LET'S TALK ABOUT DEPRESSION | Wonderful You
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- Опубліковано 13 жов 2024
- I feels really strange to be back filming for UA-cam and to be so open about why I've been gone - but I hope you enjoy this video. Sending you ALL the love and thank you for being the best people in the world! xx
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The silent watcher HAD to comment. You are brave; braver than you know, or could ever imagine. I am SO proud of you xxx
It took me a little bit more than 5 years to get completely rid of my depression. And just like you I was sad because I knew I was a complete different person because of depression and I was missing the old me quite a lot. I was like: Why can't I just be myself again? I was so cool before all of this. And even today, now that I'm cured I'm still not the same person I used to be. But in a way, I've become a stronger person even if I have anxiety and social fear but I know when it happens and I try to fight it as much as I can. It's not always easy, but I know I do my best.
Thanks for this video, being honest this way, I hope you'll get better soon. You'll get through this I'm sure, and it's going to make you so much stronger I promess. Love from France
Thank you so much for your words Marceline - you're such a wonderful person. You should be so proud of yourself xx
I have alot of anxiety and sonetimes i just get random hits of depression and sometimes when i see my therapist i feel really silly bc i cant explain as u said and this video really helped me clear a pathway for myself. To understand that im not the only one, i knew i wasnt but this really showed me im not alone. Thank you🙏🏻💓
I found that depression made me capable of more than I would have. I've learnt about mindfulness and meditation as a result. Being in the darkest depths has given me perspective that i would never have had xx
I adore this. Thank you Malia x x
It's great that you're talking about it lovely. I know how hard it is to just admit that something isn't right. I was first diagnosed with depression when I was 15, and it's pretty much continued since then and I'm now 28. I've had better times and I've had very dark times. I kind of accept it as part of me now and just take each day as it comes. There is a lot of treatment out there - whether that's medication, therapy or something else, but it's often a fight to access it sadly. And it's not always going to bring a 'cure' which I feel is really important to acknowledge. I went into treatment thinking I would be fixed - and don't get me wrong, some people are - but I struggled for a long time feeling like I was a failure because I couldn't get better. So now I try to look at it as managing my depression, rather than fixing it. If you ever want someone to chat to, I'm more than happy to talk/listen. Lots of love xxx
I hope everyone who watched this video has read your comment Jenny - how insightful and beautifully raw. I applaud you for being so strong and hitting the nail on the head. I think depression changes who you are forever, and perhaps none of us will find a cure for that - but for the weakness it imposes, it also makes us so much stronger. I am sending you all the love x x x
I cannot put into words how thankful I feel about this video, I rly hope u know how telling people about your struggles rly can help them and make them feel less alone like you have done for me X thank you xx
Thank YOU so much for taking the time to comment lovely. I really appreciate it :-) xxx
wonderful_u are you doing better?
Megan, you are an amazing wonderful person. The help, hope you are giving people young and older is fantastic. I believe you have been given this illness for a reason. Your honesty, compassion, sharing is going to help countless others. I am an older person with this illness, it's indescribable the agony of dealing with it. I described it as being in hell and trying to crawl out. Yes their is a stigma, but wonderful people like you will help change that. I wish you good health, happiness in everything you do. Be gentle with yourself, you truly are amazing, an inspiration.
Oh Mary, your comment has made me cry, but for all the best reasons. Thank you for being so generous and kind with your words - I'll never be able to express the gratitude I feel. From the bottom of my heart, you are wonderful x x
Megs, you nearly had me in tears! I'm so glad you've been able to talk about this, as you said people see depression as a 'taboo' subject, so you've done an amazing job at raising awareness. You are so so amazing, I really admire you. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I've missed your videos so much! Sending you lots of loveeee xxxxxx
Oh lady, thank *you* so much for being so wonderfully supportive and lovely. I appreciate it more than I will ever be able to say x x
All the descriptions and all the words completely describe this state. it feels like it has changed you, its a deep sadness that you cant explain. a sadness without words...
Honestly - i get it. sometimes it feels like i have this hole inside of me and i just kept feeding it my emotions until it had all of my emotions and it BECAME me. I'm so tired of people judging me because i'm not myself - i can't help that. it's not constant either and sometimes all i can do is cry because that seems to be the only feeling that this heartless void won't rid me of. I'm 15. I never asked for this. I just wanted to have a shot at life but most the time it feels like this numbness inside of me has taken even that.
