +23

      Blessings to you as you heal ❤

    • @mytoecold
      @mytoecold  Рік тому +159

      :( what a sad coincidence but I choose as well to believe it’s a good one! I hope you like SpongeBob wow

    • @Paranoid_potat0
      @Paranoid_potat0 Рік тому

      @@mellymel6447 thank you ❤️

    • @Paranoid_potat0
      @Paranoid_potat0 Рік тому

      @@mytoecold I’ve honestly never seen the show but I still got and appreciated the jokes 😂

  • @greymilk
    @greymilk Рік тому +609

    This is one of the best conversations on addiction I've ever seen. You've always been an incredible story teller and quick witted, but the severity of the topic isn't compromised. And you're so right about "not being enough of an addict" talk making people apprehensive to asking for help. You're the coolest, drew

  • @clarion3204
    @clarion3204 Рік тому +89

    Over 90 days sober. Thank you, Drew. ❤ this is the longest I’ve been sober in over a decade. I kind of can’t believe it. I’m so glad I have people supporting me in my sobriety, and at the same time I’m sad that I feel like I lost some people in my life by making this choice of myself. I’m so proud of myself and my choices, and yet the other weekend I was at a bbq and saw some of my old friends who kind of ended up avoiding me. No one said anything to me about my sobriety, but I did notice that no one offered me a joint, which is very unusual, so clearly word has gotten around without me having to say much of anything.
    It really hurt my feelings and confused me. It was weird. I wish my friends could be proud of me, but instead they’re acting distant and putting up a wall with me. It made me feel sad in a little kid way, like how it feels when you realize everyone has been invited to a birthday party except for you. I’m glad I didn’t let it effect my choices and just stuck to sipping my spindrifts all night, but I still can’t really wrap my head around their reaction. The way they’re acting makes me feel like I did something wrong, or like I’m some sort of social pariah, even though I’m the same me with the same sense of humor. I wish they could be proud of me, or even just saying something about it to my face. I still hang out with one of my old stoner friends; they still smoke around me and I don’t partake and everything is cool and fun still. Idk why my other friends are treating me so weird.
    I’m glad I’m making new friends through my queer sober group. I’m really excited to get my 90 day chip and a hug at the meeting tomorrow. I also joined a sober DnD group, I’m meeting up with some folks to march in the Pride parade on Sunday, and I had a three hour very adhd phone call last night with one of my new friends where we just talked about music and black holes and it was awesome.
    I still can’t quite process the hurt I feel in my heart surrounding my old friends, though. I want to speak up to them and say something, but I don’t know what. I wonder if I want to be friends with people who treat me this way. I can’t help but wonder if I did something to deserve this. I wonder if they’ve all decided something about me behind my back. It all feels so backwards and irrational, but I can’t ignore the fact that they’re pretending like nothing has changed while treating me totally differently.
    I know it’s probably for the best. I know I want to keep being sober. And I know friends who can’t support that aren’t the sort of friends I want to keep.
    But in quiet moments, I still feel sad and lonely and confused. Those sort of feelings were what would cause me to use in the first place. But I’m not allowing myself to numb out and run away anymore. I’m breathing through the hurt. Moment by moment….

    • @Puffamallow
      @Puffamallow Рік тому +1

      I hope you’re doing okay! You got this

    • @clarion3204
      @clarion3204 Рік тому +2

      @@Puffamallow Seven months and 23 days sober :)

    • @enderrode
      @enderrode Рік тому

      @@clarion3204so very proud of you!! you’re doing amazing :)

    • @syndeybinch
      @syndeybinch 9 місяців тому

      @@clarion3204LETS GOOOOOO

    • @jake_from_statefarm7209
      @jake_from_statefarm7209 5 місяців тому

      I hope you're still going strong, my friend ❤

  • @queeralfdotexe
    @queeralfdotexe Рік тому +276

    I’m so fucking proud of you. I know this is a parasocial relationship, and my words do not and should not matter to you, but if you do see this, Drew, (or if you’re a viewer reading this who is thinking about getting clean or has gotten clean for any amount of time,) I really am proud of you.
    I’ve had a lot of people close to me, and in my life generally, who have struggled with addiction in many forms. I’ve seen people lose their lives and take their lives at the hand of substance addiction. I’ve seen the aftermath of families destroyed by this.
    It’s a brave act of compassion for yourself and those close to you for you to work toward your own physical and mental health and stability. It’s hard work and healing isn’t linear, so please, please don’t forget to be at least a little kind to yourself through all of this. It may not be worth much coming from me, but I do really believe in you. And I know there are other people out there who believe in you too. Please don’t give up.

  • @withsophia2061
    @withsophia2061 Рік тому +548

    I just realized what scares me most about addiction- not the danger to myself, but the judgement of others. It is terrifying to think people would look at me like I'm worthless because I'm an addict.

    • @littlebrandylovexoxo
      @littlebrandylovexoxo Рік тому +25

      Yup. I struggle even telling people im recovering. 8 yrs sober i should be proud to say it, you'd think.

    • @aryannawooten3283
      @aryannawooten3283 Рік тому +17

      @@littlebrandylovexoxo i’ve been surrounded by addicts my whole life. if anything, recovering addicts are the best people among us. congratulations on being sober, and i’m praying for you even if you don’t believe in god. truly happy you got out of a world where either you die or get out, there’s no inbetween. congratulations again.

    • @littlebrandylovexoxo
      @littlebrandylovexoxo Рік тому +4

      @@aryannawooten3283 thank you so much!

    • @doublefeature
      @doublefeature Рік тому +11

      we JUST starting to realize it's a health issue and not a moral issue. i personally have no problem with telling people i was a heroin addict because i hope that going thru that and now being 6 years sober, may inspire people. and for the people that judge and say ignorant/hurtful things; thank you just showed me your true colors! had a coworker tell me once he thinks all addicts should be taken to an island and left there. it helped me know he wasn't someone i wanted to waste my time conversing with.

    • @doublefeature
      @doublefeature Рік тому +5

      @@littlebrandylovexoxo you should be proud, you should feel amazing about that feat, not shamed. remember some people truly just don't understand and don't know what it's like to live as an addict or love an addict. but the people that do understand, will find strength in your story. congrats!

  • @annaelisavettavonnedozza9607
    @annaelisavettavonnedozza9607 Рік тому +1243

    4 years clean from Heroin/Fentanyl, & 2 years from EVERYTHING else. This is a brave & wonderful video to see. Your honesty is refreshing. Love you Drew ❤

    • @chapsticker
      @chapsticker Рік тому +13

      massive congrats to you, keep it up

    • @Nicole__Natalia
      @Nicole__Natalia Рік тому +3

      Happy for you! I wish I could 😔

    • @D8rk_Kitt3n
      @D8rk_Kitt3n Рік тому +7

      I'm so proud of you! I am 4 months clean from heroin but I still struggle with cocaine here an there. I do gabbapentin every day and without it in sick but in slowly weaning myself from it

    • @heyjude5513
      @heyjude5513 Рік тому +4

      Congrats Anna!! Its hard to do , one of the hardest things I've ever done for sure. Thats amazing. Lets make our 4yrs into 5 and be on the journey together :)

    • @glitterymartini
      @glitterymartini Рік тому +2

      year and a half here!

  • @noah1502
    @noah1502 3 місяці тому +6

    " when youre so attached to something, you're not gonna blame anything on it." too real, such a good reminder for almost anything in life. thank you for your vulnerability and honesty.

  • @alexandram6081
    @alexandram6081 Рік тому +968

    Watching this actively high is making me feel like I need a wake up call. I started it sober, finished it high, but changed my viewpoint entirely. Thank you Drew.

  • @charlotteclark7675
    @charlotteclark7675 Рік тому +373

    “Even if it’s sort of a horror show, somewhere else is good enough”. This really resonated. So grateful you shared, addiction is so powerful. I’m 4.5 years sober and grateful every day for sobriety.

    • @pamela5378
      @pamela5378 Рік тому +8

      resonated with me too. i remember trying edibles for the first time and crying from relief because i had found somewhere else i could go

    • @eeeee4888
      @eeeee4888 Рік тому +6

      I read your comment at the exact moment he said this quote i don't like that

  • @dinosuarzr0ck827
    @dinosuarzr0ck827 Рік тому +580

    I work in addiction medicine and the stigma is astounding, people don’t see how much work it is to get sober and maintain recovery. Drew and everyone struggling with an addiction, please be kind to yourself and recognize how much work you’re putting in ❤

  • @bjetszperxmaniax30
    @bjetszperxmaniax30 8 місяців тому +5

    From a fellow addict to another .. I pray that you continue to stay strong and to know you’re worth it and that please always love yourself and don’t beat yourself up for any mistakes made along the long hard road of recovery. Keep looking forward and not backwards toward the past and those past mistakes , none of that defines YOU!
    love you Drew. I appreciated this video.
    #WEDORECOVER
    #FUCKFENTANYL
    #FUCKMETH

  • @allykat3466
    @allykat3466 Рік тому +310

    So this video was so motivational. I’m an alcoholic. I got out of rehab about 2 months ago and I was so determined to never drink again. The withdrawals I go through nearly everyday almost killed me. And yet here I am, having to have left work early today because I was drinking all week and my body said “no more, we’re gonna throw up every 5 mins for the next 24 hours”. It’s heartbreaking but you’re proof that I can stop, and I need to and want to. I’m rambling now but I needed to see this video. Thank you drew, I’m proud of you

    • @tilllie
      @tilllie Рік тому +11

      u can do this!!!!

    • @takeadeepbreathin
      @takeadeepbreathin Рік тому +3

      You got this! I really wish you the absolute best.

    • @redss111
      @redss111 Рік тому +1

      Go to a meeting. You can't do this on your own.

