Dare to be feminine for gut's sake! | Kaouthar Darmoni | TEDxEde
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- Опубліковано 1 бер 2015
- Kaouthar Darmoni is the founder of Feminine Capital & Goddess Dance organisation. She is also Assistant Professor in Gender Capital & Media at the University of Amsterdam and a proliferous speaker about Feminine Capital.
Founder of Feminine Capital & Goddess Dance organisation
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at ted.com/tedx
"Don't push with your elbows to make a career, push with your hips!" I love her!
Yes!!!🥰
Thrust with your hips!!
Your lonely.
YES! That line hit!
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Proudly taking back my femininity.
where has it been?
Especially in a time where gender neutrality violates and kills it...
@@LorcTheBest we will find out in 2 more years when someone replies to this comment..
Loved it!!! Brought tears to my eyes. I didn't consciously realize that I have been repressing my femininity. I know it's a kind of defense, not showing femininity. I embrace it now, I am physically strong, very intelligent, and now I can fearlessly embrace my natural femininity!!!
I literally had the same exact reaction. This was eye opening.
Me too. Same here. I almost cried.
We have so much to do in this world that is dying from this repression. It ends now. I am with you!
wow. yes aug 2021 and yes ❤
🌟Yea, is crazy how this dance makes u realize many thing about the W and M nature, we have to undertand our natures, and use them, "work" with them (play too), cuz there is a place for every human being in the planet. 🤍
One important things she said is that women are scared to be seen as lust object wich is true because i always think of a strong lady in entreprise as someone who is wearing suit and being masculine true we have a lot to think about
Her saying no toward the end while remaining in the feminine made me so emotional. We have so much power.
Yes we absolutely do🙌
This woman is so vibrant. She radiates femininity and energy ♡ I never really understood why movement and motion, especially in women is so important. Being a woman is like being a river; when you are stagnant you invite disease and sickness and death. When you are moving, rushing, gushing you invite life, healing, and fertility. I especially loved when she said not to push people out of your way eith your elbows like a man, but to use your hips! Something about it resonated with me
Symone Reid I enjoyed your comment .. quite profound ,
something I would like to remember .
She is so empowering! I must incorporate her teachings, energy, and confidence! ❤
When I did the dance a spiritual shift occurred. I cried. It felt like a breakthrough
Amazing!!
every pain is a birthpain.
You were born as a woman when you danced.
Samee
I cried as well! Tears that were held in for far too long.
Wow I cried too 😭 and was wondering why.. I guess this is more powerful than it seems
Shout out to this wonderfully charismatic lady for being an independent legend
The Spit Doctors in op
I love this woman.
It's a huge bummer that people are too self conscious to actively participate.
Funny thing is this proved her point exactly! This was shot in the Netherlands. I'm from there and I feel less of a woman here than in any country I have been in. We are expected to be all the same, to meet each other in the middle. In general, women lost a part of their femininity and men lost a part of their masculinity.
Agreed^
Absolutely, I think in Germany it's similar, but the masculine/"rational" side still prevails...
Was LITERALLY about to say this!
I know right! I wished I was in the audience. I felt so feminine just watching her😍
I'm an American woman and I think she's very much correct. We may not have to cover our hair, but here the veil has been internal. And it's just as effective. I've felt discouragement of my natural femininity since I was a child. I've never been able to be proud to be a woman. I have large breasts but when I tried to shake like this woman in the video, I realized how constricting my bra is because I'm ashamed when my boobs bounce in public.
I know, in Europe it's the same. It's really sad. But times are definitely changing now, there are so many ressources for us now to reconnect to our feminine power. Look up Layla Martin for example, she's awesome.
Same!!
I’m a U.S. plus size woman. I’m not ashamed of my body, but I do feel self conscious. My body/figure type is very rounded everywhere. Bust, backside, tummy. In my 20’s the “menswear look” was fashionable and I couldn’t make it work. I’m a bookworm and enjoy learning. I think I confuse people because I look and dress soft, romantic and feminine, but I can competently listen, follow and discuss various topics, am clever with computers and other technology. It’s like people think I’m “fooling” them with my appearance.
I don’t see why I can’t be clever and intellectual AND a feminine, sensuous woman.
@@sarahfara1539 I agree and I LOVE LAYLA MARTIN. You are a woke woman
be free beautiful!
Yes, yes, yes! I have always said this: the world is in need of more FEMININE energy, not women behaving like men!
