Ppl wondering why he's talking about his late wife's tragic death with such a casual distanced inflection.... have probably never been through a major tragedy or excruciating trauma. He never got closure on why the love of his life suddenly died. He's had to explain this to ppl over and over, so he's found a way to depersonalize himself from it so he doesn't have to retraumatize himself every time he's asked "what happened to Emily"? We all have to find a way to move on past the horrors of life. It's not always elegant.
That makes sense. The more I talk about sad events, I feel like I experience it again. When it bring it up, like the person in this video does, it keeps me from crying. I didn’t realize that about myself. Thank you for the insightful comment ❤
Yeah, I recognized the same thing. You have to. Distancing and depersonalization is very helpful in maintaining ones mental well-being. 12 years is a long time. I feel for him. Thank you for sharing with others what seems obvious to those of us who have been there.
100 percent! it becomes “clinical” but its him thats his life and emily was such a big part of his life. its like a waterfall cascading, or niagra. the cascading is to stop yourself from breaking over and over and over especially to those who cant understand the depths
the way he speaks immediately made me know that he cried a lot and dealt with a lot of emotions during that time period. He sounds tensed and worn out talking abt it
Bullshit if your current family gets mad or criticizes you for missing your first wife then they shouldnt be your current family. The new wife shouldbe thankful she found such a good caring man
Gosh, I’m 78 and still tear up And miss my mom and dad. I shouldn’t; Mom was 92 and Dad was 88, the oldest living brother out of 11 children! But, I do. We never get over it; we’re just older orphans! 😅😢
"We're just older orphans" I like that. It's alright to still cry about their death. They must've been awesome people and parents. I'm sorry for your loss, which it is, even if they were 92 and 88.
Having to explain what happened to my dad over and over again is a trauma that never ends. I literally do the same thing because it’s exhausting and extremely heartbreaking. I never lost anyone so close to me before. My dad was my best friend. I don’t wish this pain on my worst enemy.
I had only one child, a precious daughter. I was a stay at home Dad and we are extremely close. I’m 70 and I want to live a long time not for me but for her. I know she will be heartbroken when I’m gone and I cry just thinking of her pain.
Wonder how the rest of the conversation went? Sounds like he is putting up walls trying to be analytical about the whole thing. Bet he broke down later.
The full conversation is posted above the title of the short. 💙 Just in case you didn't notice. I always like to get the full conversation myself. All the best! 🙂
Thank you so much for explaining this. It would be entirely untrue to assume that, because at times I’m able to speak dispassionately about losing my mother so young, that I don’t or didn’t care about the loss. It is earth shattering to me and I still cry buckets on occasion, but I can’t live in that state of grief every time I mention her or it’s just be sick to death.
I feel for his pain l, after losing someone with no closure, couldn't go the wake or funeral.. i wss completely destroyefd. I'm better and pray he's better soon.
When I have to talk about my late wife, Penny, it can be a little tough. But people are suprised how I do it so matter of factly. We worked together as EMT/Paramedic partners on the ambulance together for many years (decades). We were a great team on and off duty, building a successful life together. Unfortunately, Penny passed away suddenly in 2020. She had over 53 years of service. I have 48 years so far and I am still working in EMS as a Paramedic Instructor. I knew Penny for 43 great years. I can tell you they don't women like Penny anymore. I love and miss you my wonderful wife. But life goes on.
The way somebody grieves should never be made fun of belittled. If anyone is talking negatively about him, then they have not ever experienced real trauma like this. You have to numb yourself and even laugh about it or else it will take control of you and end your life also. ❤
Yea buddy if any of those issues were respiratory id bet good money ig was covid It was here before they told us it was. It was here minimum 6 months before they said it was.
Yep. Me and my fam had it in the fall of 19 before everyone started discussing it. Only realized it later after it left all of us with permanent autoimmune disorders and lung issues
Yep I got it early Dec 2019 and remained actively sick (not able to work or get out of bed type of sick) until late Feb 2020 and wasn't able to get back to life and be semi active until April and it was a whole year later until I felt 100% except I've never been the same. I now feel like a 40yo chain smoker, my hair is much thinner than before and I now struggle with weight issues I never really had...
