Our First Bad Experience in India ...
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2024
- As we make our way through India in our beloved Auto Rickshaw, we headed to a little place called Pushkar ... and had our first bad encounter....
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Hey guys!
Just to clarify, we travel places and vlog our time there. The bad situation highlighted in the video happened, so we're weren't going to just leave it out. Unfortunately this is a problem in India but there is no love lost between us and this crazy country. Our time here has been incredible and you get bad people everywhere. All is well ♥️
It's good to showcase the bad as well and bring awareness to this horrible issue that is happening in India, so good on ya! Much love you two! 💚
Forgot to add that for such creeps an instant slap on the face is the best solution for there Karma.
Sorry mam for that experience why have you not slapped those rascals
you should have just slapped the bastards....
Of all the things she could cry about...Sigh.
Plz don't cry Amy, it's so sad that you have gone through such incident. Do not allow anyone to take selfies. We want to see a happy and smiling Amy 😄, we love you.
Ask 100rs each for a selfie...den no one may ask for a selfie
So funny Muneer......we do that now! It’s hilarious!
As an Indian, I am very ashamed of it. Sorry guys from my side. Pl. ask politely for no to selfies. And if he persists, make it very clear about ur stand. Also, keep the emergency number very handy.
Jeez guys tough day at the office. Hope Amy's all good and Jaipur brings the goods for you both 🙂 Good on ya for the brave faces!
Yeah not the greatest day! But you can't win them all 😂
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I felt that you were a bit over friendly after watching your Agra vlogs... I also told you in the comments about that... say no to the selfie requests... especially to young boys...there are two reasons they want selfies with you- first they want to boast about it afterwards to their friends...second they want a chance to come closer and touch. You will come across many such uncivilized local group of boys... don't talk to them... don't let them come near you for selfies.
Apologies from an Indian.
Aw, what a shame this incident happened to you :(
I am in Pushkar now and I love it so much.
Sorry for that! U can easily say no to selfie ... That's fine ..If a family want a selfie than only permit otherwise ignore... Shame on those guys ...Plz don't judge all indians on behalf of those creepy🙏
North Indians are always like that.... Culturless people
Once I had a experience in Delhi...
Say no to selfie and get hit by stones, I think agreeing for a selfie is the easy way out, anyway should've thought of that before coming to india
How is it possible that two people can be so lovely?
SO impressed by you guys. Vlogging when you are having a bad day is hard work, but you have put together a really awesome episode and it is so refreshing to see people making travel realistic travel films.
Bloody love ya work all the way from Australia. Keep it up!
I'm glad you shared this. That other people know to be aware. And that they aren't alone if this happens to them.
Im so sorry Amy. Stand your ground if u ever feel uncomfortable. Im just excited to watch you guys do your journey thru India . have a safe trip :)
Hey a small safety tip for you- If you are planning to celebrate Holi here on 21st March, then celebrate it with Yr Hotel staff or any Local family with females around, don't even think of celebrating it on streets like a local Indian, because every year a lot of enthusiastic foreigners come to India in March to celebrate Holi & they end up getting harrased by Drunk Indian men who don't know what consent is, so please avoid going on streets & celebrate it with yr hotel staff or a local family, even Indian women avoid going on to streets on Holi, Holi is a beautiful festival if You are in India celebrate it,
TC 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Yeah pin this comment ... It's 100% true
Pl. before renting a hotel/hostel, throughly check its reviews. Do not think of saving money. Also kindly avoid driving/strolling at night. With these precautions, I am very sure, your experience of visiting India will be awesome.
Better celebrate holi in rishikesh , Goa or even Mumbai
That's brilliant advice thank you Vishal! We are really excited for Holi so we will make sure we are around a good bunch of people for it 😎
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Yes, enjoy 🙏🙏
I hate to see some people here commenting to just say no to selfies or be aware next time! It is never someone’s fault why harassments are happening in this world! We shouldn’t live in a world where we have to always be scared/(alert) or be unfriendly because we think some stupid person will do something to us! I have been to India and I have good but mostly bad experience and would never go back again. Thanks for posting this. You shouldn’t hide anything bad that is happening on your trip because this is what makes it real and could be a great knowledge to people that are planning a trip there. I hope Amy feels better, i know it firsthand how it feels, and yes I have been to 120 countries and only experienced harassment in India. 😢
This means you have never been to india and i can say this with 100% surity. Because i have spend almost 6 months and i ended up loving almost everything about india.
