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  • @Lorelei-c4j
    @Lorelei-c4j 3 місяці тому +1140

    The corporate world is not built for introverts. No matter how "outspoken" I am in the workplace, my colleagues expect me to talk through the whole 8 hours. It's so tiring 😢 I excel better in silence.

    • @raihana.onfilm
      @raihana.onfilm 3 місяці тому +38

      i relate to this sooo much!

    • @Emaniwilson
      @Emaniwilson 3 місяці тому +80

      Me not wanting to talk all day in meetings, or small talk about random things has caused me to be called "intimidating"

    • @manulucicosta
      @manulucicosta 3 місяці тому +2

      @@Emaniwilsonwaaaw 🥲

    • @KAye633
      @KAye633 3 місяці тому +18

      You have to learn how to adjust.

    • @JJ-mr4vv
      @JJ-mr4vv 3 місяці тому

      Same🥲

  • @tosin1018
    @tosin1018 3 місяці тому +726

    I never spoke up at meetings. About two years ago, I gave myself a challenge to ask at least two questions and comment at least twice in every meeting I attend at work. It doesn’t matter if it’s a group of 5 or 50. It is hard but I force myself to do this and overtime it has become a little easier for me to speak up at meetings. I am currently in a role where I facilitate meetings of over an hour during which I am expected to do the most talking. I also make use of my voice recording on my phone instead a journal. This allows me to listen to how I sound, my pace, and enunciation.

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому +39

      Love this! It’s very practical and trackable. Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏾✨

    • @4b6t
      @4b6t 2 місяці тому +5

      Great idea! It's really about taking action and that includes pushing yourself.

    • @purpledoodle06
      @purpledoodle06 2 місяці тому +3

      I love this! Thanks for sharing, as a corporate girly who really needs to improve her confidence and communication, I’m gonna give this a try. Goodluck as well! ❤

    • @ruthtembo8402
      @ruthtembo8402 2 місяці тому

      Thank you for sharing this❤

    • @venusspacey9685
      @venusspacey9685 Місяць тому

      @@AdamaLornaSN: you think it’s your voice their complimenting?😅 you’re well spoken, but you look good doing it. You’re a woman. People indirectly and respectfully compliment your face and body. ❤

  • @Vee_TheWorshipper
    @Vee_TheWorshipper 2 місяці тому +249

    Thank you very much for this, I learnt a lot!
    Two tips I'd like to add:
    1. ELIMINATE FILLER WORDS. Fight them like your life depends on it. Too many people these days say "like" at least five times in two sentences! "Like" may not be the filler word you use, it may be “umm”, or “you know”, etc. Whatever it is, train yourself to eliminate it.
    2. If you're asked a question you don't have a prepared answer for, feel free to pause to properly articulate your thoughts before speaking. This kills two birds with a stone because it also creates anticipation in the listener.

    • @quiananibigigwe9213
      @quiananibigigwe9213 2 місяці тому +2

      This is really good advice

    • @NmaHumphrey
      @NmaHumphrey 2 місяці тому +3

      Wow! Thank you! I use 'like' a lot.

    • @felipessunshine
      @felipessunshine 2 місяці тому +1

      This! Especially the second one is something that I've been thinking about a lot lately and I'm getting more and more into it.

    • @81stdelii
      @81stdelii 2 місяці тому

      do you have any tips for eliminating filler words?

    • @Vee_TheWorshipper
      @Vee_TheWorshipper 2 місяці тому +6

      @@81stdelii hi! Sure. I’m no professional, but I’d be glad to let you know what worked for me.
      Firstly, I identified the filler words I used, and became hyper aware of my use of them. This way, it was easy for me to catch myself before using them.
      Secondly, as the name “filler words” implies, we tend to use them as crutches when we’re talking faster than our brains are thinking, so we get to a point where we’re unsure of what to say next.
      That being said, use the second tip in my original comment. Before you start speaking, and when you catch yourself about to use them, pause to properly gather and articulate your thoughts, then speak.
      Thirdly, (building on the foundation of my second point), speak slower. This is another way to gain time to gather your thoughts. It also makes you sound relaxed and confident, which again is killing two birds with a stone.
      Hope this helps!

