I GAVE UP // Mental Health Update

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 164

  • @GabrielaCenturionNeumann
    @GabrielaCenturionNeumann 6 років тому +200

    The title is misleading. I mean, I did not see a woman giving up. I saw a woman realizing what is best for her and having the courage to admit to something difficult. I am sending you all the hugs and kisses you might need right now

    • @Gittemary
      @Gittemary  6 років тому +4

      Thank you so much for this amazing support and I eternally grateful

  • @brendaparkman8018
    @brendaparkman8018 6 років тому +68

    It’s not the things that don’t work out in life that we will regret later in life. It’s the the things we never tried. You did a brave thing traveling to another country very different from your own to live! A lot of people would never try. And another thing to admit publicly it didn’t work out. I very much admire you for that!!

    • @Gittemary
      @Gittemary  6 років тому +3

      I am still really glad that I tried, but yeah in the end turns out it's not for me, and I am sure I'll feel proud that I found out at some point

  • @Offensive_Username
    @Offensive_Username 6 років тому +101

    It was an *unpaid* internship in a *foreign* country and you even had to pay for the apartment? How nice of that institute to lure young people into doing free work for them.

    • @hriss96
      @hriss96 6 років тому +6

      Internships in Denmark are never paid. Therefore also Danish companies outside the country many times do the same. This is mainly due to the fact that Danish citizens enrolled in higher education are given a monthly stipendium of around 6000 dkk which is supposed to cover for their expenses. Yet I still believe it is quite unfair to have unpaid internships.

    • @carolinejohannsen8002
      @carolinejohannsen8002 6 років тому

      That's not true. I think it depends on the area of study. I studied engineering and was paid during my internship. However, when you are paid, you do not receive the monthly stipendium at the same time.

    • @Gittemary
      @Gittemary  6 років тому +7

      It is quite a shit system but unfortunately many internships, including international ones like mine, are unpaid and quite expensive. I only took the job because I knew it would look amazing on my resumé in the end. But yeah, it's just free labour really

  • @sharmaineruth2613
    @sharmaineruth2613 6 років тому +32

    You shouldn't feel embarrassed or ashamed at all! The fact that you chose to put your mental health first is so admirable and shows so much strength on your part. You are such an inspiration and role model in so many ways, including how you deal with tough situations and being able to realize in the moment that it's not benefitting you

    • @Gittemary
      @Gittemary  6 років тому

      Thank you so much for the amazing support

  • @Fallingxleaves
    @Fallingxleaves 6 років тому +2

    I had a similar experience. Remind yourself it's never a failure, its a learning experience! You tried it out and that's all that matters.

  • @LizzieDeanMakes
    @LizzieDeanMakes 6 років тому +6

    Hello lovely, in 2005 I studied with the British Council at the University of Nationalities in Beijing. We were very well looked after, in great university accommodation, and with many other people I knew from home, and we had guides who spoke English, but even with all of that support that we had (which you didn’t) - it was a massive culture shock! It is so different in Beijing to anywhere I have ever travelled to before across Europe. Perhaps because there is real poverty and crime in plain sight, in a way that is hidden in most western cities, it did feel risky, and we were very glad to be taken everywhere by our guides. With a physical groping attack of that nature on top of everything else - it is no surprise that you decided to go home! You should be proud of yourself for recognising that this situation was not for you, despite all the pressure to pretend everything was fine, and for putting your mental and physical health first. Solo travel is a big thing to attempt, and moving abroad in such a way is huge - if your limits are so vast, that still leaves you plenty of things to enjoy without becoming Lara Croft or some other kick ass solo travel adventure woman! Big love to you and see you in next video xxx

  • @deenawatts3257
    @deenawatts3257 6 років тому +1

    Helen Keller wrote "Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all." Sometimes the adventures work, sometimes they don't. Don't beat yourself up. You tried and that's the important thing. Don't let this stop you from new and daring adventures in the future. You rock!!!!