Black Widow I have been to India plenty of times. I went for work and have to stay there for a period of time. I also have been many places around the world and only experienced harassment in India so... 🤷♀️ only speaking from my experience.
Black Widow and please you don’t know what I have gone through to comment like this to me.
First of all .. i want to say sorry as an indian for whatever u suffered in India... I know it can give some terrible experience to somebody while travelling india.. U know its a vast country with huge population... The thing u said about selfies, u were correct there... Ignoring selfies or things that cause problems is not a solution of the problem.. Specially when u r so free spirited, true, kind and a good human being away from evil.. and when u come across such evil, such reality of the world .. we feel devastated and destroyed no matter how strong u r..
As an indian.. i respect your choice of not visiting this country..
U know India is not bad its the indians..And not indians r evil but few... I really wish u don't have to experience the same ever in ur life..
Hope one day india will be ready for u..
I absolutely love watching your old videos. Amy, this made me so sad!! I’m so sorry this happened to you. I can’t imagine how it made you feel. Thinking of you on all your travels, stay safe!! Thanks for sharing the journey ✈️ you inspire us so much!
Sexual harassment is a reality in India. Stay safe and Stay strong! Sorry on behalf of Indians that u had to face a bad experience.
Oh man, what a day! I'm so sorry it went so badly. But thank you for sharing your experience! Amy, I know it must suck but I think it's brilliant that you don't leave the bad stuff out of your vlog. And good on ya for not sharing the camel experience! What you leave out of your vlog also makes a statement. You guys are awesome!
Thanks so much! We did wonder how much to put it, but when it comes to animal abuse, we don't like that full stop. I want women to be aware that this kind of thing DOES happen in India - i read about it before I went and did expect it, but it catches you so off guard. Thanks for watching ! 🤓💗
Aww Amy!!! Im so sorry this happened! Thats awful, hope your okay! xx
Sorry that happened to you! All of my female friends who have travelled in India have had similar experiences. Stay safe and don't let it spoil your time there x
Ohh stfu... these things happen every where. Don't single out India.
@@iamyourmaster4152 I wasn't singling India out, this is a travel vlog ABOUT India. No need to get aggressive. But no it doesn't happen everywhere and is not ok.
One advise as an indian, you must have slap that guy, even if you call people then they would help you we are always taught to respect girls and womens still this country has many illiterate who dont understand.
Stay positive guys! Hope the rest of the trip is amazing. Love from the UK xx
Guys this is not possible for this video to be real because this is a CNG rickshaw and there are no CNG pumps ahead of Jaipur in Rajasthan
Horrible what happened, but apart from that, these vlogs are amazing, guys! So well made and entertaining. What you're doing is insane, you gotta get the word out to Natgeo or something, lol.
You guys are so genuine. Two very decent people and fantastic vlogs.
Your vlogs Are addictive but todays episode made me sad... plz be alert and safe...
I'm so sorry to hear you had a to deal with that Amy! I really want to travel India, but as a solo female traveller I'm really put off by the lack of respect too many Indian men have for women :( I am really loving this series and you two are awesome. I'm basically living vicariously through you - haha! I hope you didn't have any more troubles like that!
Erika Pearce......... come to INDIA dear.
sorry for such a bad experience you have to face. dont be sad. You two are wonderful. keep exploring.
This happens way too much in India and it often the grooming is so subtle. Totally understand how you felt.
