Because (random theory) abuse and trauma tends to be generational. If you get the feeling someone is throwing verbal abuse at you that doesn't fit you're probably right. They're just regurgitating what they heard, no critical thinking involved.
Manipulation. my nephew is living with me right now because he doesn't want to put up with his parents and siblings BS and they literally yelled "We are a family! " then "You're tearing this family apart!" at him we both started laughing in their faces but boy they got mad 😂😂😂
I'd like to offer up a different theory. Abusers, Narcissists and the like always seem to believe that their actions are benevolent. Any small act of kindness, no matter how insignificant, elevates them to the level of a Saint. Any abuse, neglect, ridicule etc is just "Tough Love" that will surely make them stronger. They rationalize away any remorse for their actions by convincing themselves their actions are good, regardless of how others view it and the objective outcomes of their actions. Meaning well is good, but on it's own, insufficient and nobody cares about their intentions if the consequences are damaging. But these people don't understand that. If they acknowledged their own culpability, even once, it might trigger a cascade of self-awareness that would wash over them like an avalanche and destroy their entire self-image, pride and reputation. Instead of risking that, they stubbornly hang onto one single aspect of an argument, as if that one sliver of a rationalization was the sole deciding factor. They shut out other opinions, refuse to see problems they don't have an answer for, they skip getting defensive entirely and go on the attack to change the subject. Thar attack may consist of guilt-trips, yelling like an idiot, or even getting physical. Example: "My parents were harder on me than I am to you, so you should be thankful. You had it easy and that was because of me." "I only hit you so you learn from your mistakes and don't repeat them. You'll be better off in the long run for it." These people honestly think they are good. They convince themselves of that because they are deeply insecure and can't face their own shortcomings honestly, even with themselves. - - - - How To Counter These People - - - - Despite the false bravado (and they will lay it on thick in everything they do), these are people ruled by their own insecurities. You can use that against them. Do NOT go at them head-on, but instead make condescending remarks about others who exhibit the same behaviors. I hate this, but it's basically the "mean girl" kind of passive-aggressive B.S. that you need to use. It's demeaning, but it works. When they hear you condescend to another, they will compulsively need to agree to show they are better than that person. They can't take offense without admitting that they engage in the same contemptable behavior. If they act that way around you after agreeing with you (and they will), then they have to rationalize the contradiction between their words and actions. You're spoon-feeding their ego so you can put it on a diet and slim it down a bit over time, lol. When you envision the "Mean Girl" stereotype, there's always a ring-leader who is the bitchiest and most two-faced, and she's surrounded by sycophantic "friends . Inexplicably, people are drawn to her. It's because the friends are this type of person, and the top girl is their puppeteer, using exactly this method to make them do her bidding. Be the puppeteer. You can't turn them into good people, they are what they are, but you can control them easily over time with some conditioning.
I'm so sorry you had to go through such a painful and unfair experience. It's difficult when those who should support you don't. I hope you're able to find peace and surround yourself with people who truly care about you.
Story 1: I guarantee you that Mark and the sister were cheating on each other the whole time since Mark was cheating on OP with the sister. It's only a problem because the sister needed someone to blame and Mark probably had receipts that she was cheating as well.
Because when a lot of people, specifically people you've known your entire life telling you you're wrong. It makes people start to think maybe they are wrong.
Why oh WHY didn't OP tell her sister that her ex was the type of guy to cheat on someone and then leave them for another woman? How would she have known that he was like that? Poor Lisa, she was completely blindsided by his completely unexpected behavior that she had no reason to believe he would ever be capable of!
I saw a similar story but in that story as soon as the grandfather learned of things for the first time he tore the heck into ops dad and when the dad tried other things he send her dad and mon to the hospital with his fists which was how ops dad and mom in that story and alsp threatened to distory their life if they tried to report him or do anything funny or oppose him
Why does everyone always claim "family" or "ungrateful" when someone stands up for themselves???
ai story bingo.
Those are examples of several poorly thought out manipulation tactics controlling/abusive/etc people use to shut down their victims.
Because (random theory) abuse and trauma tends to be generational. If you get the feeling someone is throwing verbal abuse at you that doesn't fit you're probably right. They're just regurgitating what they heard, no critical thinking involved.
Manipulation. my nephew is living with me right now because he doesn't want to put up with his parents and siblings BS and they literally yelled "We are a family! " then "You're tearing this family apart!" at him we both started laughing in their faces but boy they got mad 😂😂😂
I'd like to offer up a different theory.