  • @333sam
    @333sam 6 років тому +5

    You didn’t “give up”. You did what you knew would make you feel better. I applaud you for being so strong as to look at your situation in China and think, I don’t belong here and I put my mental health FIRST. I’m glad you’re back in Denmark where you feel happy!

  • @noraboemau
    @noraboemau 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for sharing. No one should be ashamed to talk about things they can't control or things that happen against your will.

  • @annemariesamples5582
    @annemariesamples5582 6 років тому +1

    Oh my goodness! I can totally relate! My husband and I, and four of our five children have been living in Guam for 14 months, and we have struggled so much! We are a military family, and recieved orders to move here from Washington State. My daughter and I have suffered from depression and more since moving here. (Its a long story.) Im so happy you were able to return home, and share your story!!! Stay strong! ❤

    • @Gittemary
      @Gittemary  6 років тому +1

      Sending you all my good wishes

  • @Alex-wh4ce
    @Alex-wh4ce 6 років тому +3

    I have lived abroad for 5 years a in many countries and China was by far the hardest for me. I also had an unpaid internship for 2 months in Beijing. I walked in with a ‘no big deal’ attitude because I lived abroad before and it was very difficult. I too reached my limit. China is a beautiful country with amazing culture and I hope you can go back some day but until then, it’s ok. You did what was best for you.

  • @paigebethea1412
    @paigebethea1412 6 років тому +10

    I’m so glad you are safe now and that you are on the mend. Keep being your wonderful self.

  • @carolinah6472
    @carolinah6472 6 років тому +8

    You have absolutely nothing to be ashamed for❤️!

  • @kris91dq
    @kris91dq 6 років тому +13

    You are strong and it's okay you left, the place just wasn't for you and that's completely fine ! I am form Greece and i am in Copenhagen for a year now, and still sometimes it's hard but i feel great! My brother on the other hand is in Germany and he feels the exact way with you..and my biggest advice that i gave him was this exact thing.. your mental and physical health is more important than any job or anything and there is no room for disappointment there! It's not every country and every place for everybody!

  • @eco.chiara765
    @eco.chiara765 6 років тому +1

    There's no reason why you should feel ashamed or if you gave up. You didn't. You are truly amazing, powerful and you listened to your gut and heart and that's the most important thing. Now you are home and safe, safe place for yourself and for your mind. Keep it up love!❤✨ we love you and we support you

  • @NoFaceInTheCrowd
    @NoFaceInTheCrowd 6 років тому +1

    Deciding to go back home and putting your mental health first was so brave of you! I'm glad to hear that you're relatively okay after that experience. I wish you all the best and I send you a warm hug xx

  • @rockinmusicbaby
    @rockinmusicbaby 6 років тому +1

    What a brave thing you did to admit it wasn't working for you and did what was best for you. You're amazing!

  • @jobailey9594
    @jobailey9594 6 років тому +11

    Sorry to hear you were feeling that way but glad to see that you did what is best for you

  • @katewidmer5038
    @katewidmer5038 6 років тому +7

    Gittemary, I'm so sorry you went through such a hard experience. I'm proud of you for listening to your gut and fled from both the man at the bar and from your larger dangerous situation. I hope you find healing over the coming weeks. Remember, this experience doesn't define who you are. You are an intelligent, brave young woman with a huge capacity to love the world around you and everyone in it. Your spirit is infectious. As a cheerful person who also struggles with depression, I understand the frustration of not being able to control my feelings. It's not your fault. You did not fail. Seek the help you need and take good care of yourself. You are deeply loved and valued!

