Nurse Bullying: How to Deal with a Nurse Who Intimidates You
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- Опубліковано 10 вер 2024
- Do you work with a nurse who intimidates you and when you find out you have to give her report, you feel a surge of hydrochloric acid well up in your stomach?
On this episode of Coffee & Conversations about nurse bullying, we’re going to talk about how to deal with a nurse who intimidates you.
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Our unit recently combined MICU and SICU. The heart-trained SICU nurses form their own little gaggle when a few are working the same shift. They're so into each other and their collective assignments, they simply don't have time to help anyone else or even talk more than a few seconds when addressed by anyone outside the group🙄 I wish I could say mgmt notices what the rest of us see, but even if they did, these More Special specialty nurses are the elites 👑
Please share more video like this. You’re empowering new nurses! Thank you so much!
Thank you! Will do!
You are a gold. I m going to watch you over again. I m in my placements now. Going through hard time and i see the problem is when i m trying to accomodate bad behaviours
Wow! What a great compliment! Thanks so much. Glad you find these videos helpful. You should definitely check out my website if you haven't already. We have a ton of articles and free resources. healthyworkforceinstitute.com
Rooting for your success!
Our unit is like HS all over again! Unfortunately the cliques are the most experienced, cardiac-trained nurses whose expertise we definitely need. I didn't want to admit it, but the longer I'm there the more obvious it is. They're definitely there to help each other, "adopt," whom they choose and ignore the rest (no eye contact, no teamwork) unless forced by direct questioning
If you haven't already, you should check out the free scripts we have on our website. For example, you can alter this script: “I’m not sure you realize this, but sometimes you can come across as being _________ (intimidating, aggressive, unapproachable, etc.).” And then give an example. Also, I wrote this blog article about cliques that has some tips to help you in this situation. healthyworkforceinstitute.com/protect-yourself-from-workplace-cliques/
Hope that helps!
Thank you for these videos,-information.these things are taking place at many places of employment and it’s causing many problems with productivity and stress and health problems.
I'm sorry to hear that! If you haven't already, check out our website healthyworkforceinstitute.com. We have a ton of resources that can help.
Could you please do a video on how to deal with a charge nurse who intimidates staff?
Great idea! Thanks!
I work with a peer who is constantly butting in, talking over, correcting (even when not validated) my advise/conversation with students, families, and peers whom ate not nurses. We are school nurses. She comes off as if my 30+ years of nursing mean I just graduated. Needs to be in control all the time and will take no new suggestions. I thought I was going to be switched to another school in district, but my boss did not pursue the switch of another allowing me to move. 🙁
You deserve more views because your topic is real and very relevant to my situation! Thank you making me understand what I don't. Just one question: if I'm not a confrontational type of person, how do I make the first step to point out those intimidating action? I'm so afraid of offending people.
Thanks!
Hi Jackie. Thank you for your encouraging words! The best thing you can do is to just name the behavior - not try to "change" them. For example, "You're yelling at me (or her)." You just called me stupid", etc. Once you identify a behavior, just name it. That alone can help raise awareness.
I just started working at an organization that I truely love, and have always wanted to work for, as a nurse. I feel like I have really amazing support, with a good 75-80% of the staff and volunteers that work within the organization. However, like a moth to a flame - I attract bullies, since childhood - I have been "different". I had a lazy eye (ambloopia), so wore a patch throughout my first 2 years of school. I looked different so I was treated differently by my peers. As one of my sisters said it best, I was the "ugly duckling", who turned into the beautiful swan. Yet - I am still different. It's not on the outset that I am picked out by the bullies, persay - I come as a new, shiney creature of an unknown origin. Yet, as time passes, rather quickly and predictably - my "different" certainly cultivates the bullies in my midst. I have ADD - the way I learn is unconventional - which seemingly would be a blessing to health care and nursing. And, in my humble opinion, is the reason why I am a great nurse. I think outside of the conventional "box". I am an empath, of the truest of senses. I care and devote myself to my patients, their families and truly believe that I am blessed to be gifted with the skills, abilities, emotional intelligence, critical thinking and tenacious spirit - that a good nurse needs, not only to survive - but thrive in their career.
I have said it for many, many years, that if I was only to be in the trusted care and responsible role of my patients and their families - I would be the definition of success in my profession. I am, unfortunately unable to take the patient care solely on as my job role. The neverending quest for "efficiency" and the pervasive, daunting and unattainable quest for the never in reach "time management' goal - that I never once placed onto myself, nor wanted to work on - yet infectiously and insidiously creeps it's way into every "self- directed" (more like corporately dictated) professional goal objective I am annually bound to complete, year after year for my professional reflective practice.
I would like to know how do I stand up for myself in the arena? How do I become the galdiator and not the victim?
I don't like being unprofessional and I hold myself to a high standard with my professionalism and ability to regulate my emotions while at work. I check my crap at the in door. I am not a door mat, nor am I okay with the mistreatment I am experiencing - so I am in the grey zone with my bully experience. I am exploited by my ethics and morals as a nurse . The creednthat I have truly and honestly tried to maintain within my professional designation.
How do I set boundaries, not take toxoc abusive behaviour with these bullies, while not compromising my professional integrity?
Well first I'd like to commend you for not sitting back and saying, "well that's just the way it is." Second, if you haven't been to my company's website, I'd suggest starting there. We have a ton of free resources, like scripts, tips, and blog articles. Just go to healthyworkforceinstitute.com and check it out.
Scripting is one of my superpowers. Practice saying things like, "I'm not willing to respond to that," and "I'm offended by that comment." Say those things next time the bullies say anything unprofessional to you. You can even name their behavior, "You just rolled your eyes at me and called me stupid." Or whatever it is they did or said. And then use one of those scripts.
Cheering for your success!
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Robin sounds like me 😢