I feel so much love for this video! I love to raw, honest vulnerability that came across and I think it is something that isn't often seen. I too am struggling with depression. And took a leave of absence from youtube because like you said things got too dark. Or at least the way I saw things. I've only just came back and I'm excited that you are here too!! This video is awesome and you should be so proud of yourself. I started therapy about six weeks ago and that has really been helping me. Like I honestly didn't think it would. but it is doing wonders working out the chaos in my head. Also on antidepressants. I think a key thing is to figure out self care routines, and put plans in place for when you start to feel panicky, or dark. I have anxiety tied up in the depression too, so its reassuring to have those plans to know I'm ok. LIke you said its a journey. but we've got this. And if you look back to where you started you can see how far you've come. Thankyou for making this!! so much love and good vibes going your way.
OH love, thank you so so much for taking the time to write. I'm so glad that you are seeking the help you deserve and that therapy is helping you :-) I love that the internet can bring people like us together and help us all feel less alone. Sending you so much love x x
What annoys me the most is when people say "you don't have anything to be depressed about so why are you sad". That's literally like saying to someone who is in a good mood "you have nothing to be happy about so why are you happy?"
You are a brilliant lady and as someone who is going through the same thing right now (and on and off for the last 10 years) I can tell you that it does get better and you will learn new ways of coping and getting the old you back. The worst part of depression or any other mental health issue is admitting you have a problem but that is also the bravest part. Sending you lots of love Megs x
Thank you so much for your words Sophie - they mean the world. Sending you the biggest hug and all the love x x
This has resonated with me so much. I recently opened up to my best friend and it turned out we are both struggling and it was so refreshing to speak to someone who actually understands. It's so difficult to explain, when there's never a specific reason for feeling completely empty/useless etc. It's the whole 'what do you have to be depressed about, you have this that and the other...' that stops me from telling people I'm struggling because I almost feel guilty and ungrateful for the good things in my life. I completely agree it can be a gradual thing, it started for me around 3 years ago while I was at uni and I've not yet made my way back.
Thank you for making this video, it's so reassuring to know I'm not alone. xxx
Oh Paige I am so glad you found the strength to open up to your friend and that together you're able to support one another, that's wonderful. I'm sending you all the love and hugs xx
we have all missed you! its so nice to see you with a video! Id love to say i know how you feel but no one ever truely knows how you're feeling except for yourself. Ive had my fair share of "down times" and my dad suffers badly with depression and PTSD. So I can relate. I'm glad you're feeling like you are on the mend! As always..your subs and followers are here to watch and listen :)xxxx chin up Megs!
Thank you so very much Sara, your comments always brighten my day and your support is wonderful. I'm so grateful xx
I totally get this. I've had depression for 8 years as well as severe social anxiety. There have been months where I haven't left the house and remained in a blacked out room just being still whilst my head was frantic and full of self destructive thoughts. It's an incredibly isolating illness, one which I still struggle with. One of the reasons I started blogging and making UA-cam videos was that perhaps I could meet some like minded people or those in a similar situation that desperately want to reach out to others but struggle to do so. I'm hoping I'll come across some people soon. Thank you for this video 💜
I love that you've been able to find a voice for yourself within the blogging community too lovely - You are not alone. xxx
It's lovely to have you back, Megs :) I hope you are feeling ok. I just want to say thank you for your continual honesty and frankness about how you are - you're one of the only people I follow who will be honest that things are not always insta-perfect and tweet-worthy, and it's so brilliant and reassuring and refreshing. Please keep doing what you want to do, and I hope the rest of the year is easier for you.
On a side note, I've always wanted to write about my own MH experiences but I feel I've never had enough experiences that are worth talking about, because they seem so insignificant. I am incredibly pro-sharing experiences and talking about MH Awareness but find it hard myself to be explicit. But seeing videos like this really is inspiring and I know this must have been a difficult thing to do! You should be proud. x
Oh lady, your support is the best thing. Thank you so much.
