I knew I liked girls at the age of 3 !!! Tried coming out when I was 7 and a few more after that. I am now 35 (maturity level 15 😜) and finally openly coming out to everyone after a failed marriage and decades of depression and suicidal thoughts. All this due to extreme pressures from religious beliefs and homophobia. If anyone is struggling, please don't give up! It is absolutely true that it does get better! I'm happy we have an entire community to help and support each other. I only wish I had Paige and Holly 20+ years ago. Nothing but ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 and 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈
I'm coming out hopefully, the fear is what is keeping me back. I tried the marriage gig it didn't work out at all. Now I am facing the fear of having to come out. I was out in my 30's now I'm in my late 50's having to do it again. I married because I was cured according to the religious people and my parents were thrilled. Now I am afraid very afraid. Mostly of what others will think.
@@elizabethpebblesmagee1157 What matters is what YOU think. Do not define yourself by trying to look through others eyes. Even as a heterosexual male, I spent too many years intimidated by what I thought others might think of me. BE YOURSELF FIRsT and the rest will follow.
i have to say i am totelly not for the coming out because if you are straight you dont make a coming out so why LGBTQIA+ person have to ? i dont understand personnely i am gay 100000% and i didnt made a coming ou i am 13 years old and i think my parents know but i am not sure and my sister know and she is so perfect she had explain me everything about this amazing comunity and i am so proud to be part of ( so sorry for the orthograph i am frensh sorry )
Elizabeth Pebbles Magee people think what they want you cant make them think what you want them to think ( really hard to say has a frensh personn ) if you do that or that or that people are gonna disagree do what you want dont be afraid of they reaction do what you want like you want when you want and be proud of who you are
Hey ladies. If you remember me (Lush) you will know that I am the proud dad of a beautiful 19 year old daughter, who, amongst other things happens to be a lesbian. HOWEVER.....I have to say that I found this really interesting, and gave a good insight into something that I obviously could never experience. I'm looking forward to the rest of the series, but may I make a suggestion? (Well I'm going to anyway LOL) Something that I haven't come across in the lesbian UA-cam community is content aimed at parents. Something covering the questions, concerns and even myths about having a daughter who may or may not be out yet. As well as helping parents with experiences and advice, this could also help girls in dealing with her own parents. It could even be something that a girl could invite her parents to sit down and watch together. Luv & Stuff as always from Manchester, England xx
Excellent Video! You both have helped me so much. My wife and I have been together for 21 years next month, I have not always been comfortable being OUT and Proud, but thru watching you guys I have settled down and learned it’s Ok to Be Gay!! I’m 64, being gay was not ok in my school years, gays and lesbians were not looked at in a good light, sad to say I have carried some of that with me. Watching you both be so proud of who you love, being so carefree has helped me let go.. I Love my wife totally and completely without reservation. I have the relationship I always dreamed I could have when I was younger....and after 21 years, I can’t wait to fall asleep and wake up with her by my side...If you want affirmation that what you are putting out is helping people, I Proudly stand in that line! Wearing my P/H hat of course!
I have only just discovered Paige and Holly but just wanted to say how awesome this was to read! I still struggle with it all but it's great to hear about how much difference these role models make!
@@PaigeAndHolly Hello, I’m a fan of yours and I was just wondering if you could please post a video where one of you gives the other a short brief piggyback ride?
I remember being really young and daydreaming about wanting to be married or in a relationship with a girl but in these dreams I was always a guy. In my little innocent pre-Internet brain that was the only way I could see to have a wife or girlfriend. Ive never had gender issues or wanted to be anything but female. Obviously the concept of girls being with girls or boys being with boys hadn’t entered my world at that point. I had no idea there were other options apart from the straight society I was raised in. In my subconscious I knew I wanted a girl so my subconscious placed me in the male role. 🙂
You don't understand how this helped me I am so happy that this Chanel came in to my life because it helped me see that being lesbian is ok and I shouldn't be ashamed by it and thank you for being the people that showed it to me
Paige and Holly, you guys are amazing and this video series is very thought provoking and totally helpful. I didn't come completely out until I was 49!! That's sort of late to accept who I truly am. Believe it or not, I lived a totally "closet" life until my 49th year which is very sad when I think about it. I am a school teacher who lived and worked in a town of 2,500 people and gay people were totally disparaged in my town. I had many relationships with women, but nothing made me happy. Hiding in the dark was no fun. Believe it or not, subscribing to your channel gave me something that I totally related to. You two are so genuine and relatable. I would listen to your videos and you gave me something I never had. CONFIDENCE. So one day while I was looking at your coming channel, I was struck by Paige's coming out video and later Holly's coming out video and something resonated inside me and I totally can't pinpoint any one thing, but I decided I was tired of being miserable and I started by talking to people and family members and really the ones who counted in my life were for the most part accepting. The ones who didn't respond well, the hell with them. The point of my story is there is never a set time to come out. It can happen at any time of your life. There are many many resources that I didn't know of. Now I'm in a loving relationship with the most beautiful woman I've ever known. I am completely accepting of myself!! You guys are beautiful!! Keep your series going. We need more people like you to be a resource for struggling LGBQT+ community people. If 1 person is helped, it's worth doing. Hats off to you special women!! Someone watching needs to hear your message. Love your channel.
Okay, so I decided to share my experience. Honestly, when people ask me how did I realize I was gay I’m ashamed to tell them the story, but you know what? Now I’m gonna share! So before I came out to myself I was really ashamed of changing in front of girls or sharing a bathroom or a locker room with girls. The thing is, no other girl had this problem. In summer camps, girls were taking showers together and had absolutely no problem with being naked in front of each other. But I was the one who always had to hide, who was covering herself with blankets and screaming that she can’t change with everyone there. So the girls were frowning at me and always telling me this damn sentence, that haunts me to this day: „Hey, we’re all girls! It’s okay!”. For them „we’re all girls” meant there was nothing sexual in being naked around each other. But I never understood how the fact that we were all girls should have made me feel more comfortable. I was bullied most of my life by both girls and boys and this complicated my coming out story a little bit. I didn’t have very close girl friends, but nor was I friends with the boys. I was usually just hanging out alone. I never felt understood by anyone around me and I always felt different. I mean, sure, there were times when I felt closer to someone, usually a girl, and have these high hopes about us being best friends, but it always went to shit. So my coming out journey involved a lot of staring at girls’ boobs and then looking away. I was actually kind of creepy. When it comes to childhood experiences, the gayest thing I’ve ever said was at the age of 8, when I was on a school trip with my class. I was changing for the night alone in the motel room (because I couldn’t change with girls around, like I already said) when a girl I was sharing the room with and who should have waited outside stormed in. I immediately covered myself up and she said that I don’t need to do it, because, you guessed it, we’re both girls. So I answered: „Okay, but I don’t want you to see my pussy, because we’re not even friends and if a girl were to see my pussy, she had to be someone special!” Yes. I literally said that. No, I still can’t believe I said it. Then, at the age of 9, I became kind of obsessed with a girl in my class who was a tomboy and who would beat up any boy that was mean to her. I became her friend, but I felt incredibly betrayed when she started hanging out with another girl. We had a massive fight. She obviously didn’t understand why I was so upset. I didn’t understand either, but we stopped talking for about four years. But yeah, a good thing that happened once I came out to myself was that I became a little bit less weird. I’m still plenty weird, though.
