Same! I always have a certain inflection and tone of voice that I use when I'm by myself and speaking aloud to myself, and then when I get around other people, that totally changes. I start talking exactly like whoever around me has my attention the most.
I can open up very quickly, even as an INFP. Doesn't necessarily mean that the INFP absolutely adores you already. It may mean they think you are someone they could potentially be friends with as well. I can actually have a lot of trouble opening up to crushes, because I'm much more scared of upsetting them, or overwhelming them by being too present, but that may be just me
How do INFPs take care of their own needs? Speaking as an INFP because we tend to live in our head most of the time, it means we love exploring abstract ideas and that means many of us are drawn to philosophical approaches to life that we then weld onto our souls like armour to deal with the tribulations of daily life and to cope with the interactions we have with the people we meet throughout our lives. So, the first way we take care of our needs is by simply learning the wisdom of the ages and finding what amongst it works for us in our personal situation. For me, this is a blend of stoic and existentialist philosophy but for other INFPs it will no doubt be something else. More broadly, because we are known for creating space for people to explore their emotions yet can often become the dumping ground for other people's negative emotions, we learn very quickly the emotional burden that places on us. And while we are happy to soothe the troubled souls we meet, we don't want to off-load that kind of burden onto others by revealing to them in great detail our own existential crisis because we can never be sure another person could cope with it. So, we tend to take care of our own emotional needs to spare your feelings and make your life less troubling. Besides which, I also suspect many INFPs know deep down no one can really provide us with the answers to the great existential questions of life so when it comes to facing up to our mortality and finding meaning in life we turn inwards to find the answers only we have. It means when we face our dark nights of the soul we become very isolated at times and don't reach out to you for support, but it's probably better to do this than feel that we have burdened you with a set of difficult emotions for which you are not responsible and may not feel comfortable exploring. I suspect our life-long desire for inner harmony also means that at an unconsciopus level we really don't believe other people can follow us down the dark paths we must go to find our inner peace. And because we believe this it means we are reluctant to let people into our inner world in case they flounder and we we hurt them. Of course, that may not be how other INFPs would answer this question. I suspect it might also explain why we are difficult people to get to know and love.
I tend to agree with what you say. I don't find many people who care to talk on the deep topic that interest me...as you say.. existential almost abstract questions are the ones that are the foremost on my mind.. so I've had to really work on the small talk to connect with a more variety of people so I can get broader perspectives and navigate the society better...I have yet to find a way where small talk doesn't drain my energy to 0 within a few hours but i accept that. I've learned how to balance my needs for a lot of space because that doesn't tend to create a healthy space for relationships to grow.. it still takes work on a daily basis to not just check out and live within my head.
In my opinion... Best comunication: Infj Worst communication: Estp Best passion: Enfj Worst passion: Istp Best companionship: infj Worst companionship: Estp Best Lifetasks: Intj Worst Lifetasks: Esfp I personally as an Infp feel myself more drawn to the intj specifically for our differences.
IKR!!!! INTJ are like so fascinating. They never fail to amaze me . I adore them so much and they have this goofy side which is rare but when they get comfortable they're talking 24/7. They are so different than infp but it's like they're full pack of mysteries. I love it
My mom is an infp and my dad is an entj. Actually entj’s are better fits for infp’s they compliment each other. As an enfj I can attest to this we are people pleasers. We would be second options for the infp not the first. entj’s are more ideal. ~Enfj guy.
As an INFP, i prefer introverted extroverts romantically. Yes i have experienced the conflict in the INFP-Enfj relationship!!!! 🤮 i love them. But they irritate me a lot 😅🤭 i see the good in them. I agree with type match... i worked well with ENTJ.. except they can kinda micromanage/get controlling sometimes... Enfp has too much energy for me.. Intj... maybe yes. 👍
I am a INFP and my husband is a ENTJ. Our relationship is hard most of the time because he comes across bossy much of the time. I also feel rushed to communicate and when I finally do communicate he doesn't understand me. When I try to communicate sometimes in think I tell him things that I have only gone over in my head but never actually said to him because our communication is tough at times.