All is well now! This was just one bad incident in our whole 8 week trip to India. The place was amazing and it wont stop us from going back ☺️
I'm so sorry you had to deal with that asshole. As you say, there are this kind of dirt-bags in all corners of the world. Please note that Indians are also tired of their shit. Let's hope you never have to confront such men ever again. If you are ever in such a situation again, PLEASE make a HUGE scene! It is necessary, and you will be amazed how many locals are going to come out to assist you. That young man needs to learn his lesson soon before he escalates (he will) and truly causes even greater harm to someone. It will help you feel more in control again, which is good for both of you. Do not feel like you are alone. You are surrounded by fellow human beings. Peace, l'il sis and bro. Stay strong, and know that you both deserve to be respected, and that this unacceptable situation does not define you. Or India.
im sorry for the experience. im also indian i will never ask for selfie and never do that thing. this are the guys who never got girl , they dont know what women is like and especially they dont know how indians treat their guest. not all india is like that. some of us are just bad men.. im sure you will find real tradition men who will help you out... this is india,,,, you are safe go for it
Ah no, poor you Aimee - sorry you had a really bad day - you didn't deserve to be made to feel like that - hopefully the rest of the trip will make up for it -- keep smiling lovely girl xxx
ah Jodphur next, loved it there, looking forward to that !! :). Hope you have a better day there
As an indian..I m very sorry that u had to experience such terrible thing in india... I can feel how a free spirited, kind, humble and true human being like u would feel when suddenly u come across the harsh truth of the world... U feel devastated and destroyed.. U feel like the world is good as u r.. but suddenly u find a bad contrast..
India is same ... India is not bad but its few indians.. with such huge population u can understand the problem.. One has to be tough and always be cautious about the evil side of the world and to deal with it..
Wish u don't have to suffer anything like this ever again.. I find u to be a great human being, which is very rare.. and keep smiling both of u..🙌👍
Thank you Manish. That was a lovely comment to write 💛
99% of our time spent in India was incredible. We met some of the friendliest people we've EVER met in the world there. We had the best time and I didn't let this little incident spoil our trip.
There are bad people everywhere we all know this. Its just a shame we happened to bump into one.
All good things to say about India and one day we cannot wait to return 🤗
@@kingingit Just appreciate your thoughts 🤗
I was looking forward to know something about Turkmenistan... And bumped up on ur videos... And i have been watching ur videos for more than an hour now... And had no doubt not to subscribe u guys... U guys have amazing contents... Moreover u guys r so natural and amazing... Good Luck for ur future endeavours...👍🤗
Ah thank you so much Manish! That’s very kind of you 🥳 we work really hard in our UA-cam Channel and really appreciate your kind words. Happy to have you as part of the kinging it crew! 😎
Ohhh no Amy.... I feel bad for what happened.... Please say no to selfies.... U don't have to be polite about it
Yeah we have been more vigilant about them since then, sometimes it's a bit much!
Thank you for not patronizing the camel rides. I had a friend who paid for photos of herself and her daughter with a tiger, in Thailand. She'd already paid for the pics, and then was informed that the tigers were really drugged up. She still rues the whole thing to this day.
Amy fulling jinxing herself at 2:22😢❤
So sorry that happened to you Amy, must’ve been a horrible experience, it’s good you both highlighted it because it’s important people realise that these things happen and it isn’t always just fun and games, we basically got mugged in Pushkar by a tour guide and his friends, it was horrible when it was someone we thought we trusted but India is such a mad and big place with so much going on, hope you enjoy the rest of your time In that amazing country guys, you’re making we want to go back so bad! What an adeventure! Keep smiling!
Another great video guys!! ✨👍✨ Amy, Sorry to hear about the touchy selfie blokes. I hope it didn’t ruin your adventures. You both have found a perfect travel niche on UA-cam. I can’t wait for next episode!!
Don't be too friendly with people you are not comfortable with, just reject their selfie request.
I am really proud of you for sharing the negative experiences as well as all the great.
I'm so glad you shared this side of India - I love India it's my favourite place to travel and I always go back. But this is a real problem. I travel on my own and incidents like this happened to me all the time, when I was in Delhi I had to be rescued by the tourist police because I had been surrounded by over 40 guys who wouldn't leave me alone.
So thank you for sharing this and not leaving it out. India is a beautiful place, filled with beautiful people but sadly there are problems for female travellers and we have to speak up, say no and that is not ok.
Such a shame it happened in Pushkar - it's one of my favourite places to go.
Nicolle Kane.........sorry for that bad experience........come again to INDIA.
