@@feelincutemightcommitwarcr5432 I believe that in most latino countries people oftenly greet each other with hugs, not only between relatives but also between friends and acquaintances. Here in Brasil we not only greet with hugs, but also with kisses (especially between men and women and women and women). Some friend presents you with a friend of theirs and you two, who just met, hug and kiss each others cheeks once, twice or three times (depending on which state you are in).
I'm glad that most people have stopped shaking hands. For me touching of any kind is personal and should only be done between those in your inner circle.
A roommate in college told me about a book titled something like "Shake, Kiss or Bow". I kinda wish you had talked about other cultures' respect and greeting symbols. I'm down with the bow but I'm an introvert and am ok with not touching other people.
1:17 did you not see the representation in this very video? If women get a full video about them with no male inclusion then men need a full video about them with no female inclusion...
gloves r probably less useful than hand sanitizer and soap cause youll still touch stuff and have to remove them before touching your face same way you have to wash or sanitize your hands before touching your face unless theyre made of a good antimicrobial tho ive never heard of antimicrobial clothes yet but thats gonna be interesting 🤔
As an Real Man, a good old fashion firm handshake is universal of communicating with out communicating, while looking each other in the eye! Thank You 9/17/2023
I always hated shaking hands as much as making eye contact. They both make me feel uncomfortable in the presence of strangers I barely know and am not sure if I'll ever see again anyway, especially when job hunting.
There's no way we'll stop shaking hands after this is over. It's just too big a part of society. The gesture has been around for so long that to say a few years will take that away is a bit ridiculous. You said so in the video, after the Spanish flu epidemic was over, people went right back to shaking hands. It stands to reason that this will also be the case when this epidemic is over, at least in my opinion.
Actually, I have a job that required me in normal times to greet multiple people (mostly college students) and welcome them into my office every day. Literally dozens per day at times. Many wanted to shake my hand, as they are almost all well-taught, but I’ve long been considering how to deal with the multiple germ situation. So I’ve had hand sanitizer on my desk for years and used it often. Clearly we (I) will never go back to those comfortable days. But what’s a good alternative? Nothing else seems quite right. Air fist bumping? Namaste? We’ll see, I guess.meantime the Zoom one or two-hand wave will have to do.
I agree especially for professional reasons it's a special physical gesture that shows you can be a good sport and sincerity. It feels awkward or stand off-ish to just stand there and say okay bye
The Romans used to shake hands by grabbing each other by the sleeved forearm to make sure the person they were greeting wasnt hiding a weapon up their sleeve. I think we should bring that back.
Can we all just wave and say “hello” from now on? Even before Covid I hated shaking hands especially if they’d touched their eyes or nose. And get rid of hugs as a form of greeting.
Great video!❤️ But I have to say I always hated shaking hands 😅 In italy we even kiss each other on the cheeks 😓 I hope it all goes away, for us introverts and for everyone's safety!
Former Senator Bob Dole, as some people may not be aware, had his right arm paralyzed in combat during WWII. If you ever see a photo or video of Dole, he will most likely have a pen clenched in his right hand. I got to meet him when I was a college student in the 1980's. There was a large line of people waiting to shake his hand. Not everyone knew to offer their left hand. But Dole without missing a beat would turn his left hand thumb down and shake their right with his left. I guess of all the things he would have had to learn to do left handed it was a relatively small thing, but of course incredibly important for a career in politics. I never got to meet Senator Daniel Inouye who lost his right arm to a grenade while fighting with the 442nd in Italy during WWII. I imagine he was equally skilled at shaking right hands with his left. My family home was sold a few weeks ago and I've been going through boxes of stuff that spent the last 30+ years in the attic. in one box I came across a paper I wrote in college about the 442nd based largely on a book written by Sen Inouye. I think both men deserved to be honored for their service to this country, but Inouye had to not only contend with enemy forces, but a U.S. government that interned his family. I think I have rambled a ways away from hand shakes, so let me just say I wish I could have shaken Sen. Inouye's hand as well.
Damnit! I am a west-coast hugger! Also, Danielle has one of those perfect voices I want to narrate the story of my life. Such joy in her exploration of any given topic! Thanks for the content!
Me too. I believe I've mastered the art of the handshake after years of trial and error, but I'd rather not contribute to spreading illness. I'm sure we'll be able to figure out and master whatever greeting we move onto next.
I love a good handshake. It's like a hug with a good friend or a friendly professional hello. I feel so awkward without it. I can see how it transmits germs. I guess I'm hoping others wash their hands like I do.
Easily understand, but apart from being a non-touchy introvert I have had my hand (both hands on occasion) painfully crushed by men showing off. So I avoid handshakes, and dislike being touched by people I don't know and trust. And this decade have started expressing my opinion of the exuberant crushers.