@@birddeebirdifysounds to me like it aged you five or ten years. Ironically, I feel like it did the same to me back in 2020, even though I only caught it for the very first time last month. But the stresses that it put on my life through the border closures and everything else that went with it were particularly immense in my case, and I felt like it had all the same symptoms you describe that I am still suffering from today.
@@birddeebirdifysame. Make sure you take vitamins and get enough minerals too. Our gut health is responsible for our mental health, weight loss, immune system. Every day take vitamins especially D, B12, C, iodine, selenium and iron. Check your blood for deficiencies. And on a daily basis take sauerkraut(polish), kimchi(Korean), pickles(polish way pickled with no sugars or vinegar ), kefir (polish). This will restore your gut health and metabolism and immunity. If your hair thinning might be iodine, selenium deficiency. Check your thyroid as well. I have underactive thyroid and I have all these issues you describe. And I had cov many times because of it. I have 2people in my family with very strong immune systems who never get ill and they didn’t have cov even once. ❤
Many people don't shatter. It hurts but there are people who hurt but won't just let everyone in to help them. This is why he felt that John was the best person to talk to.
Pretty crazy that they never figured it out. Not even with an autopsy? Sounds a lot like poisoning cases. I'm not saying he did, but a death remaining a total medical mystery is kind of rare.
Me encanta cuando dice yo soy esa artista que doy amor y apapacho😊❤❤que bella. Me encanto esta entrevista!!! De ese Amor es del que se necesita hoy dia y que lindo que ella lo da con todo su corazon🙌🙌🙌
its sad how he gets grossed out by the 2 yr old. i feel like he didnt get the nurturing he needed as a baby so seeing someone so "needy" as babies are and getting love, etc ... the stuff he didnt get from his own mother, must bring up alot of icky emotions
His late wife dying is because of americas terrible health care system that doesnt care about women. And doesnt want to try and learn how to help women. They probably kept sending them home telling them she wasnt really sick for her to deteriorate in 6 months and die. The system failed this man and his late wife and he will never know what truly killed her.
💯 agree! “Mysterious” means they didn’t want to, or simply wouldn’t research it… plus insurance not authorizing tests, etc… After being mugged and severely beaten on New Years Eve 2001/02, the ER wouldn’t even do a doctor ordered CT Scan… meanwhile, this was back when insurance was good, and you’d think all the specialists would want to do everything and more to grab that $$$, but no… and in the 22 years since, all my bones, joints, back/spine definitely are dealing with the aftermath of absolute NOTHING done back then. So, I haven’t had insurance for most of the past 22 years due to employment issues from the physical and psychological aspects stemming from the injuries, and the healthcare I’ve received in the “clinics” is as basic and minimal as possible; much like when having insurance but denied everything … I just can’t afford it, so I don’t have it. No place gives great care because there’s no time in 5 minutes to address everything, so you wait until the next available appointment 4, 5, 6 months away 🤷🏻♂️ Which makes you wonder why with all the bullshit and the citizenry wanting better healthcare, why are so many against universal healthcare. I’d bet if it were a ballot box voting item, you’d find out the truth that the majority of people would vote for it. But… capitalism rules over the fiefdom.
Our system is severely broken and corrupt, but I don't think it's specifically against women. Part of the problem is strict adherence to protocol, egomania with doctors, and prioritizing profits.
I understand it’s a coping mechanism but I would be so sad to know my husband would describe me as “fun” and our 12 year marriage as “stereotypical” after my tragic death
It’s a guarded response because to say more brings on the floodgates . When asked about my little nephew(3 yrs old) I always just respond “super cooper was a really cool kid” and end it there because I CANT say more than that without losing myself emotionally.
I can’t imagine how many times he’s had to tell this same story over the past 5 years, at a certain point we all have to give this sort of clinical answer just to get through the day
I think dude is just trying to protect the feelings of his current wife. She likely compared herself to his first wife, so he plays it down to spare he feelings.
