How I Stopped Living For Others And Started Living For Myself ✨
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- Опубліковано 11 чер 2024
- Instead of letting life happen to us, I truly believe that we all have the power to start writing our own stories the way we see fit. So I hope you take advantage of what’s been handed to you to create a beautiful story that is uniquely yours.
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I feel like the more I go my own path the more people close to me realize that they can't control me or affect my decisions.
❤️ yes!!
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I love this for you. Establishing boundaries will often lead to others disagreeing with us. But that’s okay! I am learning to respect the desires of my own heart, even if that leads to my family not supporting my decisions. It’s my life. It’s not meant for me to live it for them.
I love travelling, studying, art, meeting diverse people, deep conversations, Nature and good coffee...
Everything I love 😊
Me too!✨
So do I
Its great to see things in common with strangers 😊
@@emmaem7784 When we find commonality, there is no longer a stranger in those we encounter.
"When we determine what is enough for us, we can stop chasing what we lack and begin to just appreciate everything we have. It's not giving up on our goals or just settling but it's being content or choosing gratitude."
Always grateful to this channel! Thank you Sofie!
❤️ Thank you so much Diana!
😊Yess and it's is profound 🧡🙏🏽
I agree with this too! I also love the content; it's very informative and entertaining at the same time. So amazing to have found the right channel. 😊
Ive just Discovered this Channel i do like her, BUT The "Simple life Girl" is just another money maker.
she has another channel that has 5 Videos, Less subscribers about 19,000 of them But hasn't posted anything in six Months.
simply put this channel is producing More Money & the camera/ equipment links she makes Money from.
“99% of the harm is caused in your head, by you and your thoughts.
1% of the harm is caused by reality, what actually happens and the outcome.
Most of the time, the problem isn’t the problem. The way you think about the problem is.”
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although I do believe & agree our thoughts can & do have an effect on US, to say it's 99% "in your head" is BullSh*t.
Incorrect
Well said
thank sweetie
Let go of the narrative...you got that right! My friends don't understand why I would downsize...they keep telling me you have to aim for more...I said NO...I want less, I deal and manage with anxiety, O.C.D. Highly sensitive personality disorder and ADHD....I want inner peace more then anything...empty the plate or just keep the plate at a manageable level....the more you have...the more things you have to think about.
❤️ good for you on knowing what you need and being unapologetic about it :)
try oshos dynamic meditation and yoga ....then after a year or two. just go with vipassana meditation or any other meditation technique which osho prescribed in his book (112 meditation)... pick any one technique from that and work with a guru. good luck...i know what you are going through and how it feels.
I love the purpose of this channel. I am currently trying to do the same. I started by reading Think Like a Monk by Jay Shetty. Happiness is finding me instead of me trying to find it 😀🙏🏻❤️
❤️ thank you so much
@@MalamaLife keep it up. More people need to switch to this mentality
I am heading on the same journey...this channel really took me out of the trap of wanting to have " perfect life". I have enough of leaving for others. I might read this book too thank you:)
I'm reading the same book but I realized it's not spiritual
@@raniaahabchane99 then what is it about??
I have realized that health is true wealth, and TIME is my most valuable commodity. I’m sending you all happy thoughts of peace and kindness.. 💙
This is so true! in the middle of all the madness, we need to remind ourselves what's truly important! thank you Keoki
There's a saying that goes "The richest person isn't the one who has the most but the one who needs the least". I try to keep that in mind to discern what do I really want.
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The richest person is the one 🎉having friends who are always there whenever one needs
I've read a bunch of selfhelp books in the past few years and I can honestly say that this single video holds such an incredible amount of value! Thank you for touching upon every single topic I needed to hear about today! Every aspect of this video is absolute gold🙏✨
❤️ thank you Iris
I agree, they are gold! Such great shares and so helpful.
absolutely right
This video is profound. It’s made me realise that I have enough. That I am enough. Thank you Sophie🙏🏽 💕
❤️ yes!! I love that you realize that
Just to live for you! And try to ignore what others are telling you!
