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  • Man Goes VIRAL For Saying This About Single Moms Raising Boys
    In this video, controversial personality Charleston White says that single moms are not capable of raising men.
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  • @JRWisdom
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    • @Baltimoreswagga
      @Baltimoreswagga Місяць тому

      So you not gonna post link and pay homage

  • @lindahall970
    @lindahall970 Місяць тому +248

    Listen, it's hard to hear as a single mother of a son. But I have to tell you, my SON WAS THE ONE WHO TOLD ME I COULDN'T TEACH HIM TO BE A MAN. IT'S TRUE.

    • @ScottDreyfus
      @ScottDreyfus Місяць тому +8

      I had the same conversation with mine at about 14. I asked her if she really thought she could control me? I know how to do the right thing. It’s my choice and my responsibility at this point. I’ve seen how the other side live and I’m out. Last time I ever lived at “home”

    • @user-qo9tz8pq3d
      @user-qo9tz8pq3d Місяць тому +10

      How could you? I can't teach my daughter what it means to be a woman.

    • @devon9643
      @devon9643 Місяць тому +16

      You didn't need your son to tell you that.... just listen to men...

    • @IDidNotAsk4ThisHandle
      @IDidNotAsk4ThisHandle Місяць тому +10

      I’m a mother and I already knew this….we are not men….that’s why I don’t accept that Father’s Day crap from people #Huh? What?

    • @shanellem6310
      @shanellem6310 Місяць тому +7

      It's hard to hear; but, it's a fact I've accepted early. It's why I've tried hard to make sure all my kids see their fathers, even at the expense of my mental peace, it's also why when my son asked to live with his Dad in 8th grade, I sent him that summer. His Dad is not a good man, but he is a man. I'm pretty sure that I'm harder on our son than he is. I still see my son, and when he comes, we pick up right where we left off.

  • @carleebhoward1657
    @carleebhoward1657 Місяць тому +122

    My favorite line for my sons was “ Call your dad , granddad or one of your uncles because I’m not a man and I don’t know what to tell you” I thank God for them.

    • @shajohn780
      @shajohn780 Місяць тому +6

      You're a very wise woman. It takea a village to raise a child😊

    • @channahspeaksthereal6184
      @channahspeaksthereal6184 Місяць тому

      I Tell my son the same thing

    • @rbaraka1
      @rbaraka1 Місяць тому

      Amen Sis!

    • @MrShaneVicious
      @MrShaneVicious Місяць тому

      ​​@@shajohn780it takes a FAMILY. Most people live in CITIES, not villages. The city could care less about your kids.

    • @jasonsutherland9015
      @jasonsutherland9015 Місяць тому

      When I was young growing up my mother use to tell me call my father when I need a man advice or go talk to your grandfather

  • @3mmdm32
    @3mmdm32 Місяць тому +86

    This was hard to hear even as a man. My mom and dad divorced when I was 10 but my dad was only about 10 minutes away. He told me and my brother more than once “if you give your mom a problem, I will straighten you out”. They were still a team. He was and still is a good man. Glad I had him.

    • @rondasmith4037
      @rondasmith4037 Місяць тому +3

      Sometimes, even in 2 parent houses, the mother plays dual roles! I, as a mother, taught my sons how to cut the grass, cut the hedges, drive, clean the house, catch fish, and cook! My siblings and I grew up doing those things, so I made sure they learned! Their dad was in the home. However, it wasn't until they got older that he started hanging out with them more! So I can't relate to a daddy who wasn't worth a damn because my daddy was a very good daddy! He was quite the man who women dream of! I can relate to a selfish raise who taught me nothing but hated me! The most important thing is I took everything that she didn't do and poured it into my boys so that they will know how to do! I taught them the things that my daddy taught me as well! My X husband had a good mother and father, so my boys were surrounded by good people! If they would've had a lousy daddy, I still would have made sure to expose them to manly things and Men! I would have been right there because I know that you can't trust people! So to say a woman can't raise a son isn't true! I took my bad situation of losing my mama at an early age mother and being raised by an evil stepmother, and so I vowed that I would teach my children EVERYTHING that I could! When they did things with their dad, I was right there most of the time! They raised animals and rode horses! I was there because I grew up doing those things as well!! Now that I box, my grandson is evolved with boxing to! We also just planted a garden! TO ALL OF YOU, MAKE THE BEST OUT OF LIFE AND POUR EVERY HEALTHY AND MEANINGFUL INTO YOUR CHILDREN NO MATTER THE GENDER! Turn your bad life experiences into something good for your children!!

  • @KyngKoopa919
    @KyngKoopa919 Місяць тому +184

    I used to hate when my mom used to say.. “I was the mother AND the father!” 🤦🏿‍♂️

    • @Che-Guitarra
      @Che-Guitarra Місяць тому

      Only Black women say that stupid sh*t. They're so used to being put on a pedestal and treated like heroes for getting knocked up without a husband and ending up a single mother, that they think it sounds cute. Our (Black) community is backward as HELL...

    • @darkphador
      @darkphador Місяць тому +21

      👍 Agreed. It's a toxic response. It's a woman that hasn't tooken responsibility for her share of the bad relationship.

