"Women ALWAYS Leave The Relationship First!"

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 778

  • @pierg1974
    @pierg1974 Рік тому +402

    Nobody should stay in a relationship if they are being mistreated. Period.

  • @victoriagreen5228
    @victoriagreen5228 Рік тому +716

    Women leave when we're emotionally exhausted and tired of fighting for something that clearly isn't working. Men will only leave if women cheat because it's an Ego thing for them.

    • @butterflymage5623
      @butterflymage5623 Рік тому +15

      I disagree with men will only leave when women cheat. That’s a reason men leave. The thing is, we’re taught to relationships take work and to accept the crazy of women because women are more emotional, it’s almost taboo for men to leave.
      That needs to change.

    • @feliciawalker9771
      @feliciawalker9771 Рік тому +55

      100% true....we always leaving because they think they can do whatever and keep us. And we stay until we can't take no anymore

    • @bubullibooooo9928
      @bubullibooooo9928 Рік тому +29

      ​​@@butterflymage5623 It's not taboo for men to leave. They just love that woman usually and they don't want to leave.
      Studies show that men benefit from marriage but women don't gain anything but problems.

    • @butterflymage5623
      @butterflymage5623 Рік тому +3

      @@bubullibooooo9928 some men do love their women that much. But a lot don’t, it’s just literally taboo to leave. We’re taught you continue through the commitment because marriage isn’t about you. I’ve read those studies and while yes there are benefits that the study shows, it clearly ignores the down falls of marriage for men that is mostly what women say are patriarchy problems but are upheld by the women in those marriages.
      There’s way to many men who have nothing to do with each other speaking in these problems and they all sound the same. Much like how there’s to many women who aren’t connected speaking on the same problems.
      To ignore that or those problems is folly.

    • @bubullibooooo9928
      @bubullibooooo9928 Рік тому +7

      @@butterflymage5623 Just out of curiosity what do women have to gain from marriage in your opinion?

  • @goodgawdgertrude4240
    @goodgawdgertrude4240 Рік тому +603

    "Put 100 brothers in a room and ask them what happened. They gonna say 'she left'."
    Translation: "She got tired of receiving the bare minimum and bounced"

    • @divadd6231
      @divadd6231 Рік тому +21

      💯 💯💯💯💯💯

    • @-glitch-8195
      @-glitch-8195 Рік тому +21

      Imagine putting an emphasis on doing the bare minimum 😂😂😂

    • @angelahuntley807
      @angelahuntley807 Рік тому +42

      Absolutely 💯! Men stay because they always benefit even in unhappy relationships/ marriages!

    • @EmpressAngel753
      @EmpressAngel753 Рік тому +2

      👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @NoName-nj4mw
      @NoName-nj4mw Рік тому +2

      On GAWD!!

  • @evolvingishpod
    @evolvingishpod Рік тому +183

    So “staying” is a badge of honor…Most women I’ve known to leave a marriage was because of MAJOR issues.

  • @Iamdmgartrell
    @Iamdmgartrell Рік тому +349

    This is exactly how men are in relationships when they are done. They start being completely wreckless with their actions and forcing the woman's hand to leave them, because at that point, it's obvious that the man no longer wants the relationship, but doesn't have the balls to end it, which in most cases, the man doesn't want to be the one to end it just in case they decide to circle back around to that woman in the future, if the grass doesn't end being greener on the other side...

  • @Pumpsandabump
    @Pumpsandabump Рік тому +74

    She left=I’m not taking accountability for my actions that pushed Her away so I can blame her

  • @SymoneTrust
    @SymoneTrust Рік тому +164

    The real question should be “is it men or women who are most likely to (continually) cross deal-breaker boundaries to push the other to leave”.
    Men typically lack the necessary emotional intelligence, communication skills, and patience to course correct a relationship and will instead, put more effort into running the streets, playing video games, entertaining side chicks, and hanging with the boys.
    Nobody cares if you stay in a relationship if you’re not “present”, whether emotionally, mentally, financially, etc

    • @salahadeenas3398
      @salahadeenas3398 Рік тому +4

      My point exactly!

    • @feliciawalker9771
      @feliciawalker9771 Рік тому +11

      Being present in all aspects very important. Good point

    • @myfavoriteswigfall2457
      @myfavoriteswigfall2457 Рік тому +3

      Say it louder for the nose bleed section!!!! HELLO!!!!!!

    • @saturdayschild8535
      @saturdayschild8535 Рік тому +2

      Gotta agree. Them mincing words over leaving the relationship vs never being emotionally IN the relationship to begin with.
      If he’s not present emotionally, he’s already gone. Why don’t men get this? No woman is staying where she isn’t being invested in emotionally.

    • @OneHipSistahDIYcreations
      @OneHipSistahDIYcreations 7 місяців тому

      Exactly. So many men lack the ability to emotionally support their woman. They don’t want to invest in improving their relationship and problem resolution skills. They don’t care to ‘learn’ and understand their woman. All they know how to do is run manipulation tactics. They rather resort to mind games and pimpology then to earnestly do the work of building a solid relationship.

  • @sparklybeeb
    @sparklybeeb Рік тому +370

    Cheating IS leaving a relationship. Ya'll trippin.

    • @Cwesade
      @Cwesade Рік тому +12

      True

    • @sandrajohnson8227
      @sandrajohnson8227 Рік тому +10

      Yes they is tripping I more then agree.

    • @alexpress5375
      @alexpress5375 Рік тому +21

      Say it again for the dum dums in the back 📢

    • @kiaracouch9315
      @kiaracouch9315 Рік тому +8

      ​@@alexpress5375 COME ON NOW!!! I WAS JUST FINNA SAY IT!!!