  • @raihana.onfilm
    @raihana.onfilm 3 місяці тому +320

    As introvert the work we have to put in is like double!

  • @WholesomelyBillian
    @WholesomelyBillian 3 місяці тому +360

    Thanks for this. I struggle with public speaking and story telling. I think it's because I think of so many things at the same time and also very conscious of myself. But I'm actively working on this. Going back to reading 📚. I even started a UA-cam Channel😊 to help improve my confidence and fluency. Cross your fingers for me.

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому +30

      It’s great that you’re proactive! I’m wanting to improve my storytelling too tbh. There’s room for growth for us all. Good luck with it 🤍

    • @quiananibigigwe9213
      @quiananibigigwe9213 2 місяці тому

      That’s exactly how I feel

    • @WholesomelyBillian
      @WholesomelyBillian 2 місяці тому

      @@AdamaLorna Thank you

    • @ashachanel2587
      @ashachanel2587 22 дні тому

      I’m in the same boat, I’ve struggled with this myself.

  • @Nowwelearn
    @Nowwelearn 2 місяці тому +125

    2 minutes into the video, I feel like I should grab some snacks, hot coco and bundle up with a warm blanket.

    • @mmmmkay4773
      @mmmmkay4773 2 місяці тому +8

      Literally!! Her voice and accent is so warm and cozy!

    • @Shatradwife
      @Shatradwife 2 місяці тому +2

      Facts😂

    • @BeenyKay
      @BeenyKay 9 днів тому

      Girl!!😂

  • @phyllisissami
    @phyllisissami Місяць тому +19

    It’s exciting when you realize you’re replacing your filler words with ‘silence’ which is a great pause and makes the speech a wonderful one.

  • @Song_about_a_girl
    @Song_about_a_girl 2 місяці тому +45

    Im a nursing student who needs to learn to speak with conviction. I am a receptionist who speaks very friendly welcoming and people pleasing. I need to learn better to be confident and firm while still being kind and caring.

    • @noor8238
      @noor8238 2 місяці тому

      I couldn’t relate anymore!

    • @visiondeflector8201
      @visiondeflector8201 День тому +1

      Wow I’m in the same boat. If you’re too nice, ppl will walk all over you

  • @isabelagomesrodrigues2115
    @isabelagomesrodrigues2115 2 місяці тому +15

    I had never seen such a perfect hair omg

  • @kneegrowx
    @kneegrowx 3 місяці тому +98

    Thank you. Some of us are blessed to be able to speak. Why not get better at doing it.

  • @HarmonyandHope7
    @HarmonyandHope7 3 місяці тому +164

    I have adhd & I get lost in my thoughts. Sometimes when someone is speaking to me, I zone out or start wondering what they think about me or what I’m saying. It’s annoying & weird.

    • @JoanKajo
      @JoanKajo 3 місяці тому +20

      same omg and I always overthink everything causing me to stutter or stop and start over and I look silly lol

    • @JJ-mr4vv
      @JJ-mr4vv 3 місяці тому +10

      I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD but I have this same problem

    • @nielwill
      @nielwill 3 місяці тому +10

      It’s not weird it’s just how ppl with adhd are wired. Work with what you’ve got if & give yourself grace. Everyone wants to make a good impression

    • @racheljamesotokiti2910
      @racheljamesotokiti2910 2 місяці тому +2

      😂😂 I’m a introvert with adhd/dyslexia so😂😂

    • @queenrajsmith4880
      @queenrajsmith4880 2 місяці тому

      @@racheljamesotokiti2910 same how do you deal with it ?

  • @anacamacho3184
    @anacamacho3184 2 місяці тому +17

    It feels like a friend talking to me/educating me. Very comforting, efficiently attentive, and understanding.