What's interesting about interaction videos is that with people who have (high) Fe, you often clearly see the Fe displayed that you normally do not see that obviously. Eric for example appears very "affirming" in his body language, like the nodding and smiling
Am I the only INFP who's constantly thinking and talking to my brain?? Like I'm watching this vid and thinking so much shits altogether. Fun fact : when ppl asks me to say something I'm BLANK like no words at all. Just blank sheet of paper and stuttering. Then I think about why I'm blank 😂
Great video! Welcome to the UA-cam community, I just discovered your channel. Extraverts and especially sensors are so under represented here, your perspectives' are sorely missing from the conversation. And your insight should be welcomed. Despite being the minority, intuitives dominant the online type communities. I was impressed by, but also slightly disappointed with your restraint in sharing your thoughts about INFPs. Does being your inter-type conflictor undermine your confidence in understanding us. I have to admit that, at times, I find ESTP behavior baffling. Have you had some bad experience in the past stepping on overly sensitive toes of an infp friend or acquaintance? We are notoriously sensitive. I think I would welcome your perspective. A mature infp might not like what you had to say. But if you're not just being insulting, I think It's likely we'd also find the insight to be useful. With one types hero function being the other types trickster, understanding one another can be confusing. But I think that if we aviod ascribing cause to the others actions, conflict should be avoided. At least this is where I see conflicts between INFP and ESTP starting. INFP gets hurt when ESTP miss interprets their motivations. And with motivation potentially being linked to values, or perhaps contradicting them, the potential to trigger an infp here is very high. However, I think, the territory can be navigated. Ask a question rather then making a statement the INFP can misconstrued as an insinuation. Or clearly state your impressions as such. INFP are interested in personal growth, a little criticism won't kill us. Even the topic of motivation can be broached. I'd suggest the following approach. Describe the INFP behavior, follow up with your impression it and any insight. And if you haven't yet stated your impression of their underlying motivation, ask what motivates them to act in that way. If the INFP has not yet considered the topic at hand, It might take the INFP some time to process the question. However, with the appropriate time to reflect this approach should draw the infp into a discussion. While avoiding long, 'You Don't Understand Me (or INFP!)" rants.
@@noworneversoulbeach wat................. I assume it'd be a good thing for an INFP in these times cuz they wanna stay home and have less people around. Like me for example.
@@brucewayne2184 oh yes, I agree with you, that post I made was made 5 months ago from my own perspective of the people I was constantly around but things change lol 😂
I’m INFP and I am attracted to extroverts because I crave adventure and new experiences, but i prefer someone else to do the talking and acting on mutual spontaneous ideas for fun. I think I’m most attracted to ESTP?*basically the complete opposite of me
It would be interesting to hear your perspectives of these 4 categories, because it seemed after the first one (INFP-INFP communication) where you agreed with Eric, it seemed maybe you had different ideas? The idea about naming these pairings one thing or the other would be interesting for sure
I am an infp who has been very happily married to an istj for 25 years. She is a great partner for me. As for your categories- Certainly the life tasks category is fulfilled in a terrific way. We compliment each others weaknesses in home and family tasks very well. The communication can be great, because as you said, we "speak the same language" cognitively, with a different dialect. Our problems tend to be more in the lack of initiation of communication than the communication itself, if that makes sense. Our companionship is wonderful, because we love being around each other, but we both also appreciate the importance of giving each other space when it is needed. Finally, I would say our passion stems from our shared values and priorities. It is not a "super fiery" relationship, but I am chaotic enough for the both of us and have always been drawn to her stability. We make a great team. If you find an istj with a similar set of values: 10 out of 10 would recommend. Just make sure to keep your communication lines open. Hope this provides helpful insight for someone out there. Also, thanks for the video, I really enjoyed it. Blessings to you all.
I'm INFP. We have like 5 people in our lives that we share our experiences with. Like sometimes really in depth. If we share embarrassing stuff with you we like you. You should do some Socionics videos. It's similar to MBTI but it's focused on relationships. The types mostly match up.
