Thank you so much Charlotte for uploading new videos every day, I really enjoy them and it is like a mini ritual of mine to watch your video after work with "cool grass" in hands ahahah ❤❤❤ btw I am Sagittarius, but if someone wants to make me early birthday present, feel free ahahha❤❤❤
Honestly, the dress looked yellow to me, not white. I had no idea what the cousin's issue w it would be until she held up the paper and said they weren't the same colour, and suddenly at that point the dress looked more cream and less yellow. But $3k for a dress just to be a guest at a wedding is kind of a problem, regardless of the colour of the dress.
@@Rosawynit wasn't yellow it was white , it was the bad lighting that made it another colour , it was a tacky attention seeking dress and no way was that $3000
I had a friend that saved up for college and attended one out of state. She had a joint bank account with her mom, and the second semester she was there, her mom drained her account, forcing her to come home. When I saw her after she had come back and she told me what happened, I was so livid on her behalf. My parents paid for my college and refused to let me pay for myself, and I've always been so grateful to them for that. I can't imagine why a parent would steal from their kids like that. Makes them really shitty, and she went no-contact with her mom a couple of years after that and moved out as soon as she could. I don't blame her one bit.
After I left my first wife got her abusive behaviour, she took all of the money from my daughter’s college grant. I won’t say, what my daughter had to do, to make ends met. I didn’t find out any of this, until many years after the fact. My wife had used my daughter as a weapon against me. I wasn’t able to see her for over 10 years. My daughter and I got in contact again, once she was an adult, and now we are very close. My daughter has had nothing to do with her mother, for a number of years now.
If anyone reads this, the girl in the college money lawsuit story won and got her money back. Her parents ended up having to mortgage to pay her back. She was also shunned by her family, being told that she would never find a husband after what she’s done. But she laughed at the statement and doesn’t want anything to do with the culture apart from the food.
Good for her!! Education is the gift that keeps on giving, she's gonna go places with that kind of gumption!! Any man worth his salt would be happy to have an intelligent, principled person like her as his spouse, so if OP decides to get married, I'm sure she'll be able to find a good partner. I wish her all the best 👍
Good for her she absolutely deserves a chance at a HIGHER EDUCATION no matter what her family says and if her entire family misses out on all her important milestones then that's all on them they shouldn't have STOLEN her COLLEGE FUND for a WEDDING
Yay good for her , why would you want people like that by your side anyhow !! Trust me honey she will be happy and get married happily lol … I feel bad for her parents but why didn’t the brother help his parents pay her back ?? He is something else !
Charlotte, the 2nd story shouldn't have to split it. She shouldn't have to share it at all. That money was for a specific purpose. The aunt set it up to counter the mysogny in their culture and the family not only ignored her wishes, but stole the money to perpetuate the mysogny of valuing men over women. Exactly $0 should have gone to his wedding from that account
Exactly! I was so confused when she said that lol. Why would she split it? But I'm sure reading all these stories it's kind of hard to keep up with all the details , it seemed like a lot of details that were said she forgot about. So I'm assuming she didn't realize that the whole reason for it is because the men are favored in their culture. They are already getting everything paid for, they don't need any extra help like the women do.
YES! Was she missing something? She also seems to forget where the money went right after she read where it went. So idk if she was getting some details confused but 100% of that money should have been for the poster and her college education.
Yes but if your family approaches you and asks for help paying for something, perhaps with the agreement to pay back, then it’s your decision to say yes or no. I’ve given my family a lot of money in a pinch that was completely mine even though I am not even slightly wealthy. I think Charlottes idea wasn’t completely out there, she just didn’t quite do the math. Like 10-20,000 of 300,000 wouldn’t be that unimaginable with permission imo
Can we take a moment to appreciate the aunt who paid for the education of all the women in the family...my life would have been so much different if i had such an aunt, god bless you auntie ❤❤ ( I'm sorry for my English sono italiana 😅)
Isnt college afordable in italy? Or at least in a lot of european countries that you as an italien ar free to go to as an European citizen. Just wondering
About the second story… I have a feeling that it was an Eastern Asian family. My reasoning for this, is because in their culture they take great pride in their sons. The family of the son pays for the wedding and those weddings are extremely expensive and lavish. So yes, the daughter has every right to sue, and that is the reason the great aunt set up that trust.
If it was me, I'd threaten to curse them to only bear daughters or curse them to become infertile. Those societies are dependent on sons so much so, they fear anything that will keep them from having sons.
I completely understand the one getting a lawsuit on the parents. My grandfather set up a trust fund that my sister and I would inherit. My mom received the one from my grandmother. My mom and stepdad started buying multiple big rig motor homes, Traveling more, buying cars like they were from the dollar store. Found out she spent her trust then went into mine and my sisters. Plus there was a note in the trust to pay for my niece’s college. Mom denied that, Well mom done spent it. And forged our names to do it. My mom admitted to me before she passed, she spent the money out of jealousy. How can you be jealous of your kids that live in poverty, while you spend their money like it’s nothing?
You had a crap mom for doing that to you. I don't get why she was jealous of her children getting things... as a mother myself, I love giving things to my kids and blessing them. Her jealousy is weird, especially when she got given something too. But sometimes parents behave in odd ways lol
@@blondegiraffe2023 Yes my mother was out there. I use to wish my friend’s parents would adopt me. They had great loving parents. Very supportive and loving. But I think she’s the reason why I’m more sympathetic to those that have been dealt a bad hand in life to. I never wanted to be like her. Thank you for your understanding.
@@katz734My mother was similar. The college funds she stole from me and my brother weren’t a whole lot, but enough that she bought a house that was WAY bigger than we needed. Didn’t even have furniture for half the rooms in it. I ended up having to work my way through community college and pay for my degree out of my own pocket. Even when I was a kid, if I had babysitting money or money from my birthday or Christmas, I used to have to hide it _really_ well or else my mother would steal it while I was at school or asleep. Same as you, I think I have empathy for people because my mother was so unempathetic. I went no contact with my mother a couple years ago over some other manipulative and abusive traits of hers. I figured there was no reason to subject my child to her abuse nor myself to the panic attacks I had after every phone call with her. I’m better off without her toxic influence in my life.
I love how the Aunt started these accounts to better the future of the girls so they don't have to live in the shadow of men but now their college education is shadowed by their BROTHERS wedding. I think Auntie is rolling in her grave. SIDE EYE.
6:24 I think it’s more about gender inequality than education vs weeding. Had it been a boy’s account and a girl’s wedding, I honestly think it wouldn’t have been the same story… her aunt wanted to provide for the girls in her family because she knew boys are the ones who get all the attention… We women / mothers need to make this change ❤
I suspect the family in question are Indian. Indian weddings are huge affairs and the male child/children are seen as benefactors and expected to take care of the parents along with the new wife. The weddings can last days and no expense is spared as the parents literally see it as investing in their future. I don't think a 2nd thought was given to the daughter and the parents saw that money as their own.
It’s like that another Asian cultures as well though so it’s hard to say. Either way, many women are not OK with that culture despite it still being pushed and I think that’s rightfully so that they are not OK with it.
The wedding/college thing is probably in their culture the brother [who is male] is probably more important because his wedding means there will be kids to keep the family line. The fact that the aunt had made sure the women in the family were able to get educated, speaks volumes to how women are seen vs. how the men are.
With the first one, I don't think the bride uninvited her cousin because she didn't like her outfit. I think she uninvited her because she asked her to wear something else and little miss Yves Saint Laurent adopted a mighty attitude about it, and *that* is why she was uninvited!
The fact that she HAD to point out that the dress was very expensive and couldn't be returned says everything I need to know about that situation. She bought a cream colored, $3000 designer dress for a wedding? Wedding dresses cost that much, it very easily could have been used as one if that was the Bride's style. She did that shit on purpose.
@@rileyvoss5829 Thank f***ing goodness because my mind was just reeling. I was so snagged on the fact that she spent $3000 on a dress to be a guest at a wedding, let alone a white one. @_@ But what a time to be alive that it was like 90% believable.
My great grandmother was an identical twin. When she passed suddenly at a rather young age, greatgrandpa married her twin sister. Back when they were dating, grandpa apparently used to ‘joke’ that he couldn’t tell them apart, he just took out whoever got done milking first. Now that I have twin boys myself, I find I’m much less amused by it.
I know this is a very late comment that will probably never be seen. Have you considered that this may have been an accepted practice back when it happened? In a lot cultures at that time, it was expected that if a man died at a young age and he had a brother that was single, the brother would step up to marry the dead brother’s widow or fiancée. It was done at a time that would assure the widow or fiancée would be financially taken care of and was a sign sign of respect for the widow or fiancée.
Update: So sorry, I re-read your post more closely. I stand by what I said about it being common for a single brother to marry a deceased brother’s wife or fiancée, I see this is not the same situation. And the comment made by your great-grandpa is crass and makes me suspect his motives were selfish.
Identical twin woman here. My sister and I grew up in a small town in the same friend group. Grandpa's joke was gross and sexist in that special old man way. That said, i wouldn't be all that upset if I were one of these twins. My sister and I have similar personalities, so we tend to grow close with the same people and have similar tastes. We also spend most of our time together. It doesn't surprise me that he married into the Twin Megazord more than a specific twin.
#2 not only did they steal OP's money, but also her sister's money for the brother's wedding. OP was certainly right to ask her brother for a written conract!
@@chrisbuttonshaw2088 As well as the fact the Great Aunt also wanted the money to go to the GIRLS ONLY in the family to help them with college, it was shitty of the parents to give so much of the money to their son's wedding without even telling the girls or replacing the money
And they did so because as stated in the begging of the story she is a woman and she and her education are not valued to the same extent a man is in their culture.
. The Great Aunt also stipulated the monies were for the "FEMALES " only. However if this family is middle eastern, which explains all her discomfort w/,their culture. Which by the way, devalues females & elevates men. In short females are secondary to males, which explains the extravagant amt of monies spent on him!!
The family of the woman who sued her parents sound like a nightmare. They used the money intended for her to pretty much do the opposite of what the aunt intended it for... They have no respect for their daughters. I hope she gets all the money back and moves on from that toxicity.
@@DGolden247 and they had the gall to complain when they accessed their accounts on the down low without telling them, they were not even supposed the have access to their accounts. The OP said that they "Managed" to access their accounts. So this is actually a serious crime.
Perhaps they were (subconsciously?) also getting revenge on the auntie for being such a maverick in the family, which they may have felt was making them look bad. I love that auntie!
Omg the second one got me IMMEDIATELY invested because I am thinking about doing the same myself! My grandparents would give my sisters and I money to go towards college when we became adults. Long story short, I didn't take the "standard" route and immediately sign up for college when I graduated (I am the oldest). Instead I escaped the clutches of my awful parents and did some traveling, ran amuck for a while, and just did my own thing. My sisters went to college, and my parents paid for things like phone bills, car insurance, buying them cars, allowing my sisters to live with them rent free after they turned 18 (which was not an option available to me). I never asked for anything, because I wanted to prove to them that I could do it on my own. Fast forward a few years, and I wanted to know what my college funds looked like so I could look into higher education. When I asked my dad how much money was in my account, he got real cagey about it and insisted that I just tell him what I wanted to take and where, and he would let me know if I was able to afford it. That didn't make much sense to me, but I knew hey had some kind of hold on my money, to where I couldn't access it myself without their signature until I was 14 or 25, which was weird, but I dropped the issue because I wasn't able to get a direct answer. Years later, im living across the country, homeless, about to have my first born child. I was desperately looking for a car, a place to live, etc. I asked my dad about the money, and he "admitted" to me that "the IRS seized the money due to back taxes", and that there was no money anymore. This was a few years after my mom bought a restaurant. No apology, no explanation, no offers to pay it back to me in any way. Honestly I know I probably won't ever see that money but I want the truth about it. I was the only child to not get my ~$15,000 in college money, or any other help, and the story he told me is completely insane, and I want to see the physical proof of their claims and to hold them accountable for their actions and failures, and have been thinking of suing to achieve this.
I don’t think you’re entitled to the money. It’s not your money. It never was. Your parents are crappy absolutely, But the idea that each kid should get the same thing from parents is false. It’s like the meme about equity vs equality. Hope you find out what happened, just for satisfaction of curiously
@@M_SC it is my money. It was given to ME, as a gift, every year from my grandparents. I was obviously unable to drive to the bank, open an account, and deposit it into the account as a five year old, so I would hand the check in my name to my parents after I opened the card it came in. I was told explicitly many times that it was my money, put in an account with my name on it, under my parents control. I don't know where you got the idea that somehow it wasn't mine. It couldn't have been made more clear. Even when my dad had no more excuses and I asked directly where it went, he said my money was gone. I know I may sound very defensive in this, and to be honest it's a very triggering subject as it's a deep betrayal wound, so it does stir up intense emotions within me. And to come in and say that it wasn't mine..like, no one even in my family has ever disputed the fact that it was mine, just like my sisters' college money was theirs, and they were able to access and use theirs. So to come into a situation as an outsider and argue that it wasn't mine is insane. They gave my parents money for them and their needs, and each of the grandkids money for our future needs. Please tell me where the idea that I wasn't entitled to it came from. I'm not trying to be confrontational if it seems that way, I'm heated and I feel like that was a bit disrespectful of a statement , but I am genuinely curious.
College money story... not only did the parents take OP's money but apparently her sister's money as well. She said, "My sister didn't care because she got married and didn't want to go to college." Yikes.
Yeah they stole potentially hundreds of thousands of dollars from both girls, that is just insane. And the brother is mad she want a settlement in writing, to drop the case, no lawyer in their right mind would recommend the OP agree to that. I can't imagine the parents used all of it on the wedding, unless it was the most extravagant wedding of all time.
@@maurer3d Yeah, that's what I was thinking, too... I bet they used it for a couple of legit "emergencies" and then got comfortable dipping into the stash whenever a "need" came up. Ugh.
For what she describes, it is a very misogyn culture. I guess somewhere in the middle east where women are seeing as inferior. In that case, maybe her sister does not see the value in going to college.
I’m thinking it might be from a eastern country because I know Indian wedding as can be very long. So I don’t know some religions to celebrate long wedding ceremonies, so I wonder if it’s something to do with that culture. I’m not being racist. It’s some of my colleagues and I were discussing this today because I seen it on another video and she told me that’s actually kind of common in her culture and she’s on the lucky one to escape escaped and became westernised, and got the opportunity to do the education that she did and have a very supportive husband.
The story with the college money is extra infuriating because OP said that not only did they used her college money, but also her sister’s money to pay for her brother’s wedding. Which also means that if those accounts had enough money for OP to graduate from an American university without debt (and I’m going to guess paying International student tuition based on how she said all her friends are Americans) those accounts had to be around at least 200k. So with using those 2 accounts, they spent almost HALF A MILLION DOLLARS!!!! On a wedding that wasn’t for either of them. And while yes OP’s sister didn’t want to use the money for college, she also couldn’t use it for her own wedding either. Just sad all around. I hope OP gets all her money back and gets to have an amazing college experience away from her family Edited because I can’t spell lol
I have a feeling the family prioritising the son over the daughters regarding finance is why the Great Aunt specified it was for the girls ONLY. She knew the females in the family would always be at a disadvantage due to their culture and did what she could to create some equality within the family.