I’m 29 and I came out 2 days ago. T W E N T Y NINE It looks me that long to realise that I’m gay and that there were ALL the signs now that I look back. My dad’s homophobia stopped me from being myself and made me force myself to be “normal”
Usually when i listen to lesbian couples give "advice" it just gets frustrating because they act like it's the easiest thing in the world and "fuck what people think" but this was actually SO validating and helpful as someone who is still not out so fucking thank you honestly, some of us needed this
And to add to your great job you have done. I wanted to add, don’t rush, don’t feel like you have to be gay or straight by certain age. Me, personally took 20 years of my adult life because I knew that my family wouldn’t accept it, but when THE woman that open my heart and I knew that she was worth fighting for, I went for it and didn’t care about anything else, but be happy.
appreciating beauty =/= sexuality. i’ve been a little bit confused lately but this really helped. when i was first coming out, i was not interested in guys at all and didn’t think they were attractive. but this past year i was confused bc i actually thought a guy was attractive but i realized that it wasn’t actually a crush or anything. thanks paige and holly
I can’t tell you how much this video means to me. I’m currently struggling with my sexuality and I’ve been looking for videos like this, but this is the best one I’ve found. My brain is telling me one thing but my heart is telling me something different, so when you two told your stories it really told me I should listen to my heart.
What you’re doing is soo important, and helpful. Whether its more serious content like this video, or just showing a loving, healthy relationship. You’re not hiding the reality of life, and the hard aspects of it. I love you both so much, thank you for helping me, and everyone apart of the PHam💗💗
i relate so much to all of this, youtube helping, having amazing people around and struggling to accept yourself. I first questioned when I was about 14, but ignored it until i was 17 and then it couldn't be ignored anymore. Thankfully by this point i was surrounded by the most incredible people i've ever met, who made it so normal and when i spoke to my best friedn (who is gay) about my confusion, she helped me to work myself out. It was comfortable just keeping it between us but having that one person who understood to help me figure it out and accept it before i was ready to tell everyone else. A year later and I've told everyone. I came out to my mum 2 weeks ago, and she was even more accepting than i had expected (and i'd expected accepting) she literally has been taking me to buy pride stuff, and joining in with my crushes, and nothing has changed most importantly, so I'm so happy to have been able to figure myself out and accept myself with the help of those closest to me. You're so right, it feels so much better once you're out. Its the most confusing time of your life, but once you've accepted it, its such a relief and it feels like the world opens up to you. Having even one person, online or offline to tell and to have it between you can really change everything, so just tell one person you trust and let them help you. p.s. i'm Bi and i don't get offended when people use it or say it was a stepping stone, that's a part of your experience and i get what u mean about it being easier so dw lol. Only issue with it is, is its even more confusing lol cos u can't eliminate men and realise you're gay, u have to work out if u like both or one or the other (maybe why it took me so long).
@@PaigeAndHolly no problem, thank you so much for sharing your stories with us, and for this amazing new series ♡ I feel the same way with u two as u did with rose and rosie it's so refreshing to see people fearlessly themselves and in love! Happy pride xx
17:40 I knew it for 4/5 years and there was just one little peace of me that just wasn’t accept me yet. So i came out. And that was the last peace i needed to accept myself. There still people that dont know it but i dont hide it anymore
What a brilliant idea LGBTea! Belief in oneself is one of the most important bricks in building any successful venture. -Lydia Maria Child. I came out after spending many years in self-denying, and it did feel much better. Your channel is very inspirational, keep up the good work! Love from Australia. P.S. P&H will need sunsreen with much higher UV protection. SPF 50+ when in Australia and New Zealand.
i had a lot of the same admiration of celebrities and girls in my school, never wanted to get married or have kids (with a man) & watched sooo many youtube videos. my first girlfriend and i came out to our friends at the same time when we were 16. it was 100% the scariest thing i ever did but the weight that lifted after was so worth it.
At 43 I fell for a woman....and wow!! I was married and have 2 boys but it was always because its the norm to get married to a guy and have children. But it never was WOW...NEVER!!! And then one day I met this woman who also was married and had two children but was extremely unhappy and wham bam thank you ma'm....the feelings I had and she had and the time we have together is so much more and better ...and now if I look back on my life I knew I was always gay....never had feelings for guys in the normal sence just got married because that its like it should be....but my best friends was my girlfriends at school. Ladies you are awesome and should go on with this tubing....you are helping so many people. Will never unsubscribe from your channel.
After listening this video..I m saying I m lesbian I love girls ...that feeling came when I see girl and hangout with girls is totally different and amazing .. and I never ever felt ..that feeling in case of boys..so I can say I m gay.. Nd nothing is wrong in that .actually my first crush was a girl..so I didnt realise at that time what was happening with me why I had a feeling for that random girl..but now after 6 years of struggling with my identity I can proudly say I m gay..and now I m 19..year old and I m from india and soon I will go to foreign because in india I can't found my real self who I am.. Thanks paige and holly .. Lots of love from india.. And I like holly..you r so cute
I have binge-watched all of your videos in the last two days and can I just say that y'all are so naturally funny, entertaining and adorable and I love you guys.
Ladies, I cannot thank you enough for your videos. I found your channel exactly when I needed you most. You have been such an integral part of my coming out process. I hope to inspire others as you have inspired me. Thank you for being my mentor. I just graduated high school as valedictorian. I was an all-rounded student being the captain of the cheerleading squad, the honor society, debate and track. I'm going on to university to major in mass communication with a concentration in journalism. I'm one of those overachieving people-pleasers. Ugh! I've suspected for a couple of years now that I might be gay but unfortunately, I didn't have anyone in my life I could talk to about it. I'm surrounded by family and friends, but because of this secret, I felt all alone. Without going into detail and being all melodramatic, I seriously thought "what's the point...why go on?". I was that sad and lonely. That's when I discovered you two. I can so relate to you both. But what I love most is how you treat one another. You're so genuine, kind and loving. Goals! Thank you for opening my eyes to new stages of possibilities and strength. I will forever be grateful for your guidance and kindness. Peace.
Thank you for using your platform to talk about your experiences and teaching us what you have learned from those experiences. You guys just get better and better every week and I'm so grateful I ran into your channel when I did. Love you ladies 😍😘💖
Who else feels like coming out is a process and not at all one moment? Like I came out to my parents as Bi a year ago and I still feel like I’m working on it. I still need to come out to some friends and newer people on my life. It takes constant vigilance to fight the heteronormative culture! Along the way I’ve found that I think I fit more with identifying as gay, as Paige and Holly said. To anyone who needs to hear it, stay strong and KEEP FIGHTING TO BE YOU because you are worth it ❤️
Paige And Holly I love you guys! Thanks for giving me a community 🙏🏼 I have very few lgbtq+ people in my life and through your channel I feel like I’m part of something. I’m sure many others can say the same 😍
Oh my god thank you for making this. So many points you two hit on I have never heard anyone else really talk about, and I'm going through those things right now. A lot of the stories I hear are either about someone who knew from a very very young age, or their realization was very quick. Everyone's story is different, and it's okay if it takes awhile to unfold. This is SUPER important for anyone else questioning to watch, especially the young teens out there.
It really helps to hear or read such coming out stories. I am now 21 and questioning my sexuality. This started when my last relationship (it was also my first one) with a boy ended. I realized that I just couldn't connect with him on a physical level. But I also asked myself a few years ago if I was that straight or not. I recognized myself in many of Paige's and Holly's statements and from the videos I have seen on this channel, I feel encouraged to pursue this feeling of being gay. Unfortunately, I don't have enough people to talk about this and now with the restrictions because of corona, it's hard to meet girls who feel the same way as I do
It's been almost a month since I discovered your channel and ever since I've been watching all your videos oldest to newest! Being in a traditional society and a traditional family, accepting myself as gay has been very difficult. But taking time to know myself and understand myself better, I've now accepted myself and am proud of who I am. Even after accepting myself I always feared I'll have to be alone for the rest of my life and that I may not have stuff that happy straight couples have (coz that's what I see around me)...but seeing you guys together has given me hope that maybe I can also have those things I dreamed of, that I didn't have to shut myself and that I can dream to be happy too. So thank you guys for being my happy space. And to everyone who's scared and nervous about themselves, give yourself time and love yourself. There definitely is light at the end of the tunnel and you're not in the tunnel alone.
