He wasn't trying to protect her, he just didn't want her to know how much of her money he was wasting on his toys. If you work why are you asking your husband if you can buy shampoo with your own money. Why do women allow men to treat them this way? This isn't love its selfishness and abuse.
Atleast that man is spending lots of time with son. he seems to be good just that he should move from inside of the house to some playground or cycle with son. Love shouldn't spoil a child rather help in good personality development of child. Trio needs family time minus doling out money......
Also some men love making homes their haven... He needs nudge in the right direction to understand wasting money on too much luxury will eventually harm them and son. They have a huge backyard, do some activity there.
Also adults are too obese, could be thyroid issue. That fogs thinking process and makes one sluggish not wanting to do any physical activity... Too much fast-food, watching tv, playing games is a deadly combi!
Domestic abuse comes in many forms and financial abuse is one of them. He is definitely controlling her and making her beg for small things is pretty sad.
Gail said he was hiding his purchases by not telling, so easy to do, I do it too. Also he could genuinely not want her to worry because she doesn’t handle it well.
@@suzieq390 Hiding your finances from who is supposed to be your equal partner is manipulation, whether you have good intentions or not. If you know your partner doesn't handle finances well, you don't baby them and say "you don't ever have to face the Big Scary Thing", you help them work through those anxieties and try to manage them and be an adult, especially when it comes to money. Your relationship is filled with lies at that point. And when financial disputes and discrepancies are the number 1 reason people get divorced, and the divorce rate is over 50%, you need to re-think hiding purchases and lying about where money goes.
@@suzieq390 He was “protecting” her from his poor judgment managing money. This wasn’t a family not bringing in enough income- there was enough if it was budgeted sanely. Christiana would have fit in well with the Duggers. The man knows best….
He's miffed about his misdeeds being exposed on camera, also about working more hours to help pay for his mismanagement of the incomes. He said the meals were good but short of "munchies"....
When I was growing up, munchies were for holidays and birthdays. But we ALWAYS had apples and oranges. My grandma said that if an apple or peanut butter sandwich wasn't good enough, I was hungry, I was doing emotional eating. She was an early Weight Watchers member, hit goal, and stayed there for the rest of her life.
My hubby and I share the bills and the rest is our own. I have no idea if he has loans or his own debt. But all the bills are paid on time. Hi from Melbourne 🇦🇺🇦🇺
@@slyfoxie55 If it's a marriage and despite sharing the bills, if you don't know if he has loans or you're keeping things secret from each other it's not a good sign at all! How do you know if he hasn't opened up accounts in your name? What if he dies and you're held responsible for all his debts? These days you can't trust anyone. Too many stories of women being scammed by their men. I would demand to see what he has or at least order a credit report for yourself to ensure there are no surprises and construct a post-nup agreement to protect yourself financially.
It’s beautiful watching the wife become more and more empowered the more she gets educated. I got the impression that the husband is scared she’ll realize she’s too good for him when she reaches her full potential.
@@jennyjenny3531 Husband is a weak beta man who is teased & laughed at in the real world! He can’t compete with more masculine men out in the business world - so he demands to be ‘in power’ at home. The only place where he feels like he had any power!🤦🏽
I thought that he was a total jerk who was basically worried about his wife finding out how selfish he was but I think he improved drastically as the show went on. I have to give both of them credit. I wonder if they are still together? This was back at least 15 years ago.
@Lesbian Amazon Sister I think these aired in 2006 or 2007. Season 1 aired in 2005. So, their kids might have kids of their own by now. Unfortunately, there aren't any updates on these couples.
To be fair neither is she though. Remember you can only be a carpet if you lay down and let others walk all over you. He tries to say it isn't fair how Gail puts the blame squarely on him, even though he's the one who decided he should be handling the finances. So yes I would say it's 60% on him and 40% on her for letting him. She is setting a really bad example for their son, as is he.
Times three. I lectured years ago and told women that they had to know all this stuff. What a bum this man is. He's stealing her money. I hope she divorced her and salvaged the kid.
He didn't think it was fair that Gail put the debt on him...he insists on controlling all the finances, which includes making all the mistakes, then doesn't want to take responsibility for those mistakes.
She reminds me of when I was in an abusive relationship (soft spoken, lacking confidence, taking a submissive posture to her husband including with the finances). It's SO IMPORTANT to empower our daughters to speak up, carry themselves with confidence, and expect to be treated with dignity and respect as equals in relationships.
Little guy complaining that he had to work 3 more hours after a 9 hour shift🙄 Try working 12's full time then running a household & raising children! What a lazy pile!
Hahaha!!! His reaction when she said to the son that the husband would need to ask her! I swear I appreciated that sooo much!!!! A taste of his own medicine
What an abusive jerk this man is. When he had his hands on his wife it wasn't in a loving way, it was holding onto her in a controlling manner. Did anyone notice??
