I am Italian and have worked abroad for many years . Every country is different from the others but I've learned that if you want to feel good about yourself and with others you have to learn to adapt to the place you live in and accept its advantages and disadvantages simply because the perfect country doesn't exist.
I am Algerian north African berber and algeria and italy are close to each other's we share the Mediterranean sea 🌊. But still I prefer ALGERIA over italy in terms of culture language and religion. And even if algeria is a developing country
Sometimes being in a very different environment provides the brain with enough distraction so that the person can ignore debilitating thought processes and move towards a better form of self-governance.
I really liked this video and, as an Italian man, I would like to add just a small personal remark. I think she nailed a very important and often neglected aspect of the phenomenon. I used to really like videos on UA-cam made by foreigners who decided to relocate in Italy, but as time passed I started to notice a trend that somehow upsets me. Many people seems to embrace a very "hedonistic" image of our country: Italy is the land of good food, fancy wine, aperitivo, beautiful landscapes, cities full of monuments and art, sunny days and genuine, simple personal relationships. A new world with increased quality of life and less stressful life. This is actually true, we have all of those things, but if someone comes here with a mental image of our country based only on the stereotypes I have listed above, he or she will soon discover that they are just a small part of what shapes our everyday life here. Simply put, Italy is not the cheaper version of a Californian dream life. Many foreigners list the pros and cons of our country and usually the pros are exactly the stereotyped things they projected on Italy, while the cons are all the real aspects of Italian everyday life that diverge from that image. Yes, our country is messy, chaotic, complicated, sometimes challenging. Things don't always work and our culture can be quite a shock if explored in depth. But understanding (not necessarily accepting) those non-stereotyped aspects of Italy means that you are serious about your intention to merge with us and share our common experiences. Otherwise, you'll end up being a dissatisfied tourist, that feels betrayed by a country that turned out to be quite different than expected... Living in Italy is not a year-long holiday into the world of "La Dolce Vita" and refined pleasures. Of course this remark does not apply to every foreigner living here and is not a criticism: it is just my way to kindly express my perplexities about that simplistic and hedonistic view of Italy.
This is very well expressed. I visited Rome and am a tan woman. I am seeing reviews of sisters from the diaspora that are giving their experiences that go beyond the pale of your perspective. I had 2, at the most, experiences that did not deter my visit overall. I would love to go back!! Yet, given the most recent experiences, it makes me think heavily about if I need to be treated so badly. Otherwise, your articulation is very balanced.
Interesting. Italian here, lived abroad (in US for many years), and now back in Italy, in Umbria, since a year (didn't have much choice). I find Italians close minded, close, and behind in many ways. Swap? 😅👋
I'm from the Philippines and I've been living in Italy for 6 years and I can honestly say that I 100% prefer it here. I love the Philippines but Italy gives me peace and happiness Edit (June 30, 2023): A lot of people are commenting saying that “oh yeah it’s cuz Philippines is a third world country” well no sht sherlock. I am not talking about it economically, I was talking about the OVERALL life. There are obviously some pros and cons about it, this is just my personal preference. Philippines might be poor but it is rich in culture, the people and traditions. And besides you can even see comments from people from US, UK etc that thinks the same as me, they prefer Italy rather than their country so it’s not about how rich or poor your country is. It really shows that some people have poor mindset to talk sht like that and damn it’s 2023 already, y’all still exist? Smh
I disagree. IF you're struggling with depression or anxiety, your mental health is your priority. You should talk to someone about it. BUT living in a different country that has a complete different culture, is also a way of dealing with it. It forces you to explore and adapt to your new environment and can make you forget your negative thoughts altogether. You'll be too busy. ''Will I get a metro card or bus pass? Where can I get language courses? Which cities and places do I want to see? Which activities do I want to do? Which communities will I join? What gym will I join? What work am i going to do? What's the best way to meet locals here? What are some goals I'd like to achieve while I'm here?'' Living in a different country can actually be therapeutic. It's an exciting adventure. What if living abroad IS the missing piece of the puzzle? What if suddenly you '''found'' your people? You're starting with a clean slate. A new chapter of your life. Sometimes, all you need, is a change. A change in environment, a change in friends, a change in partner, a change in your work, a change in culture, a change in how you look at the world. Don't try to understand your thoughts with your thoughts and feel bad about yourself. It doesn't help at all. You must have noticed that. So stop thinking and do stuff. Just get busy with taking action towards (whatever!) goals and that's what will produce positive emotion. Get some projects going. I moved to a different country 3 times, so I'm talking from experience. Think of your life as one with different stages. Sometimes you had a shitty stage, no problem. Leave that behind and enter a new stage of your life. Whatever you do, keep going.
@@kippykippyphoebe9203 You said it very eloquently. I guess some people have really different perspectives about life, because ''exhausting'' is the last word I would use to describe my experiences. It actually energizes and excites me. I'm an explorer by nature and going to places I haven't been, meeting people whom I don't know, doing things I haven't done, that gives me pure zest for life. (!) And I'm actually, preparing to move to Bali, Indonesia in a few months! I work remotely from my laptop so I can live anywhere. I'm not exhausted by that idea. Maybe the flight will exhaust me, could be haha.. Enriching my life with new experiences and people... very exciting! Living in the same town or city, waking up in the same house, hanging out with the same people, going to the same places... ouff.. that sounds exhausting to me. And terrifying!
@@Kyoto99952 absolutely agree. Go live your best life, embrace the unknown, eat healthy gorgeous food, sleep well under the stars and gentle lapping of the sea, be spiritually emotionally physically guided. Walk your path. This is the very thing money can’t buy. Move with grace through your stages, give, receive, ebb flow. Do you. Leave those who exhaust themselves be exhausted. Personally, I find the wind refreshing! Blessings and kind courage to you my friend. Life indeed is for living.
I was very close to ending up in prison, had no goals, i was chasing money filling my old traumas with materialism, drugs and women. Almost completally losing myself. And one day it just hit me i felt that young exploring kid full of energy who got lost in the woods, that kid who was out all day and didnt want to go back home, that kid who i still am. Then i deleted all social media broke contact with my old "friends" and booked a ferry to estonia, and walked to italy and to sardinia (where im originally from). Backpacking trough europe healed my mind and made me realise so many things. I found my self again learned to balance my good and bad and got back my sanity. Thats why i completally agree with you. cheers mate!
Coming from someone who has fulfilled his dream of living abroad. This girl is speaking words worth millions if you get them. Most accurate advice ever.
If you want Italy to be like the states don’t go. If you love the adventure of learning a new culture go. It’s just that east! Make and effort to learn their language and be open to laugh at yourself.
I fell in love with Italy because of the people. You are more friendly and more open to strangers than this country (USA) and I especially loved the Italian grandmothers , who adopted me in every village I went to. I love people and it a blessing to find people that were like me. I will return one day and I hope to be as happy as I was before ( 1981) thank you and have a beautiful day. Ciao 🥰❤️
My personal experience. I lived in (South) Italy for a year 10 years ago, and a few other places since - currently UK. I learnt Italian in high school so language wasn't that much of an issue. I love my home (beautiful Budapest), but, man, that was the happiest year of my life - with all its difficulties - EVER. Just in comparison, the UK is a miserable place, the location and the atmosphere matter more than you would think.
@@gaia7240 I was attending university and had limited funds - I went to any trip I could, but obivously that's true, I go back to ski most winter and visit friends in the summer if I can, but surely not comparable with someone who lived there multiple years... Every place has its advantages and disadvantages, unique problems; my personal expericenes are tied to a certain region and time period for both Italy and England... Compared to my previous post an update: I left the UK in January after a few years, valuable life lessons, but for us the negative outweighed the positive
She does not mention the spiritual and non material benefits of living in Italy. I am British and lived there very happily for fourteen year. Coming back to England was depressing!
OP is a bot...Italy is a very material place just ask Valentino, Versace, Prada, Armani, Dolce & Gabbana, Marni, Iceberg, Missoni, Trussardi, Moschino, Dirk Bikkembergs, Etro, and Zegna...
I moved to italy from the UK, and honestly Italy made me sooo happy from peace of mind perspective, less stress, more calm and tranquility, many many nature reserves to go and detox at. But i am married to an italian so maybe the road was already set for me as I didnt need to struggle to do everything by myself. But you are right, Italy doesnt check all the boxes. I had to give up my high paying job in the UK to come here. Ever since then I struggled to find a decent paying job in italy that accepts me as a fluent english speaker. From economic perspective, italy doesnt fulfill that need. the UK certainly does. So now im moving back to the UK to earn money with my family but spend it in italy instead. Luckily its just 2 hours flight away and my husband owns his home in Italy so we can come back whenever we like!!!!!! But I love Italy in every sense of the word and very saddened by the economic situation
Maybe you're just a healthy, rational person who doesn't look for the grass to be greener. You know how to make the best of a situation and actually think like an adult.
I innerstand you....I lived in London for 30 years and moved back to Italy.....I totally regret my decision and now after Brexit it' s almost impossible to return.....enjoy the best of both worlds guys 😃
I respectfully disagree. Life is what you make it no matter what country you live in. Fact. If a move to Italy or any other country is right for you and you plan well, then do it. Life is short.
@@Literallywhateverahhhhh yes but very badly and ina way that could put many off who might be needing a change of scene and to get away froma toxic environment or one that is just not good for them. She made it seem you had to have your whole life together and love eberything about your country before moving to another one.She could make someone feel hopeless and like there is no point.Very negative message
@@upendasana7857 I agree ,it is obvious that living in any country want make anyone automaticly happy . People do not move abroad becouse they are not happy in they countries but for many different reason ,cost of living ,life style etc .
I am an Italian living in Italy, and I live in the same city of your video (the beautiful Bologna), and sometimes I think that moving abroad to another country different from mine would be a solution to all my problems... But when I see video of foreigners thinking that living in Italy is a solution to their problems, I immediatly change my mind.
trasferirsi non risolve i nostri problemi. sono nato e cresciuto a Bologna e mi sono trasferito a Ravenna circa due anni fa, e quando vivevo a Bologna pensavo di trasferirmi da qualche altra parte perche' non mi piaceva molto. dopo due anni che vivo qua' a Ravenna ne ho le palle piene e sono dannatamente nostalgico della mia citta' e delle mie amicizie. i problemi non esistono nella realta', ma nella nostra mente e per risolverli bisogna imparare ad addattarsi ed a non essere pignoli sui lati negativi di un luogo o di una situazione. (cio' non significa non ribbellarsi quando ce n'e' bisogno). english translation: moving out doesn't resolve our problems. i was born and grew up in Bologna and i moved in Ravenna about two years ago, and when i lived in Bologna i pondered on moving out somewhere else 'coz i didn't like it very much. after two years living here in Ravenna i had enough of it and i'm desperately nostalgic of my hometown and my friends living there. problems don't exist in the reality but in our minds, and in order to resolve them one must learn to adapt and not to be fussy on one place or situation's cons. (that doesn't mean we shouldn't rebel when there's the necessity). (p.s. pineapple doesn't belong on pizza!!)
I've been living in Italy now for 8 years, from the UK. Like everywhere, some things drive you crazy but if you're prepared to go with the flow, it's a fantastic country to live in.
@@giulioborghi651 even if you speak italian i would avoid living in the south . Just a tip from a fellow north italian . North italy is basically another country compared to the south . However i do suggest to go south for vacations ( tbh you could go everywhere in italy , i love the alps ❤️)
The most important thing to remember: other countries do things and think in different ways than you were raised in. Your way is not always right it’s different. Your old way is not better or you would stay there. It’s not your job to turn your new country into your last country. Love the differences!
In my case, there are many things I didn't like about my country's mentality (Italy) and so when I moved abroad (Czech Republic), after a while I began to feel more fit in there than I was in Italy, like I found my true homecountry. I believe that talking about Europe, Italy is one of the countries whose lifestyle and mentality is the hardest to adapt to. Indeed even though I was born and raised in Italy, after 27 years I felt like I had to leave in a way or another, mainly due to the occupational and economical situation. It just felt easier moving abroad and start a new life in a random EU country whose mindset is more aligned with the one other EU countries have. When I began feeling like an adult with adult lifestyle expectations, things like sun, pasta, coffee, friends and family where not enough for me to give up a career, my dreams, my willingness to travel and to have a family myself instead of living my parents due to my unemployment situation. So, I think you may feel more at home in other countries than in your own. If your homecountry culture doesn't seem right for you, you will adapt to differences easily and start enjoy them soon.
not to mention free pucbilc health system, cheap public transportation, social security,ecc.... Ilived for ten yearsin the States (texs and California). and loved many aspects of the experience,but theItalian life style is at another level.