    • @gregwhite7852
      @gregwhite7852 Місяць тому +8

      Tell it

    • @Che-Guitarra
      @Che-Guitarra Місяць тому

      Only BLACK women say that stupid crap, because they've been praised for being single mothers so much and for so long that they think it's cute to say.

    • @JohnDoe-sm7zm
      @JohnDoe-sm7zm Місяць тому +19

      When I heard my ex say that when I was present step father I knew I would never play a step daddy again

  • @brnrecluse2946
    @brnrecluse2946 Місяць тому +101

    There's a reason it takes a MAN and a WOMAN to conceive a child....because it takes a MAN and a Woman to raise a BALANCED child. Operating as a single parent is operating at a disadvantage.

    • @Duval2k7
      @Duval2k7 Місяць тому +3

      You nailed it.

    • @shaquana12hyatt
      @shaquana12hyatt Місяць тому

      Absolutely right

    • @TheRiduanOppier
      @TheRiduanOppier Місяць тому +1

      nowadays people are so brainwashed they say the woman give life , but in FACT it is the man who gives his life giving semen. father role should not be deminished by feminism.

    • @wanderlustly313
      @wanderlustly313 Місяць тому +1

      @@TheRiduanOppier I always shut my (then) wife down with that "I carried you.. blah blah blah" with "That's cool. But I as your father MADE you. You are MY creation, I gave you life". 100

    • @TrulyCharles143
      @TrulyCharles143 Місяць тому +3

      Actually studies show kids do just as good as 2 parent home kids when they are raised by their father

  • @anthonyharrison7728
    @anthonyharrison7728 Місяць тому +86

    My Pops wasn't always a great dad, but I appreciate the fact that he was there. He taught me things about life that my mother could have never taught me.

    • @jamescarter5041
      @jamescarter5041 Місяць тому +4

      Were you always a great son?

    • @BAych-mx2ep
      @BAych-mx2ep Місяць тому

      ​@@jamescarter5041🙄

    • @whitechicacooks5780
      @whitechicacooks5780 Місяць тому +11

      ​@@jamescarter5041 Nobody's perfect! The fact that he gives his dad credit for being there IS being a good son. What need is there for your comment? 🤔

    • @jamescarter5041
      @jamescarter5041 Місяць тому +7

      @@whitechicacooks5780 He can speak for himself; there is no need for your comment.
      Thank you.

    • @anthonyharrison7728
      @anthonyharrison7728 Місяць тому +10

      @jamescarter5041 Not always, and I can admit that. I met the man at 7 after he was released from prison.
      There was plenty of friction between us at the start as I was not used to having a man around the house. My pops was very strict and quick to lay hands on me if I disrespected my moms or didn't complete some random task he set for me.
      I was 15 when I finally started punching him back. He had taken me to get boxing lessons a year prior, so I thought it was a fight I was ready for. I didn't usually win fights against him, but I got my hits in. Respect was earned.
      In hindsight I look at it this way...as a black man, you will either get tough love and discipline from your father or you will get it in prison. At the end of the day, it's unavoidable.. My Pops made sure I didn't get it in prison.

  • @weltonmurray6744
    @weltonmurray6744 Місяць тому +57

    CHARLES SPEAKING FACTS YALL TOO SOFT TO RAISE A MAN !

    • @sidjones16
      @sidjones16 Місяць тому +8

      It's not about being "soft". They're not qualified. At best, a good woman who is a mother can raise an accomplished male. She can't teach him how to deal with the weight of responsibility (justified and insane) put on men.
      More often, she'll raise the type of man she was never into. One that will get used, disrespected etc.

  • @travdeem
    @travdeem Місяць тому +45

    I have a great mother and I love her dearly... she put me in front of real men... they were my football coaches

    • @degrerickjenkins1617
      @degrerickjenkins1617 Місяць тому +5

      They weren’t your father. There’s a difference of approach and limitations

    • @ShadowbannedbyYoutube
      @ShadowbannedbyYoutube Місяць тому +4

      We hear you ,….that’s what was available…

    • @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
      @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp Місяць тому +1

      @@ShadowbannedbyUA-cam unfortunately. Could have put him in front of male businessmen or engineers.

    • @marisadartez1818
      @marisadartez1818 Місяць тому

      Facts

  • @regsmith7604
    @regsmith7604 Місяць тому +42

    Young black boys raised by single mothers, need to bounce up outta her house ASAP and go directly to the military, Marine Corps, especially.

    • @shannoninalaska
      @shannoninalaska Місяць тому +6

      And white boys, Asian, Indian..... not just black!

    • @zkgroup1149
      @zkgroup1149 Місяць тому +2

      I 100% agree with that!!! They must join the Military IMMEDIATELY!

    • @grindhard4312
      @grindhard4312 Місяць тому

      ​@@shannoninalaskaBlack boys are not viewed by society like Asian, white and Indian boys. I need yall stop trying to interject y'all mouth about everybody else when you see black ppl having a black conversation about ourselves.

    • @grindhard4312
      @grindhard4312 Місяць тому +4

      ​@@shannoninalaskaBlack boys are not viewed in society the same as an Asian, yt or Indian boy. I need y'all to stop trying to interject your mouth about everyone else, when this is black ppl having a conversation about our own situation.

    • @Tayy
      @Tayy Місяць тому

      Get the f*** out of here. We are able to do more than fight in the white mans army and follow his rules for a damn Camaro.