Thank you!
Preach!
Quit the stereotype you can’t tell a woman how she can embrace her feminity
Absolutely 💯
I can't believe how stiff everyone was in the audience. Shake dammit!
LOL!
I can most people are afraid of themselves and really are not open and self assured as she is. The world would be better if we ditched our repressiveness, believed in us and refused to be influenced by society. Ladies just roar. :)
I would have been the same or died of embarrassment
This is the seventh time I am listening to her.
are you looking to damage your brain
may be she like to learn something new
Marzia Zen 2nd time
She is amazing :)
I love my feminity and I embrace it but how to be feminine in a world where men stare at you, make inappropriate comments, touch you or intimidate you? I feel vulnerable when I get all kinds of unwanted attention, due to the fact men can't contain themselves. This video made me realise how much I've been hiding my feminity because of this.
I'm not talking about all men but about a particular kind of men
It's because they erased our collective memory, woman are no longer woman and men are no longer men.
It goes both ways same like most women only look at me as a boy toy sorry to sound cocky but tall handsome and with six packs and beautiful body that's what they say and when you start believing it's real friendship but it was all about cocka
Learn to be assertive. Women make it seem as if being feminine will make you weak-willed, insecure, and naive. Be feminine but still be assertive (not aggressively assertive unless in certain serious situations), still stand your ground, be confident, don't let people undermine you, speak up, have a backbone for Christ's sake. People think that being feminine is suddenly being weak but it's far from it. Be feminine, confident, wise, kind, and strong-willed.
@vitaliy Khomich maybe because they are used to being used by men and now feel they need to use men back?
And that is when you use your masculine energy.
The display of femininity was so powerful that honestly, it was hard not to stop and stare in awe. The audience was supposed to be dancing, but you can see that they couldn't get themselves to even take their eyes off of this powerful creation embracing her natural element. I am so happy to have come across such an inspiring woman as a young lady. I will from now on push aggressively with my hips.
Totally! Her power radiated. I noticed the audience doing that too. I love your perspective on it. Thanks for sharing.
I know this seems crazy judging by the high proportion of dislikes in this video. This is energetic bodily embodiment and honing of energies that you can only understand with consistent practice. I request you to have an open mind and not discard things you don't understand due to lack of experience.
Shruthi Reddy I think the dislikes are because of the low audio
krishiitm
You're missing the point.
krishiitm
Sadly, I've learned that attempting to explain anything of this nature to internet meninists is a fruitless endeavor that is only an exercise in frustration and wasting time. If you really want to figure out women's contributions to the world and society, how our work and efforts and sensualities have bettered humanity, the information is out there. You don't. You're just looking for an argument. Best of luck to you.
HI there, With the exception of the wage gap, I think she's trying to say that women who want respect and power in the world, do not need to act and dress and try to think like a man to get it. We can be ourselves and still make an impact. When women try to compete with men on their level, they become an incomplete version of men and vice versa. so long word short....You can be strong.......and feminine.. :)
You really expect someone to try and speak to you when you seem to think that "shaking your breasts" should be something listed as what women do to be empowered or save the planet? Perhaps if you seemed to come from a place of actual ignorance and not feigned ignorance just to start a fight she would have bothered to answer your question.
This talk is great. There is deeper truth here. There is still a lot of progress to be made for both men and women. Part of what she is saying is that some things have to be understood experientially. Hence the dancing. The more hurt someone is, the more they have to react to this kind of thing as if it were an attack ... Whether that's by as strong as a physical lashing out or just as symbolic as writing in all caps :) the masculine and feminine are both beautiful and sacred energies. When we stop hurting each other and start to appreciate, it is going to be really amazing.
That's true and she's showing such a powerful performance even though, unfortunately, the audience is barely following her in this.
Love this - get the women of the world shimmying with woman power while the men support their efforts - what's not to like 😉
Haha! I loved this! Best belly dance teaching ever! The most interesting, intelligent and funniest TEDx Talk I've seen so far
You took the words right out of my mouth. I've been watching TED for years and this is by far my favorite
Alma Shatri right!! So inspiring
Bestest!!!! I loved her energy. She was herself and didn't allow the audience to dim her delivery. She shone throughout 😍
Men try to mock us by saying we are too emotional...for me that's a compliment ...who would i be if i did not bring the emotion
So powerful and amazing to see the art of dance move energy in the audience. The moment where she breaks down the body movements and the general issues plaguing society and the oppression of the feminine blew me away! Bravo we should all dance to empower our minds, bodies and souls.
