Why am I so afraid?
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- Опубліковано 26 чер 2024
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Episode Breakdown:
-00:09 I designed my life in a rush
-00:36 What’s your relationship like with your mom?
-01:11 A Lot of kids in one house
-02:15 My dad has dementia
-03:11 Incredible to connect with Family
-03:36 I wrestle with aging
-03:56 Los angeles where people hate aging
-05:36 Injecting snake venom on my face
-06:36 Aging is privilege
-07:01 Men and women fear aging
-07:26 My sisters embraced aging
-09:10 I’m the youngest, I must stay young
-09:44 What are your thoughts about aging
-11:02 Just peel my skin off
-11:50 You follow me because I’m a clown
-14:53 My dad seems really at peace
-16:44 I’m proud of my sisters
-17:32 My mom turned 72
-20:20 My dad forget my moms birthday
-22:03 Stomach bug
-22:50 My dad think we are starving him to death
-24:58 I need my moms help with my divorce
-25: 55 I’m the worst daughter
-26:28 Make sure to follow and leave a comment with your questions
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I personally don't even follow you *just* because you're absolutely hilarious (and you don't have to be all of the time), but because of how raw and honest you are with yourself and your fanbase. You talk about tough topics that spark such amazing conversations, thoughts, and change in ourselves and others. Thank you for all your videos and talk with us; I can assure you we love them! I always look forward to a new video from you and instantly click on it. Love from NY Laura& family!!! ❤❤
Wow thank you so much!
Girl I follow you because you're funny and real and honest about your life and who you are the good and the bad and you're just a person like everybody else trying to figure out life. I love that about you!
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I disagree with the funny part. She has much better options in life. It seems infantile and rather obnoxious. She is way above all this, but she just hasn't figured it out yet.
@@susie_q1 "infantile and obnoxious" you definitely sound like an expert on that!
Happy late birthday to Laura’s amazing mother!! 🎉❤ Honestly, I love the solo episodes just as much as the guest ones, if not more. You talk about the real and the raw and it’s refreshing.
Laura I highly encourage you to analyze what you really want and or don't want in you life and allow yourself freedom from guilt around "being mean" in advocating for those things for yourself.
My mom passed away a few years ago. She really struggled with alcoholism so we never really had a chance to get close. Give your mom a big hug for me. Wishing I could give mine one more hug. 😔
Im grateful for my sobriety going on 8 freaking years! My beautiful grandchildren that soften my heart daily. So grateful for my home and relationship
You could be the one to change the trend of "perfect" faces !
It's also a question of health. You dont want to eat meat but have no problem putring snake poison or whatever it is.
Aging is a priviledge not everybody will have.
Do it gracefully 😊💖
Prettiest face ever, only reason I watch this🙈🙈🙈
But Stephen wouldn’t be so interested in her if she stopped putting toxins in her body.
Laura my heart goes out to you and your family with your father. I am the soul caretaker for my father with dementia and it's so hard and funny and heartbreaking and everything all at once and tell your mom sending lots of love and light... been hard staying sober through this as well also going through menopause
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I didn't know about your dad so sorry to hear that 😢 enjoy every moment with him is a truly gift ❤️
I love how honest and open you are ❤❤❤
Turning 50 this fall and I'm thrilled! I am happy to have lines and wrinkles!! Aging IS a privilege. No such thing as "perfect"!!! (I am the oldest of 3.) I don't fear death. It's going to happen. I'm more concerned with LIVING.
My thoughts 💭 on aging I just wanna love what I see period .🌿 Beauty is in eye of beholder...
My relationship with mom is crap . Grew up neglected took care of my siblings .
My relationship with my mom in 3 words: Best friends forever
I'm grateful for life, my parents, my daughter, my husband, my grandkids & my sons.
3 words; Awkward, Sad, Silent
Same
Girl do what makes YOU happy. If you like to dye your hair and use botox F what everyone else thinks. I follow you because of the REAL thoughts and the intelligent things that come out of your mouth. I have a 2 year old girl and seeing that I'm not alone with some struggles as well. TBH the first thing I ever saw you in was the Hellen stuff (which I LOVED btw) but seeing the real laura is what has kept me watching. You inspire me girl. ❤❤❤
Thank you girl!! ❤️❤️❤️
My mom died when I was 13 she was only 42,my 6 siblings and I have never been the same,hold on to every minute with your mom
I’m good with aging! I stay physically active & sweat, detox in baths & essential oils, all cleaning products are plant based, aromatherapy lotions & hair care, happy connected to my inner child, healthy choices, plenty of rest, self-care, good friends, family, good energy🤗💛🌟
I follow you because you're hilarious,but also because you're so relatable ❤
Relationship with my mother - practicality,toxicity,sadness
I don’t follow people that are plastic because I want to surround myself with people that authentic!
