This woman is such an example for all young people! She beat the odds and broke the mould of what she was born into. She should be so proud of herself!
Michelle Engelamm problem is she's got this family hole in heart so big, she won't be happy until it's filled. what she doesn't realize, and i hope she eventually does, is that you carry family with you as long as you have friends and those that really care for you, around you. your skin folk, ain't necessarily your kin folk. i wish i could give some of mine back!
Whyyyy was the child in foster care???? Is what I want to know!! Why didn’t anybody ask her mother where SHE was???? This story got some big old holes.
I think that the judge realised, as I did, that the mother is mentally unstable and she was polite not to bring it up. I guess that is why the child was taken to foster care.
I think that the judge realised, as I did, that the mother is mentally unstable and she was polite not to bring it up. I guess that is why the child was taken to foster care.
I think that the judge realised, as I did, that the mother is mentally unstable and she was polite not to bring it up. I guess that is why the child was taken to foster care.
because the show is about establishing father paternity she wasn't on trial.. why is it that some people always look at the wrong issues concerning a specific purpose?
That’s exactly what I’m saying no one ask the mother why was she even in Foster care in the first place and the mother up there like this man is so bad smdh
Didn't you get the memo? Men who aren't ready to be fathers when they have accidental children are selfish lazy deadbeats. Women who aren't ready to be mothers when they have accidental children, are exercising their right to choose.
Mom standing there like she a great mom! Why was the child in foster care anyway. Blame everyone for letting this child down. Great on her that she made it!
Thank you. She was shaking her head saying yes while the daughter was saying she felt she was treated differently when that man took her in from foster care. I haven't finished the video yet. But I'm like, how would u know? U wasn't there mom. She didn't even know him until he took her from foster care. So what was u doing mom that this girl was in foster care to begin with?
Because worst moms think they do the greatest and the great moms always think they could do better.. This Lady is the perfect example for this. I really hated her attitude. Awful
@Imjust Sayin thank you! I was wondering the same EXACT thing!! She was shaking her head, laughing or crying I am not sure which but, I would like to know WHY was she in foster care??
This is true I can testify to this my moma left me when I was a baby👶 and my dad was in pen ⛓️ God took care of me very well when I look back I can say wow thank you Lord 🙌💕
I understand the deep psychological need for a relationship with both biological parents. But personally, my common sense trumps that subconscious need. If you treated me poorly and denied me my whole life, I don't want you at my special life moments! Definitely not to walk me down no aisle!
quitecontrary23 Best comment, I feel the same way. I say this, but my mother treated me like trash, couple of months ago, she passed away. Although I forgave her due to my Christian beliefs, it still hurts that someone that was my mother was so psychologically depraved and couldn't love me. But thank God for God and for others who gave me love. Yet I still believe this young lady was better off without this guy and her mom because they seemingly aren't taking responsibility for their actions.
Gidget Hrobowski I'm glad you forgave her. Forgiveness lifts a load off our own shoulders. I usually forgive people and keep my boundaries up, unless they go out of their way to do right consistently to stay in my life. But not many people will do that work after they do wrong, so I forgive and keep it moving.
Lisa Harper I do as well.. I think she was a troubled child who had already been through a lot which is probably why she was taken from her mother and placed in foster care. No one is addressing why she was taken From her mother in the first place
I did too she said she was troubled. But that don’t mean his wife wasn’t telling her she’s not his child. She probably Did feel like she didn’t belong.
Khadija Yussuf It doesn't matter. She said she was troubled. I know how some step mothers treat their children better than the step child. What a dirty mother! This girl was treated badly. It is obvious!
Who else notices all women who come out in this show have nice eyebrows including the judge 😂, their makeup artist is on point 💯 their makeup looks good
Dad doesn't make sense. All those years ago, when dad took the little girl from foster care and placed her into his home, WHY didn't he arrange a DNA test ?
No one knew about DNA test back then? How long are we talking back? She's only 29. Could've gotten a DNA test when she was a child. DNA testing began in the late 1980s. The Maury Show has been doing DNA testing since 1990s. I'm a bit older than this lady and as young as I could remember DNA testing has always existed during my time growing up lol.
Both parents were unfit obviously. She said she chose to go with her mother but her father sent her to foster care. It's likely that the dad got himself together before mom, so he had more say in what happened to her.
I'm curious about her mother. The brother said that everyone had counseling to prepare them for Thurmeka coming to live there; but did Thurmeka receive counseling?
When she said "I feel like I needed you. I feel like I had to learn the hard way how a man is suppose to treat me. I might have been a tough child, but I didn't need you to throw me away." That broke my heart.
Ms.Vibrant Virgo 100 do you know how much a dna test costs? That's why people go on shows like this because they cover all costs in exchange for getting to air it on TV.
