This Makes You INSECURE... (95% Of People Get This Wrong)
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
- Most people ignore this, but they really shouldn't... This video reveals the #1 thing that's destroying your self esteem!
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Julien Blanc (AKA JulienHimself) is a Swiss-born, U.S.-based self-help speaker, entrepreneur and transformational coach.
Since 2010, he has been traveling around the world and has personally coached tens of thousands of clients face to face... Empowering them to create massive success in their lives!
His record-breaking programs Transformation Mastery, Transformation Mastery Live, Transformation Mastery Live Advanced, Transformation Mastery Academy & Transformation Mastery Mentoring help people around the world achieve the HEALTH, WEALTH, RELATIONSHIPS & HAPPINESS they deserve!
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This Makes You INSECURE... (95% Of People Get This Wrong)
How to be confident in any situation! In this video, Julien Blanc (AKA Julien Himself) reveals how to stop caring about what others think about you... This will allow you to feel confident and be confident in any social situation!
Discover how to be confident in any social situation, how to be confident around people and how to be grounded during social interactions!
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Hey Julien I recommend the Fus Ro Dah scream from Skyrim
Hey Julien, how did you get into this? I want to. Do that kinda work for so long
hope this girl really does start loving herself
same here. i understand her pain. social anxiety takes up the majority of my life and it won’t stop
It takes all of us to see her, and ourselves as we truly are! 💪🏽
I thought I would gain my confidence back once I lost weight and have longer hair. But wherever you go, there you are. And I simply didn't see the difference - I still thought I was too big with too short hair. So whenever I need a reminder to accept and love myself the way I am right now, I think of my current self as the goal. Because if I were 10kg heavier with 10cm shorter hair, I would give f*cking everything to look like me right now. It's simply unfair to yourself, to only compare you to "better" versions of you. I don't know if this will help anyone out there, but it just puts things into perspective for me.
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It actually did help, thank youu
It helps me too. Thank you
Here are the steps to freedom:
1. Journal in the third person to create a separation from yourself to gain perspective. Write all things troubling you until another part of you takes over beginning to solve your problems. It is fascinating that another self eventually shows up with the answers.
2. Write down a list of all people who have hurt you. Create a session with each person using a pillow acting as them and have the conversation you never had to use your voice of power to make your wrongs right- your subconscious doesn’t know the difference.
3. Begin meditation sessions twice a day. This will feel uncomfortable at first because your mind’s chatter will want to keep running you. In time, your mind will shut off and you will no longer be thinking and instead, be being. In this natural being state, joy will take you over. Continue this practice and joy will have ripple effects of love, acceptance, happiness, wholeness, self acceptance and self love.
4. Continue to cultivate and nurture this new found relationship with yourself as you now love yourself and no longer need external validation.
5. Appreciate this beautiful relationship with yourself and memorize this feeling because this is your new home that’s always available to you.
Thanks, i hope this helps👍🙏
She is actually beautiful in her own ways, her sense of humour, cute face , and being absolutely honest on stage !
Kudos babe 🎉
That's what i thought 😊
That first scream was bold. Usually people seem way more stifled about that.
"Programmed beliefs"
This hits. We start to feel if we're not "fit", not wealthy, not popular/charismatic, not sexually active etc. then we're doing something wrong. The only thing we do wrong is trying to be like everyone else because someone else said that's what's preferred or the way to be.
12:00 is a good thing to always remember - when speaking to others makes sure your voice comes from a grounded place within you and not something you force out because you want others' approval or attention.
I swear the first time I seen Jullien I thought he's batshit crazy... I mean just look at his clothes for instance.... I'll never regret I watched bunch of his videos however.... reall life saver
Thanks for giving the content a chance! 🙏
Will you fucking stop calling people crazy you think this helps anyone with there mental health god dament learn a different fucking word too describe someones behaviour
amazing how much you have helped me julien and owen, literally snapped me out of a horrible depression
Amazing to hear! Glad my content has been so impactful for you... You got this! 🙏
real ass mf@@JulienHimself
What are some of the videos that helped you the most? Appreciate you sharing this
@@samk7717Have you seen some of the Owen videos of him just talking to the camera. Amazing I can send some links. You want me to post some?