    • @kiaracouch9315
      @kiaracouch9315 Рік тому +7

      TELL THAT TRUTH TF THEY TALKING ABOUT!!!

  • @pishtash88
    @pishtash88 Рік тому +87

    My dad cheated on my mom multiple times during their marriage. When I was 16, he left us a dear John letter saying that he didn't want to be part of the family anymore. My mom filed for divorce a few months later and he was livid he couldn't understand why she wanted to divorce him. He thought he was going to be able to do his thing and then come back.

    • @bravesoul8572
      @bravesoul8572 Рік тому +7

      Hell to the No. He went somewhere and bumped his head!!!

    • @briattnybrittany6843
      @briattnybrittany6843 Рік тому +5

      wow! i imagine that must've been excruciatingly painful. reading that struck me right in the heart 💔

  • @d.c.4706
    @d.c.4706 Рік тому +106

    This is pure comedy. Of course men "stay". Stay means I will spend all day and night cheating/violating this relationship but make SURE to come back home and play the role because it benefits me. That's "staying" to these simpletons. 😂

  • @OkwithOG
    @OkwithOG Рік тому +368

    No woman leaves a good relationship or marriage..Thats a conversation men don't want to have that conversation.

    • @summersalix
      @summersalix Рік тому +26

      Exactly. There is generally a very good reason (or more than one) as to why a woman would leave.

    • @seann54
      @seann54 Рік тому +17

      Lies. A lot of women leave relationships because they are bored, even when everything else is fine. And they will admit this.

    • @IRejectUrReality
      @IRejectUrReality Рік тому +8

      You have the internet. There's a million women saying they left marriages and relationships because they were bored, he was to nice, or she upgraded in her career and all of a sudden he wasn't up to her standards

    • @andreadrake4890
      @andreadrake4890 Рік тому +28

      I hear men saying women leave relationship because of boredom, what is that, I divorced my husband because he was a Serial cheater, with love children & I didn't want to help him pay his child support

    • @IRejectUrReality
      @IRejectUrReality Рік тому +3

      @@andreadrake4890 that's your situation. No one is minimizing that. But when men state their situation it's deemed trivial or unbelievable.

  • @senseofpeace6442
    @senseofpeace6442 Рік тому +81

    I personally think women stay TOO LONG. Men have a way to emotionally disconnect and women can’t so it’s breaks a woman down. On the other hand, I have some male friends that I just can’t understand why they won’t leave their relationship. It’s not a badge of honor. It’s disrespectful to themselves. If you aren’t married, then you should be quick to leave too. I agree many men don’t pull the trigger to leave because they don’t want to hurt her feeling directly. They will do things to make her leave and she does. I bet if men and women leave when they know they should, people would approach relationships differently and they would actually last and be healthy.

  • @S17mma
    @S17mma Рік тому +401

    Now we know that men force women out of relationships because they are unable to leave of their own accord.
    Sisters be sure to release them at the earliest sign of discontent.

    • @andreadrake4890
      @andreadrake4890 Рік тому

      One of my male friend said his girl said if he leave her to be happy she was going to make his life a living hell, so I do understand that sh** happens, it can go both ways

    • @yourfuturedocburenbeiya
      @yourfuturedocburenbeiya Рік тому +16

      FACTS. They don't have the balls to tell us so we gotta do it for them smh.

    • @shonchesney8363
      @shonchesney8363 Рік тому +7

      Yep, you are definitely right! They run us off with their shytty behavior.

    • @mineandmine4528
      @mineandmine4528 Рік тому +18

      Exactly! Then they say “ she left me!” But never say “I forced her out.”

    • @carriebear52
      @carriebear52 Рік тому +11

      They don't want to be the one. They can't stand looking bad.

  • @theonek5333
    @theonek5333 Рік тому +93

    I asked my ex if he had ever broken up with a woman, he said "No".
    I then asked, so how is she supposed to know when you're unhappy? He said, he never speaks up he just starts cheating and treating her like shit.
    So when he cheated on me, I already knew.

    • @MrDomonique3
      @MrDomonique3 Рік тому +14

      Damn! That's so immature

    • @theonek5333
      @theonek5333 Рік тому +17

      @@MrDomonique3 Very, but I can't say the red flags weren't there.

    • @PLTbyCormie
      @PLTbyCormie Рік тому +12

      His response was the exit sign..

    • @chia0922
      @chia0922 Рік тому +15

      Men don’t leave, but they cheat. And instead of them speaking up and saying when they’re unhappy they pretend. In relationships there are going to be ups and downs that’s for sure, but when two people love each other they so anything to make it work .I was married before and the man I was married to was an attention seeker who** he swore women wanted him and often times made me feel unsafe, insecure, and flawed. I never left , but he was the one that filed for divorce and I agreed to do divorce him.Time passed and he apologized to me and begged me many times to come back I said HELLNAW . One day, I remembered he said he was sorry for treating like ish but he understood that the reason the marriage didn’t work out was because of him and I honestly wanted to hear that. I just wanted to hear that for me. Not every man is a good man. Some men really need to heal because they can scar good women for life.

    • @instrinsiclove
      @instrinsiclove Рік тому

      They always tell on themselves.