  • @hempressdigital
    @hempressdigital 3 місяці тому +42

    I love the background music. Sipping my coffee and watching this ❤

  • @RethabileMoloi-mn5ex
    @RethabileMoloi-mn5ex 12 днів тому +2

    your voice is so alluring😍

  • @noble604
    @noble604 3 місяці тому +40

    In this HIGH digital age where everything we do is online or on an app and very little is in person, it’ is more critical than ever to be able to present ourselves with our voice as well as our looks. I see so many UA-cam videos where the person cannot pronounce words, misuses words to mean something they don’t mean or does not enunciate clearly and it ruins the video for me. I generally turn it off. There’s so much focus on looks currently but if people open their mouth and it’s not as well-pleasing to the ear as their look is meant to be to the eye, I don’t stay. Speaking well is so important, on every level. I’d like to see us spend more time, effort and attention on it. 🌱

  • @DesireUba
    @DesireUba 2 місяці тому +7

    You are definitely worthy to speak on public speaking. I enjoyed this so much and learned a lot. I need to learn to pace myself better. I could be quite fast when speaking.

  • @MsAngie2.0
    @MsAngie2.0 2 місяці тому +8

    Your accent is marvelous

  • @theofficialkae7736
    @theofficialkae7736 3 місяці тому +18

    I have never heard anyone use Jazz music in the background of their video. I am so intrigued!! Also, your tips were amazing and didn’t feel complicated ❤❤ thank you!!

  • @Joyceee507
    @Joyceee507 2 місяці тому +5

    I love the comfortable vibe this educational video gives, the backgrounds music mixing with your voice is so pleasantly pleasing to listen too

  • @alldayamyj
    @alldayamyj 3 місяці тому +13

    Yes heavy on the be your authentic self and leaning into what you’re passionate about ! I also hate when i keep saying “ummm” working on that!

    • @Lisa_n
      @Lisa_n 2 місяці тому

      For me it's saying, "like" I grind my gears when I say that

  • @funmilayooyekanmi
    @funmilayooyekanmi Місяць тому +4

    Listening to you speak with airpods is quite soothing.
    Thanks for the insight! Coming back to watch more videos on your channel.

  • @relaxedlifevidoes2949
    @relaxedlifevidoes2949 3 місяці тому +42

    Please do hair videos! Your hair is always so pretty!! You’re so beautiful!

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому +17

      Thank you so much! I’m not looking to or comfortable doing hair videos atm but I do appreciate it. I’ve mostly just learned from the wealth of hair videos already on youtube though! 🤍

    • @minkyxo
      @minkyxo 3 місяці тому +4

      Can you please share source of bundles ? And nothing else

  • @savb821
    @savb821 Місяць тому +3

    Ooooo Gurl I needed thissss 😭I really want to know how to speak super clearly. I stumble over my words a lot and I want to sound believable when speaking😅

  • @LuigiCroissant7579
    @LuigiCroissant7579 3 місяці тому +9

    Just a few hours before this video came out on my recommended section. I had written down that I wanted to learn how to speak. Thank you for this video very enlightening and easily explained video!

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому +2

      Love that this showed up at the right time! You're welcome 🤎

  • @morr_1388
    @morr_1388 2 місяці тому +3

    Your voice is like the smooth crackle of a fire.

  • @RatnaKemalaSari-pb3lv
    @RatnaKemalaSari-pb3lv Місяць тому +1

    I love your gesture, I'm not an english speaker but I can understand what you say without sub. Love your voice too, it's calming ❤

  • @angelvictoria3878
    @angelvictoria3878 3 місяці тому +3

    Your voice is magical

  • @gcinamahlangu24
    @gcinamahlangu24 3 місяці тому +3

    I struggle to speak to other people in public, even my peers. Sometimes I think I might have communication apprehension, but I found this video quite helpful. Thank you ❤.