  • @seankimberley9671
    @seankimberley9671 Місяць тому +67

    Notice how she had no response.

    • @UhuruSasa85
      @UhuruSasa85 Місяць тому +14

      That means she was listening to him

    • @Debbiediamond0310
      @Debbiediamond0310 Місяць тому +1

      Y would she?

    • @heIIa
      @heIIa Місяць тому +8

      She was listening, bruh.

    • @seankimberley9671
      @seankimberley9671 Місяць тому +2

      @@Debbiediamond0310 because I've seen this man speak this kind of truth on other podcasts and they fought back

    • @manner7073
      @manner7073 Місяць тому +1

      She's the host brotha😂.

  • @travdeem
    @travdeem Місяць тому +40

    Women navigate life much differently than men

    • @susanplatt5331
      @susanplatt5331 Місяць тому +1

      That's because we have more to navigate, more obstacles and more to fear.

    • @travdeem
      @travdeem Місяць тому

      Yall don’t have to deal with the police and the government gives women all kinds of help… they only take from us… women have become allies with the opposition

    • @JPhillyyyyy
      @JPhillyyyyy Місяць тому +5

      @@susanplatt5331Why do you assume your path is more difficult? How would you know?

    • @fox1actual
      @fox1actual Місяць тому +1

      @@susanplatt5331not really.

    • @ronkomro7759
      @ronkomro7759 Місяць тому

      ​@susanplatt5331 wrong answer, this here is one of many reasons women should not and can't raise a son nor teach him how to be a man. Look around and tell us why the kids are all messed up, really look around. Who raised them, who?

  • @EmilyW-2000
    @EmilyW-2000 Місяць тому +24

    My husband speaks on this topic but him and his sister was blessed that they had a two parent household like me and my sister had. He also said that some single moms wants their son to be hubsand figures in their life instead of being their parents. Feminism have destroyed the patriarchy and family values in the homes.

    • @dzejnalukovic9920
      @dzejnalukovic9920 10 днів тому

      Very true. That is why some sons commit suicide because they cannot mentally and emotionally maneuver the son-hubby relationship thrust upon them by their mothers.

  • @pfeenxh
    @pfeenxh Місяць тому +28

    I have two brothers and have to agree. I wasn't raised to be a wife and they weren't raised to be men

  • @chosenone9102
    @chosenone9102 Місяць тому +10

    I TOLD MY MOM THIS AFTER MY DAD DIED AT 11, NARCISSISTIC MOTHERS ARE REAL

  • @djsauce4498
    @djsauce4498 Місяць тому +31

    I grew up with a single mom and i can say for sure this is 100% facts. Only thing my mom taught me was Louis Vuitton and Burberry

    • @sweetbuttergeminine4756
      @sweetbuttergeminine4756 Місяць тому +4

      weeell.. then it's not 100% facts for you by your description, seems he wasn't a "good woman" but a materialistic one 🤔js🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @seamusohoulihan666
      @seamusohoulihan666 Місяць тому +1

      She taught you how to be materialistic

  • @suciojay1604
    @suciojay1604 Місяць тому +5

    My ex-gf 22 yrs ago used to disagree with me about this topic. She used to say a woman could do it without a father. I used to tell her maybe she could fuddle her way through, but should she? She never could answer that.

  • @blktoplogistics8379
    @blktoplogistics8379 Місяць тому +5

    Me and my two brothers grew up with my dad by himself I'm so glad he was the one that got custody what I've learned from him make me want to be like him or better

  • @TONY-fw6bk
    @TONY-fw6bk Місяць тому +7

    SPIT THEM FACTS 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @tonyandre2905
    @tonyandre2905 Місяць тому +3

    This is one of your best videos brother. I was also raised by my single mother. When I got married; I was so lost that it ended in divorce but I did get myself together by finding great male mentors which led to me re-marrying my wife and building a great family unit. ❤❤❤

  • @LtDLong
    @LtDLong Місяць тому +4

    All a mother can do is take that boy to be around good men and make his meals. She can’t teach what she’s biologically the opposite of

  • @itsnotcolby6191
    @itsnotcolby6191 Місяць тому +5

    My dad came and went how and when he wanted. He got to remain the better parent in my mind cause he wasn’t around enough to f things up. My mom was the one who had to take that L as the shitty parent. Had he been around? My submissive mother would have let him dominate our lives with his ego trips. Now the part time version we got from him? Allowed us to experience a masculine in our lives, but it also caused us to blame mom for all then discipline she had to do by herself. Dad got to remain the better parent. And we had uncles cousins grandpas around us so we got to experience all types of versions of men. But when we got a step dad that never left? That showed us that that all that matters. A parent that shows up.

    • @itsnotcolby6191
      @itsnotcolby6191 Місяць тому +2

      A lot of you forgetting that mom didn’t want to let you go with dad cause his addictions were priority and she wanted her kid to come back in one piece. No molested, not in a car accident etc. yeah, one parent households isn’t the dream. But damn, you looking at anything else but the hardships?

    • @StevenSanchezWelding
      @StevenSanchezWelding Місяць тому

      @@itsnotcolby6191why are they having children with drug addicts, etc?