Because I’m tired of seeing people who obsessed with following the trends to fit in.
I’m sick of over sexual behaviour
I’m repeating other comments, and I loved your comedy skits with your ex, but I always click because I’m a recovering alcoholic and I love your rawness about what’s happening in your life. I would love to be in your home group through AA, and I could hear your shares, and you could hear mine, and we support each other as women. I’ve read Idiot, and I read it when I was getting more serious about my sobriety and your humor and authenticity REALLY helped me when things were kinda dark. Been in the program for almost 8 years, and just got my 2 year chip in May. I adore you. Thank you for being you! If you ever come to Flagstaff, there’s some awesome women’s meetings you might enjoy! Bless you, Laura! 💕✨🙏🤙🥹
I've been grappling with aging, too. It's interesting once we start to really look at why we've bought into the expectations and conditioning that our society puts on women. The idea that our youth and looks is one of our commodities is extremely real and losing that is scary. ❤
I follow you because I can relate more often than not. So keep processing out loud with us as long it serves you - it helps everyone 💞
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I am 38 and aging has been heavy on my mind too. A lot of my friends get it but I try to like a non-toxic lifestyle so injecting a toxin in my face doesn’t fit that lifestyle. However, it’s still been tempted! And I hate these influences and companies who promote health and wellness but all their models and acquaintances have clearly had interventions to look the way they do, meanwhile they’re shaming people for eating potato chips. It’s all f’d and hypocritical. Thanks for your honestly around the issue!
I think your fan base appreciates you for more than just a laugh. It's like chatting with a friend about real stuff. It's good. Sorry you're feeling so stressed, but you do seem to be handling it as well as the best of us. 🤍
Your mom is such a great role model for aging beautifully. And it is rather backwards to inject venom into your face BUT only eat vegan foods. That’s going into your body as well ….and you’re correct. I follow you because you are a smart, talented, gifted, loving human being. ☮️
Loving, safe, laughter. I miss her so so much.
I follow you because you're brilliant blunt authentic completely real and relatable... being frickin hilarious is just a bonus ❤🎉
I'm the youngest of 3 girls. I have 2 kids. My son is oldest. Then my daughter. My Dad had Dementia before passing 2/2/22. As I've aged, i see that many people I've known thru the years haven't been afforded that privilege. I've also realized that people's opinions don't matter- that came in my late 40s. I learned i could do everything on my own (divorced). Now at 57, my motto is "I don't give a shit ". Its a fabulous freedom from that scared, shy, people pleasing 24 year old. Keep on keeping on! ❤
I feel you there, if I ever bring up the insecurity with other woman a lot of them say they dont experience all the insecurities that life brings right now. Its genuinely frustrating because I cant relate with anyone.. so thank you for being honest 😭🥹 makes me feel a bit more sane. Idk how other woman dont care. It makes me very fearful for my kids future and if im being honest my marriage ( im 30) with temptations out there like crazy
3 words about how I feel about my mother....
SHE'S THE BEST!
friendship, love , honesty
Happy birthday Laura’s mum!! ❤❤❤❤
I'm a native California girl, born in LA - raised in Studio City. Not 'all' of us in LA are plastic, or care about looking perfect. Be yourself, age gracefully... Posing as your friend in the start of this podcast talking about family was so not funny ~ love you just the way you are & hope to see a few wrinkles in the future. It's okay to be you ❤
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Happy belated 40th to your sister! Happy belated 72nd to your mom!!
Relationship with my mom in three words: loving, healing, sacred.
5 things I'm grateful for:
1: my two cats
2: my mama
3: books
4: coffee
5: my strength
As someone who thought I would never live past 38, and tried a few times to make sure that didn't happen, I am no longer afraid to grow older (I'm 44 now). I embrace it. Between all the times that life tried to prevent me from growing older to what I mentioned before, every single one of my days is a gift. I try to treat them as such.