@@kathryngeeslin9509 I love that you have clear boundaries. Some people have no concept of personal space or their hand strength. There's no need to crush hands 😣 I think it will be interesting to see how culture shifts after this pandemic. I hope it creates a kinder world for introverts ☺
imasoftballgirl08 but not hand-washing is very common. Think it’s been 40%. Maybe (I hope) this pandemic has developed some better habits in people. But the way sanitizer sold out but not soap, jeez idk
Handshakes will never die. You can tell a lot from a handshake. Of course if it's not someone you're doing business with and you have fans say you're a celebrity. There's no need to shake all those hands, a fist bump will suffice.
I definitely prefer the Indian Namaste (literally 'l bow to you"), hands followed with a slight bow, this was also taken up in SE Asia also, definitely a respectful greeting & keeps the distance from strangers
Here in Brazil, people greet each other with kisses on the cheek. I hear that in some places, like Rio, people do it with two kisses, one on each cheek. It's socially acceptable and expected, even for strangers. I've never liked that and felt uncomfortable when meeting strangers, so I'm actually glad for the changes now.
I'll be honest I like shaking hands, because Idk it just helps me for a better connection when meeting new people, and I don't like hugs or anything like that for personal reasons, but I mean, I could live without handshakes, I don't meet many people, plus I rather being unfamiliar/awkward with a person rather than either them, me, or someone else we come in contact with around that time to get ill snd suffer
As a primatologist I must add that handshakes are part of our biological repertoire, with chimps shaking hands in contexts similar to those of our own human interactions. I suggest Dr Catherine Hobaiter's work for those interested (google The Great Ape Dictionary).
I like shaking hands. It tells me something about the other person's vibe! If it goes completely out of fashion, I say we adopt the Japanese bowing 🙇🏽♀️
It’s never dead. I’m gonna proudly shake my brothers hands. I’ll wash it don’t worry. But handshake is a spiritual and physical connection between both parties
I'm pretty sure the handshake isn't going away for long, since it's such an old gesture. However, personally I feel like we could definitely use it less. I'm cool with shaking the hands of my brother or friends, since I know where their hands have been, but not so much a near stranger.
This was fascinating, and I happen to have done a Facebook Live video about the 1793 Yellow Fever epidemic, so it seems it has been on other people's minds, though your video is of a far higher production value! :) Very cool video. Thanks for it!
Here in Argentina it has always been the custom to greet with a single kiss on the right cheek - all genders and ages. As you can imagine, this was the first thing to stop back in February. I'm not sure if it will come back.
Yeah. I learn a lot about a person by seeing how they react to my offer of a fist bump when they initiate a handshake. If they can adjust and respect my counter offer, with a smile and no forced nervous commentary, that’s a great sign that they respect others and can be flexible rather than tradition bound. I’d rather they offer a warm smile, and possibly a wave of greeting or departure than offering a handshake. I’m not part of the faith, but a variation on touching my own hand to my chest with a nod seems a great way to demonstrate mutual respect for a person while being very clear that I expect us to keep our hands to ourselves. It was very much expected that females must adopt masculine styles of doing business if they wanted to be part of the workforce. But tradition is just peer pressure from dead people. I’m never going back to being pressured into shaking hands. Science says it’s an unhealthy practice, and anyone who fails to grasp this, and wants to insist on shaking hands with someone who demonstrates they wish not to, has told me plenty about their worldview.
I agree. I don't like touching people in general (not because of germs, I just don't like physical contact with others), so I'd be happy if this went away.
@Shayne Punim that comment makes you sound so condescending. Some people just don't like to have physical contact with others, specially if they don't know them, also what about people with sensory overload issues? Touching them is certainly not going to calm their anxiety.
Shayne Punim I am mentally ill, and part of it is not liking to be touched. Don’t feel sad for me. I have a dog and 3 kitties that I pour my affection to. We all are different. Some people are very physical. I’m more reserved. It’s ok.
Shayne Punim physical touch has been shown to ease anxiety in neurotypical people... it has been shown to do the opposite in people with a huge variety of issues. When a person says they dislike human touch universally, you should assume they may have one of these issues and you should never condescend to them or tell them there is something wrong with them. As a person who has worked with autistic people, you should already understand this. Additionally there are myriad studies showing that animal touch is processed differently by the humans brain, especially by people who are not neurotypical. Try and be more empathetic and respectful. You should always ask for verbal or nonverbal consent when touching someone, especially someone you don’t already know well. That is just polite.