You're in the wrong state then. Moving across the world isn't the answer all the time; move to a safer state if that fits you better financially. My children never worry ab out getting shot where I live.
I don’t live there now! Not an accountant either, that’s funny. We were stationed with the US Army there and moved back to the US in July 2016. I would have loved living there forever though. I loved it.
I have traveled a lot growing up because both my parents grew up in other countries, and we often visited our families there. We traveled all over Europe and the UK when stationed in Italy. I love history, so getting to experience this first hand in Italy and EU, was amazing. I already speak Spanish, so learning Italian was not really hard for me. Latin based language, just pronounced differently. Learned how to take the high speed train system and used that to travel all over Italy. I got a SETAF Drivers license, and drove too after passing the driving written test. My daughter is ending a 10 day trip right now in Italy. Went with her sister in law to show her where we lived in Vicenza, and taking the trains (since I taught her how to do that while living there); to Venice, Verona, Florence (Firenze) and Roma (Rome). They are flying back to the US this weekend. I hope to go back to visit our many Italian friends we made there too.
Sorry Folks, but as Italian I must warn Youu!!! We have 4 different seasons, , that means the sun doesn' t always shine here!!!We don' t even sing opera all the time and we are neurotic like everyone else.and trust me if you want a decent life you must have ymoney !!! So if you pursue happiness, find it in yourself and then come here!!! Good vibes to everyone
I had a bad experience in my country 3 years ago. I waited this long to heal, and I am ready now to explore Europe. I'm making my base town in Italy. Yes, I read and heard over and over, that you need to be whole to move to another place and relationship. The Chinese say...."Where you go; there you are."
We had a similar story and when it came to starting fresh we preferred an Italian adventure - it even sounds romantic if it fails! Lots to get used to but you wont be transported into to your dream future on a feather bed.
Italy is a beautiful country, but it comes with many problems just like many other countries. Before you think of packing up and moving abroad to Italy, visit the country first many times, have long stays there so you can get a feel of what you will be faced with day to day. If you are thinking of moving abroad from the US, accept that conveniences and sense of urgency will go out the window in Italy.
@Enrico Amatori I definitely don't want it, everyone has it here in the usa whether they want to or not because its all about money here over every other aspect of life
BS. Moving from one state to another literally changed my life and genuinely made me happy. Acting like moving to a region, country, city, etc that has activities and lifestyle options that are conducive to your lifestyle won't improve happiness levels is the dumbest take I've ever heard.
I lived in Italy for years. And return often. It’s absolutely beautiful and I loved every moment. If you can’t find happiness in a place like Italy, you’re just not happy. Period.
Italy is the most BEAUTIFUL Country in the World!! No its not always SUNNY...but Italians are warm and friendly. Why?? FAMILY!! They love their Moms, Dads....sisters and brothers. I came to Milan as a Model in 1985..and NEVER left!!
When looking for videos on moving to/living in Italy I get tired of the romanticized "tourist" mindset of life abroad videos. They are good for inspiration but I want the realities of living abroad. When I decided I would like to move to Italy one day the first thing I tried to do is look at it from a realistic perspective and not from the tourist mindset. The bureaucracy, the cultural differences, costs, potential loneliness and finding new friends etc.
Sometimes it’s not about looking for happiness in a different place but to arrive to a place your soul feels at home and happy, where you simply feel like you belong
I cannot wait to pack it up and go. I want to find myself laughing at how unfamiliar everything is and find myself so immersed. My home country has nothing left to offer me and I have no familial ties, I cannot wait to grow roots as I please.
Roots don't grow as you please in a place where you're a foreigner. They will grow or not grow how the locals and the system decide. Just be aware of that. The best is actually if we stayed in our own countries and fought to make them better for their natives.
With the dismay at this level I’m guessing you’re a fellow American? Good luck. Italians seem welcoming. I also feel the same as you and can see a better life for myself. Just need to get as good at the language as possible save more and ship out. See ya there comrade lol
I moved from a north-of-the-Alps-country to Italy. It was like moving from heaven to the Inferno. My recommendation is do not do that!! Ive lived in 7 other countries and my standard of living is by far the worst in Italy. La dolce Vita is an absolute tourist construction that doesnt exist. Things dont work here in Italy. A country cant be livable just from a dreamy stereotype, great food, beauiful land, art and historic treasures. It really doesnt make life any better here.
Living in Italy can be very different depending on the region, in some places in the countryside there is a high quality of life, in big cities a lower quality can be found, depends also on your personal background, how creative you are, for example, it is not that simple to talk about life in Italy in a short video.
She makes a very strong point. An unhappy person would be the same regardless of what the surrounding can offer. I do love Italy above and beyond any other country in the world and have considered moving there many times. The question I grapple with time and time again is what happens when the novelty wears off and I start feeling homesick and missing all the familiar things I am accustomed to and know in my own country. Los Angeles is my home and I know how to go places, find everything I may need, be with friends and family and be comfortable. However, being in the design industry and appreciating the arts, architecture, amazing cuisine, and warm, kind, and energetic people of Italy, have made me think that I would be happier there. Well, In my retirement I have opted for traveling there every year or two enjoying this amazing country for a short while and coming back home to what I know until the next trip. I do appreciate her honest view of Italy...Well done.
after living in China for 5 years (loved the first 3 years, but now im so over everything) being in the wrong place can certainly make you unhappy. Italy is my favorite country, but for now I need to save money so I can make living there a reality in the future!
@@francescocarluccio7714 perche'??? Io sono iraniana e considero di emigrare in Italia tra anno prossimo per studiare fashion (la laurea magistrale). E' italia meglore di Iran o No? mi guidi per favore.( mi scusi per non parlare l'italiano bene, Io sto imparando)
For an iranian resident like me Italy is like a heaven coz the situation goin on here is quite like hell, u mentioned chaotic and nosy u have no idea how much chaos, noise or sometimes fights I hear everyday and every night in here where I live, u have no idea for buying a normal bread or printing some university papers I have to wait in line it might even take more than 1 hr, apart from that, the dictator government here which doesn't count women as humans and treat everyone with violence and the useless currency that we have where the cheapest car is like 900 million Toman in our currency, where that I couldn't succeed to get a damn job in 5 years coz everyone reject me and my resume not paying attention to the master degree I worked my ass off to get, the dry and polluted air, and lemme not continue coz u can't take it bro, so whatever u have explained abt Italy is a heaven in my eyes it even made me more eager to get the hell outta here, I've already been in hell don't scare me of fire :)
I'm Italian and grew up in Milano. I've lived in Florida USA since 1987 and there is certainly a lot that I miss about Italy. I remember coming back to the USA one year after visiting my parents in Italy, and in the 15 minute drive to my son's school all I saw was gas stations, churches and convenience stores - a sad view compared to the likes of Palazzo della Scala, Castello Sforzesco piazza del Duomo all within the same time frame, on a tram ride in Milano, which also took 15 minutes. In Italy you can really FEAST your eyes on many interesting things, without spending money or driving to fancy locations by just going for a simple walk down the street. Italians are definitely friendlier and warmer that Americans, in my opinion. Americans are more opportunity oriented, always ready to seize the moment. Italians are much better at relaxing and enjoying the moment, without turning a simple get-together into a money making opportunity. Americans are very good at that, they are just programmed at being competitive from a very young age and the way of life in the USA allows and encourages kids to be entrepreneurs too. But life in the USA is quite stressful. Depending on where you live here, life can be very expensive and you're really always "on the go". There are rural areas too where life is simpler but the level of culture is not comparable to the quality of life I would find in rural-Italy. I can't say the food is great everywhere in Italy, but anything you find will be much better than an Applebee's or Chili restaurant chain. There are conveniences in the US that I would not want to give up though. Service in the USA is still very strong and the customer is definitely right. In Italy store owners may argue with you so be prepared for that. If you threaten to sue for something which you could get away with in the USA, chances are they'll laugh at you, as they should. Law enforcement is more relaxed though, I remember once in Rome watching 2 police officers (carabinieri) telling a guy to move along as they were escorting him out of the park....they were strolling mostly, with their hands behind their backs....very relaxed. The man didn't need handcuffing or arresting, he was just being removed from the park for being a nuisance. You are treated as a REAL PERSON in Italy, instead of a criminal. In Italy you are expected to USE YOUR COMMON SENSE AND YOU ARE LAUGHED AT, IF YOU DON'T. Yes, there is a lot that I miss about Italy.
This is why people experience major culture shock. I’m American who has lived in a few countries. Your mindset definitely has to be open to assimilating into new cultures or ways of living. Thanks 😊!
I used to think this. I still follow the first rule of travelling. But now I realise that most people are wannabe-Westerners. My time in India was utterly jading, for example. In Uttar Pradesh for example I found the most money-obsessed materialistic capitalists - other than the Polacks of course - that I've ever met. On the other hand, some countries with their own cultural pride, historical influence or traditional way of doing things were less obsessed with globalisation and certainly warranted at least some of the respect that one has as an idealising intermediate-level traveller. Authenticity is everything.
When you come from a third world country, you indeed find happines in a first world country; that's why people from developed countries say happines is no in a country, you simply don't understand what it means to live with fear constantly, afraid to even step out of your home or even in your own home, don't pretend to know everything because you don't
@@gaia7240you can't compare Italy with latam, yesterday I saw how a thief gave a shoot to a woman in the middle of the street, it was 11:00 am three man with guns the woman died right there, so don't write if you know nothing
So few people take in the psychological factor when moving to a new culture. We all arrive to new countries with our old cultural ideas. It's tough going through the 'breakdown' period where you're always comparing your ways with the new ways. You will be confused often by the new social rules and behaviours. You will try to cling on to your old standards thus making your life even more difficult. You will often say 'back in my country they do/don't do it like this'. There's a desperately uncomfortable period of transition which should ultimately lead to the acceptance of your new situation. This has to happen, often painfully. Prepare yourself for feeling frustrated by how systems work differently. Prepare yourself for misunderstandings due to lack of fluency in the new language. Prepare yourself for realising that you need help more than you ever did before. Prepare yourself for feeling awkward and inadequate. Prepare yourself for how much you'll miss the 'ordinary' things of your old culture. Prepare yourself for people being ignorant towards you because you're a 'foreigner'. Prepare yourself for being let down because the new people don't play by your standards. Prepare yourself for how difficult day-to-day things will become because you don't yet understand how to flow with the new culture. Prepare yourself to not being able to recognise one familiar brand of product for anything you need (it took me forever to find a similar product to Dettol). Prepare yourself for all the medicines that you can and can't buy over the counter. Prepare yourself for the invitation from other 'foreigners', like you, to form a b*tching circle about how horrible the new people are (please, please avoid that at all costs, it will ruin your experience). Prepare yourself to make new friends who you have little to nothing in common with. Prepare yourself to be utterly overwhelmed. Once you get through that uncomfortable period (which may take years for some) then prepare yourself to enjoy your new, wonderful life.
If you're the right person for Italy, it will make you happy in a general sense. Of course negative life experiences are available to you everywhere and it is not realistic to think you'll have a life free from these in any country.
I am sorry but even though I can at some level agree with the statement "a country won't make you happy, happyness comes from yourself", I honestly believe a country can make you happy or unhappy, so this statement sound more like a slogan to me. I am from Italy and lived also in Poland and Czech Republic. Living in Italy to me was very depressing, especially once I graduated and find out it was just impossible for me to get a job, getting an adult lifestyle, planning my future, having children, travel and basically enjoy my life. So, living in Italy for me was definitely a source of unhappiness at the point I left for Czech Republic. When I went there I was depressed and time after time my happyness level increased daily to the point I didn't want to leave. Later on due to the pandemic I lost my job and moved to Poland and to me the life in there was very depressing, so I moved again in Czech Republic and now I am satisfied with my life and daydreaming about my future half of the time. So, due to my experience I believe a country sure does make you happy/unhappy but it depends on you which country suits you better and also your problem may not be just country related and so moving elsewhere will not be good enough.
Hello, i'm from an asian country thinking of studying and eventually working in Italy. If i may ask, why can't you find a job, build a family, etc? Is finding a job that hard in Italy?
