This is currently what I project onto father figures, including my dad. Living up to some expectation of my self and then collapsing when I do not meet those inner expectations. It’s interesting to just watch this cycle repeat. It conflicts with my desire to have and continue a “authentic” or “individuated” life. Banal, probably. But it’s there and it’s what I hold.
Is it because they have been shamed by their parents, or by proxy by their parents beliefs (clashing with their person)? Or is it because they feel shame for not being lovable (enough for their parents to love them)? Personally I feel deeply the former, but perhaps on an unconscious level an inherent lack (for which I've been trying my whole life to compensate for, or mitigate through external means, addictions, preoccupations).
This is currently what I project onto father figures, including my dad. Living up to some expectation of my self and then collapsing when I do not meet those inner expectations. It’s interesting to just watch this cycle repeat. It conflicts with my desire to have and continue a “authentic” or “individuated” life.
Banal, probably. But it’s there and it’s what I hold.
People can carry a sense of shame by having had emotionally distant parents. These people can feel it very regularly for no apparent reason
Is it because they have been shamed by their parents, or by proxy by their parents beliefs (clashing with their person)? Or is it because they feel shame for not being lovable (enough for their parents to love them)? Personally I feel deeply the former, but perhaps on an unconscious level an inherent lack (for which I've been trying my whole life to compensate for, or mitigate through external means, addictions, preoccupations).
Will the host remain silent when his guest speaks UMM UMM UMM
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I think the co-host has a hairball?