This show is living proof that you don't have to be a victim of your upbringing (or lack of) I applaud this young woman for creating her own destiny. Everyone can create their own destiny, in spite of the bad behaviour of others.
This judge is a blessing to the world ❤️ As more I look at this cases as bigger my admiration and respect for her grow higher‼️ What a woman, what a jurge and What a blessing she is‼️ Greetings from her biggest fan in Norway 🇳🇴
This woman testimony was very emotional.she emphasized the importance of male figure in little girl psychological construction. I learnt a lot. Thank you.
The son said her behaviour was bad when she lived with them as a child. What do they expect from a child that has gone through the system! We have no idea what she went through. As a father he should have got a DNA test and also dealt with her behaviour as a father should instead of putting her back into care.
@@miriamcobbs5173 No you wasn’t that’s why your child was in Foster care stop the lies you got off the hook seems like to be me that the father was more in her life than you.
Wow, your child was abused, neglected, and came to you damaged. So, you threw her away like trash. I’d really like to know whether he regrets that decision.
Leslie Sinclair He didn't own up to being a neglectful father, I didn't see any guilt in him. He painted himself as a saint instead of 'manning up' and acknowledging his role.
The son is lying, he has been conditioned by the father to blame the daughter. That young lady has been through a lot from both parents and tuned out to be a strong. I would leave that man and rest of his side along
Kudos to this young woman for raising herself up right. Young people with struggles sometimes forget they have choices and the power to make positive changes in their own lives to build great futures. Sometimes there is simply no one there to rescue you. You have the power to make your own way; you just need the desire and perseverance to move forward. ✌🏾❤️
Why dont they ever hold the mothers on these shows accountable for anything? Either they lie about not having other partners or they are poor mothers.. why was she in foster homes and her mother is right there? Tell the whole story
She is proof.. living and sincere proof that circumstances, family, blood, and experiences cannot make you who you are. Yes it influences us, yes there are so many things that happen to us, beyond our own control.... But it never is an excuse for our criminal choices or for us giving up and settling for what others think we are worth (based on perception, social status, culture)..... We can strive and be better than where we came from. Im so happy for people like this in the world It is highly possible that she was treated ok, but started life rough, and felt second best and felt treated unfairly.... based on brother’s testimony..... The dad came and got her, despite of doubts, mom didn’t. Still ..... it hurts. I hope there is future healing for her and the dad can try in a way that speaks to her
This is so sad! All these years wasted, and he treated others better than his own child! If he had doubts he should’ve asked for a DNA test to prevent all of this from happening!
I think that sometimes as children your actions are the reason why things were different for you. The daughter has some responsibility too and that’s her behavior. But like she said you deal with your disrespectful child. Not put her back in the system. But he still did more than her mother did
He didn't even have to "ask" for the test, the child lived in the home with him. The father could've gotten the DNA test while the child was in his custody. She may have been a disrespectful child, but she had obviously been through a lot being in foster care and obviously having an unstable life with the mom, so he shouldn't have given up on her just to save his marriage. I can totally believe that this child was treated differently and felt like an outcast coming into this family and then she acted out. She should have been able to count on her father to love her through her difficult times. Sad.....
@@shelbyvan He did not put her back in foster care. He sent her to her mother. For whatever reason, she went back to foster care from there. The mother needed to be questioned instead of sitting there with that self-righteous attitude as if she didn't also contribute to her daughter's troubled childhood
Useless parents kept their beautiful child in foster care am crying with this girl. Very sad. Very beautiful strong educated confident young lady I hope she find happiness.
She better leave them alone and go on with her life, she'll be ok. He knew she was his. And just like mothers take care of their kids when their fathers abandon, he should have been a decent person and taken care of his child
I'm sure she was hurt; but there was already a made family when she came to stay with dad. I'm almost sure the step mom, didn't her job as a caring stepmother, because she should've had her husband step up! Everyone dropped the ball on this young lady.
Thank you for your service. I don't know who neither of my biological parents are. Seeing and hearing what you been through they are overrated. I too practically raised myself. Few people survived as you have. You're not only courageous you're very beautiful. Maybe it's better that I don't find out who or why they're unfit to lace my boots which I taught myself to do.
When the judge told Thurmeka that she is NOT trash, that she IS worthy, it brought tears to my eyes. It is so, so important for those of us who grew up without our biological fathers to hear those words. We are children of the most high God, and for that reason alone, we ARE worthy!
I wouldn't even want him to walk me down the aisle, she's better off without him. It hurts to see people go their whole life without knowing the truth about who their real father is.