  • @trynatural23
    @trynatural23 Рік тому +33

    Men don’t leave…THEY JUST CHEAT!🙄😒

  • @LoveAngel333
    @LoveAngel333 Рік тому +66

    Men stay because they are cowards it has nothing to do with the other person. Men stay because they are selfish and are battling their own ego. The stay because of all the things that have to do with them not the woman.
    A woman leaves because of the lack is love and support from their mate.
    Men don’t leave because of their own person stuff I’m too old to start over I got kids I don’t want to lose money I don’t want them to be with anyone else. I don’t want to look like this or that to other people (bad guy ) for leaving

    • @bigtt87
      @bigtt87 Рік тому

      Wow... so in other words. Women are amazing creatures devoid of any wrongdoing in relationships and it's always the fault of men because they're selfish cowards. What a lack of awareness and self accountability to think that.

  • @yvettemahaffey3606
    @yvettemahaffey3606 Рік тому +60

    No woman gets an award for staying when, she clearly ain't wanted. My father told me a man knows immediately if he wants to continue with you. Sad that this is so true.

  • @jwill6312
    @jwill6312 Рік тому +150

    Women file for divorce more because they realize marriage is a damn trap. Society tells women they HAVE to get married and there's a laundry list of qualities a woman has to have in order to be considered a "good woman". All a man has to do is bring home a check and he's considered a "good man". The bar is in hell. This is why they say the wedding is HER day. Weddings gas women up to be excited about a life of indentured servitude.

  • @kalimbaayinde25
    @kalimbaayinde25 Рік тому +83

    I left mine yesterday. He just don’t know it yet. I am emotionally and mentally checked out. He has drained me. I tried so hard, but his family and friends always came before me. It’s DONE ✅

    • @moniquefacey5760
      @moniquefacey5760 Рік тому +4

      You deserve better... if he's not up to change for the better then go. Better to be alone than unhappy with someone.

    • @chaunceymiles5829
      @chaunceymiles5829 Рік тому +3

      I have been down that same road. And going through divorce now

    • @sweetpea7362
      @sweetpea7362 Рік тому +2

      Filing 2 sis.

    • @MsDeongi
      @MsDeongi Рік тому +1

      Good for you hope u can keep it up I left a week ago

  • @sasanewnew557
    @sasanewnew557 Рік тому +42

    Well, this is true because I've ended all of my relationships. Because they deserved to be ended. Ladies, know your worth!!!

    • @AJ-kb9hf
      @AJ-kb9hf Рік тому +1

      I've ended my relationships too because there was no option. Have to say I ended the last one brutally - I literally shut him out cold and never looked back but that is exactly what he deserved. Lying POS living a triple life. I didn't realise how strong I am. I feel so much happier now.

  • @shonchesney8363
    @shonchesney8363 Рік тому +68

    You are right! After continuously putting up with the man's BS. He will stay and take you through straight hell. Nobody with good sense is going to tolerate foolishness. It is best to leave instead of living in a toxic environment. Men stay because they are doing the dirt.

  • @mottley5216
    @mottley5216 Рік тому +20

    Men leave, hop right into a rebound relationship then come
    crying back lol !

  • @my_opinion_only
    @my_opinion_only Рік тому +59

    This is cap! I have no problem leaving first, and I wish I had learned how to leave earlier.
    It's no point being in a relationship when it's not making you happy.

  • @cheryljune7791
    @cheryljune7791 Рік тому +16

    Women leave when they are exhausted and emotionally drained. She can't pour anymore into someone that JUST now realizing what he has.

  • @Librynerd
    @Librynerd Рік тому +28

    I’ll leave, I won’t let you show me more than once you don’t want me.

    • @TBoogie76
      @TBoogie76 Рік тому

      You ain't never lied 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @TheResilient1
    @TheResilient1 Рік тому +29

    They beg and say they not going to do it again,stalk you putting a whole bunch of pressure only to take him back and then he do it again. They do not just be ok with you walking away they fight to keep you while having no intentions on doing you right. That's why it's important to have real love for yourself before you date anyone because you show them how to treat you. That's why I stay prayed up because I have to have discernment.......

    • @Soouber
      @Soouber Рік тому +2

      🙌🏼💯🤲🏼🙏🏼

  • @AJ-kb9hf
    @AJ-kb9hf Рік тому +18

    Men stay for different reasons - don't want to be alone, keep the door open for sex, keep you on the back burner just in case it doesn't work out somewhere else. Ladies - be strong. We do not need this nonsense - better to be alone and wait for a real man as opposed to these clowns.

  • @goddesstemptresstango674
    @goddesstemptresstango674 Рік тому +16

    I don’t want to be miserable with no one. If I’m not making you happy, please let me go. Staying in a relationship sometimes is not the best option…!

  • @evangeline1983
    @evangeline1983 Рік тому +26

    No woman should stay for mistreatment. Then if she does, you all will get on her case for “chasing the thugs and bad boys”. It’s always something 🙄

    • @brwnserenity2351
      @brwnserenity2351 Рік тому +7

      It's literally ALWAYS something. Men will always have something negative to say about what women do in one way or another. They're never satisfied. Once I realized and accepted that, things became so much easier for me when dealing with them.

  • @alexisalford735
    @alexisalford735 Рік тому +14

    Honestly, women stay in the worst of the relationship - through disrespect, abuse, cheating... That ride and die chick truly exists. Women are willing to be side-piece, waiting in line - putting their life on hold - for a man to leave his wife and non of these behaviors are healthy. Women settle more than men "just to have a man or be in a relationship." A man can have such a hold on a woman, and she becomes stuck where it seems like it's incapable for her to leave. A man will walk away and have a new woman the next week.