You should never underestimate the impact of your experiences. Nothing is insignificant - you are important and valued and matter. You should be proud of everything you do xx
I think its really brave of you to talk about your depression, and it needs to be something people can feel comfortable saying to people, its not something we can help after all! I found that when I had depression, my biggest realisation (after having a panic attack in the middle of the night and passing out in the kitchen...) was that I needed to change things in my life. It took time, but I got out of a soul crushing job, and feel like I'm now on a path that could lead to a good career and I'm happier. Still have down days, but I don't know that depression ever fully goes away.
I'm so so pleased to hear that you made such positive changes in your life. I truly do believe that everything happens for a reason and that even though it can be the most debilitating thing, it can also help shape us in to the people we were destined to be xx
You are so brave megs Thankyou for sharing this video and talking to us x
Thank you so so much lovely lady xxx
I'm currently suffering with chronic anxiety and depression where I've been hospitalised due to it. I think a mixture of medication, cbt, a 1:1 therapist and mindfulness is the best combination... it's such a crap feeling when you get the 'sads' for no apparent reason like you mentioned. But I find by just knowing you're not alone and there are people you can talk to who are going through something similar has been an amazing support. Good luck with your journey and thank you for sharing this video x
Thank you so much Kate xx
This is such a powerful video, it's so refreshing for someone to acknowledge that you don't have to have 'something to be depressed about' to be depressed. Your never alone - there's always people feeling the same x
Thank you so much xx
This video was like watching 12 minutes of someone describing me. Thinking of you, and massive clicks for standing up and talking about it, it's so so important. Wish I was as brave as you! Xx
Thank you so much for your kind words Katie - you have commented on this video, your bravery is already shining through xx
You have helped so many people by posting this and I think it is great that you have spoken so openly. I feel like since having my second baby I have been on the verge if that makes sense, but for now I am just being aware of my feelings and hoping things will settle. I relate to feeling nothing at times - an emptiness that is hard to hide. I started UA-cam to reach out and to sort of fill something I felt was missing like talking to people without having to leave the house and watching this video makes that feel more real now because I recognise my behavior.
I am rambling now but honestly you are truly inspirational and absolutely beautiful with a big heart.
Lots of love to you and thank you for posting this xxx
Hannah you are not rambling at all. I'm so glad that you've been able to recognise differences for yourself and address them - that's so very difficult. And I'll always be here as a reminder that you're wonderful xx
Thank you for sharing honey. I've written about my battle with depression a whole lot on my blog for the same reason you did this video and wrote your post, it needs to be spoken about. My medication helps me so much and I have learnt how to cope. I sincerely send you so much love because I really 'get it', the numbness followed by hyper sensitivity is excruciating and so hard to articulate to people. Love you lots and it's lovely to have you back xx
Sending you all the love lady. Thank you for being so kind and so brave in your battle xx
So proud and happy that you're back! Much love xx almost everybody has these dark times in their lives. some suffer from depression, others throw themselves into work. I just think it is really important to talk about such problems, so others have the chance to understand and maybe even help you
Thank you so much. You're so right - the more we speak about it the better, for others and for us. xx
I feel so proud of you for speaking about your recent struggle. I still fight against my own sense of stigma regarding my depression. What you said about the darkness "sneaking up on you" - I TOTALLY relate to that! I also struggle with negative self talk about not being 'my old self'...and when I really look into that, it's like, who made a rule that I had to be any sort of particular way? Why is the present me any less than the past me? Keep talking...I would definitely enjoy more of these types of chats. If you ever need someone who's been there (still there) to bounce an idea off of, please feel free to reach out.