Even if she turned out not to be his, at least he tried. What about the mother? What's her excuse for her child being in Foster care and dad going to get her from school to live with him? Why wasn't she living with the parent that was 100% beyond doubt? What was it that made it better for the child to be in Foster care than be with her mother? Why is mom and child so silent about that? Sure, she was a problem child who pulled herself up but he paid child support and tried to be the father even with doubts. I don't form the view that your placing all the blame where it should be...soldier
For those of you who want to know why she was in foster care and where the mother was, this show is not about that, it's about finding out who the daddy is. With that being said they were both to blame. Yes, he got her and took her home but he didn't get her the help she needed to adjust nor did he make sure the rest of the family was treating her the way she NEEDED to be treated. Instead of giving her back he needed to take the time to get her the help she needed to get over whatever she had gone through and to just love her where she was. Obviously because of his doubts he did just the bare, minimal basics for her and that only makes a child feel more unloved.
Mother + daughter teamed up for revenge?...! Otherwise, why isn't the daughter holding the mother accountable since she claims she was not raised by either parent. And why isn't the judge dropping them bricks on the mother too?? At the end of the day, you can't force fatherhood on anyone, especially since the mother was rumored to be dilly-dalling. Some flawed story 👀
That man is a piece of garbage... saying he was always there for her but sending her away when she (as all young children do) pushed boundaries. I don't know where mom was (she's probably sketchy as all get too) but as for dad he is definitely a piece of garbage. I'm glad this woman was strong enough to forge her own path!
I agree totally! He claimed he was always there for her but he didn’t come to her deployment ceremony! I know that hurt her feelings. Even complete strangers would of showed up . He didn’t want to be her father!
This just brings back bad memories of when I was 10 and spent the holiday with my stepmother. She hated his kids and she told him all these lies and he came to my mom saying he didn't want anything to do with me and stopped talking to me. When the truth came out I didn't even get an apology. I still think about it 20 years later. 😢
Same. Not even an apology 😣😣 When I said "you talking to me but never even said sorry or w.e" his response was "Your parents are 2 people who can do anything n you have to accept" plus he ain't giving me no apology. And I am his ONLY child.
Britney Campbell Forgive him without asking to begin your emotional healing.....people, especially parents, that are too proud to apologize are narcissistic...they believe they never have faults or problems that make them look bad....the best way to go forward is to understand you are worthy of all you desire and no one person can make YOU happy they can only enhance it or lessen it.....but it is up to you to love you more than anyone can...been where you were...decided at 33 yrs old enough was enough...my life has been awesome without the need for an apology from my mom because I learned that living well has it’s own reward
I’m only a few minutes in but her mom is really irritating me. The young lady said she was in foster care so clearly she was unstable. He had doubts for a reason! I’m not really understanding why she’s completely blaming her dad for being in foster care. Her mom is getting off easy.
Let's be honest here. A lot of babies DO look alike. With enough convincing, you can be persuaded to believe the baby looks like anyone. Babies don't really start looking distinctly different enough to see serious features in common with their parents, until long after a negative paternity test is too late to legally exonerate a paternity fraud victim
Only one worth anything was the daughter. That brother, and father. What do u think she's gunna feel being in a house it takes time and years later still holding a grudge for her being bad in the house. She probably was testing them to see if they loved her. And his wife probably treated her different many women do if it didn't come from me ... non sense additude. I wish the daughter the best of luck. You deserve so much better, than all of them.
I feel so bad for this young woman. She grew up without her mother and father in the system (although the father took her temporary). Yet, she was being mistreated and ignored because she had behavior problems (in which is not her fault). All she needed were love, guidance and understanding. Overall, I am proud of the woman that she became because even though she may have her own issues behind what she's been through, she still beat the odds.
Please, start a new chapter. Look forward. Don't let yesterdays damage your tomorrows. Get to know your dad. Congratulations on your wedding. God bless you all.
Wow! Much respect to this young lady! She should beyond proud of herself. Honestly I was concerned, she doesn't look like her father or mother...gorgeous eyes. I'm happy she found closure...even if she doesn't continue to have a relationship with her father I'm sure just knowing is satisfying enough...🤗
This woman is such an example for all young people! She beat the odds and broke the mould of what she was born into. She should be so proud of herself!
Where was mom
Really proud of herself coz she stood by herself and make her proud for her and her country.
Michelle Engelamm problem is she's got this family hole in heart so big, she won't be happy until it's filled. what she doesn't realize, and i hope she eventually does, is that you carry family with you as long as you have friends and those that really care for you, around you. your skin folk, ain't necessarily your kin folk. i wish i could give some of mine back!
However she has a nasty attitude. My mother grew up in the systrm and she does not have her attitude
I am so proud of her.
Whyyyy was the child in foster care???? Is what I want to know!! Why didn’t anybody ask her mother where SHE was???? This story got some big old holes.
is none of any ones business the show is about establishing paternity for the father not the mother. Mother is not on trial
Jay George nn
On drugs somewhere 9 times out of 10
do you know tha people can loose their children because things get hard and they cant afford to pay bills and get homeless.. watch good deeds.. smh
I think that the judge realised, as I did, that the mother is mentally unstable and she was polite not to bring it up. I guess that is why the child was taken to foster care.