@@xoho3462 plenty of Italians lives abroad because: 1) it's that hard to find a job in Italy 2) with the Italian salary you can only make a living if you live with your parents (you probably heard about "mammoni", people in their 30s or 40s living with their own mother) 3) we have major economic and political issues and these with negative impact in daily life and mood of many Italians. Honestly life in other european countries is much brigher and enjoyable, in my opinion trying to find a job in Italy and to make a living there, a carrer and so on is a huge waste of time. Talking about building a family, there are many Italian men married with foreign wife and very very few Italian women married with foreigners (there is a statistic of it and the results are impressive). So, you can enjoy Italy as a student but my advise to you would be to move somewehere else afterwards especially if you are a man. Foreign women get to eventually end up in a nice situation by getting an Italian husband, but for foreign men deciding to stay in Italy is just the wrong thing to do.
@@hellboy0189 i see, thank you so much for the wonderful insights. Can i ask, what other countries do you suggest as an alternative for a better work prospects? And is it common/ do you think a student graduating from Italy would face a hard time searching for jobs in other EU countries?
@@xoho3462 Actually I live in Czech Republic and many foreigners (including Italians) are here. I know many people who are studying at the university in Prague while working full time for a multinational company, here the unemployemnt is very low, there are plenty of job opportunities, salaries are good (but not high) but the main issue is increasing cost of living due to covid and war (issue that is common in the whole EU). Better countries would be probably Austria, Germany or Scandinavian countries but in one case you need to speak German and in the other you need to cope with cold weather and I honestly don't know too much about Scandinavia. To me Czech Republic is the best due to affordable cost of living, quality of life, finding a job being easy, salaries being decent and English knowledge being good enough to find a job but if you speak German or French you surely have better options.
Trust me anything is better than South Africa right now. I would love to live and work in Italy. Yes like every country it has its problems but this is definitely a HUGE improvement from SA.
You are right o e hundred percent. South Africa is on it way to an implosion. The crime, work ethic, services and the list goes on are deplorable. You'd probably be better of in the Ukraine. So so so sad what's happening to SA.
I partly disagree with your first and last point. Moving abroad won't solve inner problems all by itself, but the thing is - if you live in a country where people are sad, introvert, depressed, then an environment has an impact on you, and in such places it is harder to change. Furthermore, studies have shown that if someone moves to a new place then the possibility of a change is greater. Moving abroad has been one of the best life decisions as I transformed in ways that would not be possible in my home country. And on cost of living - Italy has great tax break incentives (75% - 90% of income being exempt from income tax) to people moving to Italy. Most realistically, it is more beneficial to remote workers. In such a case (or even someone finding good job in Italy), compare paying very low tax or huge taxes in nordics or central Europe and you quickly can see how the income can be increased by just moving to Italy. Not to mention incentives by the Italian government funding the renovation of your house.
Happiness comes from within. Yes your situation/ location / lifestyle can help but it’s not everything. As an old saying goes: ‘money cannot bring you happiness’ (but it can make you comfortable in your misery). Italy is beautiful but you would have to be prepared to make a move there work. A three month ‘immersion’ stay will happen for me, then I’ll take it from there 👍
I don't expect any country to be perfect and I know every place will have its downsides. But, I really don't agree that I need to love my own country to be able to love other countries. And I don't think I need to be happy with my country first. I understand that some people are just unhappy anywhere but I think those people are rare. I'm not expecting perfection. I don't care about long lines or anything more minor. But, there are some basic things I would like that my country doesn't offer. I want to live somewhere safe without mass shootings almost daily. I want to live somewhere where I can actually have a family/give birth and if I have some medical problem I won't die or go to jail. I want to live somewhere with decent healthcare and where you won't lose your house or have to declare bankruptcy if you have a medical emergency. I want to be able to send my future children to school and not have to worry about them dying or having to buy them bulletproof backpacks. Violence is a huge reason I want to leave my home country. Healthcare and the loss of women's rights are huge factors as well. I want to live somewhere kinder without all the hatred, racism, sexism, etc. etc. I realize you can find that everywhere but it's really getting extreme here. I really don't even care about food or any of that. And there are always little inconveniences everywhere. That's fine. I just want to feel safer and feel some sense of community. It would be cool to afford dental care too but that isn't as important as escaping all the mass shootings etc. I don't mind having to learn a new language and culture. I just want to feel safe and like I can breathe again. I want to build a family and I can't do that here.
I moved to Canada simply because I fell in love with an old farmhouse and room to breath. I've never second guessed that decision. She makes very good points about moving for the right reasons.
First of all Most of your points can be applied to any country not just to Italy, second you have to also have a knowledge of base country which person willing to move out from it. Loving your own country has nothing to do with moving to another country, most of the time situations, reasons are much more complicated than just moving for the sake of sun. Italy can be a difficult place to live so all other countries. Happiness is an inner experience that's for sure but environment will have strong impact on most of the people who can actually feel something, not talking about potatoes here.
I was stationed in Sicily for 3 years with the military at Sigonella. There’s pros and cons to living in Southern Italy, but it was honestly a very positive experience for my entire family. I loved the food, people, weather, sights and attractions, and restaurants. I disliked the Sicilian driving habits, bad quality of the roads, and the Sicilian lack of respect for public waiting lines and personal space. Living in Italy wasn’t a perfect experience but i enjoyed myself much more than living in the United States. But you will start to miss little things in the United States like American food options (Chick Fil A, Five Guys burgers, good angus steaks, etc). Part of my happiness was related to our income. I was receiving an American service member paycheck which was far superior to the average Sicilian income. So we lived comfortably. Don’t move to Italy if you’re going to be broke
Thanks you mentioned the last point. Without a more than decent salary you can't enjoy Italy and will get miserable hating the government, the burocracy, the corruption and the many uneducated people
Sicily is a whole different world (especially in economic terms) to Bolzano, Trento, outskirts of Milan, etc. I would say the best place in Italy is actually in Switzerland: Lugano. It's perfect.
@@Army_Retired Well, the people are the same, they even use the same Lombard accent as in Lombardia. It jusg shows how different from the south northern italians are when given a different (better) enviroment.
Coming from an Italian, it really depends on where you're coming from. There are definitely better and safer places to live in but it's 100% possibile to be happy here and you can do way worse. It sure has its flaws but there are many things to love too
@@rurumaekawa8944 Hi there 👋 I’m Italian and I live in Rome. First thing that I would suggest is to start learning a bit of the language. You can speak in English in bigger cities, but a little Italian would take you a bit far and it might get you new friends more easily. Which city will you be living in?
I live in Milan and I'm very happy about that! You have mountains, glaciers, plans, countryside, Mediterranean sea, stunning lakes just one or 2 hours away.... ❤
I want to move to Italy specifically because of a program I want to study. I don't expect Italy to be this paradise but I am from the US, so already I look at the cost of healthcare and university in Italy as something better than my country. On top of that, the town I live in is just one of those places that suck the life out of you. I cannot walk anywhere either, so that's another factor. It's not the first time I've been to another country. I understand that going somewhere else isn't going to fix your mental health issues. Still, if your mental health issues are happening of problems like not having healthcare because you don't have a job, or feeling trapped because you can't afford a car. Hence, you work remote and are slowly losing your mind in your house, then I do know going somewhere walkable with affordable healthcare with take the stress off. Of course, the new stress will be "oh I'm illiterate" and "I have no idea what anyone is saying" but in my experience, that's easier to fix.
See, I live in the US. So it would improve my quality of life and improve my children's life. I’m tired of paying 200 dollars every time I see a doctor. Abortions are illegal, I have to worry about my doctor getting shot at school, I work my life away for a small paycheck, I can’t afford to go to college because the amount of which I need to work to survive is TOO MUCH. So I kindly disagree.
This is the video that was missing so far. Very rational, wise and well put: the best advices one can give to any potential expat across the globe. Brava!! 🙌
Thats why I love traveling the world and come back home,its good to be around people you love and know a big chunk of your life and when you are bored just go anywhere in the world enjoy learn then come back.
I have found that being happy takes determination and work. Wake up, every day, and decide that this day will be only as good as I make it myself. Other people have no obligation toward your happiness.
She is right! sadly. Italians try to marginalize foreigners as much as they can to my experience, i.e. if you are skilled or have top degree, you will not be given the right job (if they give you a job). Foreigners, especially those coming outside the EU, are a second-person in many standings. Women here, very rarely date any foreigner. Studying here and getting a degree here, you must prepare to leave the country afterwards, since there wont be a job for you. Italians CANNOT see someone a foreigner doing better than them, just look how many companies or parliament members, mayors are non-Italians, and compare it to, say Sweden or Norway (let alone US or UK), where Italians too are holding the power. Italians themselves have flooded every job positions across EU, especially in Germany. So just imagine ... If there is an opportunity, a good deal, you WONT get that. Italian numbers that you see from GDP, to inflation, wages, etc. ARE ALL FAKE. Italy's economy is a heck of wreck! On the other side, Italy is like heaven on earth if you got the money from non-Italy sources and you wanna enjoy life immortally.
You're a weird dude, Micah. It's like you are on a mission to bash Italy and all its problems. Have you been watching the news lately? Nowhere is safe or doing well economically. We could go on and on. Many family are struggling throughout the world. How do you like them apples? Move on buddy and never look back......
While its true that no place can make you happy.. I do like being in Europe because people can actually have intelligent conversations, cities are walk-able, which increases my happiness.. nice architecture, because the horrible architecture in the U.S. is depressing, lower cost of living compared to the U.S.( especially if you want walkability in the U.S...NYC, SF, Boston, etc.) makes me happy, Also women I can connect with in a meaningful way.. I think there is less focus on work, that makes me happy, the Italian energy and food, which is not the same in the U.S... (The U.S. has bad Italian food).. this makes me happy..
It depends on which city you chose: chose big cities like Milan, Turin, Rome, Florence or a touristic beach city like Rimini, Venice, Cagliari (don't go to isolated old depressed cities like Novara, avoid them)
Si vive benissimo anche nelle città piccole ed isolate. Inoltre per chi vuole la vera esperienza Italiana credo che la tranquillità sia un ottimo fattore, molto difficile da trovare in città come Milano.
@@fabioesploratore1847 magari faceva schifo in quella specifica cittadina o faceva schifo a te. Comunque i paesini sono un bellissimo posto dove vivere, ci ho vissuto prima di trasferirmi per l'università. Conosci tutti, forte sentimento di appartenenza, quando sei lì sei in rivalità col paesino vicino, ma quando ti ritrovi con qualcuno del paesino vicino in una grande città è come se fosse tuo fratello... poi dipende anche dove si trova il paesino... io ho vissuto in una "cittadina" di 7000 persone in Salento, con tanti paesi vicini, tante marine bellissime ecc.
@@filippomonaco2303 io vengo da un paesino di 5000 abitanti eh😂 a sto punto credo sia tutto soggettivo, perchè a me non piace moltissimo il paesino, ovviamente ha dei lati molto belli come la tranquillità, la pulizia ecc.. e poi verissima quella cosa dei paesi rivali vicini, quando mi sono trasferito a milano ho incontrato uno di un paesino "rivale" e siamo diventati amici (prima di trasferirmi a milano però ho fatto 8 mesi a novara, forse gli 8 mesi peggiori della mia vita😅, forse è soggettivo, ma in questo caso ci sono anche molte cose oggettive..)
Italia è bellissima quando si trova lavoro e un posto da vivere potendo avere un puo di controllo su tuo lavoro, lavorare con vito allogio non è buono in nissen parte d' questo mondo.
Thanks for sharing your depth and wisdom. The advice, Certainly deeper than most other channels, may not be something that everyone wants to hear, but something that everyone certainly needs to take into account.
Florence (where this girl is filming) is almost more filled with expats than Italians haha The amount of Americans who move here with the mindset this video rightfully condems is insane. Florence is now the second most expensive city in Italy after Milan, with the caveat that it doesn't have the salaries that you have in Milan... And that's mainly because so many rich people from the US, UK and similar are moving there
You may or may not feel 100% happy in Italy, but I wouldn't want to live anywhere else in the world.. and I'm from beautiful Australia. Much love from Abruzzo 🗻🦌🍷🌰🍸🍝🥗☕🧀⛱🌊🐟🍀
I lived in Switzerland, Italy and now in the USA. I can tell you Switzerland and Italy were much better to live than the USA! I am thinking of moving back to Europe.
Thank you for the video. I feel this was more philosophical vs. informational. I'm quite happy with who I am. I desire a MUCH slower pace of life with loving people. This video actually reinforced my desire to move to the homeland of my parents.