  • @bethelchisomphilip2842
    @bethelchisomphilip2842 Місяць тому +1

    Impeccable articulation.📌

  • @pamelashehu
    @pamelashehu 3 місяці тому +3

    Girl I could listen to you speak all day! Thank you for these tips ❤

  • @aprasharma1
    @aprasharma1 3 місяці тому +8

    I LOVE THIS SO MUCH! You listen to us and our requests and that already makes you top tier for me Adama, thankyou!

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      Thank you for the suggestion! I appreciate you and your feedback on the channel 🤍

  • @patiencesangwa3944
    @patiencesangwa3944 3 місяці тому +8

    Your voice is captivating ❤

  • @Elishajorden
    @Elishajorden 3 місяці тому +22

    😍😍😍😍 ur voice is so nice 0:33

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому +1

      Thank you!! ❤️

    • @BelindaKumah
      @BelindaKumah 2 місяці тому

      I was about to type this. You have an attractive voice

  • @naybettencourt
    @naybettencourt 3 місяці тому +9

    This is your second video that I watch and I remember when I watched the first I said to myself “I wish talked like her” (english is not my first language). Loved this video 💖

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      I appreciate it! Glad you loved the video 🤍

  • @Yogamasfacilbygabirovera
    @Yogamasfacilbygabirovera 3 місяці тому +10

    Es una mujer que inspira, muchas gracias por tu contenido!

  • @Micahh6071
    @Micahh6071 Місяць тому

    I’m on a binge of your videos. They’re so food

  • @ediu9924
    @ediu9924 3 місяці тому +4

    Thank you Adama, very insightful as always

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      I appreciate it 🙏🏾✨

  • @haunting33
    @haunting33 3 місяці тому +4

    Girlll that glow uhhhh....❤

  • @budumargaret1398
    @budumargaret1398 Місяць тому

    Your voice ❤
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts

  • @masanaxx
    @masanaxx Місяць тому

    this was so helpful! Thanks Adama😍

  • @Hellena-eb6in
    @Hellena-eb6in 3 місяці тому +2

    I'm glad I came across this video. Thank you so much Adama. This has truly encouraged me. I can do this!

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      Warms my heart! Genuinely smiled when I saw this comment. You’re so welcome 🙏🏾

  • @Ishaomii
    @Ishaomii Місяць тому

    Thanks for this ❤ I really appreciate
    I’m definitely working on it now
    And will come and share my results with you 😊

  • @majakusowska6565
    @majakusowska6565 3 місяці тому +1

    I’ve seen many videos on improving conversation skills and yours bring much different and in my opinion more useful points. Also it is true that your voice is magnificent so it is a pure pleasure to listen to you :)

  • @_TAMZONE
    @_TAMZONE 3 місяці тому +2

    You have my gratitude, ma'am!❤

  • @sunnyj7424
    @sunnyj7424 3 місяці тому +2

    I’d love to know what books on natural sciences and art you’ve read. Thank you for this video!

  • @lululandstories
    @lululandstories 3 місяці тому +1

    Loved this. So enlightening. Thank you Adama

  • @omohtv
    @omohtv 3 місяці тому +15

    Thanks for this video, I find it difficult to speak and complete my sentence. I will keep on practicing till I get perfect.

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      You got this! Keep going, you’ll see progress 🙏🏾✨

  • @ada_maks
    @ada_maks 3 місяці тому +1

    This was absolutely helpful. Thank you

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  2 місяці тому

      You’re welcome ❤️

  • @abenaboatemaaafrifa598
    @abenaboatemaaafrifa598 2 місяці тому

    I love how you speak ❤

  • @BrianaDeleon-e1i
    @BrianaDeleon-e1i 3 місяці тому +2

    Thank you !! Blessings

  • @chideraozomma8035
    @chideraozomma8035 3 місяці тому +1

    This was so helpful

  • @nviscallin3702
    @nviscallin3702 3 місяці тому +12

    I am so insecure about my voice, it is so quiet, i talk a lot but ppl have difficulty hearing me in loud settings. I have no issue speaking in silence. Its so hard to project in loud rooms

