Date got angry that he arrived 7 hours early & I wasn't there. Was in the wrong not to rush to him?
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Relationship Advice: Date got angry that he arrived 7 hours before and I wasn't there. Maybe I was in the wrong not to rush to him?
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She dodged a bullet. But I'm worried about her standards if she was prepared to chuck everything aside to cater to his outrageous behaviour.
Or the absence of standards, damn
Wtf! He’s a GIANT red flag! RUN!
Gaslighting and manipulation. Glad she met in public not private. Yikes
That guy belongs in r/letsnotmeet Yikes.
yeeeep what a weirdo
Absolutely dodged a bullet. This guy is a massive red flag.
Raise your standards. Treat meeting people from the internet as a job interview. If they'd shown up that early, there's no way they'd be getting the job with that kind of attitude. Massively controlling jerk that is worthy of blocking not rushing to!! He couldn't keep a mutually agreed upon time to meet and became a bully. Kick rocks dude!!
WOW.....he pretended to be a nice person for 4 months & when she didn't get his way his real personality came out. I think she needs to work on her self-esteem before dating anyone so she can see this was never about her. He's a total ass
I would be upset I wasted so much time on this man. But also he grateful he showed 🚩 on the first in person interaction.
She needs to look at herself and realized what made her think this was ok behavior that she had to question what she did wrong instead of seeing the craziness.
I bet anything he was “testing” you. So glad you are safe. Listen to all the advice about blocking him every way you can.
NTA!
I agree. You should NOT have gone running to him. He is an abuser and controlling. You're lucky to have escaped him. If you have his picture, show it to your friends and family to warn them that if they see this man, then you are in danger as you will not willing be going with him.
I had a similar experience almost 10 years ago. The guy was fine for the three months we chatted on the phone. Then he made the five hour drive to meet each other and after that he became possessive of me and thought I gave too much attention to my daughter and not enough to him. My daughter has special needs and my mom and I are the only two that can care for her. There were many other things that he tried to take control of and keep me from doing, so needless to say I told him I was done. He wasn’t too happy about that and called and texted nonstop for a couple of weeks. My dad was worried because I live in a rural area and told me to stay locked and loaded because he seemed the type of guy that would do something crazy. Thank God nothing happened, but it was scary for a while.
I’m all for being prompt, but that is ridiculous.
Arrives 7 hours early: Red Flag, Yells at you for not dropping everything when he chose to be unreasonably early: Red Flag, Rude to staff: Red Flag, Hates you for unreasonable reasons: Red Flag. That guy just went through the red flag drive through and ordered the whole supply. Believe who he is now that he's shown you.
two failed marriages and multiple failed relationships? What a mystery.
He's expecting her to ask "how high" when he tells her to jump, and they just met.
This is a whole field of red flags.😮
Yikes. The fact that she threw her hair salon cape off + went running to him is scary. Someone w/ his relationship, track record + massive narcissistic ego isn’t going to stalk her. She won’t need security, he’s gone + he took his ridiculous inferiority/superiority issues with him. TG.
I had a dude stand me up for breakfast because he chose to sleep in (he said so), and then expected me to meet him for lunch. I said no.
Are you willing to bet your life on that?
This guy has had 2 failed marriages and a bunch of failed short term ones? hmm... I wonder why? No I don't this guy hits all the abusive a-hole check marks. He's a huge red flag! I hope that dude stays single!
OP seems like she was abused earlier in life and has a powerfully strong fawning response. She needs therapy or she will attract men who will resemble the original abuser (mom or dad?) and a familiar cycle will continue repeating.
Edit: OP, WTF would you even want to be in contact with this guy to try to "fix" what happened????? I would block him everywhere and on everything possible and even consider reporting him to the app that you spoke to him over. He's DANGEROUS!!!!!
That was an abusive relationship waiting to happen. She dodged a bullet there.
Geezus... Weewoo Weewoo! Weewoo Weewoo!!! RUN!!!!!!!!!
Run girl! RUN!!!!
NTA. I’m with Dusty I would’ve cancelled on him . Wouldn’t have canceled any appts or leave the saloon half way through. He’s too sassy.
Since I don't see it in the comments... The prince's name was Adam.
I don’t think poor OP has any self respect whatsoever if she thinks she should have run to this guy who chose to throw a tantrum after he showed up way before the meeting time and she didn’t run to meet him. You set a meeting time because that is when you are free. End of story. This guy was waving so many red flags.