@@pursuitsoflife.6119 No...not sad at all...i hate it when strangers asking for hugs or kiss on the cheek....declining it would make me appear to be rude...lip kiss is absolutely disgusting too..as for hugging your family or partner, that's not related to this topic, cuz obviously we not talking about those here.....handshake is kinda annoying especially cuz my mom always urge me to shake hands with guests...those guests can go fk themselves for all i care..that's her friends or whatever, not mine!...if my mom isnt present, i wouldnt even bother opening the door until they get lost! Whenever i see people outside, they always want to do handshakes.... If you spend time with your friends, observe what they touch....then, when they see their other friends, they shake hands using their dirty hands....long ago, i saw people pick his nose or scratch his butt (different person) , not long after that, he shakes hands with people....😨😨😨
I think physical contact needs to stop being expected of others when there are so many reasons to not want to and so many alternatives. Greetings have changed before, they will continue to change. There will not be a sudden loss of physical contact between those that have had a chance to express comfort and consent to such. Instead it would be nice to not put constant social pressure on people to touch others. Disabilities, personal history, preference, and situation all can lead to people not wanting touch. I personally am working on not returning touch greetings based on social expectation and not personal agreement. It is habit, and not reciprocating is seen as rude, which I avoid, but I hate the amount of people that just reach at me assuming that's fucking cool. And if I am in a work environment, I am expected to not be rude. Honestly, I think it is more rude to assume consent to touch with someone, especially if meeting for the first time. And for those that insist on it after a refusal? How dare someone think they can just infringe my bodily autonomy by judging me for not wanting to have them touch me.
I will never shake anyone’s hand again after this. I hated it before the pandemic but now I have a wonderful excuse to turn down handshakes for the rest of my life.
I have had a slight fear of shaking hands, public keypads, door knobs and gasoline pumps for the past 20 years. I would sneak off to the bathroom at church every time I would shake hands with some one just to wash my hands. I'm relieved we all stopped this custom.
I love how insightful your videos are. Would you consider an episode on the origin of African philosophy. It's hard to find reliable sources on these topics.
I seem to recall that at Nemrut Dagi in the Taurus Mountains, Anatolia, Turkey, is a relief sculpture showing King Antiochus of Commagene, a small kingdom in the 1st century BC, shaking hands with the demigod Hercules. Apparently it symbolized his alliance with the Roman Empire as a client kingdom who agreed to supply it with extra troops if needed.
What about hand shaking in Non-Western cultures? Why is it that we rarely receive information about various practices and customs among Non-Western and certain Asian cultures?
imagine1day Actually there are several Non-Western cultures that engage in various forms of hand connecting when greeting each other. The Maasai men gently rub each other’s palms.In Ethiopia the handshake is accompanied with a bow. In Liberia some people engage in a snap handshake when greeting each other. There are many other examples of variations of hand shakes among Non-Western people.
If I shake someones hand I consider it the same as touching a door knob in a public place and wash my hands and careful about what I touch before I can wash.
I will say that I was always told because most Most people are right handed it shows that you were unarmed and that's why extending your left hand is a sign of disrespect.
Hand shakes are part of us. Just because you shske, doesn't mean you rub your face or sniff it--that's a new one one me. You should wash or sanitze your hands often. Hands are only a part of the germ delivery system.💜
When did a Screwdriver (a colorful "feminine" drink) become assigned the value of "girlyness", whereas a Negroni, an Americano Cocktail, or a Rob Roy cocktail became a "manly" or "guy" drink. I want to know the cultural origin of these, from a Western perspective. This might take a week to produce. There might be other projects in line thus far, but really it seems worth talking about. Why? Not just because of the fact that I like a good vintage cocktail, but...so do so many other Americans. Also this idea of a drink having the residue of gender rub off on it, through...culture is odd (almost said ood). No lie. Why?!
Softest handshake I ever felt? Jimmy Carter. I always admired his international relations, but suddenly had the clips of every handshake with world leaders run through my head as soon as he took my hand in a soft, loose, velvety grasp. This was 30+ years ago, so he wasn't even elderly yet.
I think it will come back sooner or later but maybe it won't be so widespread. It was a person-person contact with the palm of our hands that are very sensitive, so I think it establishes some kind of connection with other people, especially people that we like; our friends, co-workers, extended family, but maybe we'll reserve it for people we really apreciate.
I think handshakes are harmless compared to public transportation and public restrooms. What people should do more often is hand washing, because it's inconceivable to know that people need warning signs remembering them for washing their hands in 2020!
I've never liked to shake hands. I've variously wondered if it's because I'm female, or because I'm left handed, or maybe it's because I am all too aware that lots of males don't wash their hands after urinating (pay attention next time you are able to watch men going in and out of loos - they are not out of sight long enough - some are still adjusting their trousers as they exit). (Women might be as bad, but it's more difficult to tell, unless you are able to see the washbasins.) I wouldn't want to handle anyone's genitals, so I don't want to touch their hands. If a polite alternative greeting signal can be found, I'll be happy!