  • @whitechicacooks5780
    @whitechicacooks5780 Місяць тому +5

    I'm a divorced/single mom after escaping abuse, and I couldn't agree more!!! I am 100% unable to teach my boys how to be MEN!!! My dad has stepped up wonderfully, and I'm now in a healthy relationship where they'll see true manhood in the home on the daily, soon. I'm extremely blessed to have wonderful men in my life, that will help my boys become wonderful men, too! 🙏🏼❤️

    • @susanplatt5331
      @susanplatt5331 Місяць тому +2

      He wouldn't have learned to be a good man from his father. Glad you escaped.

    • @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
      @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp Місяць тому +1

      @@susanplatt5331 you just heard HER side of the story. since when do women state how abusive they were? it's always the man's fault. always.
      the only good news is, at least she recognized she cannot raise a boy to be a man. NO woman can.

  • @itsnotcolby6191
    @itsnotcolby6191 Місяць тому +4

    Poor men. These single mothers really ruin their lives. Preach!

  • @MH-el8yf
    @MH-el8yf Місяць тому +12

    Look I heard no lies. Look at the prison system and how some men resolve conflict. Of course there are outliers but most men have to make a decision to be a good man and seek out mentorship

  • @1heavydutyshorty
    @1heavydutyshorty Місяць тому +17

    CW be spitting FACTS 💯

  • @duanecohen6418
    @duanecohen6418 Місяць тому +4

    So appreciative of my father in the household

  • @deeant44
    @deeant44 Місяць тому +5

    My father wasn't my biological but I am greatful he chose to raise me as his own. As I get older I understand the sacrifice he has made

    • @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
      @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp Місяць тому +2

      Don't just understand it. SHOW (not saying you are not) your appreciation for what he has sacrificed. buy him a new fishing rod because you remember he used to take you fishing and you enjoyed it a lot. stuff like that.

  • @RodneyD
    @RodneyD Місяць тому +6

    Listen bro… single motherhood SHOULD NEVER BE CELEBRATED. Doesn’t matter if she is the best mother. I mean… her kids should give her flowers for the sacrifice she made. BUT SOCIETY SHOULDNT CELEBRATE SINGLE MOTHERS. This is part of the problem. Because it encourages young women to continue the cycle of becoming single mothers.

    • @Che-Guitarra
      @Che-Guitarra Місяць тому +1

      SOCIETY doesn't celebrate single mothers...the BLACK COMMUNITY does...

    • @itsnotcolby6191
      @itsnotcolby6191 Місяць тому +3

      Celebrate? Or support?
      No body likes to scrub the toilet but it gotta get done right?

    • @RodneyD
      @RodneyD Місяць тому +1

      @@itsnotcolby6191
      Unless it’s a single mother by uncontrollable circumstances… then yes. I’m all for supporting.
      But if it’s a single mother by choice. Meaning carried without being married. Can’t mess with it. Because that situation becomes celebrated. Nope.

    • @RodneyD
      @RodneyD Місяць тому +2

      @@Che-Guitarra
      Exactly…

  • @leonardmason3216
    @leonardmason3216 28 днів тому +1

    “Our Mothers are telling us to be the men that aren’t even in her bed”. My Lord. This is the quote of the year.

  • @user-mm2rr3fg2q
    @user-mm2rr3fg2q Місяць тому +3

    I thought that & spoke that to my son's father when we broke up 45 years ago..I told him that I could not teach him how to b a man, but he didn't have his father & was only interested in getting for himself, so I did the best I could , & attempted to get him in the presence of what I thought were responsible, honest mean with integrity. But it was only my opinion, of what I thought a man was...this could go on & on ...but I agree with him totally yrs ago..peeps thought I didn't want the responsibility, but one thing was obvious to me..I am/was not a man

  • @trackking5
    @trackking5 Місяць тому +3

    Where can i watch the full interview

  • @seandavison266
    @seandavison266 Місяць тому +1

    As a man that has mentored many peoples children(23 years in the army) and volunteering at he YMCA coaching basketball for the last 2 years. I can tell you without a doubt, these mothers ruin some of these boys. These little boys I coach ages 8-11, a lot of them are mood and emotional just like a woman!!!! even in the middle of coaching you get mothers coming over asking 'DO YOU HAVE OT BE SO HARD ON HIM" when I'm giving everyone on the team equal treatment. All I do is shake my head continue to run my program, but I know this. MY SON IS NOT THAT WAY!!!!! Men get in your sons life and if your already there stay!!!!! Because every Monday, Tuesday and Saturday I see the effect of what Charleston said!!!!!

  • @michaelroberts680
    @michaelroberts680 Місяць тому +14

    Any young man, listening to a woman is lost

    • @frozenrose2305
      @frozenrose2305 Місяць тому

      Your mom should of lost you....😂😂😂

    • @blackaiya2002
      @blackaiya2002 Місяць тому +5

      FACTS , never listen to them talk just watch what they do and how they act

    • @carleebhoward1657
      @carleebhoward1657 Місяць тому +2

      Merely listening to anyone is poor judgment, I don’t trust what anyone says I trust what they do. When they show you who they are go with that. Actions don’t lie

  • @errol484
    @errol484 Місяць тому +3

    In the same way that a father raising daughters cannot teach them how to be women, a mother raising sons cannot teach them how to be men.
    We make this complex, but it is quite simple.
    Yes, a father can certainly instill ladylike qualities and produce upstanding female citizens in a society.
    Likewise, a mother can certainly instill gentlemanlike qualities and produce upstanding male citizens in a society.
    However, neither can do a thing that only the other can do.
    It's almost as if God is shouting loudly that we have such specific roles that a healthy household requires both. 🥴

  • @TerryShabazz
    @TerryShabazz Місяць тому +10

    My dad died when I was 9 she never remarried she tried her hardest to teach me the things my dad would teach me.

