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- Опубліковано 4 лип 2022
- Today in New York. We ask the question - What's the most awful thing someone said to you?
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I had a younger friend of mine once say to me " God I pray my life doesn't turn out like yours" That hurt me more than anything anyone has ever said to me. I was just trying to do the best I could like everyone else. I am no longer friends with that person.
😂😂
What a prick. I pray none of my kids turn out like that person. Your resilience is inspiring. Keep going.
Such weird person, just ignore him
That was so arrogant
Were they mean or on the spectrum. Nobody normal would say that.
The most awful thing I was told was when my mom in a fit of rage told me that she had wished that I had died instead of her other two sons who passed away back to back. Crazy enough I was the youngest, and only surviving child. Hurt me to my core and I still feel it. I felt unwanted and like a walking emotionally aborted person. Worse was that my older brother was murdered and the other died of heart failure 9 months after. 😢❤
The worst ones come from family. Sorry you had to hear that from your mom. My brother calling me a waste of space gave me an existential crisis as a kid and pretty much defined my mental state for awhile. Overall, rocky family relationship but we're all improving on that. Hope the best for you and yours
Wow, you have definitely experienced a lot of tragic events and the loss of your loved ones. I can't even imagine how tough and dreadful it would be to handle that. My advice for you is to stay strong. Remember that your family still loves you and cares for you. Your mom didn't mean that. So don't be sad. She spoke out in a fit of frustration and couldn't control her emotions. Stay close to the rest of your family and cherish the moments you share with them. I wish you the best and hope you can fight through the pain!
That’s horrible
Omg rip to your siblings omg I'm so sorry for you your a amazing your life matters STAY STRONG PLS LIVE ON YOUR SPECIAL
"a walking emotionally aborted person" sorry but.... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
That last guy it felt like he was talking straight to me
This just shows that a lot if people are hurt internally. It shows people need to have more love
or..just stop acting like a bunch of wimps and get in yall feelings over nothing
@@Jblah BLAH BLAH BLAH
@@Justme1980. cry cry cry lol
@@Jblah Now don't you cry! It is you that said don't get in feelings over nothing.... So you dry those tears right on up.
@@Justme1980. Thanks for proving my point lmao
For me, it was Senior year of high school and 1 week from graduation. I don't remember the context, but a guy who didn't like me but we had a mutual friend threatened to kill me in front of the entire class including the teacher. He got expelled and banned from attending the ceremony.
Man that’s tough. Thank you so much for sharing
At least justice has been done In the end so thats something positive that many people don't have the luck to happen to them
My dad when I was in elementary school I was a straight-A student, in the gifted class, never a problem child, always helpful, loved by most told me I would be nothing but a whore and no man would want me other than to be a good fuc. He was an alcoholic, but to this day I would never understand where that came from. But it became the norm to speak to me that way which made me fight to never be seen that way. I still deal with those harsh words being told things like that on a regular.
The most awful thing I was told was while I was Confronting my abuser. My lifelong question was why he abused me. HIS ANSWER: “You wanted it.” … I was 5 the first time he sexually assaulted me.
OMG! I’m so sorry that happened to you and that he was so insensitive towards you……😔
❤🙏🏿
Guy, at the end....dont cry for me. Thank you! You keep your head up to bro.
I get called ugly at least once a week and I’m not exaggerating, even from every single family member at least once. You do get to know people true colors when you’re someone like myself. The worst one was when I was told by my middle school teacher in front of everyone. She only apologized because she was afraid of loosing her job. I was too scared to tell my mom hoping her apology means being treated normal by everyone as I deserve. I’m 28 now and I’m tired of everything
You're not ugly, they're ugly. Like for real what kind of society is that you happen to be in get out of there movr somewhere far away from there and surround yourself with good beautiful people who will be able to see your beaty as well
Yeah I agree with the comment above mine. You are not the problem. The people around you are mean. You need to get away from those toxic people
the only ugly ones are the people who could treat you so horribly. they don't deserve your time or energy, man.