As a woman, I'd never give up my right to make decisions in a relationship esp regarding finances! Stop leaving it up to your husbands!!! You both need to be in it.
Eva Flowers- I always found that so strange. My mom was a SAHM and even she did the finances with my dad. They did it together. My mom did all the grocery shopping but they had a budget. As kids we were given chores and we were given the opportunity to earn money, to earn our allowance.
As a woman, Well good for you. Not everyone is as enlightened. Some have some growing to do, and first need to realize they have the right, and that they've given it away.
Stupid Stupid Stupid! 😮. My Cousin made the mistake of having her husband in charge of the money. She was a Housewife. He came from a era where the Man took care of the business. When he died she was hysterical because she didn't know where she stood. My Father did his best to help but it was my mother who handled the finances and he trusted her 100%. Don't hide this stuff. What would happen if Jared died or something bad happened to him. I said this on antoher channel, these two need to have a Date to work on the finances.
‘she can’t buy things she needs cause I bought something I don’t need’, wow! Maybe if you stopped being a kid and started growing up and being a man then you wouldn’t be in such debt! Spending on things you don’t need but you don’t have necessities is a recipe for disaster. You don’t need 2 tvs, you don’t need to keep buying games. There are ways to have fun gaming without constantly buying them when you don’t have the money. Buying on credit when you have ‘months free no interest and no payments’ ...... people end up forgetting about it and then they find out you have ALL of the interest added on unless you paid for it before the ‘free’ time ended. Just imagine buying a living room for $6000 only to forget the time limit and now it’s $9000. Don’t spend money you don’t have. The numbers don’t lie, when he said, “inaccurate, you can’t refute when cameras are rolling”? Geez bud, you just got dropped in it, now your wife knows just how much you spend every month. The numbers come from your bank account over a month and they are real. Get with it bud, she outed you!
Oh boy. He married a submissive wife. Bit of an arrogant jerk. "I don't think she could handle it" like she's not an adult. And him managing the money evidently isn't working, fool!
I don't think there's anything wrong with a submissive wife, what is wrong is keeping her in the dark and taking control of EVERYTHING! and she is too scared to ask questions. Hope they've changed and are doing well now (2019)
@@texastea5686 Have you looked-up the definition of "submissive"? It means, "meekly obedient and passive." If you're talking about sex, fine - who cares what dynamic people enjoy in the bedroom, but being "submissive" in a relationship when it comes to everyday matters is another thing. Perhaps you mean a conservative or conventional wife, as in a wife that stays home and works as a homemaker?
@@texastea5686 fair enough - I actually agree with you. Feminism has done women a grave disservice in my opinion; I'm a woman and a physician who worked at a major university and it was tragic how many women studying law.or medicine confessed that they really dreamt of a country house, with children and chickens. But that simple life is far from simple to make happen once you're mired in $200K of student debt!
@@Lionforaday i was able to stay home when my kids were little and I was like the June Cleaver of the 21st century. It was the best time of my life. I envied the moms who DID work tho, with their nice cars and purses and vacations. But I guess the grass I always greener on the other side? Now i work at a med clinic at the front desk but only as needed so I'm always available if the kids need me, they're 13 and 17 now. (But I do go back and think: I should've gone to nursing school to make good money and have a decent retirement)
She is not his equal. She is the submissive wife, and she has been playing that role very well for their entire marriage. I'm pretty sure once Gail leaves they will go right back to it.
I could only stay at home for a partner if I were in a lesbian relationship. And that's not likely to happen because I'm fine with the theory but I'd fail the practical!😀
That man gives me such weird vibes. He’s a control freak, _period_ If she has to ASK for toiletries and he’s splashing money on video games, there’s a massive issue there. Run for the hills girl!
The wife is very receptive to learning and changing; she “gets it”! She feels the excitement and energy that positive change can bring. I hope she keeps growing and learning in new ways.
So not true. My son played an hour a day. More when he was older. He graduated college, full time job in the medical field, fiancé and a life. Don’t believe everything you read. All children are not the same.
Relationship abuse is not about punching and hiding bruises. It’s about control. And asking to buy hairspray while his doing what ever he likes is not cool
He's asked to make extra money to pay down the debt he created, and says the extra work is keeping him away from his family. He doesn't have a family. He has a cook/housekeeper upstairs and his son serves as an opponent downstairs while they play video games. That's life?
Putting away the video games, walking while delivering newspapers. no "munchies", never eating out-- just home cooked meals. If he sticks with this he's going to cut from the waist band as well just by making these changes.
I've had people tell me that remaining single equals financial failure since two incomes go farther than one. But I have independence and peace of mind, which is invaluable.
Whiny dad, you are not away from your family. Your boy is helping you and you are modeling (well resentment and childishness) but modeling for your boy on the job
Meal prepping would be a good idea for this lady. Also this whine baby complaining because he has to work 12 hours. Pendejo. I work 12 hour shifts six days a week. You're selfishness got your family into this now own it.
