Hi Helen. I absolutely love these type of videos from you. I feel you are my kind counsellor sitting on my shoulder. You seem to come to me at just the right moment with words of wisdom and kindness. This really resonated with me. I am a ‘yes’ man and to my detriment. I have definitely got better about saying no to events, as I often really don’t want to attend certain things or be around particular people. If it gives me a horrible feeling I politely decline. I’m not so good at saying no at work. Thank you so much for this and huge congratulations on your previous 100 episodes 😊
Thank you, Sarah. I love delving into these kinds of topics and bringing together lots of thoughtful tips that I have come across. Those of us who are generous and kindhearted seem to have the hardest time saying no - but hopefully by understanding more about how it's okay to say no,, we can be more certain that we're making a decision that's best for us. xx
Hi Helen. I've recently discovered your pod casts and really enjoyed them. So much so that I've gone right back to number one. I do like your nice friendly style, it's so much like sitting across from a friend while she chatters away. I also enjoy your trips away on the campervan. We have a caravan so often go away on trips too. I'm looking forward to enjoying more of your videos and following you on your creative adventures. Best wishes from Jenny, living far away in New Zealand.
Hi Jenny, I'm very happy to know that you have been enjoying time in my company! It's so lovely that we can connect in this way, even though we're so far apart! x
Thank you, Evelyn. I think you’re right about it getting a little easier to say no as the years go by! I’m glad you enjoyed the sketches and music today! xx
Congratulations to the 3 winners. I look forward to seeing what you receive. This was a great podcast Helen, in terms of your topic. I used to be terrible at saying no, but as I’ve got older, I have found it a bit easier. Sometimes the problem of saying no is to do with the person asking, where if it’s a close friend or family member, I find that much harder to say no to. I find instinct is a good indication for me. If someone asks and my initial reaction is my heart sinking, then that tends to be an easy no. I loved your tips for considering whether to say yes or no, and I’ll certainly bear those in mind. I hope you had a good trip.
Thank you, Marion. You are quite right about paying attention to what our instincts are telling us when someone asks us to do something - I've definitely had that heart-sinking feeling before! Saying no is definitely something that many of us need to practise. I'm glad you found this a helpful topic. I had a great trip, thank you! xx
Hello Helen, I'm new to your channel. I feel so much better watching this episode. I was feeling very guilty this morning after saying no. If I had said yes, I would have kept someone waiting and missed my bus home from work, resulting me to walk home in the rain.. Sometimes we need to be strong and say no. Thank you xxxx
Thank you, Fiona, and welcome along! I'm so glad that you found this podcast helpful - I often have to remind myself that it's okay to say no sometimes, as like you, I could very easily inconvenience myself and others by saying yes! xx
Thank you! I was quite excited that I managed to work out how to do the draw! Looking forward to sharing Pearl and Dean's latest adventure with you very soon xx
How wise your words are Helen but very true and to stop feeling guilty , i always find your words and poems so calming but relaxing too , it’s so good of you to share your thoughts , thoroughly enjoyable thankyou x
Really enjoyed this episode Helen, from the lovely photos, artwork and topic. I have great difficulty in saying no, but am trying to get better at it. I hope you had an enjoyable trip. X
Thank you, Anita - I'm glad you enjoyed today's episode. I think that learning to say no definitely takes a lot of practice for some of us! And thanks, I had a lovely trip - hopefully I'll be sharing some of it with you soon! xx
Hi Helen, thank you for such good advice about saying 'no' . Going into too much detail as to why I need to say 'no' is something I try hard to curb as I find it digs a deep hole of extra anxiety! Congratulations to your worthy winners. I just received my calendar and it is delightful, thank you Helen. Happy crafting, Teresa 📅♥
Thank you Teresa - yes, it’s definitely a tricky thing for so many of us and I will have to continue to remind myself of these pieces of advice! I’m very glad that your calendar arrived safely! xx
I think your certainly on to something here,I have the biggest heart work with vulnerable adults but my goodness do I struggle to say no at times and why do I feel the need to explain myself??? Madness,I am getting a little better thanks to being on tamoxifen I find the menopausal me says no alot easier than the old me.Thankyou Helen I think your right I was certainly bought up to do as I was told to follow rules which I'm most grateful for especially with the younger generation being so anti every thing.Swings and roundabouts I believe 😊 xxx
Thanks, Debbie - saying no is something that many of us find so difficult, isn't it? I think it means that we're kind and helpful but then we forget that we don't do ourselves any favours by always saying yes - we really have to try and strike some kind of balance. xxx
Thank you Helen for this podcast it's very helpful and something I should think about 🙄and congratulations to the prize winners well done 👏👏👏👏👏👏Enjoy your break Helen xx
Thank you, Michelle - I'm glad you found this helpful - I definitely have to remind myself frequently that it's okay to say no sometimes! And thanks - I have had a lovely break which I will share with you soon! xx
Hi Helen thanks for reminding us to think of our well-being and not feeling guilty about saying no..great advice and I’ll try and think of this when asked to do something in the future 😊
Very good advice Helen. I've definitely had to work on this over the years to the point that it no longer feels awkward or uncomfortable. Hope you're having a nice time away xx
Thanks, Dawn - saying no is definitely something that takes a bit of practice, so that we don't feel too bad when we say no to something. I'm just back and had a lovely time, thank you! xx
Such a useful podcast Helen, there have been times when I have said yes to so many things that I end up doing each task less well and it feeds so much stress into life trying to keep all the plates spinning. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and findings, I have saved the episode for future reference.