    • @moonie2770
      @moonie2770 3 місяці тому

      I get u i have the same issue...im not loud im quiet 😢

  • @juli.moon.
    @juli.moon. 2 місяці тому +5

    i’m so shy it’s embarrassing at this point

  • @maisaw1454
    @maisaw1454 3 місяці тому +13

    This was such a helpful video. I think I’ve gotten stuck in the “how to speak” books instead of actually analysing speeches I come across. I love your technique and will apply that to the speeches I found engaging and captivating. Keep up the good work🫶🏿

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      Thank you! I’m glad you’ve got a actionable step from the video 🤍

    • @KAye633
      @KAye633 3 місяці тому

      Analyzing speeches for Ted Talks helped me out a lot! I do presentations for my job all the time and everyone says how much of a natural I am, engaging, and knowledgeable but 10 years ago I would have never been in this place. The best thing is, I am still so excited about the growth I can make. Good luck and God bless.

  • @NoRainNoFlowersz
    @NoRainNoFlowersz Місяць тому

    0:01 My God, Adama Lorna your voice is BLESSED! Stay Blessed
    P.S. Subscribed!🙂

  • @skeedamacknn
    @skeedamacknn 3 місяці тому +1

    That you so much I’ve struggled with speaking to others I tend to listen to myself and start to subconsciously say things like “we hi sound like Omgosh get to it, are you rambling?” And they I start to stutter. When I’m with some I’m comfortable with I’m good at articulating my ideas

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      We definitely all have our challenges when it comes to public speaking. Hopefully implementing some of these tips will help you feel more comfortable when in these situations 😊

  • @jemimahomombo6955
    @jemimahomombo6955 Місяць тому

    Thank you 🤍

  • @Luvvbrat
    @Luvvbrat Місяць тому

    Thank you sm for this

  • @akankwatsaloice7681
    @akankwatsaloice7681 21 день тому

    Wow this is so good

  • @Amberfifu
    @Amberfifu Місяць тому

    I love ur voice I love how u talk I'm mesmerised

  • @Jd1156
    @Jd1156 3 місяці тому +3

    Keep growing dope content

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      Thank you, I’ll try!

  • @mxrina2349
    @mxrina2349 2 місяці тому

    Thank you, your video helped me a lot!❤

  • @ebelecatherine9792
    @ebelecatherine9792 2 місяці тому

    Every point was necessary ❤❤❤ thank you

  • @ОльгаГерман-х4д
    @ОльгаГерман-х4д 3 місяці тому

    feel so grateful for you! It was so delightful even just listen to you! Thanks!

  • @ShaySunshyne
    @ShaySunshyne 2 місяці тому

    This was helpful & really aligned with a lot of ideas I had myself. Thank you! ❤

  • @crystalhd3639
    @crystalhd3639 3 місяці тому +5

    Just came across this video and really enjoyed listening. Communication is one of the things I am hoping to build on. Adama, please provide a potential reading list of some of the books that you have read in the past and have found enjoyable or even would suggest as a good read?

  • @jobaoyefusi
    @jobaoyefusi 2 місяці тому

    Love this!!

  • @raya7390
    @raya7390 2 місяці тому +6

    My voice is so low , all people keep saying speak loudly , i cant hear u ,even when i am screaming they cant hear

  • @AlienAngel543
    @AlienAngel543 2 місяці тому +1

    Your voice is mesmerising 😊

  • @destinydivine8465
    @destinydivine8465 2 місяці тому

    You are absolutely gorgeous!!

  • @theetravelhippie
    @theetravelhippie 3 місяці тому +1

    beautifully well timed!

  • @Chinwe67
    @Chinwe67 3 місяці тому

    So helpful, thanks for this video

  • @aquariangypsy8892
    @aquariangypsy8892 3 місяці тому

    I’ve enjoyed your videos! Great work.