  • @guru_basketball_kiero
    @guru_basketball_kiero Місяць тому +4

    Damn I'll Just say this hit home for me

  • @vdizzof
    @vdizzof Місяць тому +5

    Charleston White always dropping gems 💎.

  • @Nattaferg
    @Nattaferg Місяць тому

    I have said it several times: A woman cannot teach a son to be a man. In the same way, a father cannot raise his daughter to be a woman. THIS is why children should be raised with BOTH parents for balance!!

  • @excludedkratos
    @excludedkratos Місяць тому +2

    Yes. I agree.

  • @Swimclass-st1ki
    @Swimclass-st1ki Місяць тому +5

    Fax like a cat raising a dog to send him out there in a DOGGY DOWG world

  • @chad77657
    @chad77657 Місяць тому +8

    It's possible to be a real man with a single mother. As long as real men are in arms reach of you then you good. They don't necessarily have to be in the house, but they need to be close.

    • @wonderfullymade425
      @wonderfullymade425 Місяць тому +1

      I can agree with that. My cousin’s Dad died when he was 5 years old. He turned out to be a doctor, but he had my Uncle’s brothers who pitched in and gave him advice and words of wisdom.
      Plus, his Mom instilled in him what a good person his Dad was and that he was a successful, law-abiding man. He was a college professor. All of this helped my cousin mentally and emotionally. He steered clear of the gang/thug life and became a success.

    • @thespadestable
      @thespadestable Місяць тому

      Impossible. The best a mother can do is manage him to adulthood, and for there, that now man must get the hell away from her, and through walking the earth, shed her teaching and as quickly as possible learn manhood. Besides school, and television, the mother spends the third most wake time with the children in a female led single household. Fathers don't get a chance to spend that much time with their face-to-face time. Facetime and talking over the phone doesn't count.

    • @chad77657
      @chad77657 Місяць тому

      @@thespadestable I won't speak for your experience that's your business, and at the same time you can't speak for me. I said that men need to be around. I personally had uncles, brothers and my dad to a certain extent in my life. I don't even know if you're replying to my comment.

    • @chad77657
      @chad77657 Місяць тому

      @@thespadestable You used the word impossible I wonder why. My oldest brother was in prison most of my childhood. My oldest sister was in prison most of my childhood. My middle brother was in prison most of his life which he died in prison a few years ago. How is it impossible for me to speak to them and for them to let me know how not to go about this. For them to show me in their actions and and their words how to handle mines. For me to see all my families faults and tell myself I won't continue in those ways. Following anyone's way of teaching including men can be just as harmful.

    • @thespadestable
      @thespadestable Місяць тому

      ​@@chad77657 -
      Men "being around" is not men (father/stepfather) being under the same roof as the children. it's the cumulated micro moments that takes place during the week, over the month, over the course of their childhood that shapes them into adulthood.
      You're expecting men who don't have a vested interest in children lives to fill in for the value that fathers, in general, are needed for.
      And I'll speak on my personal experience. That's the crap my son's mother said to me in person, over the phone, and ramped it up once I filed for full custody of him....What other men could do as we lived in separate homes. Fast forward, I ran out of money to continue fighting her in court, which led to her a year later leaving him on my doorstep because he was about to flunk school with D's and F's and was dumped for me to fix the mess, he's now 31 years of age and doing well for himself, while her son who was 4 years older than our son has been in and out of jail, has 5 children by 5 different women, and life with 40 years of age around the corner, with no high school diploma and being of constructive use to no one.
      His own mother washed her hands of him at 19 when she realized he wasn't financially capable of being her son-husband bailout program.
      This social experiment has been going on in Black America for the past 55 years (the community raising the boys) and it hasn't worked, nor will it every work.

  • @nurseladylibra767
    @nurseladylibra767 Місяць тому +13

    A woman can’t raise a boy to be a man but if she’s all he got she can raise him and be the example of a the good woman he should aspire to be with if she’s a good woman

    • @natashka1982
      @natashka1982 Місяць тому +17

      Then he's gonna grow up to be a simp

    • @carleebhoward1657
      @carleebhoward1657 Місяць тому

      He’s going to be a good woman like her. Overly emotional can’t take constructive criticism.

    • @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
      @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp Місяць тому

      @@natashka1982 100% Steve Harvey type simp that will be used.