    • @nickybee800
      @nickybee800 Рік тому +1

      Ally you can do this… please don’t give up. I get it 😢

    • @Ryevlan
      @Ryevlan Рік тому +1

      You got this!!! 💪

  • @mogwai_
    @mogwai_ Рік тому +95

    "I'm bitter about something that's my fault" you are really able to take responsibility but also communicate your feelings, that's good

  • @0ethereal0
    @0ethereal0 Рік тому +588

    I struggle with drug addiction too. It’s at a point right now where I feel like I really do want to stop. I take seeing this video as a sign that I definitely should.

    • @TheCaptainJade
      @TheCaptainJade Рік тому +23

      It’s time my love. Your best life is ahead, along with some of the hardest parts as you learn to lean on your strength to cope with being in recovery. You can do this!!

    • @emmajane9403
      @emmajane9403 Рік тому +26

      I had a 25 years coke addiction - the last few years it was nearly everyday. But I’ve been just over 3 months clean and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done. My health has improved and I have tons of money now. Please do it now so you’re not like me and ruin your life because it’s 25 years I can never get back. Good luck 🤞 you can do it 💪🏼

    • @zoegrimes2070
      @zoegrimes2070 Рік тому +2

      I am proud of you and rooting for you!

    • @emmajane9403
      @emmajane9403 Рік тому +2

      @@zoegrimes2070 I don’t know if you mean that to me or the poster. Either way thank you 🙏🏽❤️❤️

    • @zoegrimes2070
      @zoegrimes2070 Рік тому +4

      @@emmajane9403 both ❤️

  • @alyssaroberts2675
    @alyssaroberts2675 Рік тому +392

    Agoraphobia is one of the worst things I’ve ever experienced

    • @stxrdusted
      @stxrdusted Рік тому +18

      I'm currently trying to get out of it, it's so hard

    • @alyssaroberts2675
      @alyssaroberts2675 Рік тому +8

      @@stxrdusted I’m sorry you’re dealing with it :( try to be hopeful, it does get better with time. Mine took a few years to go away but I finally snapped out of it through exposure therapy (by myself) and I can finally look at the world around me and appreciate its beauty like I did when I was a kid instead of being scared of it.. acceptance is probably the key word in all of it. Sending you my love🫶🏻

    • @benamisai-kham5892
      @benamisai-kham5892 Рік тому +8

      I've been fighting mine for a while now, I've been getting by, but only by not paying mind to the fact I'm surrounded by people. It's horrible and a struggle because staying home all the time becomes stifling.

    • @alyssaroberts2675
      @alyssaroberts2675 Рік тому +3

      @@benamisai-kham5892 I know the feeling of being trapped in your house :( keep exposing yourself to the uncomfortable situations and eventually** it will get better ❤️ stay hopeful I know it’s hard

    • @JS-0-
      @JS-0- Рік тому +9

      I feel like I kind of dealt with it a couple years ago for about 1-2yrs. My anxiety got worse than what it was after graduating highschool. Even just going out the front door made me want to start crying. Getting in the car made me super anxious and I just wanted to get back in my room where it was safe. Eventually I started taking my dogs on walks around my neighborhood. Trying to get further from my house every time. Then I started looking into jobs , got one & now I’m free to do whatever I want whoever

  • @amazingabby25
    @amazingabby25 Рік тому +511

    No judgement for addiction, only love. I’m happy you are here. I was substance abuse counselor for so many years and so many of my amazing, wonderful and creative clients aren’t here anymore. It’s so amazing that you are brave out there to share your addiction struggles, thank you. As they they say, even though it’s cliche as fuck, one day at a night.

  • @1212lilith
    @1212lilith Рік тому +465

    I use to work at an ER and it's so true most of the nurses and doctors have zero sympathy for anyone coming in for using any type of drug/addicts, the homeless, and sadly most of the SI children (they always say they do it for attention). It broke my heart, they are very desensitized, never look deeper into any situation and just judge and project. I was only registration at the time but am in school now

    • @K6L9R
      @K6L9R Рік тому +21

      Ya I've experienced this & its horrible. I've been clean from pills & cocaine for many years. I put so much shit up my nose for a good 10 years & because of that I have a bad deviated septum. I've been to 2 ENT's in my town for help. The second they realized my septum issue was from drugs, the whole mood changed. They sent me back to my family doctor because they said I needed "more help" which is just so wrong. I've been clean for so many years & had proof with urine tests for all of those years. I still haven't had help with the issue. I kind of gave up. I want it fixed because I've worked so damn hard to change my life for the better. Its a reminder of the mistakes I made in the past. I wish I could get help with it so I can really move on.

    • @hannahb9195
      @hannahb9195 Рік тому +28

      I've had this; I am a disabled 'vulnerable' adult with learning disabilities. Was committed for depression after an attempt. It had on my notes that my mother had abused me...the first things someone told me after waiting five hours was "it is selfish to do this, what would your mother say?"