Im so sorry for your loss of your wife that past. Can I make a suggestion for your new wife? Redoing areas on house, yard etc as who you are together is helpful. And doing new adventures together totally new to both of you helps. I've watched this process happen 2 times with my sisters. Also, allowing your visits to seminary or personal thoughts at times for those loved ones past. But trying to make the other time special always with your new mate. Don't forget to date too. Date nights are so helpful. And sweet thought gifts letters, flowers, cooked dinners, walks etc
She was fun! That was a strange description to use to describe your wife. Not described as loving, beautiful woman, soul mate ....🤔 I'd like to know if they ever were able to diagnose what happened to her ....hmmm
@lynnlakotich6331 me too. I've had it since childhood but I'm finally hopeful I can treat it successfully. I hope you find treatment for you as well. 💕
If you listen to any of his videos like this, he will get to that part. He makes a point to ask about them, talk about it, and then he will get to the ugly part. He really seems to be an awesome person
This guy sounds like he killed his wife. How can you be so soulless as to describe your marriage with your late wife as “stereotypical”?? That’s how emotionally uninvolved third parties describe other people’s relationships. The unexplained illnesses is just the cherry on top. He’s either a complete psychopath or has completely withdrawn from his feelings out of grief. Either way he’s got issues.
Yea no. you have absolutely no idea how different people cope. He has more than definitely had to explain this to a multitude of people. Explaining how his wife died of some unknown disease and getting absolutely zero closure from it. You have to depersonalize and distance yourself emotionally from it, for the time of explaining it, simply so he doesn't break down crying over it. You are either absolutely heartless or low emotional iq. Either way, you have issues.
You do realise people process trauma differently, right? Not to mention it seems quite common for some men to develop this avoidant passive approach to dealing with pain
He's a man. His wife passed long ago and he moved on. The same story has been told many times so it's not as emotional as when it first happened. All of these are good as he is ready for a new relationship with no baggage. If he is what's you describe him to be, he wouldn't call a radio show like this seeking live advice. You form your very negative opinion of a person through 25 secs of him talking about his wife with no context, no sympathy, no understanding whatsoever. Very cruel to judge someone with so little info who lost his wife so early and all the depressions that come after. If he didn't love her, he wouldn't stay by her side to the end like that My question, Why should he grief over someone that's long gone? He sounds like he loves and is grateful of being her husband. There is no utility in continuing grieving whatsoever. I lost my father at 22. I cried my eyes out for 1 night, grief for 3 days and that's it. Do I love, miss and am sad about him sometimes? Absolutely YES. Do I grief? NO. I need to focus on taking care of my mother and brother. I need to be successful to honor the last name he gave me. On top of that I need to get married and take care of my family. My father would want me to be strong, successful and happy, not grieving his death. I don't see why the husband would think anything different. I understand that women are emotional and it typically takes longer for them to move on from something tragic such as losing a loved one but men and women are different. The husband not sounding he is grieving doesn't make him bad
@@huydang813Although men tend to bottle things up, not exactly get over it, that's why it seems like it's shorter, actually getting over takes time, just unfortunately life doesn't stop. I don't think there's anything wrong with dude, it's easier to talk like that about something traumatic
@@flozzy1626 true, I can't prove it, nor do I have any evidence. But my guts are screaming something foul and the alarm bells are loud in me. Something in his voice and choice of words and pacing literally made the hair on the back of my neck stand up. That's only ever happened in my life when someone's real bad news and my instincts have yet to be wrong, unfortunately.
@@buzzshowdown when you don't acknowledge the truth that's right in front of your eyes because of political ideology that is inherently flawed, it is a problem.
Ppl wondering why he's talking about his late wife's tragic death with such a casual distanced inflection.... have probably never been through a major tragedy or excruciating trauma.
He never got closure on why the love of his life suddenly died. He's had to explain this to ppl over and over, so he's found a way to depersonalize himself from it so he doesn't have to retraumatize himself every time he's asked "what happened to Emily"?
We all have to find a way to move on past the horrors of life. It's not always elegant.
That makes sense. The more I talk about sad events, I feel like I experience it again. When it bring it up, like the person in this video does, it keeps me from crying. I didn’t realize that about myself.