Sorry for that to happen to you. You know some people don't have any decency. It happens all over the world not only in India. But the sad thing to see your happy face to cry. You should travel to South India this time.
I felt what you felt and I was so hurt,violated and disappointed for you. I'm new to your vlog. And I am going to subscribe! Keep it the good work!
I m Indian I support u
Thank you Zeli - we're just finishing our podcast talking about time in india. One of our best travel experiences we've ever been though! LOVE india, cannot wait to come back. We missed Varanasi and i'd really like to visit there next time - thanks for subscribing and watching. Really appreciate your support. 💓🙂
So glad you are okay, Amy. Try and not let it cloud your incredible trip. It’s hard to get past a bad experience like that having had it happen myself (in Egypt many years ago and it can happen anywhere there is a language barrier but no means no. You are a strong incredible woman. And Craig’s a cool dude too. Keep ruling your own world. The hubs and I are enjoying this series TREMENDOUSLY! Video editing and format is spot on fabulous and love your graphs and music. Stay safe and rule ya own world babes! 😘💪🏻 🌍
A sad reality in India. So many suggestions to slap the perpetrator! I would be worried about drawing a huge crowd. In China, before the days of phone selfies, I was in an incident where that did happen - with three of my children it was overwhelming (a cheating taxi driver who tried to grab me accused my then 17 y/o daughter of punching him in her effort to protect me). As for selfies (real cameras) I started requesting money when my daughters got tired of it. Sorry, way too long! Glad you were able to shake it off as one of the bad realities of travel. Loving your vlog.
Now u seen bad experience, but now on u see .....Lot of good experience . Because now u r one of us.
Hey guys! Aimee, we‘re really sorry that happened to you! When we traveled through India several years ago, our openness, curiosity and sometimes too naive trust in everybody was taken advantage of as well. We felt it was sad, that we had to say NO more often. Anyway, an experience of a lifetime 😅. You two are brave driving there, traffic can be crazy! We can‘t wait to follow more of this journey. Really hope you can bring the tuk-tuk, would love to see you travel in it through Europe 😉. Hugs, we‘re with you 🙌!
Sorry this happened to you. On a good note, these vlogs are amazing. I look forward to them every week. You guys are my favorite vloggers!! When will there be another podcast?
Hello everyone, great content,this video was super good! Sorry for your horrible experience with a local. Hope your feeling better Amy.Unfortunately if you keep taking selfies with people this is going to happen. Don't shy away from smacking someone. This is how you show them No means No. That's how Indian women do it. Love you guy's!!😍😍😍👍👍👍😎😎💖💖
Love the intro song u guys! Awesome video as per!
Your videos are so good... I don know whts wrong with ur subscribers... I wish u grow fast...
Dear sister and brother, thanks for coming India, thanks for everything. have a good day.
Amy, you have every right to feel uncomfortable and violated in that situation. Sometimes, especially when you've gone through something stressful, things that might not have bothered us in certain situations, will creep up as unexpectedly traumatic.
Amy the way you described that interaciton.. as a woman i know what you mean its so difficult, its not as 'dramatic' and obvious as you think its gonna be and it makes it so difficult to react, thankyou for being honest and explaining and sharing. you did amazing xx
Oh, just an idea if you don’t have any plans for an evening. During our India trip, we went to the movie theatre and watched whatever they were showing next. Didn’t understand the language, but met so many cool young people there and the vibes during the movie were phenomenal. People were dancing everywhere ;) Highly recommended!
Hate to see amy cry..I recommend you that you should not allow any boy to have selfies with amy..take care of her and make her mood happy again.
Yeah we have started saying no to selfies, unless we have had conversations and they seem ok.
Kinging- It every foreigner coming to India should start doing this otherwise our selfie fever with foreigners isn't going to end 😂
So sorry for your bad experience. Amy, please say no to selfies, it's not at all rude.
Thanks bud, we have been saying no a lot more now 😊
Yup
I had to quit traveling in other countries (well Mexico) way back in 1998 as I couldn’t enjoy myself seeing the sad/ neglected dogs there. I took a horseback ride in Cabo and the poor horses looked so bad. Seeing neglected camels would have really bothered me
Police contact 100. Just dial 100 anywhere in India. Feel sorry about what happened. Wishing you both happy, safe and adventurous trip. Good luck
Hey sorry Aimee!! Hope you are feeling a little better now 😕 Enjoy watching your adventures!!! Glad you found a Vegan cafe👍 Safe travels guys.