    • @schwydlen13
      @schwydlen13 Рік тому +4

      The world needs you! Good luck with school❤

    • @zubetp
      @zubetp Рік тому +12

      yeah, i think they see self-inflicted situations as being a waste of their time.
      i remember being in the ER after an attempt by overdose. a nurse snapped at me for being drowsy and not understanding a question. i've never forgotten that moment. i had started to feel numb and tired, and the way she spoke to me right then shocked me back exactly an hour and a half, right before i had decided to swallow all the pills. i remember apologizing to her, which just pissed her off more because she needed an answer to a question lol.

    • @Lucifersfursona
      @Lucifersfursona Рік тому +1

      Amazing bc children are literally incapable of lying abt that

  • @Looktothewesternsky444
    @Looktothewesternsky444 Рік тому +317

    Drew, as a person who visited her dad in rehab when she was a little girl, that little girl who wanted to meet you thought you were the strongest person ever. I remember my dad was in rehab with this amazing artist and he drew me and my brother an insanely realistic picture of a teddy bear. My brother and I had that picture hanging on the wall for years and through multiple moves.

  • @andwatifisedno
    @andwatifisedno Рік тому +426

    Man, I totally remember the first panic attack I had smoking weed. I legit was convinced I was dying. I remember thinking, "I am going to be the first person in the world to die from smoking weed" and being 100% convinced it was the end.

    • @lexworl5669
      @lexworl5669 Рік тому +24

      Happened to me too 😅 I literally went to the ER in an ambulance lol so embarrassing

    • @212MAY
      @212MAY Рік тому +4

      *sigh* brings back memories to when i was stuck on the wall of my hallway for a good minute because i got too high hahahahaha

    • @dawert2667
      @dawert2667 Рік тому +23

      I work on an ambulance and you’re literally not alone, I’ve had to do a looooot of patient education about panic attacks. Fun fact you can get one from smoking weed whether its your first time or your 1,000th time 😀

    • @jenn005
      @jenn005 Рік тому +10

      I remember being in the car with my “friends” at the time and she took the long way home but in my high paranoid mind they were trying to kidnap me and had laced the weed. I ended up having a panic attack, thinking I was dying and convincing them to take me to the hospital. Good times 🥲

    • @Numb217
      @Numb217 Рік тому +16

      I stopped smoking weed in 1980. Last year I got my medical marijuana card for pain. The weed out there now is so much stronger than the best weed available in the day. I hate to admit it but I can’t handle it. I wish I could, but no matter the strain I still get paranoid or anti-social. I’m a broken Hippie.

  • @squiffle_na
    @squiffle_na Рік тому +694

    When you talked about having agoraphobia during the pandemic I almost cried because I haven’t heard anyone talk ab having the same struggles, I stopped going out of my house before I turned 18 and I am 21 now, hoping to get the help I need soon. I’ve been watching your content for years, You’re amazing drew and I’m proud of you :)

    • @kayleenkoffkey9028
      @kayleenkoffkey9028 Рік тому +22

      I have agoraphobia as well. It means a lot when I see someone who’s like me.

    • @Lololeelee
      @Lololeelee Рік тому +5

      Good luck to you ❤. My husband has it, so I get how hard it is.

    • @Burntplastics
      @Burntplastics Рік тому +9

      I struggled with agoraphobia since I was 15 and had anxiety induced seizures until I was 18 when I slowly improved and adjusted . Covid really brought the problem back , it’s hard to get back out there . I hope you get the help you need ❤ advice my psychiatrist gave was to sit by the window everyday for some time and stand inside but with the front door open , and eventually sit outside a little bit everyday , as long as you can even for a minute . Hope this is some bit helpful 💕

    • @ZeranZeran
      @ZeranZeran Рік тому +5

      You are not alone ♥
      This is embarrassing, but I'm 30 and I still struggle with a lot of the agoraphobia I did in my 20's.. but one major difference; when I DO find myself out in public.. I honestly just don't really care anymore. I used to feel like everyone was staring at me. Now, I make it a point to lift my head and look around.. the reality? No one even cares or notices you. Go out, be comfortable, feel safe, and have fun, even in a Target aisle. Keep going out more. If you can, go out with friends, or someone you trust a lot. It helps to make you start going out on your own.

    • @DooBeeDooBeeDoBah
      @DooBeeDooBeeDoBah Рік тому +5

      From one raccoon to another, I hope things get better for you ♡ getting out is hard

  • @emilycassens25
    @emilycassens25 Рік тому +738

    I’m so in love with the way your brain works and how you articulate yourself. I cried during this video because I see you and I feel like you see me. I’m an alcoholic and also dedicated to my own self sabotage. I’m so proud of you. This video helps so many more people than you could know. I’ve been listening to this video on repeat

    • @SP-zw3om
      @SP-zw3om Рік тому +5

      Hi bestie we’re the same Im rooting for you

    • @lilangelneci
      @lilangelneci Рік тому +1

      I understand ur pain, it will get better, don’t give up on yourself ❤

    • @SanDesigns
      @SanDesigns Рік тому

      I can tell from your comment that you are intelligent, compassionate, articulate and so kind. I bet there are people in your life who are proud of you and in love with your brain. I just wanted you to know that someone thinks you're ace. And I really feel the comments you made about Drew are very true for Emily as well.