All the best, Rhonda
Thank you so much Rhonda. You're so right - just because we change doesn't mean we're less than before. So much love to you xx
Hi Megs. I was diagnosed with depression five weeks ago. Like you, it had been building up for a long time but I couldn't see it at the time. It took my mum saying "I think you're depressed. I think you need to go to the doctor" for me to realise. I'm on medication now and it's really helping. I'm not quite ready to tell everyone and anyone yet, just close friends and family. But all in good time. Well done for doing this video xx
I'm so glad to hear you are getting the help you deserve lovely. Sending you all the love xx
Every word in this video is completely spot on, and so brave of you to share. You are a truly wonderful and beautiful person xx
Lot and lots of love to you Meg, overjoyed you're feeling in a better place to come back to UA-cam and can't wait to see more XX
You already know just how much love I have for you xx
Thank you for being so honest and open, it must've been hard to express yourself regarding such a taboo subject (especially when it is so difficult to define depression to anyone outside of your own head). I think that this will really help others and you are so brave for speaking about this. Good luck in your recovery - wishing you all the best x
Thanks so so much Grace, I appreciate it more than I can say xx
This is such a wonderful video. I've suffered with anxiety most of my life and have also had bouts of depression. I 100% get what you say about feeling numb.You are so honest and I massively appreciate and love that xx
Thank you so so much lovely xx
It's okay not to be okay. So much respect for you opening up and talking about this. Take care of yourself. You are totally capable and I am completely on the same wavelength with that. I just want to give you a massive cuddle Megs and sit and chat with a cuppa. x
I'm sending you the biggest squeeze ever. Your comment has made my heart happy lady x x
Oh I missed you !!! I'm really happy to see you back here on UA-cam. It's so inspirational how you talk about this difficult topic. A big THANK YOU for that! I have "down times", too. School is often extremely hard and sometimes I think there is nobody I want/can talk to... But I think slowing down, taking a deep breath and talking to close people helps me the best. Thank you for the great words and hopefully we see you soon back here on UA-cam :) Lots of love from Germany
I missed you too. Thank you for being so supportive and kind :) xx
Good for you beautiful girl, even expressing how you've been feeling and your experiences will help so many others. I love you even more for this. Keep well and be kind to yourself xxx (from a former sufferer of depression)
Thank you so very much Katy. I'm sending you all the love xx
Thank you so much for sharing your journey with this! I'm on medication for post natal depression and am feeling much better but not like my old self, like you said. My dad also suffered from depression and said similar to you that because it isn't a physical thing that people can see, it is harder for people to understand. It really does need to be talked about a lot more. Thank you for being real with us, I for one would love to hear more xox
Thank you so so much Nicole, I really appreciate it. What sort of things would you like to hear more about? Xx
This is so brave of you Megan, thank you so much for being a voice for mental health and sharing your story. I too suffer from depression and can relate to everything you mentioned here, I felt it in a similar way. I reached my lowest point a few weeks ago but have been working to feel better since and am also considering anti depressants so it was good to hear your thoughts on them. You mentioned you have felt alone and isolated but please know that you're not, there's so many people in a similar position and starting the conversation is so valuable. I'm rooting for you, we can get better xxx
Thank you so much Sophie. I think we all know on the surface that we are not alone, but internally it can be so challenging to let your mind accept that and let it in. I appreciate your words so much - I'm so grateful xxx
I'm so glad that you're getting help Melanie and I hope that moving back home will be a comfort. I'm sending you all the well wishes and love xx
Aww megz :( no one ever truely knows how we're actually feeling. I'm really sorry you're feeling this way and I hope you find the answers you need to piss that dark cloud off and continue on with your life! Good luck girl, I've missed you xx
Thank you so so much Sophie xxx
Incredible video such a brave, strong, powerful, intelligent and truly beautiful inside and out women. Thank you for sharing, my battle with depression is on going and has broken who I am over again, so hearing its more common is something I need reminding. Thank you x
You need to appreciate that it's is something that you have now suffered will never vanish BUT you will learn to respect each other and coexist. When you fight to not be depressed the depression demands to be heard and gets louder. Make sure you find ways of being able to rest and allow yourself to feel when you need to. The most helpful thing I discovered is meditation/hypnosis audios on UA-cam etc. When it's really bad celebrate the positives, start with little tiny things e.g. "I made my bed" tiny steps. I could go on but you don't need overwhelming.