Thank you for the insightful comment ❤
Yeah, I recognized the same thing. You have to. Distancing and depersonalization is very helpful in maintaining ones mental well-being. 12 years is a long time. I feel for him. Thank you for sharing with others what seems obvious to those of us who have been there.
100 percent! it becomes “clinical” but its him thats his life and emily was such a big part of his life. its like a waterfall cascading, or niagra. the cascading is to stop yourself from breaking over and over and over especially to those who cant understand the depths
100% accurate.
He never said she was the love of his life
I can joke about my daughter who passed at 22 but the
days you dont see me I can barely get out of bed. Nobody should judge anybody’s grief journey.
Sorry for your loss 💛
Bless you sir, and I hope the pain lessons on those not good days as time marches on
🕊️🙏💔I'm sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing .
@@JordyBickI’m a mom, but thank you. 💛
@@SueJohnson2024 i am sorry about that. Take care and hope you have a good weekend
the way he speaks immediately made me know that he cried a lot and dealt with a lot of emotions during that time period. He sounds tensed and worn out talking abt it
u can hear the pain and sorrow in his voice. He now has a current family. He can’t say exactly what he wants too
Bullshit if your current family gets mad or criticizes you for missing your first wife then they shouldnt be your current family. The new wife shouldbe thankful she found such a good caring man
Gosh, I’m 78 and still tear up
And miss my mom and dad. I shouldn’t; Mom was 92 and Dad was 88, the oldest living brother out of 11 children! But, I do. We never get over it; we’re just older orphans! 😅😢
I will always always always miss my parents, and it's okay for you too, too!
"We're just older orphans" I like that.
It's alright to still cry about their death. They must've been awesome people and parents. I'm sorry for your loss, which it is, even if they were 92 and 88.
❤
I lost my eldest son 5 years ago.. I do that the sane thing... It is normal in grief.. I usually cry later..
I'm so sorry for your loss 💛
I am so very sorry for your loss..
Thank you ❤️
Having to explain what happened to my dad over and over again is a trauma that never ends. I literally do the same thing because it’s exhausting and extremely heartbreaking. I never lost anyone so close to me before. My dad was my best friend. I don’t wish this pain on my worst enemy.
I'm really sorry for your loss,He's with you in spirit..
I have similar feelings about my Dad's death
I had only one child, a precious daughter. I was a stay at home Dad and we are extremely close. I’m 70 and I want to live a long time not for me but for her. I know she will be heartbroken when I’m gone and I cry just thinking of her pain.
Sometimes it feels as if you aren't casual, people will know you're losing it, from the pain.
I feel so bad for this guy. I hope he found healing after his wife’s sudden passing. 🙏
Wonder how the rest of the conversation went? Sounds like he is putting up walls trying to be analytical about the whole thing. Bet he broke down later.
The full conversation is posted above the title of the short. 💙 Just in case you didn't notice. I always like to get the full conversation myself. All the best! 🙂
Thank you so much for explaining this. It would be entirely untrue to assume that, because at times I’m able to speak dispassionately about losing my mother so young, that I don’t or didn’t care about the loss. It is earth shattering to me and I still cry buckets on occasion, but I can’t live in that state of grief every time I mention her or it’s just be sick to death.
I feel for his pain l, after losing someone with no closure, couldn't go the wake or funeral.. i wss completely destroyefd. I'm better and pray he's better soon.
When I have to talk about my late wife, Penny, it can be a little tough. But people are suprised how I do it so matter of factly.
We worked together as EMT/Paramedic partners on the ambulance together for many years (decades). We were a great team on and off duty, building a successful life together.
Unfortunately, Penny passed away suddenly in 2020. She had over 53 years of service. I have 48 years so far and I am still working in EMS as a Paramedic Instructor.
I knew Penny for 43 great years. I can tell you they don't women like Penny anymore.
I love and miss you my wonderful wife.
But life goes on.
The way somebody grieves should never be made fun of belittled. If anyone is talking negatively about him, then they have not ever experienced real trauma like this. You have to numb yourself and even laugh about it or else it will take control of you and end your life also. ❤
Grief is different for every single person. Do not judge just because they dont grieve the same way you do.
Im so sorry for your loss ❤
Love the "best dad ever" award in the back. So precious.