While it does seem to make sense to abandon this practise, it would be a shame to lose the personal connection that is such a huge part of the handshake.
Even before #19 it was weird, shake or not to shake. It's just as bad when you do the dance " to the left to the right " in the grocery aisles. I think the bow in certain situations is the best to show respect. And the hug, which comes naturally in most cases. I like the grin and smile , some are not comfortable ,depending. You do so many things with the hands I think best forgotten. Now the video.
When it comes to the study done in Israel, it may be a case of a cultural misunderstanding. There is a Jewish custom to kiss your finger after shaking someone's hand. Just as one kisses their finger after touching a sacred object (such as a Torah or Mezzuzah) many will kiss their finger after shaking hands to remind themselves that people are also sacred. One who is unfamiliar with this custom might easily mistake the gesture of kissing a finger with smelling it. The custom is by no means universal (not even the majority), but it is common enough that it would be noticed in a study done in Israel.
About the information in 2:34 (Muslim and shaking hands between the two genders) women are advices/ forbidden not to shake hands with males that aren’t *mahrams* (a mahram is a member of one's family with whom marriage would be considered haram/sinful. Like father, brother, uncles etc) not any male.
More than half of the video is on US handshaking when it was already a common thing. It would be nice to focus on the actual origin or at least in early worldwide traditions
“Why is this handy custom so difficult to shake?”
Outstanding!
You can see how proud she is of that one.
@@mikukene1998 I’m proud of it for her too
"We shouldn't shake hands"...
Me and my entire latino family greeting with hugs and kisses at every party 😐😅
Pretty sure that happens worldwide
Santiago Poblete Hahha I love hugging my friends. lol I have some friends that I have to remind myself not to hug because they don’t prefer it.
@@feelincutemightcommitwarcr5432 Pretty sure it doesn't. Actually, I take that back. I'm positive it doesn't.
Same here. Very different problem for South and Central America.
@@feelincutemightcommitwarcr5432 I believe that in most latino countries people oftenly greet each other with hugs, not only between relatives but also between friends and acquaintances.
Here in Brasil we not only greet with hugs, but also with kisses (especially between men and women and women and women). Some friend presents you with a friend of theirs and you two, who just met, hug and kiss each others cheeks once, twice or three times (depending on which state you are in).
The photo of the family in the 1918 flu outbreak always gets me -- the cat is wearing a mask just like the rest of the family!
I'm glad that most people have stopped shaking hands. For me touching of any kind is personal and should only be done between those in your inner circle.
A roommate in college told me about a book titled something like "Shake, Kiss or Bow". I kinda wish you had talked about other cultures' respect and greeting symbols. I'm down with the bow but I'm an introvert and am ok with not touching other people.
nebulan I’m okay with the bow for men and the curtsies for women! Course with things as they are a curt bow for both sexes could be acceptable.
@@malirabbit6228 or curtsies
Looking for that book ;)
Mali Rabbit Gross I don’t want to curtsy lol. I’m Japanese though so I’m down for bowing 🙇♀️
I like the praying hands type gesture they use in India.
5:49 is that cat wearing a face mask? kinda cute tho
I’d like to see a follow up video on women’s place in the history of handshakes.
Yes!
1:17 did you not see the representation in this very video?
If women get a full video about them with no male inclusion then men need a full video about them with no female inclusion...
Yes! There is something very different here that could use some discussion.
vulkein You are just being silly, cool your jets
@@lcflngn
There is also the mention at 4:33
It seems like outrage culture is nothing new under the sun.
6:40 I am HERE for this quality word play.
2021: gloves comes into fashion.
Hopefully we can educate people on proper glove removal to avoid the germs on the gloves.
They'll come *again* into fashion.
I hope condoms will come too. And sorry about the pun.
Yes please
Oh God you're probably right! Like everyone wearing the old timey cloth gloves or 40s satin suff we're already doing throw back fashion
gloves r probably less useful than hand sanitizer and soap cause youll still touch stuff and have to remove them before touching your face
same way you have to wash or sanitize your hands before touching your face
unless theyre made of a good antimicrobial tho ive never heard of antimicrobial clothes yet but thats gonna be interesting 🤔
As an Real Man, a good old fashion firm handshake is universal of communicating with out communicating, while looking each other in the eye! Thank You
9/17/2023
I would loooove to hear about the origin of giving hugs as a greeting and where it started from :D
I always hated shaking hands as much as making eye contact. They both make me feel uncomfortable in the presence of strangers I barely know and am not sure if I'll ever see again anyway, especially when job hunting.
Oh yay, I can tell that this is going to be an interesting video! 🙂 Origin of Everything videos are always so good.
Very professional sounding annprsenter. Much better than the general level found on UA-cam.