  • @vernabonner7284
    @vernabonner7284 Рік тому +30

    If a man wanna leave let him go

    • @QIKWIA
      @QIKWIA Рік тому +3

      ☝🏿That part🎯

  • @ttasht2067
    @ttasht2067 Рік тому +24

    The guy in the video did not say anything about the man being deeply in love with his partner. Men are more likely to leave either way. Cheating is leaving, abuse is leaving. A man can be physically presrnt and mentally and emotionally absent and gone. Be honest the proof of who leaves is in an unbiased review of who files for divorce, cheats and abuses the other person. The West Indian community has much higher rate of women staying.

  • @JoyLady-1966
    @JoyLady-1966 Рік тому +46

    A woman more than not has done all she can when it gets to that point. I’m talking about a real OG woman. She leaves emotionally and she is tired of being his slave. Does anyone marry for love and commitment? This is a covenant. Yes she will stay until something drastic happens.
    She warned your ass numerous times but you would not listen👍🏾

    • @lynnettebennett4564
      @lynnettebennett4564 Рік тому +8

      Bingo!!! I said you GOT TO GO!!! I gave him a time frame & I stuck to it!! He have the audacity to be made at me boy bye 👋🏼 I'm good 👍

    • @JoyLady-1966
      @JoyLady-1966 Рік тому +3

      @@lynnettebennett4564 Yesssssss I got me a badass attorney. She has invited me to go through his 100 pages of financial statements . I’m getting ready to find the money….Boooooooy this will be truth. I’m soooooo glad for you Whoop Whoop 💯💯💯💯💯💯

    • @lynnettebennett4564
      @lynnettebennett4564 Рік тому +1

      @Cynthia Tillman thank you & I wish you many Blessings 🙌 🙏🏽

    • @mrs.t3733
      @mrs.t3733 Рік тому

      Married 25 years to my one and only. They start looking at the clock and trying to turn back resulting in stupid decisions. "NEVER let a man tell you more than once they dont want you". When you get tired it's a wrap. They know your worth and fear the good goods will be enjoyed by someone else. I believe what you do not what you say.✌🏾

  • @tew04d
    @tew04d Рік тому +13

    My biggest takeaway is that a man’s actions matter more that what he says…. Old and safe advice

  • @vernita0216
    @vernita0216 Рік тому +41

    The immaturity in "men" is despicable and disgusting... The behavior they're speaking of got my cousin's wig pushed all the way back, and his son fatherless 🤷🏾‍♀️... Everybody is not stable... Watch what you're out here doing!

  • @keykey2848
    @keykey2848 Рік тому +17

    If I wouldn't have left I would have still been in a toxic marriage with a man that did not want to communicate or understand anything. Took all his anger out on me. Stuck in it for years with no changes and many warnings. When I finally left I was wrong in his eyes.

  • @consuelowilson926
    @consuelowilson926 Рік тому +59

    What gets me is there’s always a conversation about women leaving yet there’s rarely a conversation about why the women left.
    He sounds crazy. We may go out and do our thing but we not letting another woman pull him away from his woman. He also said men stay even when they can’t stand their woman. That shows in how he interacts and shows up in the relationship. SMH

  • @tamikataylor6862
    @tamikataylor6862 Рік тому +8

    What I find crazy is I know a lot of married men that say they are miserable but will not leave, the guys comment was that married men have a lot to lose if they leave, peace of mind is priceless 💜

  • @textmonsterlm
    @textmonsterlm Рік тому +10

    Man will drain you emotionally and mentally and then complain that you aren’t giving THEM what they want in a relationship. Cheat on you, emotionally abuse you, gas light you but hate the consequences of his own actions when you are a dried up shell of what you use to be. Men also see women as an investment, if they got a bunch invested in a female, even if she has a low self-esteem and he cheats on her constantly, they’ll both just stay with each other and be miserable because he can still do his dirt and live in the comfort of the female at home to uphold an image. I seriously think men do shit until females DO break just to have the satisfaction of saying we left, our love wasn’t real, or that we were cowardly. Lol smh shit I’m big triggered with that last one.

  • @teresalee9997
    @teresalee9997 Рік тому +7

    Most men when they realize they have a woman, they do the bare minimum regarding the upkeep of the relationship. Most women leave because they are emotionally bankrupt.

  • @nbee6217
    @nbee6217 Рік тому +65

    Lol but men will dump you and come crawling back because nobody is chasing them or trying to work out anything. If you accept the break up gracefully and wish them well and block immediately, the male ego cannot handle losing that high rank all in one go. If you didn't do anything wrong, men really struggle with guilt and loss and mistaken it for still being in love with a woman. Some even battle to move on when they leave the woman 🤦‍♀️.

    • @quathetruth8314
      @quathetruth8314 Рік тому +1

      That’s what’s going on now. Women are dating men that haven’t healed and moved in from the women they have wronged. If a man hasn’t been active in therapy for at least a year, single no sex for at least a year, he’s a risk. Cause we all know they don’t heal, they seek pleasure to mask the pain.

    • @nbee6217
      @nbee6217 Рік тому +2

      @@quathetruth8314 I love this. It is definitely our responsibility to choose healthy, potential partners who have done the work and are emotionally available to build healthy connections.

  • @kha5518
    @kha5518 Рік тому +15

    What cheaters don’t know is that women will stay, but they’ve already left. Good women who never step out… they find kids/work/hobbies to submerge their lives in.

    • @TBoogie76
      @TBoogie76 Рік тому +6

      That's a foolish woman!

    • @kha5518
      @kha5518 Рік тому

      @@TBoogie76 you are absolutely right. But a lot of us had to learn the hard way.