  • @erikahill7958
    @erikahill7958 6 років тому +1

    It was very brave of you to post this. I have been following your channel for a while and I really like your posts. I'm glad that you didn't risk your mental health for this and I'm glad you felt relieved after landing in Denmark. There's also a LOT of things that were outside your control that contributed to you feeling overwhelmed; it's not like you knew people, had a good place to live, etc. It's not your fault that your apartment was sh*t or that that guy was an a*hole. And I bet that those things contributed a LOT to your stress and depression. I know what it's like to simultaneously move into an apartment that's not what you were promised, go long distance with a boyfriend, and try to figure out cooking in a completely new place.... and it's really stressful in a country where you DO know the language! It's even worse if you don't and a guy assaults you on top of that!!! You had a LOT to deal with. It's also kind of good for us to know that you're not bulletproof, you know? You're an amazingly successful video blogger, you're one of THE zero waste people to follow, your English is flawless, you're beautiful, you have good ideas, etc. So to see that even **you** have had times in your life when you struggle with things makes you relatable, because everyone has something that they have struggled with or found hard at some point, or felt guilty about because they didn't handle as well as they wanted to. I know I have things like that and I'm sure at least 99% of the people watching your channel do, too. **Hugs**

  • @ViperFinn
    @ViperFinn 6 років тому +9

    Very few youtubers would have had the courage to honestly share this, and we thank you for it. Don't be apologetic for needing time for yourself, we understand and very well done for trying! you would never have known otherwise! :)

  • @MsJesse2011
    @MsJesse2011 6 років тому +1

    You are so brave for even trying not a lot of people can say that they at least tried. Also your amazing for being concerned about your mental health and wanting to take care of yourself first that’s being a really really strong person. Yes it didn’t work out but you listened to your body and that’s more important than anything in the world!!!

  • @ameliesauerbrey980
    @ameliesauerbrey980 6 років тому +1

    I think it's so brave of you realising what's the best for you and acting like it despite of what others could say and feeling like you failed what you certainly did not! It takes so much strength to do only what's good for you even though it's the most important thing!

  • @ghost-iq7eo
    @ghost-iq7eo 3 роки тому +1

    thank you dear gittemary for sharing this video. And a big GOOD JOB for getting yourself out of a terrible situation! Giving up the shitty apartment which you invested serious money, and leaving china prematurely is a very very hard decision to make, and you made the best decision for yourself while you were most vulnerable. I am so proud of you for that! You are such a treasure on UA-cam, I learned so much about zerowaste and gained so much happy energy from you. :) I wish you all the best in future adventures!

  • @Mari-gh1nn
    @Mari-gh1nn 6 років тому +1

    You were very right in making this decision. Im sure that you know and understand that sometimes things are not the way we expected.
    Come to Latin America! We have warmth, great beaches, amazing food and happy people.
    Much love 😘🇧🇷

  • @emberbelladonna
    @emberbelladonna 6 років тому +6

    Thank you so much for your raw honesty. I’m so sorry those things happened to you. Moving to a new continent where you can’t speak the language can be terrifying. Doing what is best for you is always the best course of action. I hope now that you’re back home you can start to feel better ❤️❤️

  • @TheHelenDry
    @TheHelenDry 6 років тому +9

    A very strong hug!!!

  • @giulkaebdus5536
    @giulkaebdus5536 6 років тому +1

    You did what was best for you! Don’t feel bad whatsoever. You are a badass!

  • @lynnpierce2683
    @lynnpierce2683 6 років тому +1

    Oh darling sorry about what has happened.. We love you and are here for you. Can't wait to see you new place. Hugs

  • @quibily
    @quibily 6 років тому +6

    I'm so sorry your China experience didn't work out. That sounds awful! I do hope this doesn't ruin China for you, though. I'm an American woman, and I dropped everything and moved to China by myself to be an English teacher about six years ago--and I'm still living there and loving it! But my position was part-time, paid (salary's enough to live on as long as you don't eat Western or go to bars a lot), with paid-for lodging ( by myself with other foreigners as my neighbors)and utilities! Its much more comfortable than your position sounds. If you ever feel drawn to China again, I'd go with teaching English. Anywhoo, hugs!

  • @dogasindar1148
    @dogasindar1148 6 років тому +1

    I think you made the best decision. If you dont feel happy, or worse you don't feel anything, there is no reason to stay no matter what. That guy who kissed you against your will is the one to be ashamed, he is such an *******. I know how hard it is to get rid of that disgusting feeling. I hope you will be happy again at home. Take care xx

  • @soflobrat
    @soflobrat 6 років тому +1

    your self awareness is so special !