As an identical twin, that crosses almost every line and gives me the ICK, the ultimate ICK and is extremely common. We already share a face. Why do you wanna share ex's too??? To any other twin out there, your enemy was literally you at one point
Bro same. I genuinely cannot understand the people saying it’s okay like no?? F u bro 💀 I’d be having a serious issue with my sister if she ever did that to me
There's something seriously creepy on a sci-fi level of strange going from one twin to another. Just any person who dates their ex's sibling is so beyond weird... And any sibling, ESPECIALLY a TWIN, who would be willing to date their siblings ex has something seriously wrong in their head. I honestly can't fathom how they can have an intimate relationship knowing who she's been with... 🤢🤢😫😫😫
@@TaraConway16 My brother's wife's family paid for their wedding in 2005, so not THAT old fashioned... I know my neighbors who have three girls have saved up for weddings for all three assuming they will pay the bulk of it. I think that is still the accepted norm. The girl's family pays for the reception and the dress, the groom's family pays for the rehearsal dinner and his tux. He pays for the ring. It usually works out to be fairly equal, as the fancier weddings usually come with bigger rings!
As an identical twin, my sister and I 1. Had VERY different tastes in guys (thank Goddess!). 2. Had a "no sloppy seconds" rule in the contract! Worked like a charm and we still love each other to bits!!!
Ok…One of my old teachers and her sister ended up marrying brothers. But here is the kicker, they were dating the other partners before they all realized they were meant for the opposite person. Her and her sister have both been married to their husband’s for over 20 years. I say sometimes you just picked the wrong brother. He shouldn’t be offended you were broken up. They may have had more in common. I believe he should get over it if he really is over her.
@@lillymorticia5836 Proof, please. There is a history of over 400 belief systems that have existed or still exist. Many of them claim virgin births and sacrificial death with resurrections. Feel free to believe as you wish, but no one has the corner on THE truth. Spiritual truth is what you believe is true for YOUR spirit. Be well.
I like how far away the person in the first story is standing from the camera. In the dark. Like, doing her absolute best to cast some sort of shadow on that WHITE dress 😂
Honestly, I'm glad you guys straightened me out with the dress! I would NOT wear white or cream to a wedding (esp a fancy one) but my genuine initial impression was "that's a pretty cocktail dress!" If girlfriend has $3000 👀for a dress, she can find maybe $250 or less for a different one. Don't be a doodie-head, wedding guest, okay? Be good to each other.
Yeah that girl be crazy....Everyone and their mother (and even the straightest most toxic masculine male), knows you don't wear anything near white to a western wedding unless you are the bride (or it is part of the weddings theme). It was a cute dress (be it way overpriced), but not wedding appropriate.
This says there are three replies but I can only see two. It would appear that I've somehow pre-blocked with the necessary skill... or total luck, which is much more likely. 😆
@@stacey5440 Sometimes the algorithm blocks a reply (or comment) for review if it contains potential hate speech or other violations to the user policy. Currently it say 4 and I see all 4, so that other comment must have been bad or deleted by the poster.
The utter disgust I feel for that thieving family. It’s hard to hear her struggles knowing how valuable an education can be. I really hope she updates and this turns out in her favor.
Twin story: she literally found the next best and if I was seriously pushed by family to accept it, I’d say that to their faces. “So y’all are cool with my brother marrying the woman who was so not over our relationship that she got with the carbon copy of me? You’re okay with him being her second best, the option she resorted to when she couldn’t have me?” Damn that’s so icky.
Why is everyone acting like she dumped him and then got with his twin? The breakup sounded like it was mutual, and may have even been initiated by him. She can date whoever the fuck she wants after they broke up. Could’ve just been the other twin was a better match personality-wise and his looks are more of a bonus. Like idk why OP is so upset over a woman he decided to leave.
@@tripsupstairsthat's a very fair assessment. The problem stems from the fact she decided that she wanted to not only date someone in the same family, that she knew beforehand mind you, but someone who looked EXACTLY LIKE OP. It's weird to date people in your ex's family period, but to make the conscious decision to date a carbon copy of your ex is so much weirder.
I agree with the girl suing her family for stealing the money. Thieves are embarrassing the family, not their victim for seeking help from the authorities 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ Not to mention the sexism of stealing the money for THE BROTHER'S WEDDING! The family didn't tell her they were emptying the bank account because they knew FULL EFFIN' WELL that they were being shady AF
I suspect they didn't see anything wrong with what they did, because in their culture only sons are important, daughters are just for giving as brides.
It is all about appearances. The giant wedding was also about social appearances in front of the community. As an Americanized woman, she is in the right. However, "shaming" her parents will not only make her a pariah in her family, but also in her ethnic community - although I suspect the younger women in her community would support her. It is a big social risk.
@@CollaborativeDog i don't disagree with her at all, and it's not about wedding, it's about stealing her money, in India weddings are grand that's why people save money for it for years, u don't steal money meant for education.
Had a friend getting married, her mother abandoned her to relatives when she was 10 but decided to resurface when she heard about the wedding...after a few weeks of tension my friend told her that when she makes up for the 12 years of being forced to live with the aunt and uncle who used her as live in help and when she paid for ALL the expenses she could have a voice, otherwise keep her opinions to herself.
My mother was raised by her grandmother so my family had the, "Boys are more valuable," directive due to a generational thing. My brother got to go to scouts, karate, footy club and many more activities that cost the dosh. He never finished anything and my sister and I were never allowed to do any paid activities because, "We just can't afford it at the moment." He was so spoiled it actually ruined his adult life. He got the most expensive x-mas presents and parties for his birthday every year. I have NEVER had a birthday party to this day and I was so excited to receive a dump bike for x-mas one year. A dump bike is when your parents go the dump and use a few different bikes to create a Frankenstein set of wheels. I never envy and have never been jealous of anything or anyone in my life. I am so very appreciative of any good that comes my way as I never expect anything. I would never sue for the money because as my son says, "You are such a pushover and you let everyone walk over you unless I'm involved." I am just too relaxed about things and honestly just don't let things get under my skin. I think that is partly a result of my upbringing, partly DNA and partly that I am an Aussie, who knows. However, I thoroughly endorse that young girl for suing her wanker parents. Dick move to spend their own daughters inheritance on a wedding when; A. It's not their money to spend. B. A wedding is a one day event and an education lasts for a lifetime. C. It just warms my heart to hear about a fellow female standing up for what is rightfully hers. If I had been ripped off a two or three-hundred grand, I would not be such a doormat. I hope she is successful.
You were ripped off more than 3k and an entire childhood. Your parents suck. I'm sorry but if you're still friendly with them you're definitely a doormat. That's awful what they dod
You should be kinder to yourself both in the way you speak about yourself (you called YOURSELF a doormat? That's an insult m8... maybe don't do that) and the way you consider what you deserve. It shouldn't take you hundreds of thousands of $$ to stand up for yourself. Please take better care of you, friend, it sounds like you had a really heartbreaking childhood, speaking from one "non-favored" child to another. My situation was no where even remotely close to how severe yours was, but it messed me up in ways I didn't even see until I hit my 30's and finally started to stand up for myself and examine WHY I was so desperate to be the chillest person in every group... The amount of people who took advantage of me, and I just waved it off as "being polite" or "being friendly" or "being nice" to others when I let it happen.. Or even just taking pride in being "the opposite of a karen". It was all toxic - it means you bend over too far and are in danger of getting f*cked my friend! You deserve better. I can literally hear the self-beating in your words, you were worth more back then and you are worth more than this now. #BeKind to yourself! I mean, just one thing i can immediately see to be proud of - you clearly raised a kind son who understood the assignment to take care of people he loves and to have compassion, by being a kind and compassionate person. You should apply that more to yourself, I think, if you're speaking so harshly about yourself so casually. :)
The old lady trying to pay her nieces and grand-nieces way through college resonates. Not because of the drama the one Charlotte talked about had, but because some people are just genuinly good. And the cause is better than any. My 4x great-aunt struck rich in USA in the 19th century as a young woman, being known for acting fierceful and self-dependent, and understanding the settings she was in instantly. She partly took pay in stock at Macy's department store starting as a cashier, learned how to keep the books in check through the years (got a helliva CV), and cashed out after 13 years, rich as a mf. Her heritance was very specific about the equation between what's ment for the farm she grew up on, when it's ment to be spent, and the majority to be spread thin over generations. Covering costs of being a student for so so many young women to this day. Well, sorta, the well is dry now 😅 She started spreading the joy when she sat foot on shore here, to be thruthful. It was always about building a future, and it still is. When she came back to the auld quarry of a country we're from in 1888, she spat money into the important things right away: A crazy lump of money to be used on her room at the farm (equal to $815k now), as well as a promise of her being taken care of when she got old. Her father then used that money on the best plow/sower/horse/new giant barn, and refurbished the entire building mass on the farm. She spent big bucks on a retirement home she ran until she got to old, she got one of the first jobs in the goverment aviable for women (accounting, you knew that), she refused to marry because the laws said a husband has the rights to his wifes wealth. She only had a "companionship", not partner, in her adult life. 20 years before anyone cared about women's rights, she was breaking barriers.
The twin can always just remember he was the brother chosen first and his brother is actually sloppy seconds, she never got over the first twin so moved onto his twin. He can just remember that, he wins, go to the wedding with a smile. He dumped her anyway so why doesn’t matter?
Okay...the first one was totally out to take attention from the bride. Not only was the $3000 dress off-white it was also covered in attention grabbing sequins. Did anyone else pick up the vibe that she was mad about not being able to wear the dress and not missing the wedding? Have an awesome day Charlotte and Tater Tot Squad ❤
Absolutely! If she can afford to buy a $3000 dress specifically for this wedding, then how can she not afford anything else? How does she have nothing else in her closet? Either she went broke to buy this insanely expensive dress, or she's hiding something. I'd put my bets on her wanting attention and not quite understanding why negative attention is a bad thing.
The story about the collage fund Is very hard for us westerners, especially us women to understand. There are many countries in this world that prioritize a man over a women in every way. They still believe that women should only raise children and an educated wife is useless and an embarrassment to the whole family. Progress marches slowly forward but forever forward! 💪 We Can Do It!❤
That's what I was thinking. And in some cultures weddings are giant, multi-day affairs that would cost some serious cash. If her brother was an only son I can imagine how the drive to put on a spectacular wedding would make her parents think they were entitled to the money. This is exactly the reason the aunt set up those accounts for the nieces, because she KNEW the girls would always come second. Her parents knew this and STILL stole her money. She is absolutely in her right to sue to recover. I wonder how much they took, considering that she was shocked there was 'only' $13,000 remaining. This had to have been a significant chunk to begin with, and they took both hers AND her sister's.
Yeah, the aunt knew this that’s why she left money for the females in the family to go to college because she knew they wouldn’t get support from the family. To show more love towards one kid because they have a penis is wrong on so many levels, I don’t care if they blame it on culture, do better like the aunt. They stole from their daughter money that was hers to pay for a sons wedding, I hope she gets it all back and cuts off this horrible family. No need to feel second best by a mile because you don’t have a penis, so ridiculous and I am glad as a woman not to be from a culture like this.
When I lived with my family as a teenager, I had a shocking number of dates and even 2 "boyfriends" admit that they actually wanted to date my sister and I was the consolation prize. I really felt that last story. It's a complicated situation, because I was able cut off contact with those guys, but he will never. An open talk with the brother and family should be first step.
How can the twin be sure she didn't get with him just because he looks exactly like her ex, surely it wud make him feel insecure in the relationship always wondering which one she really wanted to be with
not only that, if she really wanted to date the 'now fiance' what tells you that she didn't cheat during op's relationship? they did got together way too fast lol, not seemed so heartbroken did she?
I never dated a guy who said he wanted my sister, but I did date several who confessed that they only expressed interest in me because they wanted to get with my BFF.
@@huchlvr Alternatively, as she had been dating his twin she already had a level of trust/ friendship in place that made the brother an understandable candidate for a relationship. I'd be careful about jumping to the worst conclusion first. After all, if the brothers were close she's probably interacted socially with twin 2 many times over the 2 year relationship with his brother. She probably knows him well, has at least some attraction to him physically (they are identical twins obviously) and may well of turned to him for support when his brother left.
I have a somewhat similar story to #2. I have been working since I was 14 and once I started working, my parents made me pay for most of everything that I personally needed. They covered groceries and that kind of stuff but most everything else was my responsibility. Despite this, I knew I wanted to move out the first second i could so I saved a lot and by the time I turned 18, I had about 10K. This was 20 years ago, so it was a decent nest egg for an 18 year old. My parents also said they were giving me 5K as a graduation present. So, I end up moving out on my 18th birthday and I move into a new place with a friend's mom. A few days later, I end up going to withdraw money and I can't. I go to the bank and find my account close to completely drained. I can't remember the exact amount but my acct had under $500 left in it. My parents still had access to my bank account so they just went in and took it without telling me. My parents made 6 figures most of my upbringing and my mom recently had a lesser paying job but they weren't poor by any means. But, they were bad with money and sometimes didnt have enough for unexpected events. When I confronted them, they told me they needed it and that they would pay me back plus the 5K they promised me. That never happened and I don't talk to either of them anymore.
I am so sorry this happened to you. It is brutally of them to make you work at 14. Glad that you don't talk to them anymore they will surely try and find any way to get more money out of you every time they see you.
Dang Atleast you accomplished 10k after 4 years that’s some good progress dude you should be proud of yourself forget about the parents to look at the bright side Atleast you know you were able to save up so much in only 4 years props to you🎉
Such bad people in general, let alone parents. You will always be a capable person though. I hope you get some better luck and can not work so hard eventually
@@M_SC Thanks 🩷. I actually don't work right now due to disability so I'm definitely not working hard lol 😅. My husband makes good money and we're comfortable.
My grandparents used my college funds to pay for a lawyer for my dad because of voyeurism charges. Starting to think I should sue my dad for the total of my student loans😂
@@caljones I agree. It's stealing. Sue all of them equally in the same lawsuit, naming each name, so no matter what, if there's a technicality in which the judge would say the dad didn't know about it, her grandparents sure did and someone would have to pay her back. Why are they paying for a gross perv peeping on ppl? If it were my kid that did that, their butt would sit in jail. No lawyer from me..learn your lesson. 🤷🏽♀️
When my husband's aunt kept trying to have a say in my wedding, I would say, "Thank you for sharing your OPINION" and then do whatever I wanted anyhow.
@@sarahwatson3192 And tell them they have to pay IMMEDIATELY. The very moment they make any demands, they have to pay for each demand. If they can't/won't pay? Shucks, I'm sorry, I guess you don't have a say in the matter.
@@ladyhotep5189I can't imagine anyone having this type of audacity. I'd laugh in anyone's face who told me how my wedding was going to be. It's obviously not theirs. The entitlement and sheer audacity.