I just had my second daughter a couple days ago and it triggered my fear of mortality so much... this happened with my first daughter too. :( nice to know I'm not alone.
I've decided to live in radical honesty, to a point. Like I wouldn't hurt someone's feelings just because but with my family, my sons.
My youngest is 14, has Autism/Adhd. He's a great kid but very nieve. So we talked about how he feels uncomftable because his legs are hairy now. I explained, you know what pretty much most people have hairy legs. Women would have hairy legs if they weren't conditioned from a early age to shave.
So comfort is very different than shame. I wanted to make sure he knew that.
That's just one example and you know what giving our kids a realistic view of A) what being a woman really is, ageing, social norms and what feels norm for you B) Teaching they don't have to do what society/friends tell you, do what's safe and good for you.
You know what it is so freeing !
I still shame myself due to my Adhd but I feel I'm getting more in balance.
So Laura, do you babes! ❤ because your emotional/sensory/nervous system & physical health comes before LA type casting and you are the best.
Happy birthday momma !!
I talked to a friend today about shame, we both habe ad(h)d and shame is such a big topic in our life. Its so healing to realize that and allowing ourselves to let it go where no shame is needed.
@jaa12344 exactly, we hold so.much and there is only.so much.we can carry. I'm so happy you have a Neurospicey friend to talk too. It makes all the difference x
@@MrCogan555 thats true. Reminder to be gentle to ourselves 🙏🏻
I get so excited when I see your videos pop up!!! 🎉 You are my therapy haha! (My mom died in 2016 😢)
I continue to follow you because I like you!! And yes you are funny ❤❤❤
I can describe it in two words when it comes to my relationship with my mother. She's dead. Alcoholism is what took her. We have come to terms with it before she passed. That's the only mother I had known was an alcoholic. I loved her very much. My aunt got custody of us triplets by 11 and she is wonderful. If I could describe my aunt in 3 words: best effing friend.
My relationship with my mom: Sensory Over Load
I am in my late 30s and I have a lot of white hair on top of my head. I am just going to let them come in. To be honest, I have never dyed my hair. One time I put highlights in, but I am just going to let them come. I am hoping I turn all white like my dad and my great grandma. Wishful thinking but I hope.
I understand the chaos & the love of family. I have 3 adult sons (2 of them have kids) & an 8 year old daughter. I also have 8 grandkids. 10, 10, 8, 6, 5, 4, 2 & an infant (5 girls & 3 boys). My dad is 99% blind & my mom has M.S plus a bunch of other health issues. I love my mom, but we do have a relationship that I can't put into words. I just turned 48 on June 23rd & on the same day celebrated my 30th wedding anniversary. I just want to lose 80 pounds!
I've been scared of aging since I was 25 and now just turned 35. I still struggle but I try to remember how much I've been torturing myself for no reason since I was 25 over aging and now I look back and see how stupid I was and the same will happen when I turn 45. I don't want to make the same mistake again. So the only thing I can do is try to maintain the proper perspective.
Haven’t spoken to my mom in 12 years.
Before she passed away it was wonderful ❤
Happy belated birthday to Mom! ❤
I gave up my whole life to move and take care of my Mom for my sister to still be her favorite...
Nothing but love😊
My grandkids all wished me a happy birthday & they wished me & my husband happy anniversary & so did our daughter, but none of our 3 sons did. My dad did as well, but my mom never called me. lol
The aging thing has to be hard because Stephen was dating those younger beautiful women. Everyone knows that’s why you got jealous and got back together too. He worked your insecurities like a pro.
It’s weird, but I’ve felt more free and happier as I grow older. I still make an effort to look after myself, but I do it just for me, not anyone else. I just turned 60 a few months ago and I tell everyone! Lol 😂
11:58 i follow you for all what you said. How your open about real life stuff. The whole food you find.
I’m also the youngest of five kids. Three older sisters and two older brothers. I am 60 and look 40. I’m so glad because I fear getting old. I color my hair mostly the roots. I don’t want to walk around with grey hair. I have few wrinkles and lines. No Botox. Yet…. lol I can relate about not wanting to get older.
