Face Your Traumas or They Will Haunt You
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- Опубліковано 2 жов 2024
- In the past, I spent a lot of time running from my traumas and sometimes catch myself doing it now, it only makes things worse. It’s impossible to heal if you don’t face your problems. I decided to learn a song on guitar that was hard to listen to because of the memories attached to it from a past relationship. I had been avoiding simply listening to the song because it always breaks me down, but you have to face your issues if you want to heal and grow. I want to inspire others to do the same.
Your different from any other self help youtuber, you actually feel like another human being trynna tap into us spiritually and mentally. Much love keep up the good work
REAL !
Glad I’m not the only one that still thinks or cares about someone from years ago
Its ok to miss or remember someone who was a good person to you and treated you right,but if they ever did you bad then forget them immediately because you gotta let that shit go bro. Hope your happy ❤
@@GigaShiv yeah I agree more so miss the feeling i had with her than the girl herself, you as well bro happiness is a work in progress
Not alone at all❤️
fr tho 🤝
You are with your brothers here! Don't worry!
this man made me undarstend in 20 minutes more than i could in 17 years,thank you
Proud of you! This is what inspires me the most. I love seeing other people show their humanness. I'm launching my own podcast to face my own traumas, it'll be an incredible journey that I'm excited to embark on, As they say, shame thrives in secrecy, and loses its power when you share your story with others. Much love Shimon!
I'm surprised nobody talks about the attachment that forms between music and trauma
There's a song i can't play on piano anymore because it gives me extreme anxiety
I've already tried a few times lately but i have to stop after just a few notes
Thank you for shedding light on this and I'm glad to see other people have similar thoughts on the topic
Good message. It's called anchoring. It can be a good or bad anchor to music. Anchors form at peak emotional states, then link or anchor to the sensory input (music, a picture, an image, a smell, etc). You can create and break anchors. Look it up. There's NLP techniques that will help. 🙏💪🏼
Hey bro, literally found your channel yesterday, and man, you have no ideia of how much you helped me. Was having the hardest anxiety crisis I've had in my entire life since thursday, and since yesterday I feel like I've met a friend who is giving me advices I needed, and my mind is finally a little bit quieter. I promise to be a better version of myself and not ever thinking of hurting myself again. Happy new year to you man, and a sincere thank you from brazil.
The carnival thing happened to me too.
I knew this one girl, Eva. I met her in grade 9. I never noticed her at first, but I started to recognize her from just her voice, her legs, and even just her walking pattern. On this exact day, I could not stop thinking about her. No matter what I did, no matter how many pushups I did, no matter how many kilometers I jogged, no matter how many times I sketched her face. I remember every word she ever told me. Every conversation, everything she did for me, every dream, Every intricacy in her. I read her, over and over, like my lines in a play. Every word. Every deed. Every sound. I've never felt this way about anyone. Falling in love with her was something I'll never forget, and sometimes I feel like this memory is gonna turn into deja vu in my next life. I thought about her, and I felt these bubbles fizzing up in my soul. And on the last week of school, I did something that I will always love and hate about myself. I confessed to her. She didn't feel the same way about me. It felt like a shift in my tectonic plates. It left a scar in me.
And then an annual fair happened in my town. I saw her on the first day, 17 torturous times. The next day, I was working for the people who rented the rides and stuff. She stopped by my post so many times that I lost count. And on the last day, I didn't see her. I got paid 300 dollars for 15 hours of work, and I walked home in the dark. Alone with my thoughts. I stopped and sat on a bench where I first started memorizing her. I cried and hit myself so many times, I crawled in the reeds for so long that the sun started rising. I stayed in that bush for 3 days straight.
Haven't seen her since August. I moved to a big city because my aunt was doing drugs behind my back. There's a song I listened to everytime I sketched her, Lost Kitten by Metric. I'm so glad I found your channel. It hurts so fucking much to write all of this.
Thanks for making this video, I really needed to face this thing for so long.