Omg! I'm a wedding singer and have been a bridesmaid many times. I'm also divorced. The incredible stories I could tell you! From my ex-husband having to give his sister away to the man that he wrongfully blamed the demise of our marriage on, to the sweet revenge I got on behalf of my friends son who was battling cancer to his gramma that disowned the family over wedding flowers, to punching out a maid of honor 4x my size when I caught her stealing at a stag and doe. To the absolute worst wedding I was ever hired to sing at and I stopped a likely fire, lost it on the brides daughter, wasn't paid (that wasnt the deal - instead was given a Timmies gift card!) And had to guard my p.a system from being messed with...by the wedding party! There are so many stories I could tell you! I would love to get in contact with you! Thanks and praise from Peterborough Ontario Canada 🇨🇦 ♥️
The story of parents stealing the money and blaming the daughter for “embarrassing the family” is very hard to hear. In extreme cases, this is the same mentality that allows predators to get away because the family doesn’t want to be embarrassed. As a person who comes from a Latino and Asian community, where reputation and males have importance , this happens way to often. Ladies, you are not embarrassing your culture or family. They are embarrassing themselves for not protecting and valuing each member equally. If need be, separate from them and practice your culture with chosen family.
My sister and I are twins and it was disturbing how many people expected us to just be dating the same dude. Like dudes who were interested in us literally thought they'd be dating both of us. At the same time. Yeah, not how that works. Maybe don't learn about dating and relationships from p0rn. We're also total opposites from each other, so one of us wasn't gonna be his type. Interestingly, we tend to date people that are like each other (i.e.similar personalities) 🤔 Not on purpose or anything, it just happens like that. 😆
I’m dating an identical twin who his very similar to his brother, but they’re still different people. I can’t even comprehend thinking of them as the same person
When I was in the jewelry business, I sold engagement rings to two ex girlfriends and their fiancée’s. At the time it didn’t seem weird at all, other than both girls suggesting my store to their fiancées.
My dad cashed out my college fund that my mom paid for (part of the child support agreement) to pay for my bish stepmother fake boobies. They divorced shortly after and i had to work full time while going to school and supporting myself. I no longer talk to my dad or ex stepmother but do better than all of them combined 🎉
Hi I just want to thank you for highlighting the line you are reading. As a neuro divergent person it helps me to keep up. These stories and your reaction to them is so funny!
@@dylbrody9666 Have you genuinely never heard of Autistic or ADHD people? Or are you being purposely rude? Small edit: I really want to believe it's the first, so I hope you're just ignorant and not ableist.
Hearing that last story made me want to spill a very dark family secret that I’ve never spoken about to anyone outside of my family. My aunt married a man who had a fraternal twin brother. They were married for 8 years and had a child together. Their marriage ended because she caught him cheating on her with a stripper. Unfortunately she didn’t have a job or any money saved so while she filed for divorce she went to stay with her brother-in-law, and I’m sure you can see where this is going lol. Fast forward a year and she is married to twin #2. They went on to have a child together but the marriage didn’t last because the apple never falls far from the tree. So now she is twice divorced with 2 kids that are brother and sister and also cousins. 2 years ago she calls my dad (her brother) hysterical because the cops had just left her house looking for twin #1. It turns out that he killed 5 people (including his current wife) and was on the run. They finally found him and he confessed to the 5 but also claims to have killed 16 others, although they haven’t been able to substantiate those claims. I know it probably sounds too crazy to be true but you will just have to take my word on it. I am kinda counting on the chance that no one will actually read this since this video is a couple of weeks old. Otherwise I would have never been comfortable to share our family shame.
As someone whose sibling dated multiple of my exes, I understand why the last guy was upset. Even if you're totally over the ex and have no feelings toward them, having your sibling not communicate with you about their intentions and make sure you're okay with it is a betrayal. I have never trusted that sibling again and most likely never will. Thankfully my sibling never married any of my exes. Having that kind of news sprung on you and then learning you're going to be forced into being related to them must be excruciating.
plus they are twins, like how in gods name will you see that normal, they break up and in 6 months she start dating his twin? thats fucking weird and creppy as fk
@@moisesnavarro6051 Not only is it creepy, but my theory is she wasn't moving on from OP in a healthy way and used his brother as the stand-in. Especially with how fast they got married after dating...There's a lot of healing to be done there all around.
@@xchrysantha 100%.. iv'e arguing with ppl in this comment section about how fucking weird this its and nobody seems to see it that way.. especially "dont rly like to play the women card but i have to" women.. like "OP leave her so he shouldn't care what she does and with who she does" like fuck they break up and in less than 6 months she already move on with his ex brother who its his twin and now they are gonna marry, how in gods name that shit its not weird....
@@moisesnavarro6051Imagine the other twin and the ex having kids... And then telling them when they're older "Well, your uncle fcked your mom for two years before we got together right after, got married and had you" 😅😂
The best way to get married is to do it in secret, well, not even in secret...just don't invite anyone. I got married for the third time just after lockdown...none of the hotels were re-opened as the homeless had been put in them, besides we were only allowed 6 at the wedding and you had to count the registrar and the staff. So, long story short, our cab driver was our photographer and witness...another witness was a journalist we knew...job done!!...no guests, no drama. Neither did we have a party over the last two years as a late celebration. so, so easy! x🤣
These videos show me just how blessed I am with my MIL. We get confused for mother/daughter when we go shopping together, and after 27 years of marriage, I adore her. I will never take our relationship for granted…
As someone who was disabled financially by parental financial abuse as well NTA!! Also yes to getting everything in writing! My family did SO many illegal things to benefit themselves financially then gaslit me into thinking I was legitimately crazy when I questioned it and claimed I must have known what was going on because they obtained my signature via deception. I don't care if these people are her family DO NOT TRUST! Also sue sue sue! Speaking from experience the keeping them out of jail part is so hard! When I told my mum just how illegal everything her and my step dad had done was and that they could actually go to jail for it her response was "Well send us to jail!" Like it was MY FAULT if they got caught and sent to jail. I'm now no contact with them and every time I have the thought of oh I could rekindle a relationship with my family I just remind myself of everything that went down.
Man, the response almost makes me wish you had sent them to jail. That one phone call would probably have been beached Whale noises about "Faaaaamily". Respect what ever made you decide not to though if that's truly what you wanted.
I once talked to a lady whose sister stole property and money from her. This girl went outside to have a smoke and her sister made their old senile mother sign the contract. I could never understand how could she do that to her own sister. This girl even helped her sister to move country, find house and start a new life.
@@pavlal.4552 My family have done similar - not with property but with money and shares to avoid taxes. They would obtain my signature via deception and because they had been doing it since I was of legal working age and I trusted my family I never questioned it until I was much older and things just weren't adding up. They would then gaslight me telling me I had to of known and been okay with what they were doing because I signed the documents. Where in reality I had never seen the whole documents just the signature page itself. 'Family' hey... I will never speak to them again.
@@Resilient_Sage88 haha I told my mum to "Get f*cked!" and that she was being so manipulative. She had nothing to say after that like she usually doesn't when I would call her out on things. Thankfully I've not had to deal with it since going no contact for nearly two years.
With the college funds story, it is honestly heart breaking to hear that. I'm from a similar culture but all the women in my family have a college education or are business owner in the time where that's uncommon so they highly value education. So so sorry to hear about this.
These videos just make me so grateful that I have the most chill MIL ever! I know that she will never cause drama because she loves me and my husband too much to do that. She's constantly told me that she's just happy to see us whenever works best for us, and she doesn't care if we don't visit at Christmas or any other major holiday as long as we are happy and doing what is best for our family. I'm truly grateful for her, and I wish all mother in laws could be as amazing and supportive as mine.
I have a married 13 years. When we got married, my husband had a conversation with his mother about the way she had treated him for many years (favoritism for his siblings, treating him like a servant, making him do all the chores, taking money from him that he was making, and she was supposed to be saving for him as he was working to get a new car, but using it for his brother) he told her he wanted an apology for the things she had done to him. She said and I quote “I did the best I could, you’re not gonna get an apology. I raised you to be strong” my husband looked at me a week later, asked me to marry him at the courthouse, and within a week we had eloped and have been happily married ever since. Edit: he asked other family what they thought about us getting married from his fam. All of them told him that we should wait a couple of years so none of them were invited. When we eloped, only my mother was standing in the courthouse with us.
I recall a comment my mother once made:”remember my son, your wife is the only family member you will choose to have a life together. You didn’t choose your parents and you will not choose the children you may have. So know, that she is the only person that should matter in your life - the rest of the family is just an add on you will have to live with and that you hopefully love too!” Therefore my mother never meddled in my relationship with my wife and she knew why, I would have followed her advice without hesitation! Thankfully my wife for 28 years (and still going stronger 😍) and my mother hit it off just perfect and my wife loved my mother till she passed 10 years ago.
It’s easy to see just based on her advice why your wife would have loved your mother so much I think she’s amazing and I’ve never met her may her soul rest in peace❤
Incredibly wise Mother you had there, great advice!! Happy wife, happy life ain't no joke, and if mama's not happy the house will not be happy true dat!!
The parents that stole the girls' college fund need to be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law because what they did was nothing but theft by taking!! 🤬
The only time I wore white to a wedding was when it was a white dress but covered in blue and read flowers and the bride was happy with it. I asked her and showed her the dress to check she was okay with it and since it was covered in blue and red flowers she was totally fine with.
The worst part about the second story is that the parents didn't just steal money from their child, they stole money from their daughter to give to her brother. Their actions just prove the great aunts point that women's education is of little importance.
OMG the family taking the college fund is INFURIATING!!! My step mother did the same to me! She drained my college fund that I PUT THE MONEY INTO AS I WORKED FULLLTIME WHILE IN HIGH SCHOOL!!! (was a specific type of high interest savings account that a minor would need a cosigner for in the early 2000's). I had to get a huge student loan. Top it off my health went to shit after I graduated and was unable to pay said loans and had to file for bankruptcy.
OP should say he'll do it but he get to give a speech and no is allowed to interrupt him or complain about it. Then had them a copy of the must insulting, vile and degrading speech imaginable. Make sure to minchin that he dated,and slept with the bride first and that she was desperate to get him back she was probably riding his two the minute they broke up.
I've been binge watching your videos too much and i got so into it that i thought the text message and call sounds were from my phone HAHAHAHAHAHA i literally had to check my phone multiple times. Love your videos Charlotte!!
My ex bf is an identical twin and he had broken up with his previous gf before me after finding out that she had been having an affair behind his back with his twin…for 2 years! They were in their late teens/early twenties at that point so still both lived with their parents. I can only assume that the gf was getting busy with both at different times in each of their bedrooms under the same roof secretly. So f-ing gross!!
@@arielmalihaIt's gross cause that girl sees them only for their looks and probably body and not their personalities. The twins are two different people
Honestly! I love the stories of twins having their siblings as "Spare Parts" on their phones because it is funny, but this wedding takes that phrase to a totally different plane of morbid lol
Right, it's like she had already been plotting while they were still together. An IDENTICAL twin brother, like really, and the family is ok with this?!
@@latrinakims7994 I didn't really think about that but wow, yeah that's the only way they could have gotten together so quickly after she broke up with op. I wonder if she was obsessed with them, like how people are in some shows, and that's why she went to the other brother quickly
So you're a backup unless your partner never had another partner before? You're also assuming that she's marrying the twin brother because of his looks. I guess he doesn't have a character or personality, huh? Grow up. The first brother needs to get over the ex he broke up with and to stop acting like a child. Boohoo, I didn't want her any more but she's not allowed to have anybody else.
#2 If the parents don't want to be shamed, they shouldn't have behaved so shamefully by stealing from their child. It's they're own fault if they're ashamed and they should be!
The fact that the brothers were twins elevates the situation to a whole different level of crazy/creepiness. All I want to know is: are they identical twins???
Yes, they are identical. The breakup seems not due to a lack of love but not wanting to have a long-distance/college relationship. The twin brother is wrong for dating his brother's ex in the first place this is a huge betrayal and the ex is horrible for coming in between not just brothers but twins. I hope to ex really loves the twin and didn't just use him as a replacement for her ex, just imagine the consequence if that is the case.
@@larry01902 Could be that she's pressuring herself, because SHE wants to keep HERSELF in the family for whatever reason. I had a friend who was crushing on all three brothers of a family (not all at once, one at a time), because she loved their family and wanted to be part of it. She did eventually see how unhinged that was, and now she's married to a great guy who is not part of that family, and each of those brothers is now married as well. Anyway, that could be the case here, she's just in love with the family as a whole, and doesn't care which brother she marries to become part of it. Could also be that their family has money, and she wants access to it. Hell, it could be any number of things, all of them gross.
You can only do a white dress at a wedding if you've already talked it out with the bride first... my friend wanted me to wear a dress, and she knew how uncomfortable dresses made me... when I found the white cotton, eyelet lace, garden party dress... WITH POCKETS!!! I called her from the dressing room with my excitement, and she told me that I better get that dress and that she loved me... I paired it with lots of colour to offset the whiteness of the dress... Bride was stunning. I cried like a big baby. It was beautiful.
I know the feeling of finding something you are totally happy with and confident in. I would still not wear white to a wedding, but i like the fact you paired it colors and that your friend gave you her blessing
If it's cotton it's easy to dye. However if the bride is ok with someone else wearing white, then it's no problem. Few years ago when my cousin was getting married she told everyone to wear whatever they want, she had a very puffy stark white princess dress so no one would be confused who is the bride anyway. Some guests actually wore very light colours as it was a peak of summer, but they were all kinda modest, meaning nothing looking like another wedding dress.
@@killerfreckles1162 I find the second half of your reply super confusing...did you read the same comment I did?? She didn't cry to "manipulate her friend" to be able to wear the dress...as far as the comment describes there was zero crying until the actual wedding, at which point she had already received her friend's full blessing to buy and wear the dress. 🤔 So to assume she cried earlier as a method to force her friend into something is quite the major assumption in my opinion.
I'm about to get married in like 6 months, and the drama is already slowly starting. Me and my husband like to keep to ourselves, we're not oversharing people nor do post on social media often. In fact, we're only having a public wedding for our families, otherwise we would have left straight for a honeymoon after signing. People start bugging us about "not hearing news" from us regarding the wedding (they all recieved an invite though). Annoyed at being told that so often, we ended up dropping a lengthy sarcastic and very detailed response about all the tedious paperwork we were doing to reserve the townhall and the party place. Haven't heard anything since. If they want drama, I'll give them petty.
2nd story is most likely UK indian (Hindi) or Pakistani community. There is a strong possibility that the Aunty most likely moved to the US from the UK after marriage as the extended family were pressuring her to an arranged marriage. So the money for the female relatives would be destroying the generational control. Especially grandad. Also the clear preference for the male heir - that’s not likely to be Chinese or Caribbean communities. Arranged marriages is still a thing in some Asian communities. If they are Pakistani, then the brother being offended would be a cultural thing, as he would expect to honour his work, but she handled it right demanding a contract otherwise it could be treat as a debt in the community.