@@DramaticallyExpatic oh of course and again thank you. I didn't mean to imply any intent on your part. I just found it more philosophical than informational. 😊
THANK YOU. I am unsatisfied with Belgium, its weather and ugliness. So I ponder settling in southern France or Italy. But you reminded me of the things one must consider, in addition to just the sun and art. This is not a holiday. It's my life!
funny hearing you say you gotta love your country when your minimum wage is about 172 euros and corruption rages on, i would be happy literally in any european country, oh well first world problems.... same thing saying that to a dude from Somalia trying to move to europe "oh you gotta be happy there first"
She's wrong about the warm and sunny weather. I live in Toronto canada and spending 3 to 4 months practically locked in the house due to the extremely long and cold winters is more than a good enough reason to abandon my country....and intend to 😊
I have to disagreed as well. I live in Canada and I’m always worrying about money. I can’t afford stuff even with two jobs and I’m going to my third one. And I have a bachelor’s degree in science. My professional job doesn’t pay me enough, that I have to find 3 to 4 jobs in order to live. I am basically not living, I’m surviving. I’ve never been to Europe and it’s one of my dreams to go there, but I’ve heard from some people that leaving in Europe is less stressful than US & Canada. You don’t earn that much money but people’s mental health it’s so different compering both sides of the world.
Forget it about Italy. You will barely find a job here. They barely make any money here, 1.3k is what they earn in Florence a month, 500e is the cheapest room (!). I found it really expensive there or to say the same prices as in Germany, but we make more. Most adult italians get a 2nd "salary" from their parents, who still have good contracts or other types of wealth, which are slowly fadinf.
This woman is very wise . In italy there are major cultural and weather differences between North and South. Architectture and food is great throughout the country . The North is bordering with other european countries . Big cities are chaotic of course.
There are pros and cons in every country. I've been living in Germany for all my Life and I really can't complain but there are dramatically underpaid people here too. I have an Italian familiar background and an old house in Sicily which needs to be renovated. Maybe one day I will move in.
Bin auch in Deutschland geboren, mit italienischen Wurzeln und kann ganz gut italienisch....irgendwie zieht es mich umso älter ich werde umso stärker dorthin.
Oh shut up. I wish I can go through all this disappointments you mentioned in this video. It’s better than living in one of the greatest conflicts in nowadays history, Palestine and Israel. As a Jerusalemite, Italy is the holy land not Jerusalem. I prefer the southern part of Italy because it is more Mediterranean and similar to home. Italy culture and history is just superior. The lush green and vegetation is beautiful. Italy has the greatest natural scenery. A democracy that you won’t see in any Arab country and even in apartheid Israel! The language is just beautiful. The people are gorgeous like they’re gods and goddesses. The weather is perfect, you get warm summers with an average heat and cool-wet winters. I’ve never stepped a foot in Italy but I am pretty sure it is one of the best countries to live in. I live on the Palestinian side of the wall and i know that many Italians do not favor us Palestinians and that they stand with Israel. That’s fine and I’m really accepting of their opinions on that matter. I really love everything about Italy. Italians should be proud and boastful as I regard them the elites in everything including fashion. Italy has left remarkable fingerprints in all the lands they conquered. The ancient ruins here in Palestine/Israel stand to show the greatness of the Roman Empire. Rome is the Latin world’s heart and the captain of the ship in the Mediterranean Sea. 🇮🇹❤️
i'm going to study abroad in a university in rome soon and i plan on staying, settling down in rome after graduating the university i'm going to go to. this video really helped me understand what i'm preparing myself for, thank you.
is your family loaded with money? Then you will enjoy Italy after your university experience. If not forget Rome with a standard miserable italian salary
Don’t know if this person is from Russia or somewhere else in Eastern Europe, but a good place to start, would be to not transfer all that negativity that goes with those places, to these other places. Girlfriend needs to unclench, and find her dolce far niente, or go back to those cold, morose places. Italy will ABSOLUTELY make you happy, with just a place of tortellini alla panna and a good bottle of wine.
I disagree. I moved from Berlin to Italy and as much as I disliked Berlin, I adore Italy. That's why I moved, because some things are better here: much more sun, awesome beaches, the people are warm, welcoming and amazing, cost of living is cheaper. Everyday I love this country more and more. I totally found happiness in a country.
Wrong. I lived in Italy almost five years, raised in Las Vegas. Then Arizona, then Utah and Virginia. I disagree. Italy is beautiful, wonderful roundabouts so no annoying stopping n going, people take pride in their country n morals n value of life in Italy. Family oriented, woke hard basis, ride bikes to stores n out n about. She has no idea how Americans live, it sounds like. I loved everyday in Italy and after three years gone I could cry still to have it back. She is crazy.
Beautiful! I am a US citizen, I’m 1/2 Italian, went to first, fourth and fifth grade in Italy, My mother raised me as an Italian in Beverly Hills CA. So everything you say in this video is true. Know your values and then choose countries that appear to have si liar ones. Mine are : best quality food that I can go buy fresh on my bicycle because I have a small fridge. This, Italy is very good for me to consider. I’m an active 66 yr old at least up until right now. I would like to live in Italy possibly 30 - 40 km outside of a major city because cities make noise; until they are made of of electric cars. I’m fortunate enough to speak Italian. Are you willing to learn a foreign language? Important considerations I believe. If I move to Munich am I willing at 66 yrs. to learn conversational German language? And yes; where I go there I am. So true.
That is my dream for the last 20 years: moving to Italy! I am 65 and can not do it alone. I am US citizen too, born in Dominican Republic. I have been to Italy many times and just LOVE IT! Italians and Dominicans have a quasi identical.culture. Sooooany things in common in the way we look at life , family, friends, LIVING! IF I was married again my first question to interview my partner to.be: are you willing to move to Italy, fully, 6 months a year, 3 months a year? I am praying for my dream to come true! I will.pack in a sec!!!!
You didn't even talk about the prices or anything about Italy ..you're just saying that if you're not happy don't come here you can't tell people what to do they got to find their own happiness and, if they make a mistake they got to find that out too so, I say wherever you want to go go if it makes you happy if you find out later on it doesn't well then you get up and leave you don't need no psychology course here..
I've lived in Sicily for 8 years and have just come back to the UK now. I'm leaving behind some friends, but for the most part I'm happy to move back to the UK, because I couldn't deal with the brutal tax regime, the continuous pointless bureaucracy and the horribly high temperatures during the summer. I also felt quite isolated a lot of the time and that wasn't great for my mental health. I think if you go to Italy with a good support network and a guaranteed job and air-conditioning you can probably have a great time. But it's by no means a paradise.
I am Italian , I live in the Uk and I’m looking forward to leaving and going back to Italy. Probably the most joyless and colourless country in the world even if your bureaucracy and job market work better. And I live in London, don’t even make me start on other parts of England… what a dump
I am Italian we are living here since we born but we never get disappointed or something else there is no low quality of life it depends on you how you live your life here and your area where you are living but uploading this kind of videos against italy is literally immature act living in italy is actually worth it
Sometimes we do have to move to another country. We don’t have another choice. But happiness is not found in any country it is found within. If you are having issues of happiness then do the following: Wake each morning, wash your face Dress nicely and appropriately eat well but don’t overindulge and do your best at whatever you do. And happiness will soon follow.
Get your relocation chart done by a good astrologer for locations that are good for you depending what you wish to bring into your life. Moving to a different location on the planet will bring other parts of your birth chart to the fore, with a different emphasis than if you stayed put in the city or town you were born in. I got mine done and there are a few locations in different countries that are good for me depending on if I want to write, trade, have great neighbors, an emphasis on creativity or another place for more of an emphasis on spirituality. A great idea for choosing good holiday visits too.
I am Italian and have worked abroad for many years . Every country is different from the others but I've learned that if you want to feel good about yourself and with others you have to learn to adapt to the place you live in and accept its advantages and disadvantages simply because the perfect country doesn't exist.
What is the rent like I want to just pick up and move to where my family is from I don't speak the language will I be able to get a job easily
Carissimo... quali sono i vantaggi per un giovane qua in Italia? Parliamone sinceramente.
@@MP-ut6eb tutto dipende, come in ogni fase della vita ....(lavoro, localita', eta' ecc...)
I am Algerian north African berber and algeria and italy are close to each other's we share the Mediterranean sea 🌊. But still I prefer ALGERIA over italy in terms of culture language and religion. And even if algeria is a developing country
@@malikaabizar8318 how are Berbers treated in Algeria?
Happiness is something to be found in yourselves, not in a country.
Ciao bro
True, absolutely.
Italy is a racist place.
Sometimes being in a very different environment provides the brain with enough distraction so that the person can ignore debilitating thought processes and move towards a better form of self-governance.
Environment does help...
I’d take anything bad in Italy over getting shot in Chicago. Sometimes moving can bring happiness.
💯…
💔😢, love from Canada
Hahaha fellow Chicagoian,I just went to Italy and coming home gave me depression
Exactly
You can thank the liberal voters in Chicago for that
I really liked this video and, as an Italian man, I would like to add just a small personal remark.
I think she nailed a very important and often neglected aspect of the phenomenon.
I used to really like videos on UA-cam made by foreigners who decided to relocate in Italy, but as time passed I started to notice a trend that somehow upsets me.
Many people seems to embrace a very "hedonistic" image of our country: Italy is the land of good food, fancy wine, aperitivo, beautiful landscapes, cities full of monuments and art, sunny days and genuine, simple personal relationships. A new world with increased quality of life and less stressful life.
This is actually true, we have all of those things, but if someone comes here with a mental image of our country based only on the stereotypes I have listed above, he or she will soon discover that they are just a small part of what shapes our everyday life here. Simply put, Italy is not the cheaper version of a Californian dream life.
Many foreigners list the pros and cons of our country and usually the pros are exactly the stereotyped things they projected on Italy, while the cons are all the real aspects of Italian everyday life that diverge from that image.
Yes, our country is messy, chaotic, complicated, sometimes challenging. Things don't always work and our culture can be quite a shock if explored in depth.
But understanding (not necessarily accepting) those non-stereotyped aspects of Italy means that you are serious about your intention to merge with us and share our common experiences.
Otherwise, you'll end up being a dissatisfied tourist, that feels betrayed by a country that turned out to be quite different than expected...
Living in Italy is not a year-long holiday into the world of "La Dolce Vita" and refined pleasures.
Of course this remark does not apply to every foreigner living here and is not a criticism: it is just my way to kindly express my perplexities about that simplistic and hedonistic view of Italy.
Sicuramente.
Una volta faro visitare, probabilmente dopo guerra mondiale...
You put that very diplomatically! Thank you for your perspective.
This is very well expressed. I visited Rome and am a tan woman. I am seeing reviews of sisters from the diaspora that are giving their experiences that go beyond the pale of your perspective. I had 2, at the most, experiences that did not deter my visit overall. I would love to go back!! Yet, given the most recent experiences, it makes me think heavily about if I need to be treated so badly.
Otherwise, your articulation is very balanced.
You're damn right
Like the American Dream!
I lived in Italy for 30 years.
I wish I never left.
The most kind, wonderful people and a beautiful country to live.
Why you don’t go back?
Interesting. Italian here, lived abroad (in US for many years), and now back in Italy, in Umbria, since a year (didn't have much choice). I find Italians close minded, close, and behind in many ways. Swap? 😅👋
@@janetvasquez610 he left .. he wished to stay
Kind pfff😂
I lived there too....how I miss it!
I'm from the Philippines and I've been living in Italy for 6 years and I can honestly say that I 100% prefer it here. I love the Philippines but Italy gives me peace and happiness
Edit (June 30, 2023): A lot of people are commenting saying that “oh yeah it’s cuz Philippines is a third world country” well no sht sherlock. I am not talking about it economically, I was talking about the OVERALL life. There are obviously some pros and cons about it, this is just my personal preference. Philippines might be poor but it is rich in culture, the people and traditions. And besides you can even see comments from people from US, UK etc that thinks the same as me, they prefer Italy rather than their country so it’s not about how rich or poor your country is. It really shows that some people have poor mindset to talk sht like that and damn it’s 2023 already, y’all still exist? Smh
So sweet
From where we're you in Italy,
As an Italian, this is so nice to hear. Thank you for loving my country... uhm, no, OUR country, so much ❤
@@andreag7408 omg graziee 💗
hello ate peachy, would you mind to have a little talk about moving to italy? i am planning to move there soon in the incoming years.