My husband used mirroring to me when we first met with disastrous results for me. I thought I had met someone who understood me (INFP-T) and loved me for being being authentically me. He fooled me by mirroring his values, likes, interests etc. For the first time I felt like I had met someone I could relate to. When slowly he started to let his true personality show, I realised how totally different we were (this happened after we were married). I think he could be ISTJ as he's more introverted, not an empath as he has no real regard for other peoples feelings, always thinking himself and his needs first, tells lies, and doesn't have lots of friends. He was diagnosed with Aspergers quite some time ago but I some reason I feel that he was misdiagnosed as I find him quite manipulative persona. If someone is mirroring too much of you, be careful as you might end up with someone who's nothing like you expected them to be when they show their true colors to you.
@@SS-bu8ez Thank you for your comment. But I have absolutely no interest to go any counselling with him as I don't want to spend the rest of my life with him. I believe counselling if for people who really want their relationship to work. That's not me.
Sounds exactly like my fiance, exactly. He had me fooled. I got so drained l had stopped dreaming, lost hope...lost myself. I plan on hitting the road as soon as I'm able to. ✌💓🚙🛣
9:30 In my experience, they are dramatic but not in a *manipulative* way as was being described. They are *authentically* dramatic in that they really believe the sky is falling but often, from the perspective of those around them, it is not.
I really like Estps for done reason I attract them or eachother . They get me to get out of my head and act they are also very chill and non judgmental
I am INFP, my bf is an ENFP and its the best relationship I ever had. We are best friends, lovers and also we run a shop together, wich really works well. He is the one who does the hard work, calls etc I'm the one who makes the shift plans and takes care for our workers and customers needs. Yes it is a bit chaotic from time to time, but go the same way and we have the same goals and we dont get enough of us, eventhough we see eachother all day. For me, I cannot imagine a better man!
I thought I was an enfp bc everything I took the test it was enfp but lately I've ch a need so I took it again and it said I ead aninfp so I listen to these videos and now I think I've been an infp the whole time lol
It's the opposite actually. Fi dom means you know yourself better than anyone else can, at least the internal landscape. Se PoLR means no idea about how ppl may perceive.
@blandon93 Is he an INFP or an ENFP? Generally ENFPs always mistype and they think they are introverts for some reason. Also if he's an enneagram 6 or a 6 fix that might explain it as well.
so i have been trying to talk to more people, been using dating apps (with almost no matches, and the ones i get just drop within a day), been single for 7 years, havent had a date in 6 years, and have been rejected more than a bad cookie in a factory. at that point, what do? its not like im not trying at all, it just never works. then everyone says dont look, do that for a while and its the exact same result. ill focus on work, try getting my shit together, and by the time its together, still nothing. am i just gonna be single the rest of my life?
As an Infp who falls for entp, its like brain overload and swallowing feelings all over again(P.s Its just us lol, it may be work for some but how (Im curious😅). I keep on fuckin my own too lol and its hard to not share feelings but its kinda depressive haha.
As an infp, mirroring is something that I do subconsciously. I tend to take on the speech patterns and mannerisms of the people around me.
Same! I always have a certain inflection and tone of voice that I use when I'm by myself and speaking aloud to myself, and then when I get around other people, that totally changes. I start talking exactly like whoever around me has my attention the most.
Yes! Even when I am aware of it and try not to... it still happens...
I can open up very quickly, even as an INFP. Doesn't necessarily mean that the INFP absolutely adores you already. It may mean they think you are someone they could potentially be friends with as well.
I can actually have a lot of trouble opening up to crushes, because I'm much more scared of upsetting them, or overwhelming them by being too present, but that may be just me
Same here. fellow infp
Same 🤣
I do this too.
Same here too
As an INFP, I always fall for other INFPs when I meet them. They always get me on a deeper level than the others and I fall for it every time.
