Should We Be Parents?

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  • @vickyj8841
    @vickyj8841 10 місяців тому +15

    I can honestly say u all are the only couple that seems to keep it real. I have never heard anyone else say that certain restaurants and food are nasty. Everyone else tries to be nice and not be real. So I love u guys for being real. I love ppl that are real and can keep it respectful at the same time.

  • @AlyssaHathorn
    @AlyssaHathorn 10 місяців тому +23

    I’m a Stay at home mom of 3 and I have to say it’s definitely hard. But I wouldn’t have it any other way. I cook, clean do doctor appointments. School sports.. A lot. My husband is a truck driver so he’s gone 5 days a week. So I do it all by myself. But I love it. I absolutely love being a mom. It’s the only thing I feel accomplished about. ❤

    • @Canadianmom0826
      @Canadianmom0826 10 місяців тому +6

      I can relate to being a wife of a truck driver, we had 6 children total and 1 left at home. Best thing I ever did was have kids. Yes it’s challenging and stressful at times but when there grown and you see those babies they create and see what career they choose it’s rewarding to see our hard work and love paid off

    • @Naturalista_i
      @Naturalista_i 10 місяців тому +1

      💪🏽❤

    • @susanlanderos5232
      @susanlanderos5232 10 місяців тому +1

      😊 MY BIGGEST LIFE REWARD WAS MY 4 CHILDREN. AND MY 1 GRANDDAUGHTER. SHE IS 2. BEST DECISION OF LIFE WAS BEING A MOMA.❤

    • @marieteri0505
      @marieteri0505 10 місяців тому

      I can relate to this. I had 2 kids & my husband was a truck driver. He drove over the road so he would be gone 3-4 weeks at a time. He had his own truck business, & I did the office work for him from home.

  • @anastasiacelestine3571
    @anastasiacelestine3571 10 місяців тому +7

    You two would make wonderful parents. Nobody is perfect, you'll make mistakes. Just live with love. I hope you do have your own. There's a fun bonding during pregnancy that is so out of this world.

  • @maureenwareham8822
    @maureenwareham8822 10 місяців тому +9

    We are pregnant now, at 39. We are a busy, traveling
    professional couple w many ongoing interests& things that We do.
    We are ready to add one or two or three, to our fun life❤ God will provide the rest❤

    • @maureenwareham8822
      @maureenwareham8822 10 місяців тому

      With the above being said, it’s up to you whether you are ready to have children or not.
      I would love you and support you no matter what you decide. It’s not up to anybody but yourself. You do what you feel is best for both of you. Just to let you know, and I’m sure you already explored this, not every couple has children for many many reasons. That is life, and no one should be the judge of that.

  • @krachel108
    @krachel108 10 місяців тому +10

    Uploaded just in time so I can listen on my drive home from an overnight shift :) love from Toronto!❤️🇨🇦

  • @doricotter4000
    @doricotter4000 10 місяців тому +33

    I’m adopted to wonderful American parents ❤ I’m Asian and was adopted at 11 months. Had a very blessed life. Good luck to whatever choice you make. I think you’ll both be wonderful parents ❤

    • @Bunnie79
      @Bunnie79 10 місяців тому +1

      ❤❤

  • @lisafrigo3709
    @lisafrigo3709 10 місяців тому +4

    Omg this is one of my best videos love it. I'm a silent but constant viewer but this one touched my heart .you guys would be awesome parents love you both

  • @ginarivells3491
    @ginarivells3491 10 місяців тому +3

    I think having a child is one of the most amazing things in the world.
    Im so grateful I had my 2 boys 💜

  • @mealeshaspan5149
    @mealeshaspan5149 10 місяців тому +4

    Wonderful job. Its absolutely different when you have your own kids. But great answers. Haven't been to subway for years! Love you guys videos so much ❤

  • @lisaberstler4626
    @lisaberstler4626 10 місяців тому +8

    I think you guys would be great parents 😁

  • @mariap4870
    @mariap4870 10 місяців тому +3

    Met my fiancé’s at 39. I had my first at 41 and second at 43. Im now 44. I kinda want a third, but that’s pushing it. But yes, do it now if that’s what u really want. My whole world has changed and I can’t imagine my life without my little girls. I love them soooo much.