So sorry for this mans loss.😢RIP 🙏 🤲 ✝️
Well the man has had one successful marriage. Hopefully he can have two.
Yea buddy if any of those issues were respiratory id bet good money ig was covid
It was here before they told us it was. It was here minimum 6 months before they said it was.
Yes it was for sure
Yep. Me and my fam had it in the fall of 19 before everyone started discussing it. Only realized it later after it left all of us with permanent autoimmune disorders and lung issues
Yep I got it early Dec 2019 and remained actively sick (not able to work or get out of bed type of sick) until late Feb 2020 and wasn't able to get back to life and be semi active until April and it was a whole year later until I felt 100% except I've never been the same. I now feel like a 40yo chain smoker, my hair is much thinner than before and I now struggle with weight issues I never really had...
@@birddeebirdifysounds to me like it aged you five or ten years. Ironically, I feel like it did the same to me back in 2020, even though I only caught it for the very first time last month. But the stresses that it put on my life through the border closures and everything else that went with it were particularly immense in my case, and I felt like it had all the same symptoms you describe that I am still suffering from today.
@@birddeebirdifysame. Make sure you take vitamins and get enough minerals too. Our gut health is responsible for our mental health, weight loss, immune system. Every day take vitamins especially D, B12, C, iodine, selenium and iron. Check your blood for deficiencies. And on a daily basis take sauerkraut(polish), kimchi(Korean), pickles(polish way pickled with no sugars or vinegar ), kefir (polish). This will restore your gut health and metabolism and immunity. If your hair thinning might be iodine, selenium deficiency. Check your thyroid as well.
I have underactive thyroid and I have all these issues you describe. And I had cov many times because of it.
I have 2people in my family with very strong immune systems who never get ill and they didn’t have cov even once. ❤
Many people don't shatter. It hurts but there are people who hurt but won't just let everyone in to help them. This is why he felt that John was the best person to talk to.
Wow. Sorry he went through that😢🙏🏻
My deepest condolences to this man surprised they didn't have kids. 😢😢😢😢❤❤
She was fun was a very strong thing to say. 😂😂
Ill pray for you! Dang brother!
I hope this man can find peace and understanding through God. Rest in Power Emily 🕊 Fly High in the Sky
Sick T-shirt. This guy keeps getting cooler
Rest in peace emily. You truly made someone else as happy as can be. I hope you are looking wherever you are and are proud of the impact youve had.
Pretty crazy that they never figured it out. Not even with an autopsy? Sounds a lot like poisoning cases. I'm not saying he did, but a death remaining a total medical mystery is kind of rare.
NGL, that's the first thing I thought too
It's also possible The circumstances are not things he wants to share on live radio. Could be the case.
cancer does this too, when they don't look into things in the right places they find out too late.
It’s poison from something she was eating or being medicated on
All the companies in the USA slowly poison us.
Grief is personal. There is no right or wrong way to do it. There is no timetable.
He sounds so monotone telling their meeting and her passing that it almost sounds like murder… Like poison or antifreeze. Too much true crime for me.
You have excellent taste in music, sir.
Descendants shirt, tho❤
Sounds like he was poisoning her
he definitely murdered his ex wife
Does he chat to people from anywhere? Like Ireland or anything
Clean sheets mean a lot to a guy who sleeps on the floor
Me encanta cuando dice yo soy esa artista que doy amor y apapacho😊❤❤que bella. Me encanto esta entrevista!!! De ese Amor es del que se necesita hoy dia y que lindo que ella lo da con todo su corazon🙌🙌🙌
its sad how he gets grossed out by the 2 yr old. i feel like he didnt get the nurturing he needed as a baby so seeing someone so "needy" as babies are and getting love, etc ... the stuff he didnt get from his own mother, must bring up alot of icky emotions
Did he have something to do with discarding her ?
rip Emily
i want to know why he chose to have a kid with this woman. there's no way she seemed at all mentally stable before having a kid.
No diagnosis? His wife just died? He is very nonchalant and cavalier about his marriage and her death??!!??