"...how do i find someone who isnt going to be draining to be around...", now that is the question
How do INFPs take care of their own needs? Speaking as an INFP because we tend to live in our head most of the time, it means we love exploring abstract ideas and that means many of us are drawn to philosophical approaches to life that we then weld onto our souls like armour to deal with the tribulations of daily life and to cope with the interactions we have with the people we meet throughout our lives. So, the first way we take care of our needs is by simply learning the wisdom of the ages and finding what amongst it works for us in our personal situation. For me, this is a blend of stoic and existentialist philosophy but for other INFPs it will no doubt be something else. More broadly, because we are known for creating space for people to explore their emotions yet can often become the dumping ground for other people's negative emotions, we learn very quickly the emotional burden that places on us. And while we are happy to soothe the troubled souls we meet, we don't want to off-load that kind of burden onto others by revealing to them in great detail our own existential crisis because we can never be sure another person could cope with it. So, we tend to take care of our own emotional needs to spare your feelings and make your life less troubling. Besides which, I also suspect many INFPs know deep down no one can really provide us with the answers to the great existential questions of life so when it comes to facing up to our mortality and finding meaning in life we turn inwards to find the answers only we have. It means when we face our dark nights of the soul we become very isolated at times and don't reach out to you for support, but it's probably better to do this than feel that we have burdened you with a set of difficult emotions for which you are not responsible and may not feel comfortable exploring. I suspect our life-long desire for inner harmony also means that at an unconsciopus level we really don't believe other people can follow us down the dark paths we must go to find our inner peace. And because we believe this it means we are reluctant to let people into our inner world in case they flounder and we we hurt them. Of course, that may not be how other INFPs would answer this question. I suspect it might also explain why we are difficult people to get to know and love.
I tend to agree with what you say. I don't find many people who care to talk on the deep topic that interest me...as you say.. existential almost abstract questions are the ones that are the foremost on my mind.. so I've had to really work on the small talk to connect with a more variety of people so I can get broader perspectives and navigate the society better...I have yet to find a way where small talk doesn't drain my energy to 0 within a few hours but i accept that. I've learned how to balance my needs for a lot of space because that doesn't tend to create a healthy space for relationships to grow.. it still takes work on a daily basis to not just check out and live within my head.
In my opinion...
Best comunication: Infj
Worst communication: Estp
Best passion: Enfj
Worst passion: Istp
Best companionship: infj
Worst companionship: Estp
Best Lifetasks: Intj
Worst Lifetasks: Esfp
I personally as an Infp feel myself more drawn to the intj specifically for our differences.
IKR!!!! INTJ are like so fascinating. They never fail to amaze me . I adore them so much and they have this goofy side which is rare but when they get comfortable they're talking 24/7. They are so different than infp but it's like they're full pack of mysteries. I love it
Eric addresses this at about 22:30. Is there anyone more challenging than an ESTJ in the workplace?
My mom is an infp and my dad is an entj. Actually entj’s are better fits for infp’s they compliment each other. As an enfj I can attest to this we are people pleasers. We would be second options for the infp not the first. entj’s are more ideal.
~Enfj guy.
Yea not a big fan of the XSTP
As an INFP, i prefer introverted extroverts romantically.
Yes i have experienced the conflict in the INFP-Enfj relationship!!!! 🤮 i love them. But they irritate me a lot 😅🤭 i see the good in them.
I agree with type match... i worked well with ENTJ.. except they can kinda micromanage/get controlling sometimes...
Enfp has too much energy for me..
Intj... maybe yes. 👍
which one do you perceive to be the best match?
I am a INFP and my husband is a ENTJ. Our relationship is hard most of the time because he comes across bossy much of the time. I also feel rushed to communicate and when I finally do communicate he doesn't understand me. When I try to communicate sometimes in think I tell him things that I have only gone over in my head but never actually said to him because our communication is tough at times.
I would love an extrovert as an infp
What's interesting about interaction videos is that with people who have (high) Fe, you often clearly see the Fe displayed that you normally do not see that obviously. Eric for example appears very "affirming" in his body language, like the nodding and smiling
Am I the only INFP who's constantly thinking and talking to my brain?? Like I'm watching this vid and thinking so much shits altogether.
Fun fact : when ppl asks me to say something I'm BLANK like no words at all. Just blank sheet of paper and stuttering.
Then I think about why I'm blank 😂
Absolutely loved this video! It's always great when Erik Thor joins the conversation with you! You guys are awesome! Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it! There's more to come soon!