Fuck those people. Please keep going ❤️
Jeez
My father married a woman when I was four years old I remember once I got sick and ended up the hospital this woman leaned against my bed and told me “ DAMM YOU , WHY DONT YOU DIE “! that was when I was 4 years old I’m 53 now and I can tell you I have never forgotten. It’s engraved in my mind till this day .
Somebody should have told that woman not to interfere with God's plan. And you cannot die until you have lived every beautiful day that he had given you in your contract. On earth as it is in Heaven psalms 23
Did you reveal this to your family when you got older?
God bless you
@@beulahthebride8465 I did to my dad a few months ago because he had. A heart attack . I told him when he got better and had recovered. He asked me to forgive his wife since we are Christian’s now and we need to forgive people who done us wrong .
I wish every child has a wonderful upbringing and unlimited love, compassion.
No body deserves to be treated like the way people are treating each other rn.
It’s weird because when I thought about it, I guess I just subconsciously forget those things because holding them in my mind didn’t do any good for me.
Words hurt the most when someone close to you says them.
Such an educational video. I realised telling people that they cannot do something hurts the most. For many people it even makes them lose motivation. My father calls me a waste of space. He says I'm gonna grow up to be nothing, although I have really big dreams. I am really a sensitive person so it hurts a lot although I try to not let it get to me. I try to stay as positive as I can.
I really love your videos Karim! Also, how about you ask New Yorkers "How did you overcome social anxiety (if they ever had it)"
I would say it's a matter of mindset. Let me tell you whenever someone tells you you can't fullfill your dreams you fuckin get up and work on it until you fullfill it, just to prove them wrong. Even if you lose motivation, use "I'mma prove them wrong" as motivation. Fullfill your dreams out of spite!
You can set your intention and focus then work towards whatever you wish. Ignore tha5 hurtful comment. Hurt people, hurt people, even those they are supposed to love unconditionally. Stay strong! You got this!!! ❤
That guy at the end, Abdullah, almost made me cry.
Well my mother once told me " your death is better than your life " .
I usually don't care about what other ppl think but this one hurts.
The best thing someone told me is that i changed his life for simply being nice to him ( he's a 9yo i met in a video game )
I love that one with the name Abdullah and he is one year Muslim. Good for you. You brought joy to my day man. 🥰❤️
Why do people say awful things to each other :(
It’s a vicious cycle of hatred and hurt. It takes someone very strong to realize they shouldn’t continue that suffering to another person but it’s easier said than done ofc. Or else it wouldn’t be so common
@@camaleon7979 Emotions play a major role. Some people say things in a fit of anger or frustration which leads to other people feeling low.
Because they can
Because no none in earth have feeling, and never will, we love when other suffer and dont care when other happy, just look outside and you'll see houndred of homeless and thousand of ignoring people, just ask the people walk around they will either ignore you, or say **it** dont see any homeless
Because we are also people and sometimes we also do the same and say awful things to others sometimes so if we would stop saying awful things to others then we will expect same things from other too.
5:50 Damn, His voice is lit
This happened when I was in college, living with my dad. I had a 7:00am accounting class that I really struggled with. My dad put me in charge of watching my 3yo brother while he slept. My brother finally fell asleep around 10pm, so I went to bed myself. Around 11:30 I woke up to frantic banging and yelling in the house. My dad came in yelling that it was my responsibility to watch my brother, and that he woke to find my bro running around the house. I told him that he was the parent, not me. My dad yelled "Ungrateful little f*ck!" And stormed out of the room.
I had a friend who told me that I would grow up to be just like my mom. Backstory: My mother would take our child support money (she had three kids with three different men, and two of us lived with her) and leave us alone for the weekend to go on expensive trips (we did go along sometimes) and leave me in charge. She would constantly go out and party, and/or bring men home. I was in charge of raising my brother and taking care of the house from 11yo to 19yo when I finally left to move in with my dad so I could walk or take the bus to college (in high school I wasn't allowed to learn how to drive or get a job). One of my biggest fears growing up was that I would turn into my mother. My mother was a hard worker when it came to her two jobs, so I could understand wanting a little time to relax or have fun. But she lived so excessively back then ( and even now).