Congratulations to the lovely three winners. What a wonderful way to start your week. Helen you have done it again, choosing a topic that so many of us struggle with. Thank you so much for your helpful tips. Another episode saved to my UA-cam library💛 Take care and we all look forward to seeing what adventures you have been on xx
Thank you, Christine - I'm glad that you found today's podcast helpful. Deciding whether to say yes or no is such a tricky thing and I enjoyed breaking the problem down a bit! I'm looking forward to sharing my latest adventures with you very soon! xx
Hi Helen. Thanks for discussing such a interesting topic. I have learned over time how to say no. It's all part of how I manage living with chronic illness. Like you say if I say no to one thingit may mean yes to something else. Hope your well and have had a lovely break away. X🌷🌻
Thank you, Angela. It's definitely very sensible and helpful to know when to say no - and so good to keep reminding ourselves that by saying no to something we are often saying yes to something else. And thank you - I had a lovely break and look forward to sharing some of it with you soon! Take care xx
Hi Helen, I hope you had a great trip. I remember the first time I said no, when I thought I should have said yes! It does feel very uncomfortable at first. Negative nurturing parent always wants to say yes as she feels she must look after people and Child wants to say yes because that is what she has been told will be right. Negative Controlling Parent says should, ought must. How good Adult is - what do I want, how do I feel and what do I need. It feels like a balancing act sometimes doesn't it! Great video thanks, we all need reminders.
Thank you, Pene - I was thinking of you while I was looking into this topic and knew that you would be able to shed light on this kind of dilemma from a TA point of view - and, thanks to you, I now have a little poster where I can see it regularly, saying 'what do I want? how do I feel? what do I need?' And you are right: saying no can feel very uncomfortable and it's really helpful to be reminded of why 'no' is sometimes the right answer. xx
Hi Helen Thank you for sharing on your thoughts on saying No. I have suffered with that most of my life, I’m definitely a people pleaser and do struggle in saying no. As I’m getting older I do definitely fine it a little easier, but from time to time do still struggle. Also I can not believe I’ve won a prize, I never win anything 😮 Thank you so very much. Xxxx
Congratulations on being a winner! Like you, I have definitely grown up being a people pleaser, always more worried about disappointing other people than thinking about what’s good for me! I do think I’m getting a bit better at saying no, but it’s still a struggle at times! xx
This was such a beautiful video. Is the artwork your own? It's beautiful. Thank you for keeping me company this morning, I'm enjoying watching a variety of your videos. This one found me at the right time xx
Thank you, Kayleigh - I'm so glad that you found this helpful! Yes, I do all the little drawings and doodles although I don't have a high opinion of my artwork skills - so thank you! xx
This was a reflective topic. Good nuggets to think about. I definitely feel the guilt, and think I am just being lazy by refusing a request.🤔 One thing I am writing down so as to remember is to "think of all the things I am saying yes to by saying no". I liked that one🤗. And " will saying yes add value to my life" - another good nugget. I hope you had a nice trip. And what fun to see names I recognize from the comments as winners. keep up the good work. you will be over 700 subscribers soon!