    • @MrT-nh6di
      @MrT-nh6di Місяць тому +1

      ​@@natashka1982 Exactly

    • @bods4dadsaquil912
      @bods4dadsaquil912 Місяць тому +1

      @@natashka1982she gon teach that boy date women with multiple children, if they’re woman is pregnant with another man’s baby stay, you want to get women give them money etc all horrible advice😂

  • @gdbutler88
    @gdbutler88 Місяць тому +2

    I raised sons, however I always told them I am raising boys to be men. Develop your character, and your integrity, never allow a women to rule over you, keep a strong heart, and a strong head, love from your heart, embrace and learn self control, never beat a woman, because you were made stronger than her, she is the weaker one. Always be a person of your word because a man of his word is always admired. Never allow sex to rule your manhood, it is just an activity. The rest is up to you. Be responsible and always resort to wisdom, it is one of the greatest things you can obtain in life.

  • @NOLAqueen504A
    @NOLAqueen504A Місяць тому +13

    I have said that for years. My friend is a single mother and she surrounded her son with male role models from the beginning after her husband walked out on her and her son. He is a honor roll student, scholarship bound most impressive young man I have ever met because she made sure she had men around him to teach and show him what a man is.

    • @conscienceone1983
      @conscienceone1983 Місяць тому +4

      ....He will still be lost....educational achievement is done by any gender, being a Man from the home is totally different from men outside the home ...Sociology and psychology in the home is real, especially for young males.

    • @suciojay1604
      @suciojay1604 Місяць тому +3

      There is still a chance for this impressive young man to fail at being man to a woman, fail at leading his family, and fail at how to choose a good woman that will be an asset to him. Men outside the house can be great influences, but it isn’t the same as a good dad present.

    • @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
      @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp Місяць тому +1

      absolutley. ONLY MEN can raise a boy to be a the type of Man he is. IF the man is smart, engineer, about business, the kid is following that path. Mothers cannot discipline. at some point, young boys stop listening to mom but they always listen to dad. Women have NO CLUE the nonsense we go thru as men. Just trying to talk to a sister is hell. No woman can advise a man on how to get a woman. never.

    • @kreativeforce532
      @kreativeforce532 Місяць тому +2

      role models are not the boys father. he needs his father.

    • @thespadestable
      @thespadestable Місяць тому

      @NOLAqueen504A -
      Women use education, degrees, job title, and material attainment as a qualifier of a person's success. A man who has a good paying job and a degree, but is screwed up in the head, is not a success. Sorry, but we have women with degrees, good paying jobs, but they are screwed up in the head, with no man really wanting to have much to do with them besides sex and fun nights out on the town.
      Sorry, but women are nothing more than 17 year olds in the mind inside of a grown woman's body. So, if he impresses you, is not much of an indicator of much.

  • @bomgodd
    @bomgodd Місяць тому

    Nice vid. Been subbed for a grip now. Nice progress! Congratulations.

  • @erica5098
    @erica5098 Місяць тому

    Thank you for your insights

  • @joelrobinson9432
    @joelrobinson9432 Місяць тому

    I have been saying that for the longest time Mama can't raise a man and a man can't raise a woman .

  • @HoneyDutchRap
    @HoneyDutchRap Місяць тому +1

    Very much agree I went through this

  • @Deviljho5
    @Deviljho5 Місяць тому

    Never thought of it like that! Very true statement!

  • @broinsocali
    @broinsocali Місяць тому +2

    Blessed, I had outstanding father figures in my life coming up.

  • @aundreclarke7628
    @aundreclarke7628 Місяць тому +2

    Intentional parenting is needed in the community

  • @jewelsafire6844
    @jewelsafire6844 Місяць тому +4

    "You can only show them how to be a good women."🤭 And sadly, sometimes NOT even that. Are there exceptions to the rule? Sure. But for the most part, boys need their fathers. If that isn't feasible, have good/solid male role models in their lives. This makes all the difference in the world, if we care.

  • @RisingKing1024
    @RisingKing1024 Місяць тому

    This honestly hurt. I said this to mom. Not word for word... but effectively the same.

  • @Stu-f592
    @Stu-f592 Місяць тому

    That was so powerful and appreciated.:)

  • @motherofthreeb6337
    @motherofthreeb6337 Місяць тому +10

    Men need to step up and be fathers to their sons and not leave mother's to raise their son alone. A girl also need a father in her life to know what to look for in a future husband.

    • @robertphilpot7794
      @robertphilpot7794 Місяць тому +7

      Well u need to tell women to stop taking the kids away from the father and stop using kids as Ponds like it's Chess ♟️

    • @shadranfranklin7993
      @shadranfranklin7993 Місяць тому

      Agreed. So much bad talk about single mothers but never enough talk about the men that choose to walk away and leave these women to do the job. Many husbands walk away and leave their family in search for something else or someone else they feel is better and easier. They will take on another woman and her children while leaving their biological children to fend for themselves.

    • @patrickfalls6819
      @patrickfalls6819 Місяць тому

      @@shadranfranklin7993 Now you know that the majority of women use kids to hurt the fathers. Take away welfare and child support and these women would be more agreeable and humble.

    • @heavylift9582
      @heavylift9582 Місяць тому

      I was told that my brother's dad was my dad also, he was gracious but not around either, didn't find out that she had lied until I was 32, by then he had transitioned, I had 11 uncles and one aunt, all were gone

    • @kevinmokumobi9684
      @kevinmokumobi9684 Місяць тому

      ​@@shadranfranklin7993 i think the point is a lot of people realize now these women just been lieing about this to a crazy scale. No accountabliity blame the man for everything is taught to women.