Hey Julien, your videos were like the last step I needed to become a grown man with responsibility. Something just clicked, like a switch had been flipped. It's been a long journey since then and I'm really glad that I'm no longer in that big hole of self-hatred and hopelessness. I'm 25 now and have a positive outlook on the future. I know a new journey has just begun and I still have a lot to learn, but I really want to continue to grow. Thanks for your work dude, I really appreciate it! Keep it up, lots of love from Germany.
@RunningWild2112 you got this man stay strong like a Lion 💪🏻. thank you Im a big fan 🤘🏻
4:56 I want to give her a big, genuine hug ❤
Yeah, and how great is the guy who gives her the little encouraging whoop that got people to clap for her
It's really hits, growing up in my area. I was always told that the self comes last and other people's needs first. However the people I've been around always told me to be more of a giver and never take to be selfless and not selfish to leave my ego behind that the ego was wicked.
I changed groups and this particular group said that we have good and bad inclination. And sometimes the bad inclination is not always bad and sometimes can save your life not that you go out and do wrong things and rob and murder. Sometimes being selfish for yourself saves you from bad things from happening from people who want to hurt you. I found out this was true and on this journey I moved forward I still have a a lot on this journey however I'm better and on a better path.
2:45 A lot of you, raising your level of self-esteem means being okay, not being "Perfect," and realizing that "Perfect" is a constructed image.
17:37 is that in the end, you're always left with the relationship with the present moment. You're always left with your relationship with you.
21:18 make the present moment and the present you the goal, that's self-love. And that's also what leads to true change, 'cause otherwise it's always outta reaction.
Love you Julien no homo I watch all your videos, best Netflix channel hands down!
I love this! Such a healthy reminder. Especially, few points resonated:
1. In altered states of consciousness it's amazing, because we're out of duality. I've been there and it's such a relief. But the point is to bring those realizations into daily life here, and not to run away from it. Plus, it's so true about hardships of operating a physical body in those states 😄 as I've once said, "You cannot even cross the road". So you are very right 😄
2. So true about self -acceptance vs. self -denial. Once I was a raw foodie for 2,5 years and back then I was the slimmest I've ever been. Does someone think I was 100% confident? No, it always was not good enough. I never even stopped for a moment to appreciate myself RIGHT NOW. I enjoyed it, but still there's something I didn't like. And now being an intuitive eater, it's so much more loving to myself. But of course some part of me believes it was "better back then". What about NOW? I'm so more in tune with myself now at this point, so why should I compare? I am a process, not a product! (I've realized it after my psychedelic experience).
Plus, when I look at any pictures of myself, which I don't have many, I see everytime was good, no matter what. But I have this trick or perception: RIGHT NOW it feels like it's not good. Only after a while I see all was good. Interesting! It is just a pattern of thinking that kicks in, and not actual reality.
3. And yes, I've realized something similar about low and high states. Before the war, as soon as I went low, I accepted it after a bit of rejection, and thus I was in acceptance, and acceptance itself is a high state. When war started, I was low almost all the time, not to mention, all my past traumas or not fully healed pains tremendously enhanced. I then was also rejected by a person I liked, and giving all 24/7 stress due to war, that was also much harder for me than I thought would be, just because I'm already in so much pain. So it's a good reminder. Just to love my pains, the most difficult emotions, and not only being with them, but truly loving them. That's huge.
“You being for you” is a great line, Hope it helps her. Hope she’s getting better at dealing with her issue. She is pretty btw
Beautiful courageous girl!
Hey Julien, I love your videos, they’ve helped me a lot!