  • @brigraham5701
    @brigraham5701 Рік тому +10

    So nobody is mentioning how selfish immature men will leave that same women that got them to their success. Men will leave after using the women they had no real intentions to be with. At the end of the day a man will leave after reaping all of the benefits that women has to offer. She has a car, good credit, good job, house or apartment, while he has nothing and broke. He will stay for as long as he doesn’t have anything or any where else to go. Until he gets to a better level in life financially. He’s gone!

    • @jessikajane4967
      @jessikajane4967 Рік тому

      That's why you shouldn't try to "build a man". Let him be responsible for his own ambition and pursuits.

  • @obeyGodOnly
    @obeyGodOnly Рік тому +14

    If a man won’t leave a relationship. It means he s getting some kind of benefit in that relationship. Even if simply just having the girl feminine energy around him. Unless the girl has violated to extent of damaging his ego which we all know most men value more than anything then she becomes a liability. And most men never leave because they hope to circle back around in case their other relationship don’t work out or just so nobody else can’t her. I don’t want and don’t treat her right but they would hate for another man to come and take their spot. It’s selfishness if you ask me. Having your cake and eating it too

  • @lb1798
    @lb1798 Рік тому +9

    Not if he's a narcissist..they have to leave first so that their ego isn't bruised...they can't take the shame.

  • @lashellanderson7773
    @lashellanderson7773 Рік тому +11

    How are we always trippin when most men are the problem. Some men don't take accountability for their actions but expect us to take full responsibility in a relationship.

  • @stylishhomeswithcassandra
    @stylishhomeswithcassandra Рік тому +15

    The man in glasses on the right is the realest, truthful person of the three. Surprisingly, the man in red is being dodgy especially when he teaches women to open their eyes to mistreatment from men. So what is he saying now, we should see the wrong being done and stay still? That's double standards right there

    • @stasia3029
      @stasia3029 11 місяців тому

      Yea I noticed that too

    • @Kiana-Michelle
      @Kiana-Michelle 10 місяців тому +1

      And that's why I dont take these men seriously.

  • @therealsandraweise
    @therealsandraweise Рік тому +36

    Ask these same 100 men if they were monogamous in a way that makes their grandma proud? Most men left first but didn't change their address.

    • @denfolo5224
      @denfolo5224 Рік тому +3

      👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @nbee6217
      @nbee6217 Рік тому +1

      🙌🙌🙌

  • @NoName-nj4mw
    @NoName-nj4mw Рік тому +101

    Dude in the beginning is acting like men should get a cookie for staying in bad situations. If you don't want me, please leave me. Don't cheat and make it worse. Leave so a man that wants me can reach me. Also, sometimes if she isn't making you happy you should probably find out the reason.

    • @LoveAngel333
      @LoveAngel333 Рік тому

      Basically men are cowards point blank period

    • @TBoogie76
      @TBoogie76 Рік тому

      You giving a man too much power.

    • @Mercedesthegift
      @Mercedesthegift Рік тому +2

      Exactly!!! Soon as I see the signs I’m gone. Because I’m far from a placeholder

    • @NoName-nj4mw
      @NoName-nj4mw Рік тому

      @@TBoogie76 giving him power how?? I would tell a woman to leave if she isn't happpy, that same rule applies for a man. It's not about power or lack there of, it's about making moves as necessary

  • @andreadrake4890
    @andreadrake4890 Рік тому +21

    I was married for three months, he cheated with 15 different women, made love children I don't know how many, yes I divorced him, he wanted to stay married to continue to cheat for 5 more years, & that's what he said, I said I need one man & you can have as many women as you want but he can't touch me he said no.

  • @natureldiva
    @natureldiva Рік тому +5

    It’s easy for dishonest, cheating, narcissistic men to stay in a relationship/marriage if they are controlling the narrative. Why leave when you’re getting everything that you need and want. That’s what makes it more likely for women to leave the relationship/marriage first. When a woman’s fed up…game over!💯

  • @christynechellet9436
    @christynechellet9436 Рік тому +109

    Yeah y’all stay and cheat. I’m not sticking around for that. If you ain’t getting treated right or not get the treatment you think you deserve then just leave Period. You best believe if I’m not getting treated right or you cheat then I’m out✌🏾married or not

    • @kpar2130
      @kpar2130 Рік тому +6

      Thank You I was about to post this ☺️

    • @QIKWIA
      @QIKWIA Рік тому +5

      👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
      Nuff said!

    • @soyselene
      @soyselene Рік тому +4

      This

    • @silentlamont
      @silentlamont Рік тому +4

      This is the classic go to argument. No you ladies are cheating AND leaving. STOP

    • @Cahluvca
      @Cahluvca Рік тому

      ​@@silentlamontIts 2023 and folks still push the narrative like women dont cheat

  • @rororo3615
    @rororo3615 Рік тому +14

    Don’t let a man or a woman tell you twice! ✌🏼
    If they really wanted to they would have. LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.

  • @briattnybrittany6843
    @briattnybrittany6843 Рік тому +5

    my ex seemed to have a history of always being left and "mistreated". he spoke as if he was bitter and scorned. "people just leave! they never stay. they never fight for the relationship! they give up too easy!" i immediately saw that as a huge red flag. did they ALWAYS leave and/or mistreat you because they were crappy people or were you a crappy boyfriend? well ... i left him ... and you'll never guess why 🙄 he treated me like crap. guess what else? i never mistreated him. my instincts were right. he was a super crappy boyfriend. i'm thankful i caught it super early in the relationship and didn't have to endure that mess over time. he put me through hell in a short amount of time. why in the world would i put up with that!? he of course lacks introspection and accountability so i'm almost certain he told some woman the same sob story, that i left and mistreated him, just like EVERYONE ELSE DID 🙄

    • @d.y.h.w.
      @d.y.h.w. Рік тому +1

      @briattnybrittany6843 Did we drop the same man? Wowwwww.