Yes 🙌
My mantra these days
Thank you for this video! It really hit home 🤍
Chloé ❤️ thanks for watching. I love your videos
I REALLY LOVE YOUR LIFE STYLE AND THE WAY YOU LIVE , COMFORT AND HAPPINESS WE CREAT BY OWNSELF , DOESNT MATTER THE PEOPLE AND PLACE BUT REALLY MATTERS IS WHAT IS ISIDE US
I found your channel just a couple days ago and you have changed my life. You have inspired me in so many ways to prioritize my self care and see different perspectives, to cleanse my space, start towards slow living, and start a capsule wardrobe! Thank you so much!!!
I am so happy to hear that ❤️ thank you for your lovely comment
I am messed up. I was so depressed i want to get out from it and live a happy life. This video helps me to calm down. Thank you and keep going.
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Just one tiny step in the right direction every day, no matter how small, will get you there, Donna. You will amaze yourself when you suddenly see how much you have changed ❤️
Tell me a few tips more ?I have overthinking problem , I am fex up , My brain giving me pain😢
@@syedarushnaali6248 life is not always happy..everyone has ups and downs.. seek peaceful life, peace you feel inside you.. search how you feel in certain things, places.. for example i feel most peaceful when im praying, drawing, walking, taking pictures of nature..
Take step by step, they also make path
Oof I needed this video. This is something I’ve always had a problem with. I’ve lived for others and their happiness for most of my life and my goal for 2022 is to live life on my own terms as well. Such an inspiring video and concept 💜
wishing you all the best and all the love ❤️
@@MalamaLife thanks
Thank you for uploading this video at just the right time for me. I turned to 32 today and still single, fighting with life. I was anxious about my career plan and having my own family. I was just feeling behind to everyone. But your video really made my day. Thank you!
I feel the same and I am 39. Thanks for sharing! Take care!
You're absolutely right, living for ourself, and focusing more in our own lives is important priority - we can't help and light other lives unless light ours. Your channel and its content are awesome!
Couldnt agree more
I always say that "simplicity is a keynote of a good life".❤️😊✌️🎶😘
Exactly! Enough is Enough. I have thought others lessons for their own hurtful doings and interference in my life which was beyond my control to STOP them. I don’t owe them anything and have now chosen to love 💗 myself, be happy 😃 and is living for myself. We only get one shot at life to live our best selves. Every day we wake up is a gift. Nothing is promised, as we can see before our own eyes that it can be taken away at any moment, at any time, day, month, year and at any age from the day we were born.
Thank you for sharing this!! I have just come to the conclusion that the job I do doesn’t not define me as a person. I’ve been living me life to work a job that makes me so unhappy just because to others it looks like I’m doing something ‘good’ or ‘better’. My job does not define me as a person wow - so I am going to look for something that is going to make ME happier. 💗
I’m currently on vacation on Kauai such a lovely place to regroup and recharge. I’m enjoying your channel so much and share your videos with my daughter who is about to graduate college. The ideas you share apply to all ages. 🙌🏼
Enjoy your vacation :) and thank you for sharing my videos. Much aloha ❤
Having been raised in a home with fear and uncertainty I knew from a young age that if I pleased others I wouldn’t be left or hurt.
I took that belief into my adulthood and I realized very quickly that good people would take from me but also give back where others would take and take until they drained me.
My business is caring for others and so this can be difficult to escape. However as I aged into my 40s and 50s I started to LOVE me more and only surround myself with people that cared about me or maybe took but knew how to give, people that deserved me and my love and kindness and empathy. What a gift it has been. I do what brings me and my husband and adult children joy or just ME and I fill my soul and it is a huge change. I have empowered myself and it is a beautiful thing.
I love the book Clarity & Connection and I highly recommend it to anyone here.
Blessings to everyone here. Thank you for another beautiful video. 🍑🙌🏻🧡Lisa
Be you! Don’t be who others expect us to be or look. We are unique and amazing 🙌🏻
I feel like I'm getting to know you better through your comments Lisa :) thank you for taking the time to always share and write such thoughtful comments.
@@MalamaLife
I think we are both similar spirits I hope that doesn’t sound silly.