"Cause when we think we are unworthy, we act like we are unworthy, and we block our own blessings!" PRAISE BREAK!!
Needed this
Robyn Murrayrenee
Me too!!
Alexis Drake That touched me!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Repost.
Amen to 'Praise Break.'
Mother needs to stop with all the side noise because you weren't there either...the child grew up in the system...
The girl said she practically raised herself
Right. Why was she even there??!!!!
I think that the judge realised, as I did, that the mother is mentally unstable and she was polite not to bring it up. I guess that is why the child was taken to foster care.
classicstorm very true
Facts
She Wants To Blame Her Father For Everything, But Her Mother Is Just As Awful.
True
Agree 👍
I think that the judge realised, as I did, that the mother is mentally unstable and she was polite not to bring it up. I guess that is why the child was taken to foster care.
MOM at fault too
Well she blamed both but she is in contact with mom so that's why it seems like it just on him. But mom had issues going on.
Why is the Mother sitting there acting all high and mighty and appauled when the woman said she was basically an orphan growing up.
because the show is about establishing father paternity she wasn't on trial.. why is it that some people always look at the wrong issues concerning a specific purpose?
You're right I noticed that to the girl was in foster care for a reason.
I agree with you. Mama was probably in jail and came out wanting to start life anew.
Tina Russell agreed
Sophia Smith mama was either in jail and/or on drugs. Her goofy, inappropriate laugh tee makes me thinks she’s kind of off mentally
Everyone wants to demonize the father, but what about the mother? Why was she in Foster care?
That's exactly what I thought. Where's mom? I don't think her father cares enough about her to be the dad she wants and needs.
That’s exactly what I’m saying no one ask the mother why was she even in Foster care in the first place and the mother up there like this man is so bad smdh
Yesssssss. The mother up in there acting like she was a good mother. At least he went and got her
Didn't you get the memo? Men who aren't ready to be fathers when they have accidental children are selfish lazy deadbeats. Women who aren't ready to be mothers when they have accidental children, are exercising their right to choose.
carultch and this is unfortunate
Both parents are accountable. The mom standing there like she hasn't done anything. Why was your daughter in foster care?
LifeOf Jas yeah.. at the beginning i thought the mother has passed away cos no one mentioned her.. who is she to stand there blame the father
Mom standing there like she a great mom! Why was the child in foster care anyway. Blame everyone for letting this child down. Great on her that she made it!
LMBO! 🤓 Right! Mom looks like she may have dibbled in the street life ...drugs possibly.
Thank you. She was shaking her head saying yes while the daughter was saying she felt she was treated differently when that man took her in from foster care. I haven't finished the video yet. But I'm like, how would u know? U wasn't there mom. She didn't even know him until he took her from foster care. So what was u doing mom that this girl was in foster care to begin with?
Because worst moms think they do the greatest and the great moms always think they could do better.. This Lady is the perfect example for this. I really hated her attitude. Awful
@Imjust Sayin thank you! I was wondering the same EXACT thing!! She was shaking her head, laughing or crying I am not sure which but, I would like to know WHY was she in foster care??
Exactly that’s what I’m confused about!!!
Bottom Line!!
Psalms 129:10 "When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up."
amen
Foster care took her up.
Psalms 129 only goes to vs 8...
LOL
This is true I can testify to this my moma left me when I was a baby👶 and my dad was in pen ⛓️ God took care of me very well when I look back I can say wow thank you Lord 🙌💕
I understand the deep psychological need for a relationship with both biological parents. But personally, my common sense trumps that subconscious need. If you treated me poorly and denied me my whole life, I don't want you at my special life moments! Definitely not to walk me down no aisle!
quitecontrary23
Best comment, I feel the same way. I say this, but my mother treated me like trash, couple of months ago, she passed away. Although I forgave her due to my Christian beliefs, it still hurts that someone that was my mother was so psychologically depraved and couldn't love me. But thank God for God and for others who gave me love. Yet I still believe this young lady was better off without this guy and her mom because they seemingly aren't taking responsibility for their actions.
Gidget Hrobowski I'm glad you forgave her. Forgiveness lifts a load off our own shoulders. I usually forgive people and keep my boundaries up, unless they go out of their way to do right consistently to stay in my life. But not many people will do that work after they do wrong, so I forgive and keep it moving.
quitecontrary23 Same here.
That would definitely be my words to him
And lets not let the mother make it how are you in foster care...but your dad paid child support
why put everything on the father where was mom. and when the son testified on her behavior I believed him
Lisa Harper so do you wear Avia socks
Lisa Harper I do as well.. I think she was a troubled child who had already been through a lot which is probably why she was taken from her mother and placed in foster care. No one is addressing why she was taken From her mother in the first place
I did too she said she was troubled. But that don’t mean his wife wasn’t telling her she’s not his child. She probably
Did feel like she didn’t belong.