Hope you are doing well mate
That's rough, I hope everything is working out for you.
i hope you're doing okay now, man
Your mom did not care about yall. Your father was a hater who didn't see you as an adult but a maid or nanny. I wish you had grandparents that could have been there for yall.
Great video!! Keep it coming. Powerful scenes!
Thanks bro!
Mine is pretty tame compared to a lot of you guys, but this is something that still gets me to this day. Ever since I can remember I struggled HARD learning in school. Tbh I thought I was just slower/dumber than everyone else. I graduated highschool with a 2.0 GPA. After I graduated I started taking some online ADHD/ADD/Dyslexia quizzes out of curiosity and everytime it came out as severe ADD and severe Dyslexia. I was in the kitchen when taking these quizzes and my mom walked by seeing these quizzes on my laptop, and she got offended that I even thought I had something wrong with me and said "Just pray about it". After visiting a doctor turns out I do have severe ADD and Dyslexia. I feel like it screwed me up mentally to go that many years telling myself I'm retarded, dumber, and slower than everyone else. I made it to college off a tennis scholarship and finished my freshman year with a 3.8 GPA. Then covid hit and I dropped out. I will make it back to college though!
I love you it’s ok 👍
You have learning differences and that’s ok.
Yes! Keep going! It's wonderful that your mom feels you should just pray, God gave you the answer on your computer search so that you can take measures to work with it to your best advantage. God already answered this prayer. Continue on and be the best you can be.
Parents don't want to think something could be wrong with their kids. Now you know, you could have gotten it from her or your father side. Glad you are doing well.
Why did you cut off that guy's story????😫😫😫😫
His story mattered the most outta any story
Seriously that was the ONE. Can you imagine a full Soft White Underbelly style interview with him?!
That’s next level channel content.
Excellent video!
Many unforgettable worst things have been told to me by people I call family and teachers over the years. One recent words from my father will stay in my memory till my last breath. This Ramadan me and my parents went for Umra, one night before going to Mecca my elder brother asked my father to make dua for his son and family and my father happily said he will make dua for them. And then I told my father to make dua for me as well because I am going to start my bachelor of studying in September and he right away replied me in harsh tone. He said " make dua by yourself" and I was numb for a moment and then I said, I ask you to make dua for me because Allah SWT never rejects a dua from a father that is made for his daughter.
Ill make dua for you.😥
Dang. He really was hating for some reason
Last man 😢😢💔
I was told to go back to my country and when I replied that I was born and raised in the US as well as my parents the stranger goes on to say perhaps ending it would be it and to use the rag on me ( my hijab, headscarf) to do so.
Okay that person is just sick come on no mentally healthy human would ever say sth like that. Dont listen to psychos please and especially don't let them get into your head
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It's hard when ppl say harsh things.. but please remember when you're going thru something that YOU'RE GOING THRU... don't post up in that pain. You will get out to the other side.
Wonderful thing you're doing. Keep it up.
I haven’t even watched 30 seconds and I’m crying, man! This question hurtS!
For me, it was when someone said that they quickly became homophobic; hating gays became part of their life style.
G💀Y⚡
Most vulnerable moments indeed
This is a good initiative
I came here for Aaron and his story.
But I've learned a lot more from the other people and what they have been through.
One of my Friends once said to me
“ thank you for all the good times that we had together but it truly wasn’t worth it because at the end of the day your a terrible person”
The most awful thing I was told was.... "I forbidden you to this house,to meet your siblings and me.dont ever come to my funeral when I die.I forbidden you to come,I don't have a son like you"My mom disowning me bcoz of money and she can't accept that I had a depression... And now been almost 5year living by myself,had a few suicide attempt in those years..and yeah... I'm still surviving...
Keep surviving! Don't stop surviving. Please read Max Lucado You Are Special. It's a simple book that's read in less than 10 minutes and it will change your life. No one will ever be able to say anything to you because once you read it it would change the way you view the words they're spoken over you.