I disagree. IF you're struggling with depression or anxiety, your mental health is your priority. You should talk to someone about it. BUT living in a different country that has a complete different culture, is also a way of dealing with it. It forces you to explore and adapt to your new environment and can make you forget your negative thoughts altogether. You'll be too busy. ''Will I get a metro card or bus pass? Where can I get language courses? Which cities and places do I want to see? Which activities do I want to do? Which communities will I join? What gym will I join? What work am i going to do? What's the best way to meet locals here? What are some goals I'd like to achieve while I'm here?'' Living in a different country can actually be therapeutic. It's an exciting adventure. What if living abroad IS the missing piece of the puzzle? What if suddenly you '''found'' your people? You're starting with a clean slate. A new chapter of your life. Sometimes, all you need, is a change. A change in environment, a change in friends, a change in partner, a change in your work, a change in culture, a change in how you look at the world. Don't try to understand your thoughts with your thoughts and feel bad about yourself. It doesn't help at all. You must have noticed that. So stop thinking and do stuff. Just get busy with taking action towards (whatever!) goals and that's what will produce positive emotion. Get some projects going. I moved to a different country 3 times, so I'm talking from experience. Think of your life as one with different stages. Sometimes you had a shitty stage, no problem. Leave that behind and enter a new stage of your life. Whatever you do, keep going.
3 different countries? Chasing after the wind…how exhausting
@@sofiabravo1994 3 different countries enriches the tapestry of life and broadens the mind. Chasing the wind? Phaph!!!
@@kippykippyphoebe9203 You said it very eloquently. I guess some people have really different perspectives about life, because ''exhausting'' is the last word I would use to describe my experiences. It actually energizes and excites me. I'm an explorer by nature and going to places I haven't been, meeting people whom I don't know, doing things I haven't done, that gives me pure zest for life. (!) And I'm actually, preparing to move to Bali, Indonesia in a few months! I work remotely from my laptop so I can live anywhere. I'm not exhausted by that idea. Maybe the flight will exhaust me, could be haha.. Enriching my life with new experiences and people... very exciting! Living in the same town or city, waking up in the same house, hanging out with the same people, going to the same places... ouff.. that sounds exhausting to me. And terrifying!
@@Kyoto99952 absolutely agree. Go live your best life, embrace the unknown, eat healthy gorgeous food, sleep well under the stars and gentle lapping of the sea, be spiritually emotionally physically guided. Walk your path. This is the very thing money can’t buy. Move with grace through your stages, give, receive, ebb flow. Do you. Leave those who exhaust themselves be exhausted. Personally, I find the wind refreshing! Blessings and kind courage to you my friend. Life indeed is for living.
I was very close to ending up in prison, had no goals, i was chasing money filling my old traumas with materialism, drugs and women. Almost completally losing myself.
And one day it just hit me i felt that young exploring kid full of energy who got lost in the woods, that kid who was out all day and didnt want to go back home, that kid who i still am. Then i deleted all social media broke contact with my old "friends" and booked a ferry to estonia, and walked to italy and to sardinia (where im originally from).
Backpacking trough europe healed my mind and made me realise so many things. I found my self again learned to balance my good and bad and got back my sanity. Thats why i completally agree with you. cheers mate!
I just wanted to find out what it’s like living in Italy but this girl is just giving a psychology lesson!
lol
Exactly
Coming from someone who has fulfilled his dream of living abroad. This girl is speaking words worth millions if you get them. Most accurate advice ever.
Same but also tired of the USA lol
If you want Italy to be like the states don’t go. If you love the adventure of learning a new culture go. It’s just that east! Make and effort to learn their language and be open to laugh at yourself.
I fell in love with Italy because of the people. You are more friendly and more open to strangers than this country (USA) and I especially loved the Italian grandmothers , who adopted me in every village I went to. I love people and it a blessing to find people that were like me. I will return one day and I hope to be as happy as I was before ( 1981) thank you and have a beautiful day. Ciao 🥰❤️
how old were you?
They were nice to you because they want your money
@@walteredwards544 most americans
Have only debts....
My personal experience. I lived in (South) Italy for a year 10 years ago, and a few other places since - currently UK. I learnt Italian in high school so language wasn't that much of an issue. I love my home (beautiful Budapest), but, man, that was the happiest year of my life - with all its difficulties - EVER. Just in comparison, the UK is a miserable place, the location and the atmosphere matter more than you would think.
I second your comment
I agree the UK is miserable but good for work. I live in York but this is nice
In a year you saw nothing
I lived in England, and I lived in Italy, and I wouldn't sell Italy for a hundred Englands. Going back there, soon.
@@gaia7240 I was attending university and had limited funds - I went to any trip I could, but obivously that's true, I go back to ski most winter and visit friends in the summer if I can, but surely not comparable with someone who lived there multiple years...
Every place has its advantages and disadvantages, unique problems; my personal expericenes are tied to a certain region and time period for both Italy and England...
Compared to my previous post an update: I left the UK in January after a few years, valuable life lessons, but for us the negative outweighed the positive
She does not mention the spiritual and non material benefits of living in Italy. I am British and lived there very happily for fourteen year. Coming back to England was depressing!
Which city you lived in ?
Curious, why did u go back to England?
OP is a bot...Italy is a very material place just ask Valentino, Versace, Prada, Armani, Dolce & Gabbana, Marni, Iceberg, Missoni, Trussardi, Moschino, Dirk Bikkembergs, Etro, and Zegna...
Can you list the spirituality benefits of living in Italy please?!
Brava bischera che un tu sei tornata indietro allora se l'è deprimente l'Inghilterra.
I moved to italy from the UK, and honestly Italy made me sooo happy from peace of mind perspective, less stress, more calm and tranquility, many many nature reserves to go and detox at. But i am married to an italian so maybe the road was already set for me as I didnt need to struggle to do everything by myself. But you are right, Italy doesnt check all the boxes. I had to give up my high paying job in the UK to come here. Ever since then I struggled to find a decent paying job in italy that accepts me as a fluent english speaker. From economic perspective, italy doesnt fulfill that need. the UK certainly does. So now im moving back to the UK to earn money with my family but spend it in italy instead. Luckily its just 2 hours flight away and my husband owns his home in Italy so we can come back whenever we like!!!!!! But I love Italy in every sense of the word and very saddened by the economic situation
Italy is good for holidays and pensioners,
It's like you can enjoy it only as a tourist
Maybe you're just a healthy, rational person who doesn't look for the grass to be greener. You know how to make the best of a situation and actually think like an adult.
We're all saddened by it especially the inequity between the Rapacious North and Beleagured South.
@Dnpe l'Italia non è solo Milano 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I innerstand you....I lived in London for 30 years and moved back to Italy.....I totally regret my decision and now after Brexit it' s almost impossible to return.....enjoy the best of both worlds guys 😃
I respectfully disagree. Life is what you make it no matter what country you live in. Fact. If a move to Italy or any other country is right for you and you plan well, then do it. Life is short.
I feel like thts kindof what dhe was saying
You clearly didn't even bother to watch her video
@@Literallywhateverahhhhh yes but very badly and ina way that could put many off who might be needing a change of scene and to get away froma toxic environment or one that is just not good for them.
She made it seem you had to have your whole life together and love eberything about your country before moving to another one.She could make someone feel hopeless and like there is no point.Very negative message
@@upendasana7857I agree.. I had to flee domestic abuse and Italy saved me by giving me space
@@upendasana7857 I agree ,it is obvious that living in any country want make anyone automaticly happy . People do not move abroad becouse they are not happy in they countries but for many different reason ,cost of living ,life style etc .
I am an Italian living in Italy, and I live in the same city of your video (the beautiful Bologna), and sometimes I think that moving abroad to another country different from mine would be a solution to all my problems... But when I see video of foreigners thinking that living in Italy is a solution to their problems, I immediatly change my mind.
Nowadays anyone may narrate same as you have just did.
Same shit everywhere.
Buon giro in tue paesi!
trasferirsi non risolve i nostri problemi. sono nato e cresciuto a Bologna e mi sono trasferito a Ravenna circa due anni fa, e quando vivevo a Bologna pensavo di trasferirmi da qualche altra parte perche' non mi piaceva molto. dopo due anni che vivo qua' a Ravenna ne ho le palle piene e sono dannatamente nostalgico della mia citta' e delle mie amicizie. i problemi non esistono nella realta', ma nella nostra mente e per risolverli bisogna imparare ad addattarsi ed a non essere pignoli sui lati negativi di un luogo o di una situazione. (cio' non significa non ribbellarsi quando ce n'e' bisogno).
english translation: moving out doesn't resolve our problems. i was born and grew up in Bologna and i moved in Ravenna about two years ago, and when i lived in Bologna i pondered on moving out somewhere else 'coz i didn't like it very much. after two years living here in Ravenna i had enough of it and i'm desperately nostalgic of my hometown and my friends living there. problems don't exist in the reality but in our minds, and in order to resolve them one must learn to adapt and not to be fussy on one place or situation's cons. (that doesn't mean we shouldn't rebel when there's the necessity). (p.s. pineapple doesn't belong on pizza!!)
Well said Stef :)
Fidati, trasferisciti almeno per qualche mese
@@gaia7240 Ho vissuto in Francia per due anni, tutto bello i primi tempi ma a una certa me ne volevo tornare in Italia.
Me, an italian who lives near the Italian alps watching this just to remember to myself how lucky i am. :)
I've been living in Italy now for 8 years, from the UK. Like everywhere, some things drive you crazy but if you're prepared to go with the flow, it's a fantastic country to live in.
Thanks , which region do you live in ?
I’m looking at Turin but the Brexit 90 in 180 days is a major obstacle.
Did you speak italian when u moved there?
@@CinCee- if you don't speak italian i suggest you to avoid the south, in north and central Italy a lot of people speak english
@@timhanser1943
@@giulioborghi651 even if you speak italian i would avoid living in the south . Just a tip from a fellow north italian . North italy is basically another country compared to the south . However i do suggest to go south for vacations ( tbh you could go everywhere in italy , i love the alps ❤️)
The most important thing to remember: other countries do things and think in different ways than you were raised in. Your way is not always right it’s different. Your old way is not better or you would stay there. It’s not your job to turn your new country into your last country. Love the differences!
When in Rome; do as the Romans do....
Esatto!
In my case, there are many things I didn't like about my country's mentality (Italy) and so when I moved abroad (Czech Republic), after a while I began to feel more fit in there than I was in Italy, like I found my true homecountry.
I believe that talking about Europe, Italy is one of the countries whose lifestyle and mentality is the hardest to adapt to. Indeed even though I was born and raised in Italy, after 27 years I felt like I had to leave in a way or another, mainly due to the occupational and economical situation. It just felt easier moving abroad and start a new life in a random EU country whose mindset is more aligned with the one other EU countries have.
When I began feeling like an adult with adult lifestyle expectations, things like sun, pasta, coffee, friends and family where not enough for me to give up a career, my dreams, my willingness to travel and to have a family myself instead of living my parents due to my unemployment situation.
So, I think you may feel more at home in other countries than in your own. If your homecountry culture doesn't seem right for you, you will adapt to differences easily and start enjoy them soon.
@@hellboy0189 in many ways I feel more comfortable in Italy than my own country. So I guess it works both ways.
@@chatalaine yes, I guess so
From US and if I can send my kids to school without worrying they'll be shot I'm sold.
not to mention free pucbilc health system, cheap public transportation, social security,ecc.... Ilived for ten yearsin the States (texs and California). and loved many aspects of the experience,but theItalian life style is at another level.
You're in the wrong state then. Moving across the world isn't the answer all the time; move to a safer state if that fits you better financially. My children never worry ab out getting shot where I live.
Hello can I be your friend am From the State@@GiuseppeLongotheastronomer
I lived in Italy for 4 years and loved every minute of it!
How is it going now?
@@yotoland2543 are u an accountant?
I don’t live there now! Not an accountant either, that’s funny. We were stationed with the US Army there and moved back to the US in July 2016. I would have loved living there forever though. I loved it.
I have traveled a lot growing up because both my parents grew up in other countries, and we often visited our families there. We traveled all over Europe and the UK when stationed in Italy. I love history, so getting to experience this first hand in Italy and EU, was amazing. I already speak Spanish, so learning Italian was not really hard for me. Latin based language, just pronounced differently. Learned how to take the high speed train system and used that to travel all over Italy. I got a SETAF Drivers license, and drove too after passing the driving written test. My daughter is ending a 10 day trip right now in Italy. Went with her sister in law to show her where we lived in Vicenza, and taking the trains (since I taught her how to do that while living there); to Venice, Verona, Florence (Firenze) and Roma (Rome). They are flying back to the US this weekend. I hope to go back to visit our many Italian friends we made there too.
