What is Christian S3M3N Retention & The TRUTH About NO FAP
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- What is Christian S3M3N Retention & The TRUTH About NO FAP
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Understand that with anything not just sex with food exercise work life in general its about space boundaries balance and the approach no one wants to be jumped on 24/7 every second of the day in there face in an undesirable way if you eat to much sugar when you have those cravings you get sick if you work way too much too hard to lose weight you get injured its about balance and giving yourself space and time as well anything done in excessiveness gets old exhausting and too much have some time some privacy some respect about yourself its more desirable works way better moderation patience humble is key not to say there wont be those moments were you both are ready to go but master balance and control in life
6 months in. The benefits are intense and not placebo. Lust has been destroyed through the help of prayer, repentance and weights 5x a week. Keep pushing brothers. YAH bless ❤️🔥🕊
Well put friend. regeneration is absolutly real to bad so many generations were taught that we are complex mammals and of course people start to act like animals, it's why almost every week atleast one crazy person does something insane to other human so often. Besides blaming the devil, also well deserved is Darwin.
I've practiced semen retention and it's beneficial but there's nothing Magical or great about semen retention. It's only good for recovery
W both y'all
I endorse this
Amen, I'm on the journey now myself, by the grace of Yahweh.
I’m almost 2 months into SR and I absolutely noticed a CRAZY difference in all areas of my life. Guys, try your hardest to stay on the focused path. I dropped 25 pounds in less than 2 months, doing 30-40 miles a day on the stationary bike, lifting weights, eating the right things, and actually holding eye contact. I’ve been fasting and praying nonstop. My prayer game leveled up like CRAZY. Praise God I never knew I could be this free from lust.
Awesome! That's because you have to fill your "dopamine" tank through productive things rather than instant gratification.
@@geo102094 this is what i was missing, old things became no fun so i was just moping around bored and sad
@@geo102094 100% bro it’s all about redirecting my energy into more productive things. Diet was the #1 killer for me. Just made me sluggish. We’re basically eating poison when we eat processed foods here in the United states
@@boukm3n You'll start finding joy in the simple things because you're not full on instant gratification from PMO. Even something as simple as the weather will bring you joy. That's why the men of our grandparents generation had natural "game" because it's in your god given design to naturally pursue a mate. If that gets fulfilled and your testosterone depleted with PMO you don't have that desire to pursue connection with a female which your natural biology is telling you you need for a normal dopamine fix. Not to say other factors don't come into play but generally speaking emotionally healthy men are not addicted to PMO since it's generally used as a coping mechanism. But yes diet is extremely important aswell!
I hope I can get where you are bro🙏
1 year and 10 months in. Best decision ever. Struggled with lust, pron, and self gratification for over 10 years. All glory to Jesus Christ.
Amen.
Amen.
Amen.
Amazing ! ✝️🙌🏽
Have the results been steadily increasing or does it just feel normal at this point?
The term "semen retention" seems to indicate that there is power in the semen you're retaining. The power comes from Christ and disciplining yourself to being obedient to Him and honoring him.
its good in Marriage though to practice Self Control +a wholesome balanced sexLife, slow sex, caressing,=intimacy without having to orgasm, bc that keeps the attraction flowing between you and your Wife, its a type of sexuality which does not objectify/use the Partner. etc. He explains most of it above in the Video.
And Yes ALL Praises to our Lord and wonderfull Saviourgod *******Jesus Christ through Him all Things are possible.
Extremely well said. When I could fight the urge to defeat porn, lust, and gluttony. I kept thinking I didn’t have enough self discipline, but realized that I also wasn’t being obedient to god. All thing the things I’ve tried that didn’t work eventually led to this simple mindset change and that just flipped the switch for me. Temptation is 1000x easier to control ever since.
@Ludo Remm. Thank You @Daogchannel.
They are practically saying sin retention and if they strive for selfish reasons how is that biblical. I dont like when people talk about nofap because its usually them counting the days for self, we know porn and masturbation is a sin and those who FOLLOW Christ will overcome it by walking by the Spirit
@@Jeffersonwazright you obviously arent understanding that there is Gods way and "a way" from the enemy that is twisted and evil
i’m not yet married so i’m having to retain, not complaining one bit. i get some nocturnal emissions here and there, but finally getting pron out of my life and stopping the monkey spanking has indeed been life changing. i’ve been a pron/masturbation addict since the 3rd - 4th grade, i’m now 25. i’m confident that Christ has finally delivered me from that.