Non-duality doesn’t mean that we stop being human. Non-duality is actually the inherent truth of existence. We are not fixed, limited entities, we just believe we are. Once we realize this, it frees us from our self-centerdness which is the cause of all our confusion. It frees us from self doubt and we become much more capable and kind hearted as a result as we live with the understanding that we are actually all interconnected.
But how does one exhibit that in a practical sense without being disconnected from this reality? I think that's what Julien was getting at. It's like believing gravity is an illusion until you fall over.
Reading Immunity to change after seeing you mention it in another video. Good book so far and resonates with me on other stuff i’ve read about belief systems and their purpose & effect. Long story short thanks for the recommendation😂
Nice! Glad you're getting a lot of value from it! 👌
Hey julien,
have u heard the quote “Don’t chase the butterflies, mend your garden and the butterflies will come to you” ? Thought it was a cool quote you could use that when your talking about dating and or not being outcome oriented/living for the experience and process etc etc
Thanks!
Oh i like that! What a nice quote ❤ thanks for sharing!
I disagree with some of the thoughts about non-duality, but you bring up many important points. Being able to thrive with whichever state of mind we find ourselves in is essentially non-dual and something ive been struggling with for many months now. Non-dual doesn't imply going limp from a body perspective, it means something more along the lines of letting go of the mind.
The insight I found most valuable was that we as humans nearly always find ourselves in that gap between where we are and where we want to be. To become "enlightened" is to accept this fully. One cannot achieve the highest energies of love without accepting their lower state and working with that
I agree with you totally. Actually when i first started watching his videos, I thought this is exactly what non- dualism is about.......
Undeniably the greatest feat in self-help history. 🦶😻
Thanks! 😂
Both of these teachings are needed.
1. Connect/talk
2. Walk them through because some people never got the “that’s good/ what you’re doing is good “ in practice( while doing the things)
3. Teach them to build and learn from that
4. Build their own lesson and conquer their own goals AKA. live life.
hello. i am half japanese and half english. from a young age and upwards to university i have been faced with racist actions from other people (name calling, prejudice bullying etc). im finding it hard to accept myself and i feel almost inferior to others. almost like im automatically thinking that other people are going to treat me differently straight away.
I've faced racism etc and it always happens to me in this country, solution for you is don't care. Be around the people that value you, and don't give back what these people dish out. Also provide facts, your mind can also make it worse. Let me put this in perspective, if you were homeless people would walk by and not care. Few might, so why do you care now, does this mean your not as important as others because you don't have a home? Nonsense, focus on what's important and what's not.
I am half Japanese as well but I think it is a good thing to be mixed race because I don't have an identity, which means I can see reality more objectively. Identity creates false realities, is the root cause of mental illness and prejudice. These people are overidentifying with a set of arbitrary characteristics and ignoring what makes them individuals, so they can't even see themselves accurately. Their evaluations of anything then cannot be trusted, as everything will be seen through the miscalibrated lens of self. You are absolutely not inferior and should not care what people who think incorrectly think.
I hope you can learn to love both...you deserve to love who you are
you can't control other people's opinions of you. you are not god. the only thing you can do is control your emotions. because you are not afraid of people, you are afraid that you will feel bad. just know for yourself that you are a normal person, know who you are and then other words will no longer hurt you
@@scabiesandrabies Well said. Being an individual takes some bravery.
You dont miss Julien. 👏🏼
The voice pitch thing is actually crazy, the way you conduct your voice makes massive difference. Obviously anxiety makes it feel more forced like you’re trying to win someone’s approval rather than speaking authentically.
you gave me gold without asking for it
Glad this was so helpful for you! 🙏
Was waiting for your video and BAM! ❤🎉
Nice! Enjoy! 👊
Such truth that we will always find a way to not be good enough, always have something to worry about... if we constantly place our contentment in external things. I always thought when i had enough money, when i had clear skin etc i would finally be happy. But I have simply found something else to be consumed with worry over.
this things take alot of time to notice for yourself to learn and the reason you might feel disconnected is just cause your not on the same path as others may be and thats totally okay just need to take your time
You dropped a lot of gems here 🙏🏽💎
Thanks! Glad this video was helpful for you!
hey julien..i love the fact u are talking so much about lester levinsons three wants u legeend ty so much!