My momma and her wife are gay and so am I, so having them does help me talk about things that I cant talk to others about. My momma and her wife have helped me so much figure out who I am and have told me multiple times that she will love me no matter who or what I am. I am very blessed to have such and amazing support system like them. Much live my momma...❤
Me 24 years later, I’m glad that my wife first kissed me and me thinking OMG what’s happening to me!!! We woke up in the morning and I was so shocked!! I ❤️❤️ her so much!!!
Thank you so much for making videos. Y'all helped me so so much, figuring it out and coming out to my parents and making my week every thursday. You help me keeping a smile on my face, even when I don't feel like it. Like 1/3 of my group of friends is LGBTQ+ and that actually didnt feel great to me, I felt like I was trying to fit in with them! I'm now slowly coming out to my friends and they are so excepting, both LGBTQ+ and not. So to anyone out there who is experiencing the same as me, they understand, they know how you feel, they have gone through that too!
Thank you, Paige and Holly, it really hit me when you girls said "I've never seen a future with a boy", because that's precisely what happened to me and my ex boyfriend. He would talk a lot about our future and, during that, I was playing Shrek the movie in my head (from the very DreamWorks beginning). Thanks again, you two are the best! Many kisses
Hahaha, don’t ever apologize for being a waste of time, your videos are NEVER a waste of time! You guys make me smile and laugh with every video, and that’s all I could ever ask for from my favorite UA-cam channel! Keep spreading the love, laughs, and spilling that LGBTea. (Love that series title, by the way! It’s very clever!) Happy Pride month from one fellow lesbian to the both of you! :D
This helped me so much! I’ve been going through a rough time with accepting myself for who I truly am even with the support my friends give me so thank you for the video and I wish you guys nothing but happiness 💚💚🏳️🌈
Such important issues: Rationalizing things like celebrity crushes Assumptions on what lgbt is and how that must not be you. Lack of good representation in fiction and good irl rolemodels (bad kinds of stereotypes DO make it on TV often) Fiction can help a lot in bringing awareness. Maybe list shows with nice represention? like MTV's Faking It, Wynonna Earp and PLL or earlier shows like South of Nowhere and Buffy. Maybe even Supergirl (despite SuperCorp being "just friends"... sigh) and the 100 (don't wanna talk about...). Real rolemodels are very important, celebrities that are out are still rare (and it takes some a bit of time). KStew and Lauren finally coming out was fun. Supportive allies and those in between are nice role models too (Camila still in a glass closet?). After the latest thing with Tay Swizzles I still need to calm down 😍. Also still waiting for Dua Lipa, Margot Robbie and Gal Gadot. Also lots of K-Pop girls, but those names won't mean much if you're not into that. Still worth checking out Loona / Chuu with Heart Attack 😁! While fun, even if out or kinda out, most of this fangirling feels the same as fictional representation. And this makes UA-camrs like you so important, for me Shacam and soon after Rose and Rosie were a huge deal. If you convinced yourself there is nothing between a manhating butch stereotype and a femme straight girl seeing them can be eye-opening. Of course real love is so much better than (fan-) fiction!
Thank you guys so much for creating this series, watching your videos always makes me smile and has helped me accept myself and I want you to know that you’re truly an inspiration 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Thank you for posting this video. Even though I have been out with my family and friends for more than half my life this was just so good to hear that I've had a similar experience to someone else. I told my father that I liked girls when I was 11 years old and luckily for me he accepted me right away by saying "I know". My mom was more religious so she believed that I was just going through a phase and that I will "get through it" like it was some type of struggle that I had to put behind me. I first thought that I was bisexual just like you, trying to fit in, thinking that just because I thought this boy was cute that I should date him, but once I had my first ever experience with a girl it was that "ah hah" moment. It felt like firework in my head when I finally realized that boys were just my homies and girls were these mystical beings that I always felt nervous around. It was so much easier for me to be friends with guys. When I finally started high school I told my parents that I only like girls and once again with no surprise my father accepted it right away. He would jokingly say "let's go check out some hot babes" while walking around the mall or hanging at the beach. I was the first out of the closet lesbian in my high school. As I look back at it now, it was really difficult, not only because a lot of straight girls were nervous to be around me thinking that I would hit on them, but it just made it so hard to have female friends without them thinking I wanted to jump their bones or their boyfriends would get jealous of me being around them. Even as difficult as it was, I was able to get through it because I did have the support of SOME of my family and my close circle of friends. Once I told the people that I cared about the most, I knew that no matter what they would be there for me when times got tough. I'm actually going to my high school reunion this weekend and I'm really looking forward to seeing all the people that used to be in the closet but are now out. Once again, thank you guys for all your videos. Thank you for loving each other. Thank you for being an inspiration. Thank you for being you!
For all those who are in the process of coming out or having trouble accepting yourself, don’t rush into finding who you are. I tried to rush when coming out and it just makes it worse, you don’t have to have a label straight away if at all, labels are just something that helps others understand what we are. Labels shouldn’t define what your are yourself. As Holly said it took her years and it did take me a few years, but it’s okay, some people may take months to finally understand who they are but it will also take others longer because we are all different. It will get easier, it just take some time to get to where you want to be. You are not alone in this and there are people always going through it. If you are struggling talk to someone, there is always someone out there, whether it’s on the internet or in real life. It’s okay and you will get there. Stay strong we all love you
Just letting you know that, as a bi girl, I was not offended by you calling it a stepping stone in your personal journey. Awesome video and SO important. You're doing good 😊
And I honestly think you guys putting that out there in such a honest & comfortable environment can be really helpful to sb questioning! (Fun fact: I first thought I was gay and then I was clearly not THEN I was like "ohhh there's more than 2 options, look at that!")
Our biggest issue is having no support yet face harsh judgement and cruelty from it. We thank God for you as a source of strength and inspiration. Thank you so much ❤️ we truly love you and are beyond grateful for your transparency.
When you guys talked about being "picky" with men I was S H O O K. I say that constantly to my friends. Ty guys for always being so genuine, you really do help people every day!! Still figuring myself out one step at a time but I know I'll get there eventually. Love you girls xoxo
this really helped my mental health like I've been in a really dark place for a long time now and watching this video honestly made everything so so so SO much better so thank you for being you and I hope I get to meet you guys one day
Honestly.. thank you for that video because this kinda helped me to clear my mind and be like honest with myself and except my feelings.. so thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼
GREAT ENDING😂😂 I can totally see myself loving this series more and more as it grows. Thanks for sharing your stories @Paige And Holly, it really helped alot 😊👍🏼 Now i can see the reason y i felt/ don't feel certain way, compared to how most of my friends feel....❤ TEA!!😂
Thanks for this video it really helped. I think that im in denial and my parents keep tryna convince me im straight so me head is all over the place but every point you made ticked all my boxes. Thanks Paige and Holly. You guys cheer me up when i need it. Keep up the good work. Xxx
i came out as bi to my best friend the other day, and it was one of the most nerve wracking things ever but i am so proud i did! it took such a huuuuuge weight off my shoulders as i've pretty much known i'm bi for 3 or 4 years now and it feels AMAZING to be able to be my whole true self around my best friend. you guys, other gay youtubers, and the whole lgbtq+ community online has helped me more than i can even explain and spreading awareness with videos like these are so important to help other kids find themselves too. so thank you so much for this series!!