This was filmed many years ago and my hope is that she did continue to be very involved with the finances as sadly her husband did come across as incredibly controlling and quite demeaning .
That man wastes money like crazy, and she has to shake that 'submissive wife' s***. "What's a budget?", asks their son. That alone says everything about this family's relation with money.
It was on the news at the time that the price of flat screen TV's would come down drastically within 2 years. I waited and got one for $350 instead of $3,500.
I thought it was interesting that she said he was a pro at doing the bulk of his spending with cash so it wasn't trackable, I don't know if the wife really picked up on that. $4.1k per month is a lot more than some video games, tvs, and computers. Where did the cash go? Hmmmmm.
Eesh. You NEVER give a kid everything they want all the time. It's not just a bad lesson plan about money. It's a bad lesson plan about life. You need to learn to be happy with what you have and learn the art of satisfaction in life.
"I took it upon myself to not burden Christina" translation: I am hiding all of my reckless spending from her because if she finds out she'll leave me and I'll have to take care of myself
When wifey heard that patronising dough boy was overspending by $4100 a month she should have socked him in the chops. I loved Gail's response to his comment, 'I didn't tell her because it would have been overwhelming for her' 'WHAT?'
He wasn't pissed about delivering papers because it took him away from his family...he was pissed because it was cutting into his video game playing time.
Jared just hates that his wife is in charge of the money. Yes Jared you made this mess, up to you to earn extra money. Did she really have to ask to buy shampoo and hair spray? Should have been a red flag to her. She knew what was going on, but did not wan to face it. Reason she has to shop every night for groceries is because he spending all the money. He makes me nauseous.
what i've noticed from all these shows is that the monetary dysfunction is usually a symptom and not a cause of a very dysfunctional marriage which often will end in divorce. Financial problems are happening because your marriage already sucks and you don't communicate, don't have similar goals, and don't respect each other, don't care about your family unit prospering in the long run.
I don’t know if this couple ever got their act together, but I was the kind of wife who never know where we stood financially and had no interest in money beyond spending it. Big mistake! After 26 years of marriage hubby decided he wanted out to run off with a young girl. He’d been calling her with confidence for months because he knew I never looked at the phone bill (she had a different area code and this was 15 years ago when some homes still had landlines, including ours). Then I was blindsided by financial reality. We ended up divorced, I moved out of state to start a new life. Now I have no one’s financiers to worry about except my own-very liberating! I’ve learned to manage my money even with a low income and I’m surviving. I have a girlfriend who’s marriage broke up after 35 years because her husband was addicted to video games; it was like he was committing adultery except it was with a computer, he’d stay up all night playing games, drove her crazy. Poor financial management can ruin a marriage, both hubby and wife need to know what’s going on, even if one of them-Christina, for example-doesn’t want to know. An expensive lesson to learn.
Wow ! These challenges were spot on. Created sooo many beneficial shifts fir this Family. Christina is a GEM and such a sweetheart ! I am sure they got out of debt in 2 years, and are doing great . I cried at the end ! Happy tears!
After watching this, I believe the husband is jealous of the wife. He has managed to keep her out of interaction with him and his son. When she became involved in family activities, the entire family dynamic changed. Very interesting.
My husband was raised like that and I do not let me kids watt tv during the week and limit time on weekend because they are out doing activities or swimming with friends, it’s a toxic way to raise a child that kid will be struggling his whole life my husband is!
And this was ten years ago. The epidemic is worse now. But the laziness (bare minimum) to the addiction is apparent even here. Moderation is a wonderful thing.
@@trexxy9628 yes! moderation is key to EVERYTHING, i say this all the time to my kids. Its ok to enjoy video games, just not at the expense of other more important things.
I never understand women who let the husband do the complete finances and have to ask him for money. Especially when they actually work and have a FULLTIME JOB, are you insane? Seriously
I pay all the bills in our household, but my husband knows what all the bills are and we discuss our budget together. It’s not rocket science. No spouse should be left in the dark about the household finances. 🤦🏼♀️
Duche it’s not going to be overwhelming for her, you just don’t want her to know what you spend freely when she has to ask you to spend money on necessities.
As soon as he said I did not tell her anything because it would have overwhelmed her - that is just classic gaslighting. I am going to control you because you are not competent to control yourself, you are not able to "handle" the reality of life so I will decide what that is. Just a disgusting person. If you teach somebody they are not good enough, you get power over them. That is what is happening here. It can happen in any relationship. He will insist on another child before he lets her have any equality in the relationship.
Throwing the newspaper at the cat. Little man is upset having to work for his toys. Sad little man. Oh, and 2000 $ every month in cash? This man visits other ladies for some more entertainment and excersize...
He wasn't trying to protect her, he just didn't want her to know how much of her money he was wasting on his toys. If you work why are you asking your husband if you can buy shampoo with your own money. Why do women allow men to treat them this way? This isn't love its selfishness and abuse.
IKR? It should just be part of the household stuff! He just doesn't want her to know about the money!
Atleast that man is spending lots of time with son. he seems to be good just that he should move from inside of the house to some playground or cycle with son. Love shouldn't spoil a child rather help in good personality development of child. Trio needs family time minus doling out money......
Also some men love making homes their haven... He needs nudge in the right direction to understand wasting money on too much luxury will eventually harm them and son. They have a huge backyard, do some activity there.
Also adults are too obese, could be thyroid issue. That fogs thinking process and makes one sluggish not wanting to do any physical activity... Too much fast-food, watching tv, playing games is a deadly combi!
cocofluff you hit the nail on the head!
At the end she sends the wife to the spa and doesn't even look at the husband... Gail is awesome...
Lool he buys a TV, computer, video games and shes asking if she can buy hairspray. A man does not have to put his hands on you for it to be abuse
IKR. Asking to buy hairspray?!? Absolutely no way
No shit! I’m sic!
I’d be surprised if she didn’t have to ask for money for tampons
Financial abuse it’s a thing
Domestic abuse comes in many forms and financial abuse is one of them. He is definitely controlling her and making her beg for small things is pretty sad.
The fact that the wife was so elated when she was brought into the finances shows how oppressive that marriage really is.
Gail said he was hiding his purchases by not telling, so easy to do, I do it too. Also he could genuinely not want her to worry because she doesn’t handle it well.
@@suzieq390 Hiding your finances from who is supposed to be your equal partner is manipulation, whether you have good intentions or not. If you know your partner doesn't handle finances well, you don't baby them and say "you don't ever have to face the Big Scary Thing", you help them work through those anxieties and try to manage them and be an adult, especially when it comes to money. Your relationship is filled with lies at that point. And when financial disputes and discrepancies are the number 1 reason people get divorced, and the divorce rate is over 50%, you need to re-think hiding purchases and lying about where money goes.
@@suzieq390 He was “protecting” her from his poor judgment managing money. This wasn’t a family not bringing in enough income- there was enough if it was budgeted sanely. Christiana would have fit in well with the Duggers. The man knows best….
@@MrsEJV He was awful, couldn’t even teach his child how to ride a bike instead of wasting all their time on video games! GAG.🤢
@@suzieq390 but she did great
Just because a man doesn’t hit you, doesn’t mean he’s not abusing you. This is grade A abuse.
He's miffed about his misdeeds being exposed on camera, also about working more hours to help pay for his mismanagement of the incomes.
He said the meals were good but short of "munchies"....
When I was growing up, munchies were for holidays and birthdays. But we ALWAYS had apples and oranges. My grandma said that if an apple or peanut butter sandwich wasn't good enough, I was hungry, I was doing emotional eating. She was an early Weight Watchers member, hit goal, and stayed there for the rest of her life.
Yeah he's a total creep!! Imagine going to your husband's musty videogame room to ask permission to buy a bottle of hairspray. Barf
@@mariettedemarest5173 In the UK financial abuse of a spouse *DV* is now a criminal offence.
And his wants are more important than her needs? In his eyes, yes.
He’s abusive, financially and verbally....he’s denying her money when he wants to and he’s basically saying she’s stupid. Love from Australia 🇦🇺
My hubby and I share the bills and the rest is our own. I have no idea if he has loans or his own debt. But all the bills are paid on time. Hi from Melbourne 🇦🇺🇦🇺
Any good Australian shows like this??
I agree!!, ! Hi from Melbourne 👋✨🥰
@@slyfoxie55 If it's a marriage and despite sharing the bills, if you don't know if he has loans or you're keeping things secret from each other it's not a good sign at all! How do you know if he hasn't opened up accounts in your name? What if he dies and you're held responsible for all his debts? These days you can't trust anyone. Too many stories of women being scammed by their men. I would demand to see what he has or at least order a credit report for yourself to ensure there are no surprises and construct a post-nup agreement to protect yourself financially.
It’s beautiful watching the wife become more and more empowered the more she gets educated. I got the impression that the husband is scared she’ll realize she’s too good for him when she reaches her full potential.
Amen. Fly, girl! You don't need that oppression and abuse.
@@jennyjenny3531 Husband is a weak beta man who is teased & laughed at in the real world! He can’t compete with more masculine men out in the business world - so he demands to be ‘in power’ at home. The only place where he feels like he had any power!🤦🏽
I thought that he was a total jerk who was basically worried about his wife finding out how selfish he was but I think he improved drastically as the show went on. I have to give both of them credit. I wonder if they are still together? This was back at least 15 years ago.
I hope not. He instinctual attitude is entitled and abusive. I doubt he could change long term.
I hope she continues to blossom and stay independent. She was really sweet.