  • @priscillaoquendo7666
    @priscillaoquendo7666 3 роки тому

    It’s a shame to see people thumbs down I’m watching it and it relates to me on so many levels. Thank you for posting this. ❤️

  • @MartynaLipiec
    @MartynaLipiec 6 років тому +1

    I feel so sad about this accident with this awful guy. :( And ass other ppl in comments below said - It's important to put your mental health first. It's not the last opportunity for you to do sth interesting and developing. It's just not the right place for you, but you tried and that's really important. Take care of yourself.

  • @msgreenswede
    @msgreenswede 6 років тому +1

    You did not give up! U stood up for yourself and realised what was best for u! It was very brave. Many people just disregard mental health problems, thinking that it's not a real problem. If more people looked after their mental health like u, the world would be a better place ❤

  • @deborahph6223
    @deborahph6223 6 років тому +1

    Sending you many hugs and good wishes - remember you are gold .. a precious being and you are brave to make those hard decisions - take care

  • @bronazlin4955
    @bronazlin4955 6 років тому +6

    Aww lovely,I'm so sorry, that sounded like such a hard situation !! I'm glad you're home&safe!❤️

  • @janetlynne4783
    @janetlynne4783 6 років тому +2

    I'm so sorry you had a negative experience. There is no shame at all in knowing what makes you happy and what doesn't, or doing what is best for you.

  • @aromaofhope
    @aromaofhope 6 років тому +1

    I'm so glad you came home instead of trying to force yourself to stay. It is very wise to accept and even embrace your limitations, in my opinion. Bravo for you!!

  • @shelbyquiring9192
    @shelbyquiring9192 6 років тому +2

    I'm so sorry this happened to you! I've been diagnosed with anxiety and depression and it sucks! But it's also the most amazing healing journey. Hugs! It's brave of you to take charge for your mental health.

  • @sixxlee890
    @sixxlee890 6 років тому +1

    You are so brave. Firstly, to have travelled to another country with no idea of what it may have been like, and secondly to have had the honesty to make this video. You should feel so proud of yourself, much love to you.

  • @lornasten3124
    @lornasten3124 6 років тому +1

    You absolutely did the right thing. Even without the incident with the guy from Edinborough. Speaking about mental health takes enormous courage - you need to be proud of yourself. You are a role model - be gentle to yourself ❤️

  • @houseofballet
    @houseofballet 6 років тому +1

    PLEASE don't feel embarrassed-- as someone who has struggled for years with depression, severe anxiety, and the numbness you talk about, what I would have given to have ended jobs or moved back after only a short few weeks, rather than months or years of feeling stuck. I thank God you got out quickly, THAT is truly a remarkable feat you did. It's taken me a long time to feel worthy of following my gut and my heart, and I still have to work on it. You're beating what many cannot, and it's inspiring, believe me!

  • @olgafilipescu4855
    @olgafilipescu4855 6 років тому +1

    Knowing when to quit and actually doing it is a clear sign that you are mentally strong. Much love!

  • @mariahmaxwell-barrett7121
    @mariahmaxwell-barrett7121 6 років тому +1

    I’m so glad you are ok. What a scary situation. You haven’t given up sweetheart. You listened to your heart and followed it back to safety. I’m glad you are home and ready for your next adventure!

  • @faithemaher
    @faithemaher 6 років тому +1

    I’m so glad you’re feeling better. I think it was unbelievably strong of you to recognize what is best for you and your personal wellbeing and act on it. Sending love.

  • @Tallblondy3
    @Tallblondy3 6 років тому +1

    I’m glad you figured out the best thing for you was to leave and didn’t push yourself to keep doing something that made you miserable. That’s an incredibly strong thing to do that I have often failed to. Depression is so awful and I’m sending you all the love at hugs ❤️❤️

  • @lydiaharris911
    @lydiaharris911 3 роки тому

    I personally can relate to a lot of this. This takes a lot of courage to put a video out like this that other people like me can see and relate to. You’re an inspiring person. Sending love and support.