  • @scarletgreenfield7825
    @scarletgreenfield7825 Рік тому +242

    you make me feel less alone! thank you drew!

    • @mytoecold
      @mytoecold  Рік тому +102

      thank you so much shadow sisters

  • @jailucsantoro998
    @jailucsantoro998 10 місяців тому +6

    hey drew i've been tryin to be sober for awhile now and whenever I feel freakish and terrible for being an addict I watch this video. much love to u I wish u luck on ur sobriety

  • @hopesandreamzzzzz
    @hopesandreamzzzzz Рік тому +486

    I’m so deep into this parasocial relationship that I genuinely thought drew knew how much I needed this and decided to come back for me.

  • @tiar8857
    @tiar8857 Рік тому +196

    i've been watching you since i was 14 and i'm 21 now, so in a strange little parasocial way this felt like a catch up with an old friend. the part about not feeling serious enough of an addict really opened my eyes, like i genuinely feel as though i just woke up from a long long nightmare. thank you so much uploading this video drew, i can't imagine the strength it took. wishing you the absolute best, we're all so proud of you

  • @amber7ison
    @amber7ison Рік тому +207

    Your candid honesty is amazing. It reminds me of Katya Zamolodchikova talking about her addiction & psychotic break. It's not a world I've been in, but hearing people talk openly & honestly about how they got to where they are/were is a great way for people to gain some insight on addiction & hopefully some empathy, too.

    • @leuvenfra
      @leuvenfra Рік тому +5

      It reminded me of her too

    • @CrystalCat24
      @CrystalCat24 Рік тому +7

      OMG Katya and Drew are two of my fave people!!😅😅 How random!💕💕

    • @spxllbxxnd
      @spxllbxxnd Рік тому +2

      @@CrystalCat24 same!! this comment made me realize how similar they are lol

  • @clarion3204
    @clarion3204 11 місяців тому +236

    Hi Drew. Guess what? NINE MOTHERFUCKING MONTHS SOBER!!!!!!!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!!!!!!! ❤
    This video was my wake up call. I was actually smoking a joint on the curb outside my apartment when I clicked on it, not knowing what it would contain. And surprise, surprise, it was just your face and voice appearing in my life and letting me know that I wasn’t alone in my struggles, and that it was okay that I needed to get help. So I finally did. After years and years of knowing I had a problem, of making a breaking promises to myself, of trying to quit and falling back into the name nightmarescape of destructive patterns, I did it. I reached out and got help. And now I’m 9 months sober.
    And guess what? I was just elected Secretary of my home group meeting!!!! That’s right, not only am I sober now, I actually run and facilitate an entire MA meeting!! I have a script and everything! All the world’s a stage, baby, and I made the cast list!!
    I’m actually super honored and excited about it. I’ve subbed in as secretary a few times already and it’s wild to be of service in the same room that 9 months ago I walked into, broken down and withdrawing and so fucking tired of living through the same old bullshit.
    My life is so different now.
    Thank you, in your own way, for being a part of my recovery community. Parasocially, sure, but you’re still a real human who effected my real human life. I’m different now, my life is so different now, and I’m so grateful for it. Thanks, Drew. You’re a real mensch.

    • @ashtraypup
      @ashtraypup 11 місяців тому +11

      i’m so proud of you :)

    • @Jadesmorot
      @Jadesmorot 11 місяців тому +7

      Great going! Congratulations 🎉

    • @dinancis
      @dinancis Місяць тому +1

      I'm so proud of you 🎉

  • @funeralgrl
    @funeralgrl Рік тому +257

    i’m struggling with the same thing. this is my sign to get sober. thank you drew. so proud of how far you’ve come. can’t wait to go on the journey along with you

    • @jupiterthejester
      @jupiterthejester Рік тому +12

      Recognizing the problem is the first step! So proud of you, despite our distance :) you can do this!!!!

    • @dud9083
      @dud9083 Рік тому +13

      ​@@Davhjkedvjyecgjr123 How someone decides to begin their journey doesnt matter. What matters is that they've decided to do it. Give words of encouragement instead of tearing down their reason.

    • @annaschewenius
      @annaschewenius Рік тому +2

      just wanted to drop in and say good luck on your journey! you can do it! we all believe in you!

    • @sydneyroy4455
      @sydneyroy4455 Рік тому

      You can do it!