Stay on Guard
stay on guard brother. The enemy strikes and tempts when we think we're over it and if we're not careful it will be easy to fall in. Pray to God and abide in Him to runaway/flee from it. We're tempted and fall when we start to get prideful or not on guard
Praise God. I hv been delivered from it for 3 years now. It’s awesome.
lol monkey spanking. good job bro
FINALLY Finally finally someone that actually speaks truth and not in circles about this topic
It’s been about 3 years for me. All thanks to Jesus Christ. Fell a few times and especially in the beginning, but it’s all part of sanctification and preparation for the future wife and Christ’s return.
I believe whole heartedly that it takes God to overcome this and every other sin! We can’t do it on our own we have to stay in the Spirit. Stay focused on Christ and His calling for your life! Saying no may seem difficult, but when you do it there’s power with it! Exercise your faith and your physical body brothers and sisters! Y’all got this 🙏💪🏼
1000000% TRUTH!
Facts. God bless
@@christianmoreno7390 thanks God bless y’all too!!
No Fap is a meme. The real value is from the self control and discipline you cultivate along with your focus on God.
No its actually from your neurotransmitters coming back into balance.
I can tell you as a sex addict in the past and having massive problems with retention lol now I'm not even thinking about lust and it's been a life changer. Call it a meme but some ppl need this advice so they don't go down wrong path homie
I'm glad if it helps people :) I just think there are better more true ways of communicating what is actually the truth than No fap but I recognize that as humans sometimes stories are the most effective at mobilizing us to action and if that is what gets someone to focus more on the Lord and dedicate their lives to Him then I'll take it. He will show them the truth when the time is right if necessary.@@cbidnas6250
St. Augustine's quote helps me ever day: “The church is not a museum for saints, it is a hospital for sinners.” It's the inexhaustible forgiveness and love of God for us that keeps me going every day. I've dealt with a massive porn addiction that spanned almost 30 years and I'm in the recovery process. It hasn't been easy and I've had my share of relapses, but with God's grace and forgiveness, I can beat this battle once and for all.
Father, please don't give up on me. Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, please have mercy on me, for I am a sinner.
“God will allow a lid to stay in certain areas of your life. Because if you have these little secret sins and compartments-and God allows more blessing; often times, those blessings can ruin you, if you’re not ready for them.” - Ruslan
That’s a gem to me.
God bless the men who try to fight the enemy and his trickery, it shows your love for the Lord and your families ❤
I struggled with porn addiction for most of my life and I did NoFap for almost a month and a half. I definitely felt a sense of freedom doing that, and I can attest that the lustful thoughts sex drive did go down, but as much as I could see the good in the situation and I know it's ultimately a good thing to do when you're single, it mentally got to me. Like there's these feelings that I've had for my most of my life and suddenly they're not there. It was almost like becoming asexual and it honestly freaked me out. I thought maybe there was something wrong with me for not having those feelings anymore and I ended up stupidly inching my way back to my old habits. Now I'm trying to get back to doing it again and it's reassuring that it's normal to not have the same sexual drive that I had before
Hang in there, brother. Keep fighting the good fight.
The thing to realize is that we have to "grieve' even the unhealthy aspects of our lives, even though it doesn't feel like were losing anything that was good, it still made up a big part of your life that is no longer there and it feels odd.
@@MochaZilla thanks!
I think we were conditioned for so long to think it’s normal to be sexually attracted to so many people on even a daily basis but the reality is it’s rare to have genuine sexual attraction outside of lust. Especially as a Christian bc sexual attraction becomes deeper than just the superficial looks.
You begin to get turned off by people’s attitudes and attributes no matter how good they look.
It for me also made me feel almost asexual for a time. Scared me for a bit thinking I lost intrest in women all together. I also inched back in and now it’s full blown. Through Christ we can do this bro. That feeling will go away and you’ll meet someone God has designed for you. Becoming a eunuch anyways (even tho that’s not what’s happening) would be better than being addicted to porn.
Another beautiful fact… exercise increases endorphins which counteract cortisol (the stress hormone) which in turn makes self pleasure less necessary (which releases endorphins). God has built fail-safes and alternatives into our biology. 🙌🏼✝️
7 days in praise God
Keep going bro!! You got this
I'm rooting for you bro.
This was really solid in terms of advice, keeping it 100 and thinking on the topic. Let me just say that it’s perfectly fine to hate porn and want to fight it/flee from it and it’s good to hate sin.