  • @Naturalista_i
    @Naturalista_i 10 місяців тому +2

    Kudos to you all for being responsible also taking the time to enjoy life as just you two.
    Its so sad when people have children and treat them so poorly i.e. I saw a video of a women I'm walmart that had her baby in nothing but a diaper and she was throwing frozen food on top of him and she totally mistreated him. 😢 so hard to watch but there were several people that stepped in and reported her/ got the baby some clothes. People should pour love into these kids. I have 2 myself and I am truly blessed and thankful that we all poured love into them and they are kind strong healthy and thriving.
    My kids are the best things in life to happen to me and I think since me and my siblings had a rough life growing up it helped me know how NOT to treat my children 🥰💞

  • @maureenwareham8822
    @maureenwareham8822 10 місяців тому +2

    No matter what, you both are going to be great & intelligent parents( should you decide to be)..,

  • @chelseaoguike7570
    @chelseaoguike7570 10 місяців тому +1

    yes definitely yall seem so sweet

  • @Memory8779
    @Memory8779 10 місяців тому +1

    Agree with Jamil teach them to protect themselves aka defent themselves if needed

  • @carmelaburrone5029
    @carmelaburrone5029 10 місяців тому +3

    I've been watching you guys for quite a while and feel you're both wonderful, loving human beings. You would most definitely be great parents whether you decide to adopt, have natural children, or do both.😊 Sending love ❤️ and blessings 🙏 from Connecticut.

  • @lovelyxoleanne3018
    @lovelyxoleanne3018 10 місяців тому +5

    Just having this discussion with each other, in my opinion, shows you guys will be great parents one day. ❤❤❤

  • @jenniferregan4428
    @jenniferregan4428 10 місяців тому

    You'll eat in. Teaching healthy AFFORDABLE foods. You would... simple and balanced is lovely, easy, giving. KEEPING food simple is key. Parenting is a lovely journey. Discipline agree is good- education, activities ALSO KEY

  • @Bunnie79
    @Bunnie79 10 місяців тому +2

    Yess. You two are definitely ready. Children are blessings🫶🏽🫶🏽

    • @angelinabud
      @angelinabud 10 місяців тому

      They are also expensive

  • @noohamasri5616
    @noohamasri5616 10 місяців тому +1

    I’ve never had a maternal instinct myself. Last thing I want to do is look after children 24/7. I wouldn’t want a crying shitting machine

  • @Jaymeloveshair
    @Jaymeloveshair 10 місяців тому +1

    As a parent speaking….
    Your life will never be the same but in a really good way ❤

  • @danniparis6688
    @danniparis6688 10 місяців тому +2

    I think you would have the cutest baby! You both would be great parents.
    I had my first at 26 and my second at 41. Enjoyed it so much more being older ..u have more patience and appreciate every moment so much more ❤

    • @Canadianmom0826
      @Canadianmom0826 10 місяців тому +1

      I had my first at 21 and my last at 43… yes I agree you have more paitence and appreciation for parenting but a whole lot less energy lol 😂 I’m kidding

  • @Jessicatalks2helpothers
    @Jessicatalks2helpothers 4 місяці тому +1

    (20:43-21:03) "What type of parent would you be?"-who answers this question, the parents or the child?😊🤔

  • @nanettereynolds1811
    @nanettereynolds1811 10 місяців тому +1

    YES....YES...YES... you guys would be amazing parents

  • @ksj61kj
    @ksj61kj 10 місяців тому +1

    You are the only Two who decide if You’re ready to be Parents ❤

  • @maureenwareham8822
    @maureenwareham8822 10 місяців тому +2

    Start healthy (& do not ask the child if that is what he wants). Don’t forget his house in his own hands. Just go and do the healthy thing from the very beginning. Just give him his food and don’t ask questions. He will acclimate to a healthy organic life. That is the way a good healthy child starts from the beginning. Good brain power. Good energy. Good attention at learning and listening. Etc..

  • @joliepost5067
    @joliepost5067 10 місяців тому +2

    Having children is a huge responsibility and you have to give up yourself for them. It’s not being selfish that you don’t want to have kids.