Italy is not only beautiful,but the people really are caring ⛵️
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Dude im italian we are not
Not really.
It really depends. Sometimes we are crazy
Sorry Folks, but as Italian I must warn Youu!!! We have 4 different seasons, , that means the sun doesn' t always shine here!!!We don' t even sing opera all the time and we are neurotic like everyone else.and trust me if you want a decent life you must have ymoney !!! So if you pursue happiness, find it in yourself and then come here!!! Good vibes to everyone
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Agree
What?!! Not singing opera all the time?!! 😊
Oh the geographical cure!
I had a bad experience in my country 3 years ago. I waited this long to heal, and I am ready now to explore Europe. I'm making my base town in Italy. Yes, I read and heard over and over, that you need to be whole to move to another place and relationship. The Chinese say...."Where you go; there you are."
So proud of you
I'm very proud of you and happy that you're moving on ❤️ Wish you the best of lucks in Italy ❤️
That's an amazing saying. I will quote that Chinese expression often :D
We had a similar story and when it came to starting fresh we preferred an Italian adventure - it even sounds romantic if it fails! Lots to get used to but you wont be transported into to your dream future on a feather bed.
i had a 9 years bad experience i was so depressed and i am moving to italy the end of this year
Italy is a beautiful country, but it comes with many problems just like many other countries. Before you think of packing up and moving abroad to Italy, visit the country first many times, have long stays there so you can get a feel of what you will be faced with day to day. If you are thinking of moving abroad from the US, accept that conveniences and sense of urgency will go out the window in Italy.
That's probably everywhere throughout Europe.
@@beautifulone5509 Not at all
That lack of sense of urgency is exactly why people want to leave the usa and go to Italy
@@SangheiliSpecOp that is correct!!! Escaping the sense of urgency is also escaping the rat race in the US
@Enrico Amatori I definitely don't want it, everyone has it here in the usa whether they want to or not because its all about money here over every other aspect of life
BS.
Moving from one state to another literally changed my life and genuinely made me happy. Acting like moving to a region, country, city, etc that has activities and lifestyle options that are conducive to your lifestyle won't improve happiness levels is the dumbest take I've ever heard.
I lived in Italy for years. And return often. It’s absolutely beautiful and I loved every moment. If you can’t find happiness in a place like Italy, you’re just not happy. Period.
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Italy is the most BEAUTIFUL Country in the World!! No its not always SUNNY...but Italians are warm and friendly. Why?? FAMILY!! They love their Moms, Dads....sisters and brothers. I came to Milan as a Model in 1985..and NEVER left!!
This is just a false stereotype
No they don't, one of my Italian cousins completely ignored me.
What a cliche!
@@lizb4156probably he was from the North part of Italy
@@claudemaggi7501 oh stop with the north and south thing. The most angry people I met were from the south
When looking for videos on moving to/living in Italy I get tired of the romanticized "tourist" mindset of life abroad videos. They are good for inspiration but I want the realities of living abroad.
When I decided I would like to move to Italy one day the first thing I tried to do is look at it from a realistic perspective and not from the tourist mindset. The bureaucracy, the cultural differences, costs, potential loneliness and finding new friends etc.
The most important thing is to have a pretty good salary
Sometimes it’s not about looking for happiness in a different place but to arrive to a place your soul feels at home and happy, where you simply feel like you belong
Yeah, a feeling of peacefulness and joy..
Yeah then Italy is not it
@@gaia7240 meh, it depends on the person
I cannot wait to pack it up and go. I want to find myself laughing at how unfamiliar everything is and find myself so immersed. My home country has nothing left to offer me and I have no familial ties, I cannot wait to grow roots as I please.
Good luck 🤞
In which country are you planning to move?
Roots don't grow as you please in a place where you're a foreigner. They will grow or not grow how the locals and the system decide. Just be aware of that.
The best is actually if we stayed in our own countries and fought to make them better for their natives.
With the dismay at this level I’m guessing you’re a fellow American? Good luck. Italians seem welcoming. I also feel the same as you and can see a better life for myself. Just need to get as good at the language as possible save more and ship out. See ya there comrade lol
I moved from a north-of-the-Alps-country to Italy. It was like moving from heaven to the Inferno. My recommendation is do not do that!! Ive lived in 7 other countries and my standard of living is by far the worst in Italy. La dolce Vita is an absolute tourist construction that doesnt exist. Things dont work here in Italy. A country cant be livable just from a dreamy stereotype, great food, beauiful land, art and historic treasures. It really doesnt make life any better here.
Living in Italy can be very different depending on the region, in some places in the countryside there is a high quality of life, in big cities a lower quality can be found, depends also on your personal background, how creative you are, for example, it is not that simple to talk about life in Italy in a short video.
She makes a very strong point. An unhappy person would be the same regardless of what the surrounding can offer. I do love Italy above and beyond any other country in the world and have considered moving there many times. The question I grapple with time and time again is what happens when the novelty wears off and I start feeling homesick and missing all the familiar things I am accustomed to and know in my own country. Los Angeles is my home and I know how to go places, find everything I may need, be with friends and family and be comfortable. However, being in the design industry and appreciating the arts, architecture, amazing cuisine, and warm, kind, and energetic people of Italy, have made me think that I would be happier there. Well, In my retirement I have opted for traveling there every year or two enjoying this amazing country for a short while and coming back home to what I know until the next trip. I do appreciate her honest view of Italy...Well done.
@koros8 If you ever want to talk with an italian, here I am!
It would be a plesure for me to help you!
@@marilenabarsanti6939 di dove sei?
@@begina1447 Versilia, Toscana
after living in China for 5 years (loved the first 3 years, but now im so over everything) being in the wrong place can certainly make you unhappy. Italy is my favorite country, but for now I need to save money so I can make living there a reality in the future!
Wishing you the best of lucks with your goal to live in Italy!
Non te lo consiglio l’Italia fa schifo
@@francescocarluccio7714 why
@@memelocks7066 tutti se ne vogliono andare restano solo gli immigrati di colore
@@francescocarluccio7714 perche'??? Io sono iraniana e considero di emigrare in Italia tra anno prossimo per studiare fashion (la laurea magistrale). E' italia meglore di Iran o No? mi guidi per favore.( mi scusi per non parlare l'italiano bene, Io sto imparando)
For an iranian resident like me Italy is like a heaven coz the situation goin on here is quite like hell, u mentioned chaotic and nosy u have no idea how much chaos, noise or sometimes fights I hear everyday and every night in here where I live, u have no idea for buying a normal bread or printing some university papers I have to wait in line it might even take more than 1 hr, apart from that, the dictator government here which doesn't count women as humans and treat everyone with violence and the useless currency that we have where the cheapest car is like 900 million Toman in our currency, where that I couldn't succeed to get a damn job in 5 years coz everyone reject me and my resume not paying attention to the master degree I worked my ass off to get, the dry and polluted air, and lemme not continue coz u can't take it bro, so whatever u have explained abt Italy is a heaven in my eyes it even made me more eager to get the hell outta here, I've already been in hell don't scare me of fire :)
I'm Italian and grew up in Milano. I've lived in Florida USA since 1987 and there is certainly a lot that I miss about Italy. I remember coming back to the USA one year after visiting my parents in Italy, and in the 15 minute drive to my son's school all I saw was gas stations, churches and convenience stores - a sad view compared to the likes of Palazzo della Scala, Castello Sforzesco piazza del Duomo all within the same time frame, on a tram ride in Milano, which also took 15 minutes. In Italy you can really FEAST your eyes on many interesting things, without spending money or driving to fancy locations by just going for a simple walk down the street. Italians are definitely friendlier and warmer that Americans, in my opinion. Americans are more opportunity oriented, always ready to seize the moment. Italians are much better at relaxing and enjoying the moment, without turning a simple get-together into a money making opportunity. Americans are very good at that, they are just programmed at being competitive from a very young age and the way of life in the USA allows and encourages kids to be entrepreneurs too.
But life in the USA is quite stressful. Depending on where you live here, life can be very expensive and you're really always "on the go". There are rural areas too where life is simpler but the level of culture is not comparable to the quality of life I would find in rural-Italy. I can't say the food is great everywhere in Italy, but anything you find will be much better than an Applebee's or Chili restaurant chain. There are conveniences in the US that I would not want to give up though. Service in the USA is still very strong and the customer is definitely right. In Italy store owners may argue with you so be prepared for that. If you threaten to sue for something which you could get away with in the USA, chances are they'll laugh at you, as they should. Law enforcement is more relaxed though, I remember once in Rome watching 2 police officers (carabinieri) telling a guy to move along as they were escorting him out of the park....they were strolling mostly, with their hands behind their backs....very relaxed. The man didn't need handcuffing or arresting, he was just being removed from the park for being a nuisance. You are treated as a REAL PERSON in Italy, instead of a criminal. In Italy you are expected to USE YOUR COMMON SENSE AND YOU ARE LAUGHED AT, IF YOU DON'T. Yes, there is a lot that I miss about Italy.
This is why people experience major culture shock. I’m American who has lived in a few countries. Your mindset definitely has to be open to assimilating into new cultures or ways of living. Thanks 😊!
I used to think this. I still follow the first rule of travelling. But now I realise that most people are wannabe-Westerners. My time in India was utterly jading, for example. In Uttar Pradesh for example I found the most money-obsessed materialistic capitalists - other than the Polacks of course - that I've ever met. On the other hand, some countries with their own cultural pride, historical influence or traditional way of doing things were less obsessed with globalisation and certainly warranted at least some of the respect that one has as an idealising intermediate-level traveller. Authenticity is everything.
When you come from a third world country, you indeed find happines in a first world country; that's why people from developed countries say happines is no in a country, you simply don't understand what it means to live with fear constantly, afraid to even step out of your home or even in your own home, don't pretend to know everything because you don't
very true
Well now Italy is like that, you almost can't leave the house alone
@@gaia7240you can't compare Italy with latam, yesterday I saw how a thief gave a shoot to a woman in the middle of the street, it was 11:00 am three man with guns the woman died right there, so don't write if you know nothing
@@PerfectBuga that literally happens in Italy too
Speak for yourself. Italy is amazing place to live!!!
I don't think you even watched the video
What is the point? If you are sad somewhere, it is highly probable that you will be elsewhere…in Italy or Mars…
So few people take in the psychological factor when moving to a new culture. We all arrive to new countries with our old cultural ideas. It's tough going through the 'breakdown' period where you're always comparing your ways with the new ways.
You will be confused often by the new social rules and behaviours. You will try to cling on to your old standards thus making your life even more difficult.
You will often say 'back in my country they do/don't do it like this'. There's a desperately uncomfortable period of transition which should ultimately lead to the acceptance of your new situation.
This has to happen, often painfully. Prepare yourself for feeling frustrated by how systems work differently.
Prepare yourself for misunderstandings due to lack of fluency in the new language.
Prepare yourself for realising that you need help more than you ever did before.
Prepare yourself for feeling awkward and inadequate.
Prepare yourself for how much you'll miss the 'ordinary' things of your old culture.
Prepare yourself for people being ignorant towards you because you're a 'foreigner'.
Prepare yourself for being let down because the new people don't play by your standards.
Prepare yourself for how difficult day-to-day things will become because you don't yet understand how to flow with the new culture. Prepare yourself to not being able to recognise one familiar brand of product for anything you need (it took me forever to find a similar product to Dettol).
Prepare yourself for all the medicines that you can and can't buy over the counter.
Prepare yourself for the invitation from other 'foreigners', like you, to form a b*tching circle about how horrible the new people are (please, please avoid that at all costs, it will ruin your experience).
Prepare yourself to make new friends who you have little to nothing in common with.
Prepare yourself to be utterly overwhelmed.
Once you get through that uncomfortable period (which may take years for some) then prepare yourself to enjoy your new, wonderful life.
If you're the right person for Italy, it will make you happy in a general sense. Of course negative life experiences are available to you everywhere and it is not realistic to think you'll have a life free from these in any country.
Aha!
Well said! I like the focus you used to build that - by the sounds of it pretty based in experience - list of major considerations.
I am sorry but even though I can at some level agree with the statement "a country won't make you happy, happyness comes from yourself", I honestly believe a country can make you happy or unhappy, so this statement sound more like a slogan to me.
I am from Italy and lived also in Poland and Czech Republic.
Living in Italy to me was very depressing, especially once I graduated and find out it was just impossible for me to get a job, getting an adult lifestyle, planning my future, having children, travel and basically enjoy my life. So, living in Italy for me was definitely a source of unhappiness at the point I left for Czech Republic.