Lisa Harper I believed him too
Khadija Yussuf It doesn't matter. She said she was troubled. I know how some step mothers treat their children better than the step child. What a dirty mother! This girl was treated badly. It is obvious!
Who else notices all women who come out in this show have nice eyebrows including the judge 😂, their makeup artist is on point 💯 their makeup looks good
Kimberly Martinez lol right
That’s what I’m saying.
staring at their brows the whole time!
Kimberly Felix yes they do!!!!! I want whoever is doing their makeup to do mine and give me tips.
Didn't notice
Why was she in foster care with 2 parents
Drugs.
I know right!!!!
She was probably acting out and out of control so the mother had no choice but to get help. You can still see your child in foster care.
Also, foster care could be that she lived with a neighbor or relatives, but she would have said so.
Thatd a great question.
My fave line: “these results were prepared by DNA Diagnostics, and they read as follows”
Wikz Aotearoa me too lol
I say it every episode!
Mine too
That pays for the testing
Mine is .. "Jerome the envelope" lol..
Dad doesn't make sense. All those years ago, when dad took the little girl from foster care and placed her into his home, WHY didn't he arrange a DNA test ?
Susan Fuller what about her mother where was she
Susan Fuller cause no one knew about DNA test back then
Exactly!
No one knew about DNA test back then? How long are we talking back? She's only 29. Could've gotten a DNA test when she was a child. DNA testing began in the late 1980s. The Maury Show has been doing DNA testing since 1990s. I'm a bit older than this lady and as young as I could remember DNA testing has always existed during my time growing up lol.
Piatequila, onlineversion Precisely!!
Updates on the families would be nice to see.
Thurmeka that name was enough proof for me
And Thurmarcus. hahaha
Nella Gomez 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
Nella Gomez 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣
Me too. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Great episode just one question
Where was mom?
Mrarticaldan u r so right....where was mama through this hold thing.... Was she on drugs or not in a stable condition to take care of her...
I was thinking the same thing. Seems like Mom is deflecting to avoid her obviously abandoning her daughter. I believe the daddy.
Both parents were unfit obviously. She said she chose to go with her mother but her father sent her to foster care. It's likely that the dad got himself together before mom, so he had more say in what happened to her.
Elonda Her Heart I'm surprised the judge never asked about mom whereabouts.
Mrarticaldan same question I have too?
I'm curious about her mother.
The brother said that everyone had counseling to prepare them for Thurmeka coming to live there; but did Thurmeka receive counseling?
I was looking for this comment
When she said "I feel like I needed you. I feel like I had to learn the hard way how a man is suppose to treat me. I might have been a tough child, but I didn't need you to throw me away." That broke my heart.
Pass the conebread...
My life 😢
Getting rejected as a kid is very heart shattering
Then blame the mother. They are the ones planting doubt!! Strange how women can have male friends,but men can't have female friends.
DNA Tests needs to be mandatory after the child is born including married people as well guarantee it will stop alot of this bull .
Ms.Vibrant Virgo 100 lol you about to start something in here, lol let's get the bill together.
Ms.Vibrant Virgo 100 do you know how much a dna test costs? That's why people go on shows like this because they cover all costs in exchange for getting to air it on TV.
It cost only 135 dollar.
As expensive as birthing babies is, it should be complimentary!
Yes. Definitely couldnt agree more.
Do you know what happened to me in foster care...Powerful words...smh
This show is living proof that you don't have to be a victim of your upbringing (or lack of) I applaud this young woman for creating her own destiny. Everyone can create their own destiny, in spite of the bad behaviour of others.
Thank you!
Am I the only one that reads the comments to know in advance 🙊🙊.
M Megane I do the same thing 😂😂🤣🤣
M Megane No Lol😂
You're one of the few who do.
Known
I usually do for vids but for these I don't 😂
Lauren Lake is my TV Auntie. I love her. #blackgirlmagic
Eboni Poindexter girl same!!
She is my Sister from another Mother!
Too young to be called Auntie 😘🥰
Lauren Lake is my TV daughter I love her she is truly amazing God bless her
She is a biased feminist sexist piece of garbage and a fake judge she is a family lawyer
This judge is a blessing to the world ❤️ As more I look at this cases as bigger my admiration and respect for her grow higher‼️ What a woman, what a jurge and What a blessing she is‼️ Greetings from her biggest fan in Norway 🇳🇴
Isn’t having “daddy walking you down the aisle” about being close with your dad?
Andi Leigh yes she’s not ready to forgive him but she wants him there.. she needs to be angry with her mum
He said, he did not hear her say that. I wonder if he will be there for her.
I applaud that young woman for having the tenacity to make her life successful after such a start in life. 👏🏻🙌🏻
This woman testimony was very emotional.she emphasized the importance of male figure in little girl psychological construction. I learnt a lot. Thank you.