@Lesbian Amazon Sister I think these aired in 2006 or 2007. Season 1 aired in 2005. So, their kids might have kids of their own by now. Unfortunately, there aren't any updates on these couples.
@Lesbian Amazon Sister Then you can swoop in, right??!
@@stereomaster4231 Ha ha, good one - well-played, Blue!
he's a child, treating his wife like she's the child.
he obviously isn't a functioning adult.
M.M. Schill exactly
To be fair neither is she though. Remember you can only be a carpet if you lay down and let others walk all over you.
He tries to say it isn't fair how Gail puts the blame squarely on him, even though he's the one who decided he should be handling the finances. So yes I would say it's 60% on him and 40% on her for letting him. She is setting a really bad example for their son, as is he.
Mushroom Princess. In the dark and feeding off crap. Oh that was the best thing I have heard all morning.
I really had to laugh at that comment.
Me too. Lol
She's about to learn how deeply immature her husband is. He does not like being unmasked.
Not immature, controlling!
No he did not acting like he was protecting her such bs he was getting away w buying whatever he wanted whenever he wanted he's a douche
Times three. I lectured years ago and told women that they had to know all this stuff. What a bum this man is. He's stealing her money. I hope she divorced her and salvaged the kid.
This man has terrible values, and he's passing them on to his son.
What a baby. Irresponsibly spends money, keeps his wife in the dark, puts his family in a precarious situation and whines about the extra work.
This couple has much bigger problems than money.
I think she lives in fear of him.
Maybe this was how her mother was when she was growing up it looks like a habit
He is an asshole.
The kid looks scared too
I don't appreciate her calling me out for my BS 😂
He didn't think it was fair that Gail put the debt on him...he insists on controlling all the finances, which includes making all the mistakes, then doesn't want to take responsibility for those mistakes.
😭
@@Terri_MacKay Yeah, really well-said.
🤣
So why did you sigh to participate in the show?
You could tell the husband was pissed. I'm sure after the tapping, he was like, 'ok, back to normal...'
I agree. I'm sure he wasn't willing to follow the plan.
She reminds me of when I was in an abusive relationship (soft spoken, lacking confidence, taking a submissive posture to her husband including with the finances). It's SO IMPORTANT to empower our daughters to speak up, carry themselves with confidence, and expect to be treated with dignity and respect as equals in relationships.
Absolutely! I couldn't have said that better myself!
AMEN TO THAT, GIRL!
And never ever to be so financially dependent on a partner. Earn your own money, own your own soul.
Same here. Was married to a narcissist and I was a lot like her. I left and I hope she did too.
Watching the arrogant nerd waddle around delivering papers was gratifieing
Little guy complaining that he had to work 3 more hours after a 9 hour shift🙄 Try working 12's full time then running a household & raising children! What a lazy pile!
@@vanessar.309
Yup!!!
He hit the cat!!
Spot on.
@@vanessar.309 totally. And I bet he has never done any chores.
Hahaha!!! His reaction when she said to the son that the husband would need to ask her!
I swear I appreciated that sooo much!!!!
A taste of his own medicine
What an abusive jerk this man is. When he had his hands on his wife it wasn't in a loving way, it was holding onto her in a controlling manner. Did anyone notice??
Definitely a jerk
Yup
Totally!!!
I did!
As a woman, I'd never give up my right to make decisions in a relationship esp regarding finances! Stop leaving it up to your husbands!!! You both need to be in it.
Eva Flowers- I always found that so strange. My mom was a SAHM and even she did the finances with my dad. They did it together. My mom did all the grocery shopping but they had a budget. As kids we were given chores and we were given the opportunity to earn money, to earn our allowance.
As a woman, Well good for you. Not everyone is as enlightened. Some have some growing to do, and first need to realize they have the right, and that they've given it away.
Stupid Stupid Stupid! 😮. My Cousin made the mistake of having her husband in charge of the money. She was a Housewife. He came from a era where the Man took care of the business. When he died she was hysterical because she didn't know where she stood. My Father did his best to help but it was my mother who handled the finances and he trusted her 100%. Don't hide this stuff. What would happen if Jared died or something bad happened to him. I said this on antoher channel, these two need to have a Date to work on the finances.
Mushroom princess, in the dark and feeding off crap.
Gale comes out with the best comments to hit home.
He obviously does not want her to know their finances because IF there is extra then he can spend it himself!!!
Exactly!
‘she can’t buy things she needs cause I bought something I don’t need’, wow!
Maybe if you stopped being a kid and started growing up and being a man then you wouldn’t be in such debt!
Spending on things you don’t need but you don’t have necessities is a recipe for disaster.
You don’t need 2 tvs, you don’t need to keep buying games.
There are ways to have fun gaming without constantly buying them when you don’t have the money.
Buying on credit when you have ‘months free no interest and no payments’ ...... people end up forgetting about it and then they find out you have ALL of the interest added on unless you paid for it before the ‘free’ time ended.
