How to Discern Pretty Much Anything
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- Опубліковано 16 лип 2020
- How to discern God’s will is one of Fr. Mark-Mary’s favorite topics. He has some principles he uses to guide his discernment.
He narrows these principles down to four: needs, responsibilities, desires, and capacities.
Needs: We need to be intimate with God’s word. He has already given us his word, but often we haven’t read it before discerning. Have a regular relationship with the Word of God. The primary place we should look to learn his will is in Scripture.
Responsibilities: School, your career, or your living situation are examples of responsibilities that you should consider when figuring out God’s will for you. God probably isn’t calling you to travel the world as a missionary if you’re the father of five kids under seven. If you’re a student who needs to study, God probably is not calling you to go on a service trip with friends.
Desires: Even though they shouldn’t determine everything, your desires do matter. If a desire doesn't go against the other principles, then do it.
Capacities: If you want to do service and grow in your relationship with God, understand your limitations. If you’re honest about your capacities, God will understand. Maybe you just don’t have the capacity to make that extra commitment. Whether or not you can do something is important, and if you can’t that’s nothing to be ashamed of. God is probably calling you to something else. If you push yourself too much you may end up hurting yourself and others.
Lastly, we can all do a better job serving the needs of the poor. When discerning, do not forget what you can do for them.
Remember, we are pilgrims. Little by little, we’re going to make it.
Also, check out Jackie and Bobby Angel’s book, Pray, Decide, and Don’t Worry: 5 Steps to Discerning God’s Will. (ascensionpress.com/collection...)
Ascension also has other great free resources on discovering God’s will for you. You can find them here (media.ascensionpress.com/?s=d....
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1. Word of God
2. Duties and responsibilities
3. Needs of the world, my family and community
4. Capacity - considering your limitations and asking: "can I do this?"
And also
5. "do I want to do this?"
Thank you so much for these guidelines Fr. Mark Mary!
Very well summed up.
BUT! JuliaToute? JESUS wants you to be a christian! NOT a lost roman catholic pagan!
no?@Lance Alonte! for? that is a waste of time!
BUT! he's only copied it from above?@@pascalmoisan3055?
@@josephcorrigan9160thats the whole point-we write Gods words on our heart to remember
I discerned becoming a Dominican nun about 2 years ago, contacting several different convents and visiting one that was relatively close to where I am from. I absolutely loved the times that I visited that monastery, praying with the nuns and learning about the Dominican charism. However, I have certain difficulties that have ended up hindering me from becoming a nun or religious sister. It is incredibly difficult to come to terms with the fact that I am just not cut out for it!
I wanted to serve the Lord with everything and with my whole life, and I still do....One thing I've learned, though, is that you have to serve Him in His way, otherwise you are doing your will more than His.
Just wanted to share my story.
I discerned and loved the dominicans as well. I ended up with an amazing husband instead. Truly he is wonderful and it was my deepest desire. You can have a whole interior life and still be married/single. It is lovely to pray all day but sometimes God is not calling you to that. I hear you though, the Dominicans of Hawthorne we just incredible!
Thanks a lot!! I need to hear this
BUT! there? is NO! dom. charism? jellojenna6? BUT? JESUS wants you to be a christian!
I can relate. After two vocation retreats and more recently a visit to a convent - all years apart in my long discernment - I know would be too grieved from missing being out in the world. That’s why I’d have to choose consecration. This video helped me humbly accept my limitation.
Thank you for sharing your experience. God bless 🙏
I made a commitment to work for my non-Catholic ministry full-time However, for the last 4 months, I’ve been drawn to study the. Catholic Faith. ABBA Father, may your Will be done 🙏🏾
You will be so surprised..you will not turn back..or look back. God bless
Praying for you that you choose the path He has for you.
I'm so happy for you! May the Lord guide you and open your heart to listen to Him.
Brow Catholic faith is about humbeling yourself and having a big heart and suffering for others while praying and worship the lord quitely and only the lord knows your 💓
Let the Lord guide you.