But it’s the Love of God above ALL, that really sets you free. In other words, focusing on solving the porn problem is the wrong focus to have. Focus on a love of God that supersedes and affects every aspect of your life, love him so much that you can’t bear the thought of hurting him with the sin of lust or what have you, and after that everything falls into place.
Ive made it 21 days twice. It was the craziest 21 days of my life each time. With so much love and devotion and strength. The rest of the 18 years of my adulthood from 12 to 30 ive gone to porn or sex every other day basically. This is the most difficult thing to a mans existence. But truly can transmute you to a different human that will likely ultimately disappear from society and become essentially super human. In Christ's name im trying to be with God everyday the best I can. Lord bless me and forgive me. I am trying.
My friend keep trying, dont stop, dont give up, you will get there if you keep at it. I was the same and if I can do it then you can too. First time I tried I made it just 2 days. Then the next time, 7 days, then 14, then 20, then 28, then 50, then 70, and when I made it to 70 days(of a 90 day goal)I was so disgusted with myself and felt such deep disappointment at having failed, that it was like rocket fuel for my determination. So next time I got 150 days, even though I had only been aiming for 90. And throughout all of this something internally was being transformed so that now I dont masturbate at all and I would not touch porn if someone paid me $10 million dollars. You'll get there bro, just dont stop attacking this and fighting like your life depended upon it........because it actually does.
Good video. Great topic. What I don’t understand in the Christian community though is if the man isn’t being pleased then we tell the man to handle it on his own and not depend on his wife, but if the woman isn’t being pleased then it’s still on the man to handle it and to not be a “poor spouse”. A decent amount of men without p*rn addictions will still get ED later in their life and they shouldn’t feel worse about not being able to keep up with their wife while women just ignore their husbands for weeks/months and the church never calls them out on it. This goes against what Paul said and we’re losing the “war on marriage” because we’re not being 100% biblical about it.
I'm sorry you are hearing Christians say the husband should take care of himself in marriage if his wife isn't. That is not biblical advice. They are giving evil advice. The husband and wife both are to serve one another.
As a woman, I do a tolerance break for a about two weeks just to see where I can use that energy for the better. Honestly, each time I do that my body just feels much lighter and happier whenever I'm not entertaining that junk.
Getting to over 100 days is a great achievement, i havent noticed an extreme change in my mental state but it's definitely noticeable. You just feel more clear headed and good in general. Getting enough sleep makes a night and day difference though.
Glad to hear that people are breaking free from bad habits using whatever strategies work. I'm not sure if there is a biblical semen retention though. You're either avoiding sexual immorality because the scriptures say you should, or you're doing semen retention for all the reasons the world wants to... redirecting sexual energy and all that stuff. For a believer, motive matters.
Yes absolutely motive matters. I know someone who doesn’t watch porn and practices semen retention but still would indulge in sexual immorality with numerous women without releasing. At the end of the day just because you’re retaining doesn’t mean you are fleeing from sexual immorality and practicing purity. You essentially end up in the same place you started.
@@ambroxeeso what should the motive be? Living for the Christ?
@@RD-vl7eythe motive is to follow Jesus and walk by the Spirit not the flesh, the flesh desires porn and masterbation
@@RD-vl7eythe motive is God commands everyone everywhere to repent
@@ambroxee that is called edging
The thing is that sex drive goes down as you contribute energy into other places and not use sex prematurely through masturbation or sleeping around.
Wow. This is so refreshing to hear a Christian man addressing this. Thank you!!
For all of those struggling: There is hope. When I was saved, God immediately took away the desire to look at P. I know that is different for a lot of you guys, but God has His holy and wise reasons to let some of you struggle with it. Remember His power is made perfect in weakness. But I've struggled with M on and off for 5 years, and I even relapsed into P in 2019. Now, by the grace of God trough Jesus Christ, I have not watched P for 3 and a half years, and I have only fallen into M a few times this year. This is defenitely the year with the least M ever for me since I was saved. It might seem impossible, but by God's grace it is not. Hold on to hope, and just don't give up.
I’ll speak to this; when I’m heavily engaged with my kids: reading to them , playing with them, feeding them and engaged with my wife, those lustful desires are inert. And especially when I am diligently walking with the Lord. But I notice when I slip into my lustful desires it’s due to me not engaging myself in those areas. The Lord has shown me an escape through my family, but like David, if I’m not we’re I’m suppose to be, that’s when I fall.