Happy new years.
thats deeep, i hope u conquer the trauma and come out stronger
Wow Man, thank you for this comment it's really brave.
Stay strong bud. God bless.
Stay strong chief time heals♥️
the power of mazzy is amazing, reminiscing abt the times w so many friends and relations i had and this song will always smack everyone in the face that had different music tastes 😂❤
Your videos helped me so much with everything I'm going through
I was in a dark place. Not letting go of the past and screwed up my relationship. Thank you man 🙏🏽. Anytime i feel down I'll always watch your videos 💙
I appreciate you and I’m always happy to help❤️
Thank you so much man. I am so grateful to find your channel at this time. You are truly changing peoples lives with your words, including mine. I have went through so many hard things in my life, and I am only 15. I believe kids shouldn’t have to worry about relationships or whatever situation you are in. But in all just thank you ❤
Good advice bro! I had a girlfriend for three years, we broke up like 8 months ago and i am starting to feel kinda weird about that, i think i have to embrace all the feelings that i didnt want to accept in the last months
mazzy star be making me so emotional cuz of the girl i tie it 2 , u get it fr
I appreciate the talk! Thanks for opening up about mental health. You’re making a difference about social stigma that men doesnt talk
Much love man big things coming this year for you, you have an amazing heart and I know that pain all too well. If your going through that right now there’s light at the end of the tunnel I promise it’s just a long walk to get there, you’ve just got to keep going ❤🙏
I’m so glad I stumbled across your videos.
I hardly ever comment on UA-cam but this time I had to…
The moment you said that the song that played was Fade Into You, I legit felt so shocked because this is a song no one in my orbit knows that holds such a grip on my heart and soul, it just captures the emotion of a specific feeling.
Mazzy Star expresses that feeling too well.
I also play the guitar too and it’s one of my favorites to just play and sing along to.
Never stop doing what you’re doing good sir, you’ve already done so much for my life in such a short time!
Much love!
Jessie
You are spreading some wise words out here brother. Thank you for sharing and being compassionate and kind. I'm a girl but your videos have helped me so much and made me not feel alone
I just started watching your videos about quitting and it has motivated me to do something about it and I just want to say thank you.
I’m proud of you
it’s a blessing to be turning my entire life around and at the same time have you come up on my recommendations just yesterday. life’s telling me something
I beat the addiction of PMO two years ago and one year ago I started facing the root of the addiction: Loneliness.
It's the last day of *2023* and I still have absolutely *no* peace when it comes to wishing for a girlfriend when it is not my time yet.
God bless everyone and happy new year !! 🎉🎊❤️Love from Romania🇷🇴
You made it to the end of the year stay strong!!!
Hey man much love to you but tbh a girl wouldn't just come to you. You gotta work for it. Not trying to be edgy or something. Sorry.
Definitely needed this
I feel like I always run from my social issues
true, had a similar experience tho it wasnt a relationship but just a bad friendship where i was basically severely bullied and used like a servant, i had no backbone, i was skinny, the youngest and i was short and this lasted for 2 years but the damage was doe, i had no confidence left, then i moved to a diffrent school and i thought i had gotten over it, till years later when i saw someone that jsut looked like my bully/friend, on the bus, i got so scared, heart racing everything, i felt so pathetic, its like i was back to being 12 years old and i had made no progress. i finally had to confront myself, and aknowledge my own faults in this and my weaknesses and work on fixing that, started hitting the gym,worked on tho i dont like the word trauma cus it make sme feel weak, i had to go and read about psychology, the mind, the soul, and all that and start rebuilding my personality.
Dealt with this yesterday night, although I ain’t like 100% comfortable with the people, we talked and we made amends, I never thought that
I understand bro, that music hits different when it's related to those moments with that person. Mine was The Afterman by Coheed and Cambria. Still love her just like you do with yours. I'm starting to realize, because I avoided this, that a big part of that healing is hoping the best for them even though they aren't with us anymore. Love you man and I doubt she will see this, but love you too April.