I’m so sorry, Aimee. And just for people to know, it’s happened to me on the Japanese subway, in France, and in the US. It’s by no means just in India. It’s a worldwide problem. There’s a LOT of people in India, it’s a big place, and is a place that hasn’t yet successfully taught all men that NO means NO. So between more people and many men who don’t understand touching is inappropriate, it’s bound to happen. I’m so sorry. Big hugs to you (if you accept them! 😉). I hope for change with this matter around the world. 👍🏼✌🏼😘
Sry for whatever happened guys ... Hope you have a great and safe journey. Come to Mumbai if you can.. love to see you.. 🖤.. love from Mumbai. 🇮🇳
Hey.. Guys. Following ur vlogs since u started India series.. Felt very disappointed n ashamed.. For what happened with u.guys. In pushkar. N even in delhi... N even have to say u guys do awesome vlogging n edit
Extremely sorry for you ammie. Most of the people are very welcoming in India, but due to the patriarchal society few incidents still happen. Keep spreading smiles. You both are great.
Apologies mam.....please if any body does that ,file a police complaint
You guys are such an amazing couple and vloggers... watching her cry made me really sad and angry. Indians need to do a lot to teach their fellow countrymen on how to behave with tourists. This is the culture which says ' atithi Devo bhava- guests are god'...and many of us try to uphold those values...but unfortunately there are many rotten Apples as well.
Thank you for your hard work! I really enjoy every video of yours. I told my friends about you because you deserve waaay more views and subs!
And I'm sorry for what happened to you Amy. That is a really shit feeling. But don't be too hard on yourself. Even the strongest women are vulnerable in such a situation and that is what some disgusting individuals try to exploit.
Yay I hit the 1k like. Cracking series and great to see India from a Rickshaw.
Forgot to add - sorry you had a bad experience, but a small % of men around the world, often tar us all with the same brush, and sadly they are out there, and you can never tell.
Just came from Eamon & Bec. You guys are awesome, new sub! 💖
Hey Amy, as Anna correctly said, you'll find a lot of pigs/dogs/etc... Just wanted to tell you, you guys have become my favorite and somewhere you do motivate me. So don't get you Mojo down! You guys are just Stun-nin!!!! 🤩
Totally get your views on the camels. Felt the same way when traveling in Egypt.
So sad that happened to you. But thankyou so much for not filming the camels. Animal abuse is so prolific I applaud you for walking away. I was so sad when I went to Egypt and saw the abuse of donkeys and horses I vowed never to travel again, and I haven't it disturbs me so much.
Amy, so sorry that happened to you. Sending love to you from New York.
Although that video is already a wee older, I totally understand what you went through. To be honest, most people in India know, but like in every country there are incredibly good people and bad people...and in the middle people. :)
I didn't get touched, but I had a hard time in an airport once, because my wallet with everything in it was gone and some of the security pretended not to understand. My lesson I learned: Always ask nearby locals (specially women with a husband or family) for help, because they know better than anyone. ;)
Maybe I should make a video of what?! Let's see. Have a wonderful day you two! ♥
@Justifying Thank you so much!
What how can airport security do that? Which airport was that?
& also refuse selfie request
It's not silly and you're not being silly. Your feelings are totally valid and I'm so sorry you had that experience. As female travelers, especially as westerns we get warned about traveling because something bad can happen. We know bad things can happen anywhere but it doesn't take away the magic of the people or the places we go to. Please take care of yourself in the next few days and thanks for sharing your real experience.
Hello sis.shocked when u had bad experience.
Come to south india.it will be more secure than rest.
Sorry to hear about Aimee's bad experience: hopefully won't be any repeat of that on the trip. Pushkar looks like a nice town and view looked great; just a shame that incident spoiled things.