This is what we call real talk.
Why? Bible says avoid sexual immortality
@0.7hujhyh Where did Ruslan encourage sexual immorality in this video? All he did was go into the specifics of how p0rn addiction comes about what things to do to over come it,which is needed. Just saying "don't be sexual immoral" doesn't actually help people but going into the raw and explicit details of why it happens and what things to implement into your life to overcome it,is actually helpful.
Bro, I love that there is no subject off limits for this show. The hyper focus and work out strategy works. When I was in boot camp I didn’t even get morning wood for the whole 3 months because of the hyper focus and stressful physical exercise.
That's a good point about the mirage of the perfect person coming by. When we are living in sin, and we don't even understand that we are or don't think it necessary to walk in freedom - God WILL NOT bring someone into your life to bring them under what's enslaving you as well. "If anyone lacks wisdom let him ask God who gives liberally" - Our generation needs wisdom and also transformation through his Spirit to help us walk out that wisdom. Thanks for this guys
It's been 9 days since I gave myself to God. I hold every thought captive to make sure they're coming from the father. If a thought does not come from the father then I steer my attention away. My message to anyone struggling with lust is: You cannot do this without God, call out to him "father help me overcome myself, help me overcome my lust. If any thought arises that are not from you I will throw it out like rubbish because you are more important to me than any of my Earthly desires". Keep your mind on him at all times, anything you do, you must do for him. Strive to live as Jesus lived. You can do anything with God on your side. These other people who do not care about God will eventually return to their sin in one way or another. The difference between you and them is you feel bad when you do it, they don't. You are way ahead of them than you think.
I’m glad to see that guys have had success with this. I’ve tried for years. My record is 45 days. Unfortunately I’ve never felt any of the benefits that you are supposed to see after That period of time.
It's a slow journey, fail, succeed, fail, succeed, it's breaking a terrible addiction that has lingered on for years, so will be hard, painful, unenjoyable, it's mind over body, but eventually with a strong enough mindset you will get over it, just a matter of time. My life is infinitely better when I'm on a super long streak and not focused on instant gratification or lusting.
Absolutely wild title, and I’m here for it 😂😂
These men are speaking FACTS we all need and/or needed to hear from Church 💪💪. Ruslan, you have redeemed yourself from that "Lebron was 6' 2" when he entered the NBA comment "🤣
SEMEN RETENTION MASTERS HOORAHH 💪💪💪
Thank you for your practical advice and honestly sharing your experience. The fact that marriage makes the matter of self-control even more difficult is something even Paul warns us about in 1 Corinthians 7.28 when he says "... Nevertheless such (who marry) shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you." Graetings🙋♂️
A much needed topic discussion. Way to be Godly men gentlemen. Your podcast means a lot. I suggest digging into this topic more. Maybe review and find a list of free resources/programs people can partake in to get the help they need? That would be a great episode.
Ruslan, I love the honesty of your chat here. Really need more of this, especially for men. Thanks.
70 days in so far 😅 y’all pray for me
You will overcome this in Jesus name 🙏
@@Threat1 amen 🙏🏽
I was taught growing up that dudes always want sex and girls don’t so I thought for many years it wouldn’t happen in marriage.😂 I’m honestly still working on that thought process.
I struggle with this a lot as a recovery porn addict that is 21 and Christian it’s difficult as the urges come just about every 3 days or so
Because of my addiction, I missed my chance with my friend who came out as an obsessed nymphomaniac and my other friend that became a satanist and a witch. But I have no idea how many decent girls I've missed because I never met them. One thing, though, while I was in a relationship with a decent girl, my mind was never anywhere near the dirty stuff. I was as happy as I could be every day and we stayed pure until she had to move far away and the thing just died naturally. Two things, actually. I struggled against my addiction and kept telling myself I was just not strong enough to overcome the temptation but as soon as I returned to my catholic life, confessed and asked God for help, I didn't even need to think about the struggle anymore because my mind was free. I still have to actively participate and say "no" or look away because the things you were used to won't just walk away. The evil knows what works against you and it will use it to get you, so expect a fight. But in the long run, it's very much worth it!