Come and visit me one day. I would love it. 🍑🙌🏻🧡
Hi Sophie, Great advice! A long time ago 30+ years - I always wondered why I looked up to certain people or why certain people seemed happier and/or more comfortable in there own skin. It's because they were true to themselves, and did not feel they needeed to be like somebody else to impress or be liked. It took me a while, today I am very comfortable with whom and what I am. I'm not bothered by what other people think ( I cannot control that) I am who I am - If you like me ( I think most people who know me do) great. If you don't for some reason - I am sorry but I cannot control that unless I did some harm. And the first rule of NIno is - "Do no harm" It's all good, Life is good, when you don't feel like you need to prove yourself to the world. I love your take on the world Take Care Nino
I love your life philosophies Nino :) Yes! life is good when you are just yourself! cheers to that
Thank you for this! I was literally just going thru these same thoughts in my head about all the predictable stuff and doing what we have been programmed to do instead of actually being ourselves and not conforming to "the norm" which is not even normal at all, its like living by a script instead of organically and naturally because this is just what you think youre supposed to do to be accepted and considered normal. Well f that! Im right there with you and I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. 🙏
Thanks for watching ❤️
I really needed this today. I cried a little. Thank you.
❤️ aw thank you
Yes yes! Deciding what is enough and seeing what I have and really appreciating it has changed my mood. That’s actually happened since your last video. You are really worth listening to. You’re like a big sister to us all.
I just have a slight problem with worrying that if I enjoy it, it‘ll go away. I think this is a Welsh thing. But I’m doing it anyway.
Thank you Lauren! maybe I'm Welsh too 😆 haha
@@MalamaLife oh dear… I am glad you understand me, but also not! Btw you have been recommended by Jaime Tan - Enlightened Spoon and seconded by me to be a guest on Film Booth‘s „Best UA-camr in the world“ series. (In his community posts)
This lady speaks truth. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses and some are kinder than others ❤🎉
Another beautiful video. “There is no right answer in life so experiment and learn the lessons as they come.” I finally forced my self to go back to our pink home. Even though my partner left for heaven, I’m still going to fulfill the renovation of our pink home. Before I always wanted flashy things but now, I’ve realized the simple the better. Thank you, Sophie! You have no idea how I or we consider you a blessing for always reminding us the beautiful things in life. We love you!
Thank you for uploading this very inspiring video! " NOTHING IS ENOUGH TO THE MAN FOR WHOM ENOUGH IS TOO LITTLE" .
This video couldn't have came at a better time the "don't hold yourself back part " xx
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Love your videos. Your voice is so calming and therapeutic. You've made an amazing progress in the two years you've been on UA-cam and it's very inspiring to see. I can absolutely relate to this video, the older I grow the more I break away from the things/behaviours that were taught to me to live my life the way I want to x
Thank you Karolina ❤️ It really means a lot
All the yes! It’s easy to get caught up in doing what is most acceptable or expected. Living life on your own terms and figuring out what that truly is is a gift 🎁
❤️yes!! so true
Your videos are always so relevant and calming. We all need more self reflection in our lives
What a powerful message! We have to have gratitude always, starting with the little things in life! Gratitude for giving us this message and showing us the beautiful nature of this place!You are enlightened! 🙏🏻🌞
I think it’s so awesome that she makes videos she is genuinely so inspiring
Thank you always for your weekly videos Sophie. I watch your videos every Friday after the long work week as it is very therapeutic and gives me a fresh perspective to reset myself after a stressful week. Continue to inspire others and be a living example Sophie. ❤️☺️
This is big! A massive shift in your energy happens when you actually come to this realisation. Thanks for sharing. ❤
I just found you by accident! And I’m gonna watch all your videos it just felt like home watching this one , I just received a positive energy from you ! I needed this right now ! I’m going thru stress, depression and I’ve lost myself cause of a person that I did everything for her ! Thank you 🙏 wish you guys all the best . More positivity! God bless !
I just found this channel, and I am absolutely loving it it’s so inspiring. We are so conditioned by society, where to say what to do what to wear… And yes it’s nice to find out who we truly are and be our true selves.✨❣️🙏🏻✨
I love how soothing your voice is, as someone who gets stressed with loud noises it gives me peace and time to analyze your take/advice ☺️
Your videos are so beautiful… not just aesthetically but the profound meaning you give to them by what you share. You are creating something really special! ✨🌸✨
I discovered your channel today and I confess that I felt a calm and an inner happiness listening to what you say. You convey a lot of beautiful emotions through your videos continue like this and thank you very much 🙏😍
You dont know how grateful i am that i found your channel. Thank you so much ill allways looking fowards to your video
I only found your channel in recent days and it has already started to open my mind and clarify things. Thank you for all you do and share. I appreciate you. ♥️🙏
While I'm constantly aware of these, hearing from someone else has been very helpful. I felt like I was talking to myself. So far I haven't found the tipping point I need. Now, as I finish this video in tears, I am eternally grateful to you for reminding me what I really need to do. 💙💚
Such an apt message. Thank you for the work you are doing. I think you are impacting more lives than you know. You are teaching people about inner peace and this is the only way toward outer peace. Thanks so much!