Just imagine buying a living room for $6000 only to forget the time limit and now it’s $9000.
Don’t spend money you don’t have.
The numbers don’t lie, when he said, “inaccurate, you can’t refute when cameras are rolling”? Geez bud, you just got dropped in it, now your wife knows just how much you spend every month.
The numbers come from your bank account over a month and they are real.
Get with it bud, she outed you!
Oh boy. He married a submissive wife. Bit of an arrogant jerk. "I don't think she could handle it" like she's not an adult. And him managing the money evidently isn't working, fool!
I don't think there's anything wrong with a submissive wife, what is wrong is keeping her in the dark and taking control of EVERYTHING! and she is too scared to ask questions. Hope they've changed and are doing well now (2019)
@@texastea5686 Have you looked-up the definition of "submissive"? It means, "meekly obedient and passive." If you're talking about sex, fine - who cares what dynamic people enjoy in the bedroom, but being "submissive" in a relationship when it comes to everyday matters is another thing. Perhaps you mean a conservative or conventional wife, as in a wife that stays home and works as a homemaker?
@@Lionforaday yes I think that's more what i meant.
@@texastea5686 fair enough - I actually agree with you. Feminism has done women a grave disservice in my opinion; I'm a woman and a physician who worked at a major university and it was tragic how many women studying law.or medicine confessed that they really dreamt of a country house, with children and chickens. But that simple life is far from simple to make happen once you're mired in $200K of student debt!
@@Lionforaday i was able to stay home when my kids were little and I was like the June Cleaver of the 21st century. It was the best time of my life. I envied the moms who DID work tho, with their nice cars and purses and vacations. But I guess the grass I always greener on the other side? Now i work at a med clinic at the front desk but only as needed so I'm always available if the kids need me, they're 13 and 17 now. (But I do go back and think: I should've gone to nursing school to make good money and have a decent retirement)
Man, you know this guy is going to revert as soon as the cameras are gone.
WTH? He's playing all those video games with their child...but has not shown him how to ride a bike?!!!!!!!
What a shame
How can anybody be satisfied with a relationship where you have to ask your spouse if you're "allowed" to buy every small thing. No self-respect.
She is not his equal. She is the submissive wife, and she has been playing that role very well for their entire marriage. I'm pretty sure once Gail leaves they will go right back to it.
I could only stay at home for a partner if I were in a lesbian relationship. And that's not likely to happen because I'm fine with the theory but I'd fail the practical!😀
Possibly but I think when she found her voice and independence, she won't give it up so quickly.
Feel so bad for the wife, everything about her says she is covering up abuse.
She very well could be following her mother's playbook.
"Can I buy hair spray?" OMG. I wonder if she joyfully moved on after the debt was paid in full. Maybe he changed. Hahahahahahahahahahahaha
In the UK, financial abuse of a spouse is now a criminal offence.
Wow, thats great!
@mariahsmom9457 As is every form of DV.
Yay!! 😅😅 That kid's face ...ugh.
wow, I'm shocked that they agreed to keep her in the dark about finances. It is also obvious that he doesn't respect her.
This guy was pissed that he got called out. He doesnt think its all his fault? he kept her out of it on purpose.
That man gives me such weird vibes. He’s a control freak, _period_
If she has to ASK for toiletries and he’s splashing money on video games, there’s a massive issue there.
Run for the hills girl!
The wife is very receptive to learning and changing; she “gets it”! She feels the excitement and energy that positive change can bring. I hope she keeps growing and learning in new ways.
Dad you aren't doing that by any favors by teaching him it's OK to spend his life in front of a video game. He will be a poor excuse for a husband.
So not true. My son played an hour a day. More when he was older. He graduated college, full time job in the medical field, fiancé and a life. Don’t believe everything you read. All children are not the same.
Relationship abuse is not about punching and hiding bruises. It’s about control. And asking to buy hairspray while his doing what ever he likes is not cool
Overspending by $4,100 a month!! WOW
U should watch the one where they were over spending by over 9,000 a month.
Ikr? I only make 2100 a month. Total. Believe it or not, I make it work.
Asking permission to buy shampoo and hairspray is a giant NO.
That’s a giant red flag!
She's a human doormat. No man is worth that.
He's asked to make extra money to pay down the debt he created, and says the extra work is keeping him away from his family. He doesn't have a family. He has a cook/housekeeper upstairs and his son serves as an opponent downstairs while they play video games. That's life?
"You can't really refute it..." when it's absolutely true, the numbers do not lie.
Believe me Jared, we all were terrified of you wearing tights
The wife is glad to know what is going on....she has a radiant smile that is now geniune.
Wow....then he complains in Front of his son about work?! Hideous example!! He doesn't deserve this help.
Putting away the video games, walking while delivering newspapers. no "munchies", never eating out-- just home cooked meals. If he sticks with this he's going to cut from the waist band as well just by making these changes.