You’re not being silly AT ALL! he knew fine well what you said and decided to do it again. Absolute chancer. You look after yourself wee yin. Onwards and upwards toots xxxx
You should have complaint about him to police because such person deserve punishment because if girls keep on having a such bad experience then is going to be endless Indian male are not represented by them I am Soo sorry for that
I am from THE USA and have tried and same laws apply to THE UKto take a vehicle back.NO way can you UNTIL you buy a 25 year old vehicle and take it back as a antique.Make sure you make it like new as labour costs back home are expensive.Also dont forget Motor Vehicle have its ways to find out that its a newer vehicle so dont try to fool them.No emissions no seat belts and no any laws require for antique vehicles.
Very intresting to go traveling in india amazing vedio i like your present thank for make vedio very good useful information .
We're so sorry about your bad experience. As you said, this does happen in India and you guys were kind of expecting it at some point. The exact same thing happened to our Amy, and she reacted in the same way. She almost froze and then it was only later when she wished she had said something or done something. So Aimee you reacted in a normal way, you shouldn't feel stupid. Fortunately in two trips to India this has only happened to us once, so it is a minority, but generally education about treating women in India is behind the rest of the world. We watched a doc the other day, and some young men in India don't even know what a period is. When asked, they thought that menstruation was an illness! As you guys are experiencing India is amazing for so many things, we love it and it looks like you do too, so don't let one or two uneducated idiots ruin it for you. Keep up the good work!
Aimee babe I am so sorry you had to go through that! It's so so horrible! Unfortunately I (Meagan) experienced a similar situation in Pushkar as well... Three men jumped off a bike and asked for a selfie, I said yes, one man put his arm around me and pulled open my shirt and put his face down my shirt.. I immediately pushed him off of me and Justin shoved him, I stared crying and they were still trying to take a photo of me while I was crying hiding behind Justin. I felt, and still feel, SO violated, it's absolutely disgusting. But, you're a tough cookie, so hang in there! Sending you a big hug!
Hi kids, just paused this vid to say I'm so sorry for Amy, and your both so lush, but sometimes you've just got to be nasty cause some people don't listen or respect your wishes, if you've told or warned someone nicely more than once then you shouldn't feel bad about having to be so direct. thankfully most are great but there's always a few bad egg's, we found out that in Gambia loads of times, and to be honest I don't think it hurts there feeling as much as it does yours,, they don't seem to care they just move on to the next victim. Going Back to watch the rest your vid now.
I'm feeling so so sorry for you guys - apologies for what you had to experience - really really sorry - being an India I'm ashamed - we know we have this problem - really really sorry
Ah Dillen don't even worry about it, these things happen. It has not put us off India, it's still one of my favourite countries!
Thank you for your honesty and true experience, your raw emotion is heartfelt. Tough day. Chalk it up to lesson learned. Take care my loves. You two are so amazing. India through you eyes is the most unique vlog out there. Travel safe and keep on Kinging-It❣️
I admire you guys for not supporting camel rides, they deserve a better life 🤍
Mam u can complain to police about this
Definitely not ok. It's so awful for someone to do that and ruin the day, but from what I've seen India has been a wonderful place and shouldn't let one bad thing ruin it for you. He was in the wrong. Hope you feel better now
I'm so sorry, Amy. There is no way to explain how violating that feels. It is worldwide and so deeply troubling as a woman.
Only cows are safe here!?!😓😓
Take a tazer
😂 next time!
You can take it to U.K.Its perfectly legal there.But you have to pay transportation and customs duty.
You can buy it in U.K as well,though it costs almost 5000 pounds there.😊
You should put his photo in this video . We can find and tell him politely how to approach someone you dont know .
It was all a bit fast and unexpected! So I didn't get a photo of him. But thank you for the support! 😃
I m so sorry for ur bad experience. I wana suggest u 1 thing don't b too friendly with everyone... Use politeness n friendlynss whenever required by you not by others.
It doesn’t matter what his intention was, he made you uncomfortable by his actions...you are entitled to your feelings & no matter what his age, NO MEANS NO!
Amy such lovely person ❤
Really sorry for it.. just brush off every selfie request sister.. u are our guests and we want u to enjoy this beautiful country..
If something like that happens to you in India again, please shout out loud, and threten them to call police and shout loud so they feel ashamed and never do it again.