There's no way we'll stop shaking hands after this is over. It's just too big a part of society. The gesture has been around for so long that to say a few years will take that away is a bit ridiculous. You said so in the video, after the Spanish flu epidemic was over, people went right back to shaking hands. It stands to reason that this will also be the case when this epidemic is over, at least in my opinion.
Actually, I have a job that required me in normal times to greet multiple people (mostly college students) and welcome them into my office every day. Literally dozens per day at times. Many wanted to shake my hand, as they are almost all well-taught, but I’ve long been considering how to deal with the multiple germ situation. So I’ve had hand sanitizer on my desk for years and used it often. Clearly we (I) will never go back to those comfortable days. But what’s a good alternative? Nothing else seems quite right. Air fist bumping? Namaste? We’ll see, I guess.meantime the Zoom one or two-hand wave will have to do.
I agree especially for professional reasons it's a special physical gesture that shows you can be a good sport and sincerity. It feels awkward or stand off-ish to just stand there and say okay bye
Some of us stopped this long ago. In my two previous universities it just wasnt done a decade ago...in the us
I'm going to be rudest😷
I, for one, don't miss getting the bones in my hand crushed to dust by some guy who once read a self-help book about projecting confidence.
Oh my god this. This!
I’ve experienced had that problem, try push ups
There is a difference between a firm handshake and a bone-crushing handshake. Some people DO NOT know the line.
I have always avoided shaking hands. Will continue to do so.
The Romans used to shake hands by grabbing each other by the sleeved forearm to make sure the person they were greeting wasnt hiding a weapon up their sleeve. I think we should bring that back.
Can we all just wave and say “hello” from now on? Even before Covid I hated shaking hands especially if they’d touched their eyes or nose. And get rid of hugs as a form of greeting.
wow…why didn’t we have a history teacher like her -> she is awesome!
Yay you took my suggestion! ♥ Super excited for this episode
Great video!❤️
But I have to say I always hated shaking hands 😅 In italy we even kiss each other on the cheeks 😓 I hope it all goes away, for us introverts and for everyone's safety!
Yes.
Former Senator Bob Dole, as some people may not be aware, had his right arm paralyzed in combat during WWII. If you ever see a photo or video of Dole, he will most likely have a pen clenched in his right hand. I got to meet him when I was a college student in the 1980's. There was a large line of people waiting to shake his hand. Not everyone knew to offer their left hand. But Dole without missing a beat would turn his left hand thumb down and shake their right with his left. I guess of all the things he would have had to learn to do left handed it was a relatively small thing, but of course incredibly important for a career in politics. I never got to meet Senator Daniel Inouye who lost his right arm to a grenade while fighting with the 442nd in Italy during WWII. I imagine he was equally skilled at shaking right hands with his left. My family home was sold a few weeks ago and I've been going through boxes of stuff that spent the last 30+ years in the attic. in one box I came across a paper I wrote in college about the 442nd based largely on a book written by Sen Inouye. I think both men deserved to be honored for their service to this country, but Inouye had to not only contend with enemy forces, but a U.S. government that interned his family. I think I have rambled a ways away from hand shakes, so let me just say I wish I could have shaken Sen. Inouye's hand as well.
Subscribed for "Why is this handy custom so difficult to shake?" 😂
I've never been a fan honestly. I won't miss it
Damnit! I am a west-coast hugger!
Also, Danielle has one of those perfect voices I want to narrate the story of my life. Such joy in her exploration of any given topic! Thanks for the content!
You guys are impressive. Thank you for all the knowledge.
Me too. I believe I've mastered the art of the handshake after years of trial and error, but I'd rather not contribute to spreading illness. I'm sure we'll be able to figure out and master whatever greeting we move onto next.
I love the little wooden movie projector on your bookshelf.
🙇🏻 Bowing should be the new handshake. No contact at all and distance can be maintained. 🚫🤝
I love a good handshake. It's like a hug with a good friend or a friendly professional hello. I feel so awkward without it. I can see how it transmits germs. I guess I'm hoping others wash their hands like I do.
Easily understand, but apart from being a non-touchy introvert I have had my hand (both hands on occasion) painfully crushed by men showing off. So I avoid handshakes, and dislike being touched by people I don't know and trust. And this decade have started expressing my opinion of the exuberant crushers.
@@kathryngeeslin9509 I love that you have clear boundaries. Some people have no concept of personal space or their hand strength. There's no need to crush hands 😣 I think it will be interesting to see how culture shifts after this pandemic. I hope it creates a kinder world for introverts ☺
@@imasoftballgirl08 much appreciated.
imasoftballgirl08 but not hand-washing is very common. Think it’s been 40%. Maybe (I hope) this pandemic has developed some better habits in people. But the way sanitizer sold out but not soap, jeez idk
@@Maverickgouda I hope so too! That's yuck!