    • @funeralgrl
      @funeralgrl Рік тому +1

      thank you for all the sweet comments!!!!! also does anyone know what got deleted 😭😭

  • @AlexandrasGirlyTalk
    @AlexandrasGirlyTalk Рік тому +1710

    I have so much love for you I literally kissed the screen. That is all ❤❤❤

  • @sarakyoutube
    @sarakyoutube Рік тому +1720

    Thank you for this. I found myself laughing out loud for the first time in a very long time. Not just once but over and over again. You have a special way of story telling that is absolutely priceless. I have been watching you ever since someone left me a comment saying my humor was similar to yours. I had never heard of you before and I will forever be blessed that they took the time to leave that comment all those years ago. You are one strong soul and thank you for allowing us into your unique world. I can promise you, you make many, many people feel less alone. Thank you for reminding me that there's other people out there going through similar situations. Sending you positive energy.and I look forward to even more story times

    • @elynnr
      @elynnr Рік тому +18

      my humor is similar too and only a select few people get it and otherwise it’s usually extremely awkward💀

    • @itllpass55555
      @itllpass55555 Рік тому +2

      Thisssss!! Drew never ever fails to make me laugh :)

    • @NattieD911
      @NattieD911 Рік тому +1

      Me too! I literally laughed

    • @sodaacrylic
      @sodaacrylic Рік тому

      Omg sarah 😢i love u

    • @clancyjones2520
      @clancyjones2520 Рік тому

      yes! this. i kept laughing and rewinding and laughing harder. this is brave a genius and YES.

  • @leitourgiavibes9383
    @leitourgiavibes9383 Рік тому +55

    Really impressed with your music. Please keep writing if it's something you love, it shows.

    • @ladymacca88
      @ladymacca88 Рік тому +6

      SAME, I just realized it existed a couple weeks ago, and I can’t stop playing the album. 100% the vibe and sound I jive most with, it’s so good!

    • @Kimberly34584
      @Kimberly34584 Рік тому +1

      It’s it amazing! “Learn From This” was my most listened to song on Spotify this year.

  • @LouLou.97
    @LouLou.97 Рік тому +176

    I can't stand people who make mental health, addiction & trauma a competition. What you've gone through is completely valid and I'm so proud of you ❤

  • @justanotheryoutubefan8070
    @justanotheryoutubefan8070 Рік тому +184

    Drew is genuinely funnier than every single American talk show host on air right now. Glad you're doing better and hope you have a great April!

  • @MsDailyHearts113
    @MsDailyHearts113 Рік тому +136

    Drew. DREEEEWWWW. This was so brave. And funny. And raw. And real. Thank you for letting us in and thank you for getting the help you needed. You deserve a wonderful life.

  • @Shellobster
    @Shellobster 10 місяців тому +6

    I'm on day 0 of my recovery. Tried 3 times already and I am going to refer back to this video if I feel that strong urge to make the wrong choice again. It's been a really long and exhausting cycle of trying different ways to numb the pain of things I've mostly brought on myself. I've been in-patient several times due to weed induced psychosis and the trauma of those episodes just gets buried and never resolved. It's an easy cycle to fall into. Getting out will be the most challenging thing I've ever encountered so far. But you have given me so much hope. ❤

  • @katequinn5077
    @katequinn5077 Рік тому +220

    My partner took their life in July. We used to love watching Drew together. I hadn't realized I haven't seen him post since. This notification was a wild ride. Love you Drew, thanks for being vulnerable and hilarious

    • @DRMC02
      @DRMC02 Рік тому +19

      I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. Please know that you’re not alone and I really hope that seeing this video brought back some good memories. I really wish you the best❤

    • @gendale007
      @gendale007 Рік тому +8

      Sorry for your loss🙏🏼

    • @erm492
      @erm492 Рік тому +4

      I’m sorry for your loss

    • @emilyt8301
      @emilyt8301 Рік тому +3

      I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤

    • @foggydogshogalog
      @foggydogshogalog Рік тому +2

      This happened to a close friend of mine with her partner. I don't think she will ever stop hurting.
      She has recently married (quite a few years later) and loves her spouse, but will always love and miss her partner who has gone.
      What I'm trying to say is, you are not alone - though it may feel like it right now.
      Sending love to you ❤❤❤

  • @ewcrust
    @ewcrust Рік тому +94

    you're my guy at the frozen french fry aisle. thank you for always being honest about your pain , its always helped me feel less alone

    • @katef4175
      @katef4175 Рік тому +4

      This is exactly how I feel ❤ what a special and caring person Drew is.

    • @mytoecold
      @mytoecold  Рік тому +32

      that is soooo kind

    • @katef4175
      @katef4175 Рік тому

      @@mytoecold been incredibly panicked these past few days, at home alone, and your video has really helped lift me 🫶

  • @bambi.boopboop
    @bambi.boopboop Рік тому +243

    As an alcoholic currently struggling through a relapse, thank you so fucking much for speaking about this. You’ve been my favourite UA-camr / person for so long for this exact reason. Sending you all the love in the world drew you are not alone ❤

    • @bugmeep
      @bugmeep Рік тому +1

      So proud of you for doing the best you can right now. You’ll get through this ♥️

  • @Big-boy-r12
    @Big-boy-r12 Рік тому +204

    As a former addict (and a child of an addict) who has been sober going on almost three years, I loved this video, Drew. I laughed and related to so much of it. No judgement here. I wish you the best in your recovery. One day at a time. Stay strong. We need your humor and wisdom and talent in this world.