The twin guy's story hit a sensitive spot for me, not because I'm a twin and that the same thing happened to me but something close to it. My ex had cheated on me with à friend of mine and within that same year she started to date his older brother. Mind you we were all in our 40's so age has nothing to do with poor decision making. She attented all the family gatherings, came to my house because the brother wanted to hang with my bf and everyone acted like nothing was wrong with that picture. I would often cry at the sight of her but had to suck it up to keep the peace!! 🙄 How do those ppl live with themselves, seriously? 🤷♀️
Didn't HE break up with her? Also , no cheating, unless I heard incorrectly occurred. I don't think it's the same. I do however totally know what happened to you from personal experience and I'm sorry....period
@@sassysarina9718 op say they break up and in 6 months she was already with his brother, that its kinda sus becuz if she actually like him for what he its and not as a copy, they have to be doing shady shit in the back becuz 6 months its not that long of a time , also its his twin brother, i dont know about you but when i break up with someone i want to move on from that and get it in with my ex twin its not the way to do it, plus the brother should know you dont fuck you brother ex let alone marry her... the fuck its wrong with him..
That girl should definetly sue. I felt bad for her, but also for her grandma who worked hard to provide educations for her grandchildrens! Sounds like some apple can fall far away from the tree. I hope she can get her money back and pursue her dreams ❤
It washer aunt, but yeah it's terrible. I think one reason the family is okay with it is because they probably somehow accessed and stole their daughters money since the don't value educating women (f**k tha sh*t). It's horrible when your own community feeds into horrible beliefs like this
for the college money one: let’s not forget that their aunt left college funds for TWO, for her and her sister. yet they gave nearly all of it to her brothers wedding = they paid for a shit load expensive wedding if they used almost two full college funds for it…
Oh girl! My mother in law hosted our small intimate wedding at their home. My husband's parents wanted to pay for most everything as our gift...including my dress. I was fine buying it myself but she insisted. To keep my fiance happy I agreed. This was not my first marriage but it was for him. She insisted on going with me to pick out a dress. She was very vocal that it should be a simpler dress as it was a home wedding. We were looking at several stores and I was also shopping ( I thought) for a dress to leave the reception in. I found a pretty tea length linen cream color dress that I was going to get for the reception. She INSISTED that was going to be my wedding dress. I told her that was just too plain for what I had in mind for my actual wedding dress. This woman goes off saying that I was not getting married in white because it was not proper and it would be embarrassing if I wore a floor length gown. I was hurt but caved because my husband just wanted to keep the peace but I resented it every day. Fast forward 25 years. My husband's younger brother gets married with monetary help from his parents. They have a more lavish lakeside wedding with a lot more guests. My mother in law (of course) offered to help buy the dress and took her son's fiance shopping. They come back (no joke) with a WHITE wedding GOWN (her THIRD marriage) with full long train and long veil to get married on a fishing PIER! I don't think I've ever felt so hurt or demeaned by his family. That's just one of MANY personal jabs I've endured by them though. Funny thing is we've been married over thirty years now & my husband is their only child who hasn't had one or more divorces.
I went to a wedding with my group of friends. One wore an asian inspired dress which was white with pink cherry blossoms, and also was waaaay too short even for her. All of us were like "what were you thinking?" but no one made her leave the wedding, we just keep referencing It every once in a while as a joke afterwards
Yeah, if the relationship is good, this is the way to react... If the person making the dress faux-pas is someone you already really dislike for other reasons, the banning her from the wedding makes some kind of sense 😅 I'm happy y'all made a joke out of it 😊
For the Twinuation, I wouldn't be surprised if his brother always had a thing for his ex, especially since he was so willing to overlook that she was with his identical brother for two years before they got together. Like, he isn't the AH, it's a different level since they are identical, everyone else is the AH who is just going to pretend like it's fine. I feel for that twin, it seems like that family doesn't really see each of them as their own person and prob has a fave, so they just use the other twin as a stand in. They were probably dressed identical by a parent as children until the one that ended up moving away started to rebel which prob caused friction in the family and that's why they are all ganging up on him. I know I'm reaching, but you wouldn't believe how often that happens in families whether it be twins or not. Personally, I am with someone who everyone else claims that him and his brother look the same and they get confused for each other a lot by others all the time, and I wouldn't want to be with his brother at all if that sort of situation was to arise. It's just off on so many levels and I don't see how people confuse them.
1:51 it’s CLEARLY an off white. You don’t wear white or off white to a wedding unless the bride allows it (some cultures have brides in red, so guests in white is fine).
The wedding/ college story. The money they used for their SONS wedding and not their DAUGHTERS education. She did say that education for females in her family isn't held in high regard and they proved it.
Why would the bank allow money held in trust for a specific individual to be used for someone else? Seems to me she has a possible law action against that bank too.
My brother dated my ex, I was pissed when I found out, I said to him, Whenever you are intimate, whenever you are down "there" just remember I've been there first. They broke up a week later. Maybe I'm TA but you don't shit on your own doorstep.
Hold up, you're saying that 2 college tuitions paid for one wedding? How expensive was this wedding? My sister had a beautiful wedding for just 5k (not including her dress)
Indian weddings are _ENORMOUS;_ literally hundreds of guests, events and ceremonies that span 3 days, tons of food, and the *JEWELRY!* There's an old saying about Indian weddings and the jewelry for it: If there's no gold, there's no wedding.
on the collage money. She said her culture didnt see womens education as important, So her brothers wedding was more important than her going to college
After watching all of these bridezilla videos, I can confidently say that I need three things at my wedding: a handsome groom who loves me, my mom to give me away, and an open bar.
Trust me eloping is even better. No guests being annoying. Run off to Vegas spend a fraction wedding cost play there for a weekend with groom. Shows, gambling,, bars,, rides,, lavish suite. Then go on an incredible honeymoon in Europe or a tropical island. Oh even better spend projected wedding cost on a ring the size of your fist that and still elope.
The parents stealing the college fund for the wedding is so misogynistic it's unreal! They wouldn't have done that for OP's sister, I bet. They didn't think OP deserved an education because she's a female, and the brother deserved an over the top gaudy wedding because he's their son. OP is clearly in the right, and I hope she gets every dime back and then some while her parents rot in prison.
They DID do it to OP’s sister. They took hers too. But it says she didn’t care because she had already gotten married and had never intended to go to college.
I’m getting married this October. My fiancé and I are paying for this wedding 100% on our own. His dad and my grandma have turned into absolute asshats over this wedding. His dad keeps insinuating that the cost of our wedding (very cheap) will cause us to get divorced like him and my fiancé’s bio mom. My grandma keeps knit picking every little choice I make. It’s like going to a park and pitching a fit over a newly commissioned bench. Like what do they care? They’re not even paying for it but they’re acting like total knobs.
My wedding cost less than $200. I’ve been married 23 years, have 5 kids and we still love each other. The marriage is what’s important not the wedding. I hope you have a great wedding and marriage.
The only thing that beats out Petty merch (in my opinion), is the Phil DeFranco "One Day we will all be skeletons" merch and only because it was a quote his son made when Phil interview him for his first live interview on "A Conversation With", it was possibly the cutest interview of all time.
Please take them to court NOW , it is YOUR money. Always have receipts and a paper trail. Your brother wasn't ready to be married, he had to STEAL. The point is IT'S YOUR MONEY!!!!!!!!
For the twin brothers, while I really freaking hope there was never any cheating at all one of two things that popped into my mind when we were told the twin brother and Op's ex dated within a year after Op broke up with his ex, those two cheating immediately popped into my head. The second was, the ex never got over OP and decided to settle with his brother since they're identical. Both are very freaking sucky. Sad part is it sounds like they did date for awhile and while both mutual agreed to end it, I think, it's still smells very fishy to me. I can agreed with Charlotte this doesn't sit right with me either and I don't like immediately thinking negative about ppl.
.. agreed! IMO OP left out some vital info on why he's acting like he'd had his heart ripped out, yet he stated at the start 'they' both agreed to end the relationship b4 college. Transference of affection is an actual thing, and it happens fairly commonly amoungst twins; male or female/identical or not. I'm not at all surprised that the ex & identical sibling easily fell into a relationship (probably both were missing OP in fact!) .. OP is acting like she did something horrible that he broke up with her.
@@ThreadworxsI wouldn't put it past the woman in that story to try to get with the brother if OP had tried to do long distance instead of a "clean" break.
Last month I was having a casual conversation with my BiL, talking about weddings and what not and I mentioned to him how weird it was and how my dad had the audacity to wear a white suit to his (BiL's/sister's) wedding. BiL was like "why? what's wrong with that?" The look on my face, I tell you. I had to explain to my BiL (who is older than I am, married with four kids no less) why nobody is supposed to wear white to a wedding except the bride. (And yes, for the record, it is IN their wedding photos that my dad wore a white suit to their wedding, it's memorialized)
I don't see any issue with that. I also don't see an issue with women wearing white if it's nothing like a wedding dress/what the bride's wearing. Having watched a few videos where this is mentioned, I'm thinking it must be a North American thing, as it wouldn't be an issue in the UK unless someone turned up in something resembling what the bride's wearing.
@@sarahthomas148yeah, at least here in the US, only the couple is supposed to wear white. This rule applies to both men and women, but it's less applied to men since white is an uncommon suit color. If you ever get invited to a US wedding, and you want to wear something white (or close to white) ask the couple first. It's their day, so what they say applies.
Charlotte, your editors deserve an award or a raise or a gold star sticker or SOMETHING! The Bobs Burgers edit made me have to pause the video b/c I was laughing so hard. They compliment your jokes really well xD
As a former wedding photographer , even I was worried about a off white dress WITH BIG COLORFUL FLOWERS PRINTED ALL OVER IT! I was very pregnant and the only thing I could fit into. I even asked the bride if it was too white haha could not imagine wearing that white dress to a wedding!
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If you spend 3K for that dress and you aren't the one getting married you have bigger problems than being uninvited.
Right? That’s insane.
Honestly, the dress looked yellow to me, not white. I had no idea what the cousin's issue w it would be until she held up the paper and said they weren't the same colour, and suddenly at that point the dress looked more cream and less yellow. But $3k for a dress just to be a guest at a wedding is kind of a problem, regardless of the colour of the dress.
@@Rosawynit wasn't yellow it was white , it was the bad lighting that made it another colour , it was a tacky attention seeking dress and no way was that $3000
@@maryburger1232 I looked 100% yellow on my screen. So interesting how things often look different colours on different screens!
That dress looks like... 150 Max in worth, UNLESS it's custom made, which I highly doubt.
I had a friend that saved up for college and attended one out of state. She had a joint bank account with her mom, and the second semester she was there, her mom drained her account, forcing her to come home.
When I saw her after she had come back and she told me what happened, I was so livid on her behalf. My parents paid for my college and refused to let me pay for myself, and I've always been so grateful to them for that. I can't imagine why a parent would steal from their kids like that. Makes them really shitty, and she went no-contact with her mom a couple of years after that and moved out as soon as she could. I don't blame her one bit.
Never share an account at bank. You don't know what the other is up to, ever. Always have some get out money ready.
There are things what shouldn't be shared even with family, bank account is one of them. Once you earn money, you should have your own account.
After I left my first wife got her abusive behaviour, she took all of the money from my daughter’s college grant.
I won’t say, what my daughter had to do, to make ends met.
I didn’t find out any of this, until many years after the fact.
My wife had used my daughter as a weapon against me. I wasn’t able to see her for over 10 years.
My daughter and I got in contact again, once she was an adult, and now we are very close.
My daughter has had nothing to do with her mother, for a number of years now.
@izuwu some parents can’t afford to pay for college tuition.
@@izuwu14 one thing is not paying for the college, another thing is stealing money.
If anyone reads this, the girl in the college money lawsuit story won and got her money back. Her parents ended up having to mortgage to pay her back.
She was also shunned by her family, being told that she would never find a husband after what she’s done. But she laughed at the statement and doesn’t want anything to do with the culture apart from the food.
Good for her!! Education is the gift that keeps on giving, she's gonna go places with that kind of gumption!! Any man worth his salt would be happy to have an intelligent, principled person like her as his spouse, so if OP decides to get married, I'm sure she'll be able to find a good partner. I wish her all the best 👍
Good for her she absolutely deserves a chance at a HIGHER EDUCATION no matter what her family says and if her entire family misses out on all her important milestones then that's all on them they shouldn't have STOLEN her COLLEGE FUND for a WEDDING
Yay good for her , why would you want people like that by your side anyhow !!
Trust me honey she will be happy and get married happily lol …
I feel bad for her parents but why didn’t the brother help his parents pay her back ??
He is something else !
Charlotte, the 2nd story shouldn't have to split it. She shouldn't have to share it at all. That money was for a specific purpose. The aunt set it up to counter the mysogny in their culture and the family not only ignored her wishes, but stole the money to perpetuate the mysogny of valuing men over women. Exactly $0 should have gone to his wedding from that account
Exactly! I was so confused when she said that lol. Why would she split it?
But I'm sure reading all these stories it's kind of hard to keep up with all the details , it seemed like a lot of details that were said she forgot about. So I'm assuming she didn't realize that the whole reason for it is because the men are favored in their culture. They are already getting everything paid for, they don't need any extra help like the women do.
YES! Was she missing something? She also seems to forget where the money went right after she read where it went. So idk if she was getting some details confused but 100% of that money should have been for the poster and her college education.
Don’t forget they took her sisters money too (whether or not she was going to college, that money was hers)
Yes but if your family approaches you and asks for help paying for something, perhaps with the agreement to pay back, then it’s your decision to say yes or no. I’ve given my family a lot of money in a pinch that was completely mine even though I am not even slightly wealthy. I think Charlottes idea wasn’t completely out there, she just didn’t quite do the math. Like 10-20,000 of 300,000 wouldn’t be that unimaginable with permission imo
This story irks me. How can the brother pay for her university, when he can’t even pay for his own wedding?
Can we take a moment to appreciate the aunt who paid for the education of all the women in the family...my life would have been so much different if i had such an aunt, god bless you auntie ❤❤
( I'm sorry for my English sono italiana 😅)
Your English is very good! 👍
Yes, what a wonderful Aunt she was!!!👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Don’t worry about your English! Your English is better than A LOT of people whose first language IS English!! 😊
Yeah I'm so impressed by the great-aunt, bless her soul. Such an amazing woman!
Isnt college afordable in italy? Or at least in a lot of european countries that you as an italien ar free to go to as an European citizen. Just wondering
About the second story… I have a feeling that it was an Eastern Asian family. My reasoning for this, is because in their culture they take great pride in their sons. The family of the son pays for the wedding and those weddings are extremely expensive and lavish. So yes, the daughter has every right to sue, and that is the reason the great aunt set up that trust.
I remember seeing this post on Reddit, this was an Indian familly.
If it was me, I'd threaten to curse them to only bear daughters or curse them to become infertile. Those societies are dependent on sons so much so, they fear anything that will keep them from having sons.