I hope this empowered her to LEAVE HIS SORRY ASS.
I've had people tell me that remaining single equals financial failure since two incomes go farther than one. But I have independence and peace of mind, which is invaluable.
Whiny dad, you are not away from your family. Your boy is helping you and you are modeling (well resentment and childishness) but modeling for your boy on the job
Meal prepping would be a good idea for this lady. Also this whine baby complaining because he has to work 12 hours. Pendejo. I work 12 hour shifts six days a week. You're selfishness got your family into this now own it.
$100 dollars says they are divorced now..
He’s such a child and has no respect for his wife, only cares about himself!
This was filmed many years ago and my hope is that she did continue to be very involved with the finances as sadly her husband did come across as incredibly controlling and quite demeaning .
My hope is that she has divorced and is now living her best life. 🙂
I love how all the comments are about how bad the guy was
What a selfish guy. Clear example of abuser and codependant relationships. That thing he keeps doing with his lips to contain anger is terrifying.
I'm a stay at home. My husband and I create a budget together, that way we're both accountable for any mistakes.
By end of episode he was ready to blow a gasket. 😤
That man wastes money like crazy, and she has to shake that 'submissive wife' s***. "What's a budget?", asks their son. That alone says everything about this family's relation with money.
Lol. Her son is like 8. Who knew what a budget was at 8. Are you being serious.
OMG the furniture... lol it's so funny watching this in 2019 and thinking how expensive those tv's were at the time
It was on the news at the time that the price of flat screen TV's would come down drastically within 2 years. I waited and got one for $350 instead of $3,500.
Gail empowered her ! Good for her ! 💪🏾
They can clear entire debt in one go by selling extra computer n games dvd n TV !!
As a guy I know none of that stuff will be sold. I certainly wouldn't, ha.
Honestly it would not really bring in that much as it's all used. You would be lucky to get 25-50% of it's value back.
You wouldn’t get $26k from selling that stuff !
Gail is quick to sniff out the rat in this marriage.
I thought it was interesting that she said he was a pro at doing the bulk of his spending with cash so it wasn't trackable, I don't know if the wife really picked up on that. $4.1k per month is a lot more than some video games, tvs, and computers. Where did the cash go? Hmmmmm.
Eesh. You NEVER give a kid everything they want all the time. It's not just a bad lesson plan about money. It's a bad lesson plan about life. You need to learn to be happy with what you have and learn the art of satisfaction in life.
I'm not very far in, but I'm already hoping that Gail put a "backbone" for the wife in the budget. She seems to desperately need one!
Ongoing abuse can really wear away one’s backbone.
How can this man be SO oblivious of his WIFE'S feelings and concerns. Women are NOT stupid!! Man up. You are no longer a teenager!!
In all fairness she doesn’t speak up. She even said that. Is he supposed to read her mind. She needs to get some balls.
He doesn’t care about her feelings; he’s a classic narcissist, it’s all about him!
13:40. “To keep those two away from their video games is going to be a real challenge.” She sounds more like a mother of two children than a spouse.
Yes! And their sons reaction was exactly what Dad taught him. The Dad looks like he is just barely refraining from boiling over!
Yeah the husband never grew up. And unfortunately his son is going down a similar path. I hope the best for the wife and son.
I'm curious if this relationship lasted ? Considering it was filmed over 10 years ago. She's a sweetheart and he's a prick.
I'm curious to know if these guys are still married.
Hope not
Yeah. She won't have the courage to leave him.
"I took it upon myself to not burden Christina" translation: I am hiding all of my reckless spending from her because if she finds out she'll leave me and I'll have to take care of myself
Debt free in two years. Hope they take this and run with it!
When wifey heard that patronising dough boy was overspending by $4100 a month she should have socked him in the chops. I loved Gail's response to his comment, 'I didn't tell her because it would have been overwhelming for her'
'WHAT?'
That man is a colossal tool
Gerard, you did not share so you can spend what you want. You are SELFISH!!!
Just when I thought the days of wives not knowing how much basic things cost, this couple shows up. What a toxic relationship.
Dude's a total man-child. He just wants to play video games all day
He wasn't pissed about delivering papers because it took him away from his family...he was pissed because it was cutting into his video game playing time.
@@Terri_MacKay BINGO!🤡
Even had the nerve to point out she didn't buy all the junk munchies he wanted
@@M-hc9xm I caught that too! Un-bloody-believable on so many levels!!
Jared just hates that his wife is in charge of the money. Yes Jared you made this mess, up to you to earn extra money. Did she really have to ask to buy shampoo and hair spray? Should have been a red flag to her. She knew what was going on, but did not wan to face it. Reason she has to shop every night for groceries is because he spending all the money. He makes me nauseous.
what i've noticed from all these shows is that the monetary dysfunction is usually a symptom and not a cause of a very dysfunctional marriage which often will end in divorce. Financial problems are happening because your marriage already sucks and you don't communicate, don't have similar goals, and don't respect each other, don't care about your family unit prospering in the long run.
