Matching energy is a sure fire way to filter through people. Years ago when I went to school there was a girl who I could see was low-key selfish and it came full circle around our birthdays. We all had bdays back to back. My birthday was first, 1 friend got me something and she said HBD. Then the girl who just said HBD’s birthday came around so I told her HBD 🎁 🎈. Then the bday of the other girl came and I brought her stuff. Then the girl who told me HBD saw it and had the nerve to say “you didn’t buy me anything on my bday” and I looked at her and said “you didn’t buy me anything either” and the look on her face. 😂 Yeah, you gotta watch how people move and treat them accordingly and if you’re the giving type you have to refrain from overdoing it because they will take and when your birthday or special occasion comes around it’s 🦗 🦗 🦗.
The nerves of her to fix her mouth and ask you where her gift at 🙄 i swear selfish people be shameless too! And i totally agree with you on fighting our nature when it comes to giving, i use to be like that (and still kinda am too be honest) but i am learning to match people energy all while praying God not to change my heart..
@ I didn’t even mention the time this same girl, when we were going to lunch at Mc Donald’s, instead of saying “no y’all go” when we told her let’s go she says “I only have $2.” So I’m like here we go 🫠so I said girl have you heard of the dollar menu? 😂 So she comes and we’re all buying food and she’s just wandering through the restaurant and I see her but I didn’t say anything. She was waiting on someone to offer her food. The other girls in the group didn’t pick up on what she was doing, but I was. So then we got our food and she’s sitting there and I’m like “are you not gonna get something?” And she’s like “I said I only have $2” so then everyone else said what I originally told her, she finally gets up buys herself a sandwich and I actually gave her some fries, but the point was if we didn’t tell her to go spend her $2 that girl would have sat there… SMH they definitely have no shame, but will make you shame them like you’re their parent. I used to be quick to offer help because to me it’s not a big deal however I had to look at it from the other persons viewpoint and that has saved me so much headaches. Also people like this look to become friends with people not to actually be a friend, but to use that person to meet their needs. So when I meet people I always try and see what does this person need? Just lost your job ok you need a friend that will just employ you. Just broke up with your man? Oh you need someone to be your therapist. So yeah acquaintances are the best things especially in the current climate because people are for self these days. So I’m all for going out and having fun, but please don’t call me crying I will ghost you. 😂😂😂😂😂
Matching energy is a sure fire way to filter through people. Years ago when I went to school there was a girl who I could see was low-key selfish and it came full circle around our birthdays. We all had bdays back to back. My birthday was first, 1 friend got me something and she said HBD. Then the girl who just said HBD’s birthday came around so I told her HBD 🎁 🎈. Then the bday of the other girl came and I brought her stuff. Then the girl who told me HBD saw it and had the nerve to say “you didn’t buy me anything on my bday” and I looked at her and said “you didn’t buy me anything either” and the look on her face. 😂 Yeah, you gotta watch how people move and treat them accordingly and if you’re the giving type you have to refrain from overdoing it because they will take and when your birthday or special occasion comes around it’s 🦗 🦗 🦗.
The nerves of her to fix her mouth and ask you where her gift at 🙄 i swear selfish people be shameless too!
And i totally agree with you on fighting our nature when it comes to giving, i use to be like that (and still kinda am too be honest)
but i am learning to match people energy all while praying God not to change my heart..
@ I didn’t even mention the time this same girl, when we were going to lunch at Mc Donald’s, instead of saying “no y’all go” when we told her let’s go she says “I only have $2.” So I’m like here we go 🫠so I said girl have you heard of the dollar menu? 😂 So she comes and we’re all buying food and she’s just wandering through the restaurant and I see her but I didn’t say anything. She was waiting on someone to offer her food. The other girls in the group didn’t pick up on what she was doing, but I was. So then we got our food and she’s sitting there and I’m like “are you not gonna get something?” And she’s like “I said I only have $2” so then everyone else said what I originally told her, she finally gets up buys herself a sandwich and I actually gave her some fries, but the point was if we didn’t tell her to go spend her $2 that girl would have sat there… SMH they definitely have no shame, but will make you shame them like you’re their parent.
I used to be quick to offer help because to me it’s not a big deal however I had to look at it from the other persons viewpoint and that has saved me so much headaches. Also people like this look to become friends with people not to actually be a friend, but to use that person to meet their needs. So when I meet people I always try and see what does this person need? Just lost your job ok you need a friend that will just employ you. Just broke up with your man? Oh you need someone to be your therapist. So yeah acquaintances are the best things especially in the current climate because people are for self these days. So I’m all for going out and having fun, but please don’t call me crying I will ghost you. 😂😂😂😂😂