Abusers, Narcissists and the like always seem to believe that their actions are benevolent. Any small act of kindness, no matter how insignificant, elevates them to the level of a Saint. Any abuse, neglect, ridicule etc is just "Tough Love" that will surely make them stronger. They rationalize away any remorse for their actions by convincing themselves their actions are good, regardless of how others view it and the objective outcomes of their actions.
Meaning well is good, but on it's own, insufficient and nobody cares about their intentions if the consequences are damaging. But these people don't understand that. If they acknowledged their own culpability, even once, it might trigger a cascade of self-awareness that would wash over them like an avalanche and destroy their entire self-image, pride and reputation. Instead of risking that, they stubbornly hang onto one single aspect of an argument, as if that one sliver of a rationalization was the sole deciding factor. They shut out other opinions, refuse to see problems they don't have an answer for, they skip getting defensive entirely and go on the attack to change the subject. Thar attack may consist of guilt-trips, yelling like an idiot, or even getting physical.
Example:
"My parents were harder on me than I am to you, so you should be thankful. You had it easy and that was because of me."
"I only hit you so you learn from your mistakes and don't repeat them. You'll be better off in the long run for it."
These people honestly think they are good. They convince themselves of that because they are deeply insecure and can't face their own shortcomings honestly, even with themselves.
- - - - How To Counter These People - - - -
Despite the false bravado (and they will lay it on thick in everything they do), these are people ruled by their own insecurities. You can use that against them.
Do NOT go at them head-on, but instead make condescending remarks about others who exhibit the same behaviors. I hate this, but it's basically the "mean girl" kind of passive-aggressive B.S. that you need to use. It's demeaning, but it works.
When they hear you condescend to another, they will compulsively need to agree to show they are better than that person. They can't take offense without admitting that they engage in the same contemptable behavior. If they act that way around you after agreeing with you (and they will), then they have to rationalize the contradiction between their words and actions. You're spoon-feeding their ego so you can put it on a diet and slim it down a bit over time, lol.
When you envision the "Mean Girl" stereotype, there's always a ring-leader who is the bitchiest and most two-faced, and she's surrounded by sycophantic "friends . Inexplicably, people are drawn to her. It's because the friends are this type of person, and the top girl is their puppeteer, using exactly this method to make them do her bidding. Be the puppeteer. You can't turn them into good people, they are what they are, but you can control them easily over time with some conditioning.
What’s the possibility that Ops sister was also cheating on Mark with another woman, but she caught him cheating first so she cried to her parents?
I'm so sorry you had to go through such a painful and unfair experience. It's difficult when those who should support you don't. I hope you're able to find peace and surround yourself with people who truly care about you.
3rd story. Why is the boss aware of the cheating and telling everyone as if it's a need to know for the event other than writer's convenience?
Story 1: I guarantee you that Mark and the sister were cheating on each other the whole time since Mark was cheating on OP with the sister. It's only a problem because the sister needed someone to blame and Mark probably had receipts that she was cheating as well.
2nd story pissed me off at the end. Why is he asking if he's the asshole
Because when a lot of people, specifically people you've known your entire life telling you you're wrong. It makes people start to think maybe they are wrong.
@classicrockkid345 Facts! My relatives did that to me for years until I completely cut ties with them.
This story needs to continue, and only you can bring those magical moments to the next chapter! 🌠📝
S1 youngest child syndrome
Why oh WHY didn't OP tell her sister that her ex was the type of guy to cheat on someone and then leave them for another woman? How would she have known that he was like that? Poor Lisa, she was completely blindsided by his completely unexpected behavior that she had no reason to believe he would ever be capable of!
Lisa learned that if they will cheat with you they will cheat on you.
Story 3: he played both of you.
Whaaat? The cheater cheated again? Noooo that NEEEEEVER happens!
I saw a similar story but in that story as soon as the grandfather learned of things for the first time he tore the heck into ops dad and when the dad tried other things he send her dad and mon to the hospital with his fists which was how ops dad and mom in that story and alsp threatened to distory their life if they tried to report him or do anything funny or oppose him
Sure, but the grandfather in this story is even better. He rewrites the will, and protects op from her parents without question. GOAT
"brothers should help each other"
How is he helping me?
Story 2: she's having an affair
No doubt.
Story 1: make them see or hear do it for Dan and tell them that is what they are like
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These stories are starting to become way to AI generated.