Thank you so much for this lady - so insightful xx
wonderfuly0u hopefully a comfort to you or someone else xxxx
Thanks for making this video and I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling this way. I've been suffering from depression on and off for 10 years and I tried taking some medication for it, but after a while I became to feel come numb from my own emotions, so I decided to cut the medication and do it alone. It flares up every now and then, but it's hard because we lead such complicated lives. However I'm glad to hear the medication is working for you. I think just even making this video is a step to getting yourself that little bit better and being your regular self again. May I suggest an app called Headspace, I find taking 10 mins to sit down with this app really helps get my day on track and helps put me in a better mood. Also looking forward to seeing regular videos from you Megan and hope you feel better soon :D xxxx
Thank you so much lovely lady. I've heard a lot about Headspace so I will definitely check it out :-) I can't tell you how much I appreciate the support, truly xx
I'm so thankful that this video came up on my twitter feed as your words are so relatable to me and represent the real life side of mental health and real struggles. you're so brave for speaking about it to so many people x
Thank you so much Gemma, I appreciate it and you more than I can say xxx
Cried watching this because I am relating so much! I am currently struggling too with depression as well among other things like anxiety. It's a very dark place to be in.
Sending you so so much love xx
So happy to see you around again. I think it's amazing you to express all this about depression because no all people is that brave to share it. I totally understand you, because I have been dealing with all this inner bad sad feelings and it's hard to admit that you need help with this. Since I saw your videos I thought they were amazing because your love and passion about everything you do and I just hope you can find a way to get all this over. Send you all my love and best wishes. You will overcome this.
Thank you so so much xx
it may sound weird but to me it helps to talk to your mind, whenever it fights against you
It doesn't sound weird at all Julia :-) xxx
I'm really glad you have the courage to upload again. I am so proud of you!
Thank you love x x
keep going lovely, you're such a role model to me and really help me out! 😘
Hi Megs, first of well done you for going to the GP and talking about it. It's always the hardest part because admitting there is something wrong with something that people can't see is hard.
I am just coming out of a scary bout of depression of over 2 years so dealing with the tail end of figuring out what my emotions are again. And the guilt of feeling unwell and figuring myself out again.
My advise? Write down memories or document them I can't remember I lot of the past two years and I am glad I write so I can remember it wasn't all shit.
Taking care of yourself and like you said it being okay to saying No to people. You have to protect yourself.
I wish you all the best on your journey to getting better love xxx
Oh lady I am so glad that you are coming out of the other end. And what a wonderful idea to write everything down - I'll definitely start doing that. Thank you so much xxx
Oh darling, sending so so much love!! Thank you so much for sharing how you're feeling, this is going to help others more than you can know! Xxx
Thank you my love xx
inspiring beautiful and unique. You are so special Megs and you stand out from the rest for your honesty and compassion. I have suffered with depression through being mentally abused by my ex partner whom i managed to break free from. Took a long time. I lost my spark but it is slowly but surely is coming back!!! And so will yours Meg. My one piece of advice to you is simple.....keeping talking about it!!!! Never hide it from loved ones or family because they will help you through. They love you no matter what. And so do we. You have chosen red hair for a reason!!! Because you young lady have fire in your belly!!!....keep going Meg you will get there. And as i always remember one piece of advise you gave on a video about being heartbroken...recovery is not linear. You have the answers already Meg they just havnt all surfaced yet....You are amazing xxxx
Oh lady, this made my heart ache. Thank you for being so kind and lovely. I can't express how grateful I am for your support. I'm so glad and proud that you've been able to push away your demons and start again - that's incredible. I am sending you so so much love. xx
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I think you hit the nail on the head with this in so many ways. If I had watched this when I struggled, you telling me it's OKAY, and that I can take my time .. feel what I feel and just be a little bit kinder to myself... I don't know if that makes any sense. And, you NEVER sound wanky ;-) Thank you Megs- I know I will draw on this in days and months to come xxx
I love you so much and we both know that I can be SO wanky when I want to ;-) Thank you for your endless support - you are wonderful xx
wonderfuly0u you are only the best kind of wanky and the best kind of friend and human being. I'll always be here to remind you of that. All the love beautiful xxx
this was really well done Meg, sending all my love xxx
Thank you so much love x
thank you so much for opening up.