  • @julesa245
    @julesa245 4 роки тому +1

    I know that feeling of nothing. You did the best thing for you..
    I never want to feel like that again. Xx

  • @mazarineharris1046
    @mazarineharris1046 6 років тому +1

    This video is a beautiful example of what makes your channel so special. Thank you for your honesty and bravery talking about topics many would run away from. You put your health first and that is the most important. It is not giving up, on the contrary it is taking action. I hope you continue to feel more at peace and whole at home in Denmark.

  • @bonecola
    @bonecola 6 років тому +1

    I'm so glad you're feeling better and had the strength to put yourself and your health first! So proud of you and thank you for sharing. Mental health is still very taboo and we need to normalize it. Much love from Portugal ❤️

  • @LesleySASMR
    @LesleySASMR 6 років тому +1

    The fact that you even went for it and took the opportunity to go to Beijing is monumental enough. You take care of you. Soon you’ll find what you’re comfortable with and the edge out of that comfort zone in ways that will make you feel alive and not unsafe. Thank you for sharing and take care of yourself in the meantime ❤️

  • @kittendecay07
    @kittendecay07 3 роки тому

    my heart broke watching this. I am so sorry this happened to you, but am so glad that you were able to get passed this. you are a very strong woman no matter the circumstances. hope you know you have a friend here in America.

  • @hann.
    @hann. 6 років тому +1

    We love you and support you so much, you haven't given up, this wasn't a good experience and you realised that you needed to take yourself out of the situation. That takes courage. Loads of love x

  • @boudouh3152
    @boudouh3152 6 років тому +2

    The same thing happened to me when I went on holiday in Japan last summer. I was supposed to stay there 3 weeks, I left after ten days. I felt scared, anxious and insecure and my friend who had invited me didn't take care of me. So I tried to enjoy my trip on my own but I really couldn't, getting out of my hotel room to buy food was the only thing I could do. I ended up in the hospital because I had a huge reaction to bed bugs. After receiving treatment, I decided to fly home even thought I could have stayed. I was mortified and felt stupid because my parents had paid for my trip and I failed at enjoying my holiday which is an easy thing to do. I imagine that being there for work must have been a lot harder for you, especially after what happened. If I wrote all this, it's just because I would have liked to know that it happened to other people and that it's not just me. And I think it takes strength to deal with things the way you did when you feel as bad as you did. When I think about my trip now, I don't see it as a failure but as an experience, not a great one for sure but an experience anyway. Hope you can make peace with all that soon 😉

  • @michellelockett6518
    @michellelockett6518 6 років тому +1

    Gittemary .. don’t feel guilty... many people wouldn’t even try this. Move on and appreciate your family, friends and home country xx

  • @clairecooke6268
    @clairecooke6268 4 роки тому

    Oh Gittemary I feel for you so much - this is a brave video. When I was a young teenager I experience the same feeling of nothing and emptiness, not knowing it was depression. I’ve also had a couple of weird little experiences of sexual harassment - nothing serious either, but it does give you an appreciation for how and earth do people cope with full on sexual assault !? Thank you for sharing 🙏

  • @deesmith7880
    @deesmith7880 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for sharing. Your raw honesty is really inspiring. You did what you needed to do to look after yourself, and that can never be deemed as giving up.

  • @TheIdeabaker
    @TheIdeabaker 6 років тому +1

    I’m so happy that you had the awareness to recognise that the situation was not one in which you would flourish. Having the courage to follow your intuition and change course sooner rather than later is commendable. Though a short experience, it taught you heaps about yourself and what is most valuable. It’s a good thing that you are back home, safe, happy, and refocused on your amazing life. Thank you for all that you do! 💕💕

  • @mimi1o8
    @mimi1o8 6 років тому

    I'm sorry for all the bad experiences you have to go through and glad that you're back safe at home.Sending you big hugs and keep taking care of yourself.