The shoes 🤣 I really like your idea with these outfits. I can see the negative outrage in the comments of your Shorts- it proves exactly your point right.
I'm not where I used to be and THAT'S progress ❤
Thank you for this insight and guidance
frak... wasn't plan on crying at work.. thanks Julien..
Love your work Julien. You inspire me to do similar work for humanity! Hope we get to meet one day :)
So much value! What a blessing Julien's videos are!!!
Thank you! 🙏
Does that girl realise how beautiful she is. Chubby>>>
That's messed up
My biggest take away from this video is : Accepting your current self doesn't mean you can't reach your goals / desired image of yourself.!!!!
With his clothes, acc to me he wants to be different from others. One it shows confidence and secondly he needs to be different for his business as a self help coach, cause god knows there are a million of them out there. So this is good for his business to be recognised and his channel to become more popular.
Love this Julien!
This is awesome. So helpful. Thank you so much.❤
You're so welcome! 🙌
it made me so sad when she said social media told her she had to be skinny 😢
Why?
Your a great teacher 💪
Soooo eye opening!
Glad this was insightful!
Hi Julien, I've come up with a question. I'm a VERY loud person. I worked construction (talking over loud equipment) for years, and I've worked in the equine industry, where I had to project my voice across an arena while riding.
My family and coworkers tell me I'm yelling, when I'm not. That's just my "normal" speaking volume. I have another 6-8 levels I could go up, I'm NOT yelling, but I am loud in basic conversations. If I try to lower the volume, no one can hear me besides me. I can't seem to find a middle ground, where I'm loud enough to be heard, but not so loud they can hear me 2 tables over at a restaurant. How do you find that mid volume, like what you're using in your seminars?
Idk but your comment is written extremely loudly. Please tone it down a bit ;)
Have you done some hearing tests? Some people who are yelling have bad hearing and cannot moderate well because of that.
@@Mustika86 yes, I've done all the hearing tests. There is some loss, but not bad enough to warrant aids, or my volume. It's not that I can't hear myself, it's just my way of speaking, especially when in a group or if there's background noise. Or if I get excited about something, and I don't always realize I'm getting louder until someone tells me to quit yelling. My issue is that to me, I'm not yelling, I'm simply talking. That volume IS my normal level, even when I'm alone with just my dogs and horses.
You said yourself that you were speaking "normal".
The conflict is finding a problem in what you identify as "normal". Normal is normal, right?
The video was about owning yourself in the present moment.
@@munkeeboi1982 I don't have a problem with it, my family and most other people have the problem. I was only asking because I'm not fond of the fighting it causes when I don't whisper (to my ears, anyway). For myself, I'm good, but I do live with 8 other people and the conflict can be irritating.
Being jacked never goes out of style
She’s awesome!
this man speaks!!!
I think she's awesome
So I'm scared of speaking my true feelings with my dad. But if I be honest with my words, he might hurt me. What should I do? He's much nicer now but I'm not sure
Here's my opinion: Be honest but respectful. your feelings are incapable of causing damage as long as you don't express them negatively (as in spite, resent, hate etc.) if you feel anger, say youre angry, if you feel disappointment, say you're disappointed but dont attack him. Theres also many factors that play a role here (what are you like, what is your dad like etc) but if your intent is rooted in positivity and wanting to heal your relationship i'd say go for it.