REAL❤️
30th April was a wonderful day for you and it is actually for me cuz it’s my birthday ,recently saw you channel and i’m goin crazy about your videos also watch your videos to train my listening skills cuz i learn dat language
To Let Go ❤ is to face it, aware of it, face it, acknowledge it, decides not to repeat “it”.
True Settlement achieves.
Can detach from it.
First Arrow is unavoidable.
but second arrows and infinite arrows after that is “just us stab into ourselves again and again” because we feel “hole” and not whole so that arrows are to filled in.
Arrows are trauma.
Stop stabbing ourselves.
sit in that uncomfortable feeling and healing.
yes we need something to not let our bloods flow too much 😂
“Youll live a long time yet, shimon, an eternity without me”
Ouch
the older brother we never had
great video man, proud of you for being so open with this kinda thing. Ive been through a similar experience so thanks for making this video. With the coming new year i now feel i have the courage to face it. Best of luck to you in the new year
❤️likewise my friend
mazzy star, i already know bro... that song triggers so many emotions dude. i recommend listening to black by pearl jam, it's really strong and it's sort of a comfort song to me personally. honestly, discovering your channel has been such a blessing. listen to you when i wake up doing my morning routines and applying what you say to my life. it's like someone speaking to me to change for the better. you're a life changer dude and i appreciate you for helping people who need guidance themselves. i wish you a happy new year filled with more achievements!
Much love to you g and likewise❤️thank you
Man you doin' really good, keep doing the videos, they make me feel better
i cry when i watch your video. im fucked, my life is over. i try to do something about it but iam depressed and nothing helps...its my second time depression hit me and not the last time at least thats what my doc said.
I deeply fell in love with a beautiful girl and she relocated to another continent. Love hurts really bad and since she left I haven’t spoken to her but our memories keeps flashing at me.
I really want to forget her cause I understand that we can’t get everything we want in life
Great stuff brother, everything you say and even the background music is beautiful, thank you.
Thanks for listening
Really love your videos man. Been binging them ever since i found you a couple days ago and the ideas you explore are super real and complex.
Cant thank you enough for the wisdom you give me, keep going you gon make it.
I appreciate you !❤️🤞🏾
Thank you for this man, I’ve been avoiding Lewis Capaldi’s The Pretender for the same reason. Use to listen to it in her car while I held her, beautiful girl it just didn’t work out. I’m going to listen to that song on repeat and just feel it all so I can let her go, been carrying the memory of her along with me for too long.
❤️I commend you
Man I’ve been watching you for some weeks now and idk how you do it but you know how to speak to people. It’s like you were meant for this I appreciate the wisdom man and all the time you’re putting into all these videos
The songs that get me are Linger by The Cranberries and Iris by The Goo Goo dolls she always associated those songs with me and whenever I hear them I get crazy flashbacks
Bro your videos are amazing.
Would really like to hear about your top 5 book recommendations
I don’t read unfortunately but that will be changing soon❤️I appreciate you though
@@AskShimon no worries, you better start tho, its a great way to expand your knowledge
First Born Children are cursed, especially only children . We take on our parents trauma and bad habits head on and still have the hypocritical expectation to be better.
I’m 24 I’ve tried to permanently change but failed so many times. Success doesn’t come my way because I have very little self esteem even though I try to be better.
Tragedy may come my way but I want all of you looking at this comment to break the curses in your family so that you don’t spread more demonic energy towards your innocent kids and people who truly care about you.❤
Happy New Year!!!🎉
Same to you fam❤️
Am I the only one here that has the fear of throwing up?
It’s actually a pretty common thing
its always that damn song man. soon as you hear the first note its all downhill from there on out.
Best channel bru
Your videos are great brother, I felt that so deeply.
Thank you for putting in the work man.
I do have a question for you, how do I face the trauma, how can I attack it, i know it's there and it keeps hitting me every now and then but I don't know what to do about it. I really appreciate any help you can provide. ❤❤❤🙏
It's really hard for me to let
It goes, because it kept coming back to me like I have a flashback like a video been rewind and replay. it make me even more angry wish I could done something about it. But it getting better taking my time learning to become the better version of my self
I messed up man me and my girl broke up and I never really got over it and I messaged her friend asking how she was doing. And my (ex) girl messaged me saying she’s fine and to stop messaging her friends. I feel bad man.
Just move on g❤️we have to keep moving forward and control what we can control
@@AskShimon thank you this video opened my eyes I need to confront my feelings and move on
I face the same thing again and again every day. At first it was so devastating. But later on, the degree of pain just lowering and lowering, to the point that now i can accept the reality and grt along with that. But yeah, i've been in the same situation
Keep it up I love alll you do, also can you give me some advice on how to love myself more for who I am and the way I look?
dude if you ever stop making these i might actually cry you will never understand how much your videos have changed my life and helped me i hope everthing in your life treats you good but i know we need to learn from the bad to develop and to enthe lessons taught to us and the time we have here thank you so much
Have a great year man! I'm a Brazilian who found your channel on the verge of difficulty in overcoming a problem and you and your advice were very important ❤️🤝
I appreciate you ❤️
Bruh theres no way cuz i literally been thinking bout my ex from years ago nd bouta go to her house leave her a letter or bring a boom box and play sum music and just see what happens
Can yall help me i have negative thoughts to leave my girl and everytime when i text her something is holding me back and bc of that i became nonchalant 🙁 i wanna love her like the old days again can yall please help me? Idk what to do i hate getting mad on her i hate doing annoyed to her
Agreed I been trying to heal from my trauma since 12 and my mom passing away at 17 I been running since 2022 and then this year I got traumatized by a girl this year and realized what I’ve become because of it
Hey man I found your content a few days ago and I couldn’t be happier. Currently I’m going throught a tough time. My grandma is in the hospital and I’ve been dealing with a lot of past issues that scare me. But idk Everytime I go on UA-cam I’m looking forward to see your new videos. They’ve been helping a lot with a lot of recent pains. So for new years thank u and may god bless u and anyone reading
Happy new year, your videos help me so much. Thank you shimon
If i could invest in UA-camr‘s i would invest in you no cap fr
please what is the song of the background (it motivate me)
I loved this video brother your really showed that you are extremely relatable and that you've been through and are going through similar challenges to us, I salute your brother Amen.
This is the channel I needed, thank you for the content brother. I'm happy to witness the growth and success from these videos.
the first line of the song alr got me fucked up dis aint even funny😔
I swear you always upload a video the right time. And the video is always about something I deal with at that time.
Shoutout from India 🇮🇳 ❤homie
What's your Zodiac sign bro🔥
Pro I been watching your videos the last 2weeks and you changing my mindset pro appreciate your content god bless ❤
I appreciate you ❤️
I've got trauma not even from heartbreak or whatever
I got accused for something I didn't do
And was at a possibility of lifetime imprisonment
This hurts me a lot
And basically everyone around me remind me of it.
This video was way too relatable😅
What’s the song u play in the background? It’s nice
Yeass finally the video I've been waiting for. "A video about Trauma" ..mayne , bro always got our backs guys💪🏼
Always
hey my brother, i just found out about you, and im happy i did. i watched this video to the end and its one of the very few videos i could watch without skipping ahead. i just want to thank you for being full honest and share your story. it kinda feels good to know that there are people that went through the same thing as me. I subbed, Have a great week !
Ngl imma be honest I was doin shi I wasn’t supposed be doin and trust the wrong dude who back door me and Jump my ass wit his homie at this moment I want to get my get back but idk if that would make me any better than him
It would put you in a worse situation
Bro I just found you cause UA-cam recommend your "Corn" is horrible video and how to overcome the addiction. Watched another video, and another video. This right here hits on so many levels, this is what I NEED right now bro. Thank you thank you thank you I appreciate what you do, I know it's rough, but I am at a point in my life where I need to let her go. I need to stop succumbing to quick and easy pleasures. I look forward to your content and your amazing advice.
That song does hit by the way, mine is less than zero by the Weeknd.
Someone get this man a Ted Talk
Happy new years, much love and appreciation for all of your videos, keep it up.
Same to you and i appreciate you❤️
I broke up with my ex a couple months ago and I ran from it. I loved her more than anything and it was a mistake I will never live down. And recently it’s come to haunt me and I’ve been forced into devoting my current life to facing that horrible reality of what I’ve done. I just hope she’s doing well.
Hey bro i found your chanel earlier today and i havent stoped watching your videos scince ... you are really helping me thanks bro 🎉also happy new years btw
I love you man
Such beautiful, raw emotion. Brought a tear to my eye. Thank you for all you do, may 2024 bring you health and happiness. I love you ❤
Thank you for being open. Thank you for the videos and thank you for the song. It’s now my new favorite of all time.
I feel you,its a hard song,but beautiful,can be though even if you dont have strong memories with it,it triggers emotions..
The same trauma happened to me with my ex girlfriend, one year ago. She left and put me through ringer. Found another guy that was better in more then one life column. Told him she loved him in front of me. I went home one night and had a panic attack and crying at the same time while sleeping. We talked it out and are now friends. She’s still with the same guy to this day.
i try but i find it hard to hold onto things and i just generally dont have many cares, but things that has happened to me still make me sad even tho i know ive moved on? idk how but thats the way it is for me. im making my way through it tho. and i will admit i am the happiest ive ever been even tho i am struggling to be who i really am. maybe im in denial? idk. but im chillin
YOOO YOU ACTUALY PASSED 70K BEFORE NEW YEAR!!🔥🔥💪🏾💪🏾
what’s the background song called ?
wow i have to say that i really love your videos, they really speak to me, you are so wise the way you can light up human emotions, guaranteed you gonna have 1m subs by the end of 2024 ❤😁
I just miss my best friend man
💪🏼💪🏼
If you're the one who messed up, is it best for me to be delusional and try to get her back or focus on me first? It's been three years. However, her face & name just stays in my head.
Focus on you g
@AskShimon hopefully we all heal and save earth for the next generation. Learn to guide instead of control, so much pain we hold on to thinking there is no on to talk too. We have the same origin, brothers and sisters we should be there for each other. Thanks for hearing out.
Fade into you is one of the prettiest songs ever
Dawg... 😂them lyrics 😢
I like your style and personality ill do my best to support you.
Ur the best bro. I wish you th3 best through this rough patch 🙏
ur such a beautiful timeless soul bro
One of my friends just took their life last night. This was a wonderful video to wake up to ❤
I’m sorry to hear that and I commend your strength❤️
Keep winning brother 📈💪🏻
Always🤞🏾
Happy New Year bro
You really have really helped me
I am still in a somewhat blind place in my life
Mainly just overthinking about every situation causing to fail to enjoy life however you are really helping to guide to a better mind
Thank you so much bro 👏
Let’s keep making progress
@@AskShimon I will bro and it is all because of you sir
Without you I would be in a unhealthy state of mind but because of you’re own mind you are helping improve mine 🫴
man, i learned this lesson
Maan, i'm proud of you now, you told us ur history w/ her, that was hard for you. Thank you very much too, for your effort for us, it really helped me and others. I hope i understood it well, I'm from Poland and my English is not that much good to understand everything. happy new year
I appreciate you and happy new year
As soon as you said the song name it made sense
I’m not alone
Where that hoodie from
facts
just discovered your account yesterday, I've received a lot of advice from many people in person, over the internet, and you have been by far the best influence for me to overcome my struggles. you just speak in a way that I understand so much, you're a great man bro i meant that, love from Australia. ❤
I appreciate you❤️much love !