    • @doublefeature
      @doublefeature Рік тому +4

      could have written this exact comment, couldn't agree more. love to all the addicts and recovering people in the comments! you are amazing, drew is amazing and everyone should be so unbelievable proud of their accomplishment. keep on keepin' on!!

    • @Fignewton225
      @Fignewton225 Рік тому +3

      Im two years sober and I feel the same way. Go us, all of us collectively! This video was great, thanks drew.

    • @SanDesigns
      @SanDesigns Рік тому +2

      You're awesome and an inspiration to others. Stay amazing.

  • @hannahpettigrew3421
    @hannahpettigrew3421 Рік тому +320

    I’m only 2 days sober and this video really is exactly what I needed. I love you drew and am beyond proud of you❤❤

    • @clarasilva9919
      @clarasilva9919 Рік тому +8

      sending u strength! i believe in u (:

    • @thevampqueenyt8782
      @thevampqueenyt8782 Рік тому +12

      Proud of you! Small progress is still progress.

    • @airwrecka3081
      @airwrecka3081 Рік тому +10

      I’m two days sober as well, we are in this together, I hope you don’t feel alone

    • @liahriley773
      @liahriley773 Рік тому +5

      I know it sounds generic but you’ve got this, you are bigger then what you are battling ♥️

    • @TaraSmallss
      @TaraSmallss Рік тому +7

      You got this! I'm in recovery as well and you can do this!

  • @jordynsteinbrink800
    @jordynsteinbrink800 Рік тому +299

    This is hands down the BEST video I have ever seen of someone talking about addiction. It’s so clear and true and easy to understand you included some comical stuff but you were also so honest. Im just sooo impressed. Thank you for this, it’s really helped me and so many others.

  • @CharlesM2
    @CharlesM2 Рік тому +14

    I’m serious, this really touched me. I’ve been extremely anti-social and depressed since covid hit, and during the past few years i’ve had a lot of emotional trouble that I attempted to fix with an excessive amount of weed and alcohol. Just recently i’ve been trying to get my life back in order and try to feel normal again, but it’s been really hard, so I guess it’s just nice to have even a single person that I can look at and think to myself, “If they can be strong in the face of this, so can I”.

  • @brokebroken5839
    @brokebroken5839 Рік тому +600

    My dad is an alcoholic and my mom was bad on pills that played a part of her passing
    I tried so hard not to end up like my mother that I ended up like my dad
    I drank last year away and this year I realized that I can’t go down that path so I’m 4 months clean from alcohol so I’m very proud of you and I know how it is

  • @tessachevalier8381
    @tessachevalier8381 Рік тому +145

    i don’t think i’ve ever heard someone more accurately describe pill addiction. i’ve just been sitting here not moving for the full video because honestly i’m in shock. i’m so glad you were brave enough to share this because it has made me feel so much less alone

    • @gothfmboy62
      @gothfmboy62 Рік тому +7

      i literally was shocked the words were taken out of my mouth

    • @Pappyeggs
      @Pappyeggs Рік тому +2

      I see you and I can relate. I hope your journey is gentle and full of love.

  • @Helen09166
    @Helen09166 Рік тому +128

    i can't remember the last time an hour long youtube video actually held my attention. you are so genuine, i love you drew we all missed you!

  • @EtherealSubss
    @EtherealSubss Рік тому +7

    Your story about how you decided to start doing weed, etc etc was sooo soooo similar to my experience. You are so strong to even say anything, especially posting to your audience.

  • @TaiTai_met_JacksFilms_2014
    @TaiTai_met_JacksFilms_2014 Рік тому +154

    As a current stoner that has been smoking for 7 years, I would like to thank you so much for telling your story Drew. It really makes me think about my own addiction and mental health issues I've been facing in a more reflective way. This video can really help some people and thank you again for coming back here, because I really missed seeing you! ❤

  • @Luke-nz3zx
    @Luke-nz3zx Рік тому +239

    Y'know despite all the real talk in this video it's still told in Drew's lovable storytelling and you just want to laugh and cry at the same time

  • @boysgenius
    @boysgenius Рік тому +241

    I’m 511 days clean today! Seeing this video and hearing your story, someone I looked up to so much as a kid and that brought me endless joy, talk about something that feels so private and shameful for me is incredibly meaningful. We love you Drew. Thank you.

    • @sleepychels0
      @sleepychels0 Рік тому +2

      Hey. You can use whatever words for yourself that you are comfortable with. I am over 5 years in recovery, lots of ppl don’t like to use the word “clean” because it insinuates that drugs are dirty and morally wrong. When people use them to cope with horrible circumstances. Congrats and hugs to you in your recovery

    • @boysgenius
      @boysgenius Рік тому

      @@sleepychels0 I understand some people don’t prefer that terminology & I don’t push it on anyone else, but it works for me. I most definitely do not view those currently struggling with addiction (or anyone’s past addiction for that matter) as dirty. I’m not completely sober so I don’t say sober. I feel like that takes away from those that are sober to claim I am when I am not, it feels dishonest to speak about myself that way. I’ve also gotten shit from people in the beginning when using the word sober; this is just my personal experience and I’m not speaking for anyone else. I don’t do the drugs that will kill me anymore, and I’m proud of that.
      Thank you for your sentiment. I could’ve clarified my intial comment better but wasn’t trying to write a novel out, y’know? Congratulations to you on your journey so far :)

    • @sleepychels0
      @sleepychels0 Рік тому +1

      @@boysgenius I can respect and appreciate that. I’ve abstained from alcohol, cocaine, meth, etc the entire 5 years but I still use cannabis sometimes so I don’t use sober either. I use in recovery, but yeah, language regarding addiction can get rly complicated! I can also really respect that you don’t use the word sober!