  • @tatianarobinson9106
    @tatianarobinson9106 Рік тому +5

    Women leave first but after she done took so much from her man. Being devalued, cheated on and not just physically, when you step out you are choosing to leave without saying it but we as women accept so much and instead of the man walking away he for the most part forces us to walk away

  • @miab.1916
    @miab.1916 Рік тому +13

    This is so heartbreaking yet so enlightening.

    • @Misslady820
      @Misslady820 Рік тому

      Whew, it was REALLY enlightening!

  • @AJ-kb9hf
    @AJ-kb9hf Рік тому +5

    I did leave because I got sick and tired of his bad behaviour and he was not willing to take responsibility for it. I never looked back. I went through a period of intense sadness but much better for it now. He was a cheat - living a triple life and essentially lying to everyone, always ducking and diving and living a sordid life of lies and betrayal. Life is short, we have a right to be happy and a responsibility to not hurt others. He was taking away my happiness and hurting me and not taking responsibility for his actions. I had no option but to leave. He tried to come back but the door is shut, I've emotionally moved away - and that's it. I'm much better for it.

  • @jenneen6642
    @jenneen6642 Рік тому +60

    Thanks for letting us know you guys purposely tell us things bc you don’t want us anymore 😲

    • @TBoogie76
      @TBoogie76 Рік тому +11

      There should be a certain amount of wisdom a woman operates in that won't require a man to have to tell you what he's already showing you.

    • @lashanda8977
      @lashanda8977 Рік тому +11

      Purposely do things because they no longer want to be in the relationship. Men want women to take the weight off them by ending the relationship.

  • @QIKWIA
    @QIKWIA Рік тому +31

    Not necessarily true, Sir...🤔
    The real question is WHY is she leaving you?
    Women want to feel "protected and provided" for, safe.
    If YOU can't or won't do that, then WE 👻

  • @stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax
    @stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax Рік тому +6

    The accountability is always absent in conversations like these.
    He's complaining about women always leaving but fails to talk about WHY. WHY, does the woman leave? Furthermore, he went on to say how men stay through everything, even when he is no longer attracted to the woman. Ladies, take notes. He low-key just gave you some insightful information about how men like him are wired and how they think. What he explained was how men do not know how to pull away or even identify a toxic relationship and this is why someone LEAVES, or should leave at least. Men with his mentality believe that a woman's loyalty is based on how much she can withstand. Ladies, it is OKAY to leave and STAY GONE.

  • @1111ScorpQueen
    @1111ScorpQueen Рік тому +8

    Men largely don’t get treated bad by women, so of course men don’t leave! Who tf you think are most likely to leave…? the one that’s struggling to make things work or the one causing narcissistic abuse!?!

    • @-glitch-8195
      @-glitch-8195 Рік тому +2

      Exactly. They provoke bad behaviors out of the woman then be like "oh, look she crazy". It's called crazy-making. Then when we avoid them, we're feminist losers who think we don't need men. Then they tell us "F U, you're gonna die alone!" Like What???😂😂😂😂 They wanna set us up to get bullied inside a relationship so bad, but we are the emotional ones????😂😂😂
      This is why the government gets involved. If all of these men were wondering, it's because men cannot and will not keep their households in check. There is no significance in them staying. I have a trash bin in the corner of my room. Guess what? It's there, but it has no value to me other than me throwing trash in it.
      Then when they end up lonely, the world has gone to sh*t and women have changed 😂😂😂 The arguments just keep on coming. I thought that females were too clingy...oh now you have the opposite problem? 😂😂 You cannot make this stuff up.
      Remember girls, the only person who is afraid of being labeled the "bad guy" is the bad guy. A good person, isn't worried about being seen as the "bad guy" because they are good deep down inside.

    • @1111ScorpQueen
      @1111ScorpQueen Рік тому +3

      @@-glitch-8195 That’s why women live longer.. bcs we know how to survive by abandoning situations that doesn’t support and enhance her. I wish I would stay in the name of love if I’m unhappy. Naker bye👋🏾

  • @FrauMase
    @FrauMase Рік тому +8

    I did not enter marriage with an escape plan!!! However, I wouldn't stay in a marriage as a door mat either. Men don't stay if a woman cheats, but think women should stay of a man cheats.
    Treat people the way you want to be treated.

  • @maireadcollins194
    @maireadcollins194 Рік тому +4

    It's like torturing someone and expecting them to stay. If they stay they're seen as a doormat or a fool and when they leave it's "women always leave" 🙏🏻 Both partners deserve truth, respect & love and if it's not there, why stay there x

  • @enricat10
    @enricat10 Рік тому +6

    Yes. I tend to be the one to leave and the "stalking" behaviors, death threats and incessant calling can come from men too. Not all men will accept "This is no longer working for me." IJS

  • @angelasmith2075
    @angelasmith2075 Рік тому +30

    8:42 y’all wilding. The Man is the reason why we leave. There’s no other way to explain it. He had to do something repeatedly in order for us to leave. Men leave the moment they start cheating no matter if he stays or not
    Period. It’s starts in the relationship. How can you be the Husband that you’re supposed to be but can’t be the boyfriend that you should be. You want us to be everything and more but not doing the same. It doesn’t work like that. Make it make sense

    • @summersalix
      @summersalix Рік тому +3

      👆 This! Exactly

    • @craigmuhammad3561
      @craigmuhammad3561 Рік тому

      Where's the accountability it's always the man that always have to be doing something when the woman doesn't want to take accountability for anyting just own up to your side of the part of why you wanted to leave.