His late wife dying is because of americas terrible health care system that doesnt care about women. And doesnt want to try and learn how to help women. They probably kept sending them home telling them she wasnt really sick for her to deteriorate in 6 months and die. The system failed this man and his late wife and he will never know what truly killed her.
Good, yall talk too much anyways
💯 agree! “Mysterious” means they didn’t want to, or simply wouldn’t research it… plus insurance not authorizing tests, etc… After being mugged and severely beaten on New Years Eve 2001/02, the ER wouldn’t even do a doctor ordered CT Scan… meanwhile, this was back when insurance was good, and you’d think all the specialists would want to do everything and more to grab that $$$, but no… and in the 22 years since, all my bones, joints, back/spine definitely are dealing with the aftermath of absolute NOTHING done back then.
So, I haven’t had insurance for most of the past 22 years due to employment issues from the physical and psychological aspects stemming from the injuries, and the healthcare I’ve received in the “clinics” is as basic and minimal as possible; much like when having insurance but denied everything … I just can’t afford it, so I don’t have it. No place gives great care because there’s no time in 5 minutes to address everything, so you wait until the next available appointment 4, 5, 6 months away 🤷🏻♂️ Which makes you wonder why with all the bullshit and the citizenry wanting better healthcare, why are so many against universal healthcare. I’d bet if it were a ballot box voting item, you’d find out the truth that the majority of people would vote for it. But… capitalism rules over the fiefdom.
Our system is severely broken and corrupt, but I don't think it's specifically against women. Part of the problem is strict adherence to protocol, egomania with doctors, and prioritizing profits.
@@Joe-iq1bu so bitter 😂😂
@@Joe-iq1bu good rage bait sir troll 🫡
im not an expert, but by age 7, isnt the foundation pretty much laid in terms of core personality stuff?
He can’t name the diagnosis nor illness
I understand it’s a coping mechanism but I would be so sad to know my husband would describe me as “fun” and our 12 year marriage as “stereotypical” after my tragic death
“ She was fun” ???
It’s a guarded response because to say more brings on the floodgates . When asked about my little nephew(3 yrs old) I always just respond “super cooper was a really cool kid” and end it there because I CANT say more than that without losing myself emotionally.
Lynn’s never lost anyone
@@Ram-dq1gq you wouldn’t even believe it if I told you
I can’t imagine how many times he’s had to tell this same story over the past 5 years, at a certain point we all have to give this sort of clinical answer just to get through the day
@@Googleisyourfriend.I’m sorry for your loss! Praying for you and your family 🥺
I think dude is just trying to protect the feelings of his current wife. She likely compared herself to his first wife, so he plays it down to spare he feelings.
Does this sound like a poisoning to anyone else
Im so sorry for your loss of your wife that past.
Can I make a suggestion for your new wife? Redoing areas on house, yard etc as who you are together is helpful.
And doing new adventures together totally new to both of you helps.
I've watched this process happen 2 times with my sisters.
Also, allowing your visits to seminary or personal thoughts at times for those loved ones past. But trying to make the other time special always with your new mate.
Don't forget to date too.
Date nights are so helpful. And sweet thought gifts letters, flowers, cooked dinners, walks etc
This is sad, no music please
Guy seems so lonely 😢
Sad
The descendants and tats?? Is dr John cool?
Descendents!!!!
That’s super weird…🤔😒
She was fun! That was a strange description to use to describe your wife. Not described as loving, beautiful woman, soul mate ....🤔
I'd like to know if they ever were able to diagnose what happened to her ....hmmm
So his first wife passed away just over 4 years ago and is remarried.
Lyme Disease
Could have been. It's too often overlooked.
tf 😭
Argh, I'm dealing with Lyme disease myself. It's exhausting!
Very possible
@lynnlakotich6331 me too. I've had it since childhood but I'm finally hopeful I can treat it successfully. I hope you find treatment for you as well. 💕
My wife died.
Aaa, intresting.
It's the correct thing. Us guys don't like when people act low and sad we'd rather talk about it without the sorrow or pity.
F
never even a single “sorry to hear that”
You can't fit everything in a 60 second short, there is a whole video to listen to👍🏻
And it was probably a relief. It gets hard to hear that over and over again.
