what if it doesn't end well?
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- Опубліковано 1 лип 2024
- sometimes my mom will ask me how im doing and i kinda wanna say something like "bad" to her but then im like why would i worry my mom like that when my life is actually fine i just feel unnecessarily stressed lol
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0:00 - i am stressed
3:20 - it's not good 4 me 2 b stressed
7:12 - working WITH stress
13:18 - what if it doesn't end well?
16:38 - tuning out
26:22 - gratitude
29:50 - pessimism
36:50 - it's going to be ok
Minecraft therapy is back! 😊
The more he talks about stress and anxiety the more his character eats bread, I wonder if it’s related somehow 😂😂
Your minecraft therapy videos is really nice to listen to while studying man
Man, I just love how honest you can be, like is hard to find someone really taking their opinions without tons of edition or any social funnel, I really like your videos
I ruminate on a lot of the same stuff, was the same kid, and am nostalgic for terrible points in life. Not saying this will solve anything but might help a tiny bit on the stress part.
I was telling my therapist about the concern of my life "ending well" recently. All the things like that house, getting married, etc and how to make it happen was stressing me out because I was trying to solve the problem by thinking through all the possible future scenarios. She said "you are acting as if you will be able to look back some day and say 'I made the right decisions.'" but the reality is, you will never have that view. You'll never be able to look back at all the possible choices in life and know which choices would create the right outcome. Also, you might make what seem to be the right decisions which give you a house, relationship etc then get hit by a bus which would make that a worse path than an alternate where you don't get the house but also don't get hit by a bus. Basically, you can control inputs, but have very little control over outputs. Nothing has ever made the "live in the moment" thing sink in more for me.
Super obvious but for some reason I had lost sight of that and it helps a little bit. Luv your stuff buddy.
I have my occasional existential crisis whether it is from how finite our lives are or how I wasted half of life (depending which side of the family tree I got my genes from).
Some of this dread might never go away but life keeps me occupied. Maybe if I ever get rich, I’ll have too much time to think and will be back at square one. Being depressed on a yacht sounds nice though.
Your videos resonate with me so much. Asian American New Yorker here too, and trying to unfuck myself too with the years of trauma dealt with an emotionally abusive Asian family and dealing with constant shame my whole life. You got this dude I believe in you.
I've accepted that I will never find true freedom and happiness as long as I still work a regular day job. But I can't just leave unless I wanna starve. So I just accept that this is how my life is gonna be. Some dreams are just meant to die.
maybe life will give you a new dream that is meant for you.
I've felt ups and downs in recent years but what has helped me feel centered the most is realizing that nothing is more important than striving to share good memories with the people who are closest to you who actually care about you and for them. At some point the money and career will all fade away and what you will have left on your death bed is the memories and relationships with your family and friends that gave you the will to keep living and be willing to appreciate life. I respsect your ability to be open and be vulnerable about this on the internet.
What if it doesn’t end well? Then you realize that “well” is contextual and life is meant to be lived, and the range of emotions is the whole point. If you cry everything out, every day, you’ll feel happier every day.
What if it doesn’t end well? On the other hand, what if it does end well? How can you know what is good and bad, what you’ll think good and bad is in a year, what you’ll be in a year. Even if you make no decisions and no actions, other parts of life will change you.
What if it doesn’t end well? When I was 14 years old, a friend of mine, who played lots of league and videogames, joined me on my cross country team. That first day, he got hit by a car while crossing at a crosswalk 5 minutes away from school.
He lived, he had surgery, and he goes to college in canada now. In fact, when we got to senior year of high school, he rejoined the cross country team and ran significantly slower than me.
Stress is good. Negative emotions are good. But we need to let them out. And crashing and burning will not mean the end of everything. We are not here to work and be successful, we are here to define what success means to ourselves.
Dude I love your vids. I’m right there with you. I’m an RN for my day job (which I don’t like) and I have dreams of being creative but I’m so tired then I feel like I’m wasting my life. I feel like stress and internal pressure are synonymous.
It's so unfair that some people are about to live their dreams by doing creative work for a living, like being a self-employed artist or a full-time content creator, yet the rest of us have to work meaningless jobs because we need to survive. It's like "do jobs you hate or starve" for us.
This is a certified real talk session
hey i just wanted to let you know that I'm starting Stanford in the fall (eek) and wanted to thank you for your videos. l saw your stanford videos years ago and was like 'haha guess I won't apply' and whoops I applied. They got me into your channel and like the existentialism and stress is hitting harder than I thought it was pre college but it was good to hear about someone else's in a different state of life and know that it's kind of all the same (:
thank uuuu, I was spiraling today and listening to this while cleaning up my space- it really helped mw forget and focus on what I was doing without overthinking and getting upset over how much I have to do or my own worries, you're the best, look forward to more vids!!
Yes, please continue this series ❤
I haven't felt significant stress for many years now. That doesn't mean everything has went right in my life. It hasn't. Its just that whenever something bad happens I tell myself: well, that bad stuff has already happened. Why harm myself even more by thinking about it repeatedly? That would be very stupid. Thats like constantly touching your fresh wound instead of allowing it to heal.
This kind of thinking may sound stupid, but it has reduced the stress in my life a whole lot.
And there is no ' good ending '. Not for me or anyone else. Everyone will die, and it won't be peacefully either for most of us. I have accepted that fact .
I love your introverted madness! 😭🫶🤭
You encouraged me to pursue what I actually wanna do😭😭Bro you are so smart and perceptive about everything that's been going around. I have to thank you if my perspective career works out🥰
We appreciate your insights. Keep working hard.
I love this series, I listen to it while I draw.