  • @TCGFAM
    @TCGFAM 10 місяців тому +6

    Wow hold on so Kristen you would cook a lot more and clean organic for a kid but not yourselves!!!! Wait a minute here !! You should want the best for yourself and husband as well !!! Self love girl !! You should care about yourself just as much as a child …

  • @Sandra-nt9zh
    @Sandra-nt9zh 10 місяців тому

    Yumm have not had subway in a long time. great conversation!

  • @rochellemontgomery8991
    @rochellemontgomery8991 10 місяців тому +1

    Y’all would be great parents ❣️

  • @hangingwithmr.j1517
    @hangingwithmr.j1517 10 місяців тому

    I go to Subway a lot. The food you get usually dedepends which one you go to.

  • @emilyhamilton8141
    @emilyhamilton8141 10 місяців тому

    I liked to hear your guys opinions and agree with them. I think you'd make great parents 😊

  • @j_cara
    @j_cara 10 місяців тому

    You two have very sweet loving souls and would make wonderful parents if that’s what you choose. ❤

  • @patriciabarnhart1886
    @patriciabarnhart1886 10 місяців тому

    Our daughter waited until 341/2 and her husband was 391/2 when they had their only son. He’s 15 now, and an awesome kid wise beyond his years because his parents did not talk down to him using baby talk, etc. At age 4 he was interested in the Presidential race, stopping each time he saw either candidate, and that has continued. Shoots trap, runs track, plays basketball, and loves his two dogs - is just fine with being an only child. He is adored by his parents, and is extremely close to them even though they are a bit on the old school side💙. If none of this scares you beyond comprehension, I say go for it! His parents are both professionals with busy schedules, but he knows he comes first with a bit of help from grandma!

  • @kimnash6653
    @kimnash6653 10 місяців тому

    I think you would be wonderful parents. With that said, it flips your world upside down. You two have said you sleep all day, up all night. You can travel anytime you want, go anywhere anytime you want. Kids are a lot!! More than you could possibly imagine. And God forbid you have one with special needs or medical needs, its exhausting! Before you get to the school age years to worry about bullying, you have to get through the toddler years. I think your lifestyle is fun and exciting. You all are so free. I'd keep it that way at this point. My life is full of worry, stress, depression, anxiety. I wouldn't wish this on anyone. 😩

  • @pdavis6645
    @pdavis6645 10 місяців тому

    Happy Saturday, K&J!! I have no biological kids myself. However, I raised my stepdaughter for 7 years, and it was a tough but rewarding time in my life. These days, kids have outside influences that can cause confusion and problems that parents have to react or change courses with.

  • @iloveu933
    @iloveu933 10 місяців тому

    Just have a kid!! You two would make wonderful parents and most people never even get this in depth with their spouse before they have kids.

  • @shelbywall2725
    @shelbywall2725 10 місяців тому

    I think u guys would be great parents. ❤

  • @sb-ux5lq
    @sb-ux5lq 10 місяців тому +2

    Yes for sure wonderful parents.. just get going cause its not that easy... the eggs are getting hard boiled 😂❤

  • @kwhitehouse207
    @kwhitehouse207 10 місяців тому

    You guys would make wonderful parents! But, only if you feel it! so many people are not having kids these days, and I think it’s great! Though, another mother pointed out to me that you just don’t realize the potential for love, until you have a child ❤️
    Jamil, I could see you doing a wonderful job working with children. Loving the discussion! That’s the best part!

  • @Lydt95
    @Lydt95 10 місяців тому

    I genuinely think you'd be amazing parents and both have a lot of love to give if you did decide to have children. I can genuinely say they are very hard work but the greatest blessing in this life, you will never feel a love like it xx

  • @leigh-annecornett6420
    @leigh-annecornett6420 10 місяців тому +1

    Have you ever tried pita pit? Not sure If it's just a Midwest chain but it's pretty good

  • @alishakeegan7269
    @alishakeegan7269 10 місяців тому

    You both would definitely be amazing parents! ❤

  • @missy7921
    @missy7921 10 місяців тому

    Great conversation. Side note I’m going to play a drinking game on how many times Jamil says “something like that” or “exactly” 😂😂

  • @SnackPassportTV
    @SnackPassportTV 10 місяців тому +1

    i believe you guys would be wonderful parents❤❤

  • @butterflyyymom660
    @butterflyyymom660 10 місяців тому

    Go for it!!! You’d do great

  • @Jswilk830
    @Jswilk830 10 місяців тому

    Jamil- my husband is of the same mind set when discussing the subject of bullying… He said the same for our son! I agree with you both! ❤😂😅