Montserrat Movilla - - the instant confirmation to this frozen Ness was the awkward it - yet exactly - the energy thinned and lifted haha.. The best juxtaposition was that everyone participated dressed in 'business-like persona' haha. . loved every second of her Honest, down to Earth 'just being' -Epic!!!
I've never seen dance as an art form but I'm a musician and the only time I'm turned on by dancing is when my music gets people onto the dance floor. I'm forgetting Ballet, now that's what I call artistic. What a strange combination The Blues and Ballet.
Felix Burke - not seeing dance as artistic??? No judgement, but this just literally just blew my mind!!!! Dance would have to be hands down THE most wildly liberating form of artistic expression... using the ENTIRE BODY as a vehicle. Wow! 😮
she is an amazing woman .. she expresses a real feminine power "the life force" on earth she is so right and we all should restore our lost femininty because the universe needs this not by taking off our clothes and belly dancing on the streets but by receiving kindness, appreciation and support from men and traine them to do us nice as we really deserve and by accepting our selves and embracing our body mind and spirit and love it and enjoy it all the time
she's amazing. had me in tears
Me too. Great! Love this.
It is so easy to take put up a rude face , it takes real strength to open up and be confident and expressive. Womb is awesome
Womb is bae😁
This woman truly knows the dance of the Goddess and what it REALLY means.
I Love this woman energy
As a Masculine man, Feminine women turns me on. It inspires me and refreshes my whole spirit and body. Women are so beautiful in their own skin, much love from a Masculine man
Wow I'm blown away by the divinely sensual sexiness of our sister. Danced along with you. Thank you for your courage xxx
how hasn't this blown up yet??? this is INCREDIBLE!!!!!
Extraordinary. SHE is my vision of feminism. No man-shaming, just proudness. Rise and Shine....
"The gates are still closed." And there she nails the source of all men's fundamental resentment against women.
(BTW- Volume way too low...)
Why open the gates when one is usually expected to be around men under conditions of almost total submission?! I think women are opening the gates more than enough actually. And I think there's too much pressure for them to open not just one gate haha
I dont think theres any fundamental resentment that behavior ir learned over years i think :T
U got it all wrong...👎👎👎
Oh, the freedom of movement of one's own body equals real self identity. Don't be fooled by how weird the moves are, this is a great exercise for both women and men (a lot of the moves are masculine even in the arab world). Men and women can be only exist properly if they are whole: soul and body are both healthy. That's why we all should connect to our bodies. If male and female energies are suppressed, the body gets ill - so let's move.
The thing is, to me, the moves aren't weird at all. They're legit belly dance movements, and dances very popular in arabic and turkish cultures.
Absolutely love this!!! "The world don't need more masculine women, it needs feminine women". Love it!
I did bellydancing for 2 years and i said that it should be taught to schoolgirls.for body positivity. We ranged in age from 12 to 70. I have never liked exercise more. I loved this talk and explanation of the movements. I must start appreciating my feminitys strength more not less
I think that the problem is the constraint that the words "feminine" and "masculine" put on people. People should be able to feel comfortable being who they are. Why should a man have to be masculine? Why should a woman have to be feminine? But it's true, femininity is seen as something lesser than masculinity, and that needs to change. Open minds and less judgement.
Men represent the masculine energy/principle and women represent the feminine energy/principle. These are a part of the universal laws, specifically the law of Polarity. Meaning There’s an opposite to every phenomena (hot/cold, wet/dry). Of course there’s a spectrum but the core principles hold. Questioning this goes against the Laws of Nature/Universe/God. We can do it if we want but it’s probably not the best course lol
Kind of hard to be feminine when you have to finish raising your boyfriends and husbands.
Eddie Q - We need to make different choices as to what kind of BF or husbands we choose - I speak from life experience - and to get out of unhealthy relationships that victimize or repress our worth- sometimes we have learned these negative things from those who raised us - people who raised us as women not to have high expectations or proper boundaries in our lives - a true healthy relationship supports one another.
Totally hahaha
I can name obligations and responsibilites men have to women. What are you saying?
No one is forcing you to raise them. Learn to make better choices, don't settle for less than you deserve.