  • @muzikipoems1346
    @muzikipoems1346 Місяць тому +1

    The back drops are hilarious. Shot out to the editor.

  • @darrenstar4557
    @darrenstar4557 Місяць тому +1

    A single parent is like a 3 legged dog.

  • @yahashantimoor5334
    @yahashantimoor5334 Місяць тому +3

    Study says single men make better parent I do believe this as most single parent women always in and out of relation its disgusting cycle of deprevation

    • @susanplatt5331
      @susanplatt5331 Місяць тому

      Most men don't want their children full time, evidently in many case's, at all. Men will continue to work and give their children to someone else to look after, women are more likely to stay home until the child is full time school age. The perspective is that children do better because they're with dad but the reality is, they do worse, not because only mum is raising them, but because dad abandoned them altogether, is sporadically in and out their lives and makes life more difficult for their mother either taxing her mentally or financially or both.

    • @thespadestable
      @thespadestable Місяць тому

      @@susanplatt5331 -
      Most women don't want the father to have the child. One reason why is via child support, those children are a source of income. Another reason why the father's success is tells the world she was an unfit mother; the success of the children is her public projection she wasn't that bad of a mother.
      Also, men work more unconventional job schedules than women. I used to work at a hospital, and due to the nurse's 12 hour shifts, it's their mothers, sisters, and cousins who pick up the kids or watch them during their mother's shifts. For the few who are married, they husbands pitch in, with the non married ones having their live-in boyfriend/daddy to one, some, or all the children watching them.
      Due to the how the Womansphere works, mothers are less reluctant in providing their sons the same home care service. And women many times don't be feeling watching the man they are dating children....But somehow feel if she's giving the man her poon; then the least he can do is watch her children.

    • @StevenSanchezWelding
      @StevenSanchezWelding Місяць тому

      @@susanplatt5331that’s actually false but something tells me you already knew that

  • @deeant44
    @deeant44 Місяць тому +2

    Atleast she listened

  • @pajewa
    @pajewa Місяць тому +4

    I agree, but you have to do what you have to do. Who else going to do the job?

    • @Ninjasnail1926
      @Ninjasnail1926 Місяць тому +6

      Choose better.. find a man who has it together and ask for HELP GUIDING YOUR SONS!!!

    • @jamescarter5041
      @jamescarter5041 Місяць тому

      What do you mean?

  • @jprestovevo9NE
    @jprestovevo9NE Місяць тому +1

    He talked real shit

  • @lisafossett6193
    @lisafossett6193 Місяць тому +3

    That was a hard and heavy message for women. I must say it's true. God intended for boys to be taught by their father's or some other good male role model in their life what it take to be a man. BOTTOM LINE, BOYS NEED MEN IN THEIR LIVES FROM DAY ONE! MOTHERS/WOMEN can teach them how to be loving, caring, kind, and respectful in that way, but that other than that, THEY NEED TO SEE AND BE RAISED BY A MAN. TO GUIDED THEM INTO MANHOOD.

  • @overit16
    @overit16 Місяць тому +2

    That's where the uncles, male cousins and grandfathers step up to the plate.

  • @gilbertbrown385
    @gilbertbrown385 Місяць тому

    Facts! Preach! Nuff said.

  • @chocopappy
    @chocopappy Місяць тому +3

    2:19 your Father should be the professor of the home.

  • @darlingjessi668
    @darlingjessi668 Місяць тому +10

    Well if the Fathers are deadbeats exactly what is she supposed to do?

    • @raymondomollo6748
      @raymondomollo6748 Місяць тому +9

      Who chose the deadbeats??

    • @conniemyrick1124
      @conniemyrick1124 Місяць тому

      Pick better! Don't chase deadbeat men

    • @De-fq7vh
      @De-fq7vh Місяць тому

      A male family member or a coach or a big brother program.

    • @De-fq7vh
      @De-fq7vh Місяць тому

      ​@@raymondomollo6748idiot

  • @aleshapaustin4492
    @aleshapaustin4492 25 днів тому +1

    Big facts 💯🎯

  • @KyngKoopa919
    @KyngKoopa919 Місяць тому

    Yooo those edits are crucial!! 😅

  • @GmanJC
    @GmanJC Місяць тому +1

    CW needs to be the POTUS!

  • @devon9643
    @devon9643 Місяць тому +1

    Common sense...give yourself a gold star!!!!

  • @noudidityesterdayremember2445
    @noudidityesterdayremember2445 Місяць тому

    The flip side of this is when you have children thanking you for removing the harmful parent from the home. Teens are thankful that someone took the time to remove the toxic parent. I listen to the child because most of the time the parents are lying about whats going on in the house to protect the other adult. Ive been doing this so long, Im not surprised by anything a biological parent does to children let alone an adult thats not related. And the flip side, they're many single parents that have success in raising children with no one else in the home..To be bias is lack of common sense in this area. Everyone in this type of situation doesn't have a negative outcome. Only adults with a selfish mindset. Men and women.