  • @gesicamason6073
    @gesicamason6073 Рік тому +7

    This is one of the realest convos on relationships I've heard in a minute. Great job guys

  • @sewncity1746
    @sewncity1746 Рік тому +9

    Not true! BS! So many great women get left. Marriages/ relationships no matter what context y’all tryna spin it as… If a woman leaves she’s tired of being mistreated.

  • @shaniceshanice8735
    @shaniceshanice8735 Рік тому +4

    Men don’t leave they just start living a double life or they make life so uncomfortable for the woman that it forces her to leave.

  • @felicia4933
    @felicia4933 Рік тому +3

    Men stay because they have the "winners" mindset," and leaving is a sign of losing. When the woman goes, they can use that as "she left" or "I did nothing wrong". The man doesn't want to look like the "bad guy".

  • @tamyrecunningham8322
    @tamyrecunningham8322 Рік тому +5

    I told my ex 2 years prior to my leaving him that I wasn't happy and i wanted him to go....he would not leave even though he had more than a couple of side pieces. The only way I got him to leave was to give up my apartment, relocate, and go no contact!!!

  • @crystalreagans5000
    @crystalreagans5000 Рік тому +3

    A man saying “you deserve better than me” is his immature way of saying he doesn’t want you! He’s not man enough to end it.

  • @shaiqiyahceoinc.9329
    @shaiqiyahceoinc.9329 Рік тому +6

    Men and women will leave any relationship that is not serving them anymore… Let’s stop generalizing isolated experiences to what ‘women’ do or what ‘men’ do. No one person has dated or married every man or every woman to state their opinion as a fact. ❤

  • @SammeeDee25
    @SammeeDee25 Рік тому +3

    Women are the first to leave but that's after YEARS of being disrespected and plain ol' stupidity.

  • @SoftLifeRichGirl
    @SoftLifeRichGirl Рік тому +2

    Put a woman through enough she definitely will. She got tired of going through trauma that the men put them through. A woman will go through so much to the point when their tired, exhausted, traumatized, emotionally and mentally F’d up, then they leave to save themselves while they have some life left.

  • @katrinastallworth5996
    @katrinastallworth5996 Рік тому +5

    This topic was DURASTICALLY needed 😂

  • @keziataylor
    @keziataylor Рік тому +7

    My experience is in direct contradiction to their experience, rationale and analysis. I know plenty of marriages where the men chose to ask for a divorce. The men didn’t want to be accountable and responsible for their family units. Period.

  • @atlbornbred3233
    @atlbornbred3233 Рік тому +2

    As a woman, I'm not staying anywhere I'm not feeling love or wanted.

  • @ilovemeee21
    @ilovemeee21 Рік тому +5

    I respect a man that knows what he wants . It maybe hard but dont waste my time . If it aint working ... it aint working . He needs to have standards as well !

  • @SandraHernandez-zy6uw
    @SandraHernandez-zy6uw Рік тому +2

    Why would a Real woman stay where she's being cheated on, lied to & disrespected

  • @lashaundadiaz7453
    @lashaundadiaz7453 Рік тому +23

    He has, once again, failed to acknowledge the reasons why we leave or accept accountability. No woman or man should ever stay in a toxic relationship/marriage. And if women always leave, why are there so many single mothers? My mother was married to my father and they had 4 children, he left and didn't look back. And she even stayed aftet he had a child outside of the marriage. I witnessed this throughout my childhood with multiple couples. We have to be real about this topic. Thank yall for the thought-provoking content fellas!!!

    • @IRejectUrReality
      @IRejectUrReality Рік тому +2

      Your question doesn't make sense... "And if women always leave, why are there so many single mothers?" Well if she left, she's now a single mother. Doesn't matter if he left or she left. But it's a fact women initiate 80% of divorces

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 Рік тому +2

      ​@@IRejectUrRealityBut do you know why?

    • @IRejectUrReality
      @IRejectUrReality Рік тому +1

      @@tatianadaniel3569 There are a million reasons. Because women talk more, like to be the victem, and are loud telling their side of the story, it's usually assumed by default that its the man's fault. That's often not the case

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 Рік тому +3

      @@IRejectUrReality But you automatically made it the woman's fault.

    • @tatianadaniel3569
      @tatianadaniel3569 Рік тому

      @@IRejectUrReality And you said "that's often not the case".
      What's the primary reason women leave?

  • @growinwoman2290
    @growinwoman2290 Рік тому +3

    1:01 But red pill has also been calling women out for wasting their youth staying with incompetent men…. So if we put these two ideas together, what does that tell you?

  • @anikasmith8361
    @anikasmith8361 Рік тому +3

    Men stay to avoid the logistics of having to reestablish a home and the economics of everyday life is easier with two.

  • @quillaquil8650
    @quillaquil8650 Рік тому +4

    This is dumb. I was completely committed in a useless marriage with a serial cheater for years. Went to counseling etc and he kept doing it. The 3rd time I left filed for divorce and had it finalized! This is crazy for y’all to say because men think As women were supposed to stay there when they act narcissistic, controlling, sometimes they withhold the sex, and cheat! Sorry not sorry a lot of us women have morals and standards!

  • @keiaradenman7749
    @keiaradenman7749 Рік тому +1

    “How you gone tell me what i deserve”…that’s shots fired 😩🤣🤣 young me smh

  • @tatianadaniel3569
    @tatianadaniel3569 Рік тому +5

    It's the men in the comments trying to tell women why women leave🤣🤣

  • @Aqua-y2e
    @Aqua-y2e Рік тому +5

    Well, I'm sorry yall will cheat and dog the woman out and coward not to leave.