Useful thoughts and ideas to use! Thank you for sharing. I was intrigued by the photo of the trees growing all in lines, like they were planted that way on purpose. Is there a story about them? Congratulations also to the winners of the giveaway. Thank you as well for the extended order deadline for calendar ordering. I hope you are having a lovely time away.
Thank you, Karen - I love delving into these kinds of topics and this one addresses a common problem that so many of us have - I'm glad you found a few useful nuggets! And thank you - I had a lovely trip, and I look forward to sharing some of the things I got up to while I was away! (I'm excited to be so close to 700 subscribers, too!) xx
Thank you, Shari - I'm happy to offer some useful thoughts! I am fairly certain that the trees in lines were planted that way but I will have to do a little research to find out if there's a story behind them! xx
Thank you for being so organized as to have an episode go live even though you are away on a trip. The discussion this time is very interesting. Lots of food for thought. Congratulations to all the winners. Until the next time. Salam wa sa’aadah
Hello Helen, Thank you for sharing your thoughts on how to say ‘NO’ in order to take good care of ourselves. Indeed it’s not necessary to feel guilty about saying no, but we often do. There’s some practising needed there 🙂 Have a lovely week and see you soon!
Thank you, Marjam - I'm glad you found this discussion helpful - it's good to remind ourselves of these things from time to time. We definitely have to practise saying no when it doesn't come naturally to us!
Hi Helen. I absolutely love these type of videos from you. I feel you are my kind counsellor sitting on my shoulder. You seem to come to me at just the right moment with words of wisdom and kindness. This really resonated with me. I am a ‘yes’ man and to my detriment. I have definitely got better about saying no to events, as I often really don’t want to attend certain things or be around particular people. If it gives me a horrible feeling I politely decline. I’m not so good at saying no at work. Thank you so much for this and huge congratulations on your previous 100 episodes 😊
Thank you, Sarah. I love delving into these kinds of topics and bringing together lots of thoughtful tips that I have come across. Those of us who are generous and kindhearted seem to have the hardest time saying no - but hopefully by understanding more about how it's okay to say no,, we can be more certain that we're making a decision that's best for us. xx
Hi Helen. I've recently discovered your pod casts and really enjoyed them. So much so that I've gone right back to number one. I do like your nice friendly style, it's so much like sitting across from a friend while she chatters away. I also enjoy your trips away on the campervan. We have a caravan so often go away on trips too. I'm looking forward to enjoying more of your videos and following you on your creative adventures. Best wishes from Jenny, living far away in New Zealand.
Hi Jenny, I'm very happy to know that you have been enjoying time in my company! It's so lovely that we can connect in this way, even though we're so far apart! x
Loved the sketches and music. Good thoughts to be considered. Seems the older I the better I get at saying no when needed.
Thank you, Evelyn. I think you’re right about it getting a little easier to say no as the years go by! I’m glad you enjoyed the sketches and music today! xx
Really thought provoking - thank you Helen. Catherine x
Thank you, Catherine! x
Congratulations to the 3 winners. I look forward to seeing what you receive. This was a great podcast Helen, in terms of your topic. I used to be terrible at saying no, but as I’ve got older, I have found it a bit easier. Sometimes the problem of saying no is to do with the person asking, where if it’s a close friend or family member, I find that much harder to say no to. I find instinct is a good indication for me. If someone asks and my initial reaction is my heart sinking, then that tends to be an easy no. I loved your tips for considering whether to say yes or no, and I’ll certainly bear those in mind. I hope you had a good trip.