  • @Scarecrow973_
    @Scarecrow973_ Місяць тому

    Born 1999, my dad had 6 kids, 2 with another woman before my mom, My father supported us all, and my mom through her cancer. If there is anything i can say, is that my mother, from the day my father met my momma in a shoe store back in 1985 my father already had 2 kids, and she still stayed.
    My older siblings mother was a party girl and did not prioritize family and her daughters and family. My relationship with my older sisters are almost non existent. My other siblings we had our father in our life to protect us and guide us, and our sisters didnt have that. Im older now and i realized why it was hard to bind with them. The were exposed to abuse and mistreatment because of the men the mother were around and just the lack of guidance and lies spewing from the mother.
    Seeing the difference a father has in a house hold (as i became a father in 2022) I have a wonderful life at 25 with my soon to be wife because of the principals my father instilled in me. I found someone who looks at me the way my mom looks at my dad.
    My brother is married, and younger sister is engaged! We credit our parents strong relationship for our example!
    You guys have made this a great space to share, appreciate this community ✊

  • @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp
    @PumpdaBrakes-ub8kp Місяць тому +1

    speaking facts but no BW gonna listen.

  • @1stplayervideogametruck409
    @1stplayervideogametruck409 Місяць тому

    She couldn't even say anything. Because he was absolutely right

  • @rodneyb308
    @rodneyb308 Місяць тому +2

    CW be hurling 💯 actual facts

  • @albertoalfaro9989
    @albertoalfaro9989 24 дні тому

    I was raised by a woman after 12 years old
    So I had a father figure until he was killed. I raised myself. I got into many fights until they figured that I wouldn't back down

  • @mattiethompson2413
    @mattiethompson2413 Місяць тому +4

    When Charleston White..Stars Sounding like a "College Professor".. You know being a 'Single Mother 's ".. Isn't a good thing.😲🤱😲🤱😲🤱

  • @wkoenie
    @wkoenie 29 днів тому

    Where's the link to the original video

  • @boujiebackpacker4421
    @boujiebackpacker4421 Місяць тому +1

    I choked on my strawberry,
    I’m gagged 🤣 I’m sorry that was a read down

  • @donnaleeclubb119
    @donnaleeclubb119 Місяць тому

    WOW!! Speaking truth.

  • @hadiitiniguez2393
    @hadiitiniguez2393 Місяць тому

    I'm a single father raising a daughter. I can't teach her how to be a woman. The guy on the video has a point. It's challenging for sure

  • @tabathacooksey6042
    @tabathacooksey6042 Місяць тому

    He was right, the truth and facts..

  • @FatlaughsEnt
    @FatlaughsEnt Місяць тому

    Would like for you to expand on that last part of the video because I had a father like that

  • @regsmith7604
    @regsmith7604 Місяць тому +1

    He’s right.

  • @itsnuffin11
    @itsnuffin11 Місяць тому

    This was a good one. Solid.

  • @MrT-nh6di
    @MrT-nh6di Місяць тому

    I don't agree with everything Charleston White says on all his videos, but this message I agree with 1000%

  • @robnice
    @robnice Місяць тому +1

    🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 all facts

  • @ralphflowers569
    @ralphflowers569 Місяць тому

    Real talk 🔥

  • @mikewill1740
    @mikewill1740 Місяць тому +1

    Fellas, get your sons when they get 11 years and older. There is only so much a woman can teach young man. It takes a man to raise a young man. If your in a failed marriage or relationship. Work something out for the kids future. My son mother and myself agreeded when he turned 12 I will have full custody. She raised him good for a child. But i had to teach him manhood, provide guidance and deal with the teenage drama of young man. Ladies can't deal with it. Let them deal with their daughters while men deal with their sons, in a failed relationship.

  • @marcusvail6813
    @marcusvail6813 Місяць тому

    Yo that is deep. I always thought a single mother like the one I had growing up. Just did the best they could. Teaching me how to be a man isn’t something she could’ve never done. She only taught me what kind of woman she was. Through love and care. She tried

  • @inquizative44
    @inquizative44 Місяць тому

    Some fathers who are in the home have been neutered. Like my grandpa, he was not allowed to have any say on his grandsons. (My mom wasn't able to raise us my dad was cast away in divorce) And what was good for us.

  • @problemchild2k13
    @problemchild2k13 Місяць тому

    Killed her soul…but he’s right. And then she teaches the boy to be emotional. Which is the worst thing a man can be, men have to regulate and hold back emotions not express them.

  • @hiramtaylor3190
    @hiramtaylor3190 Місяць тому

    as a man you don't really have to teach your boys directly if you keep them around you while you do stuff they will just learn

  • @delivertus4romnesha328
    @delivertus4romnesha328 Місяць тому

    Def agree!

  • @felixthecat1528
    @felixthecat1528 Місяць тому

    🤯 Damn! He’s preaching lawd have mercy

  • @AndrewPhillipsqualityassurance
    @AndrewPhillipsqualityassurance Місяць тому

    The painful reality IS ...your mother wasn't a wife 😮

  • @garyhibbert4875
    @garyhibbert4875 Місяць тому

    and some of these woman dont want men to have no relationship with there kids

  • @71suezqz
    @71suezqz Місяць тому +1

    Seek therapy and break that cycle.

    • @user-pg1cm6br7q
      @user-pg1cm6br7q Місяць тому

      part of our therapy process is too stop listening too you broads , now shut up and get outta here 😅😅😅

  • @boizellgray3375
    @boizellgray3375 Місяць тому

    So true