When I went there I was depressed and time after time my happyness level increased daily to the point I didn't want to leave. Later on due to the pandemic I lost my job and moved to Poland and to me the life in there was very depressing, so I moved again in Czech Republic and now I am satisfied with my life and daydreaming about my future half of the time.
So, due to my experience I believe a country sure does make you happy/unhappy but it depends on you which country suits you better and also your problem may not be just country related and so moving elsewhere will not be good enough.
Hello, i'm from an asian country thinking of studying and eventually working in Italy. If i may ask, why can't you find a job, build a family, etc? Is finding a job that hard in Italy?
@@xoho3462 plenty of Italians lives abroad because:
1) it's that hard to find a job in Italy
2) with the Italian salary you can only make a living if you live with your parents (you probably heard about "mammoni", people in their 30s or 40s living with their own mother)
3) we have major economic and political issues and these with negative impact in daily life and mood of many Italians.
Honestly life in other european countries is much brigher and enjoyable, in my opinion trying to find a job in Italy and to make a living there, a carrer and so on is a huge waste of time.
Talking about building a family, there are many Italian men married with foreign wife and very very few Italian women married with foreigners (there is a statistic of it and the results are impressive).
So, you can enjoy Italy as a student but my advise to you would be to move somewehere else afterwards especially if you are a man. Foreign women get to eventually end up in a nice situation by getting an Italian husband, but for foreign men deciding to stay in Italy is just the wrong thing to do.
@@hellboy0189 i see, thank you so much for the wonderful insights. Can i ask, what other countries do you suggest as an alternative for a better work prospects? And is it common/ do you think a student graduating from Italy would face a hard time searching for jobs in other EU countries?
@@xoho3462 Actually I live in Czech Republic and many foreigners (including Italians) are here. I know many people who are studying at the university in Prague while working full time for a multinational company, here the unemployemnt is very low, there are plenty of job opportunities, salaries are good (but not high) but the main issue is increasing cost of living due to covid and war (issue that is common in the whole EU).
Better countries would be probably Austria, Germany or Scandinavian countries but in one case you need to speak German and in the other you need to cope with cold weather and I honestly don't know too much about Scandinavia.
To me Czech Republic is the best due to affordable cost of living, quality of life, finding a job being easy, salaries being decent and English knowledge being good enough to find a job but if you speak German or French you surely have better options.
Trust me anything is better than South Africa right now. I would love to live and work in Italy. Yes like every country it has its problems but this is definitely a HUGE improvement from SA.
You are right o e hundred percent. South Africa is on it way to an implosion. The crime, work ethic, services and the list goes on are deplorable. You'd probably be better of in the Ukraine. So so so sad what's happening to SA.
Half way through the video I gave up. Ok. Happiness comes from within. I don't understand why some video makers find it so hard to get to the point.
Have you lived in Iran? I rest my case. Where you live does make a difference.
I partly disagree with your first and last point. Moving abroad won't solve inner problems all by itself, but the thing is - if you live in a country where people are sad, introvert, depressed, then an environment has an impact on you, and in such places it is harder to change. Furthermore, studies have shown that if someone moves to a new place then the possibility of a change is greater. Moving abroad has been one of the best life decisions as I transformed in ways that would not be possible in my home country. And on cost of living - Italy has great tax break incentives (75% - 90% of income being exempt from income tax) to people moving to Italy. Most realistically, it is more beneficial to remote workers. In such a case (or even someone finding good job in Italy), compare paying very low tax or huge taxes in nordics or central Europe and you quickly can see how the income can be increased by just moving to Italy. Not to mention incentives by the Italian government funding the renovation of your house.
Taxation is very high In italy...
@@Sezfluffy By default yes, but if you return to Italy or move there you can apply for tax breaks. ‘Brain return’ is the term.
can come across as tax dodging
@@disturbedjester8154 nope, I am paying 9% flat tax while living in Sicily and it's all official.
Happiness comes from within. Yes your situation/ location / lifestyle can help but it’s not everything. As an old saying goes: ‘money cannot bring you happiness’ (but it can make you comfortable in your misery). Italy is beautiful but you would have to be prepared to make a move there work. A three month ‘immersion’ stay will happen for me, then I’ll take it from there 👍
Absolutely agree! Immersion stay is a fantastic idea to get the taste of Italy - I wish you a wonderful stay! ❤️
I don't expect any country to be perfect and I know every place will have its downsides. But, I really don't agree that I need to love my own country to be able to love other countries. And I don't think I need to be happy with my country first. I understand that some people are just unhappy anywhere but I think those people are rare. I'm not expecting perfection. I don't care about long lines or anything more minor. But, there are some basic things I would like that my country doesn't offer. I want to live somewhere safe without mass shootings almost daily. I want to live somewhere where I can actually have a family/give birth and if I have some medical problem I won't die or go to jail. I want to live somewhere with decent healthcare and where you won't lose your house or have to declare bankruptcy if you have a medical emergency. I want to be able to send my future children to school and not have to worry about them dying or having to buy them bulletproof backpacks. Violence is a huge reason I want to leave my home country. Healthcare and the loss of women's rights are huge factors as well. I want to live somewhere kinder without all the hatred, racism, sexism, etc. etc. I realize you can find that everywhere but it's really getting extreme here. I really don't even care about food or any of that. And there are always little inconveniences everywhere. That's fine. I just want to feel safer and feel some sense of community. It would be cool to afford dental care too but that isn't as important as escaping all the mass shootings etc. I don't mind having to learn a new language and culture. I just want to feel safe and like I can breathe again. I want to build a family and I can't do that here.
Every country has its flaws. These sunny countries are a blessing for people who are sensitive to cold.
I am Italian and I have never lived in Italy. I feel so sad living here in Belgium so please….BAAAAAASTAAAAAAAAAAAA !
I am an Italian living in the UK and I can honestly say that Italy is many times better.
I moved to Canada simply because I fell in love with an old farmhouse and room to breath. I've never second guessed that decision. She makes very good points about moving for the right reasons.
and here I am, a Canadian wanting to go to Italy for retirement!
Refreshing to hear honesty for people moving. Thank you very much. I sincerely wish you much success.
Thank you very much! Your words mean a lot to me ❤️
Italy So beautiful..
Please give me Italy Visa.. ❤️❤️🇧🇩
We love living in Italy! We've got dual citizenship (USA/IT) - we're lucky. We left crazy and came to beautiful Italy.
First of all Most of your points can be applied to any country not just to Italy, second you have to also have a knowledge of base country which person willing to move out from it. Loving your own country has nothing to do with moving to another country, most of the time situations, reasons are much more complicated than just moving for the sake of sun.
Italy can be a difficult place to live so all other countries. Happiness is an inner experience that's for sure but environment will have strong impact on most of the people who can actually feel something, not talking about potatoes here.
A change in country doesn’t make you happy? Pretty sure most people who’ve escaped impoverished dictatorships would disagree…
I was stationed in Sicily for 3 years with the military at Sigonella. There’s pros and cons to living in Southern Italy, but it was honestly a very positive experience for my entire family. I loved the food, people, weather, sights and attractions, and restaurants. I disliked the Sicilian driving habits, bad quality of the roads, and the Sicilian lack of respect for public waiting lines and personal space.
Living in Italy wasn’t a perfect experience but i enjoyed myself much more than living in the United States. But you will start to miss little things in the United States like American food options (Chick Fil A, Five Guys burgers, good angus steaks, etc). Part of my happiness was related to our income. I was receiving an American service member paycheck which was far superior to the average Sicilian income. So we lived comfortably. Don’t move to Italy if you’re going to be broke
Thanks you mentioned the last point. Without a more than decent salary you can't enjoy Italy and will get miserable hating the government, the burocracy, the corruption and the many uneducated people
Sicily is a whole different world (especially in economic terms) to Bolzano, Trento, outskirts of Milan, etc. I would say the best place in Italy is actually in Switzerland: Lugano. It's perfect.
@@DavidColex you’d be almost right in your statement, but you’re mistaken by claiming something outside Italy still belongs to Italy when it doesn’t.
@@Army_Retired Well, the people are the same, they even use the same Lombard accent as in Lombardia. It jusg shows how different from the south northern italians are when given a different (better) enviroment.
@@DavidColex Oh God NO, Lugano is such a boring town, ESPECIALLY if you're Italian (like me)
Coming from an Italian, it really depends on where you're coming from. There are definitely better and safer places to live in but it's 100% possibile to be happy here and you can do way worse. It sure has its flaws but there are many things to love too
Im coming from Japan, ive always loved Italy, visited it 2 times and now going to live there, got tips?
@@rurumaekawa8944
Hi there 👋 I’m Italian and I live in Rome. First thing that I would suggest is to start learning a bit of the language. You can speak in English in bigger cities, but a little Italian would take you a bit far and it might get you new friends more easily. Which city will you be living in?
I live in Milan and I'm very happy about that! You have mountains, glaciers, plans, countryside, Mediterranean sea, stunning lakes just one or 2 hours away.... ❤
I want to move to Italy specifically because of a program I want to study. I don't expect Italy to be this paradise but I am from the US, so already I look at the cost of healthcare and university in Italy as something better than my country. On top of that, the town I live in is just one of those places that suck the life out of you. I cannot walk anywhere either, so that's another factor.
It's not the first time I've been to another country. I understand that going somewhere else isn't going to fix your mental health issues. Still, if your mental health issues are happening of problems like not having healthcare because you don't have a job, or feeling trapped because you can't afford a car. Hence, you work remote and are slowly losing your mind in your house, then I do know going somewhere walkable with affordable healthcare with take the stress off.
Of course, the new stress will be "oh I'm illiterate" and "I have no idea what anyone is saying" but in my experience, that's easier to fix.
See, I live in the US. So it would improve my quality of life and improve my children's life.
I’m tired of paying 200 dollars every time I see a doctor.
Abortions are illegal, I have to worry about my doctor getting shot at school, I work my life away for a small paycheck, I can’t afford to go to college because the amount of which I need to work to survive is TOO MUCH.
So I kindly disagree.
This is the video that was missing so far. Very rational, wise and well put: the best advices one can give to any potential expat across the globe. Brava!! 🙌
Thank you! I'm glad you liked it ❤️
I’m Italian and I’m proud on being Italian because I love this country and it’s culture❤️❤️🇮🇹🇮🇹
ma chi se ne frega
Really it’s beautiful. I will be very pleased if anyone give me a chance to come this country.
Thats why I love traveling the world and come back home,its good to be around people you love and know a big chunk of your life and when you are bored just go anywhere in the world enjoy learn then come back.
I have found that being happy takes determination and work. Wake up, every day, and decide that this day will be only as good as I make it myself. Other people have no obligation toward your happiness.
She is right! sadly.
Italians try to marginalize foreigners as much as they can to my experience, i.e. if you are skilled or have top degree, you will not be given the right job (if they give you a job). Foreigners, especially those coming outside the EU, are a second-person in many standings. Women here, very rarely date any foreigner. Studying here and getting a degree here, you must prepare to leave the country afterwards, since there wont be a job for you. Italians CANNOT see someone a foreigner doing better than them, just look how many companies or parliament members, mayors are non-Italians, and compare it to, say Sweden or Norway (let alone US or UK), where Italians too are holding the power.
Italians themselves have flooded every job positions across EU, especially in Germany. So just imagine ...
If there is an opportunity, a good deal, you WONT get that.
Italian numbers that you see from GDP, to inflation, wages, etc. ARE ALL FAKE. Italy's economy is a heck of wreck!
On the other side, Italy is like heaven on earth if you got the money from non-Italy sources and you wanna enjoy life immortally.
You're a weird dude, Micah. It's like you are on a mission to bash Italy and all its problems. Have you been watching the news lately? Nowhere is safe or doing well economically. We could go on and on. Many family are struggling throughout the world. How do you like them apples? Move on buddy and never look back......
While its true that no place can make you happy.. I do like being in Europe because people can actually have intelligent conversations, cities are walk-able, which increases my happiness.. nice architecture, because the horrible architecture in the U.S. is depressing, lower cost of living compared to the U.S.( especially if you want walkability in the U.S...NYC, SF, Boston, etc.) makes me happy, Also women I can connect with in a meaningful way.. I think there is less focus on work, that makes me happy, the Italian energy and food, which is not the same in the U.S... (The U.S. has bad Italian food).. this makes me happy..