People used to call me names, saying I'm ugly, I'm poor, I'm theft. Mocking my appearances.. for years.. it's makes me not confident in myself... But i have learned that, I should surrounded myself with people who appreciates me for who I am.. if people talked about me, that because I possess what they don't have..
Always be free. If you want to change how you dress in some way, there's plenty of places to get inspiration. I can't stand how this world sizes folks up by their appearance
That black guy, still carry that pain in his heart after allll these years, my God.
Ben Howell you shall forever hold a place in my memory and heart!
This video made me cry so hard.
Karim u look like your happy and healthy glad your doing great
Very sad stuff :(
My love and respect to them all.
Barakallahu fiik brother Abdullah, may Allah grant you strength and courage to hold on, and a firm heart…
That last guy hit me hard in my heart ....
This video somehow makes me feel I'm not alone
Because of my personality I was called a lot of awful things. But then I realized one day that when people say bad things to you and you don't hold grudges against them but genuinely forgive them, it's like the laws of the universe rewards you, if something bad was going to happen to you it somehow bypasses you. Instead, the person who hurt you will receive what was meant for you. Does anyone else feel that way.
My dad and I got black out drunk last year. In a sudden fit of rage he said I'm a worthless drunk & a junkie. He regrets having me, wishes I was dead. Basically stuff like that for a good 20 minutes and started swinging at me while I was in bed. It stings every day. I knew we had our issues, but the truth came out that night.
That ain't the truth. It sounds like he saw his younger self in you. So don't take it personal. Just stop drinking and have goals for your future. Make him regret saying that stuff to you and himself.
great content
Thank you
At a very very young age (thank god) I started to learn to just disappear when I am mad and not say anything hurtful because you just never know 💔
I hate to share this, but I rather be vulnerable to a crowd IDK than a friend I entrust with secrets who'll we forgo saying awful things to win an argument, and neglect how I might feel. Somehow it went like this: I wouldn't be able to feed/cater for my unborn child 💔
I am a man. And I work very hard. If the only thing I do is provide for the ones I love, I am fulfilled 💪🏼
“We would’ve had a good night but we spent it bailing you out of jail.” Almost sounds super double standard but the plot thickens.
There’s so many things that people tell me. A lot of it is “you’re fat” and I’m really trying my best to be healthy but it’s a really hard habit I’m trying to overcome. This one girl was an immigrant in third grade who my friends would hang out with and I was being left out and she ran up to me and said you’re fat. She was new and my friends said to be nice and I didn’t do anything to harm or hurt this girl. She left about 2 years later.
Another one was after school (like childcare) this girl with dyslexia came up to me and said the same thing, but she didn’t get in trouble because of her condition. Really messes me up to this day because you’re so young and I have PTSD
And lastly my dad said I ruin everything in the heat of rage. I know he was mad and I still love him but I can’t get it out of my head. Whenever I feel like I did the tiniest mistake, all those memories come back to haunt me.
Please think of what you’re saying and who you’re saying it to :)
Thank you for sharing. Please stay strong for me you got this. I’m sorry you had to deal with those harsh words from your grand mother
Your doing very good job brother
Love from INDIA
7:07 This.
My mom told me no one wanted me just a indian family thing , having one son is a must.. I have a older sister but she is the eldest one so it isn't her fault but I was born after her and they expected me to be a boy so it's my fault... No one can love me , I'm just an unworthy person. My grandmother never liked me 😂 my father once showed her my pic she was like who is this pretty grl and when he told her it's me she was in pure denial "her this pretty" after listening it i was so happy like she is finally accepting me but then she went like "stop kidding she can never be this pretty"🤡 and my father said nothing my mother was laughing and telling the story to my sister... I have alot of stories but this is the most recent one.. My childhood was horrible too.. But what can i even do god sent me here there must be some reason.. I still have some hope before I loose it😶 I JUST WISH NO ONE SUFFERS THE WAY I DO ✨
Watching this was a very bizarre experience lol
A child's first bully are it's parents.