I would suggest you read "The Antidote" from Oliver Burkeman. This short book explains the "negative" path towards happiness - for people who are not inclined to be all sunshine, rainbows and optimism normally. There's also a pretty solid argumentation in there on why optimism can actually contribute to your stress, while just not constantly trying to "fix" everything, including yourself brings about that calm determination in face of life.
Stop copying me I was stressed first
you know it’s a good day when introvertedmadness posts another banger
Love it !
I tend to rationalize the smaller bits of stress away. Like oops, I used up 50% of my printing quota for the semester? Oh well, nbd. For bigger problems, it's like, I can only control what I can control. I need to separate out what I have direct control over, immediate influence over, remote influence over and absolutely zero control over. I try not to stress about things I have absolutely no control over.
I do notice my friends absolutely hate when I try to help them rationalize lol. They seem to want to vent and simply appreciate when I help distract them. If there's something important that I feel needs to be pointed out, I'll do that once and have them acknowledge it and then let them process through whatever problem they're going through in their own time.
Maybe I should share some of my longterm stresses with my friends more, but I kind of feel weird about it. I guess I would need to do it in a way that we commiserate rather than me just dumping more problems onto friends.
For realz on controlling the stress or the stress controlling oneself! Always stressed as well.. esp about the future and my life goals not being realized ahaha. It is true no one has their shit together even if it looks like they do on the outside. Idk if you know the channel with this therapist (Therapy in a Nutshell) but she's been great for processing emotions and de-stressing and stuff. She has some excellent playlists and it's been helping me feel less stressed. One of the things she said is if you're too stressed when you go to bed, taking a tiny portion of the day to write it all down, all the stuff that's worrying you, it helps your brain realize it doesn't have to keep reminding you at night since it's already on paper, so hopefully can stop the racing thoughts. Def I think everyone in our generation and younger is depressed lol with how messed up the world is, but we just gotta keep swimming and hoping that tomorrow is better and working towards that I guess? Always great to see that you've posted a new video! Bon courage
You're amazing
i have a toxic mindset, I just think that the world would still move on regardless of what I am feeling. I just think that stress is not going to change anything and try to write down my thoughts and organize it so instead of it stuck in my head it will be stuck on paper. Kind of backseating myself
Another banger bro
Keyword is definitely visible in this thumbnail haha love it
We need more men expressing their emotions like this. Peace and love my brother ✌
oh no! the zeitgest is being infiltrated!!
Yesss he’s back
Mid 30's, I said fuk the house until I find my city.
“I feel nostalgia because I know that time ended”
First. Can’t wait for another minecraft therapy. Will watch as I head to bed 🫶🏽.
Also working out and going outside to see the sun helps a lot lol.
edit: also having a routine helps. Starting with sleeping at a regular time!
I can't cry
love ya mang ❤
Yaaaaaaaaay!!!
Same
i am STRESSED in life bruh
18:05 Hopping on NYT - oh my god as a hs student this is literally me but the app
Nice rap references 👍🏼
Yeehaw🎉
05:14 Do you think you can apply what you learnt during college to dealing with this stress now?
Here's what I'm taking away so far: the uncertainty of the future is giving you stress, and the fact that you think others aren't stressed out (the "Happy wanderers" as you call them). But here's the thing, you've already dealt with this on a miniature scale, in college.
You're worried whether this UA-cam thing will work out. But I remember one of your older Stanford videos where you ripped on the SymSys for not being "smart enough to join the CS program". Now, how did you figure that out? You talked to people, and you used your own intuition and you gathered some data. Great. Now can you do the same thing here?
I'm asking this out loud because, having just crossed the 30 year old threshold, I'm thinking about making a down payment myself 😂. And looking back at life, at least in my case, it's weird how many situations in my life were just larger versions of stuff I faced when I left my parents' house for the first time.
The timing..
Legit should pursue a career as therapist
omig new video
youre so GOD DAMN FUNNY
Yoo wassup bro!
You GOTTA check out the distant horizons mod for MC.
Just be happy you don't get a period bro. It could be SO MUCH worse. I endured a life time of periods AND NOW i might be dying from a brain tumor out of nowhere. Just be grateful you aren't me.
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Jesus Christ son, nobody can read your mind so speak up and be honest. Better out than in, but use your head and if you don't know how to think then always out.
As for stress, there's more to life than tomorrow and everyone's ideas. Pick what's important and go 110% at it. Make a plan for God's sake and follow it. If you fail, adjust and move on. You only truly fail when you don't get back up. There's always an option and a way whether you like it or not. Get over yourself.
this guy clearly has a disordered level of anxiety that's been with him his entire life. excessive self doubt. wouldn't it be more fruitful to voice confident support that he'll find his way? that his stress will take time to cope with if he's lived with it for his entire life so far? he clearly feels he's doing things wrong. people like this seldom get better longterm by being told to get over themselves. nothing gives me the impression he isn't aware of that, or hasn't thought of it himself
Work on the way you speak and don't use "like" all the time
Meanie☹️
12 mins into this vid and yea I pretty much relate to all the nervousness and ruminations about the future. I've been this way since I was a kid; unstable home life + absent parents on top of being neurodivergent made for a perfect storm of never feeling completely "safe" and to this this day I still don't feel secure. Being aware that my existence is a burden on my parents + the constant pressure of being self-reliant while being a child set me up for perma-anxiety over the worth of my life/its meaning that I don't think will ever go away BUT-
We're kind of conditioned growing up to have everything figured out by 25 or its Game Over, but this kind of mindset doesn't account for the world being an unpredictable, turbulent place. We'll just keep burning ourselves out and spiral into mania trying to plot out every single "endgame" scenario, completely overlooking what choices we CAN make in the present.
Foresight truly is both a blessing and a curse-- this video has been really illuminating/validating on reminding oneself focusing on the present and balancing stress more realistically. 🫂
Yaaaaaaaaay!!!