Hey Laura just wanted to reach out and say I love your videos watched you since the stephen filter days on Facebook 😂 feel like we would get along so well all the things you talk about I really resonate with and you always make me laugh ❤ also just wanted to say I love what you mentioned about aging and i think if a man truly is the one for you he will love every change that comes with life every wrinkle and imperfection and if he doesn’t he’s not the one but it definitely is scary with social media and p*rn pushing unatural standards on us constantly 😢 hopefully we can try and set an example to not pass it to the next generations to come but it’s something i worry abt as young peoples brains haven’t even developed yet and im sure they feel the pressures also happy birthday to your Mum!! 🎉 by far my fav videos when she’s on the pod ❤
You know what’s awesome about aging is?? That you really don’t give a flying fig what anyone thinks!! Even if you are super self conscious about all things egotistical, you just don’t care, because you finally learned to regard your own thoughts on any given thing the opinion that matters most. It’s effin awesome! BTW, Laura, your are a beautiful woman! 17, 27, 37. You are stunning and you will be at 47, 57, 67 & 77. By then you won’t care anyway, you just love yourself for who you ARE!
Turned 60 last week! 🎉 I used to have all the worries you do around looking my age. So freaking happy to tell you they are gone! Vanished! Vanquished by the real, true, hard-won understanding of what's real. LOVE. If your face shows laughter and your eyes show love ... that's gorgeous babe ! I recently consulted about a boob lift. Not for looks, for comfort. It's time to comfort and love myself, and bras just don't do it. Decided against it, and the $13,000 exchange it would require, what?! So, my saggy boobed self 9s now burning bras over here, and I've never been happier!! As for my relationship with my mom ... work in progress!! I follow you because you make me laugh. A lot! 🤣
And sometimes cry. I INITIALLY followed you for your zany, but I also love the real. The serious, vulnerable, kind, zany you! 🥰
You’re so beautiful Laura I look up to you as a 22 year old and I don’t think you need any of that you naturally look young
I look 50ISH I'm told. Turn 67 this August One of the best things about aging too me is I DON'T CARE ABOUT THE BULL OTHER DISH OUT OR OUT TO EAT AND SOMTHING DRIPS ON MY SHIRT NO PROBLAM. AGING FOR ME HAS BEED FREEING
I have the exact same feelings about aging as you do Laura 😂
Relationship w my mother--frustrating, infuriating, disappointing, hurtful
I had the video sound off and just captions on and I could tell your voice change by your facial expressions 😂
Well, my mom's in Heaven 😢
Same 😞
Big hugs to you both ❤😢
I hope you see this Laura, I'm so curious for personal reasons, how long ago did he get diagnosed? Did they say when they think it started? I have concerns about the STM from diabetes
We use to be super close I didn’t do anything without her.. but as she’s gotten older idk it’s changed I think we both have changed..
My mum n I can't be in same state, without abuse. There's too many years of damage and unaccountability.
Before you even said move to the farm it's exactly what I was thinking. We'll I was thinking a vosot at least. Farm animals are soo healing fir kids with autism and basically everyone. When you come let us know and I'll come meet you in person. OG follower.
White cheese - cheese is apparently made to be very addictive!!
Wow... I suspect a lot of your worry about getting older definitely stems from where you live. That's incredibly stressful! 🙈
I'm 52 and of course sometimes I'm annoyed that I'm no longer 30, slim, sporty and super sexy. Or that I also have more physical problems, like back pain or something similar.
But that's not all that defines me. I also see many advantages in getting older. I'm more relaxed. I no longer identify myself by my appearance, but by who I am, what I can do, what I know.
But above all, in my culture it is not common to manipulate one's appearance so blatantly in order to look young. That means everyone else is getting older too. And it's okay! Here it is more the case that the plastic appearance of some American women is totally frightening and more repulsive than they find it pleasant. And that makes it much easier for us women to come to terms with life after menopause.
By the way, I personally don't follow you because you're such a clown, but because you're so phenomenally open, reflective and self-critical. You are so real, honest and sincere in all the fake news madness out there. And that's why I really cling to you and accompany you in your life from far away. 😉
And last but not least: My personal opinion is that women also become more mature and beautiful with age. The smile lines bring a much more special beauty and depth to the face that I simply miss in the smooth skin of twenty-year-olds.
I hope you get to the point where you can accept yourself as you are and still feel comfortable in your own skin! 🙏😘
Wow this was wonderful to read. Thank you for sharing! ❤️
Moving could be a good thing. I grew up jn Southern California and have been a refugee to Tennessee for the last almost 20 years and would never go back
You are so beautiful! ❤
Love /hate with me and my mom
I feel exactly the same way Laura. Im going between should i live alone, have pets and never care about how i look ever again because whats the point in trying when men can just watch 19yo in porn. Or do i try and compete and get married and have a kid and most likely divorce because my husband hides a porn addiction from me. It doesnt matter where you live either. All men have porn addictions now unless they actively work on it. Smh i dont want to have a kid with a man who watches porn. Sad world we live in..
I also forgot my mums bday last year after a Hell year lol so glad im not alone. Were all strugglinb ❤
My mom is Insane, capricious and dastardly!
Honestly, I didn't even know I had wrinkles, till my girlfriends group started buying these crazy creams with retinol, baccuciol, talking about fillers. Then one day I looked myself in the mirror and I realized I had those deep wrinkles on my face. And then I started comparing myself with other women. I started comparing myself with you. How come Laura looks so pretty, when she is even older than me, why did I aged so badly? Have I missed to drink enough water, my mother has good genes, it should be my mistake. Then I bought creams, started taking care of my face, started hating my face, which reflected on my self esteem. And then just one day I said to myself: "You have two options: botox or loving yourself". I decided to love my self, to embrace myself. And how happy am I now with that. I can see the fact that I have huge pretty green eyes, thick hair, long lashes, and somewhere among all of that I have wrinkles too.
3 words: She's my mountain
Oh wow! You’re absolutely amazing! And inspiring! Thank you ❤️
Laura. I have ADHD. I did a gene test on genesight and found out that I have the mthrfkr gene 😂 no really it's called MTFR gene which puts me in a high adrenaline mode. It's a mouth swab and super easy this may be part of the ADHD. Just wanted to share because I also found out this gene doesn't let me digest enzymes in my liver and something such as Zoloft made me manic or worsened depression and was making me very ill. I know you like all natural but the genesight gave me a printout of every medication I can and cannot take including ADHD meds. ❤ Luv ya when your in chi town hit me up if love to meet you. I was in your sister colleens class
Well, my mom's dead. But our relationship was really really good.
When she was alive she called herself old from as far back as I can remember. She always dissed on her appearance/weight. She hated her birthday and getting older. But she died at 58 years old. I think if she could magically be here today maybe she would be more grateful for her birthdays. But to be truthful I dog on myself so hard and the wrinkles and what-not are making me insane. I want so bad not to care. But it plagues my thoughts. I hate it. I wish I didn't care about my face or body.
ADHD is very popular right now, last year it was narcissism. We all have features of ADHD but you have to hit all the marks to have a diagnosis. Yeah everybody gets distracted and talks too much and forgets things. It doesn't mean you have ADHD. I'm a therapist and I know what I'm talking about.
I like your content because you are real and funny, not because, if you lose that well that would be a shame, please dont keep getting botox etc.
A real and mature man understands that we age, and loves you just as you are.
i miss my mum,,i lost her when I was 17..Not being judgy,but wish you did not use botox,,you do not need it.Plus,do snakes have to die for the venom,,curious as I really do not know,,I am 63 and do not like aging,but yes,it is a privilege to get older,as there are many who are not with us anymore,,❤❤❤❤,,love your t-shirt
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Is botox not the toxin from the bacteria that causes botulism? If not I have misunderstood something along the way 😅
Relationship with my mom is : non existent
I love you ❤
I miss mom 😞
It's been 14 years of missing my Mom for me. Hugs to you.
@@lisastrahota6831 thank you .. hugs to you as well 🥰
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My relationship with my mom dysfunctional
They probably came for an intervention to save you from yourself. I hope it worked. Always hoping the best for you. Glad you had fun with your family for sure.
You just described living in a multigenerational household.
As far as how i feel about aging...it sucks. I look younger than i am but im broke AF so no botox for me.
bring her flowers
Your mom shares a birthday with my 6 year old!
I miss mine as se died 3 yes ago
Is Botox vegan? If it's snake venom
I repeated "it's not good" three times 😅
I can explain it in 3 syllables nonexistent
Is that Adam Sandlers voice? 😂
That's a Lotta kids😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
ooh, could be: Toxic. No contact.
I'm relieved to know you use botox because I keep looking at your skin wondering how do you have no wrinkles. I understand being in the public eye how the pressure gets to you. I'm 46 and have some lines and honestly its hard to accept because I see women online with no wrinkles all the time so I struggle. Thankfully I don't have the money for botox😂
Aging is part of life😅😂