Every time I get lost, I came here to find my true values and my path in the life. Your videos and your mindset is really motivating about not doing too much, but doing things that is important for us. Your videos give me courage to be my true self, not the person that the society expect from us to be. This morning, I realize who I don't want to be and who I really am. Thank you for sharing your perspective with us, it is touching a lots of people. Love you xx
The clarity and visual content is beautiful.
What a very lovely soul.... At 57.... I'm on the same path and journey at the moment just building the best me I can be.... Have a good day everyone....
I just found this channel and I must say that this is exactly the messages that our modern society needs. What a beautiful and soothing videos to watch. And the the wisdom is just beautiful. SUBSCRIBED 👍🏼
Watching these videos make me feel so calm. I love it.
Sooooo much needed right now to hear these simple Words. Thanks darling, I really appreciate your way of telling things starting from your Life experiences. Love, Chiara 💐
This was so lovely to watch. I appreciate your philosopher planting that seed, it sounds like it set you on this beautiful path. This is so aligned with my values. Slowing down to be present and get clear on what's important to YOU outside of societal standards really shifts everything. It's so lovely to see another sweet soul on the same vibe. 🦋
The way you speak is comforting and you really help me iron out somethings.. thank you!
Thanks for your channel. I am living for me more now my three children are grown and it’s wonderful to have every piece of every day just for me - pure bliss
Wow! What a beautiful msg. Please continue sharing your perspective with us. Its truly beautiful.
When we determine what enough is for us, it’s makes us appreciate what we have more and not our seemingly lack. ❤️
This was such a beautiful video, thank you, am saving to re-watch when I nerd a loving reminder. I love your voice, energy and videos they are so soothing, gentle and resonant. I am grateful for you 💗🌺
Great points. Many things you mentioned were things that I hardly ever considered or took the time to actually realize. The question “what is enough” opened my eyes. Looking at that thought externally makes you want more of something once you imagine what that means externally. However when looking at these things internally, you really embrace what you can control and of course quality over quantity
Wonderful and Amazing 👍🏼👍🏼 you basically just summarized what I have been contemplating and struggling!
I know this path is not easy at all, for those who see this message, WISH THE BEST FOR YOU ALL 🌟
Wow I am just speechless sophia like I was lost in your voice and it feels like a place where I was talking to my inner child I am feeling warm and want to hug you so tightly thank you so much for providing such a valuable piece of art . will watch this video again and again god it was a best start of the day ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
i'm in love with your channel. everytime i feel overwhelmed i find myself coming back to your channel and watch your videos these days. they help me a lot with my overthinking mind. thank you very much.
Thank you so much 🥰😍
I'm gonna have to make a Playlist for just your videos cause of your soothing voice and great advice I need sensible and understanding people like you in my life
I strongly agree with your video, sister. I am a person who watches out for someone's word. I've never done for who I am. I am afraid of hating me, afraid of losing friends, afraid of gossiping, and afraid of everything. Now, it's clear to me!!! thanks
✨Enough is such a powerful word✨
when we take a moment to turn inwards
we will really realise we are enough, truly.
so soothing and inspiring thank you.
❤️ yes!!
Thanks for this. This is one of the most liberating, empowering pieces I have encountered.
I was crying over the issue in my family and this vid comes as a blessing to me, feel blessed ❤️
I love the content and slower pace of this video and the calmness of your voice. Thank you, this has helped me immensely 👌
Listening to your voice is so calming ❤️❤️ loving ur channel
For me, a critical element of what you're describing (though not totally on point) is that goals change over time. For a while I wanted to be a good musician, but that gradually faded and I moved on to activities with academics and then business. I'd say the one single constant through my time was having laughs with good people.