  • @kristendoesnotexist
    @kristendoesnotexist 6 років тому +1

    Oh darling! I'm not even sure what to say but I am sorry that you had to go through all of that. You are brave and strong and wonderful. Please don't beat yourself up about your reaction, you did what you could. I wish you nothing but happiness moving forward and I hope you realise that even though we are just a bunch of randoms on the internet from the other side of the world, we care for you x

  • @anotherbubble85
    @anotherbubble85 6 років тому +1

    Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry you had such a difficult time. Please take time to be kind to yourself and heal. This is a very real, honest and brave video. Sending love xx

  • @janneke4609
    @janneke4609 6 років тому

    I think you are so strong telling this story and I'm sorry for the awful things you had to go through. I hope you soon will be in a happier place in your life❤️

  • @kyranielsen6933
    @kyranielsen6933 6 років тому +1

    Thank you so much for sharing. This is incredibly brave and there is nothing to be embarrassed about. Sending you so much love and support ❤️

  • @emilyroberts3620
    @emilyroberts3620 6 років тому +1

    So glad you are home and safe 💚 you didn't give up you made the best decision for you to return, be proud 😊

  • @mailartlover
    @mailartlover 6 років тому +2

    I follow your channel a while ago but I think this is the first time I comment. I wanted to thank you for sharing your experience, you are very brave and I admire you for that. I'm so sorrt you had to go through such regrettable situations. Now take that pain and your courage and keep sharing content because you do it so well! Also, it is very much appreciated that you shared some "no so happy/perfect" content, because is more easy to relate with that. I send you all the hugs and love you may need.

  • @rosalie3999
    @rosalie3999 6 років тому +1

    Please don't feel bad for coming home... I am so sorry honey that would of been awfull!! Just look at it as an adventure maybe not a good one but still one and I am sure you can give advise to pepole that are about to do the same thing... Much love .. Karen

  • @Strawberrywrack
    @Strawberrywrack 6 років тому +1

    I made similar experiences in my life and felt also embarrassed for reaching my limits so easily/ not being the person I wished to be.
    Thank you so much for having the courage to make a video about that.
    I hope you know, that there is no need to feel embarrassed and that you are not alone with what you felt ❤️

  • @thickandcutie14
    @thickandcutie14 6 років тому +1

    Rhis doesn't sound like giving up. You have to keep yourself well and safe. That situation screamed danger. I'm glad you are back home. And what happened was serious, no on should feel entitled to have physical contact like that. Please care for yourself 😘

  • @ASimplePerson1
    @ASimplePerson1 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for being open about this, especially about being harassed. You made the right choice for yourself! I really hope no bed bugs traveled back with you.. they are awful.

  • @Anita-rb7ge
    @Anita-rb7ge 6 років тому +2

    I am so sorry for what happened, especially for that experience with that horrible guy. I send you a big hug! As for your state of mind... I had the EXACT same experience when I moved to Paris to work as an au-pair. I was looking forward to living my life there, but I KNEW from moment one or two I had made a huge mistake. I salute you for realizing that experience wasn't for you right away, it took me 5 months of my life no one will ever give me back! During the last two weeks, after (eventually) telling the host family that I wanted to "sod off", I ended up staying in my room all day long and go out just to buy Coca Cola (those pre-zerowaste days...) and biscuits at the local super market. And I lived in the city centre of Paris... So I absolutely understand what you mean when you say that you weren't even able to visit the places ppl suggested in the comments...
    I wish you all the best now! :*

  • @pinkysworn
    @pinkysworn 6 років тому +1

    I’m proud of you for realizing your limits and for doing what’s best for you!

  • @mariagrazia.elia96
    @mariagrazia.elia96 6 років тому +1

    Everything will be okay, darling! This bad experience will help you to continue to live your life in a more conscious way, in a more courageous way, no matter what. But, please, don't stop smiling and spreading your energy, positivity: you're beautiful just the way you are. 💛

  • @Dannibec55
    @Dannibec55 6 років тому +1

    A very brave video! You tried something scary and it wasn’t for you, keep smiling! We must all look after our own mental health! Love you! Xx

  • @theresatschurtschenthaler2131
    @theresatschurtschenthaler2131 6 років тому +1

    you are such a beautiful, honest human being!