    • @boysgenius
      @boysgenius Рік тому +2

      @@sleepychels0 I have a similar experience to yours it sounds; various substances in the past, cannabis + an occasional drink are about all I can handle. Thank you for sharing that.
      It seems like there’s a very thin line of what is deemed “okay” substances to use in the recovery community. Everyone is different, our sustainable usage is going to look different. I’m proud of you for how far you’ve come. I apologize if my intial wording felt derogatory, I’ll try to be clearer with my intent in the future when speaking about this. I do honestly thank you for reminding me of how that can come across!

    • @funkopopruler-3206
      @funkopopruler-3206 Рік тому +1

      congratulations!! you are so strong and inspiring!

  • @shermdar_
    @shermdar_ Рік тому +26

    DREW! I felt this story in my bones. I went into detox at the beginning of the year for alcohol. I had been drinking 12-14 drinks a day (+/- a few) and I'll be hitting my 8 months soon! I see this video was about 4 months ago, so congrats on your 10 months!! I'm turning 28 next week, so it's really nice to hear a recovery story from someone my age. You're not alone, we're in this together

  • @omohosp
    @omohosp Рік тому +799

    Thank you for making this. I’m a meth addict. I’ve watched you’re videos since high school and this makes me feel less alone.

    • @falensmith9422
      @falensmith9422 Рік тому +57

      i was addicted to meth also for almost a year, i found out i was pregnant when i went to rehab to get clean. im now almost 3 months sober!!! you can get though this

    • @nicoleaguileran10
      @nicoleaguileran10 Рік тому +1

      I’ll

    • @ShawnaLynnn
      @ShawnaLynnn Рік тому +6

      @Andrew Konig, you're not alone. In fact, more people deal with addiction issues than you'd think. Our addictions want us to think we're the only person going through this and that we're bad people to keep us alone and in the dark. But none of that is true. There are others out there and people want to help you when you're ready. Stay strong hun!

    • @saanasalonen8684
      @saanasalonen8684 Рік тому +5

      same but not meth... it really makes you feel less alone so its sad af that we dont talk about this because its so tabo...

    • @MilfLvr420
      @MilfLvr420 Рік тому

      Wish you the best in wherever life takes you. If you’re seeking recovery, I’m sending you endless strength

  • @hairyfrankfurt
    @hairyfrankfurt Рік тому +104

    This was such a genuine and sincere picture of substance use disorder and what recovery looks like for so many people. 6 months is incredible, I'm proud of you.

  • @nicolefranger9684
    @nicolefranger9684 Рік тому +313

    This is one of the most genuine, vulnerable, deeply moving videos I have ever seen. I’ve watched your videos since you were with Shane and Trish all those years back and I’m so sorry you suffered for so long. Thank you for sharing this deeply personal experience. I sincerely wish you all the best ❤

  • @hail_404
    @hail_404 Рік тому +3

    Drew,
    I have been off and on your channel for years, since the beginning of your channel. I always check in on you every now and then to see how you’re doing, and I just wanted to let you know that I am so proud of you. For speaking out, for standing up, for going on. I am proud of you.

  • @chloebaker4228
    @chloebaker4228 Рік тому +107

    I don’t have many friends these days & this felt like I was on FaceTime with a friend I’ve missed for a long time. I’m so beyond proud of you.

  • @lauriehand1021
    @lauriehand1021 Рік тому +172

    Drew idk how anyone could criticize you for this. This is so honest and vulnerable. You should be proud that you were able to put this out.

  • @Sofia-gm6xo
    @Sofia-gm6xo Рік тому +119

    ngl at first I thought this was going to be a silly little comeback video so I wasn't expecting to hear you talking so transparently about such a dark, complicated and private struggle as addiction. I'm so glad that you are now able to share this with us, acknowledging not only your achievements but also the steps back. I hope you know that none of the people that actually care for you are going to judge you for this, we're just glad you are here

  • @macybailey336
    @macybailey336 Рік тому +9

    recovering fentanyl addict here,, i’m so so proud of you for getting help!! recovery last forever babes, but i know you got this

    • @macybailey336
      @macybailey336 Рік тому +2

      almost 6months is BEAUTIFUL!!! i’m so happy happy happy for you😭😭

  • @kittwatson3638
    @kittwatson3638 Рік тому +215

    I'm very grateful that you posted this Drew. I'm officially 2 months sober from alcohol today