Im waiting on God for a godly marriage. Its good to know what my future husband may be struggling with beforehand. Ill be praying for him❤
Love you content, I agree that self control is super important and not giving. I to your lust and impulses is important, and that being said, I use to be a bodybuilder and train them in a competitive level, I just want to say that you’ve got a little miss information. The reason the test levels drop is due to unhealthy levels of lower body fat (dropping near death level BF%) to step on a stage. It’s also a proven fact that the fit / macular you are the higher your test levels tend to be. Bodybuilder on a stage is an extreme, and you’re using an extreme case as a baseline which is not correct. Other than that, the message is true, there is a lot of better places to funnel that energy that will not only improve your daily life but also those around you and create a better representation of yourself and as a follower of Christ.
I don’t really have wet dreams that often due to no sexual desire while I’m awake I try to stay away from sexual pervertic pictures. There was a point where I didn’t do a release while sleeping for like 3 months. I just don’t have that desire to have sex tbh im single by the way. Im not addicted to porn Jesus set me free from it.
Same my dude I knew I wasn't the only one 🙏
Glory to God✝️👑
Wet dreams are just sometimes the body releasing old sperm and that can happen if you want sex or not
wow. I really thought this type of vulnerability/honesty didn't exist on the internet. thank you!👏👏
I’m almost 4 years freed from a pornography addiction. Thankful to Jesus for that. I like how there are cultural terms for this but my freedom is all rooted in the scripture and backed up in counseling.
In this society its sad to say most women...and men...cheat... bored... wanting the thrill... etc.. it sucks..
That is very true… but there are some who don’t. We just don’t know how to find them yet.
yep women are weird, always looking for options
Longest i've ever gone was 6 months. It's not easy when you started when you were 13. I'm 31 now. Stopping seems impossible. I try all the time. I fail all the time. My body literally takes over just like a drug addict.
It 100% is a drug. Focus on God and focus on staying busy the entire day bro. With prayer, meditation, working out, reading, learning new skills, it will be easier
I'm such a millennial boomer sometimes. I'm a little lost on the terminology but can't wait to watch!
😂 I love that “millennial boomer” 😂
"she's not there as your release valve"
I wouldn't put it that way, but the scriptures have something to say about it and it goes both ways:
1 Cor 7: 3-5
"Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."
So we shouldn't deprive our spouses with the exception of doing a time of fast and prayer.
Even if we don't feel like it at that moment, we should absolutely help our spouses if they need sexual intimacy.
The Catholic Church just called it remaining chaste; what a novel concept.
Yeah but non-Catholics hate the Catholic Church so they won’t acknowledge that
Going strong since Jan 2019
@Ruslan bad take on that drop in Test. Your drop in Test is a sign you're actively damaging your body, athletes who overtrain experience the same thing.
Tbh the biggest difference for me has been going to the gym, still working on eating cleaner. I’ve been reading consistently, my prayer life has been better, and I’ve been serving consistency at church and wondered what was I doing wrong - turns out I just needed to get my butt in the gym lol
Semen retention is meant to be a Hindu practice so it’s not something that any Christian should be doing. Refraining from masterbation and corn is totally about giving up fleshly desires as an act of holiness unto the Lord but semen retention is about gaining some kind of power which isn’t biblical. Fitness and creativity might help with sexual discipline but it can also make it harder as fitness especially is known to improve one’s sexual health making some people feel even hornier. So it’s best just to let God change you from the inside out, when he removes the desire or when he shows you why it’s meaningless to do such fleshy things your deliverance will be more lasting.
But sexual frustration is real so even if you are abstaining some are still having some of the effects of not having sex of sexual releases. I honesty think women might be affected by this more than men as we are the ones with hormone that go up and down, it will might would be a good conversation to discuss.
@queenchiomaofficial True because I see ppl calling themselves gods many sr practicers have a lot of pride and look down on ppl and are narcissistic atheists they forgot who blessed dem with the seed
There is actually a good amount of verses about not getting married. If you can control it than don't do it. Just finished Matthew not to long ago and chuckled at 19:10 The disciples *said to Him, 'If the relationship of the man with his wife is like this, it is better not to marry.
Yeah getting excessively lean to purposefully lower T is not healthy. Lifting and lifestyle changes that raise T is a good thing, increases confidence and self esteem, actually makes it easier to avoid self destructive things
Being on SR being on so called monk mode is how God intended us to be. Sex outside of marriage is fornication. We must use this time and energy to focus on God and take care of yourself
I definitely needed to see this! You guys are awesome! I thank God for people like you💪🏾❤️🙏🏽
Mann, I hope you went in on this, 💯 Can’t wait to tune in.
iknow ! im like excited as well to hear... nevertheless jesus is my strength !