  • @drucillajohnson9980
    @drucillajohnson9980 10 місяців тому +1

    Morning 🌄 J&K and fam happy Saturday 😊 why not I think you guys would made awesome parents 😀...clock is ticking Kristen 🤔

  • @RebeccaFoltz-c1g
    @RebeccaFoltz-c1g 10 місяців тому

    I think you would be great parents and fun parents

  • @jessicaleibret8772
    @jessicaleibret8772 10 місяців тому

    This is awesome on bully. We told my son stick up for urself he's 12 he gave the other kids some words. And now they r friends

  • @marco785
    @marco785 10 місяців тому +1

    Who else said “car seat + Jay = baby on roof” 😂😂😂. 🙏🏾✊🏾👍🏾

  • @CharlotteGonzalez
    @CharlotteGonzalez 10 місяців тому

    Cute top Kristin, where did you get it?

  • @bethmcbride2242
    @bethmcbride2242 10 місяців тому +1

    Go for it!

  • @Leonie.67
    @Leonie.67 10 місяців тому +1

    Could you crisp up the churro in the air fryer? What about chocolate dipping sauce?

  • @laquittaadamsstutts5259
    @laquittaadamsstutts5259 10 місяців тому +1

    Hey you guys I Ashley work at a Subway and the foot-long cookies is really good

  • @TCGFAM
    @TCGFAM 10 місяців тому +2

    Spankings are fine if they are on the butt . With a hand not belts and objects . I was spanked as a child . I have spanked my kids . But it has to be something really bad to get the spanking . Like maybe being told something several times and grounding and other things not working anymore when you get to that point then spanking is needed .

    • @TCGFAM
      @TCGFAM 10 місяців тому

      Taking privileges away dosnt always work . Grounding dosnt always work . Some parents thing it does because they were never with a child that it didn’t work . 😂

  • @oliviamiranda4453
    @oliviamiranda4453 10 місяців тому

    Love you guys 😅

  • @joliepost5067
    @joliepost5067 10 місяців тому +1

    I think you two would make great parents but it’s up to you. Not everybody wants to be parents and it’s not that you’re equipped to be parents it’s just if you want them or not and some people don’t want kids and if you don’t want kids that is totally fine too. Need, I say more! Lol.

  • @biancadenise89
    @biancadenise89 10 місяців тому

    I think you would make great parents

  • @cindycox5127
    @cindycox5127 10 місяців тому

    Yes you are fit to be a parent ❤

  • @susanstover8485
    @susanstover8485 10 місяців тому +3

    I always found this a stupid question to ask people you don’t know.

    • @Kristen8706
      @Kristen8706 10 місяців тому +1

      Agreed

    • @Kristen8706
      @Kristen8706 10 місяців тому +2

      Especially since they have addressed it a couple times already

  • @AshleyHill-q5z
    @AshleyHill-q5z 10 місяців тому

    💯 you will make wonderful parents ❤️

  • @TCGFAM
    @TCGFAM 10 місяців тому

    There’s always one or the other in married couples … one strict one calmer passive …it balances but it’s no fun for the other parent if both aren’t on the same page

  • @ChristinaSheets
    @ChristinaSheets 10 місяців тому

    My son is autistic and was extremely picky when he was young. I did hide veggies in as much as i could but it was hard sometimes cause he was able to taste it. But, i ended up making a food chart and I would have him taste a new food every week.We made a game of it. If he tasted it he got a sticker on his chart. If he didn't like it he would still get a sticker but we would try the same food again the next day. After 3 days if he still said he didn't like it then we would move on to another food. But, most of the time after 3 days he started to actually like it. At the end of the week if he tried all the foods and had his stickers filled he got a prize out of a prize box. It worked. He's now 18 and will eat about anything with the exception of a few veggies he just doesn't like. Also, just remember that you can say you'll do one thing then when you become a parent you do something else or don't always follow through and that's perfectly ok. I always said my kids would never eat fast food but they ate way more than what i like to admit but that doesnt make you a bad parent.