  • @paetonwalton6346
    @paetonwalton6346 11 місяців тому +1

    Kenny said- "restraining order! Restraining order! Restraining order!" I'm dying 😂😂😂

  • @bestrainsoundaudios153
    @bestrainsoundaudios153 10 місяців тому +1

    I’m crying 😂 not “ how you going to tell me what I deserve 😅😂”

  • @TheLoveExperience
    @TheLoveExperience Рік тому +21

    Men leave relationships as well and staying in a toxic situation is not a badge of honor. More damage is done than not. So let's be honest and shame the devil.

    • @QIKWIA
      @QIKWIA Рік тому +2

      ☝🏿Nothing but FACTS spoken here!🅰️➕️

    • @heruapocalypse2021
      @heruapocalypse2021 Рік тому

      You want Honesty! Ok Western Women are responsible for 80% of Relationship Breakups and Marital Divorces.And 90% if They're so called College Educated.

    • @TheLoveExperience
      @TheLoveExperience Рік тому

      @@heruapocalypse2021 let's suppose I skip over the fact that there's no real data on casual relationships because there's no way to track them versus marriages and most people are single in casual relationship. You're argument is men do leave relationships, just not as much 🙄. >>> Sir, Nothing you said changed what I said. Last I checked only children respond like you. Go get a life when you grow TF up.

  • @margarettyson6556
    @margarettyson6556 Рік тому +2

    Men don’t leave because nine times out of ten they have another woman on the side providing them peace.

    • @Que772
      @Que772 Рік тому

      False peace

  • @barbaramuhammad8669
    @barbaramuhammad8669 Рік тому +8

    OMG!! Guys, I don’t know where to start on y’all. Men know exactly why they don’t physically leave any relationship. 1st..He want his cake and “eat” it too. 2ndly… he wants people to believe that he’s the victim 😢, “she left me”, lastly (but not least)…he’s trying to hide all his toxic behaviours, so he doesn’t look bad to those who’ve only met Dr Jekyll. Most of the time, we’ve left mentally a long time ago but because of soul ties, we stay way too long trying to figure out the right escape option. Also as long as we stay, we still want respect ‘cause when we’ve made up our minds to physically remove ourselves from your midst. Brother, it’s nothing you gonna say…it’s over. Period Our last words to you is… Thank you, next b!+(#! Lol😅 Peace

    • @chas353
      @chas353 Рік тому +1

      Omg YES men (feminine men / broken men) LOVEEE playing the victim. My ex literally would cry to me about girls alwaysssss breaking his heart. And when he started to ignore me and get distant, I’m like checking up on him being extra nice. And he goes “you’re such an amazing person, but I just can’t in this relationship. Sorry for ignoring you BYE” after ignoring me for a WHOLE WEEK. It was so funny, it was like he was mad that I didn’t break up with him first, I genuinely wanted to make sure he was good so I was texting him all week😂 sending prayers all that…. He was PISSED that he couldn’t play the victim in the situation because I was “too nice” word on the street is he’s back with his toxic ex, can’t wait to hear about her breaking his heart for the 10th time. Men are weird I swear. To top it all off my mom was in the hospital and almost died and he literally did not give to f*cks but always expected me to be emotionally available for him and his needs. I even found myself sending paragraphs after the break up like “if you need a friend I’m here” and I thought about that for a good month then blocked him for GOOD

  • @q_bzy
    @q_bzy Рік тому +14

    You can do everything right and people (men or women) will find some way to leave. Women usually go earlier, men usually go later if they are married.

  • @gingerhoney4031
    @gingerhoney4031 Рік тому +1

    By the time a woman physically leaves the relationship/marriage, she has been mentally beat down and can't take anymore.

  • @lindastl.3407
    @lindastl.3407 Рік тому +1

    Women leave because they've discovered their worth in the struggle, and with that new found self love they've mastered the strength to leave the toxicity behind. Why would you want anyone to stay and settle in a disruptive, demeaning, disrespectful situation that you're not willing to change????

  • @fredalexander5757
    @fredalexander5757 Рік тому +7

    I left my last few. If the vibe ain't the vibe I'm OUT! If she stressing me out in the first 6 months to a year it's a wrap. 💯 Marriage is different. Men don't leave those.

    • @user-xx7jf1jl7b
      @user-xx7jf1jl7b Рік тому

      Men don't leave most marriages willingly because most will end up paying alimony and or child support. Men will also feel the need to kill their wives before leaving them.

  • @shenika1979
    @shenika1979 Рік тому +3

    This is why relationships or the way they are now. Men with this type of mentality. We leave after we have exhausted all avenues of trying to get things corrected or understood. Who wants to keep being mistreated? That would be a dummy to stay to put up with disrespect, lies, manipulation

  • @mtalleylew4997
    @mtalleylew4997 7 місяців тому +1

    If you're married and perpetually cheating - you left. I certainly was told if I didn't like my situation I should leave. So I left. 👋🏽

  • @toptrainerrealtrainerrealr7620

    🤣 🤣 🤣 got my passport and don't give a damn!!

  • @kiaracouch9315
    @kiaracouch9315 Рік тому +2

    Men stay because they are the ones Fuhking up and getting mercy and grace extended.........point blank PERiiOOOD!!!!

  • @plan2b501
    @plan2b501 Рік тому +4

    Lets be honest, men dont leave to keep the door open for sex - Its really that simple. She'd have to be really out of pocket for a man to fire her (completely). Its not an age thing either, men of all ages and stages keep the door open if there is no true closure.