It's mesmerizing how your words resonates with my inner emotional journey that I am going through. Don't know where this journey will lead but I am certain it will give me more appreciation for life ahead of me. Thank you for sharing your personal journey.
I really liked how @ 06:55 you sprinkled more parmesan on your partners plate before your plate, the little gestures of love!
haha ❤️
Thank you so much for your video, I have watched it more than 5 times today.
Life is busy and sometime it make us forget to live our own life.
From Vietnam so far away, I always follow your journey.
much love from Maui ❤️
Incredible person who is reading this. Want to let you know that EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE ALRIGHT. Blessings upon blessings come to you daily. Everything you need it’s on its way to you! Be ready to receive! You are healthy. You are strong. You are capable. True wealth is coming for you. You are blessed beyond measure. You are loved so much by many. Receive this TRUTH! Bless you always with everything great you deserve. You are greatness!
~❤️Nat
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Wise words from your professor 👏 thanks Sophie for sharing your thoughts and advice ❤️
This is simply beautiful. Thank you for being pure. Sending love from the Philippines. 💕
My husband and I changed our outlook a few years back when we became empty nesters. It was time to live for ourselves. It seems to be harder on others then on us. Often we feel like we are on our own island ( which isn’t a bad thing) being happy doing what we love even if that means watching the hummingbirds and playing Gin for hours. I’m amazed that you are able to figure this out young with everything around you. Congrats for grabbing your life and taking full control.
I think that finding yourself and having the power doing what you truly love are the hardest things in life. I'm thinking a lot about this topic and still don't have an answer yet. Thanks for this very important video. ❤
Thank you for teaching me I needed this my vibration was low for a minute but now I know I want I will be the best version of my self and help others along the way. I’ll be thankful with whatever time I have left. It’s also my goal to get my cdl
Thank you so much for this video, you are like my spiritual sister and I love you so much. Thank you for making me feel home in my body and hope to meet you someday 🧡
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Recently I lost in a debate competition (it was not for the 1st time) and momentarily it did make me feel as if everything was shattered...but after a few calm moments of introspection I got to know my self worth is not validated by an external accomplishment. I enjoyed to witness my progression and the strength I put forward to face my fear. And I must admit u did play an essential role in helping me set this mindset...thanks for this so much! ❤️✨
good for you :) and that's amazing you pushed yourself to face your fears
Your videos helped me reduce my anxiety, which is very difficult to achieve. Thank you so much!
Thank you for making me feel so good without even a therapy ❤️
Your voice is so calming ♥️
Beautiful video. Beautiful wisdom. Thank you. ❤🌹
Your voice is incredibly charming and your content is really touching too.
There aren’t enough words I can express to thank you for this video! Lately , I have been feeling very depressed, anxious, and insecure. External factors are primarily to blame (i.e work, stress, relationships.) But I have also found that I have been being much too hard on myself. Constantly feeling that urge to always want to satisfy others, leaving myself in the dark. I have been yearning to find happiness within myself. I feel so lost, but your video has inspired me in so many ways. I am inspired to start my journey to self healing , forgiveness, and most importantly finding happiness within myself. Many blessings to you ❤️
One of the most beautiful video you 've created.. for me! Thank you!
Thank you. Your insight and inspiring video and commentary have struck a chord in my search for better understanding of what we each call our lives.🙏
Everytime I watch your video, I feel more hopeful and peaceful. I am grateful to know that there is someone out there who perceives life the way I do. This is more than enough to shade away my loneliness walking this concept of slow living life. Thank you, Sophie. I always wait for next Tuesday to see you in the video :)
I'm so glad you can relate to my videos :)
this is the life I want, peaceful, energetic, and connected to nature, thank you for sharing this with us.
These videos are so peaceful and some of the acts portrayed so simple, that it belies how hard it must be to make them. Thank you.
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I’m crying Thank you so much for this video
Your voice is so calm n u are such a beautiful woman. Thankyou for ur videos to help us with our life.
You really motivates me in all the ways ♥️ thank you for being there to share such valuable information.
You are so naturally beautiful. Thank you for all the videos!
You made me feel i am not alone and you make the strom inside if me calm , thank you ❤️
You videos are inspiring. It makes me calm every morning. I can’t wait to see more of this. Thank you, Sophie 💕
❤️ thank you Kimberly
Love all your videos!! It calms me!!