The son said her behaviour was bad when she lived with them as a child. What do they expect from a child that has gone through the system! We have no idea what she went through. As a father he should have got a DNA test and also dealt with her behaviour as a father should instead of putting her back into care.
She wasn’t in the system at that point. She said she went there after she left his house
I honestly wouldn’t want him in my life at this point. How you gone send your own child back to foster care.
Leggs People don’t listen well...
Wow. It's always the man but where was her mom at? That's the life we live in though. Sometimes the woman need to be accountable too. 💯
I was there for my child.
It is more to the story than meet the eye.
I lot of this was lies.
Why is it whenever a man is chastised, some men point the finger at
women? Take responsibility for what YOU do!
@@miriamcobbs5173 No you wasn’t that’s why your child was in Foster care stop the lies you got off the hook seems like to be me that the father was more in her life than you.
Wow, your child was abused, neglected, and came to you damaged. So, you threw her away like trash. I’d really like to know whether he regrets that decision.
Leslie Sinclair He didn't own up to being a neglectful father, I didn't see any guilt in him. He painted himself as a saint instead of 'manning up' and acknowledging his role.
Bad bad dad.
His wife probably force him to send her back.
So many years wasted
@@TRINITYAUGUSTIN I could see that happening! This is sad; but the young lady persevered! Proud of her. With a father and a mother, why foster care?
The son is lying, he has been conditioned by the father to blame the daughter. That young lady has been through a lot from both parents and tuned out to be a strong. I would leave that man and rest of his side along
Kudos to this young woman for raising herself up right. Young people with struggles sometimes forget they have choices and the power to make positive changes in their own lives to build great futures. Sometimes there is simply no one there to rescue you. You have the power to make your own way; you just need the desire and perseverance to move forward. ✌🏾❤️
Why dont they ever hold the mothers on these shows accountable for anything? Either they lie about not having other partners or they are poor mothers.. why was she in foster homes and her mother is right there? Tell the whole story
They’re bias towards the men on this show; they always side with the women from the jump
She is proof.. living and sincere proof that circumstances, family, blood, and experiences cannot make you who you are.
Yes it influences us, yes there are so many things that happen to us, beyond our own control....
But it never is an excuse for our criminal choices or for us giving up and settling for what others think we are worth (based on perception, social status, culture).....
We can strive and be better than where we came from.
Im so happy for people like this in the world
It is highly possible that she was treated ok, but started life rough, and felt second best and felt treated unfairly.... based on brother’s testimony.....
The dad came and got her, despite of doubts, mom didn’t.
Still ..... it hurts. I hope there is future healing for her and the dad can try in a way that speaks to her
This is so sad! All these years wasted, and he treated others better than his own child! If he had doubts he should’ve asked for a DNA test to prevent all of this from happening!
Souadou Camara exactly
Souadou Camara and the mother is blameless?
I think that sometimes as children your actions are the reason why things were different for you. The daughter has some responsibility too and that’s her behavior. But like she said you deal with your disrespectful child. Not put her back in the system. But he still did more than her mother did
He didn't even have to "ask" for the test, the child lived in the home with him. The father could've gotten the DNA test while the child was in his custody. She may have been a disrespectful child, but she had obviously been through a lot being in foster care and obviously having an unstable life with the mom, so he shouldn't have given up on her just to save his marriage. I can totally believe that this child was treated differently and felt like an outcast coming into this family and then she acted out. She should have been able to count on her father to love her through her difficult times. Sad.....
@@shelbyvan He did not put her back in foster care. He sent her to her mother. For whatever reason, she went back to foster care from there. The mother needed to be questioned instead of sitting there with that self-righteous attitude as if she didn't also contribute to her daughter's troubled childhood
Why is that mom acting so high and mighty about? I am glad that lady is doing so well.she changed her situation for the best.
Useless parents kept their beautiful child in foster care am crying with this girl. Very sad. Very beautiful strong educated confident young lady I hope she find happiness.
Thank you, and I did!
She better leave them alone and go on with her life, she'll be ok. He knew she was his. And just like mothers take care of their kids when their fathers abandon, he should have been a decent person and taken care of his child
Yes sometimes its better to cut people loose family or not.
I love Judge Lake so much she is such a inspiration to me she always has kind words to help ppl keep pushing...❣️
I remember this episode people if you have doubts please do not sign the birth certificate
DNA should be done when they are born.
"When we think we're not worthy, we don't act worthy." Judge Lauren Lake is a QUEEN 👑✨🙌🙌🙌 Love her!
I know it's irrelevant to the case but, I can't help wonder why she was in foster care.
Also stepmom owes her an apology.
This young woman is so amazing. I 'm really happy for her..
Made me tear up when she said “you did not have to throw me away.”