mashaaAllah brother❤
I get bullied every single day at school I am struggling it cope and none will sit nere me or even talk to me unless the are been mean the worst thing someone has Said to me is to kill my self and that I’m worflss or that I’m csnt do it when evry single test I get top marks over that English (as u can tell with my spelling) it really pus me down u know if u know. 🥺😢😢
Just know that we are here for you and the bullies suck. Don’t worry man, I had bullies too in school and my best revenge was being successful and now the bullies are nobodies. Just be strong work hard and you’ll be out of that school soon on to do better things. Be strong and ignore them 🙏🏼 much love man ❤️
Damn, the last two hit really hard :((
My dad told me one time that nobody ever will love a fat person nor that a fat person will ever be happy
My father said that I'm useless and will never succeed in life
I was told by a police officer that the only reason I am in trouble and they are not is because they havent been caught yet.
Asalam ma laykum in these blessed days may allah bless and ease the sufferings of the ummah and may allah unite the ummah upon the quran and sunnah and may allah have mercy on all those that have passed away before us and may Allah have mercy on us when we pass away and may allah cure all those that have a sickness and a disability and may allah grant them a cure that leaves no aliment and may allah protect the muslims from hellfire and from the fitnah of dajjal and may allah answer all our prayers ameen
Wacalaykulaslam thanks brother for sharing this I love you for this ☺️
Walaikum Assalam
@@ihatebts4866 jazakallah khair for this wonderful comment
My heal Allah Abdulah and all people struggling with trauma and any difficulties ❤️
The most awful thing s like I did not know that my mom had a ice cream and I ate it and she. Found out and she got really mad and I said mo…mom I’m sorry and she said do you know what go wash your face and never call my face ever again and I stayed on my bunkbed all night😢
My mom told me once she should’ve aborted me. That hit a little differen but I told her, “shut up and cry somewhere else about shit you should’ve did” I, shook it off, I was already a grown man 22-23. It’s obvious she was the one miserable, kinda sad.. Good question, made me think lol 🤷🏻♂️
0:54 what he said hurt me so much
For me the 2 things which my bf said was - 1. I love you but my family will always be above u.theyll always be my priority.
2. I know you got infected with cold sores because of me but it's not really a big thing.
my dad told me I'm a loser when i didn't get high grades to catch my dream college and i was already broken but this word broke me more and more ...
This is YOUR life to define anyway YOU want. Your father is going to regret what he said. He probably felt bad afterwards too but won't let you know. Loser? It takes one to know one right?😅 But seriously, your father could die tomorrow and that should not be the lasting thought you have of him. Go and create great goals and choices for your future. Get God on your side. You can't lose bcuz He always Wins!!
6:21 Mom probably saw wasted potential, and she definitely didn’t understand why you never tapped in
NEVER justify a mother breaking a child's spirit. That's not something that just comes out of a parents mouth as an adult and you can tell it was on going. Wasted potential because he didn't live how she felt he should've been?
@@teafoster5643 Well it wouldn’t make sense for her to say it to him as a child, because what could have been wasted as a child?? Kids turn it to be addicts, felons, and all kinds of things. It’s a waste and a shame when you know they could’ve done better.
One of the awful thing that was ever said to me was by the girl i liked, or ex Girlfriend whatever you wanna calll it- she told me "i forgot we even existed"
You know she was trying to hurt you right? Don't fall for that nonsense. She big mad about you.
My grandmother tell me that I am useless and worthless , I am nothing but a burden on my family.
Hello I'm a fan for a while and I remembered a scary story you posted but when I try to find it it's gone the story of Tina I Wana know where is it?