If he was serious about her and decided to drive all night so as to spend more time with her, he could have conveyed that to her either via a text or a call so she could have been more prepared when he showed up so early. Something tells me he plays these games to keep the other person off balance and feeling as if that person 'owes' him. That he was so angry and surly, even to staff at the coffee shop, is indicative of a person who always insists on getting his own way and calling all the shots; a person with zero sensitivity to/for others, zero understanding that they have lives away from him, zero emotional control, zero respect for waitstaff, and zero common sense. He showed up hours early and blames OP for that; if this became a relationship, he'd blame her for everything in his life that didn't go his way because he's not accountable nor responsible for his own behavior or decisions. OP was not only a fool to go running to him, she was foolISH. She doesn't know this guy, doesn't know if he had ill intent, doesn't know if he came alone or with others to grab her off the sidewalk and compromise her, hurt her or worse. She's NTA for not dropping everything and running right to him 7 hours early, but she is weak and immature in throwing all caution to the wind when she did get to him. All she was thinking was to calm him down: she wasn't thinking about protecting herself at all, not even from verbal abuse and gaslighting from a man she doesn't even know and hadn't met face-to-face before. She timidly tried to calm him down while he was manipulating her, she allowed his attitude and behavior to throw her off her guard so badly, she ran blindly into what could have been a dangerous, tragic or fatal situation and now she's asking if she should have done more for him? I fear for this woman's future - she's lamenting spending 4 months getting to know this guy on the phone: she should thank her lucky stars it was ONLY 4 months to meet and lose him. Him leaving was a golden ticket for her. This would have been disastrous for her because he had already sized her up to be his puppet, easily controlled, more easily accused and gaslit, she already took his verbal abuse and nasty unfounded accusations: she would have been putty in his hands every day forward. She jumped out of the salon chair and she catapulted herself into the subservient, mousy role by changing her schedule, canceling previously made commitments, and ruining her salon appointment. Good gravy, woman, go to therapy and find your self worth.
7 hours is crazy 😂
He's crazy and she needs her head examined
Not in the wrong fed flags
No wonder hes in his 50’s and single.
I had a guy drive about 7.5 hours one way to have dinner. I did know him in person before him driving so far to see me. It didn’t work out between us and the date didn’t turn out badly. He’s in the wrong. I would have canceled the date.
I really really hope OP maybe invests in some counseling. Besides maybe needing some help with past trauma, sounds like OP has very low self esteem or self value if she thought this treatment was acceptable.
I would have bailed the second he called me yelling because HE decided to change the plans & expected me to jump because he said so. 😳 Absolutely not. That’s insane.
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also.. wasn't there quite the age difference.. not quite so important at this life stage, maybe, but at the very least a pink flag!
This pick me desperation is going to get her a true crime episode. Being this male centered as a woman is insane, shes literally being gaslit and abused and still wanting him to pick her. Please Want me, let me explain, please dont be mad....her heart is broken? Therapy, now! The only way to get a good male partner is to not want or need or desire a man at all. The good ones are fully formed humans, and they want the same.
ABSOLUTELY NTA!!!! This dude bait and switched you! He sounds awful, abusive and just a POS. All the failed relationships are red flags!
I purposely waited til after my wake n bake to watch this. Im very glad I did cuz WTAF. I hope she has *supportive family or access to a great therapist🥺🤞🏿
Got to the end, damn. Makes sense then
LLOL at her thinking he was rude to waitstaff just because of what SHE did hhahahaha yeah right
This woman gives off desperate. And is thinking she's different and can "fix" him. I'm sorry op but you need to check yourself before you wreck yourself.
Delulu 😮 smh wtaf?
lol love the TTPD reference 😛
Both of these people concern me. He's 52 and throwing a tantrum over a situation HE contrived. She's 40 and ran to him as soon as she possibly could after he freaked out on her. Both of these people are making choices that scream "Twenty-something!" I also grew up in a dysfunctional home, but...uh...NO! I''m 39, and I would have been done the second he showed up that early.
As an aside, AI Is scary. I'm in graduate school, and I'll just say that we're maybe a decade away from 90% of medical professionals stepping out of the room every thirty seconds to ask ChatGPT what to tell you next. These people go hundreds of thousands of dollars into debt to deliberately learn as little as they possibly can.
I would have been glad it was only 4 months.
"I spent 4 months getting to know this man," no, no you did not.
"It's been 3 days and he hasn't said anything. It's been complete silence." OP didn't block him on everything before she left the coffee shop?
(From OP's comments on reddit) "I did want it to work. It only ended because he ended it." WTAF?
No wonder they got along online so well, both delulu.
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First off OP, you went to get your hair done knowing he was waiting for you. That is BS. She can't drop her hair styling, knowing he is there. No he should not have freaked out but he was excited to meet OP. OP I don't feel sorry for you that your heart is broken, you messed up. Yes OP had stuff to do first but there is no way she could not have dropped the stylist appointment, where was she headed next, get her nails done. I think in the end they BOTH dodged a bullet. Why is OP all concerned that he is not contacting her now, she is not what he wants and he is not what she wants. GET OVER IT. Dusty, he wanted her to drop stuff to meet her early I don't see that as some guy now out to get her. He is clearly done with her. Calm the dramatics.
Oof - she needs to go to therapy to deal with her past so she can learn what a healthy relationship is. Otherwise, I'm worried she'll get stuck in a really unhealthy or abusive situation. I also don't think she has the skills to pick up on any red flags he may have exhibited in their conversations.