Mother is very Beautiful...she must have done something right for her daughter to achieve in life...Thank you very much for your service Mrs. Muller
You are welcome 🙏🏾
They need to get these names together cuz chile..."ThurMeka" and ThurMarcus" ain't it chief!
Haha I like my name
OOF!!!
The man is claiming his seed when he do that😅
🤣🤣🤣 were they born on Thursdays?
Her eyes ( the mom) look crazy
Kickin it With Kaye stoooooopppp 😂😂😂
Why are her eyes like that?
@@Star3marie304 she was shot in the eye when i was a kid by my stepfather
Is that her biological mother or another relative?
Big Facts!!
Her parents old picture look like Queen Latifa and Lionel Richie 😂😂😂
Tega Baah 😂
Yesss🤣🤣🤣🤣
I read this comment right as that pic flashed on the screen 😂😂😂🤣
I was looking through the comments to see if anyone else thought so! lol
@@keishaizawesome2836 me toooo!! Haha
Thank you for your services Thurmeka.
I am so happy for you Thurmeka Robinson. You are truly a jewel.
Thank you! 🙏🏾
The daughter was hurt and angry because her dad has a new family. He has other children. Imagine how that would feel.
I know. My father chose to take care of his stepchildren instead of me.
I'm sure she was hurt; but there was already a made family when she came to stay with dad. I'm almost sure the step mom, didn't her job as a caring stepmother, because she should've had her husband step up! Everyone dropped the ball on this young lady.
She made the choice to go ba k yo her pathetic mom and ended up in foster care . That’s not his fault
Thank you for your service. I don't know who neither of my biological parents are. Seeing and hearing what you been through they are overrated. I too practically raised myself. Few people survived as you have. You're not only courageous you're very beautiful. Maybe it's better that I don't find out who or why they're unfit to lace my boots which I taught myself to do.
This court is opening my eyes, when it comes to relationships.
💯💯💯
"This is how you move forward: you move forward by not moving back."
Brilliant, love Judge Lane's wisdom and compassion.
He really didn’t want to hug her
Waoooh. Her testimony really moved me and encouraged me as well. She is a role model and im proud of her
Thank you 🙏🏾
All the years he mistreated her and he is the father
Transparent life of Dee Dee truly hearbreaking for that beautiful young lady!
Transparent life of Dee Dee, spoiler alert!!!😐 I guess i only have myself 2 blame 4 bein nosey, lookin thru comments,lol😅
Transparent life of Dee Dee spoiler alert...lol
Transparent life of Dee Dee he likes to put his foot in his mouth feel sorry for girl she did well for herself!!
The mother dropped the ball to why was she removed from the beginning. And went back and removed again.
A lot of this was lies.
YOU MOVE FORWARD, BY NOT MOVING BACK! Ok! Motivation for the day! Thank you Judge Lake!
When the judge told Thurmeka that she is NOT trash, that she IS worthy, it brought tears to my eyes. It is so, so important for those of us who grew up without our biological fathers to hear those words. We are children of the most high God, and for that reason alone, we ARE worthy!
Yes I can see the tears in your eyes 😂
"He's a bald-faced liar" LOL 6:28
So often the judge says ‘You dragged the defendant to court...’. That sounds very partisan. Just me? Eh. Ok. 🤷🏼♀️
I wouldn't even want him to walk me down the aisle, she's better off without him. It hurts to see people go their whole life without knowing the truth about who their real father is.
Why was she in foster care. The mom throw her away.
Even if she turned out not to be his, at least he tried. What about the mother? What's her excuse for her child being in Foster care and dad going to get her from school to live with him? Why wasn't she living with the parent that was 100% beyond doubt? What was it that made it better for the child to be in Foster care than be with her mother? Why is mom and child so silent about that? Sure, she was a problem child who pulled herself up but he paid child support and tried to be the father even with doubts. I don't form the view that your placing all the blame where it should be...soldier
For those of you who want to know why she was in foster care and where the mother was, this show is not about that, it's about finding out who the daddy is. With that being said they were both to blame. Yes, he got her and took her home but he didn't get her the help she needed to adjust nor did he make sure the rest of the family was treating her the way she NEEDED to be treated. Instead of giving her back he needed to take the time to get her the help she needed to get over whatever she had gone through and to just love her where she was. Obviously because of his doubts he did just the bare, minimal basics for her and that only makes a child feel more unloved.
The son lying because he never addresses her as his sister.
Che Debnam it proves what she says happen while living in his home.
No he was not lying at all
I think he telling his version of the truth
How you figure she admitted she had behavior issues which he stated happened repeatedly
I love how the mother that didn’t raise her is standing there in such judgement.
Just watched this ...
I admire the judge for her sound wisdom regarding this case.
WHEN YOU THINK YOU ARENT WORTHY- YOU DONT ACT LIKE IT---WORRRRRDDDDDD
Not necessarily, but she owned it.