About the same general idea 🤷🏽♀️@@irina-ty1336
@@irina-ty1336 that makes sooo much sense lol
Yes, the whole POINT of the account was to even up the playing field a little bit, from a GLORIFICATION of the already male-worshipped culture!
I completely understand the one getting a lawsuit on the parents. My grandfather set up a trust fund that my sister and I would inherit. My mom received the one from my grandmother. My mom and stepdad started buying multiple big rig motor homes, Traveling more, buying cars like they were from the dollar store. Found out she spent her trust then went into mine and my sisters. Plus there was a note in the trust to pay for my niece’s college. Mom denied that, Well mom done spent it. And forged our names to do it. My mom admitted to me before she passed, she spent the money out of jealousy. How can you be jealous of your kids that live in poverty, while you spend their money like it’s nothing?
Sue your stepdad and take everything he owes.
@@MayDa-ll7oe I would but he passed the year before my mom. But my sister did spread his ashes at the nearest truck stop. 🤭
You had a crap mom for doing that to you. I don't get why she was jealous of her children getting things... as a mother myself, I love giving things to my kids and blessing them. Her jealousy is weird, especially when she got given something too. But sometimes parents behave in odd ways lol
@@blondegiraffe2023 Yes my mother was out there. I use to wish my friend’s parents would adopt me. They had great loving parents. Very supportive and loving. But I think she’s the reason why I’m more sympathetic to those that have been dealt a bad hand in life to. I never wanted to be like her. Thank you for your understanding.
@@katz734My mother was similar. The college funds she stole from me and my brother weren’t a whole lot, but enough that she bought a house that was WAY bigger than we needed. Didn’t even have furniture for half the rooms in it.
I ended up having to work my way through community college and pay for my degree out of my own pocket.
Even when I was a kid, if I had babysitting money or money from my birthday or Christmas, I used to have to hide it _really_ well or else my mother would steal it while I was at school or asleep.
Same as you, I think I have empathy for people because my mother was so unempathetic.
I went no contact with my mother a couple years ago over some other manipulative and abusive traits of hers.
I figured there was no reason to subject my child to her abuse nor myself to the panic attacks I had after every phone call with her.
I’m better off without her toxic influence in my life.
I love how the Aunt started these accounts to better the future of the girls so they don't have to live in the shadow of men but now their college education is shadowed by their BROTHERS wedding. I think Auntie is rolling in her grave. SIDE EYE.
In the shadow of a man… you sound so delusional
Pretty sure it was THEM who put money over family. What a horrendous lack of integrity.
@@jill7759 who do you mean by them?
@@wildalicethe parents, probably.
6:24 I think it’s more about gender inequality than education vs weeding. Had it been a boy’s account and a girl’s wedding, I honestly think it wouldn’t have been the same story… her aunt wanted to provide for the girls in her family because she knew boys are the ones who get all the attention… We women / mothers need to make this change ❤
I suspect the family in question are Indian. Indian weddings are huge affairs and the male child/children are seen as benefactors and expected to take care of the parents along with the new wife. The weddings can last days and no expense is spared as the parents literally see it as investing in their future.
I don't think a 2nd thought was given to the daughter and the parents saw that money as their own.
It’s like that another Asian cultures as well though so it’s hard to say. Either way, many women are not OK with that culture despite it still being pushed and I think that’s rightfully so that they are not OK with it.
The wedding/college thing is probably in their culture the brother [who is male] is probably more important because his wedding means there will be kids to keep the family line. The fact that the aunt had made sure the women in the family were able to get educated, speaks volumes to how women are seen vs. how the men are.
No excuse for grand larceny
Yesssss
he deserves to not be able to get it up.
@@SpamEggSausage 🤣🤣🤣
@@HighAsHeckPriestessNo excuses for misogyny.*
With the first one, I don't think the bride uninvited her cousin because she didn't like her outfit. I think she uninvited her because she asked her to wear something else and little miss Yves Saint Laurent adopted a mighty attitude about it, and *that* is why she was uninvited!
Possibly 🤔🤔🤔
I also feel like this girl might have a certain reputation in the family if the bride is checking in about what she’s wearing.
The fact that she HAD to point out that the dress was very expensive and couldn't be returned says everything I need to know about that situation. She bought a cream colored, $3000 designer dress for a wedding? Wedding dresses cost that much, it very easily could have been used as one if that was the Bride's style. She did that shit on purpose.
The first video is from a satire TikTok account.
@@rileyvoss5829 Thank f***ing goodness because my mind was just reeling. I was so snagged on the fact that she spent $3000 on a dress to be a guest at a wedding, let alone a white one. @_@ But what a time to be alive that it was like 90% believable.
My great grandmother was an identical twin. When she passed suddenly at a rather young age, greatgrandpa married her twin sister. Back when they were dating, grandpa apparently used to ‘joke’ that he couldn’t tell them apart, he just took out whoever got done milking first. Now that I have twin boys myself, I find I’m much less amused by it.
I know this is a very late comment that will probably never be seen. Have you considered that this may have been an accepted practice back when it happened? In a lot cultures at that time, it was expected that if a man died at a young age and he had a brother that was single, the brother would step up to marry the dead brother’s widow or fiancée. It was done at a time that would assure the widow or fiancée would be financially taken care of and was a sign sign of respect for the widow or fiancée.
Update: So sorry, I re-read your post more closely. I stand by what I said about it being common for a single brother to marry a deceased brother’s wife or fiancée, I see this is not the same situation. And the comment made by your great-grandpa is crass and makes me suspect his motives were selfish.
Identical twin woman here. My sister and I grew up in a small town in the same friend group. Grandpa's joke was gross and sexist in that special old man way. That said, i wouldn't be all that upset if I were one of these twins. My sister and I have similar personalities, so we tend to grow close with the same people and have similar tastes. We also spend most of our time together. It doesn't surprise me that he married into the Twin Megazord more than a specific twin.
#2 not only did they steal OP's money, but also her sister's money for the brother's wedding. OP was certainly right to ask her brother for a written conract!
if THE PARENTS had put the money away for the kids then it could be a gray-area but the fact it was the GREAT AUNT'S money makes it theft 100%
@@chrisbuttonshaw2088 As well as the fact the Great Aunt also wanted the money to go to the GIRLS ONLY in the family to help them with college, it was shitty of the parents to give so much of the money to their son's wedding without even telling the girls or replacing the money
And they did so because as stated in the begging of the story she is a woman and she and her education are not valued to the same extent a man is in their culture.
. The Great Aunt also stipulated the monies were for the "FEMALES " only. However if this family is middle eastern, which explains all her discomfort w/,their culture. Which by the way, devalues females & elevates men. In short females are secondary to males, which explains the extravagant amt of monies spent on him!!
A wedding of all things
The family of the woman who sued her parents sound like a nightmare. They used the money intended for her to pretty much do the opposite of what the aunt intended it for... They have no respect for their daughters. I hope she gets all the money back and moves on from that toxicity.
It also shows that they never had any respect for the aunt. They basically stole from both their daughters and the aunt
@@DGolden247 and they had the gall to complain when they accessed their accounts on the down low without telling them, they were not even supposed the have access to their accounts. The OP said that they "Managed" to access their accounts. So this is actually a serious crime.
Perhaps they were (subconsciously?) also getting revenge on the auntie for being such a maverick in the family, which they may have felt was making them look bad. I love that auntie!
Omg the second one got me IMMEDIATELY invested because I am thinking about doing the same myself!
My grandparents would give my sisters and I money to go towards college when we became adults. Long story short, I didn't take the "standard" route and immediately sign up for college when I graduated (I am the oldest). Instead I escaped the clutches of my awful parents and did some traveling, ran amuck for a while, and just did my own thing.
My sisters went to college, and my parents paid for things like phone bills, car insurance, buying them cars, allowing my sisters to live with them rent free after they turned 18 (which was not an option available to me). I never asked for anything, because I wanted to prove to them that I could do it on my own.
Fast forward a few years, and I wanted to know what my college funds looked like so I could look into higher education. When I asked my dad how much money was in my account, he got real cagey about it and insisted that I just tell him what I wanted to take and where, and he would let me know if I was able to afford it. That didn't make much sense to me, but I knew hey had some kind of hold on my money, to where I couldn't access it myself without their signature until I was 14 or 25, which was weird, but I dropped the issue because I wasn't able to get a direct answer.
Years later, im living across the country, homeless, about to have my first born child. I was desperately looking for a car, a place to live, etc. I asked my dad about the money, and he "admitted" to me that "the IRS seized the money due to back taxes", and that there was no money anymore. This was a few years after my mom bought a restaurant. No apology, no explanation, no offers to pay it back to me in any way.
Honestly I know I probably won't ever see that money but I want the truth about it. I was the only child to not get my ~$15,000 in college money, or any other help, and the story he told me is completely insane, and I want to see the physical proof of their claims and to hold them accountable for their actions and failures, and have been thinking of suing to achieve this.
You should absolutely go for it.
Go for it...
Absolutely yes.
I don’t think you’re entitled to the money. It’s not your money. It never was. Your parents are crappy absolutely,
But the idea that each kid should get the same thing from parents is false. It’s like the meme about equity vs equality.
Hope you find out what happened, just for satisfaction of curiously
@@M_SC it is my money. It was given to ME, as a gift, every year from my grandparents. I was obviously unable to drive to the bank, open an account, and deposit it into the account as a five year old, so I would hand the check in my name to my parents after I opened the card it came in. I was told explicitly many times that it was my money, put in an account with my name on it, under my parents control. I don't know where you got the idea that somehow it wasn't mine. It couldn't have been made more clear. Even when my dad had no more excuses and I asked directly where it went, he said my money was gone.
I know I may sound very defensive in this, and to be honest it's a very triggering subject as it's a deep betrayal wound, so it does stir up intense emotions within me. And to come in and say that it wasn't mine..like, no one even in my family has ever disputed the fact that it was mine, just like my sisters' college money was theirs, and they were able to access and use theirs. So to come into a situation as an outsider and argue that it wasn't mine is insane. They gave my parents money for them and their needs, and each of the grandkids money for our future needs. Please tell me where the idea that I wasn't entitled to it came from.
I'm not trying to be confrontational if it seems that way, I'm heated and I feel like that was a bit disrespectful of a statement , but I am genuinely curious.
College money story... not only did the parents take OP's money but apparently her sister's money as well. She said, "My sister didn't care because she got married and didn't want to go to college." Yikes.
Yeah they stole potentially hundreds of thousands of dollars from both girls, that is just insane. And the brother is mad she want a settlement in writing, to drop the case, no lawyer in their right mind would recommend the OP agree to that. I can't imagine the parents used all of it on the wedding, unless it was the most extravagant wedding of all time.
@@maurer3d Yeah, that's what I was thinking, too... I bet they used it for a couple of legit "emergencies" and then got comfortable dipping into the stash whenever a "need" came up. Ugh.
For what she describes, it is a very misogyn culture. I guess somewhere in the middle east where women are seeing as inferior. In that case, maybe her sister does not see the value in going to college.
I’m thinking it might be from a eastern country because I know Indian wedding as can be very long.
So I don’t know some religions to celebrate long wedding ceremonies, so I wonder if it’s something to do with that culture. I’m not being racist. It’s some of my colleagues and I were discussing this today because I seen it on another video and she told me that’s actually kind of common in her culture and she’s on the lucky one to escape escaped and became westernised, and got the opportunity to do the education that she did and have a very supportive husband.
@@AlterEgo373 I agree with you. I am just raising here the hypotesis of why her sister was ok with it.
The story with the college money is extra infuriating because OP said that not only did they used her college money, but also her sister’s money to pay for her brother’s wedding. Which also means that if those accounts had enough money for OP to graduate from an American university without debt (and I’m going to guess paying International student tuition based on how she said all her friends are Americans) those accounts had to be around at least 200k. So with using those 2 accounts, they spent almost HALF A MILLION DOLLARS!!!! On a wedding that wasn’t for either of them. And while yes OP’s sister didn’t want to use the money for college, she also couldn’t use it for her own wedding either. Just sad all around. I hope OP gets all her money back and gets to have an amazing college experience away from her family
Edited because I can’t spell lol
I almost forgot that it was her sisters' too 😶😕
Oh wow I’m just now realizing that. That’s really f’ed up 😐
I have a strong feeling it's an Indian wedding or something, those are really lavish.
I have a feeling the family prioritising the son over the daughters regarding finance is why the Great Aunt specified it was for the girls ONLY. She knew the females in the family would always be at a disadvantage due to their culture and did what she could to create some equality within the family.
I think the Great Aunt tried to stop this specifically from happening
As an identical twin, that crosses almost every line and gives me the ICK, the ultimate ICK and is extremely common. We already share a face. Why do you wanna share ex's too??? To any other twin out there, your enemy was literally you at one point
Bro same. I genuinely cannot understand the people saying it’s okay like no?? F u bro 💀 I’d be having a serious issue with my sister if she ever did that to me
If I was OP I would have told my twin well ENJOY MY SLOPPY SECONDS I HOPE YOUR HAPPY" and just walk away for good
There's something seriously creepy on a sci-fi level of strange going from one twin to another.
Just any person who dates their ex's sibling is so beyond weird...
And any sibling, ESPECIALLY a TWIN, who would be willing to date their siblings ex has something seriously wrong in their head.
I honestly can't fathom how they can have an intimate relationship knowing who she's been with... 🤢🤢😫😫😫
The parents taking the college money, wearing white to a wedding, changing the bride's dress... It's about respect.
Something that is sorely lacking these days.
And, they took the money for the son's wedding? Shouldn't the bride's family have paid for that?
@@StrangeFacinations Maybe in 1640. What an old fashioned view.
@@TaraConway16 My brother's wife's family paid for their wedding in 2005, so not THAT old fashioned... I know my neighbors who have three girls have saved up for weddings for all three assuming they will pay the bulk of it. I think that is still the accepted norm. The girl's family pays for the reception and the dress, the groom's family pays for the rehearsal dinner and his tux. He pays for the ring. It usually works out to be fairly equal, as the fancier weddings usually come with bigger rings!
@@jtidema Still a very old fashioned thing. It's not the norm anymore and hasn't been for a very long time.
As an identical twin, my sister and I 1. Had VERY different tastes in guys (thank Goddess!). 2. Had a "no sloppy seconds" rule in the contract! Worked like a charm and we still love each other to bits!!!
That's the only way to do it! I would be so weirded out and slightly suspicious if an ex of my identical twin now had feelings for me.
Ok…One of my old teachers and her sister ended up marrying brothers. But here is the kicker, they were dating the other partners before they all realized they were meant for the opposite person. Her and her sister have both been married to their husband’s for over 20 years. I say sometimes you just picked the wrong brother. He shouldn’t be offended you were broken up. They may have had more in common. I believe he should get over it if he really is over her.
It is God. goddesses DO NOT EXIST!! ONLY GOD EXISTS!!
@@lillymorticia5836 Proof, please. There is a history of over 400 belief systems that have existed or still exist. Many of them claim virgin births and sacrificial death with resurrections. Feel free to believe as you wish, but no one has the corner on THE truth. Spiritual truth is what you believe is true for YOUR spirit. Be well.