Great video! Welcome to the UA-cam community, I just discovered your channel. Extraverts and especially sensors are so under represented here, your perspectives' are sorely missing from the conversation. And your insight should be welcomed. Despite being the minority, intuitives dominant the online type communities.
I was impressed by, but also slightly disappointed with your restraint in sharing your thoughts about INFPs. Does being your inter-type conflictor undermine your confidence in understanding us. I have to admit that, at times, I find ESTP behavior baffling. Have you had some bad experience in the past stepping on overly sensitive toes of an infp friend or acquaintance? We are notoriously sensitive.
I think I would welcome your perspective. A mature infp might not like what you had to say. But if you're not just being insulting, I think It's likely we'd also find the insight to be useful.
With one types hero function being the other types trickster, understanding one another can be confusing. But I think that if we aviod ascribing cause to the others actions, conflict should be avoided. At least this is where I see conflicts between INFP and ESTP starting. INFP gets hurt when ESTP miss interprets their motivations. And with motivation potentially being linked to values, or perhaps contradicting them, the potential to trigger an infp here is very high.
However, I think, the territory can be navigated. Ask a question rather then making a statement the INFP can misconstrued as an insinuation. Or clearly state your impressions as such. INFP are interested in personal growth, a little criticism won't kill us.
Even the topic of motivation can be broached. I'd suggest the following approach. Describe the INFP behavior, follow up with your impression it and any insight. And if you haven't yet stated your impression of their underlying motivation, ask what motivates them to act in that way.
If the INFP has not yet considered the topic at hand, It might take the INFP some time to process the question. However, with the appropriate time to reflect this approach should draw the infp into a discussion. While avoiding long, 'You Don't Understand Me (or INFP!)" rants.
I'm an infp and attracted to the more open, softer and understanding personalities. If I open up to you I like you for sure.
Being an INFP during these times... 🙃
What does that even mean
@@brucewayne2184 ask greed and human nature itself.
@@noworneversoulbeach wat.................
I assume it'd be a good thing for an INFP in these times cuz they wanna stay home and have less people around. Like me for example.
@@brucewayne2184 oh yes, I agree with you, that post I made was made 5 months ago from my own perspective of the people I was constantly around but things change lol 😂
I’m INFP and I am attracted to extroverts because I crave adventure and new experiences, but i prefer someone else to do the talking and acting on mutual spontaneous ideas for fun. I think I’m most attracted to ESTP?*basically the complete opposite of me
It would be interesting to hear your perspectives of these 4 categories, because it seemed after the first one (INFP-INFP communication) where you agreed with Eric, it seemed maybe you had different ideas?
The idea about naming these pairings one thing or the other would be interesting for sure
I am an infp who has been very happily married to an istj for 25 years. She is a great partner for me.
As for your categories- Certainly the life tasks category is fulfilled in a terrific way. We compliment each others weaknesses in home and family tasks very well. The communication can be great, because as you said, we "speak the same language" cognitively, with a different dialect. Our problems tend to be more in the lack of initiation of communication than the communication itself, if that makes sense. Our companionship is wonderful, because we love being around each other, but we both also appreciate the importance of giving each other space when it is needed. Finally, I would say our passion stems from our shared values and priorities. It is not a "super fiery" relationship, but I am chaotic enough for the both of us and have always been drawn to her stability. We make a great team. If you find an istj with a similar set of values: 10 out of 10 would recommend. Just make sure to keep your communication lines open. Hope this provides helpful insight for someone out there. Also, thanks for the video, I really enjoyed it. Blessings to you all.
I'm INFP. We have like 5 people in our lives that we share our experiences with. Like sometimes really in depth. If we share embarrassing stuff with you we like you. You should do some Socionics videos. It's similar to MBTI but it's focused on relationships. The types mostly match up.
My husband used mirroring to me when we first met with disastrous results for me. I thought I had met someone who understood me (INFP-T) and loved me for being being authentically me. He fooled me by mirroring his values, likes, interests etc. For the first time I felt like I had met someone I could relate to. When slowly he started to let his true personality show, I realised how totally different we were (this happened after we were married). I think he could be ISTJ as he's more introverted, not an empath as he has no real regard for other peoples feelings, always thinking himself and his needs first, tells lies, and doesn't have lots of friends. He was diagnosed with Aspergers quite some time ago but I some reason I feel that he was misdiagnosed as I find him quite manipulative persona. If someone is mirroring too much of you, be careful as you might end up with someone who's nothing like you expected them to be when they show their true colors to you.