  • @missmatti
    @missmatti 6 років тому +2

    I have moved abroad many times and it's always hard. But I have moved to places like London and Canada which I do not think is even close to how challenging I would find China if I moved there now. I have heard it's hard (to move to China) even from people who have Chinese parents (but are grown up in the west) and know the language. It's so different traveling places vs. moving to places in my experience. Not every place is for everybody. Maybe you will move abroad again at some point to a place that's more suited for you? Happy to hear you feel better back in Denmark!

  • @Ashthegrey
    @Ashthegrey 6 років тому +1

    I'm so glad you were able to get yourself out of this situation and I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm glad you made it back ok. Sending you love!

  • @ShroomAndMoss
    @ShroomAndMoss 6 років тому +1

    I'm so sorry you felt that way, but glad you took the right decision to you and now is feeling much better 💗

  • @JuliaRittereiser
    @JuliaRittereiser 6 років тому +1

    I very much feel you! I went on a holiday earlier this year and all I wanted from the 4th day onwards was traveling home. I felt guilty about not enjoying the holiday and pushed through. But would have totally decided differently if this weren't a holiday but such long trip as yours. I admire you for acting so quickly and priotising your health and sanity over cv-polishing things. For many, many years I pushed through internship, jobs, things I thought I have to do and felt miserable. It took me a long time stopping this and I still work on the "aftermath". Sending you a hug from Berlin!!

  • @EarthWanderess
    @EarthWanderess 6 років тому +1

    I think what you did was amazing! These days people are too afraid of change or "giving up" that they are pushing themselves out of a healthy and happy live just for the fear of being seen as a failure in other people's or the societies eyes. I hope and think that this will help not just me but other people too to fo with their gut and prioritise themselves over what they think is expected from them

  • @dswindlerhagen
    @dswindlerhagen 6 років тому +1

    You followed your gut & intuition... take some time to be kind to yourself & move on in a gentle way. Thanks for sharing...was missing your videos. Take care & be blessed! ❤️ Danielle

  • @amymarie9107
    @amymarie9107 6 років тому

    You are an absolutely vibrant human being🌟 your whole vibe and your videos are what inspired me to make so many positive changes in my life. You were actually the first youtuber I ever subscribed to! 💎 You are so brilliant and so amazing I adore every video you make❄Thank you for all the inspiration🌈You are so loved💖💖💖

  • @lauramoreno93
    @lauramoreno93 6 років тому +1

    First of all, I want to say that I think you are so BRAVE to make and post this video. Many people (and speacilly women, referring to what happened with the guy from Edimburgh) believe it is not important to share what happened to them or how they feel in those moments, that's why I think it is so brave of you to do this and to make the decision you made.
    That situation happened to me twice, moving to a different country and just feeling so depressed and that everything was wrong there. First time I planned to stay for 9 months and left after two months, and the second time I recognised the feeling and pussed me a little, basically because I was in my dreamed country, however I left earlier than planned as well.
    With all this I mean that it is ok to change plans, it is ok to feel depressed, it is ok to go back home where you feel safe. And after all, we have to give ourselves a pat on the back for being so brave to travel on our own, to experience new things, to get to know ourselves better, and specially to find that strengh to share these experiences, the good and the bad ones :D

  • @Helene1663
    @Helene1663 6 років тому +2

    1. You tried
    2. It takes a lot of courage sometimes to "Give up" and stand by your limits. You are a brave woman ;)

  • @elodiekolb8012
    @elodiekolb8012 6 років тому +1

    You seem to be such a strong woman and i wouldnt called you going back home giving up. I myself was in china this year and i really understand your difficulties its such a different culture, no one speaks nothing near your language. Anyways, Im glad that you are safe back home and am exited for the upcoming content, stay strong and happy

  • @sattvadevi
    @sattvadevi 6 років тому +24

    Living in patriarchy has taught us to feel shame when someone violates or abuses us, when it's of course this Edinburgh guy who should be feeling really really ashamed! Not you. LOVE