I feel like the ex didn’t take the breakup and OP’s distance to attend college too hard because she had his replacement already lined up.
I like how far away the person in the first story is standing from the camera. In the dark. Like, doing her absolute best to cast some sort of shadow on that WHITE dress 😂
Honestly, I'm glad you guys straightened me out with the dress! I would NOT wear white or cream to a wedding (esp a fancy one) but my genuine initial impression was "that's a pretty cocktail dress!" If girlfriend has $3000 👀for a dress, she can find maybe $250 or less for a different one. Don't be a doodie-head, wedding guest, okay? Be good to each other.
She’s just mad she wouldn’t be able to outshine the bride. She wasn’t mad about not going, she was mad she bought the dress and couldn’t wear it.
@@erikarussell1142 I'd agree!
Yeah that girl be crazy....Everyone and their mother (and even the straightest most toxic masculine male), knows you don't wear anything near white to a western wedding unless you are the bride (or it is part of the weddings theme). It was a cute dress (be it way overpriced), but not wedding appropriate.
This says there are three replies but I can only see two. It would appear that I've somehow pre-blocked with the necessary skill... or total luck, which is much more likely. 😆
@@stacey5440 Sometimes the algorithm blocks a reply (or comment) for review if it contains potential hate speech or other violations to the user policy.
Currently it say 4 and I see all 4, so that other comment must have been bad or deleted by the poster.
The utter disgust I feel for that thieving family. It’s hard to hear her struggles knowing how valuable an education can be. I really hope she updates and this turns out in her favor.
Twin story: she literally found the next best and if I was seriously pushed by family to accept it, I’d say that to their faces. “So y’all are cool with my brother marrying the woman who was so not over our relationship that she got with the carbon copy of me? You’re okay with him being her second best, the option she resorted to when she couldn’t have me?” Damn that’s so icky.
I think it'd be better to just go no contact. You'll maybe just get a call once the divorce happens.
@@death2boredom338 I understand and would. I’m just saying if I was really pushed by the fam and given no alternative, id say that…
I think it's hilarious.....she clearly loves OP and cause she couldn't be with him so she chose someone who looked like him lmao
Why is everyone acting like she dumped him and then got with his twin? The breakup sounded like it was mutual, and may have even been initiated by him. She can date whoever the fuck she wants after they broke up. Could’ve just been the other twin was a better match personality-wise and his looks are more of a bonus. Like idk why OP is so upset over a woman he decided to leave.
@@tripsupstairsthat's a very fair assessment. The problem stems from the fact she decided that she wanted to not only date someone in the same family, that she knew beforehand mind you, but someone who looked EXACTLY LIKE OP.
It's weird to date people in your ex's family period, but to make the conscious decision to date a carbon copy of your ex is so much weirder.
I agree with the girl suing her family for stealing the money. Thieves are embarrassing the family, not their victim for seeking help from the authorities 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️ Not to mention the sexism of stealing the money for THE BROTHER'S WEDDING! The family didn't tell her they were emptying the bank account because they knew FULL EFFIN' WELL that they were being shady AF
I suspect they didn't see anything wrong with what they did, because in their culture only sons are important, daughters are just for giving as brides.
@@grahvis i am an Indian and can say that not all families are like that, things are changing here...
@@grahvisI can't wrap my American brain around that.
It is all about appearances. The giant wedding was also about social appearances in front of the community. As an Americanized woman, she is in the right. However, "shaming" her parents will not only make her a pariah in her family, but also in her ethnic community - although I suspect the younger women in her community would support her. It is a big social risk.
@@CollaborativeDog i don't disagree with her at all, and it's not about wedding, it's about stealing her money, in India weddings are grand that's why people save money for it for years, u don't steal money meant for education.
Had a friend getting married, her mother abandoned her to relatives when she was 10 but decided to resurface when she heard about the wedding...after a few weeks of tension my friend told her that when she makes up for the 12 years of being forced to live with the aunt and uncle who used her as live in help and when she paid for ALL the expenses she could have a voice, otherwise keep her opinions to herself.
good.
That's awful. The whole thing. I hope your friend has a happy life and a supportive spouse.
0:45 "are these the same colour?" No, but I've seen wedding dresses that are that colour, and shiny like that
My mother was raised by her grandmother so my family had the, "Boys are more valuable," directive due to a generational thing. My brother got to go to scouts, karate, footy club and many more activities that cost the dosh. He never finished anything and my sister and I were never allowed to do any paid activities because, "We just can't afford it at the moment." He was so spoiled it actually ruined his adult life. He got the most expensive x-mas presents and parties for his birthday every year. I have NEVER had a birthday party to this day and I was so excited to receive a dump bike for x-mas one year. A dump bike is when your parents go the dump and use a few different bikes to create a Frankenstein set of wheels. I never envy and have never been jealous of anything or anyone in my life. I am so very appreciative of any good that comes my way as I never expect anything. I would never sue for the money because as my son says, "You are such a pushover and you let everyone walk over you unless I'm involved." I am just too relaxed about things and honestly just don't let things get under my skin. I think that is partly a result of my upbringing, partly DNA and partly that I am an Aussie, who knows. However, I thoroughly endorse that young girl for suing her wanker parents. Dick move to spend their own daughters inheritance on a wedding when; A. It's not their money to spend. B. A wedding is a one day event and an education lasts for a lifetime. C. It just warms my heart to hear about a fellow female standing up for what is rightfully hers. If I had been ripped off a two or three-hundred grand, I would not be such a doormat. I hope she is successful.
Where I'm from, girls (like me ) get aborted.
In some cultures it can be a several day affair, and very expensive. Thf more traditional the family, the more lavish.
You were ripped off more than 3k and an entire childhood. Your parents suck. I'm sorry but if you're still friendly with them you're definitely a doormat. That's awful what they dod
Nina, you are not a doormat, you are a decent human being.
I would take one person like you, over a thousand of them, any day of the week.
You should be kinder to yourself both in the way you speak about yourself (you called YOURSELF a doormat? That's an insult m8... maybe don't do that) and the way you consider what you deserve. It shouldn't take you hundreds of thousands of $$ to stand up for yourself. Please take better care of you, friend, it sounds like you had a really heartbreaking childhood, speaking from one "non-favored" child to another.
My situation was no where even remotely close to how severe yours was, but it messed me up in ways I didn't even see until I hit my 30's and finally started to stand up for myself and examine WHY I was so desperate to be the chillest person in every group... The amount of people who took advantage of me, and I just waved it off as "being polite" or "being friendly" or "being nice" to others when I let it happen.. Or even just taking pride in being "the opposite of a karen". It was all toxic - it means you bend over too far and are in danger of getting f*cked my friend!
You deserve better. I can literally hear the self-beating in your words, you were worth more back then and you are worth more than this now. #BeKind to yourself! I mean, just one thing i can immediately see to be proud of - you clearly raised a kind son who understood the assignment to take care of people he loves and to have compassion, by being a kind and compassionate person.
You should apply that more to yourself, I think, if you're speaking so harshly about yourself so casually. :)
The old lady trying to pay her nieces and grand-nieces way through college resonates. Not because of the drama the one Charlotte talked about had, but because some people are just genuinly good. And the cause is better than any. My 4x great-aunt struck rich in USA in the 19th century as a young woman, being known for acting fierceful and self-dependent, and understanding the settings she was in instantly. She partly took pay in stock at Macy's department store starting as a cashier, learned how to keep the books in check through the years (got a helliva CV), and cashed out after 13 years, rich as a mf.
Her heritance was very specific about the equation between what's ment for the farm she grew up on, when it's ment to be spent, and the majority to be spread thin over generations. Covering costs of being a student for so so many young women to this day. Well, sorta, the well is dry now 😅 She started spreading the joy when she sat foot on shore here, to be thruthful. It was always about building a future, and it still is.
When she came back to the auld quarry of a country we're from in 1888, she spat money into the important things right away: A crazy lump of money to be used on her room at the farm (equal to $815k now), as well as a promise of her being taken care of when she got old. Her father then used that money on the best plow/sower/horse/new giant barn, and refurbished the entire building mass on the farm. She spent big bucks on a retirement home she ran until she got to old, she got one of the first jobs in the goverment aviable for women (accounting, you knew that), she refused to marry because the laws said a husband has the rights to his wifes wealth. She only had a "companionship", not partner, in her adult life. 20 years before anyone cared about women's rights, she was breaking barriers.
That's really amazing !
We should spread and tell more of those beautiful stories :)
She sounds amazing.
The twin can always just remember he was the brother chosen first and his brother is actually sloppy seconds, she never got over the first twin so moved onto his twin. He can just remember that, he wins, go to the wedding with a smile. He dumped her anyway so why doesn’t matter?
Okay...the first one was totally out to take attention from the bride. Not only was the $3000 dress off-white it was also covered in attention grabbing sequins. Did anyone else pick up the vibe that she was mad about not being able to wear the dress and not missing the wedding? Have an awesome day Charlotte and Tater Tot Squad ❤
_"How DARE you foil my plot to grab all the attention of your wedding for myself!! The AUDACITY!!_
Absolutely! If she can afford to buy a $3000 dress specifically for this wedding, then how can she not afford anything else? How does she have nothing else in her closet? Either she went broke to buy this insanely expensive dress, or she's hiding something. I'd put my bets on her wanting attention and not quite understanding why negative attention is a bad thing.
Omg, YES, she totally wanted attention, and those sequins SCREAM GIVE ME ATTENTION DAMMIT, LOL!!!
First one is a satire. 😊
It wasn’t flattering either…
“Make sure me, my sister and my cousin are sitting in the front row at the ceremony”
‘No sweetie that’s for people we like’ 😂😂
The story about the collage fund Is very hard for us westerners, especially us women to understand. There are many countries in this world that prioritize a man over a women in every way. They still believe that women should only raise children and an educated wife is useless and an embarrassment to the whole family. Progress marches slowly forward but forever forward! 💪 We Can Do It!❤
That's what I was thinking. And in some cultures weddings are giant, multi-day affairs that would cost some serious cash. If her brother was an only son I can imagine how the drive to put on a spectacular wedding would make her parents think they were entitled to the money. This is exactly the reason the aunt set up those accounts for the nieces, because she KNEW the girls would always come second. Her parents knew this and STILL stole her money. She is absolutely in her right to sue to recover. I wonder how much they took, considering that she was shocked there was 'only' $13,000 remaining. This had to have been a significant chunk to begin with, and they took both hers AND her sister's.
No, we understand, they still stole the money bequeathed to her and that's not okay in any culture.
Not to mention how prevalent FGM is and it’s rarely talked about. Millions of women mutilated every year against their will
Exactly. In many cultures, sadly, women are second-class citizens at best. Property at worse.
Yeah, the aunt knew this that’s why she left money for the females in the family to go to college because she knew they wouldn’t get support from the family. To show more love towards one kid because they have a penis is wrong on so many levels, I don’t care if they blame it on culture, do better like the aunt. They stole from their daughter money that was hers to pay for a sons wedding, I hope she gets it all back and cuts off this horrible family. No need to feel second best by a mile because you don’t have a penis, so ridiculous and I am glad as a woman not to be from a culture like this.
When I lived with my family as a teenager, I had a shocking number of dates and even 2 "boyfriends" admit that they actually wanted to date my sister and I was the consolation prize.
I really felt that last story. It's a complicated situation, because I was able cut off contact with those guys, but he will never. An open talk with the brother and family should be first step.
I was wondering the same thing, high schoolers play games. What if future SIL really wanted to date her now fiancee, but settled for OP?
How can the twin be sure she didn't get with him just because he looks exactly like her ex, surely it wud make him feel insecure in the relationship always wondering which one she really wanted to be with
not only that, if she really wanted to date the 'now fiance' what tells you that she didn't cheat during op's relationship? they did got together way too fast lol, not seemed so heartbroken did she?
I never dated a guy who said he wanted my sister, but I did date several who confessed that they only expressed interest in me because they wanted to get with my BFF.
@@huchlvr Alternatively, as she had been dating his twin she already had a level of trust/ friendship in place that made the brother an understandable candidate for a relationship.
I'd be careful about jumping to the worst conclusion first. After all, if the brothers were close she's probably interacted socially with twin 2 many times over the 2 year relationship with his brother. She probably knows him well, has at least some attraction to him physically (they are identical twins obviously) and may well of turned to him for support when his brother left.
I have a somewhat similar story to #2. I have been working since I was 14 and once I started working, my parents made me pay for most of everything that I personally needed. They covered groceries and that kind of stuff but most everything else was my responsibility. Despite this, I knew I wanted to move out the first second i could so I saved a lot and by the time I turned 18, I had about 10K. This was 20 years ago, so it was a decent nest egg for an 18 year old. My parents also said they were giving me 5K as a graduation present. So, I end up moving out on my 18th birthday and I move into a new place with a friend's mom. A few days later, I end up going to withdraw money and I can't. I go to the bank and find my account close to completely drained. I can't remember the exact amount but my acct had under $500 left in it. My parents still had access to my bank account so they just went in and took it without telling me. My parents made 6 figures most of my upbringing and my mom recently had a lesser paying job but they weren't poor by any means. But, they were bad with money and sometimes didnt have enough for unexpected events. When I confronted them, they told me they needed it and that they would pay me back plus the 5K they promised me. That never happened and I don't talk to either of them anymore.
I am so sorry this happened to you. It is brutally of them to make you work at 14. Glad that you don't talk to them anymore they will surely try and find any way to get more money out of you every time they see you.
Dang Atleast you accomplished 10k after 4 years that’s some good progress dude you should be proud of yourself forget about the parents to look at the bright side Atleast you know you were able to save up so much in only 4 years props to you🎉
What they did is a felony. I'd sue.
Such bad people in general, let alone parents. You will always be a capable person though. I hope you get some better luck and can not work so hard eventually
@@M_SC Thanks 🩷. I actually don't work right now due to disability so I'm definitely not working hard lol 😅. My husband makes good money and we're comfortable.
My grandparents used my college funds to pay for a lawyer for my dad because of voyeurism charges. Starting to think I should sue my dad for the total of my student loans😂
Sounds like a good plan. If you tell the courts *why* they needed a lawyer, the courts might be on your side
@@caljones I agree. It's stealing. Sue all of them equally in the same lawsuit, naming each name, so no matter what, if there's a technicality in which the judge would say the dad didn't know about it, her grandparents sure did and someone would have to pay her back. Why are they paying for a gross perv peeping on ppl? If it were my kid that did that, their butt would sit in jail. No lawyer from me..learn your lesson. 🤷🏽♀️
Do it 😂
That’s gross!!
Ok I’m invested. You should and if you do, consider letting us know.
When my husband's aunt kept trying to have a say in my wedding, I would say, "Thank you for sharing your OPINION" and then do whatever I wanted anyhow.
The nerve of people right? Are they paying? I mean damn. Everyone thinks they should have a say. It's ridiculous
I would ask for them to pay. For every suggestion you bring up the cost you will be charging them to make the changes from your plan.