The husband is really a KEEPER. I can’t believe she married him. His poor wife.
She has low self esteem; that’s the only way women end up with someone like that!
She gets it. He doesn't. He has already created a mini-me in his son.
I don’t know if this couple ever got their act together, but I was the kind of wife who never know where we stood financially and had no interest in money beyond spending it. Big mistake! After 26 years of marriage hubby decided he wanted out to run off with a young girl. He’d been calling her with confidence for months because he knew I never looked at the phone bill (she had a different area code and this was 15 years ago when some homes still had landlines, including ours). Then I was blindsided by financial reality. We ended up divorced, I moved out of state to start a new life. Now I have no one’s financiers to worry about except my own-very liberating! I’ve learned to manage my money even with a low income and I’m surviving. I have a girlfriend who’s marriage broke up after 35 years because her husband was addicted to video games; it was like he was committing adultery except it was with a computer, he’d stay up all night playing games, drove her crazy. Poor financial management can ruin a marriage, both hubby and wife need to know what’s going on, even if one of them-Christina, for example-doesn’t want to know. An expensive lesson to learn.
An 8 year old kid that doesn't know how to ride a bike?? Wtf 🤦♀️
Today's kids have their butts glued to couches! Attempting to ride a bike would be too tanking 🙄🤷♀️
**tasking
drea brown this series is like ten years old so actually they have a point
The video gaming is more all consuming now than it was then, but it was obviously an issue for these boys. The bigger issue is lazy parenting
@@cute2boot09I think "taxing" was the word you were looking for.
He wasn’t protecting her he was spending money on himself
It is irresponsible to have one partner in charge of the money so much that the other partner has no clue about the finances.
I have a niece who says her husband takes care of everything. That worries me.
'Protecting' his wife?! No, this is abusive. Hope things change for them or she gets out.
"He's the husband ..." And YOU make as much money as he does!
Wow ! These challenges were spot on. Created sooo many beneficial shifts fir this Family. Christina is a GEM and such a sweetheart ! I am sure they got out of debt in 2 years, and are doing great . I cried at the end ! Happy tears!
After watching this, I believe the husband is jealous of the wife. He has managed to keep her out of interaction with him and his son. When she became involved in family activities, the entire family dynamic changed. Very interesting.
Agreed. Very.
I cannot believe the addiction to video games.
So stupid and juvenile
My husband was raised like that and I do not let me kids watt tv during the week and limit time on weekend because they are out doing activities or swimming with friends, it’s a toxic way to raise a child that kid will be struggling his whole life my husband is!
I can. He’s obese and arrogant.
And this was ten years ago. The epidemic is worse now. But the laziness (bare minimum) to the addiction is apparent even here. Moderation is a wonderful thing.
@@trexxy9628 yes! moderation is key to EVERYTHING, i say this all the time to my kids. Its ok to enjoy video games, just not at the expense of other more important things.
The husband won't change. His attitude towards everything says all I need to know how this man functions.
I feel better about my $600/month grocery budget in 2020 now. Gail put them on a $500 month budget and this show is from 2006 😆
Did he just say, "That's what I spend my money on"? Oh no, sweetie! That money is combined it's both your $$
I never understand women who let the husband do the complete finances and have to ask him for money. Especially when they actually work and have a FULLTIME JOB, are you insane? Seriously
Weeponybjorn It’s like a 1950’s housewife asking for allowance...except she still has to work full time.😂🔫
@@Me-mb1ex exactly, totally insane😁
Low self esteem!
I pay all the bills in our household, but my husband knows what all the bills are and we discuss our budget together. It’s not rocket science. No spouse should be left in the dark about the household finances. 🤦🏼♀️
Duche it’s not going to be overwhelming for her, you just don’t want her to know what you spend freely when she has to ask you to spend money on necessities.
This episode felt rushed and I'm glad. I didn't like him.
Protection vs Deception
What I could say about this husband........
“It would be overwhelming for her”...ooh for craps sake.
As soon as he said I did not tell her anything because it would have overwhelmed her - that is just classic gaslighting. I am going to control you because you are not competent to control yourself, you are not able to "handle" the reality of life so I will decide what that is. Just a disgusting person. If you teach somebody they are not good enough, you get power over them. That is what is happening here. It can happen in any relationship. He will insist on another child before he lets her have any equality in the relationship.
Being away from your family I think he means being away from his video games because the only person around him is his kid his wife's not playing them
Throwing the newspaper at the cat. Little man is upset having to work for his toys. Sad little man. Oh, and 2000 $ every month in cash? This man visits other ladies for some more entertainment and excersize...
Yay! So happy you are posting Season 3!!! Thank you!
Yeessssss
Me too! I love Gail!!