I remember I was at a meet and greet with Pusha T and the man would sanitize his hands after every person. This video reminded me of that
Kanye Kubrick A man with sense
I’ll hug friends upon greeting, but shaking the hands of a stranger feels like a bit much.
great video! thanks so much for share all these informations ❤️🇧🇷
Handshakes will never die. You can tell a lot from a handshake. Of course if it's not someone you're doing business with and you have fans say you're a celebrity. There's no need to shake all those hands, a fist bump will suffice.
Your channel is so great. Thanks for sharing your knowledge
I definitely prefer the Indian Namaste (literally 'l bow to you"), hands followed with a slight bow, this was also taken up in SE Asia also, definitely a respectful greeting & keeps the distance from strangers
Handshake was probably in India too. Handshake is not really a greeting of a particular community or region.
People definitely shake hands in India. Namaste is specific to Hinduism, handshakes are universal.
Here in Brazil, people greet each other with kisses on the cheek. I hear that in some places, like Rio, people do it with two kisses, one on each cheek. It's socially acceptable and expected, even for strangers. I've never liked that and felt uncomfortable when meeting strangers, so I'm actually glad for the changes now.
I'll be honest I like shaking hands, because Idk it just helps me for a better connection when meeting new people, and I don't like hugs or anything like that for personal reasons, but I mean, I could live without handshakes, I don't meet many people, plus I rather being unfamiliar/awkward with a person rather than either them, me, or someone else we come in contact with around that time to get ill snd suffer
5:55 is that cat in a face mask?!
Lmao I think so
As a primatologist I must add that handshakes are part of our biological repertoire, with chimps shaking hands in contexts similar to those of our own human interactions. I suggest Dr Catherine Hobaiter's work for those interested (google The Great Ape Dictionary).
I like shaking hands.
It tells me something about the other person's vibe!
If it goes completely out of fashion, I say we adopt the Japanese bowing 🙇🏽♀️
It’s never dead. I’m gonna proudly shake my brothers hands. I’ll wash it don’t worry. But handshake is a spiritual and physical connection between both parties
I love this channel so much.
Just gotta day I love your content. Thanks so much!
5:53 is the cat wearing a mask 😷🤣
Kinda looks like it huh 😝 don’t think so but that’s funny
Love from odisha ❤️
Just discovered this channel. Most interesting and very well presented. Thank you (And I really appreciate the lack of music while you speak)
I'm pretty sure the handshake isn't going away for long, since it's such an old gesture. However, personally I feel like we could definitely use it less. I'm cool with shaking the hands of my brother or friends, since I know where their hands have been, but not so much a near stranger.
Well presented.
This was fascinating, and I happen to have done a Facebook Live video about the 1793 Yellow Fever epidemic, so it seems it has been on other people's minds, though your video is of a far higher production value! :) Very cool video. Thanks for it!
Here in Argentina it has always been the custom to greet with a single kiss on the right cheek - all genders and ages. As you can imagine, this was the first thing to stop back in February. I'm not sure if it will come back.
Yeah. I learn a lot about a person by seeing how they react to my offer of a fist bump when they initiate a handshake.
If they can adjust and respect my counter offer, with a smile and no forced nervous commentary, that’s a great sign that they respect others and can be flexible rather than tradition bound.
I’d rather they offer a warm smile, and possibly a wave of greeting or departure than offering a handshake.
I’m not part of the faith, but a variation on touching my own hand to my chest with a nod seems a great way to demonstrate mutual respect for a person while being very clear that I expect us to keep our hands to ourselves.
It was very much expected that females must adopt masculine styles of doing business if they wanted to be part of the workforce. But tradition is just peer pressure from dead people.
I’m never going back to being pressured into shaking hands. Science says it’s an unhealthy practice, and anyone who fails to grasp this, and wants to insist on shaking hands with someone who demonstrates they wish not to, has told me plenty about their worldview.
I hate shaking hands and I politely tell people I don’t want to.
I agree. I don't like touching people in general (not because of germs, I just don't like physical contact with others), so I'd be happy if this went away.
@Shayne Punim that comment makes you sound so condescending. Some people just don't like to have physical contact with others, specially if they don't know them, also what about people with sensory overload issues? Touching them is certainly not going to calm their anxiety.
It may sound/look harsh but that's how nature get rid of things.
I opted for having a vasectomy instead of not touching people.
Shayne Punim I am mentally ill, and part of it is not liking to be touched. Don’t feel sad for me. I have a dog and 3 kitties that I pour my affection to. We all are different. Some people are very physical. I’m more reserved. It’s ok.