Mother + daughter teamed up for revenge?...! Otherwise, why isn't the daughter holding the mother accountable since she claims she was not raised by either parent. And why isn't the judge dropping them bricks on the mother too?? At the end of the day, you can't force fatherhood on anyone, especially since the mother was rumored to be dilly-dalling. Some flawed story 👀
He raised his son to think exactly like him. Ew.
Spoiled kids
Wrong
@@achatwithgoitse wrong
This girl awesome
Thank you 🙏🏾
That man is a piece of garbage... saying he was always there for her but sending her away when she (as all young children do) pushed boundaries. I don't know where mom was (she's probably sketchy as all get too) but as for dad he is definitely a piece of garbage. I'm glad this woman was strong enough to forge her own path!
I agree totally! He claimed he was always there for her but he didn’t come to her deployment ceremony! I know that hurt her feelings. Even complete strangers would of showed up . He didn’t want to be her father!
Thank you for your service and God bless.
The mother make me sick listen to her she ain't all the way right herself .
This man knew this was his daughter.... he still acts like he doesn’t want the relationship...
That judge is Right on
This just brings back bad memories of when I was 10 and spent the holiday with my stepmother. She hated his kids and she told him all these lies and he came to my mom saying he didn't want anything to do with me and stopped talking to me. When the truth came out I didn't even get an apology. I still think about it 20 years later. 😢
Same. Not even an apology 😣😣 When I said "you talking to me but never even said sorry or w.e" his response was "Your parents are 2 people who can do anything n you have to accept" plus he ain't giving me no apology. And I am his ONLY child.
Britney Campbell that's the most hurtful part. But forgiveness is for us, not for them.
Britney Campbell Forgive him without asking to begin your emotional healing.....people, especially parents, that are too proud to apologize are narcissistic...they believe they never have faults or problems that make them look bad....the best way to go forward is to understand you are worthy of all you desire and no one person can make YOU happy they can only enhance it or lessen it.....but it is up to you to love you more than anyone can...been where you were...decided at 33 yrs old enough was enough...my life has been awesome without the need for an apology from my mom because I learned that living well has it’s own reward
itz Sheena sad ..sorry for that.
morris karaine thank you. I'm okay now and I hardly ever think about it anymore
I’m only a few minutes in but her mom is really irritating me. The young lady said she was in foster care so clearly she was unstable. He had doubts for a reason!
I’m not really understanding why she’s completely blaming her dad for being in foster care. Her mom is getting off easy.
Judge you are a blessing 🙏 to so many people great job.
Why sign if you have doubts that child looks just like him
Let's be honest here. A lot of babies DO look alike. With enough convincing, you can be persuaded to believe the baby looks like anyone.
Babies don't really start looking distinctly different enough to see serious features in common with their parents, until long after a negative paternity test is too late to legally exonerate a paternity fraud victim
She sure does, I said that the moment I laid eyes on both of them..
I didn't think they look nothing alike
I am proud of her. Let the pain push you forward 💕
Thank you
Only one worth anything was the daughter. That brother, and father. What do u think she's gunna feel being in a house it takes time and years later still holding a grudge for her being bad in the house. She probably was testing them to see if they loved her. And his wife probably treated her different many women do if it didn't come from me ... non sense additude. I wish the daughter the best of luck. You deserve so much better, than all of them.
I love this judge, she is wise, intelligent, strong and everything the woman should be❤️
"When we think that we are not worthy we block our blessings".
Thanks Mrs.
Your Dad is so lucky to have a great beautiful lady ... I love this lady shes wonderful
I feel so bad for this young woman. She grew up without her mother and father in the system (although the father took her temporary). Yet, she was being mistreated and ignored because she had behavior problems (in which is not her fault). All she needed were love, guidance and understanding. Overall, I am proud of the woman that she became because even though she may have her own issues behind what she's been through, she still beat the odds.
Stop sleeping around before you get married ..
Please, start a new chapter. Look forward. Don't let yesterdays damage your tomorrows. Get to know your dad. Congratulations on your wedding. God bless you all.
Thank you 🙏🏾
"That's the way they do it in my town." (mic drop)
"Jerome, remind me not to move to that town!"
Am glad hes her dad i hope he make it up to her for all the years she have missed out of her life shes a strong woman i wish her all the best
Both parents are the blame. Especially coming from foster care myself.
Wow! Much respect to this young lady! She should beyond proud of herself. Honestly I was concerned, she doesn't look like her father or mother...gorgeous eyes. I'm happy she found closure...even if she doesn't continue to have a relationship with her father I'm sure just knowing is satisfying enough...🤗
She does look like her father alot.
She's got his lips and his nose
"That's the way they do it in my town" lol
She’s an incredible young woman.
Where was her mother???? So confusing!!!