Compassion is masculine? If so, is it excusively masculine? Be feminine and let experience teach. Just like if a girl tries to learn to feel and be feminine by a dating a "bad boy". Don't actually do that on your partner, but just be who you are and you'll attract what you need out of him; he'll learn feel and be masculine around you. Stop complicating it.
Don't objectify yourself and then complain about being objectifies
I don't think I will get tired of watching and listening to her over and over again. Today is the most happiest day in my entile life since I was born.
i like her energy..GO WOMEN GO
Never have I seen a more inspirational speech on the subject.
This woman is amazing, shes so charismatic
Definitely the most informal Tedx I've ever watched. I must say, I have definitely been conditioned to believe that I can not do what she is doing in public. I actually felt embarrassed watching her. I think its sad that I feel this way. However, I love her energy and her message. Really gets me thinking.
What a rockstar!! Incredible lady. Unbelievably confident
Wow! As an African woman, I can totally relate. Keep dancing mama!
I want to watch this every day of my life so I can remember who I am!
If there could be only one tedtalk in this life, it should be this! Beautiful, authentic, liberating, uplifting, spiritual, empowering, inspiring, human ❤️ Thank you Kaouthar!
this woman needs more publicity! i love her! i watched her video months ago and wouldnt be able to forget and came back! i would so love to meet her!
Most underrated TED talk ever. Thank you Mam for your lovely speech and sharing your gift with us
I agree. We needn't be afraid to show our sensuality. We should see it as expansion. I absolutely love belly dancing, it helps me to get in touch with my feminine energy
simply i love her shes amazing thats sooo true shes simply activating the femininity in weman :D
i really would love to meet her in person
sylvia johnson weman
thank you for telling it like it is. For years, I have suppressed my softer, feminine side to deal in society as people seem to have equated it with weakness and silliness even but now I realize that I was made as a woman for a purpose. I want to embrace my femininity as much as I can now.
I wish you well 💙 hope youve found peace with your feminine side
Ok, I'm a woman, and I can't help to notice that she didn't actually define femininity and her views in femininity.
Litzy Reads I believe she did that so that we can define for ourselves the right balance of our feminine and masculine energies and qualities present inside each and every one of us.
I believe she did this with her movement. We all have brains,but this comes from senses and sensuality,the feminine side....
She IS the embodiment of femininity. if you didnt get that...
Let girls be girls -- why is that not a saying that is passed around more? It's because feminine qualities are often seen as a fault, a reason that hinders success. Classic grace and elegance has supported many strong women in the past, why is it that grace and elegance is seen as submissive to traditional gender roles now? And by the way, what is wrong with adhering to traditional gender roles BY CHOICE? The problem before was not having a choice, but now that we have one, why are we dismissing some of them because they're 'traditional'?
This is my favorite ted talk. Absolutely. And I am not going to suppress my femininity anymore!!
Her awesome leopard print dress should b the new uniform for all women around th world.. So elegant, classy & feminine🙏🏻👌
This is the MOST EXCITING TALK I have seen about Women coming into their right place in society in a long time. I have thought this to myself for all of my 59 years, and have been pushed down in society into a quiet, elegant, intelligent woman, who, inside is extremely repressed. A diary filled with the questioning of why can't I be who I am inside, on the outside? I am so grateful to the internet and finding women like me, even if they don't live near me. I see so clearly. I walk in a new way as of this moment. Transformational.
A lot of the music she uses comes from the "bellydance superstars volume one" cd --if you were wondering about that, enjoy!
She exudes femeninity in an incredible way
"Giving up is a luxury that we women can't permit ourselves. It's our duty to fight the system from the inside. Fight or die with dignity." Hear, hear!
gosh I love this woman so much
So grateful. I recently did some healing work around boundaries and saying no. It was such a support to my healing work to say no with my body. It is my belief that if we practice this, we will send the energetic message that we say no. "No, this is my body and not your object. You will respect me."
intellectual belly dancing ...
This was wonderful. So much energy. Too bad the women were resisting for the most part
I found my teacher! I love how nervously they are laughing and she is unapologetically powerful!
She is so right on ... she shows why dance should be a more celebrated art form. Practicing it is empowering ...