  • @moni_eyre
    @moni_eyre 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for sharing such personal thoughts and experiences. I can imagine how hard it must have been for you. But please remember that you should not be embarrassed, quite the opposite! You should be proud of yourself! You decided to be truthful and to live in harmony with your true self. The most important is to be happy; and by making the decision, you made it happen! You have also shown to others that we should follow our hearts 🙂
    Please take care and enjoy the fresh chapter, and moving to your new apartment xxx ☘️💚

  • @mariabogh
    @mariabogh 6 років тому +1

    ❤️❤️❤️
    Your wellbeing is more important than anything. I'm so so sorry to hear what you went through! Good to know you are back home. I think you are brave - for going to China in the first place and for choosing to come home. Hope you are all right. Wishing you all the best 😘

  • @SuperLivelife44
    @SuperLivelife44 6 років тому +1

    Hey! First time commenting but felt I needed to because what you did was so very brave. You shouldn’t be ashamed of yourself for doing what is best for you. You didn’t give up at all! You had the courage to say no this isn’t right and make the necessary changes to get yourself out of this negative situation. Hope you’re feeling much better now you’re home😊 Much love x

  • @VassaKB
    @VassaKB 6 років тому +1

    you are AMAZING!!! and strong and brave to try (living in a foreign country is not easy, I am doing it) and to say "no!" to the experience, and I am so sorry it was such an unsuccessful experience for you, hope the next one will be better =) dont'give up, the world is big and wonderful=)

  • @franciska5892
    @franciska5892 6 років тому +1

    I'm so sorry to hear about this! You did the right thing though and took care of yourself! Thanks for sharing

  • @creativeeverydaylife
    @creativeeverydaylife 2 роки тому

    Godt du passer på dig selv ❤ og godt du kom væk fra den ondskabsfulde mand! Sikke en voldsom situation, det er bare frygteligt at nogen går langt ind over ens grænser! Jeg håber du finder tryghed i dine vandte rammer ❤ Tak fordi du delte det 😊

  • @sarasmith6649
    @sarasmith6649 6 років тому +1

    I don't think anyone on here thinks you are being silly! The complete opposite infact! You have been so brave! Not only have you tried to give it a shot, you have also been so honest in the fact it didnt work out for you! Not everything works out for us, that wasnt meant to be and always trust your instincts just like you did! As for that A-hole from Scotland Karma will bite is ass one day! Xx

  • @TaliaCarbis
    @TaliaCarbis 6 років тому +1

    So proud of you for realising your limits and being brave enough to change your plans. Xo

  • @thehermitspath
    @thehermitspath 6 років тому

    I think you‘re an awesome, unique and interesting person. Listening to you makes me feel good. You have this warmth about you, this kindness.

  • @bum7201
    @bum7201 6 років тому +1

    Hey don't feel bad! taking care of yourself n your feelings is not giving up! I'm so sorry for the horrible incident n all that you had to go through. Maybe it's not the right time in your life, maybe you will experience China/Chinese culture in different circumstances in the future. Meanwhile heal your 💓 n eat all the yummy foods hahaha
    (Psst, Hong Kong is definitely much easier if opportunities come, then maybe I can meet you!)

  • @ebaniesings
    @ebaniesings 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for sharing your story 💚
    So much insight and grace in your choices and knowing when to let go.
    Im really happy to see things are settling for you now

  • @MySeasideRendezvous
    @MySeasideRendezvous 6 років тому

    Thank you so much for sharing your story of what happened with that guy. People don’t really realize what sexual assault is and it can be anything from a touch forward. You felt violated and your personal space was violated. That was not okay! I’m glad you acted quickly and left as soon as you had a chance. Sending you lots of healing vibes and love. ☮️❤️

  • @christelsmeets
    @christelsmeets 6 років тому +1

    you make a really great choice you choice for your self thats a think you can be REALLY PROUD OF.

  • @mld0485
    @mld0485 6 років тому +1

    You go girl, you are strong. Take the time you need to heal 😘 You're not alone. - xXx-