@@sarahwatson3192 And tell them they have to pay IMMEDIATELY. The very moment they make any demands, they have to pay for each demand. If they can't/won't pay? Shucks, I'm sorry, I guess you don't have a say in the matter.
@@ladyhotep5189I can't imagine anyone having this type of audacity. I'd laugh in anyone's face who told me how my wedding was going to be. It's obviously not theirs. The entitlement and sheer audacity.
Omg! I'm a wedding singer and have been a bridesmaid many times. I'm also divorced. The incredible stories I could tell you! From my ex-husband having to give his sister away to the man that he wrongfully blamed the demise of our marriage on, to the sweet revenge I got on behalf of my friends son who was battling cancer to his gramma that disowned the family over wedding flowers, to punching out a maid of honor 4x my size when I caught her stealing at a stag and doe. To the absolute worst wedding I was ever hired to sing at and I stopped a likely fire, lost it on the brides daughter, wasn't paid (that wasnt the deal - instead was given a Timmies gift card!) And had to guard my p.a system from being messed with...by the wedding party! There are so many stories I could tell you! I would love to get in contact with you!
Thanks and praise from Peterborough Ontario Canada 🇨🇦 ♥️
The story of parents stealing the money and blaming the daughter for “embarrassing the family” is very hard to hear. In extreme cases, this is the same mentality that allows predators to get away because the family doesn’t want to be embarrassed. As a person who comes from a Latino and Asian community, where reputation and males have importance , this happens way to often. Ladies, you are not embarrassing your culture or family. They are embarrassing themselves for not protecting and valuing each member equally. If need be, separate from them and practice your culture with chosen family.
Sometimes, you just have to cut ties with in-law, or even one's own family simply to maintain our own sanity.
My sister and I are twins and it was disturbing how many people expected us to just be dating the same dude. Like dudes who were interested in us literally thought they'd be dating both of us. At the same time.
Yeah, not how that works. Maybe don't learn about dating and relationships from p0rn. We're also total opposites from each other, so one of us wasn't gonna be his type.
Interestingly, we tend to date people that are like each other (i.e.similar personalities) 🤔 Not on purpose or anything, it just happens like that. 😆
To those perverts- ICK!!
It's such a perverted and not talked about issue also conjoined twins. I can only imagine the bs they get from horny men that need castrated
I could see how that happens, boys fetishizing good looking twins... so gross
I’m dating an identical twin who his very similar to his brother, but they’re still different people. I can’t even comprehend thinking of them as the same person
When I was in the jewelry business, I sold engagement rings to two ex girlfriends and their fiancée’s. At the time it didn’t seem weird at all, other than both girls suggesting my store to their fiancées.
My dad cashed out my college fund that my mom paid for (part of the child support agreement) to pay for my bish stepmother fake boobies. They divorced shortly after and i had to work full time while going to school and supporting myself. I no longer talk to my dad or ex stepmother but do better than all of them combined 🎉
Did you sue your dad
@KS-cl8br no, probably too late now. But thankfully I'm pretty successful and he's working at the home depot 😅 so I think karma has taken its toll.
@@sagefi1 Glad to hear you are doing well
Hi I just want to thank you for highlighting the line you are reading. As a neuro divergent person it helps me to keep up. These stories and your reaction to them is so funny!
Neuro divergent??? WTF
@@dylbrody9666 Have you genuinely never heard of Autistic or ADHD people? Or are you being purposely rude?
Small edit: I really want to believe it's the first, so I hope you're just ignorant and not ableist.
@@Sushi-mann73 ableist. You're good with the latest buzz words.🙄
@@dylbrody9666I give you a term you might be more familiar with: Rude idiot. Better?
Hearing that last story made me want to spill a very dark family secret that I’ve never spoken about to anyone outside of my family. My aunt married a man who had a fraternal twin brother. They were married for 8 years and had a child together. Their marriage ended because she caught him cheating on her with a stripper. Unfortunately she didn’t have a job or any money saved so while she filed for divorce she went to stay with her brother-in-law, and I’m sure you can see where this is going lol. Fast forward a year and she is married to twin #2. They went on to have a child together but the marriage didn’t last because the apple never falls far from the tree. So now she is twice divorced with 2 kids that are brother and sister and also cousins. 2 years ago she calls my dad (her brother) hysterical because the cops had just left her house looking for twin #1. It turns out that he killed 5 people (including his current wife) and was on the run. They finally found him and he confessed to the 5 but also claims to have killed 16 others, although they haven’t been able to substantiate those claims. I know it probably sounds too crazy to be true but you will just have to take my word on it. I am kinda counting on the chance that no one will actually read this since this video is a couple of weeks old. Otherwise I would have never been comfortable to share our family shame.
FIVE PEOPLE?!?!
I- this went downhill so fast oh my god
Damn, it's fine no one will search for your identity with just a yt comment.
Wow, that story had some... wild turns. Glad they caught him.
..no shame here at all. Pure Tragedy ... 21 people??... absolute tragedy. :(
As someone whose sibling dated multiple of my exes, I understand why the last guy was upset. Even if you're totally over the ex and have no feelings toward them, having your sibling not communicate with you about their intentions and make sure you're okay with it is a betrayal. I have never trusted that sibling again and most likely never will. Thankfully my sibling never married any of my exes. Having that kind of news sprung on you and then learning you're going to be forced into being related to them must be excruciating.
plus they are twins, like how in gods name will you see that normal, they break up and in 6 months she start dating his twin? thats fucking weird and creppy as fk
Usually when people get together like that whether it's your sibling, friend, etc they probably was already f*cking before
@@moisesnavarro6051 Not only is it creepy, but my theory is she wasn't moving on from OP in a healthy way and used his brother as the stand-in. Especially with how fast they got married after dating...There's a lot of healing to be done there all around.
@@xchrysantha 100%.. iv'e arguing with ppl in this comment section about how fucking weird this its and nobody seems to see it that way.. especially "dont rly like to play the women card but i have to" women.. like "OP leave her so he shouldn't care what she does and with who she does" like fuck they break up and in less than 6 months she already move on with his ex brother who its his twin and now they are gonna marry, how in gods name that shit its not weird....
@@moisesnavarro6051Imagine the other twin and the ex having kids... And then telling them when they're older "Well, your uncle fcked your mom for two years before we got together right after, got married and had you" 😅😂
The best way to get married is to do it in secret, well, not even in secret...just don't invite anyone. I got married for the third time just after lockdown...none of the hotels were re-opened as the homeless had been put in them, besides we were only allowed 6 at the wedding and you had to count the registrar and the staff. So, long story short, our cab driver was our photographer and witness...another witness was a journalist we knew...job done!!...no guests, no drama. Neither did we have a party over the last two years as a late celebration. so, so easy! x🤣
These videos show me just how blessed I am with my MIL. We get confused for mother/daughter when we go shopping together, and after 27 years of marriage, I adore her. I will never take our relationship for granted…
You got lucky girl
@@sassysarina9718 I realize it all over again with each of these videos!!
You hit the lotto. 🎉
As someone who was disabled financially by parental financial abuse as well NTA!! Also yes to getting everything in writing! My family did SO many illegal things to benefit themselves financially then gaslit me into thinking I was legitimately crazy when I questioned it and claimed I must have known what was going on because they obtained my signature via deception.
I don't care if these people are her family DO NOT TRUST! Also sue sue sue!
Speaking from experience the keeping them out of jail part is so hard! When I told my mum just how illegal everything her and my step dad had done was and that they could actually go to jail for it her response was "Well send us to jail!" Like it was MY FAULT if they got caught and sent to jail. I'm now no contact with them and every time I have the thought of oh I could rekindle a relationship with my family I just remind myself of everything that went down.
Man, the response almost makes me wish you had sent them to jail. That one phone call would probably have been beached Whale noises about "Faaaaamily".
Respect what ever made you decide not to though if that's truly what you wanted.
I once talked to a lady whose sister stole property and money from her. This girl went outside to have a smoke and her sister made their old senile mother sign the contract. I could never understand how could she do that to her own sister. This girl even helped her sister to move country, find house and start a new life.
@@pavlal.4552 My family have done similar - not with property but with money and shares to avoid taxes. They would obtain my signature via deception and because they had been doing it since I was of legal working age and I trusted my family I never questioned it until I was much older and things just weren't adding up. They would then gaslight me telling me I had to of known and been okay with what they were doing because I signed the documents. Where in reality I had never seen the whole documents just the signature page itself.
'Family' hey... I will never speak to them again.
@@Resilient_Sage88 haha I told my mum to "Get f*cked!" and that she was being so manipulative. She had nothing to say after that like she usually doesn't when I would call her out on things. Thankfully I've not had to deal with it since going no contact for nearly two years.
5:52 Love you, editors! Love a good Dum Dum Daaaa!
With the college funds story, it is honestly heart breaking to hear that. I'm from a similar culture but all the women in my family have a college education or are business owner in the time where that's uncommon so they highly value education. So so sorry to hear about this.
These videos just make me so grateful that I have the most chill MIL ever! I know that she will never cause drama because she loves me and my husband too much to do that. She's constantly told me that she's just happy to see us whenever works best for us, and she doesn't care if we don't visit at Christmas or any other major holiday as long as we are happy and doing what is best for our family.
I'm truly grateful for her, and I wish all mother in laws could be as amazing and supportive as mine.
I have a married 13 years. When we got married, my husband had a conversation with his mother about the way she had treated him for many years (favoritism for his siblings, treating him like a servant, making him do all the chores, taking money from him that he was making, and she was supposed to be saving for him as he was working to get a new car, but using it for his brother) he told her he wanted an apology for the things she had done to him. She said and I quote “I did the best I could, you’re not gonna get an apology. I raised you to be strong” my husband looked at me a week later, asked me to marry him at the courthouse, and within a week we had eloped and have been happily married ever since.
Edit: he asked other family what they thought about us getting married from his fam. All of them told him that we should wait a couple of years so none of them were invited. When we eloped, only my mother was standing in the courthouse with us.
I recall a comment my mother once made:”remember my son, your wife is the only family member you will choose to have a life together. You didn’t choose your parents and you will not choose the children you may have. So know, that she is the only person that should matter in your life - the rest of the family is just an add on you will have to live with and that you hopefully love too!”
Therefore my mother never meddled in my relationship with my wife and she knew why, I would have followed her advice without hesitation!
Thankfully my wife for 28 years (and still going stronger 😍) and my mother hit it off just perfect and my wife loved my mother till she passed 10 years ago.
It’s easy to see just based on her advice why your wife would have loved your mother so much I think she’s amazing and I’ve never met her may her soul rest in peace❤
Incredibly wise Mother you had there, great advice!! Happy wife, happy life ain't no joke, and if mama's not happy the house will not be happy true dat!!
What a wise and lovely mother!!!!
The parents that stole the girls' college fund need to be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law because what they did was nothing but theft by taking!! 🤬
They basically took a stable start in life from her, her future husband/kids/etc.
@@charlidabomb3723 Exactly!! 🤬
@MsJubjubbird from the clip, she has the proof & was already in the middle of suing her parents.. 💯
@MsJubjubbird According to the post, she has her paperwork to prove it, or her brother wouldn't be so nervous about it. 💯
The only time I wore white to a wedding was when it was a white dress but covered in blue and read flowers and the bride was happy with it. I asked her and showed her the dress to check she was okay with it and since it was covered in blue and red flowers she was totally fine with.
The worst part about the second story is that the parents didn't just steal money from their child, they stole money from their daughter to give to her brother. Their actions just prove the great aunts point that women's education is of little importance.
that last one would be weird if they were just normal siblings, but being IDENTICAL TWINS puts this in such a new level of messed up, it's amazing
OMG the family taking the college fund is INFURIATING!!! My step mother did the same to me! She drained my college fund that I PUT THE MONEY INTO AS I WORKED FULLLTIME WHILE IN HIGH SCHOOL!!! (was a specific type of high interest savings account that a minor would need a cosigner for in the early 2000's). I had to get a huge student loan. Top it off my health went to shit after I graduated and was unable to pay said loans and had to file for bankruptcy.
Okay, the apparition of Ross Geller when Charlotte says 50% of ending in divorce at 6:10 is just... Chef's kiss 🤌🏻
the way I SCREAMED when he mentioned they were twins as if I was watching a horror movie😂
OP should say he'll do it but he get to give a speech and no is allowed to interrupt him or complain about it. Then had them a copy of the must insulting, vile and degrading speech imaginable. Make sure to minchin that he dated,and slept with the bride first and that she was desperate to get him back she was probably riding his two the minute they broke up.
I've been binge watching your videos too much and i got so into it that i thought the text message and call sounds were from my phone HAHAHAHAHAHA i literally had to check my phone multiple times. Love your videos Charlotte!!
My ex bf is an identical twin and he had broken up with his previous gf before me after finding out that she had been having an affair behind his back with his twin…for 2 years! They were in their late teens/early twenties at that point so still both lived with their parents. I can only assume that the gf was getting busy with both at different times in each of their bedrooms under the same roof secretly. So f-ing gross!!
How is it gross 😂?
Tell me
If the brother is her type
Why wouldn’t the other brother be her type too
Good parents usually raise good kids 😂
@@arielmalihaIt's gross cause that girl sees them only for their looks and probably body and not their personalities. The twins are two different people
@@arielmalihaHow is it NOT gross? To not only cheat on her boyfriend, but with his brother nonetheless. The level of betrayal is off the chains
@@arielmalihacheating is always gross. Cheating with the sibling of the partner is the grossest form of it, since both parties are betraying you.
@@arielmaliha.
Hearing the twin story, my thoughts was "how does his brother feel about being the backup option?"
Honestly! I love the stories of twins having their siblings as "Spare Parts" on their phones because it is funny, but this wedding takes that phrase to a totally different plane of morbid lol
Right, it's like she had already been plotting while they were still together. An IDENTICAL twin brother, like really, and the family is ok with this?!
@@latrinakims7994 I didn't really think about that but wow, yeah that's the only way they could have gotten together so quickly after she broke up with op. I wonder if she was obsessed with them, like how people are in some shows, and that's why she went to the other brother quickly
@@FlagCutie Agreed!
So you're a backup unless your partner never had another partner before? You're also assuming that she's marrying the twin brother because of his looks. I guess he doesn't have a character or personality, huh? Grow up. The first brother needs to get over the ex he broke up with and to stop acting like a child. Boohoo, I didn't want her any more but she's not allowed to have anybody else.
#2 If the parents don't want to be shamed, they shouldn't have behaved so shamefully by stealing from their child. It's they're own fault if they're ashamed and they should be!
The fact that the brothers were twins elevates the situation to a whole different level of crazy/creepiness. All I want to know is: are they identical twins???
Yes - OP added that fact in the last edit.
Yes, they are identical. The breakup seems not due to a lack of love but not wanting to have a long-distance/college relationship. The twin brother is wrong for dating his brother's ex in the first place this is a huge betrayal and the ex is horrible for coming in between not just brothers but twins. I hope to ex really loves the twin and didn't just use him as a replacement for her ex, just imagine the consequence if that is the case.