Shayne Punim physical touch has been shown to ease anxiety in neurotypical people... it has been shown to do the opposite in people with a huge variety of issues. When a person says they dislike human touch universally, you should assume they may have one of these issues and you should never condescend to them or tell them there is something wrong with them. As a person who has worked with autistic people, you should already understand this. Additionally there are myriad studies showing that animal touch is processed differently by the humans brain, especially by people who are not neurotypical. Try and be more empathetic and respectful. You should always ask for verbal or nonverbal consent when touching someone, especially someone you don’t already know well. That is just polite.
Not going to lie, I will not be sad if we never shake hands again.
Me too
@WelshWoody handshaking is a gesture of friendship and bonding. Wouldn't you be sad if hugs and kisses disappeared as well?
We are already doing that again. Fauci was being insane.
@@pursuitsoflife.6119 No...not sad at all...i hate it when strangers asking for hugs or kiss on the cheek....declining it would make me appear to be rude...lip kiss is absolutely disgusting too..as for hugging your family or partner, that's not related to this topic, cuz obviously we not talking about those here.....handshake is kinda annoying especially cuz my mom always urge me to shake hands with guests...those guests can go fk themselves for all i care..that's her friends or whatever, not mine!...if my mom isnt present, i wouldnt even bother opening the door until they get lost! Whenever i see people outside, they always want to do handshakes....
If you spend time with your friends, observe what they touch....then, when they see their other friends, they shake hands using their dirty hands....long ago, i saw people pick his nose or scratch his butt (different person) , not long after that, he shakes hands with people....😨😨😨
I think physical contact needs to stop being expected of others when there are so many reasons to not want to and so many alternatives. Greetings have changed before, they will continue to change. There will not be a sudden loss of physical contact between those that have had a chance to express comfort and consent to such. Instead it would be nice to not put constant social pressure on people to touch others.
Disabilities, personal history, preference, and situation all can lead to people not wanting touch. I personally am working on not returning touch greetings based on social expectation and not personal agreement. It is habit, and not reciprocating is seen as rude, which I avoid, but I hate the amount of people that just reach at me assuming that's fucking cool. And if I am in a work environment, I am expected to not be rude. Honestly, I think it is more rude to assume consent to touch with someone, especially if meeting for the first time. And for those that insist on it after a refusal? How dare someone think they can just infringe my bodily autonomy by judging me for not wanting to have them touch me.
You're a genius at hand! Thank you.
I will never shake anyone’s hand again after this. I hated it before the pandemic but now I have a wonderful excuse to turn down handshakes for the rest of my life.
“So why is ths handy gesture so hard to shake” I legit laughed for ten minutes I’m the king it corny jokes and this one really got me 🤣🤣
The literal electrical/spiritual connection between humans during a handshake is invaluable, as well as boosting immune systems of humans overall.
slight bows used to be a common greeting gesture, but can't see it coming back as a regular thing
I have had a slight fear of shaking hands, public keypads, door knobs and gasoline pumps for the past 20 years. I would sneak off to the bathroom at church every time I would shake hands with some one just to wash my hands. I'm relieved we all stopped this custom.
I love how insightful your videos are. Would you consider an episode on the origin of African philosophy. It's hard to find reliable sources on these topics.
I miss handshakes 😞 I’m a female attorney so it’s a big part of forming a rapport.
I seem to recall that at Nemrut Dagi in the Taurus Mountains, Anatolia, Turkey, is a relief sculpture showing King Antiochus of Commagene, a small kingdom in the 1st century BC, shaking hands with the demigod Hercules. Apparently it symbolized his alliance with the Roman Empire as a client kingdom who agreed to supply it with extra troops if needed.
What about hand shaking in Non-Western cultures? Why is it that we rarely receive information about various practices and customs among Non-Western and certain Asian cultures?
Because not all of them use handshakes as much as Western cultures do? In Japan, for example, bowing is the normal mode of greeting.
imagine1day Actually there are several Non-Western cultures that engage in various forms of hand connecting when greeting each other. The Maasai men gently rub each other’s palms.In Ethiopia the handshake is accompanied with a bow. In Liberia some people engage in a snap handshake when greeting each other. There are many other examples of variations of hand shakes among Non-Western people.
I think fistbump is cooler and more hygienic
If I shake someones hand I consider it the same as touching a door knob in a public place and wash my hands and careful about what I touch before I can wash.
So all those times i was avoiding handshakes! I am a futurist you guys!
I will say that I was always told because most Most people are right handed it shows that you were unarmed and that's why extending your left hand is a sign of disrespect.
Hand shakes are part of us. Just because you shske, doesn't mean you rub your face or sniff it--that's a new one one me. You should wash or sanitze your hands often. Hands are only a part of the germ delivery system.💜
I was wondering about this yesterday. There will be some cultural changes I’m sure
I will refuse to shake anyone's hand, I hope more people do the same, it's not worth it.