Her saying no while dancing got me teared up
I love it. I teach dance and never knew that hidden power. Thank you!,
Modesty is femenine, mysterious is femenine, low key is femenine, and being a muslim north african woman that wears a veil and being a lady that's dance sensually only in private had made more than femenine and that's the real freedom
As soon as she started speaking and moving, I was captivated! 💗
I have the exact same view on femininity as her and I am so glad she talked about this theme like that. She encourages me every day to keep on doing what I love while embracing my femininity. A big applause
thank god i found this! sparked my soul once more, its been years since i felt what im feeling now
Well done!! What an inspiration and gift! Thank you Kaothar Darmoni for shining and sharing your gift with the world and making a difference.
This woman is so gorgeous and magnetic, and her accent! The whole talk was incredible.
Absoolutly agree! We have all a goddess in each other. So good to feel it and be conscious of our sacred center ✨ thank you Kaouthar❣️ balakallahloufik🙏
Best ted talk I have ever had the pleasure to watch!
So much truth. Same experience I had when I moved to Europe.
Definitely going to watch it again and again.
And off to share it now to all
I loved it. I was looking for a way to connect with my feminine energy, and I'm glad I was guided here.
This was awesome. Better than any guided meditation I've ever listened to. New routine!!!
I didnt know what I was getting myself into when I clicked this video.
This made me smile so much, even more as a belly dancer! Embracing my feminine side was a great reason as to why I chose this career, it brings me so much lightness and joy, I recommend spending time to discover whatever makes each of you connect to your feminine energy. Thank you for this talk, it was beautiful! ❤️💃🏼
Is that the Xena battlecry she did at the end? Wow, that brings back memories
Kirbubbles No, it is more like a tribal arabic/touareg thing to me.
This woman is a ball of fire! Loved this talk! 😃❣️
She's amazing !!! haha loved it ❤
I really loved this - such a great way to demonstrate and teach a perspective. To all rise together, and each support through your own strengths with what you can uniquely do. One does not need to be like another to accomplish the same level of greatness.
Amazing, energetic, strong but in a feminine way! Such people change the world. I adore her!💞💞💞
I love this woman! What a powerful force of energy!
What a POWERFUL WOMAN!!!! This is what it feels like to be in the presence of embodied femininity and I LOVE IT!
thank you kaouthar as a Tunisian I am proud of you continue your work
Thank you for this important and vital message about encouraging women to embrace their femininity and sharing belly “womb” dance during your Ted Talk! This was so very inspiring 💕 ✨
you are awesome...😍😍am literally crying in happiness...the way u r taking really making me liveky and energetic..nd wish to fly just right...you are awesome lady..hats off
I just adored this! and Kaouthar herself - A true goddess: kind, warm, and joyful!
I’m watching this and crying. Where does this sadness come from?
Likely the long repressed expression of the phenomenal power that is true femininity.
I had to watch it twice, the second time with my mum, right after! She followed the dance! AMAZINGGG
Wow! I stumbled across this video at an interesting time in my transition. I am a late in life transwomen. I have been on HRT for 2.5 years and I still present as male at work, because I am terrified about losing my job. Lately it's not working. I am stressed-out all the time by living this double life. I don't know how much longer I can keep this up. Just today my therapist and I (I don't do anything in my transition without discussing it with my therapist first) decided that this would be the year I would transition at work. It's a very happy day for me. I am still scared, but that is secondary to my overall happiness.
I wish you well g. Stay true to yourself. Always 💙
Manar Ali thanks! I’ve been full time since September 2018, and 4 weeks ago I had bottom surgery (Vaginoplasty). My recovery has been challenging, but I’m doing well.
@@saraannefay2196 woah! Youre an inspiration to everyone you know💙 i admire your strength and courage to stay true to yourself. I wish you well and i will keep you in my prayers 💙
She is great! So brave and truly FREE!
Kaouthar, I am proud of you, of me and of all the tunisian women!
Tu es géniale!
I work in a place with mostly men (film industry) after watching this, I’m not holding my femininity anymore!!!
Amazing! She's so energetic and vibrant. All women should embrace themselves as well.
WAAAWWW this is AMAZING !!!!!! Thank you Kaouthar Darmoni !!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU !!!!
I feel so relieved that there is someone talking about the feminine power...!!! OOwww how it makes me cry and smile of relief !!! TAHNK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU !!!!
Dance for World Change!!! LOVEEEE this example of how we can change the world and be more human in our expression as men and women! We need this more than ever at this turning point in 2018!!! No walls more dancing !
I wish she had outlined more what feminine qualities are exactly...
very inspiring!! Let's us women support each other and raise.