I'm honestly wondering if the parents pressured Thing 2 in dating Thing 1's ex because they wanted to 'keep her in the family'.
@@larry01902 the plot thickens ! Brilliant point.
@@larry01902 Could be that she's pressuring herself, because SHE wants to keep HERSELF in the family for whatever reason. I had a friend who was crushing on all three brothers of a family (not all at once, one at a time), because she loved their family and wanted to be part of it. She did eventually see how unhinged that was, and now she's married to a great guy who is not part of that family, and each of those brothers is now married as well. Anyway, that could be the case here, she's just in love with the family as a whole, and doesn't care which brother she marries to become part of it. Could also be that their family has money, and she wants access to it. Hell, it could be any number of things, all of them gross.
You can only do a white dress at a wedding if you've already talked it out with the bride first... my friend wanted me to wear a dress, and she knew how uncomfortable dresses made me... when I found the white cotton, eyelet lace, garden party dress... WITH POCKETS!!! I called her from the dressing room with my excitement, and she told me that I better get that dress and that she loved me... I paired it with lots of colour to offset the whiteness of the dress... Bride was stunning. I cried like a big baby. It was beautiful.
I know the feeling of finding something you are totally happy with and confident in. I would still not wear white to a wedding, but i like the fact you paired it colors and that your friend gave you her blessing
Nope. You should have kept looking for a different dress instead of emotionally manipulating your friend with tears to wear white to her wedding.
If it's cotton it's easy to dye. However if the bride is ok with someone else wearing white, then it's no problem. Few years ago when my cousin was getting married she told everyone to wear whatever they want, she had a very puffy stark white princess dress so no one would be confused who is the bride anyway. Some guests actually wore very light colours as it was a peak of summer, but they were all kinda modest, meaning nothing looking like another wedding dress.
@@JankoWalski-hz3lu pretty much what my friend's wedding was like
@@killerfreckles1162 I find the second half of your reply super confusing...did you read the same comment I did?? She didn't cry to "manipulate her friend" to be able to wear the dress...as far as the comment describes there was zero crying until the actual wedding, at which point she had already received her friend's full blessing to buy and wear the dress. 🤔
So to assume she cried earlier as a method to force her friend into something is quite the major assumption in my opinion.
I love the lighting in the first one. Like lets see how white the dress gwts when you have proper lighting
I'm about to get married in like 6 months, and the drama is already slowly starting. Me and my husband like to keep to ourselves, we're not oversharing people nor do post on social media often. In fact, we're only having a public wedding for our families, otherwise we would have left straight for a honeymoon after signing. People start bugging us about "not hearing news" from us regarding the wedding (they all recieved an invite though). Annoyed at being told that so often, we ended up dropping a lengthy sarcastic and very detailed response about all the tedious paperwork we were doing to reserve the townhall and the party place. Haven't heard anything since. If they want drama, I'll give them petty.
The girl who got her fund stolen: I'd answer with "I'm ashamed to be related to Thieves".
2nd story is most likely UK indian (Hindi) or Pakistani community. There is a strong possibility that the Aunty most likely moved to the US from the UK after marriage as the extended family were pressuring her to an arranged marriage. So the money for the female relatives would be destroying the generational control. Especially grandad. Also the clear preference for the male heir - that’s not likely to be Chinese or Caribbean communities.
Arranged marriages is still a thing in some Asian communities. If they are Pakistani, then the brother being offended would be a cultural thing, as he would expect to honour his work, but she handled it right demanding a contract otherwise it could be treat as a debt in the community.
The twin guy's story hit a sensitive spot for me, not because I'm a twin and that the same thing happened to me but something close to it. My ex had cheated on me with à friend of mine and within that same year she started to date his older brother. Mind you we were all in our 40's so age has nothing to do with poor decision making. She attented all the family gatherings, came to my house because the brother wanted to hang with my bf and everyone acted like nothing was wrong with that picture. I would often cry at the sight of her but had to suck it up to keep the peace!! 🙄 How do those ppl live with themselves, seriously? 🤷♀️
Didn't HE break up with her? Also , no cheating, unless I heard incorrectly occurred. I don't think it's the same. I do however totally know what happened to you from personal experience and I'm sorry....period
@@sassysarina9718 op say they break up and in 6 months she was already with his brother, that its kinda sus becuz if she actually like him for what he its and not as a copy, they have to be doing shady shit in the back becuz 6 months its not that long of a time , also its his twin brother, i dont know about you but when i break up with someone i want to move on from that and get it in with my ex twin its not the way to do it, plus the brother should know you dont fuck you brother ex let alone marry her... the fuck its wrong with him..
Uh what? No 6 months isnt a short period of time. Op broke up with her
6 months is enough time.
@@RiderLover2426 6 months isnt eve enough time to see someone true caracter... let alone move on from a break up and then start a relationship...
That girl should definetly sue. I felt bad for her, but also for her grandma who worked hard to provide educations for her grandchildrens! Sounds like some apple can fall far away from the tree. I hope she can get her money back and pursue her dreams ❤
It washer aunt, but yeah it's terrible. I think one reason the family is okay with it is because they probably somehow accessed and stole their daughters money since the don't value educating women (f**k tha sh*t). It's horrible when your own community feeds into horrible beliefs like this
for the college money one: let’s not forget that their aunt left college funds for TWO, for her and her sister. yet they gave nearly all of it to her brothers wedding = they paid for a shit load expensive wedding if they used almost two full college funds for it…
Oh girl! My mother in law hosted our small intimate wedding at their home. My husband's parents wanted to pay for most everything as our gift...including my dress. I was fine buying it myself but she insisted. To keep my fiance happy I agreed. This was not my first marriage but it was for him. She insisted on going with me to pick out a dress. She was very vocal that it should be a simpler dress as it was a home wedding. We were looking at several stores and I was also shopping ( I thought) for a dress to leave the reception in. I found a pretty tea length linen cream color dress that I was going to get for the reception. She INSISTED that was going to be my wedding dress. I told her that was just too plain for what I had in mind for my actual wedding dress. This woman goes off saying that I was not getting married in white because it was not proper and it would be embarrassing if I wore a floor length gown. I was hurt but caved because my husband just wanted to keep the peace but I resented it every day. Fast forward 25 years. My husband's younger brother gets married with monetary help from his parents. They have a more lavish lakeside wedding with a lot more guests. My mother in law (of course) offered to help buy the dress and took her son's fiance shopping. They come back (no joke) with a WHITE wedding GOWN (her THIRD marriage) with full long train and long veil to get married on a fishing PIER! I don't think I've ever felt so hurt or demeaned by his family. That's just one of MANY personal jabs I've endured by them though. Funny thing is we've been married over thirty years now & my husband is their only child who hasn't had one or more divorces.
I went to a wedding with my group of friends. One wore an asian inspired dress which was white with pink cherry blossoms, and also was waaaay too short even for her. All of us were like "what were you thinking?" but no one made her leave the wedding, we just keep referencing It every once in a while as a joke afterwards
Yeah, if the relationship is good, this is the way to react... If the person making the dress faux-pas is someone you already really dislike for other reasons, the banning her from the wedding makes some kind of sense 😅 I'm happy y'all made a joke out of it 😊
MIL here, I absolutely LOVE my daughter in law and feel so blessed that my son found a wonderful woman who loves him as much (almost lol) as I do.
Extra points for the Ross Geller cameo when Charlotte says “divorce” 🤣🤣🤣
For the Twinuation, I wouldn't be surprised if his brother always had a thing for his ex, especially since he was so willing to overlook that she was with his identical brother for two years before they got together.
Like, he isn't the AH, it's a different level since they are identical, everyone else is the AH who is just going to pretend like it's fine.
I feel for that twin, it seems like that family doesn't really see each of them as their own person and prob has a fave, so they just use the other twin as a stand in. They were probably dressed identical by a parent as children until the one that ended up moving away started to rebel which prob caused friction in the family and that's why they are all ganging up on him. I know I'm reaching, but you wouldn't believe how often that happens in families whether it be twins or not.
Personally, I am with someone who everyone else claims that him and his brother look the same and they get confused for each other a lot by others all the time, and I wouldn't want to be with his brother at all if that sort of situation was to arise. It's just off on so many levels and I don't see how people confuse them.
1:51 it’s CLEARLY an off white. You don’t wear white or off white to a wedding unless the bride allows it (some cultures have brides in red, so guests in white is fine).
The wedding/ college story. The money they used for their SONS wedding and not their DAUGHTERS education. She did say that education for females in her family isn't held in high regard and they proved it.
Why would the bank allow money held in trust for a specific individual to be used for someone else? Seems to me she has a possible law action against that bank too.
I always get a little excited when Charlotte says we have room for one more.
My brother dated my ex, I was pissed when I found out, I said to him, Whenever you are intimate, whenever you are down "there" just remember I've been there first.
They broke up a week later.
Maybe I'm TA but you don't shit on your own doorstep.
Hold up, you're saying that 2 college tuitions paid for one wedding? How expensive was this wedding? My sister had a beautiful wedding for just 5k (not including her dress)
Indian weddings are _ENORMOUS;_ literally hundreds of guests, events and ceremonies that span 3 days, tons of food, and the *JEWELRY!* There's an old saying about Indian weddings and the jewelry for it: If there's no gold, there's no wedding.
$5000 is not the norm (it should be though).
on the collage money. She said her culture didnt see womens education as important, So her brothers wedding was more important than her going to college
After watching all of these bridezilla videos, I can confidently say that I need three things at my wedding: a handsome groom who loves me, my mom to give me away, and an open bar.
Trust me eloping is even better. No guests being annoying. Run off to Vegas spend a fraction wedding cost play there for a weekend with groom. Shows, gambling,, bars,, rides,, lavish suite. Then go on an incredible honeymoon in Europe or a tropical island.
Oh even better spend projected wedding cost on a ring the size of your fist that and still elope.
The parents stealing the college fund for the wedding is so misogynistic it's unreal! They wouldn't have done that for OP's sister, I bet. They didn't think OP deserved an education because she's a female, and the brother deserved an over the top gaudy wedding because he's their son. OP is clearly in the right, and I hope she gets every dime back and then some while her parents rot in prison.
They DID do it to OP’s sister. They took hers too. But it says she didn’t care because she had already gotten married and had never intended to go to college.
I think they meant they would not have stolen the money to pay for the other daughter's wedding
@@brandywinetyson8115but her share could have been used for something to benefit her: gone towards her mortgage or something.
This stuff is great! Been "binge" watching for 3 straight nights! Love it!
I’m getting married this October. My fiancé and I are paying for this wedding 100% on our own. His dad and my grandma have turned into absolute asshats over this wedding. His dad keeps insinuating that the cost of our wedding (very cheap) will cause us to get divorced like him and my fiancé’s bio mom. My grandma keeps knit picking every little choice I make. It’s like going to a park and pitching a fit over a newly commissioned bench. Like what do they care? They’re not even paying for it but they’re acting like total knobs.
Sorry...sucks
I'm sorry! Sounds so frustrating 🫂
Don't tell them about the plans anymore. Keep all information to yourself.
My wedding cost less than $200. I’ve been married 23 years, have 5 kids and we still love each other. The marriage is what’s important not the wedding. I hope you have a great wedding and marriage.
Petty merch is gorgeous, the best merchandising here on UA-cam. Charlotte is so talented. She's an inspiration to me at this point. ♥️✨👏
The shipping just absolutely kills me. It makes it completely unaffordable for me😢
@@Midorikonokami does the merch ship internationally!?
Agreed! I have the black Petty hoodie and sweats set that I wear all the time! Need some new lux merch now! So soft and fluffy!
The only thing that beats out Petty merch (in my opinion), is the Phil DeFranco "One Day we will all be skeletons" merch and only because it was a quote his son made when Phil interview him for his first live interview on "A Conversation With", it was possibly the cutest interview of all time.
Please take them to court NOW , it is YOUR money. Always have receipts and a paper trail. Your brother wasn't ready to be married, he had to STEAL. The point is IT'S YOUR MONEY!!!!!!!!
I LOVE the minimal makeup!! So so great.
For the twin brothers, while I really freaking hope there was never any cheating at all one of two things that popped into my mind when we were told the twin brother and Op's ex dated within a year after Op broke up with his ex, those two cheating immediately popped into my head. The second was, the ex never got over OP and decided to settle with his brother since they're identical. Both are very freaking sucky. Sad part is it sounds like they did date for awhile and while both mutual agreed to end it, I think, it's still smells very fishy to me. I can agreed with Charlotte this doesn't sit right with me either and I don't like immediately thinking negative about ppl.
.. agreed! IMO OP left out some vital info on why he's acting like he'd had his heart ripped out, yet he stated at the start 'they' both agreed to end the relationship b4 college. Transference of affection is an actual thing, and it happens fairly commonly amoungst twins; male or female/identical or not. I'm not at all surprised that the ex & identical sibling easily fell into a relationship (probably both were missing OP in fact!) .. OP is acting like she did something horrible that he broke up with her.
@@ThreadworxsI wouldn't put it past the woman in that story to try to get with the brother if OP had tried to do long distance instead of a "clean" break.
it said that they were fraternal twins, not identical..
The first girl absolutely knew what she was doing when she bought that off-white dress.
Last month I was having a casual conversation with my BiL, talking about weddings and what not and I mentioned to him how weird it was and how my dad had the audacity to wear a white suit to his (BiL's/sister's) wedding. BiL was like "why? what's wrong with that?" The look on my face, I tell you. I had to explain to my BiL (who is older than I am, married with four kids no less) why nobody is supposed to wear white to a wedding except the bride. (And yes, for the record, it is IN their wedding photos that my dad wore a white suit to their wedding, it's memorialized)
I've never heard it applied to men...🤔🤔🤔
I don't see any issue with that. I also don't see an issue with women wearing white if it's nothing like a wedding dress/what the bride's wearing. Having watched a few videos where this is mentioned, I'm thinking it must be a North American thing, as it wouldn't be an issue in the UK unless someone turned up in something resembling what the bride's wearing.
@@sarahthomas148yeah, at least here in the US, only the couple is supposed to wear white. This rule applies to both men and women, but it's less applied to men since white is an uncommon suit color.
If you ever get invited to a US wedding, and you want to wear something white (or close to white) ask the couple first. It's their day, so what they say applies.
Charlotte, your editors deserve an award or a raise or a gold star sticker or SOMETHING! The Bobs Burgers edit made me have to pause the video b/c I was laughing so hard. They compliment your jokes really well xD
When she is so into you that the "next guy" LITERALLY looks EXACTLY like you.......
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
As a former wedding photographer , even I was worried about a off white dress WITH BIG COLORFUL FLOWERS PRINTED ALL OVER IT! I was very pregnant and the only thing I could fit into. I even asked the bride if it was too white haha could not imagine wearing that white dress to a wedding!
Side note to apologies mean everything If a person says sorry in an argument and other person isnt responsive to it that generally means that person said sorry so many times and never fix their behavior that the sorry becomes meaningless 🤷♀️