I've been thinking suicide all day and IDK what I should do it wasn't the drug's this time I still have almost 4 years clean in my book but I still messed everything up and after fighting for this apartment for 7 years I got it April 11th of this year and even though all the bills are paid and ahead bc of a grave mistake on My part yesterday I'm losing the only stable home I've had in 7 years I really think I'm just a total fuck up I never get anything right .I really am trash 🗑️
Things will get better please try to believe me ive been where you have been an times will get better just tell yourself one more day each time it gets harder ,I promise you won’t regret it in those moments before suicice there is always regret you can look it up,your life has meaning and you deserve the hood that’s coming to you
May God make it easy on you. Turn to him in prayer. "Surely in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find comfort" (Quran 13:28).
Ben Howells voice though!
Ziiiiiuulllkkssss..
No matter how bad you are,don't skip the salah (5 times a day for the muslim)
My father told me to go live in an orphanage so there's that. Also a lot of 'you're fat'
I just the whole video with clips of people on UA-cam but you didn't show the whole story for this man in particular I wanted to hear what did his mom say at end?
When a man walked up to me at the mall while i was waiting for a friend in the bathroom. And he asked me where in from. I said i was born in pohnpei. And hes said whats that? And i said pacific islander.
He said to me. You dont look like what you're supposed to.
Terimakasih sudah berbagi, salam kenal
What if a father tells his first born who is also his only buological daughter, (not including her older sister who he adores that he took in as his own when she was 2 years old, when she asks him, as an adult, and has sinced birthed his most important parts of his life (his first & only 2 middle school aged grand dayghters at this time) why he emotionally disowned her at puberty & still scorns her in every way possible. When asked why nothing shes ever done was ever worthy in his eyes & why he has only had eyoen her, if any, very cold belittling discouragjng conditonal love & hie respobse is " what have you EVER done that I could possibky be proud of? That would deserve you of any other treatment, proceeded by his opinion that the one thing he could possibly think of to answer this would be the birthing his 2 granddaughters, BUT he cant even say that because they werent created by only her?. B" he has said that unconditinal love is earned & hasnt never been close to that idea. He thinks that by ueing this tactic his daughter would have no choice hut to prove him wrong. What he doesnt understand is that by using thjs disturbng form of "tough kove" shes always felt unworthly and questioned herself in all aspects. What adviCe would u give her
I would tell her to stop entertaining his bullsht. Give it no energy. That Meathead of a father must enjoy her reactions to keep doing it. If she ignores him and distances herself and the grandkids then maybe he'll act right. How dare he disrespects the woman who gave birth to them. They wouldn't like it if they found out grandpa was being mean to their mother. Also you don't want grandpa turning the kids against mommy. You have to teach this man how to treat you through boundaries and actions. He will get the picture when you guys don't call or come around.
asked them, what stress you are facing in 2022 rightnow?
The last guy.... 🤍🤍🤍
I like Julian he seems nice
I heard everything to such extent i don't feel anything. There is no longer a worst thing that i could present to you and have feelings to back them up. In London they think it is something that is encouraged to offend others expecting no repercussions by pretending they are not talking to you. I was a Veryan happy and guffy guy that would do anything to get a laugh out. Seeing people smiling makes me happy, simple as that. But I realised that the mindset is that here is that everyone is out to get you. Talking loud and throwing tantrums is the norm as well as instigating issues with intention off dealing with consequences. The degeneracy with be felt for years to come. They are thought as children to talk bad of others by parents and grandparents and put a social warrior mask. Sheep behaviour at its best👌. I've only seen this applied to black and Muslim peoples. From gays, lesbians, weman and funny enough white man come to our defence, not all the time. Asians a neutral. What they implying is that I shouldn't exist because my presence makes the uncomfortable 😕. Lessons were learned.
My mom once told me I’m going to hell which hurt me a lot 😢
That first guy was lil uzi Verts dad
How can i get in contact with abdullah
The most awful thing 😢💔someone has said to me was my son,he scream (Mom dad's not breathing)
NGL that last homeless guy was heck of handsome
My mom Said, she'll be happy if I'll die.
Daaaaaaaamn!
The worst thing someone said to me is that no one likes me
My mom said I can’t keep a man a relationship or a job.
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Remember You were a thought of God and now you exist so don’t think about dying think about how you lived.