It depends on which city you chose: chose big cities like Milan, Turin, Rome, Florence or a touristic beach city like Rimini, Venice, Cagliari (don't go to isolated old depressed cities like Novara, avoid them)
Si vive benissimo anche nelle città piccole ed isolate. Inoltre per chi vuole la vera esperienza Italiana credo che la tranquillità sia un ottimo fattore, molto difficile da trovare in città come Milano.
@@filippomonaco2303 io ho vissuto 8 mesi in una città piccola e isolata e faceva schifo, la qualità della vita era più bassa di un paesino sperduto
@@fabioesploratore1847 magari faceva schifo in quella specifica cittadina o faceva schifo a te. Comunque i paesini sono un bellissimo posto dove vivere, ci ho vissuto prima di trasferirmi per l'università. Conosci tutti, forte sentimento di appartenenza, quando sei lì sei in rivalità col paesino vicino, ma quando ti ritrovi con qualcuno del paesino vicino in una grande città è come se fosse tuo fratello... poi dipende anche dove si trova il paesino... io ho vissuto in una "cittadina" di 7000 persone in Salento, con tanti paesi vicini, tante marine bellissime ecc.
@@filippomonaco2303 io vengo da un paesino di 5000 abitanti eh😂 a sto punto credo sia tutto soggettivo, perchè a me non piace moltissimo il paesino, ovviamente ha dei lati molto belli come la tranquillità, la pulizia ecc.. e poi verissima quella cosa dei paesi rivali vicini, quando mi sono trasferito a milano ho incontrato uno di un paesino "rivale" e siamo diventati amici (prima di trasferirmi a milano però ho fatto 8 mesi a novara, forse gli 8 mesi peggiori della mia vita😅, forse è soggettivo, ma in questo caso ci sono anche molte cose oggettive..)
Italia è bellissima quando si trova lavoro e un posto da vivere potendo avere un puo di controllo su tuo lavoro, lavorare con vito allogio non è buono in nissen parte d' questo mondo.
Thanks for sharing your depth and wisdom. The advice, Certainly deeper than most other channels, may not be something that everyone wants to hear, but something that everyone certainly needs to take into account.
Florence (where this girl is filming) is almost more filled with expats than Italians haha
The amount of Americans who move here with the mindset this video rightfully condems is insane. Florence is now the second most expensive city in Italy after Milan, with the caveat that it doesn't have the salaries that you have in Milan... And that's mainly because so many rich people from the US, UK and similar are moving there
You may or may not feel 100% happy in Italy, but I wouldn't want to live anywhere else in the world.. and I'm from beautiful Australia.
Much love from Abruzzo
🗻🦌🍷🌰🍸🍝🥗☕🧀⛱🌊🐟🍀
Fair enough!❤️
I lived in Switzerland, Italy and now in the USA. I can tell you Switzerland and Italy were much better to live than the USA! I am thinking of moving back to Europe.
Thank you for the video. I feel this was more philosophical vs. informational.
I'm quite happy with who I am. I desire a MUCH slower pace of life with loving people. This video actually reinforced my desire to move to the homeland of my parents.
In fact, this video was not created with the aim to dissuade people from moving 😊 I'm sure you're going to love Italy!
@@DramaticallyExpatic oh of course and again thank you. I didn't mean to imply any intent on your part. I just found it more philosophical than informational. 😊
@@alfonsocarnucci3982 Italy is Byzantine territory 😂😂😂 555 ad was good year 😏 come on restore new rome
She said a lot of nothing except be happy where you are. Sounded like she doesn't want Americans to move to her country.
THANK YOU.
I am unsatisfied with Belgium, its weather and ugliness. So I ponder settling in southern France or Italy.
But you reminded me of the things one must consider, in addition to just the sun and art. This is not a holiday. It's my life!
I lived in Italy 11 1/2years. Loved it.
funny hearing you say you gotta love your country when your minimum wage is about 172 euros and corruption rages on, i would be happy literally in any european country, oh well first world problems.... same thing saying that to a dude from Somalia trying to move to europe "oh you gotta be happy there first"
She don’t mean happy with the conditions, she means happy with yourself.
She's wrong about the warm and sunny weather. I live in Toronto canada and spending 3 to 4 months practically locked in the house due to the extremely long and cold winters is more than a good enough reason to abandon my country....and intend to 😊
Very insightful content, thank you.
This is something everyone should hear before moving to any other country, and your wisdom and honesty have just made me like Italy even more!
What about the empty villages? Can you cover that?
I have to disagreed as well. I live in Canada and I’m always worrying about money. I can’t afford stuff even with two jobs and I’m going to my third one. And I have a bachelor’s degree in science. My professional job doesn’t pay me enough, that I have to find 3 to 4 jobs in order to live. I am basically not living, I’m surviving. I’ve never been to Europe and it’s one of my dreams to go there, but I’ve heard from some people that leaving in Europe is less stressful than US & Canada. You don’t earn that much money but people’s mental health it’s so different compering both sides of the world.
Forget it about Italy. You will barely find a job here. They barely make any money here, 1.3k is what they earn in Florence a month, 500e is the cheapest room (!). I found it really expensive there or to say the same prices as in Germany, but we make more. Most adult italians get a 2nd "salary" from their parents, who still have good contracts or other types of wealth, which are slowly fadinf.
This woman is very wise . In italy there are major cultural and weather differences between North and South. Architectture and food is great throughout the country . The North is bordering with other european countries . Big cities are chaotic of course.
@@giovannamoro8564 women are unkind. The want money an social prestige.....old italian pesioners have not.....
There are pros and cons in every country. I've been living in Germany for all my Life and I really can't complain but there are dramatically underpaid people here too. I have an Italian familiar background and an old house in Sicily which needs to be renovated. Maybe one day I will move in.
Bin auch in Deutschland geboren, mit italienischen Wurzeln und kann ganz gut italienisch....irgendwie zieht es mich umso älter ich werde umso stärker dorthin.
@@Lugaru90 Con me è esattamente lo stesso!
The food in Italy will make you happy!
The irony that the backdrop (Italy) in this video is beautifully cinematic, Italy is amazing.
Oh shut up. I wish I can go through all this disappointments you mentioned in this video. It’s better than living in one of the greatest conflicts in nowadays history, Palestine and Israel. As a Jerusalemite, Italy is the holy land not Jerusalem. I prefer the southern part of Italy because it is more Mediterranean and similar to home. Italy culture and history is just superior. The lush green and vegetation is beautiful. Italy has the greatest natural scenery. A democracy that you won’t see in any Arab country and even in apartheid Israel! The language is just beautiful. The people are gorgeous like they’re gods and goddesses. The weather is perfect, you get warm summers with an average heat and cool-wet winters. I’ve never stepped a foot in Italy but I am pretty sure it is one of the best countries to live in. I live on the Palestinian side of the wall and i know that many Italians do not favor us Palestinians and that they stand with Israel. That’s fine and I’m really accepting of their opinions on that matter. I really love everything about Italy. Italians should be proud and boastful as I regard them the elites in everything including fashion. Italy has left remarkable fingerprints in all the lands they conquered. The ancient ruins here in Palestine/Israel stand to show the greatness of the Roman Empire. Rome is the Latin world’s heart and the captain of the ship in the Mediterranean Sea. 🇮🇹❤️
i'm going to study abroad in a university in rome soon and i plan on staying, settling down in rome after graduating the university i'm going to go to. this video really helped me understand what i'm preparing myself for, thank you.
@B Mack yes, it will but it helped a little bit
is your family loaded with money? Then you will enjoy Italy after your university experience. If not forget Rome with a standard miserable italian salary
@@danielebasile3957 trust me, here in poland the salaries are not great either...
Don’t know if this person is from Russia or somewhere else in Eastern Europe, but a good place to start, would be to not transfer all that negativity that goes with those places, to these other places. Girlfriend needs to unclench, and find her dolce far niente, or go back to those cold, morose places. Italy will ABSOLUTELY make you happy, with just a place of tortellini alla panna and a good bottle of wine.
I disagree. I moved from Berlin to Italy and as much as I disliked Berlin, I adore Italy. That's why I moved, because some things are better here: much more sun, awesome beaches, the people are warm, welcoming and amazing, cost of living is cheaper. Everyday I love this country more and more. I totally found happiness in a country.
Wrong. I lived in Italy almost five years, raised in Las Vegas. Then Arizona, then Utah and Virginia. I disagree. Italy is beautiful, wonderful roundabouts so no annoying stopping n going, people take pride in their country n morals n value of life in Italy. Family oriented, woke hard basis, ride bikes to stores n out n about. She has no idea how Americans live, it sounds like. I loved everyday in Italy and after three years gone I could cry still to have it back. She is crazy.
💯 she’s never lived anywhere that sucks. Sorry to the creator of this video I know you put time into this but
Beautiful! I am a US citizen, I’m 1/2 Italian, went to first, fourth and fifth grade in Italy,
My mother raised me as an Italian in Beverly Hills CA.
So everything you say in this video is true. Know your values and then choose countries
that appear to have si liar ones.
Mine are : best quality food that I can go buy fresh on my bicycle because I have a small fridge.
This, Italy is very good for me to consider. I’m an active 66 yr old at least up until right now.
I would like to live in Italy possibly 30 - 40 km outside of a major city because cities make noise; until they are made of of electric cars. I’m fortunate enough to speak Italian. Are you willing to learn a foreign language? Important considerations I believe. If I move to Munich am I willing at 66 yrs. to
learn conversational German language?
And yes; where I go there I am. So true.
I couldn't agree more with what you're saying - it's really important that country's values are (at least in general) allied with yours!
No way! I was raised in Italy Too and moved to USA for college and I lived in Beverly Hills for 5 years.
Haiee can u tell a little bit about living in marche... I am moving there soon!
That is my dream for the last 20 years: moving to Italy! I am 65 and can not do it alone. I am US citizen too, born in Dominican Republic. I have been to Italy many times and just LOVE IT! Italians and Dominicans have a quasi identical.culture. Sooooany things in common in the way we look at life , family, friends, LIVING! IF I was married again my first question to interview my partner to.be: are you willing to move to Italy, fully, 6 months a year, 3 months a year? I am praying for my dream to come true! I will.pack in a sec!!!!
@@DramaticallyExpatic in which italian city have you lived?
You didn't even talk about the prices or anything about Italy ..you're just saying that if you're not happy don't come here you can't tell people what to do they got to find their own happiness and, if they make a mistake they got to find that out too so, I say wherever you want to go go if it makes you happy if you find out later on it doesn't well then you get up and leave you don't need no psychology course here..
I've lived in Sicily for 8 years and have just come back to the UK now. I'm leaving behind some friends, but for the most part I'm happy to move back to the UK, because I couldn't deal with the brutal tax regime, the continuous pointless bureaucracy and the horribly high temperatures during the summer. I also felt quite isolated a lot of the time and that wasn't great for my mental health. I think if you go to Italy with a good support network and a guaranteed job and air-conditioning you can probably have a great time. But it's by no means a paradise.
I am Italian , I live in the Uk and I’m looking forward to leaving and going back to Italy. Probably the most joyless and colourless country in the world even if your bureaucracy and job market work better. And I live in London, don’t even make me start on other parts of England… what a dump
I am Italian we are living here since we born but we never get disappointed or something else there is no low quality of life it depends on you how you live your life here and your area where you are living but uploading this kind of videos against italy is literally immature act living in italy is actually worth it
I don’t think living in a country nearly freezing my ass off each year is a nice country, i fucking hate the cold weather, so that is why im moving.
I love Italy. Lived here for years
No other place for me.
Sometimes we do have to move to another country. We don’t have another choice. But happiness is not found in any country it is found within.
If you are having issues of happiness then do the following:
Wake each morning, wash your face Dress nicely and appropriately eat well but don’t overindulge and do your best at whatever you do. And happiness will soon follow.
I couldn't agree more! ❤️
Great advise
Yes, if you have fears an anxiety, best face them and be honest with yourself and work on them before moving to another country.
Get your relocation chart done by a good astrologer for locations that are good for you depending what you wish to bring into your life. Moving to a different location on the planet will bring other parts of your birth chart to the fore, with a different emphasis than if you stayed put in the city or town you were born in. I got mine done and there are a few locations in different countries that are good for me depending on if I want to write, trade, have great neighbors, an emphasis on creativity or another place for more of an emphasis on spirituality. A great idea for choosing good holiday visits too.
THIS IS FOR YOU GUYS, THINK ABOUT IT A MILLION TIMES BEFORE DECIDING TO LIVE IN ITALY BECAUSE YOUR LIFE WILL BE VERY HARD, ESPECIALLY FOR MEN