You should reconsider or go to relationship counselling. Infp relationships with Istj and Estj almost never works out well.
@@SS-bu8ez Thank you for your comment. But I have absolutely no interest to go any counselling with him as I don't want to spend the rest of my life with him. I believe counselling if for people who really want their relationship to work. That's not me.
Sounds exactly like my fiance, exactly. He had me fooled. I got so drained l had stopped dreaming, lost hope...lost myself. I plan on hitting the road as soon as I'm able to. ✌💓🚙🛣
@@charmlove1935 what type is he?
@@SS-bu8ez l think he is an ISTP
I really enjoyed all those questions. Great job!
9:30 In my experience, they are dramatic but not in a *manipulative* way as was being described. They are *authentically* dramatic in that they really believe the sky is falling but often, from the perspective of those around them, it is not.
Infp here. I have a Istp guy friend that I'v been friends with for 10 years and he's seems like a magnet for other Infp women.
I really like Estps for done reason I attract them or eachother . They get me to get out of my head and act they are also very chill and non judgmental
Great video! ✌️
hello dear
i would love us to chat and become friends
i am going to be grateful if i hear from you
hope to hear from you soon
thank you
erik thor type god
wut
Why did I think Erik was infp?
because infj are very similar to infp in our mindset ... many experiences apply for anyone of us
"Estj worst communication with Infp" *socionics has left the chat*
I need videos like this about INTp please
INFP and ENFP’s don’t work well together. I agree w/ INTJ working w/ INFP. They’d be very successful together.
Maybe it varies based on the individuals. I'm an INFP, and some of the best relationships in my life have been with ENFP's.
I am INFP, my bf is an ENFP and its the best relationship I ever had. We are best friends, lovers and also we run a shop together, wich really works well. He is the one who does the hard work, calls etc I'm the one who makes the shift plans and takes care for our workers and customers needs. Yes it is a bit chaotic from time to time, but go the same way and we have the same goals and we dont get enough of us, eventhough we see eachother all day. For me, I cannot imagine a better man!
@@pinyrichter205 Are you sure you're not Infj?
@@SS-bu8ez I am very sure about that :) why you ask?
My bf is an enfp and she's the only person where i can work with all day
I thought I was an enfp bc everything I took the test it was enfp but lately I've ch a need so I took it again and it said I ead aninfp so I listen to these videos and now I think I've been an infp the whole time lol
I think the INFP would be the most confused about their type 😩
It's the opposite actually. Fi dom means you know yourself better than anyone else can, at least the internal landscape. Se PoLR means no idea about how ppl may perceive.
@@SS-bu8ez that's why Eric Thor (INFP) claimed to be INFJ for so long. He also typed Frank James as INFJ while being mistype.
@blandon93 Is he an INFP or an ENFP? Generally ENFPs always mistype and they think they are introverts for some reason. Also if he's an enneagram 6 or a 6 fix that might explain it as well.
A complex analysis would be the different types as narcissists
so i have been trying to talk to more people, been using dating apps (with almost no matches, and the ones i get just drop within a day), been single for 7 years, havent had a date in 6 years, and have been rejected more than a bad cookie in a factory. at that point, what do? its not like im not trying at all, it just never works. then everyone says dont look, do that for a while and its the exact same result. ill focus on work, try getting my shit together, and by the time its together, still nothing. am i just gonna be single the rest of my life?
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Hey Eric ..you are cute !💖💖😄😄😄☺️☺️☺️☺️
👍
I accept everyone but tj makes me feel cold as they are so inhuman.
As an INFP. I’m shy around a person I’m crushing on. 🫣
As an Infp who falls for entp, its like brain overload and swallowing feelings all over again(P.s Its just us lol, it may be work for some but how (Im curious😅). I keep on fuckin my own too lol and its hard to not share feelings but its kinda depressive haha.