Look up Dr. Ramani and other channels on abusive relationships. If you are scared that your dad will physically hurt you for expressing your true feelings, don't be afraid to take steps to cut him out of your life. Your physical safety comes first above all else. You do not owe your dad anything. You deserve people in your life who will love you and listen to you without you having fear of being harmed. If you can't escape your dad because of whatever reason, keep your feelings to yourself. Maybe if you really want to tell him how you feel, try telling him your feelings in a public place where someone could rescue you if needed. Don't be afraid to call the police if he becomes violent. You deserve peace and safety.
I honestly love you Julien. I wish we could collab...
Julien, you're great! Please come to Israel in the future :)
Oh god, that's a really unwise suggestion
Idk if that's the best place to go right now
Agree, I had to add in the future hahaha@@cireciao792
How are you guys doing RN over there. Sending love and prayers 🙏🙏
@@Luv.shay15 Thank you, appreciate it!
Julien my boy Love this vids every-time man!❤
Thank you! Glad they resonate!
Shes cute
She doesn’t have the “convention look”…but I know what exactly what you mean .
I really wanna you how did you become this influential I would love to learn this from you
Notification squad Have a nice weekend!🔥🔥🔥
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This video was super resonating
Thank you ♥
These videos are a god send. 🕊
Best seminar🎉
Julien my guy you gotta stop making every volunteer rag their vocal cords
I think you are lovely and amazing❤️
Just be yourself 😁
She's got nice facial features, skin, hair, glasses suit her and she rocks black
Sweet heart❤ I wonna tell how dang cute she is forreals❤❤❤
Amazing❤👏
actually she is very cute and lovely, even I fall in love with her ❤❤❤you looks pretty .
Is he talking about hamza?
Any form of the word "trigger" triggers me...
16:46
Everything is fine , but don't touch the subject you don't have knowledge in - now I'm feeling like doubt in your subject.
Guru system - you know nothing jhon snow
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first time stumbling into this guys content. can someone explain why he dresses like this. is he trolling? who is he trolling?
I see in other video he can wear normal clothes
I think he just teach how to be not perfect, because a lot of people afraid when they want to face the world because they have flaw and shame
Think at the start he was talking about gurus, and looks to be trolling them...
Hello i wonder what kan you do when all of the peppole is stuped 9 graders. That vandalizes things eatch week. I Don’t whana talck whit them😅 I,m a nine grader to. This is from the contest of the first ep i imrowe my social skils.
Focus on getting the best grades you can. Learn as much as you can in school. The stupid 9th graders you're dealing with now don't matter. Once you graduate, you will likely never see those people again. Don't spend time with them if you don't like them. If they are vandalizing, quietly report them to a teacher or call the police if necessary. Be polite and respectful to all, but don't force yourself to hang out with them. Make efforts to talk to new people who might share your interests. Keep your record clean and live your life ethically. What matters most is your future and the person you want to become.
@@haileynichelle8343 thanks
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W jullien
So nobody is gonna talk about his shoes 👞 😂😂😂😂😂 it's really disturbing 😂😂😂😂😂 I've been on them the whole time😂😂😂😂
Yo soy la meta
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And look you’re getting clapped for crying 😂🙏🏼
this a acting class thats all nothing new
Cameraman wearing same clothes again
Don't minority shame!
Smart guy and I love the content but it’s hard to take him serious with that outfit.
I think that’s the point. The content of the message matters more, and it filters out those who would immediately judge him as not worth their time without even listening is my guess. If you resonate with the content, it matters not what he looks like.
I get it, his message is on point, which matters the most.
She need to workout
@JulienHimself ❤
resonate
I am so impressed. Not only by this real time coaching, but 100% by this young lady being so willing and open to BE COACHED in front of so many people. This is the vulnerability we are all meant to have all the time with ourselves. Why do babies cry in public? Because they can and they are expressing a need. When did we all stop TRULY expressing ourselves? Amazing and truly inspiring for someone like me who really struggles with self confidence and staying confident in the face of adversity once I reach a good point. 🩷
Ahh, Julian making girls cry. Not much has changed 🤌🏼 😍