@@stevensanchez4739FACTS 🎯‼️
The most important thing about fleeing lust is dependence on the Lord for strength. Been married 2 years as of July as a 22 year old, and intimacy is amazing and all, but every day is a fight for me. Psalms 23 “The Lord is my Shepherd, I shall not want” I can wake up and first thing in the morning recognize that my needs are all met in Christ and I am full and content in Him. Thank God for sex but our treasure is ultimately in Christ and the sooner we grasp that as God fearing men, the pull and trap of sexual dependency/addiction has lost its hold
@RuslanKD your honesty is awesome and humbling! People especially men need to hear this and we need these conversations 🙏
Yes, "dieting down" will lower testosterone if you're a bodybuilder getting into single digit bf% bc you're depleting yourself so much. but going from being overweight to being fit will actually increase your testosterone. Generally living a healthy lifestyle; diet, exercise, and sleep will increase testosterone. Which will somewhat increase sex drive but it's still mostly a battle of will power.
yooo ray rock with the 💎 at the end about the philistines and Goliath, defeating it now before it affects further generations, yeesh🔥🔥🔥
My understanding is that bodybuilder's testosterone dips when they reach unhealthy and unsustainable levels of bodyfat.
I don’t think I made it much beyond a couple days EVER until I got into my 40’s
I also struggle with depression.
I KNOW these things are related.
Your actions do not determine who you are. God does. He says you are a person worth dying for. You have no say in that, so don’t waste time convincing yourself otherwise, even when you feel despair.
Thank you for the video 😊 It's awkward and uncomfortable, but surprisingly helpful 😅
It's helpful to confront and confess our struggles (with trusted, godly, Biblical people)
But please keep focused on The Lord Jesus + God's precious Word also (starve the wolf, feed the sheep) ☺
The Lord’s love + grace be with you
Hope you are all well and resting in Jesus saving love + grace 😊
Blessings friends 😊
(and please pray for me)
Keep looking to Jesus, leaning on Him in all things, rejoicing and resting in His hope, strength, saving love and grace 😊
Our gracious Lord bless you, strengthen you + keep you, as He SO FAITHFULLY does 😊
Every blessings + love in Jesus, our wonderful loving, living + gracious Saviour 😊
Ruslan, your testosterone is at its peak when you’re body fat is at the ideal percentage, between 14-18%, below 14% you’re literally starving (shredded) but not at your athletic peak, above 18% you’re more overweight/obese and not at your athletic peak. So, the most “fit” men do not have low testosterone. Athletes have a higher percentage of fat and a higher testosterone than let’s say a body builder, because a body builder is not at peak performance but at peak asthetic.
Lifting weights will actually increase your testosterone, losing visceral fat around your midsection will increase your testosterone, and effectively your sexy drive BUT… you will also develop discipline through hard work.
really needed this thanks brothers.
over 2 months IN. as a bodybuilder its hard. but there is no excuse.
Men that cut weight for competitions - low testosterone is caused due to being calorie deficiet for weeks and also at extremely low body fat (sub 6-10%)
But your fitness can be a means to have discipline that helps you focus NOT on corn
Would like to point out there are plenty of women who also struggle with this
Bible says holiness is to flee fornication. But i have problems with sexual dreams.
Someone please help me understand why we don’t freely mention words like pornography or masturbation any longer, but keep them censored or replaced with words like corn. What exactly is going on?
UA-cam censorship
@@royald9469 For saying porn or masturbation? Whom are they censoring from?
And if it's children, i thought they had UA-cam Kids or something like that...
Even still, the sad truth is if children know these things, UA-cam isn't where they first learn them, but rather where they get some wisdom in addressing them (if indeed UA-cam has anything at all to do with their knowledge of such things).
I hope there's a better explanation for the censorship, but it can't be children.
I like this.
The problem is we aren't following the Bible. The Bible literally tells wives NOT to deny their husband sex. And vise versa.
But we give modern day women license to reject parts of the Bible that are inconvenient.
Is there natural give and take, grace, understanding during extreme times yes but most sex less marriages are not sex less because a wife just popped out a baby 6 minutes ago.
They are sex less because modern women have no sense of duty to meet their husbands needs.
After 40 married women don't want sexual intimacy anymore so you best have learned self discipline and invest in physical training, prayer, fasting, bible study and some form of creative products.
Uechi Ryu Kara Te training, Classical Guitar practice, Bible study, Fasting, prayer, hiking, digging post holes with a digging bar, writing and chores help me.