I already love this series already. I can’t wait for more LGBTea videos ❤️❤️ thank you for making these videos. This helped me so much. Thank you so so much girls for helping us understand ourselves more and accept ourselves more. This is why we love you guys so much. Also I love how you can make something so serious also be so funny 🌈🌈🌈
Watching you two always puts a smile on face! Honestly, Paige when you were talking about your story I literally felt like you were saying mine. Pretty much exactly the same except I never had a boyfriend and I most likely could never tell my father in fear of being disowned. Nonetheless, UA-camrs like yourselves, my friends, and many of my family members are very supportive and I’m super grateful for that. A big thank you to the both of you for making such awesome content all the time! Love you both ❤️
Thank you for making videos, you are literally the best you make me laugh with every video and I just love that feeling, never stop doing this I think both of you are making the world better, you are making better my life, thank you so much for everything. Love you!!!
I’m french so forgive my english but CHRIST! I feel so close of what you said! I’m just kind of getting out of deny and this kind of speech is really helping! I’ve never been in a relation or even had a little experience but I’ve been through all these questioning you’re talking about. I never told anyone how I feel even if I would really love to. This is actually the first time I “say it out loud”. But thanks a lot! Indeed it helps to realise your kind of relation does exist. One of the thing that scares me the most about being gay is the fact that it seems way more complicated to find someone..
I relate to seeing people online being open about their sexuality and relationships as a tool to accept yourself so much! I came out as bi when I was 16, but only to my close friends, because my family and living situation is very toxic and homophobic at the moment. I can 100% second what's being said in this video about finding people in your life that will support you no matter what, having a support system helps so much. I still feel alone sometimes, especially since I've started questioning my sexuality again, but I know that there are people out there who love and accept me for who I am, even when people who should support me won't. So don't give up! And never ever forget that you're never alone!
I’ve been out for about 8 months now and it seriously changed my life so much for the better! You guys are so right it always gets better!! Love you ladies!! 💗💗💗
This video is so helpful I can’t believe I’m just finding it now! Thank you so much for making this because it’s so relatable and I wish I had seen it a year ago! Love you both!
I really really love what you are trying to achieve with this channel and with these series. I think you guys are so awesome and you really helped me in my journey to discovering my sexuality and accepting it. I have been doubting about it for the past two years and subscribed to your channel at the end of 2018. Since march this year I have slowly started telling other people that I am gay and you really helped me with this. Now, most of my friends know, my parents, brother, sister and grandma. I am really lucky and everyone is really accepting. Also it's really funny to see more and more people are coming out. I thought I was alone, but already 4 friends have come out since I did. Really love you guys and appreciate all your hard work!
I realised something watching this video. A lot of confusion comes from the fact that may be you don't consider the emotional compatibility as important as physical attraction when figuring out your sexuality. For me, I've always been more comfortable with girls in every way than I have with boys and I always thought it's because i haven't been around men too much (girls school child). While that is a reason, it's not the only thing. The fact that I am not around more men is BECAUSE I am more comfortable with women and that means something in terms of my sexuality. When Paige said she can appreciate a man's physical attributes but wouldn't want to have sex with him or even a relationship, this suddenly became really clear to me. I always question if I am into men too by thinking that he's hot but I can't really imagine myself in a relationship with one. Thanks for this video guys! It clarified a lot of things for me.
Super picky, movie crushes, lack of connection with boys, etc. Didn’t realize until recently but only bc I come from a super religious/traditional family that would not approve, so I didn’t let myself question. I shoved my feelings down and did not process. Now that I have, I feel happier, a weight is lifted and flirting with girls is so organic and fun. Something I never had with guys. Now to find the courage to tell my family 🙈
Right in the fucking feels man 😭 10/10💙 I honestly have never thought about my "journey"per say till you guys talked about it, and its crazy how much people can have in common and relate when you just thought you where the only one who had that way of thinking.
I identify as "confused" since 3 years, but it's fun to fake being straight in front of others. You guys give me butterfly, making me more gay-ish everyday. I'm in my medical school , can't wait to come out as a doctor, and gay.. Love from South Asia, Thankyou guys for making me happier than ever.❤️🌺
This was highly validating for me. I’ve struggled with my sexuality my whole life and recently realized that I feel lesbian, but have been confused about still finding some men physically attractive. I think the major difference has been that romantically, I always felt like I was missing something with men, I always felt like I was pushing for more in the relationship to feel fulfilled. With women, I don’t feel like I’m missing anything. Thank you so much for this 💜
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"LOOK HOW GAY THIS STRAP IS" ~ Holly 2019
"This could help but if not.... Sorry for wasting your time" 😅 classic, love you guys
I knew I liked girls at the age of 3 !!! Tried coming out when I was 7 and a few more after that. I am now 35 (maturity level 15 😜) and finally openly coming out to everyone after a failed marriage and decades of depression and suicidal thoughts. All this due to extreme pressures from religious beliefs and homophobia. If anyone is struggling, please don't give up! It is absolutely true that it does get better! I'm happy we have an entire community to help and support each other. I only wish I had Paige and Holly 20+ years ago. Nothing but ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 and 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈
I'm coming out hopefully, the fear is what is keeping me back. I tried the marriage gig it didn't work out at all. Now I am facing the fear of having to come out. I was out in my 30's now I'm in my late 50's having to do it again. I married because I was cured according to the religious people and my parents were thrilled. Now I am afraid very afraid. Mostly of what others will think.
@@elizabethpebblesmagee1157 What matters is what YOU think. Do not define yourself by trying to look through others eyes. Even as a heterosexual male, I spent too many years intimidated by what I thought others might think of me. BE YOURSELF FIRsT and the rest will follow.
i have to say i am totelly not for the coming out because if you are straight you dont make a coming out so why LGBTQIA+ person have to ? i dont understand personnely i am gay 100000% and i didnt made a coming ou i am 13 years old and i think my parents know but i am not sure and my sister know and she is so perfect she had explain me everything about this amazing comunity and i am so proud to be part of ( so sorry for the orthograph i am frensh sorry )
Preston Deanes STRAIGHT ALLIIIIIEE ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️💯💯💪
Elizabeth Pebbles Magee people think what they want you cant make them think what you want them to think ( really hard to say has a frensh personn ) if you do that or that or that people are gonna disagree do what you want dont be afraid of they reaction do what you want like you want when you want and be proud of who you are
Hey ladies. If you remember me (Lush) you will know that I am the proud dad of a beautiful 19 year old daughter, who, amongst other things happens to be a lesbian. HOWEVER.....I have to say that I found this really interesting, and gave a good insight into something that I obviously could never experience. I'm looking forward to the rest of the series, but may I make a suggestion? (Well I'm going to anyway LOL)
Something that I haven't come across in the lesbian UA-cam community is content aimed at parents. Something covering the questions, concerns and even myths about having a daughter who may or may not be out yet. As well as helping parents with experiences and advice, this could also help girls in dealing with her own parents. It could even be something that a girl could invite her parents to sit down and watch together.
Luv & Stuff as always from Manchester, England xx
Why are we not acknowledging how gorgeous Paige’s hair looks? 🔥👸🏼
Those eyes page
Still in the closet, but you guys made me feel better today, so thank you and please keep doing it 🙂
Nobody:
Holly: LoOk At HoW gAy ThIs StRaP iS
LGBTea sounds good.
let's spill the tea gurls
Holly's half and half accent is just gorgeous x
Excellent Video! You both have helped me so much. My wife and I have been together for 21 years next month, I have not always been comfortable being OUT and Proud, but thru watching you guys I have settled down and learned it’s Ok to Be Gay!! I’m 64, being gay was not ok in my school years, gays and lesbians were not looked at in a good light, sad to say I have carried some of that with me. Watching you both be so proud of who you love, being so carefree has helped me let go.. I Love my wife totally and completely without reservation. I have the relationship I always dreamed I could have when I was younger....and after 21 years, I can’t wait to fall asleep and wake up with her by my side...If you want affirmation that what you are putting out is helping people, I Proudly stand in that line! Wearing my P/H hat of course!
I have only just discovered Paige and Holly but just wanted to say how awesome this was to read! I still struggle with it all but it's great to hear about how much difference these role models make!
despite being a serious video you still add in your witty jokes and make it funny and thats one of the many things i love about u guys
@@PaigeAndHolly Hello, I’m a fan of yours and I was just wondering if you could please post a video where one of you gives the other a short brief piggyback ride?
Hey what’s up guys I’m Paige and I’m holly.
Me: And I’m gay!! ♥️
Lmao facts tho
Easy way to find out if questioning, right? 😍
Bella Alice Swan Cullen oh yes very easy
Just stopped by to say: GO THORNS!! :D
Firefly 24601 hell yeah!!
I remember being really young and daydreaming about wanting to be married or in a relationship with a girl but in these dreams I was always a guy. In my little innocent pre-Internet brain that was the only way I could see to have a wife or girlfriend. Ive never had gender issues or wanted to be anything but female. Obviously the concept of girls being with girls or boys being with boys hadn’t entered my world at that point. I had no idea there were other options apart from the straight society I was raised in. In my subconscious I knew I wanted a girl so my subconscious placed me in the male role. 🙂
same
yes, same way
Same
That's so true. When watching movies I always wanted to be the guy so I could be with the girl hahaha
Wow. Same
You don't understand how this helped me I am so happy that this Chanel came in to my life because it helped me see that being lesbian is ok and I shouldn't be ashamed by it and thank you for being the people that showed it to me
Paige and Holly, you guys are amazing and this video series is very thought provoking and totally helpful.
I didn't come completely out until I was 49!! That's sort of late to accept who I truly am. Believe it or not, I lived a totally "closet" life until my 49th year which is very sad when I think about it. I am a school teacher who lived and worked in a town of 2,500 people and gay people were totally disparaged in my town. I had many relationships with women, but nothing made me happy. Hiding in the dark was no fun. Believe it or not, subscribing to your channel gave me something that I totally related to. You two are so genuine and relatable. I would listen to your videos and you gave me something I never had. CONFIDENCE. So one day while I was looking at your coming channel, I was struck by Paige's coming out video and later Holly's coming out video and something resonated inside me and I totally can't pinpoint any one thing, but I decided I was tired of being miserable and I started by talking to people and family members and really the ones who counted in my life were for the most part accepting. The ones who didn't respond well, the hell with them. The point of my story is there is never a set time to come out. It can happen at any time of your life. There are many many resources that I didn't know of. Now I'm in a loving relationship with the most beautiful woman I've ever known. I am completely accepting of myself!! You guys are beautiful!! Keep your series going. We need more people like you to be a resource for struggling LGBQT+ community people. If 1 person is helped, it's worth doing. Hats off to you special women!! Someone watching needs to hear your message. Love your channel.
Hi Sheryl! I can totally relate to this. I didn't come out till I was 32.
Okay, so I decided to share my experience. Honestly, when people ask me how did I realize I was gay I’m ashamed to tell them the story, but you know what? Now I’m gonna share! So before I came out to myself I was really ashamed of changing in front of girls or sharing a bathroom or a locker room with girls. The thing is, no other girl had this problem. In summer camps, girls were taking showers together and had absolutely no problem with being naked in front of each other. But I was the one who always had to hide, who was covering herself with blankets and screaming that she can’t change with everyone there. So the girls were frowning at me and always telling me this damn sentence, that haunts me to this day: „Hey, we’re all girls! It’s okay!”. For them „we’re all girls” meant there was nothing sexual in being naked around each other. But I never understood how the fact that we were all girls should have made me feel more comfortable.
I was bullied most of my life by both girls and boys and this complicated my coming out story a little bit. I didn’t have very close girl friends, but nor was I friends with the boys. I was usually just hanging out alone. I never felt understood by anyone around me and I always felt different. I mean, sure, there were times when I felt closer to someone, usually a girl, and have these high hopes about us being best friends, but it always went to shit. So my coming out journey involved a lot of staring at girls’ boobs and then looking away. I was actually kind of creepy.
When it comes to childhood experiences, the gayest thing I’ve ever said was at the age of 8, when I was on a school trip with my class. I was changing for the night alone in the motel room (because I couldn’t change with girls around, like I already said) when a girl I was sharing the room with and who should have waited outside stormed in. I immediately covered myself up and she said that I don’t need to do it, because, you guessed it, we’re both girls. So I answered: „Okay, but I don’t want you to see my pussy, because we’re not even friends and if a girl were to see my pussy, she had to be someone special!”
Yes. I literally said that. No, I still can’t believe I said it.
Then, at the age of 9, I became kind of obsessed with a girl in my class who was a tomboy and who would beat up any boy that was mean to her. I became her friend, but I felt incredibly betrayed when she started hanging out with another girl. We had a massive fight. She obviously didn’t understand why I was so upset. I didn’t understand either, but we stopped talking for about four years.
But yeah, a good thing that happened once I came out to myself was that I became a little bit less weird. I’m still plenty weird, though.
So relatable. I couldn't change in infront of other girls either and also got bullied weirdly by other gay girls.
I’m 29 and I came out 2 days ago.
T W E N T Y NINE
It looks me that long to realise that I’m gay and that there were ALL the signs now that I look back. My dad’s homophobia stopped me from being myself and made me force myself to be “normal”
Usually when i listen to lesbian couples give "advice" it just gets frustrating because they act like it's the easiest thing in the world and "fuck what people think" but this was actually SO validating and helpful as someone who is still not out so fucking thank you honestly, some of us needed this
And to add to your great job you have done. I wanted to add, don’t rush, don’t feel like you have to be gay or straight by certain age. Me, personally took 20 years of my adult life because I knew that my family wouldn’t accept it, but when THE woman that open my heart and I knew that she was worth fighting for, I went for it and didn’t care about anything else, but be happy.
I've gone from being "very picky" with trying to find a guy I think is attractive to fancying almost every girl I see lmao
appreciating beauty =/= sexuality.
i’ve been a little bit confused lately but this really helped. when i was first coming out, i was not interested in guys at all and didn’t think they were attractive. but this past year i was confused bc i actually thought a guy was attractive but i realized that it wasn’t actually a crush or anything. thanks paige and holly
oh my god the "being picky" thing is so relatable!!
I can’t tell you how much this video means to me. I’m currently struggling with my sexuality and I’ve been looking for videos like this, but this is the best one I’ve found. My brain is telling me one thing but my heart is telling me something different, so when you two told your stories it really told me I should listen to my heart.
To discuss such a serious issue in such a normal and laid back way is an achievement!! You guys nailed it. Admire and love you guys!!
What you’re doing is soo important, and helpful. Whether its more serious content like this video, or just showing a loving, healthy relationship. You’re not hiding the reality of life, and the hard aspects of it. I love you both so much, thank you for helping me, and everyone apart of the PHam💗💗
i relate so much to all of this, youtube helping, having amazing people around and struggling to accept yourself. I first questioned when I was about 14, but ignored it until i was 17 and then it couldn't be ignored anymore. Thankfully by this point i was surrounded by the most incredible people i've ever met, who made it so normal and when i spoke to my best friedn (who is gay) about my confusion, she helped me to work myself out. It was comfortable just keeping it between us but having that one person who understood to help me figure it out and accept it before i was ready to tell everyone else. A year later and I've told everyone. I came out to my mum 2 weeks ago, and she was even more accepting than i had expected (and i'd expected accepting) she literally has been taking me to buy pride stuff, and joining in with my crushes, and nothing has changed most importantly, so I'm so happy to have been able to figure myself out and accept myself with the help of those closest to me. You're so right, it feels so much better once you're out. Its the most confusing time of your life, but once you've accepted it, its such a relief and it feels like the world opens up to you.
Having even one person, online or offline to tell and to have it between you can really change everything, so just tell one person you trust and let them help you.
p.s. i'm Bi and i don't get offended when people use it or say it was a stepping stone, that's a part of your experience and i get what u mean about it being easier so dw lol. Only issue with it is, is its even more confusing lol cos u can't eliminate men and realise you're gay, u have to work out if u like both or one or the other (maybe why it took me so long).
@@PaigeAndHolly no problem, thank you so much for sharing your stories with us, and for this amazing new series ♡ I feel the same way with u two as u did with rose and rosie it's so refreshing to see people fearlessly themselves and in love! Happy pride xx
17:40 I knew it for 4/5 years and there was just one little peace of me that just wasn’t accept me yet. So i came out.
And that was the last peace i needed to accept myself. There still people that dont know it but i dont hide it anymore
What a brilliant idea LGBTea!
Belief in oneself is one of the most important bricks in building any successful venture. -Lydia Maria Child.
I came out after spending many years in self-denying, and it did feel much better. Your channel is very inspirational, keep up the good work!
Love from Australia.
P.S. P&H will need sunsreen with much higher UV protection. SPF 50+ when in Australia and New Zealand.
Paige And Holly Ever minute, even collect your Macca's delivery from doorway. 😂😂😂
Funny Aussie story: There was a spider in my shoes today. Now he lives in the corner of my bedroom. His name is Bob.
i had a lot of the same admiration of celebrities and girls in my school, never wanted to get married or have kids (with a man) & watched sooo many youtube videos. my first girlfriend and i came out to our friends at the same time when we were 16. it was 100% the scariest thing i ever did but the weight that lifted after was so worth it.
At 43 I fell for a woman....and wow!! I was married and have 2 boys but it was always because its the norm to get married to a guy and have children. But it never was WOW...NEVER!!! And then one day I met this woman who also was married and had two children but was extremely unhappy and wham bam thank you ma'm....the feelings I had and she had and the time we have together is so much more and better ...and now if I look back on my life I knew I was always gay....never had feelings for guys in the normal sence just got married because that its like it should be....but my best friends was my girlfriends at school. Ladies you are awesome and should go on with this tubing....you are helping so many people. Will never unsubscribe from your channel.
After listening this video..I m saying I m lesbian I love girls ...that feeling came when I see girl and hangout with girls is totally different and amazing .. and I never ever felt ..that feeling in case of boys..so I can say I m gay..
Nd nothing is wrong in that .actually my first crush was a girl..so I didnt realise at that time what was happening with me why I had a feeling for that random girl..but now after 6 years of struggling with my identity I can proudly say I m gay..and now I m 19..year old and I m from india and soon I will go to foreign because in india I can't found my real self who I am..
Thanks paige and holly ..
Lots of love from india..
And I like holly..you r so cute
Lgbtea 😀👍 love it.....oh nice hair Paige looks good.
I have binge-watched all of your videos in the last two days and can I just say that y'all are so naturally funny, entertaining and adorable and I love you guys.
Ladies, I cannot thank you enough for your videos. I found your channel exactly when I needed you most. You have been such an integral part of my coming out process. I hope to inspire others as you have inspired me. Thank you for being my mentor.
I just graduated high school as valedictorian. I was an all-rounded student being the captain of the cheerleading squad, the honor society, debate and track. I'm going on to university to major in mass communication with a concentration in journalism. I'm one of those overachieving people-pleasers. Ugh!
I've suspected for a couple of years now that I might be gay but unfortunately, I didn't have anyone in my life I could talk to about it. I'm surrounded by family and friends, but because of this secret, I felt all alone. Without going into detail and being all melodramatic, I seriously thought "what's the point...why go on?". I was that sad and lonely. That's when I discovered you two. I can so relate to you both. But what I love most is how you treat one another. You're so genuine, kind and loving. Goals!
Thank you for opening my eyes to new stages of possibilities and strength. I will forever be grateful for your guidance and kindness.
Peace.
Thank you for using your platform to talk about your experiences and teaching us what you have learned from those experiences. You guys just get better and better every week and I'm so grateful I ran into your channel when I did. Love you ladies 😍😘💖
Who else feels like coming out is a process and not at all one moment? Like I came out to my parents as Bi a year ago and I still feel like I’m working on it. I still need to come out to some friends and newer people on my life. It takes constant vigilance to fight the heteronormative culture! Along the way I’ve found that I think I fit more with identifying as gay, as Paige and Holly said. To anyone who needs to hear it, stay strong and KEEP FIGHTING TO BE YOU because you are worth it ❤️
Paige And Holly I love you guys! Thanks for giving me a community 🙏🏼 I have very few lgbtq+ people in my life and through your channel I feel like I’m part of something. I’m sure many others can say the same 😍
Oh my god thank you for making this. So many points you two hit on I have never heard anyone else really talk about, and I'm going through those things right now. A lot of the stories I hear are either about someone who knew from a very very young age, or their realization was very quick. Everyone's story is different, and it's okay if it takes awhile to unfold. This is SUPER important for anyone else questioning to watch, especially the young teens out there.
It really helps to hear or read such coming out stories. I am now 21 and questioning my sexuality. This started when my last relationship (it was also my first one) with a boy ended. I realized that I just couldn't connect with him on a physical level.
But I also asked myself a few years ago if I was that straight or not. I recognized myself in many of Paige's and Holly's statements and from the videos I have seen on this channel, I feel encouraged to pursue this feeling of being gay.
Unfortunately, I don't have enough people to talk about this and now with the restrictions because of corona, it's hard to meet girls who feel the same way as I do
It's been almost a month since I discovered your channel and ever since I've been watching all your videos oldest to newest! Being in a traditional society and a traditional family, accepting myself as gay has been very difficult. But taking time to know myself and understand myself better, I've now accepted myself and am proud of who I am. Even after accepting myself I always feared I'll have to be alone for the rest of my life and that I may not have stuff that happy straight couples have (coz that's what I see around me)...but seeing you guys together has given me hope that maybe I can also have those things I dreamed of, that I didn't have to shut myself and that I can dream to be happy too. So thank you guys for being my happy space. And to everyone who's scared and nervous about themselves, give yourself time and love yourself. There definitely is light at the end of the tunnel and you're not in the tunnel alone.
coulda done with this vid a few years back but i hope this helps young gays out there! 💞🌈
My momma and her wife are gay and so am I, so having them does help me talk about things that I cant talk to others about. My momma and her wife have helped me so much figure out who I am and have told me multiple times that she will love me no matter who or what I am. I am very blessed to have such and amazing support system like them. Much live my momma...❤
Me 24 years later, I’m glad that my wife first kissed me and me thinking OMG what’s happening to me!!! We woke up in the morning and I was so shocked!! I ❤️❤️ her so much!!!
Would love to hear your “how we met” story 😊
I’m pretty sure I’m Bi or Lesbian, but I just know for sure that I’m not straight😁 🌈
✨closeted✨
Same
Have you ever carried a girl on your back like piggyback style?
Thank you so much for making videos. Y'all helped me so so much, figuring it out and coming out to my parents and making my week every thursday. You help me keeping a smile on my face, even when I don't feel like it.
Like 1/3 of my group of friends is LGBTQ+ and that actually didnt feel great to me, I felt like I was trying to fit in with them! I'm now slowly coming out to my friends and they are so excepting, both LGBTQ+ and not. So to anyone out there who is experiencing the same as me, they understand, they know how you feel, they have gone through that too!
Thank you, Paige and Holly, it really hit me when you girls said "I've never seen a future with a boy", because that's precisely what happened to me and my ex boyfriend. He would talk a lot about our future and, during that, I was playing Shrek the movie in my head (from the very DreamWorks beginning). Thanks again, you two are the best! Many kisses
Hahaha, don’t ever apologize for being a waste of time, your videos are NEVER a waste of time! You guys make me smile and laugh with every video, and that’s all I could ever ask for from my favorite UA-cam channel! Keep spreading the love, laughs, and spilling that LGBTea. (Love that series title, by the way! It’s very clever!) Happy Pride month from one fellow lesbian to the both of you! :D
You missed out on calling this an LGBTeaQ+A....
Marina Herren-Lage oh my god yes
LGBTeaQ+Gay
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OMG YES!!
hihi, indeed! 😄
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This helped me so much! I’ve been going through a rough time with accepting myself for who I truly am even with the support my friends give me so thank you for the video and I wish you guys nothing but happiness 💚💚🏳️🌈
Such important issues:
Rationalizing things like celebrity crushes
Assumptions on what lgbt is and how that must not be you.
Lack of good representation in fiction and good irl rolemodels (bad kinds of stereotypes DO make it on TV often)
Fiction can help a lot in bringing awareness. Maybe list shows with nice represention? like MTV's Faking It, Wynonna Earp and PLL or earlier shows like South of Nowhere and Buffy. Maybe even Supergirl (despite SuperCorp being "just friends"... sigh) and the 100 (don't wanna talk about...).
Real rolemodels are very important, celebrities that are out are still rare (and it takes some a bit of time). KStew and Lauren finally coming out was fun. Supportive allies and those in between are nice role models too (Camila still in a glass closet?). After the latest thing with Tay Swizzles I still need to calm down 😍. Also still waiting for Dua Lipa, Margot Robbie and Gal Gadot. Also lots of K-Pop girls, but those names won't mean much if you're not into that. Still worth checking out Loona / Chuu with Heart Attack 😁! While fun, even if out or kinda out, most of this fangirling feels the same as fictional representation.
And this makes UA-camrs like you so important, for me Shacam and soon after Rose and Rosie were a huge deal. If you convinced yourself there is nothing between a manhating butch stereotype and a femme straight girl seeing them can be eye-opening. Of course real love is so much better than (fan-) fiction!
Paige’s story of how she realises is legit me I relate to it so much
You guys are the best, talking about serious topics but keeping them funny and entertained
Thank you guys so much for creating this series, watching your videos always makes me smile and has helped me accept myself and I want you to know that you’re truly an inspiration 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
Thank you for posting this video. Even though I have been out with my family and friends for more than half my life this was just so good to hear that I've had a similar experience to someone else. I told my father that I liked girls when I was 11 years old and luckily for me he accepted me right away by saying "I know". My mom was more religious so she believed that I was just going through a phase and that I will "get through it" like it was some type of struggle that I had to put behind me. I first thought that I was bisexual just like you, trying to fit in, thinking that just because I thought this boy was cute that I should date him, but once I had my first ever experience with a girl it was that "ah hah" moment. It felt like firework in my head when I finally realized that boys were just my homies and girls were these mystical beings that I always felt nervous around. It was so much easier for me to be friends with guys. When I finally started high school I told my parents that I only like girls and once again with no surprise my father accepted it right away. He would jokingly say "let's go check out some hot babes" while walking around the mall or hanging at the beach. I was the first out of the closet lesbian in my high school. As I look back at it now, it was really difficult, not only because a lot of straight girls were nervous to be around me thinking that I would hit on them, but it just made it so hard to have female friends without them thinking I wanted to jump their bones or their boyfriends would get jealous of me being around them. Even as difficult as it was, I was able to get through it because I did have the support of SOME of my family and my close circle of friends. Once I told the people that I cared about the most, I knew that no matter what they would be there for me when times got tough. I'm actually going to my high school reunion this weekend and I'm really looking forward to seeing all the people that used to be in the closet but are now out.
Once again, thank you guys for all your videos. Thank you for loving each other. Thank you for being an inspiration. Thank you for being you!
LOVE YOU GUYS ❤🧡💛💚💙💜(I am getting a Rainbow hearts tatoo on Tuesday)💕
For all those who are in the process of coming out or having trouble accepting yourself, don’t rush into finding who you are. I tried to rush when coming out and it just makes it worse, you don’t have to have a label straight away if at all, labels are just something that helps others understand what we are. Labels shouldn’t define what your are yourself. As Holly said it took her years and it did take me a few years, but it’s okay, some people may take months to finally understand who they are but it will also take others longer because we are all different. It will get easier, it just take some time to get to where you want to be. You are not alone in this and there are people always going through it. If you are struggling talk to someone, there is always someone out there, whether it’s on the internet or in real life. It’s okay and you will get there. Stay strong we all love you
Just letting you know that, as a bi girl, I was not offended by you calling it a stepping stone in your personal journey. Awesome video and SO important. You're doing good 😊
And I honestly think you guys putting that out there in such a honest & comfortable environment can be really helpful to sb questioning! (Fun fact: I first thought I was gay and then I was clearly not THEN I was like "ohhh there's more than 2 options, look at that!")
Our biggest issue is having no support yet face harsh judgement and cruelty from it. We thank God for you as a source of strength and inspiration. Thank you so much ❤️ we truly love you and are beyond grateful for your transparency.
I really needed to hear this! Your wisdom is much appreciated Paige and Holly!
When you guys talked about being "picky" with men I was S H O O K. I say that constantly to my friends. Ty guys for always being so genuine, you really do help people every day!! Still figuring myself out one step at a time but I know I'll get there eventually. Love you girls xoxo
Love this😍😍. I started to questioning my sexuality , it's so confusing , I am still figuring out
Yeah, we really are a community! I was in the same boat once upon a time and am here for any questions you have or advice you may need. Good luck! ☺️
@@mirandag3283 yeah trying my best😊😊.. thanks..
@@jay_ye11 thank you so much for your support ❤❤
Like how? 😐
@@chaylauren3484 do you wanna ask how I started to questioning my sexuality??
I do love how you guys touch each other while talking!!! 😍😍
In every video
this really helped my mental health like I've been in a really dark place for a long time now and watching this video honestly made everything so so so SO much better so thank you for being you and I hope I get to meet you guys one day
Accepting yourself is very important 😊👏👏👏
Looking forward to your LGBTea series!
Honestly.. thank you for that video because this kinda helped me to clear my mind and be like honest with myself and except my feelings.. so thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Hi there. Sending my love and support to you guys. Love your vids. Fr. Philippines 😘😘😘
GREAT ENDING😂😂 I can totally see myself loving this series more and more as it grows. Thanks for sharing your stories @Paige And Holly, it really helped alot 😊👍🏼 Now i can see the reason y i felt/ don't feel certain way, compared to how most of my friends feel....❤ TEA!!😂
My sexuality is basically 'confused' . I just know I'm not straight 😂🌈🌈🌈
@@PaigeAndHolly ohhhh! And I'm still confused after 6 or 7 years,,,,,😂😭😭😍
After watching video: no I'm not confused,,,,I'm not straight,,,,I'm a gay😂💗💗💗and I love girls😂😍😍😍😍
That is how it is for me
@@username_notfoundalyssa for me too
exactly i just know im not straight but idk what else i know im just not straight but idk
Thanks for this video it really helped. I think that im in denial and my parents keep tryna convince me im straight so me head is all over the place but every point you made ticked all my boxes.
Thanks Paige and Holly. You guys cheer me up when i need it. Keep up the good work. Xxx
i came out as bi to my best friend the other day, and it was one of the most nerve wracking things ever but i am so proud i did! it took such a huuuuuge weight off my shoulders as i've pretty much known i'm bi for 3 or 4 years now and it feels AMAZING to be able to be my whole true self around my best friend. you guys, other gay youtubers, and the whole lgbtq+ community online has helped me more than i can even explain and spreading awareness with videos like these are so important to help other kids find themselves too. so thank you so much for this series!!
Paige with her pinky every time she sips! Love it!!! :D
sending love to you guys from the caribbean love how proud you guys are!!
I am very proud of both of you. The both of you are role models
This video made me sure that I am for sure gay and I just want to thank the both of youuuuu💪💪♥️ both of you are my role models🇿🇦
I already love this series already. I can’t wait for more LGBTea videos ❤️❤️ thank you for making these videos. This helped me so much. Thank you so so much girls for helping us understand ourselves more and accept ourselves more. This is why we love you guys so much. Also I love how you can make something so serious also be so funny 🌈🌈🌈
You guys make me cry, laugh, and feel whole while I’m watching you. Thankyou
Looking so much forward to the rest of this series💜❤️🧡💛💚💙
Watching you two always puts a smile on face! Honestly, Paige when you were talking about your story I literally felt like you were saying mine. Pretty much exactly the same except I never had a boyfriend and I most likely could never tell my father in fear of being disowned. Nonetheless, UA-camrs like yourselves, my friends, and many of my family members are very supportive and I’m super grateful for that. A big thank you to the both of you for making such awesome content all the time! Love you both ❤️
Thank you for making videos, you are literally the best you make me laugh with every video and I just love that feeling, never stop doing this I think both of you are making the world better, you are making better my life, thank you so much for everything. Love you!!!
I’m french so forgive my english but CHRIST! I feel so close of what you said! I’m just kind of getting out of deny and this kind of speech is really helping! I’ve never been in a relation or even had a little experience but I’ve been through all these questioning you’re talking about. I never told anyone how I feel even if I would really love to. This is actually the first time I “say it out loud”. But thanks a lot! Indeed it helps to realise your kind of relation does exist. One of the thing that scares me the most about being gay is the fact that it seems way more complicated to find someone..
Paige And Holly thanks a lot for your answer 😊 I leave my middle town for Paris next year so the possibilities will increase! 👌
Y'all are my favorite lesbians on UA-cam. Love y'all.
I relate to seeing people online being open about their sexuality and relationships as a tool to accept yourself so much! I came out as bi when I was 16, but only to my close friends, because my family and living situation is very toxic and homophobic at the moment. I can 100% second what's being said in this video about finding people in your life that will support you no matter what, having a support system helps so much. I still feel alone sometimes, especially since I've started questioning my sexuality again, but I know that there are people out there who love and accept me for who I am, even when people who should support me won't. So don't give up! And never ever forget that you're never alone!
you've made this video feel very natural and fun to watch and I love that 💗
When I got a notification that you posted, I dropped everything!
same with me hahahaha
I’ve been out for about 8 months now and it seriously changed my life so much for the better! You guys are so right it always gets better!! Love you ladies!! 💗💗💗
What I did was I did not question. I told myself I was bi. After just telling myself that for a while it just felt right.
This video is so helpful I can’t believe I’m just finding it now! Thank you so much for making this because it’s so relatable and I wish I had seen it a year ago! Love you both!
I really really love what you are trying to achieve with this channel and with these series. I think you guys are so awesome and you really helped me in my journey to discovering my sexuality and accepting it. I have been doubting about it for the past two years and subscribed to your channel at the end of 2018. Since march this year I have slowly started telling other people that I am gay and you really helped me with this. Now, most of my friends know, my parents, brother, sister and grandma. I am really lucky and everyone is really accepting. Also it's really funny to see more and more people are coming out. I thought I was alone, but already 4 friends have come out since I did. Really love you guys and appreciate all your hard work!
There's something that really helps during a coming out process, therapy.
I realised something watching this video. A lot of confusion comes from the fact that may be you don't consider the emotional compatibility as important as physical attraction when figuring out your sexuality. For me, I've always been more comfortable with girls in every way than I have with boys and I always thought it's because i haven't been around men too much (girls school child). While that is a reason, it's not the only thing. The fact that I am not around more men is BECAUSE I am more comfortable with women and that means something in terms of my sexuality. When Paige said she can appreciate a man's physical attributes but wouldn't want to have sex with him or even a relationship, this suddenly became really clear to me. I always question if I am into men too by thinking that he's hot but I can't really imagine myself in a relationship with one. Thanks for this video guys! It clarified a lot of things for me.
Amazing video. I related to this so much. I love you guys!
PAIGE AND HOLLY I HAVEN'T SEEN IT YET BUT I LOVE YOU DEARLY THANKS FOR ALWAYS MAKING US LAUGH 💕💕💕
Super picky, movie crushes, lack of connection with boys, etc. Didn’t realize until recently but only bc I come from a super religious/traditional family that would not approve, so I didn’t let myself question. I shoved my feelings down and did not process. Now that I have, I feel happier, a weight is lifted and flirting with girls is so organic and fun. Something I never had with guys. Now to find the courage to tell my family 🙈
Paige And Holly thank you! You guys have been such a great encouragement! 🥰
I was in 10th 11th grade started questioning. Had a “boyfriend” who happens to be gay. Lucky for a good cover.
Good video, as always💕 I'm questioning my sexuality, but I'm taking my time and I'll just see where this goes
me toooo
Me too 💃
What you’re telling is sooooooo relatable!! Thank you guys so much. You’ve been really helping me to accept my gay self!❤️
Right in the fucking feels man 😭 10/10💙 I honestly have never thought about my "journey"per say till you guys talked about it, and its crazy how much people can have in common and relate when you just thought you where the only one who had that way of thinking.
It's a spectrum, from straight all the way to ... very picky.
@Savannah Rey
Hmm, that Biology 5 in binary? 😜
I identify as "confused" since 3 years, but it's fun to fake being straight in front of others. You guys give me butterfly, making me more gay-ish everyday. I'm in my medical school , can't wait to come out as a doctor, and gay.. Love from South Asia, Thankyou guys for making me happier than ever.❤️🌺
This was highly validating for me. I’ve struggled with my sexuality my whole life and recently realized that I feel lesbian, but have been confused about still finding some men physically attractive. I think the major difference has been that romantically, I always felt like I was missing something with men, I always felt like I was pushing for more in the relationship to feel fulfilled. With women, I don’t feel like I’m missing anything. Thank you so much for this 💜
Sooo relatable! I'm sure this will help so many people! Love and appreciate everything you guys are doing ❤🌈