  • @joielynette
    @joielynette 10 місяців тому

    Hey y'all 👋.. I think y'all definitely have the correct mindset for parenting, but make sure it's something YOU REALLY WANT! Kids are a lot of commitment. Make sure you're ok with possibly changing careers, UA-cam may not work. Kids extracurricular activities take up a lot of time. If they are into sports, there are practice, club sports, the actual school sports, games in town and out of town, etc. High school is so competitive where I live and in order to get a scholarship or into a good college, a student needs more than just good grades. They need to do volunteer work, school fundraisers, school activities, school clubs etc. Then the expenses that go with everything..
    Just thought I'd give you a different view.

  • @boymom7713
    @boymom7713 10 місяців тому

    I thought that you had decided not to have kids. I love my kids but it is the hardest job in the world! And it’s a life long commitment. Even as adults you worry about your kids. Our kids who live away, still call us with problems. You raise your kids as best as you can, but ultimately they are their own person and make their own decisions.

  • @Ibrahim00773
    @Ibrahim00773 10 місяців тому +2

    if you are 39 and STILL asking yourself if you ready to have kids then don't bother .

  • @tracywright1640
    @tracywright1640 10 місяців тому

    You guys will be great parents ❤

  • @angelalamyuen9332
    @angelalamyuen9332 10 місяців тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤

  • @RhondaWoody-j3b
    @RhondaWoody-j3b 10 місяців тому

    You guys will make good parents

  • @yolandakennedy7893
    @yolandakennedy7893 10 місяців тому +1

    Subway cookies are Delicious 😋 Delicious 😋 too me Delicious 😋

  • @kwhitehouse207
    @kwhitehouse207 10 місяців тому

    One more comment, we do not really use discipline in our household. And my 12-year-old is such a well-behaved boy. He’s an only child, so I think we treat him more like an adult than most parents would. He’s so conscientious about other peoples feelings, it’s all in what you teach them. :-)

  • @gretchenryczek539
    @gretchenryczek539 10 місяців тому

    You two would be great parents. I say it is time.

  • @cafezo87934
    @cafezo87934 10 місяців тому +6

    As long as you have kids *FOR THE RIGHT REASONS* i don't see why not???
    i personally would just get a dog. Kids are overrated aka not for me i could barely take care of myself I don't want to be responsible for another human being

  • @lanierecord366
    @lanierecord366 10 місяців тому

    Quizno's!!! Soo good... Better than Firehouse for sure...

  • @CharlotteGonzalez
    @CharlotteGonzalez 10 місяців тому

    More than fit to be parents ❤

  • @jonathansjourney7421
    @jonathansjourney7421 10 місяців тому +1

    My dad used to tell me until you are 18 I’m your dad and after I can be both your dad and best friend hahaha but it worked

  • @trishthedish2790
    @trishthedish2790 10 місяців тому +1

    I was adopted at birth an glad I did my birth family I have 3 brothers an had a sister my birth mom an sister died before I found out now I had 2 of my own an adopted my son at 8 months now 17 best decision I made

  • @jenniferregan4428
    @jenniferregan4428 10 місяців тому

    Subway gets ripped--- HOWEVER IF U LOVE VEGGIE- best pick!

  • @SusanLeaA
    @SusanLeaA 10 місяців тому

    You are right that churro is awful.. so was the pretzel.. I wasn't able to try the cookie yet they have been out every time I have gone. Just ate subway today 😋.. I think you all would be wonderful parents should you ever choose to do so.. your life would change drastically! I do wonder what kind of choice you would make about religion 🤔 if any?? I know Jamil was raised NOI and I don't think Kristin has ever said anything about religion. Just wondering. Missed you guys so much I have been pretty sick since Christmas. Finally I think getting better. Great video 😊

  • @vickyj8841
    @vickyj8841 10 місяців тому +1

    That’s funny that u picked this topic to talk about. A few days ago I said to myself why don’t they have any kids together?

    • @user-ld5th7oe9j
      @user-ld5th7oe9j 10 місяців тому

      They have talked about this before in old video 😂

    • @vickyj8841
      @vickyj8841 10 місяців тому

      @@user-ld5th7oe9j yes I know I’m just saying a few days ago that came across my mind

  • @wendymarsden2611
    @wendymarsden2611 10 місяців тому

    Great video ❤

  • @Jaymeloveshair
    @Jaymeloveshair 10 місяців тому

    You blend those veggies into the meal and never tell them!