Thank you, Marion. You are quite right about paying attention to what our instincts are telling us when someone asks us to do something - I've definitely had that heart-sinking feeling before! Saying no is definitely something that many of us need to practise. I'm glad you found this a helpful topic. I had a great trip, thank you! xx
Hello Helen, I'm new to your channel. I feel so much better watching this episode. I was feeling very guilty this morning after saying no. If I had said yes, I would have kept someone waiting and missed my bus home from work, resulting me to walk home in the rain.. Sometimes we need to be strong and say no. Thank you xxxx
Thank you, Fiona, and welcome along! I'm so glad that you found this podcast helpful - I often have to remind myself that it's okay to say no sometimes, as like you, I could very easily inconvenience myself and others by saying yes! xx
Thought provoking as ever and then the excitement of the draw! Looking forward to hearing about and seeing your latest adventure with Pearl & Dean. Mx
Thank you! I was quite excited that I managed to work out how to do the draw! Looking forward to sharing Pearl and Dean's latest adventure with you very soon xx
How wise your words are Helen but very true and to stop feeling guilty , i always find your words and poems so calming but relaxing too , it’s so good of you to share your thoughts , thoroughly enjoyable thankyou x
Thank you, Elaine! I'm glad you enjoyed it. xx
Really enjoyed this episode Helen, from the lovely photos, artwork and topic. I have great difficulty in saying no, but am trying to get better at it. I hope you had an enjoyable trip. X
Thank you, Anita - I'm glad you enjoyed today's episode. I think that learning to say no definitely takes a lot of practice for some of us! And thanks, I had a lovely trip - hopefully I'll be sharing some of it with you soon! xx
You have given some really good advice, W e are all guilty of saying yes too much. Congratulations to the winners
Thank you, Jane - I'm glad to have offered some helpful advice - it is so easy to agree to things when it's not always in our best interests! xx
Hi Helen, thank you for such good advice about saying 'no' . Going into too much detail as to why I need to say 'no' is something I try hard to curb as I find it digs a deep hole of extra anxiety! Congratulations to your worthy winners. I just received my calendar and it is delightful, thank you Helen. Happy crafting, Teresa 📅♥
Thank you Teresa - yes, it’s definitely a tricky thing for so many of us and I will have to continue to remind myself of these pieces of advice! I’m very glad that your calendar arrived safely! xx
Thank you for another thoughtful episode.
Thanks, Daphne - I think I need to go back and watch this one myself because I'm not always good at saying 'no'! x
I think your certainly on to something here,I have the biggest heart work with vulnerable adults but my goodness do I struggle to say no at times and why do I feel the need to explain myself??? Madness,I am getting a little better thanks to being on tamoxifen I find the menopausal me says no alot easier than the old me.Thankyou Helen I think your right I was certainly bought up to do as I was told to follow rules which I'm most grateful for especially with the younger generation being so anti every thing.Swings and roundabouts I believe 😊 xxx
Thanks, Debbie - saying no is something that many of us find so difficult, isn't it? I think it means that we're kind and helpful but then we forget that we don't do ourselves any favours by always saying yes - we really have to try and strike some kind of balance. xxx
Thank you Helen for this podcast it's very helpful and something I should think about 🙄and congratulations to the prize winners well done 👏👏👏👏👏👏Enjoy your break Helen xx
Thank you, Michelle - I'm glad you found this helpful - I definitely have to remind myself frequently that it's okay to say no sometimes! And thanks - I have had a lovely break which I will share with you soon! xx
Hi Helen thanks for reminding us to think of our well-being and not feeling guilty about saying no..great advice and I’ll try and think of this when asked to do something in the future 😊
Thanks Tracey - it’s so easy to forget about our own needs, isn’t it? I need to remind myself frequently! xx
Thanks for the helpful advice. x
You are very welcome! x
Very good advice Helen. I've definitely had to work on this over the years to the point that it no longer feels awkward or uncomfortable. Hope you're having a nice time away xx
Thanks, Dawn - saying no is definitely something that takes a bit of practice, so that we don't feel too bad when we say no to something. I'm just back and had a lovely time, thank you! xx
Such a useful podcast Helen, there have been times when I have said yes to so many things that I end up doing each task less well and it feeds so much stress into life trying to keep all the plates spinning. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and findings, I have saved the episode for future reference.
Thank you, Joy - I'm so glad you found this useful - saying "no" can be fraught with difficulties and dilemmas! xx
Congratulations to the lovely three winners. What a wonderful way to start your week. Helen you have done it again, choosing a topic that so many of us struggle with. Thank you so much for your helpful tips. Another episode saved to my UA-cam library💛 Take care and we all look forward to seeing what adventures you have been on xx
Thank you, Christine - I'm glad that you found today's podcast helpful. Deciding whether to say yes or no is such a tricky thing and I enjoyed breaking the problem down a bit! I'm looking forward to sharing my latest adventures with you very soon! xx
Hi Helen. Thanks for discussing such a interesting topic. I have learned over time how to say no. It's all part of how I manage living with chronic illness. Like you say if I say no to one thingit may mean yes to something else.