If you listen to any of his videos like this, he will get to that part. He makes a point to ask about them, talk about it, and then he will get to the ugly part. He really seems to be an awesome person
Who hurt you
@@whoaitsally7676Dr. John is the BEST!!! Having met him I can tell you he is the kindest, most empathetic, caring, and down to earth guy. ❤️
Please turn to Jesus he loves you so much and died on the cross for you and your family and friends ❤❤❤❤
Whatever. It won’t bring her back.
Delusions only help the weakest of people.
This gives absolutely no context to the gentiles dude;
This guy sounds like he killed his wife. How can you be so soulless as to describe your marriage with your late wife as “stereotypical”?? That’s how emotionally uninvolved third parties describe other people’s relationships. The unexplained illnesses is just the cherry on top. He’s either a complete psychopath or has completely withdrawn from his feelings out of grief. Either way he’s got issues.
Yea no. you have absolutely no idea how different people cope. He has more than definitely had to explain this to a multitude of people. Explaining how his wife died of some unknown disease and getting absolutely zero closure from it. You have to depersonalize and distance yourself emotionally from it, for the time of explaining it, simply so he doesn't break down crying over it. You are either absolutely heartless or low emotional iq. Either way, you have issues.
You do realise people process trauma differently, right? Not to mention it seems quite common for some men to develop this avoidant passive approach to dealing with pain
He's a man. His wife passed long ago and he moved on. The same story has been told many times so it's not as emotional as when it first happened. All of these are good as he is ready for a new relationship with no baggage.
If he is what's you describe him to be, he wouldn't call a radio show like this seeking live advice. You form your very negative opinion of a person through 25 secs of him talking about his wife with no context, no sympathy, no understanding whatsoever. Very cruel to judge someone with so little info who lost his wife so early and all the depressions that come after. If he didn't love her, he wouldn't stay by her side to the end like that
My question, Why should he grief over someone that's long gone? He sounds like he loves and is grateful of being her husband. There is no utility in continuing grieving whatsoever. I lost my father at 22. I cried my eyes out for 1 night, grief for 3 days and that's it. Do I love, miss and am sad about him sometimes? Absolutely YES. Do I grief? NO. I need to focus on taking care of my mother and brother. I need to be successful to honor the last name he gave me. On top of that I need to get married and take care of my family. My father would want me to be strong, successful and happy, not grieving his death.
I don't see why the husband would think anything different. I understand that women are emotional and it typically takes longer for them to move on from something tragic such as losing a loved one but men and women are different. The husband not sounding he is grieving doesn't make him bad
@@huydang813Although men tend to bottle things up, not exactly get over it, that's why it seems like it's shorter, actually getting over takes time, just unfortunately life doesn't stop. I don't think there's anything wrong with dude, it's easier to talk like that about something traumatic
I think you might have issues. Said this dude killed his wife and might be a psychopath based on a 10 second clip
He killed her.
Wtf dude? How did you come to this conclusion ?😂😂😂
Omg I was secretly thinking this are we sick? We should get the help we need😂
@@danarzechula3769 I dunno 🤷♀️ that was my immediate gut reaction. Something feels very off about this. It's a good day when I'm wrong.
This comment section is ridiculous, it’s exactly like Reddit where ym just make wild assumptions over nothing
@@flozzy1626 true, I can't prove it, nor do I have any evidence. But my guts are screaming something foul and the alarm bells are loud in me. Something in his voice and choice of words and pacing literally made the hair on the back of my neck stand up. That's only ever happened in my life when someone's real bad news and my instincts have yet to be wrong, unfortunately.
It was COVID sir. Stop being a trump supporter
Nothing wrong with being anti vax and a trump supporter lol
@@buzzshowdown when you don't acknowledge the truth that's right in front of your eyes because of political ideology that is inherently flawed, it is a problem.
He literally said she passed away “before COVID” started. You do know that people died from mysterious illnesses since the beginning of time, right?
@@buzzshowdown, she didn’t die of “the vax,” because she died before COVID.
@@angle5520 true of leftism which promotes and spreads these diseases as 10% eugenics and 90% adherence to Agenda 21.
There is so much weight in that "she was fun" 🥹