I could use some prayer. I am between my life as a protestant and my life as a catholic right now. I have to wait because of COVID but it's needed. Since I was going to school to be a pastor in the protestant world, it only makes sense that now I pursue becoming a priest. Same plan, different church.
I think I'm being lead to the FSSP. I've never once been in a catholic church, but I've seen online the high mass that they do in my area and it's incredible, and the FSSP is very attractive to me in regards to my needs and my desires as a worker for Christ.
That's where I'm at. Since God has lead me to pursue catholicism, my faith has been completely renewed, and so his voice is being heard very strongly. I'm hoping for prayer that I get connected with the parish I will be attending soon, even though COVID is happening. I so desperately want to speak to a learned catholic in person because there isn't a single catholic I know personally. I'm sitting here just waiting for the chance to talk to a catholic who can help me understand what's going on in the masses I keep watching, hoping to be a part of them soon. I just have so many questions and such a huge desire to be with a catholic. Everyone I know right now is either indifferent or keeping their distance from the issue because it isn't easy for them. Talking to someone who can talk back would be such a huge deal for me. Thank you for your prayers. I'm hoping I could get some prayer that I meet with someone from the parish in my area soon.
How wonderful. Stay steadfast in your desire to grow closer to Our Lord and while you wait, I would recommend praying the Holy Rosary. It is a powerful devotion that we use to meditate on the life, death, and glory of Our Lord, Jesus, while asking His Blessed Mother, Our Mother Mary, to pray with us. We meditate on different mysteries of His life to show our love and devotion to all parts of His time on Earth, but also to seek the virtues within the mystery that we can imitate in our own lives while trying to live lives free of sin. There are many good instructionals and beautiful videos to follow along with on UA-cam to help you get started. You will certainly be in my prayers on this. 💗 Dominus vobiscum!
Contact the Catholic Church, you can set up an appointment with the Priest and speak with him. Praying for you in your journey. Catholic Faith is beautiful.
There is book called A Biblical Walk Through The Mass by Edward Sri, published by Ascension. It explains the roots of the Mass, why the Mass is the way it is, & a thorough explanation of each part of the Mass. There are also video installments here on UA-cam of the book, taught by Edward Sri. An online site called Catholic Answers, which has apologists explain things & answer questions, is also another resource; if you read the forums, you will see questions from others who have probably had similar questions as yours. Another very good thing is to watch each day's Mass as if you were in church, right here on EWTN's UA-cam channel. Depending on where you live, perhaps you could have a meeting w/ a priest in an outdoor setting in a garden, wearing masks to be safer from virus? I feel certain any priest would love talking w/ you. Deacons are very helpful as well, many of whom are Spiritual Directors. I'm just a regular ol' Catholic who prays for more people to be part of the Church, & for those who feel a calling to serve. 🙏
Yes praying the rosary, especially all 20 mysteries is very powerful. Blessed are you that are called to priesthood. Meditating and contemplating the mysteries helps you listen to the Holy Spirit inside you.
The Eucharist in the Catholic Church will be your deciding factor!! You + Jesus being offered to God the Father !! All anxieties of the world become as nothing ----- literally exchange of 💓 heart's!
The Spirit of the Lord is upon you God Himself HAS ANOINTED you filling you with His Holy Spirit of Wisdom Love and Healing setting you free and clearing your mind of what is not from Jesus !!🙏🙏
Can this be a series? I've been praying so much for this so much. To stop whatever you're doing just to clearly hear, discern, and follow God's will takes patience and humility.
Agreed!! Would love a full series on this.
Me too!
Me too
Yes please a series on this
Suggesting you all check out Fr. Timothy Gallagher’s extensive series on Discernment of Spirits
This is a very important topic.
I would like to see a series on this topic addressing different specific situations of discernment in depth.
I agree. This video was a huge help for me, but having more in depth coverage of discernment processes/fundamentals would probably be pretty helpful.
the guy only does little sound bite videos. lengthy meaningful solid discussions don't happen.