Hope your well and have had a lovely break away. X🌷🌻
Thank you, Angela. It's definitely very sensible and helpful to know when to say no - and so good to keep reminding ourselves that by saying no to something we are often saying yes to something else. And thank you - I had a lovely break and look forward to sharing some of it with you soon! Take care xx
Hi Helen, I hope you had a great trip. I remember the first time I said no, when I thought I should have said yes! It does feel very uncomfortable at first. Negative nurturing parent always wants to say yes as she feels she must look after people and Child wants to say yes because that is what she has been told will be right. Negative Controlling Parent says should, ought must. How good Adult is - what do I want, how do I feel and what do I need. It feels like a balancing act sometimes doesn't it! Great video thanks, we all need reminders.
Thank you, Pene - I was thinking of you while I was looking into this topic and knew that you would be able to shed light on this kind of dilemma from a TA point of view - and, thanks to you, I now have a little poster where I can see it regularly, saying 'what do I want? how do I feel? what do I need?' And you are right: saying no can feel very uncomfortable and it's really helpful to be reminded of why 'no' is sometimes the right answer. xx
@@mousiemakespod MMh and think about when you say I should say no. That's Controlling Parent. I want to say no is so much better. xxx
@@penelopeschinwag You are quite right! Such an interesting aspect of human behaviour!
Hi Helen
Thank you for sharing on your thoughts on saying No. I have suffered with that most of my life, I’m definitely a people pleaser and do struggle in saying no.
As I’m getting older I do definitely fine it a little easier, but from time to time do still struggle.
Also I can not believe I’ve won a prize, I never win anything 😮 Thank you so very much. Xxxx
Congratulations on being a winner!
Like you, I have definitely grown up being a people pleaser, always more worried about disappointing other people than thinking about what’s good for me! I do think I’m getting a bit better at saying no, but it’s still a struggle at times! xx
This was such a beautiful video. Is the artwork your own? It's beautiful. Thank you for keeping me company this morning, I'm enjoying watching a variety of your videos. This one found me at the right time xx
Thank you, Kayleigh - I'm so glad that you found this helpful! Yes, I do all the little drawings and doodles although I don't have a high opinion of my artwork skills - so thank you! xx
@@mousiemakespod Your artwork is beautiful!! Don't ever doubt yourself there ♡ xx
This was a reflective topic. Good nuggets to think about. I definitely feel the guilt, and think I am just being lazy by refusing a request.🤔
One thing I am writing down so as to remember is to "think of all the things I am saying yes to by saying no". I liked that one🤗. And " will saying yes add value to my life" - another good nugget.
I hope you had a nice trip. And what fun to see names I recognize from the comments as winners. keep up the good work. you will be over 700 subscribers soon!
Useful thoughts and ideas to use! Thank you for sharing. I was intrigued by the photo of the trees growing all in lines, like they were planted that way on purpose. Is there a story about them? Congratulations also to the winners of the giveaway. Thank you as well for the extended order deadline for calendar ordering. I hope you are having a lovely time away.
Thank you, Karen - I love delving into these kinds of topics and this one addresses a common problem that so many of us have - I'm glad you found a few useful nuggets! And thank you - I had a lovely trip, and I look forward to sharing some of the things I got up to while I was away! (I'm excited to be so close to 700 subscribers, too!) xx
Thank you, Shari - I'm happy to offer some useful thoughts! I am fairly certain that the trees in lines were planted that way but I will have to do a little research to find out if there's a story behind them! xx
Thank you for being so organized as to have an episode go live even though you are away on a trip. The discussion this time is very interesting. Lots of food for thought. Congratulations to all the winners. Until the next time. Salam wa sa’aadah
Thanks, Linda - I love taking a deeper look at topics like this - and this one can be a particular problem for so many of us! xx
Hello Helen, Thank you for sharing your thoughts on how to say ‘NO’ in order to take good care of ourselves. Indeed it’s not necessary to feel guilty about saying no, but we often do. There’s some practising needed there 🙂 Have a lovely week and see you soon!
Thank you, Marjam - I'm glad you found this discussion helpful - it's good to remind ourselves of these things from time to time. We definitely have to practise saying no when it doesn't come naturally to us!
Hi Helen. I’ve sent you an email, thank you.
Thanks Sue - and well done! xx