Thank you so much for commenting and watching :-)
Try your best to have positive thinking!😊
I think this was a very well thought out and articulated video - like a lot of commenters, even though you were speaking about your own experiences the things you said really resonated with me - especially describing depression as a darkness creeping up on you - boy do I relate to that. A couple I would suggest are at least worth thinking about; 1- cbt, if you aren't doing it already or practicing mindfulness it might be worth trying. I'll be honest and say it didn't work for me, but I know it works for an awful lot of people and parts of it I got on with. And, hey, anything is worth trying. 2- if you are on the pill, either try taking a break from it (if you feel like you can) or try changing the one you were on. I didn't realise for the longest time how the pill could affect your mood and I feel much better now I'm on a different one and take regular breaks (mainly because I always forget to get a repeat prescription!!). Obviously they are just little things as you seem to have figured out the bigger things (seeing a gp, actually talking to people etc.) but well done for figuring those things out and confronting the problem, it is really hard to do especially when it feels like you're own mind is working against you - so I hope you're proud of the steps you have taken. Take each day as it comes and know that there will be a time when you won't feel like this anymore - trust me ;) Anyway, welcome back to the 'tube, I look forward to seeing more videos from you :)
Thank you so much lovely lady. I really appreciate your kind words and your advice. Everyone's experience is different, but it's so reassuring to know that we aren't alone in this and that people like you are brave enough to share their experiences too. I appreciate you xx
Thank you for this video. I can relate to it so much. I feel like this past year and a half has just been an uphill struggle for me to be happy. I run an Etsy shop full-time so I'm 100% overworked and I know that's one of the issues at play. My husband and I also live in a city where we don't know anyone - we're moving in June so I feel like I'm almost not bothered even trying to enjoy myself for the last few months? I can't bring myself to want to do anything or go anywhere even though I know that this is not the life I wanted for myself. In a way I'm almost scared to talk to my husband about it for fear that he'll think it's because of him or take it personally or not understand... Hopefully when we move and make friends things will get better
Lovely lady, it is moving month!! I hope that everything goes smoothly for you and that in your new home you can find a new lease of life and comfort. Sending you love x
Thank you! Thank you, so much for making this. You are amazing ❤️
Thank you Lily, you are wonderful xx
I just want to say THANK YOU ❤
thank YOU xxx
Such an inspirational video. Thank you for sharing your journey with us and I hope that from this point it becomes a better journey for you xxx
Thank you so much Franki! xx
Hi Megs, well done for this video, because it obviously is really hard for you to do, but I also hope that it has helped you a little...moved you a little step forwards. I had to go to the Dr last year for panic attacks and Anxiety, telling a Dr that I was scared when I am in my 30s seemed ridiculous and so hard, but worth it as I am now nearly back to being me, whereas before I felt broken and alone...it does need to be talked about more x blessed be x
Thank you so so much. And I am so glad that you are on the mend too :-) xx
Welcome back, hope you can make a good recovery
Thank you xx
Your a beautiful person, and anyone who you care about their opinion will be supporting you X
thank you so much xx
This is a great video, thanks for posting it!😊
#DepressionIs a sadness without words....
Thank you for making this video.
Thank you for watching :-)
I relate to every bit of this, thank you for sharing.
Thank you for your support x x x
Thanks for this video! Really needed it!
Thank you so much for watching xxx
thanks for making this video hope you feel better soon you will get through it
Thank you so much xx
It's fine you will get though it but it will take awhile all you have to do believe in your self ❤❤
so happy to have you back :))
Thank you so much xx
Goob job! :) Keep it up!
I'm happy you are back here. :)
Me too :)
Don't worry..you will get better..Just keep posting those lovely videos 💕..I suggest u to take more omega 3 it helps improving mental and overall wellness..you can also check ur vitamin d levels ..low level can be reason behind depression..love u 💕
Thank you so so much! I will definitely do that xx
Hello Meg! I'm here from Twitter @PrincesTrust account, They asked us to watch your video. I'm so glad I did. Thank you!
Oh thank you so very much :-) xxx
I know exactly what you are going through. I haven't left the house in months except to go to the doctor and even then it's hard for me to go.
Sending you all the strength and love xx
wonderfuly0u Thank you xx
so inspiring!!! ❤
Thank you so much xx
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Hi wonderful you,
I want to say good luck to you.
I liked your video.
Thank you for sharing your story. :) Xx
Rachel
Thank you so much :-) x
ps) I've been there and if ever you need to talk I've just followed you on instagram what.katy.did.next_