I have the desire to become a nun. I am praying to God to lead me to the right congregation. 🙏 Sometimes I thought I would want to be a pink sister so I can devote myself into prayer and be separated from the chaos of the world but I realized that God must have made me to become a nurse so I could serve His people. I hope and pray to give my whole life to Him only someday... But Thy will be done...
I’ve never been so early for an ascension presents video!
that most be incredibly exciting
It hit me when you said to be humble enough to admit "can you handle it".... I'm deserning putting my kids back into school from homeschooling. With my weakness.... its taken a toll on my health. I want to homeschool but feel I physically can't anymore. Thank you for helping with my thought process. God bless
I was so taken up by that talk I actually felt like I was sitting in the same room as you and that you were talking only to me. Thank you Fr. You're very easy to listen to. Your message is clear. God bless you too.
Thank you so much for saying that we need to know that being honest about our limitations doesn’t disappoint God. What a kindness for you to remind us of that. Thank you.
I'm going back to this video every now and then. Really helpful and hopeful. Thank you so much! God bless!
This I don’t understand. Due to this pandemic our finances was down and our bills pile up. But this PEACE that i am feeling is awesome.
Thank you for this video. For me, even the word ‘discern’ is just painful. It’s hard to understand that He cares about my desires-I just want to be pleasing to Him and be a good daughter. Knowing that what I want and like plays a part with everything else has always been an obstacle for me.
@Christos The Lords understanding is beyond all human understanding, be the best you can be in life, we all know right from wrong, this gives you your morals and integrity, not to worry he does truly love you !!! We make mistakes in life, and we learn from them, he understands this completely, many blessings to you!!! P.S. your desires are from the Lord he gives them to you, and your hopes and dreams!
Just as a loving earthly father wants to bless his children, so to, how much more does our infinitely loving Heavenly Father love you and want to bless you! You are His beloved daughter and He cares about every detail of your life 💕
Christos I’m not sure I understand what you mean. Do you mean feeling like you keep misunderstanding Him when you try to be faithful to a desire He puts in your heart, or like you’re not sure which desires are from Him and which are disordered and need healing and refocusing? I’ve felt those before!
Chaplain Chris Thank you for the blessings! And thank you for the kind words and reassurances-they are much appreciated. :) I think it’s because I’m still trying to heal from a mindset of wanting/feeling like I have to be perfect in order to be loved, or wanting to be worthy of receiving such love. I know it’s a gift and I can’t earn it, that no one can earn such a gift. I guess I’m just one of His kids who yearns to give Him back a gift of love as well. Abba bless you too! Take care 😊
The Diaz Family Thank you for that reminder. 🌻 I think you raise a very good point on earthly parents, who are the first reflection of our Loving Abba. Earthly parents aren’t perfect, no matter how hard they try for their children (or don’t try), and I think there’s probably an aspect of fatherhood and/or motherhood we all have to learn about and experience from Abba Himself. Being the oldest I’m used to giving up desires for my siblings and used to taking on the brunt of expectations and traditions. It’s hard for me to voice what I want sometimes to others without feeling incredibly selfish, and even to discern what my desires are, since I always end up overthinking and wondering if it’s okay to want anything. I think in that sense I am so used to being an independent person and taking care of others that in some ways I’ve forgotten how to be a child and how to ask for things I want and voice my feelings. Voicing out feelings has usually if not always resulted in them being brushed off or being logically whittled down to being foolish. Ack, sorry for my long reply!! But yes, I know that Abba smiles tenderly at me and walks with me every step of the way to learning more about Him. 😊 Abba bless you and take care!!
I ask in Jesus's Name for prayers of discernment in my life. Thank you. God bless you.
"In accepting my limitations ... it doesn't disappoint God." Wow. I'm sure that's true, but I've never heard it said like that.
“The cry of the poor” 🙏🏽♥️
Please pray ! We need to pray for the world. God help us.