Me too!
*The Art of the Handshake by Hilltop Hoods plays in distance*
I'm not sure how I feel about handshakes these days, but these elbow bruises are getting ridiculous.
When did a Screwdriver (a colorful "feminine" drink) become assigned the value of "girlyness", whereas a Negroni, an Americano Cocktail, or a Rob Roy cocktail became a "manly" or "guy" drink. I want to know the cultural origin of these, from a Western perspective. This might take a week to produce. There might be other projects in line thus far, but really it seems worth talking about. Why? Not just because of the fact that I like a good vintage cocktail, but...so do so many other Americans. Also this idea of a drink having the residue of gender rub off on it, through...culture is odd (almost said ood). No lie. Why?!
Softest handshake I ever felt? Jimmy Carter.
I always admired his international relations, but suddenly had the clips of every handshake with world leaders run through my head as soon as he took my hand in a soft, loose, velvety grasp. This was 30+ years ago, so he wasn't even elderly yet.
I think it will come back sooner or later but maybe it won't be so widespread. It was a person-person contact with the palm of our hands that are very sensitive, so I think it establishes some kind of connection with other people, especially people that we like; our friends, co-workers, extended family, but maybe we'll reserve it for people we really apreciate.
I think handshakes are harmless compared to public transportation and public restrooms.
What people should do more often is hand washing, because it's inconceivable to know that people need warning signs remembering them for washing their hands in 2020!
Next video; the ancient, forgotten history of the head bump (ouch)
I've never liked to shake hands. I've variously wondered if it's because I'm female, or because I'm left handed, or maybe it's because I am all too aware that lots of males don't wash their hands after urinating (pay attention next time you are able to watch men going in and out of loos - they are not out of sight long enough - some are still adjusting their trousers as they exit). (Women might be as bad, but it's more difficult to tell, unless you are able to see the washbasins.) I wouldn't want to handle anyone's genitals, so I don't want to touch their hands. If a polite alternative greeting signal can be found, I'll be happy!
Absolutely agree!
I'm going to continue Taiwan's way of greeting. It's be interesting to see the multitude of ways we greet one another.
You are so awesome i like your videos and way of speaking
Namaste OP!!!
While it does seem to make sense to abandon this practise, it would be a shame to lose the personal connection that is such a huge part of the handshake.
It's deeper than we know
I for one welcome end of the handshake.
Shaking hands connects us we can't loose it.
Your brilliant. Thank u
We'll never see handshakes again. So in many ways this is a practice forever in our history
As an introvert, I have never cared for handshakes. It's an awkward social interaction, and I don't like it. I'd be fine if it disappeared.
2020 Bringing back hat tipping, curtsying, and gloves.
The handshake has been around for millennia, it won't disappear any time soon.
I'd much prefer fist or chest bumps
@@Nae_Ayy good old chest bumps. Has been around the times we were guerillas?
According to Star Trek will still be shaking hands hundreds of years from now
Disagree, see my comment above
@@lcflngn copy paste it because I'm not looking through this many comments....
No hand shakes anymore? So we are left with hugs and kisses?
As someone with palmar hyperhidrosis I'm all for retiring the handshake.
Bring back the bow/curtsy
Underrated comment.
Yes I agree
I don’t like the idea of gendered greetings
@@silentsmurf why?
Gameplay Central i think it will make non-binary people feel excluded
Even before #19 it was weird, shake or not to shake. It's just as bad when you do the dance " to the left to the right " in the grocery aisles. I think the bow in certain situations is the best to show respect. And the hug, which comes naturally in most cases. I like the grin and smile , some are not comfortable ,depending. You do so many things with the hands I think best forgotten. Now the video.
very cool
When it comes to the study done in Israel, it may be a case of a cultural misunderstanding.
There is a Jewish custom to kiss your finger after shaking someone's hand. Just as one kisses their finger after touching a sacred object (such as a Torah or Mezzuzah) many will kiss their finger after shaking hands to remind themselves that people are also sacred. One who is unfamiliar with this custom might easily mistake the gesture of kissing a finger with smelling it. The custom is by no means universal (not even the majority), but it is common enough that it would be noticed in a study done in Israel.
As of current events i don't shake hands but i can't lie i am a handshaker and think its important in some ways.
About the information in 2:34 (Muslim and shaking hands between the two genders) women are advices/ forbidden not to shake hands with males that aren’t *mahrams* (a mahram is a member of one's family with whom marriage would be considered haram/sinful. Like father, brother, uncles etc) not any male.
More than half of the video is on US handshaking when it was already a common thing. It would be nice to focus on the actual origin or at least in early worldwide traditions