On the bodybuilder part* I think the real reason why bodybuilders testosterone goes down isn't just working out hard, but it's because they are cutting/not eating much, which starts making the body super stressed. The less nutrients, vitamins, etc you have in your body, it's stressing the body out. This makes your testosterone drop down. But after competition when they start eating properly again and getting adequate rest, that testosterone spikes back up! On Joe Rogan's podcast with Andrew Huberman they were talking about basketball players testosterone dipping very low after playing a numerous amount of games, flying from state to state, causing a lot of stress on the body... but their t levels go back up once they start recovering
My brothas sharing that godly wisdom!
This was brave of you to share and so good!
This is indeed new age. Y'all need to study the origin of semen retention and allow the Holy Spirit to lead you. This is wild.
Seminal fluid retains heavy metals that have been shown to cause cancer. There are some studies and some theories that suggests that lack of sex may lead to increased incident of prostate cancer and other problems.
"When you're single I just know I'm not going to get some" facts lol thats my season of life rn
“The NoFap movement has been EXPLODING for years…” You nasty, but clever, KD
The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
- 1 Cor. 7:4-5
Well said. I believe Paul understood many things about humanity and sin, which is why he also talked about those who do not have a high sex drive should commit themselves to the ministry and gospel and stay single, while others should be married. It’s obvious that Paul understood that strong sexual urges are to be honored in the context of a marriage. Period.
This has blessed me so much. Thank you Ruslan and Ray Rock
Thank you for speaking about this.
This is the way
I agree with the point you are trying to make Ruslan, but the whole more muscle = less (unused) testosterone is not true. In fact, bodybuilders tend to have higher than average testosterone because testosterone is needed for synthesizing the proteins that make up muscle. The same applies in reverse, i.e. if a person has low testosterone, they tend to have difficulty building muscle mass. What you might be thinking of is bodybuilders who are on steroids, who tend to have less endogenous production of testosterone because they are getting it exogenously, therefore endogenous production decreases and the testes tend to shrink as a result over long periods.
I feel like you can convert that sexual energy to fuel you to do other things. Like loving your wife in other ways. Especially if she’s got a lot on her plate, taking some of that stuff off her plate will
1. Be a way for you to use that sexual energy to love her in other ways and possibly…
2. It may take some of the things that’s keeping her from thinking about sex out of the way. Because if she’s got a list of things she has to do in the day, sex isn’t going to be numbers one two or three on the list. It might be number 4. So maybe take care of 1 or 2 to give her more time to do number 3
10-12 weels postpartum?!? Maybe if there was a C-section or lots of tearing, or complixations, but a natural tear-free birth, no… for me it was 3-4 weeks. Some doctors recommend four weeks, some six weeks. Talk with your midwife or doctor.
😂 Ruslan has it made. 10-12 weeks without seggs? Try 10-12 months… or years… 😂
I’ve learned that, outside a very few women, most modern wives just don’t care about intimacy with their husbands. AT ALL!
Buckle up dudes… most your life is gonna be physically lonely.
Ruslan is right about how destructive “corn” can be. Not sure what the answer is
My mom shut off sex once my brother came out because of complications so 40 years without sex, he was in the wilderness XD. Sometimes the thing about being a "good man" is enduring. Sad but true.
@@mrlacksoriginality4877 oooof! 40 years. Thats tough stuff.
Probably a good thing, women don't want to turn their husband weak and dependent on that one thing to be fulfilled. Men who have no urge or lust in them are truly powerful.
Amen. Awesome topic!!
Am glad. Am getting this from a Christian channel.
I've been struggling with porn a lot. I went several weeks without it until last week and I just can't seem to get back to that😢
Same. The struggle is more difficult the second time around. The best thing to do to get back into it is to force it out of your schedule by making yourself very busy with creative healthy things
Praying for you!! God can break the chains for you!!!
@@Antnj81your right it is really more difficult the second time around
First step is to acknowledgeyour short comings. Then, pray to the lord for the Strength and will for deliverance. Then you HAVE to move on from that moment and stop thinking about how you struggle with lust. Essentially don't make your short comings your focus by saying "I struggle with lust and its hard" because if you keep that mindset it will keep you in a spiral of condemnation. And the Lord never condemns us for our short comings. So keep your head up, acknowledge when you mess up, thank the lord for his mercy and for the blood of christ that washes you clean, and live life with the identity of Christ and not a luster.