Our needs will always be provided for..... our wants will never be satisfied.
God grants your wants if it fits His plan for you and God wants you to have the best. What you want may not necessarily be good for you and He knows it. He will give you more then what you could fathom. Pray, keep your Faith , and He will answer when the time is right. Just be ready to recognize it and go after it when opportunity present itself.
Glad it worked out that way for you then. That's nice.
Wow. I want to be/think/learn like YOU now, and have been feeling that since I first heard you speak. Thanks you SO much. God bless you.
JESUS CHRIST bless!!! Awesome vid as always!
Thank you Fr. Mark-Mary....what you have said connected with the Word of God that i read few minutes ago....The world is in chaos right now and we need to focus on God to be able to survive both spiritually and physical. Amen.
I love how practical these videos can be. I’m a mom of seven, so the practical implementation of these ideas is clutch.
This is wonderful, thank you so much Father Mark-Mary!
I started reading my Bible yesterday (been reading so much other Catholic books) its the Ignatius study Bible with commentary Scott Hahn (and even read the foot notes commentary) thank you so much again for the video. It spoke to me immensely! Even have the Saint Joseph edition New American Bible to compare. BOOM! Im starting from the beginning of the New Testament.
I think a lot of us are attracted to priesthood after the pandemic lockdown, a lot of priest have lost their lifes due to Covid-19. I am sure God will fill those places with young priests, strong and willing to serve Jesus’s herd.
Asking for prayers, my heart doesn’t know what to choose currently.
I have literally been waiting for a video like this !!
Great Video! Thank you for sharing!!
At the moment i have a strong pull to pray rosary for mothers inpurgatory who had abortions but never confessed it .
thank you father!!
Fr. Mark Mary, you'll be a wonderful priest. You are so good at explaining things in the simplest terms. Reading God's Word and praying the Rosary is my daily routine. God bless you and keep you safe down in Honduras. You are doing His work and He will bless you richly.
Thank you for your wisdom!
Thanks Father!
Thank you Father🙏🏻🕊🔥
Fr Mark Mary, u r awesome!! Bless u!!
I really needed this! Thank you.
Thank you Father Mark-Mary.
Awesome words!!!
Love Father Mark-Mary. 🙏
One must stay committed to life learned lessons & overcome all obstacles, limiting one's closeness to God.
Thank you Father, very helpful!
Thank you so much Father.
Thank you for unraveling confusion.
I love you, Fr. Mark-Mary
This was perfect in my struggle to figure out what God wants me to do vs what I want me to do. He could not have made it more clear for me. Thank you!
Thank you. Sometimes we need to break things down.
This is a huge issue in Protestantism of which I’ve been a part of my whole life. Gods calling is always arbitrary, and there is never anyone can say to you otherwise. For example, I know someone who believes they are called to be a missionary in foreign countries. This person has a wife and 5 children, but they are expected to follow along in the calling, and their needs are secondary to Gods will in this mans life. I’ve seen this scenario played out over and over, to the point that children are being put in harms way or sent to be a sort of missionary of their own because the parents feel God wants them to. And no one can question that God is calling them, because who can question such a thing? I wish there was more common sense in the lives of the many Christians I’ve known.
Thank you. 🙏
Boy this is timely for me. Thank you
Great advice, simple and straightforward. Thank you.
Very helpful to me on a personal level. Thank you!
Thank you for this wonderful video Father! It was all great information, but what especially stood out to me is when you said to consider the needs of the poor....I dont remember anyone else suggesting to do that with discernment...so important! Thank you!!
Thank you 😊
Thank you from a Protestant in NC.
I love this guy and his videos
Loved this video! I've always wondered about this topic. He made it so easy to understand!! Thank you!
Very helpful, thank you
Thank you for sharing your insights! Very informative! God bless you and your vocation. Thank you for being faithful to your calling!
REALLY enjoyed this. Thank you Father! God Bless...
"Be honest about your limitations" . Great advice. Thank you, Fr. Mark Mary.
Thank you, Fr.! Great video and resonating message.
So helpful, thank you. Working on discernment lately, maybe not as hard a I should, for my career path.
This was *wonderful*, thank you Fr. Mark-Mary!
Thank you. I get your point and perhaps it will help me establish this line of thought correctly.
Thank you. This video is on point and real-world useful
I've always wanted to be a wife, mother and nun... but feels like God is saying "no"...for all of them, at least for now. 😬
1. Purity of intentions
2. Capacity to become
3. Capacity to remain
Don't worry. It will work out. God bless you.
@@chefEmersonWilliams Thank you! God bless you too!
your so wise, I love monks, God Bless you this talks are wonderful
Thank you, Father Mark Mary, all your videos are so thoughtful - I want to do God's will for me - I want to hear him so I'm going to read the bible and listen.
Thank you, Father Mark-Mary! This video came at the most opportune time. I especially appreciate the notes because I took them! 😇
Thank you for this beautiful video, Fr. Mark!!🙏🏾🙏🏾
Thank you
Wonderful perspective to discern and make right decisions in our lives. Thank you 🙏
Excellent, Fr Mark-Mary! Thank you. This is very helpful.
This was beautiful Fr Mark-Mary
Thank you for your words. I always want to follow the Lord and ask for His mercy in leading me on the right path but sometimes I get in his way.
Thank you Fr for this, you have basically touched all the questions I’ve been searching answers for especially during this week
That was the most helpful video I have watched in a LONG time. Thank you!
Yes! I have found this talk very encouraging, uplifting, and helpful. Thank you for taking the time to make the video.
Thank you For Mark, for this extremely practical and useful advice. God bless🙏
That was really good and... timely. Thanks.
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So helpful, thank you!
This is no. 1 Your best video!
Im happy that I finded this channel
Thank you Father Mark-Mary. your guidance on discernment really clarified the issue for me.
Amazing video! You definitely swim well in the waters of this topic. It is perfect guidance. God Bless you Father Mark Mary
I always get encouragement from your message.. thank you Fr ...
That was amazing!!
I enjoyed it
Thankyou!!
So helpful.
Wow fantastic video. Very clear, exactly what I need right now
Thank you!
I saw it was really good so I stop to bring a notebook to write it dawn.
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Fr. Mark Mary! Amazing...as always! Tell Fr. Gabriel I said Hi.
Thank you so much for your amazing advice. The Lord is truly within you. May Jesus Christ be with us all! 💛
Thank you..
The concept of "capacities" is important. I am so much happier when I recognize I have limited capacities.
Thank you Fr. Mike-Mary! You helped me a lotto understand and acknowledge that my capacity matters as well. It would be great if the Church could help more for everyone to discover how they can contribute within their capacities, even if they don't go for a consecrated life.
I’m a 26 yr old single women & I know Gods plan is what will make me truly satisfied, happy & fulfilled. It’s definitely a constant battle and at times I feel incredibly lost. I pray rosaries, divine mercy chaplets, try to go to more masses during the week & am trying to learn more about my faith but I still feel lost & that I’m not doing what God wants me to do. I definitely need to put my trust and accept Lords will for my life and to stop worrying and being afraid. (Easier said than done). Praying for all vocations and anyone going through discernment of any kind.
Great advice! I needed to hear this.
I wish the world worked like this... People honouring their commitments.
Im not catholic or even very religious, But I believe in God, and Jesus. Ive seen evil, real true evil. And Im very poor, bad health kinda at only 40, So I cant afford a vehicle to get to a church way out here in the country, hard to get a ride anyway. Its difficult. Anyway's Mark is real wise and give's great advice, life advice.Not just Spiritual.. Great video's
God has opened my mind to understand things that others have labored to discover but failed to, but God opened the path towards knowledge for me in such a way that I can receive understanding that is for me alone, I am not even able to share it with others apart from that God does it and it is amazing