  • @susanyounger1975
    @susanyounger1975 10 місяців тому

    The only thing you have to consider is the time devoted to a child. Once you have a child they are your primary focus for many years. Don’t ever believe it’s a 50\50 shared care. I love my children, ages 50+. Great children. Best thing for me are the grand kids. Think about that❤

  • @TnWonderer
    @TnWonderer 10 місяців тому

    So many parents today want to be their Childs BEST friend...NOOOO... be the parent... but always let them know they can talk to you about anything....

  • @Jaymeloveshair
    @Jaymeloveshair 10 місяців тому

    My dad made us sit at the table until we ate out veggies and if we didn’t eat them, we got them reheated the next day….😂

  • @bigalbbq4597
    @bigalbbq4597 10 місяців тому

    Great vid guys! Thank you! Hahahahaha! I gotta laugh cause we thought about the same things before we had kids. POOOFFF! Out the window when you are a parent. lol So many things you never thought of come up and you just have to think on your feet. It does help that you guys are older and more mature than when you were in your early/mid 20's.
    I've always thought there were more risks to the baby and the mother when having children at 40 yrs old. BUT, that was my thinking back 30 years ago and a lot has changed...I think. I don't know as I'm entering into grandparent stage within a few years...I HOPE! lol You honestly don't know what you did right or wrong until they are adults in their late 20's. IMHO. You make mistakes, it happens. don't sweat the small stuff. At times you'll also understand why some animals eat their young. hahahahaha!

  • @nicholekinney7696
    @nicholekinney7696 10 місяців тому +5

    These were kind of silly questions...thought it would be more of a serious conversation..🤷

  • @choochcardinale6595
    @choochcardinale6595 10 місяців тому +1

    Being parents is a serious thing. It's like having a tattoo on your face you have to be committed. LOL all in all it's a decision that you have to make. Other people cannot make it for you.

  • @nicolecochenour704
    @nicolecochenour704 10 місяців тому

    U guys would be great parents and I think u should should ur guys baby would be adorable

  • @joliepost5067
    @joliepost5067 10 місяців тому +2

    Have you guys tried potbellies? That is also another good sandwich shop

  • @Sarahrawksyou
    @Sarahrawksyou 10 місяців тому +1

    I heard the churros are trash 😂 i will stick with subs there. I always loved kids and never thought i would be a mom. Unexpectedly, I had my amazing my son and he is such a blesssing. Being a mom is hard but makes my heart full. Until you are in the moment you never truely know what you would do or how. But also think its okay for people not to have kids and hate the drama when people think its weird. Everyone is different and having kids its not a thing you have to do. Whatever you want and works for you is the best. I wanted another but my body wasn't having it and believe maybe one was meant to be for me. My SIL has 7 kids and younger then me 😮😂

  • @minniec.9127
    @minniec.9127 10 місяців тому

    did you answer the question?

  • @susanpickett5239
    @susanpickett5239 10 місяців тому

    Happy Saturday 👋 Fam ❤

  • @Thyluv_lex2.0
    @Thyluv_lex2.0 10 місяців тому +1

    I feel like y’all are a great fit for parents but I wouldve had my earlier your 39 and if I was you I would’ve been scared because of all thru things they say could happen when you have them at 40 and above

  • @julieluncsford3399
    @julieluncsford3399 10 місяців тому

    I have no doubt in my mind that you both would be good parents.There is no hand book for it. I will say Kristin, good luck hiding vegetables in food, they will taste it😂 ......Jamil, the age 13 to 18 is a rough stage in most kids, so backing off may not be a good idea😳. I have raised 2 boys mostly on my own and now have 3 grandkids. I had good examples from my parents but it is a learning experience all along the way and definitely takes a village.

  • @RickiViza-ip1cf
    @RickiViza-ip1cf 5 місяців тому

    She is ready to be a Mom

  • @joycelynbell1991
    @joycelynbell1991 10 місяців тому

    Yessssss❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @pennyleopard1527
    @pennyleopard1527 10 місяців тому

    I would get the school Involved first cause bullying can lead to suicide in some kids. Then like you said talk to you child about the other kids home life. I was bullied as a kid an it lead me to quitting school at the age of 15.

  • @TnWonderer
    @TnWonderer 10 місяців тому

    deserving but humble...