You are a child of God that struggles with lust, NOT a lustful sinner. Identity is everything
Meditate on God's word and listen to worship music. Fill your life with more spiritual things to stay occupied and you will want it less.
A husband and wife are obligated to fulfill their spouse emotionally and sexually. Which means that leveraging sex in anyway as a way to get back at spouse is wrong. So is being lazy and not fulfilling your spouse sexually or emotionally just because you don't feel like it. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5 is very clear on this.
The key is finding satisfaction through intimacy with Jesus and having authentic connection with others. Being filled with the Spirit every day knowing our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit. Our bodies our not our own. It is holy and precious to God.
Sexual desire is longing for intimacy and connection, so if we don't get our needs met in godly ways, we will be susceptible to sexual temptation. Finding good fulfillment of desire and good ways to release energy. Both are needed.
Alright, I need the verses against fapping. I know they aren't there, but I have to ask. I understand the arguments against doing it, but the Bible only talks about not engaging with someone who isn't your spouse. Ya'll wanna take one verse and use it out of context to support this idea. Are there benefits in abstaining from certain shorterm pleasures? Of course. Are there benefits to training your body to last longer through edging? Of course. You don't have to watch p*rn to fap. I thought we were all old of enough to know that.
I would like to know more about this too. No one ever talks about masturbating without porn.
I think you could come at this from a couple of ways.
First off
1 Cor 7 6
But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Look at the ternary the Bible sets - don't have sexual desires/burn with passion/get married. There's no work around for that - pick one. If "fapping" was morally acceptable under a Christian worldview, I think this seems like a good place for the Bible to acknowledge that, but it doesn't. If you are burning with passion, you can stay burning or seek marriage.
There's also practical reasons. Here's one:
When you "fap" - as you say - you're training yourself to become stimulated by your touch. I don't want to sound crass but this conversation necessitates it to a degree. Studies have found that a number of people who "fap" end up having immense difficulty with penetrative sex because simply put - a woman's sexual organs are quite different from your hand.
" the Bible only talks about not engaging with someone who isn't your spouse."
Well, you aren't your own spouse so checkmate.
@@M-JACOY that is hardly the checkmate you think it is. First of all, everyone knows that there is no substitute for the real thing. If fapping was, few men would get married or try to have relationships with women. I am not saying it is the only reason for marriage or a relationship, but it is a major part. think about it, what is the difference between a homosexual couple and two friends if sexual contact was taken out of it. There wouldn't be a difference. If you express your organ, sexual or otherwise, it is not a sin, sin starts with the thought. the thoughts you have during a fap session might be sinful, but the fapping itself is not. You can focus on what you are doing and not about another person if you are single. In a relationship, you can have thoughts about another person while having sex with your spouse. Just like drinking. It isn't a sin to drink, but it is a sin to get drunk. Also, I know you are old enough to know there are toys you can use to replicate natural intercourse, so if "the rough hand" is the problem, that is taken care of easily. through edging you can make yourself last longer with your spouse, increasing enjoyment for you and your spouse. sometimes spouses enjoy watching each other fap. Is that a sin? lust is not inherently bad because we do have lust for our spouses. Lusting for someone that isn't your spouse is a sin. If you say you don't lust for your spouse, I don't think you are being honest with yourself. Lastly, you do realize that sex and fapping are almost the same thing, right? You are just using your wife's or husband's body instead of your hand.
“Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: but I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
Matthew 5:27-28 KJV
If you masturbate without having any sexual thoughts, come back after and ask if it’s okay
@SowForScripture that's what I am doing. I have before when I was younger before I knew what my parts were for. Before you try to say something about me being abused, I had a mishap with a vibrating dust devil that lead to the discovery of the "potential down there." If you fap and think about your wife, is that wrong as well? What if you are single and fap thinking about your future wife? What if she is imaginary? I thought I laid that question out well in my first and second comments. Adultery is having sex with someone who isn't your spouse. What if you fap to yourself? What if you are trying to stay pure for your wedding night and you fap to not actually sin. Is it worse to think about sinning or to actually sin. Yes it is wrong to have the thought, but having self control is to not enact the thoughts. Like I said. The verses don't exist. I have been raised in the church all my life. I have been born again and research the Bible for fun in my spare time. I knew people would try to use verses out of context and try to spin the verses to fit how they feel rather than what is plainly laid out in the scriptures.
Wow respect for the honesty