  • @fejirotalks
    @fejirotalks 2 місяці тому

    I struggle with saying a point concisely especially when I’m recording content lol the retakes are LONG 😂 but I’m definitely going to take on board these tips and set a goal to see myself improve on this

  • @Hajarsstorcast
    @Hajarsstorcast 3 місяці тому

    when I grow up I wish to have a friend just like you

  • @emempatrick625
    @emempatrick625 2 місяці тому

    I like you. Thank you for that amazing heads up ❤

  • @LinusAngela
    @LinusAngela 26 днів тому

    Nice one ❣️

  • @margaux__alexx
    @margaux__alexx 2 місяці тому +3

    My head was down as the video was playing, and I honestly thought an ad was playing. I’m in shock.

  • @breannafelix4450
    @breannafelix4450 3 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for this. This video has so many gems that will help me on my journey to becoming more confident in my speaking.
    You mentioned how preparation helped you in your career even though you didn’t have a degree in tech; do you have a video discussing that a little more?

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      Thank you! Yes I have a video on this channel about how I got into tech. It should be in the tech and careers playlist ☺️

  • @8notes_
    @8notes_ 3 місяці тому

    Wonderful stuff, everytime!

  • @kashgrll
    @kashgrll 3 місяці тому +2

    loved this! thank you for sharing such valuable information

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      You’re welcome! ❤️

  • @Ashley-ur1ey
    @Ashley-ur1ey 3 місяці тому +2

    Always beautiful ❤️

  • @Miss_Jael
    @Miss_Jael 3 місяці тому

    Any tips for a stammerer in corporate??😢❤

  • @commentpoliceofficer7991
    @commentpoliceofficer7991 3 місяці тому +4

    Girl you’re British. You naturally gonna speak classy 😂

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому +5

      We don’t all sound the same I promise you that 😂

  • @princessglandy6776
    @princessglandy6776 2 місяці тому +1

    You have the confidence and mannerisms of a famous jorinalist. Very demure, very mindful, very cutesy.

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  2 місяці тому

      This genuinely made me smile 😂. Thank you ❤️

  • @Maria-gd4vf
    @Maria-gd4vf 3 місяці тому +5

    I speak around 5 languages but all broken lolz

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому

      Yeah that's sticky 😂

  • @timothykimari8154
    @timothykimari8154 3 місяці тому

    awesome voice

  • @vitoria.yt.c
    @vitoria.yt.c 3 місяці тому

    Great video!

  • @mariaonadeko
    @mariaonadeko 3 місяці тому +2

    1st!! ❤😅

  • @Yen-NhiNguyen
    @Yen-NhiNguyen Місяць тому

  • @RohitKumar-ig8jo
    @RohitKumar-ig8jo 2 місяці тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @fomosewoyeba7872
    @fomosewoyeba7872 2 місяці тому

    😂 speaking about syntax of a written book I've never heard anyone say that. It could only come from someone in the intersection of programming and reading

  • @ThebigGLRams
    @ThebigGLRams 2 місяці тому

    Read more, write more

  • @deboraheleanor4509
    @deboraheleanor4509 2 місяці тому

    Can you speak slower please, so your words have greater impact on us and we take it in well

  • @Kdizzlee
    @Kdizzlee 3 місяці тому

    Very beautiful video, but I will say there is too much hand movement. It’s a little distracting.

    • @AdamaLorna
      @AdamaLorna  3 місяці тому +2

      Thank you for the feedback!

  • @YourEnhancedLife
    @YourEnhancedLife 2 місяці тому

    This is nice @Adama.
    I hope I get a subscribe from you

  • @AiCa-bp4nk
    @AiCa-bp4nk 2 місяці тому +1

    Step 1: Be British.

    • @KimberlyA-fs9ir
      @KimberlyA-fs9ir 2 місяці тому +1

      Lmao right! I’m sitting by here thinking the accent already gives you an advantage

  • @Amet-d8b
    @Amet-d8b 3 місяці тому +1

    I am new here and I really admire the way you speak 😊🫶🏾🫶🏾

  • @МарияЛесникова-о1н
    @МарияЛесникова-о1н 2 місяці тому

    thank you🤍

  • @budumargaret1398
    @budumargaret1398 Місяць тому

    Your voice ❤
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts