GUILT STALLING DECLUTTERING PROGRESS??? TRY THIS!!!! MINIMALISM| CLUTTER FREE HOME
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- GUILT STALLING DECLUTTERING PROGRESS??? TRY THIS!!!! MINIMALISM| CLUTTER FREE HOME
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-Mother Teresa
My mom used to say, "ok I'm going to sweep now. Whatever is on the floor I'll sweep and throw away."
‘Keeping the item won’t get your money back on it’ 🤯😳 I needed to hear this! TY! Love all these tips!
So true!
When we were children, if our next door neighbours left any of their toys outside their mother threw them in the garbage! 😧 It seemed so harsh, but those kids quickly learned to respect their toys!
I love both regifting stuff and receiving regifted items for so many reasons!! I love that it's not wasteful, it's recycling, and if you want to pass it on you don't have to feel bad. It's awesome when it comes to kids toys and books
I gave a used toy at a one-year-old's birthday party once. I was embarrassed, but then felt better later when the mom said they play with that gift all the time and had wanted one. It's not "normal," in our society to do this, but it should be!
Really great video! I like the tip "just because something is valuable, doesn't mean it is adding value to your life"- so true!!!
Candice, can you please talk about paper clutter? And a filing system
I made a quick video on paper clutter. It was one of my first times in front of a camera, but if you want some simple ideas check it out.
When it comes to gifts, and the giver is someone I’m close to, I usually hang onto them for about a 6-month window. If it’s clothing, I try to wear it at least a few times, etc. But I can’t even remember the last time someone checked up on a gift they gave me, certainly not more than 6 months after giving it, so I don’t think it’s a big deal to just get rid of it if it is causing you grief.
Can I just tell you, my jaw dropped when I was listening to your video today … because on Jan 22 this year, I wrote these words as I was thinking about beginning my own decluttering adventure - “It’s not that it doesn’t have value, it just doesn’t have value for me.” Haha! Too funny! But honestly, this was a turning point for me, to understand that distinction, which also brought in a lot more clarity. So thankful for you and finding your videos - thank you for all the encouragement you give to each of us on this journey. God bless you!
I LOVE that! That's such a good way to put it. Good luck on your decluttering journey. I'd say I'm about half way there with mine, and it's so worth it!
I've heard this time and time again .... once you say "thank you" the gift is yours to do with as you choose, I don't always live by this though!
Yess! Byyyye to all those little pain in my behind, toys. I toss things all the time and they never, ever, ever ask where it went. I tried to contain and clean up all those toys for YEARS. My time and sanity is so much more important.
I love your decluttering rules for your children - you are giving them such a gift of self-discipline - you are a great mom !!!
Yay! You just motivated me to part with my daughter's senior prom gown. With her permission I am donating it. It is not valuable to me even though it has value...thanks for the nudge....btw...prom was 8 years ago!
I still have my prom dress...from 1981. I have no idea why, except it's keeping my mom's wedding dress company. lol
@@intothefire9270 Hee, hee!
There are organizations that take prom dresses and give them to students in need! Something to look into in your area 💞or even connect with the high school social worker to see if there’s a need.
Think of thrift stores as object lending libraries. You can buy or replace things for less than $20 and feel less guilty when you re-donate items still in good condition.
Guess what our oldest son said to me the other day. We were talking and I said I’m keeping these items because you or your brother might need the money some day. He said sell it now and you and Dad enjoy the money! ❤️
I have kept things because they were such a nice gift, but you are so right about not feeling guilty about it. There is one thing I have kept that immediately comes to mind that I really need to get rid of, and Ive been on the fence about it for a while. So thank you for the push I needed. ❤
Yes!! This video was exactly what I needed today. I have my donation piles ready to go.
Love the idea of only keeping 1 or 2 things to remember a person by.
With gift declutters, how I deal with it depends on who gave it to me. We don't entertain much, so gifts from people who don't live here I'm good with just letting it go. If it's from my husband or kids I struggle. I'll keep and try to use the best I can, as long as I can.
I get hung up on clothes and makeup -- I love them !! But I wear uniforms to work !! So my clothes don't get worn out or worn often!! I like my clothes they fit !!! Its hard to let go !!
In my opinion I wouldn't send a thank you before decluttering. They might think that you appreciated the stuff then give you more. I try to not hold onto things too tight. So I would thank them for thinking of you, and it might soften the blow if you let them know you passed it on to a good cause. (I have a generous gifter that would fill my house over if I let it).
I love your tip, makes you feel better and the person that gave you the gift, letting them know it was appreciated. 😊 Also, that way you don't have to be nervous about the person coming over and asking about the gift in the future. It's a win win! 🤗
Great video!
Love the 20/20 rule!
Alison love when you said it maybe be totally useful just not to you.
That was a light bulb moment for me❤️
Oh man! This is so me!! Guilt over money and this is a big one,what if I need it...my parents grew up in the depression and stockpiling became second nature. Not hoarding but two of everything. Thank you for your tips and encouragement
I wouldn’t want to mislead the gift-giver by making them think I like it, and then encourage them - in a sense - to give me more things like that. Instead I’ll declutter whatever I need to. I will thank them repeatedly for the things that I did want to keep (and do the picture thing) so that steers them in the right direction for next time. Also discuss how I am very selective, attempting to minimize & declutter, and that I appreciate experiences & consumables as gifts even more. If they ask about a gift I didn’t keep when they’re visiting, I’ll tell them the truth in a kind way, and sometimes I’ve given the item to someone else, so I say something like “A friend really loved it and needed it more, so I let them have it.” I don’t know if that is mean of me, but I personally don’t get offended when my gifts are regifted or donated. It just helps me get a better understanding of what that person values. I’d dislike it more if they kept it and it was an eye sore to them the whole time 😂
my mom hates my being minimalist, and criticizes every time I declutter something. we live one next to the other, and when I asked her the immersion blender I no longer had she said "no". so it made me smile when you said to borrow from a family member...
This video came at the perfect time! I have pared down so much over the last couple of years and I am at the point where I am struggling with the rest of the items I have stored away and it is exactly for this reason- guilt for various reasons.
I love your content and techniques, they are very helpful
I try to watch as many of you videos as possible to help me through my decluttering journey
I have a long long way to go, but you give me hope Ty👍🏽
I really like your idea of taking a picture while using a gift and sending it to the giver. Better than a thank you note! The giver can feel the sense of joy that they chose and gave the gift. And maybe they won’t ask where it is in the future.
I struggle with this and the "what ifs" so this is so helpful. I have gone through and donated a lot but I still have ALOT to go through little by little.
When my boys were little and they wouldn’t pick up their toys at the end of the day, I would put the toys they left behind in the garage and will give them back in two months. They learned their lesson pretty fast.
Whatever you do, don't lie to the giver when you have gotten rid of an item they gave you. That's a lot more hurtful than them thinking you aren't using it.
I love watching ur videos
Thank you I needed to hear this today! I’m setting the on the floor out the door policy in our home with kids toys.
Thanks for the great tips as always.
Love your videos! Pls keep it coming!!
When you have a chance… can you do a jewelry to keep and declutter video? I have such a hard time getting letting it go 😩
😊 thanks.
Hey my friend, Girl Girl Girl I am so into the declutting because of you. Thanks so much for sharing you life with us.
If I get a gift that I feel was well thought out and functional from the giver I will keep it but if it’s something that clearly shows it wasn’t even given 10 seconds of their time I will donate it or even throw it out
Thank you for these tips!! Very helpful.
❤ thank you!!
You are so welcome!
This motivate me to declutter today
I just started so I don’t have time to wear or use gifts
I have too much stuff so I will donate gifts I don’t use
Everyone is hooked up on re gifting items WHY not look at it as passing it forward to someone
I agree! If it’s a *thoughtful* re-gift it’s actually more generous to me than going out and buying something. If I look at things I have and realize that one of my friends would love them much more than I do offering it to them as a gift is not a bad thing to me. Most often I tell the person “so and so gave me this but it seems like something you would love.” Thoughtless gifting and regifting are the problem. I’d rather get nothing than get some random item, and I try not to give random thoughtless items either.
Very awesome advice 👏, thank you so much💓
I have decluttered and I am organized but I have a hard time with getting rid of items my kids gave me.
Some people really DID give you a thing to guilt you and/or control you or even to hold you to future obligations to them. But that’s still not right Imo. People imo really need to stop being so butt hurt when it comes to things like that. I just look at that as their problem tho and not mine and in the future I might just say no thanks. Don’t want your “gift” (which is actually their heavy onus of forced obligation to them that they imposed upon us against our will. So truly, who’s the one being “rude” here eh? Bcuz it ain’t me being rude whenever I get rid of a thing I don’t really want). Plus if I gave them a thing they didn’t keep, it would be ME who needed to reevaluate my gift giving game eh? And I would also do that without getting my feelings hurt...but esp not guilt trip them. If they don’t want it then they don’t want it. It’s just that simple to me. I am not the thing ya know. And I don’t lose self esteem points just Bcuz maybe I didn’t pick the ideal thing for them. And so likewise I expect the same graciousness from others to me. So well ya know. Their issues with attaching themselves so personally to just mere stuff isn’t our problem or our burden to have to carry. Ok rant over. Lol. It’s just that I know. When you get so much with strings, you just don’t want “gifts” anymore. Let’s just make sure it’s a true gift and not a guilt bribe or a guilt induced transaction. I’d rather get nada than to have to be so utterly beholden to some folks.
I don’t want to lie to someone that I am using what they gave me then declutter it or only get it out only when they are visiting.
Exactly! I found this to be a bit manipulative. I'm going to take a picture of me loving the item you gave me...loving it so much I'm planning to get rid of it the second I snap this photo to prove how much I love it? Just thank the person when you receive it, enjoy it while you use it, and declutter when it's served it's purpose in your life.
I really like your content, but the background music is really stressful to my ears. I have ADHD and too much sound gives me anxiety. 😕